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8 Irresistible Ways to Draw Him Close

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Mat Shaffer

Mat Shaffer

Күн бұрын

Watch this video to learn 8 ways to draw a man close and be truly irresistible to him! Men aren't hard to connect with once you understand what they're craving (spoiler - it's YOU)!
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How do I bring him closer? How do I connect with my boyfriend? What can I make a man open up to me? I get asked questions like these ALL THE TIME by clients, students and women in my life... so I created a video explaining 8 powerful ways to get a man to lower his walls, connect deeply with you and love the REAL you!
TIMELINE
0:00 Intro
0:38 Subscribe
1:24 Situation
3:21 - 1) Be authentic
shine
YOUR
light!
5:34 - 2) Practice
Conscious Vulnerability
8:06 - 3) Know Your
Standards
and
Boundaries
9:53 - 4) Let The
Fun & Playful
Side of You
Come Out
11:05 - 5) Be Warm,
Inviting,
and Receptive Stay In Your
Feminine
Energy!
12:32 - 6) Be In
Your Body
(Not In
Your Head)
14:52 - 7) Give Him
Space To Live
His Life
and
Come To You
15:38 - 8) Give Yourself
Space
To Live Your
Own
Full Life Too!
16:23 - 9) Release
attachment
to the
outcome
17:22 - Recap of All 9 Ways
21:10 - Closing Comments
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@iknowwhatsup2880
@iknowwhatsup2880 3 жыл бұрын
1. Be authentic & shine your light. Would the people your closest to recognize you? 2. Practice conscience vulnerability. Express your feelings in a gentle & positive way. It helps them feel safe. 3. Know your standards Nd boundaries in relationships. How you want to feel. 4. Be playful! Let your little girl play with his little boy. Challenge him, make bets. 5. Be warm, inviting and receptive. Men want to give, learn to receive. Ask questions. 6. Be in your body, not your head. Love yourself! 7. Give him space to live his life. Let him lead. 8. Give yourself space to live your best life. 9. Release attachments to outcome. Don't have any motives or expectations about relationship. Treat him like you would when out with girlfriends.
@austriaperez497
@austriaperez497 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for put it in order
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
I appreciate your opinion on this!
@lisagraves4495
@lisagraves4495 3 жыл бұрын
I have just started a new relationship with my new man. I have used just about all of these and just being myself at all times and have found I'm being chased by him and we're both in a very playful ways. Who knew. I love it and so does he 🤪 we're already planning our future together. We're in our 60/70's .what more fun.🥰😋🤪
@faa1412
@faa1412 3 жыл бұрын
Love this!
@khloecalala7606
@khloecalala7606 3 жыл бұрын
@Shelly Brooklyn in Naigeria? 😂😂😂🥱🥱🥱🥱so what does this doctor do? Is it a which doctor 😂😂
@humaneleaguelancPA
@humaneleaguelancPA 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 63 and my guy is 65. We were together for 3 years, not living together since we both have our own homes and we live 40 min. apart. So we would see each other 2-3 times a week. But my house was becoming his refuge and he would come over collaspe, fall asleep on the couch. we broke up twice last year. Now back together again but I discussed how we needed a more give and take relationship. Things are going well, so far, he's really putting in the effort; hope it lasts, we'll see. I've gotta continue making improvements on my end too in order to make it work.
@elizabethbarnes2255
@elizabethbarnes2255 2 жыл бұрын
I've got this male friend that fell in love with and whea e had for play but he won't get intimate with me but he calls me babe, his woman and momma but he also talking to other women on dating sites.and he tells me they don't want to get serious with him but I do what Cavan I do?
@elsh332
@elsh332 Жыл бұрын
This is beautiful 🥰 congratulations- none of us are ever too old for love!
@janetstraw191
@janetstraw191 3 жыл бұрын
My tip: DO NOT PURSUE HIM! Let him pursue you. Retain your own independence. Don’t be too available. Let HIM do the asking. Men need to be men. Let him have all the space he needs; and carry on with your own interests. Never chase after a man. The ‘right one’ won’t run!
@brendastarcher6294
@brendastarcher6294 3 жыл бұрын
Oh I agree with every word. I won't chase.
@greekchick104
@greekchick104 3 жыл бұрын
I wholeheartedly agree with this!! I played so hard to get with my boyfriend and made him chase me. He pursued me so hard, and now we've been dating for 4 months!
@janetstraw191
@janetstraw191 3 жыл бұрын
@@greekchick104 Good for you! What so many women don’t realize is that men love and NEED a challenge. It’s just the way they’re wired.👍
@greekchick104
@greekchick104 3 жыл бұрын
@@janetstraw191 Absolutely!! Also, I think a lot of times (not always), it comes down to women knowing their worth. I value myself highly enough that I will never chase after a guy, ESPECIALLY one who treats me like an option.
@melisakaersenhout370
@melisakaersenhout370 3 жыл бұрын
Agreeee
@cailenmcmanus6371
@cailenmcmanus6371 3 жыл бұрын
I love how much you encourage and appreciate the feminine energy. Breaks my heart to see how criticized femininity is currently. It's truly a beautiful thing to embrace and compliments masculinity so well. Love this!!
@mannimafi1222
@mannimafi1222 3 жыл бұрын
+:2:3:4:9:0:5:5:5:7:4:9:4:4 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here.
@mannimafi1222
@mannimafi1222 3 жыл бұрын
Whstapp him
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@diannefalsetto5838
@diannefalsetto5838 9 ай бұрын
My man thanked me for being so patient with him as he had a lot on his mind with work and his children. (From His previous marriage) He told me why he wasnt so preoccupied in his mind and apologized for not always being present. He was holding me while he said this. I hissed him and told him that it was OK and I wouldn't judge him if he opened up to me. Then I said please let me in. It's OK if you let me in... He exhaled, and i felt his whole body relax .... like a sigh of relief... He thanked me❤
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 9 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@berguzarkorel5350
@berguzarkorel5350 3 жыл бұрын
Splendid! I think that you are one of the most intelligent relationship coaches on youtube!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
glad you enjoyed it!
@mariarossi6719
@mariarossi6719 3 жыл бұрын
I'll second that. Fully agreed.
@jacquelinenoel2992
@jacquelinenoel2992 3 жыл бұрын
I agree! Good talk.
@cryptointegrations9854
@cryptointegrations9854 3 жыл бұрын
I agree. I really need all these tips too
@MarzNGrama
@MarzNGrama 3 жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@secretshaman189
@secretshaman189 3 жыл бұрын
"Men are like bread, they need space to rise." Love it! These are great tips. I need to write these all down and review, review, review! Thank-you!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@themaggattack
@themaggattack Жыл бұрын
Lol, I DID write them down! "Review review review," Indeed! 😂👍
@carolyndiliberto27
@carolyndiliberto27 Жыл бұрын
​@@Mat_Shaffer😅😅 ivy
@mariarossi6719
@mariarossi6719 3 жыл бұрын
Wow! You continue to enlighten me more and more about men, Mat. Thank you. We women really needed a brother like you when we were younger. Thank goodness we've got you now.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
thanks so much my dear your words touch my heart! It's my honor to support you :)
@mariarossi6719
@mariarossi6719 3 жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer We so value your wisdom and how well you share it with us. You're just amazing!
@rondamcdowell9228
@rondamcdowell9228 3 жыл бұрын
This was an excellent presentation Thanks Matt!
@lourdeskraetschmann5209
@lourdeskraetschmann5209 3 жыл бұрын
Amazing 8 irresistible tips Mat. You are absolutely correct and all points to reality. Well appreciated and you are a very intelligent love coach.❤️❤️❤️
@GreatestXchange
@GreatestXchange 3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate you so much, Mat. I love to hear you talk and to see you smile. I'm glad that your life's purpose intersected with my need for coaching. You're a blessing to me.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@AtomicSonicHalos
@AtomicSonicHalos 3 жыл бұрын
Smart! Thank You! I always appreciate your re-caps at the end, & I love the new humor toss-ins! Great help to make the world better for everyone--even for the pug-less. Thanks!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
love this feedback so glad you enjoy the new format, it's a lot of fun to record this way :):):)
@farzansgarden
@farzansgarden 3 жыл бұрын
u are the best. Im learning to express myself in a healthy way. All of our life ppl said women dont do this or that with men. I can feel my true kind gentle self.
@mannimafi1222
@mannimafi1222 3 жыл бұрын
+:2:3:4:9:0:5:5:5:7:4:9:4:4 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here.
@mannimafi1222
@mannimafi1222 3 жыл бұрын
Whstapp him
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Interesting perspective, thanks so much! :)
@aminahganiyu4599
@aminahganiyu4599 3 жыл бұрын
Very enlightening! Thank you, Mat! I’m learning all this to practice in the future 😄
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
Fantastic so glad to hear that 🤗🤗
@mette1983
@mette1983 3 жыл бұрын
loveeeeeeee the vid as usual Mat
@dianakendros5279
@dianakendros5279 Жыл бұрын
You are so right on! This video is so helpful, and I love trying out your ideas - they work! It's authentic for me and his response is open and lovely. Thank you
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad Diana❤️
@audreyannaobrion178
@audreyannaobrion178 3 жыл бұрын
MATT-- this is your best yet!
@1986SGB
@1986SGB 3 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy you quoted Khalil Gibran! This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing this with us.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@maripena75
@maripena75 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Mat!!! Hope all is well! Thanks for this video!🙌🏽
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
everything is wonderful my dear! :) How are YOU?
@brightpage1020
@brightpage1020 3 жыл бұрын
Loving your videos for the immediately actionable improvements they remind me to produce in my marriage. Thanks so much for all your hard work. These videos are so goofy and funny but the content works. I love that it's not too heady - it's not about thinking or talking about problems or issues or solution finding - or weeks of "healing process" - it's literally very action based and that lays the foundation that will help him feel safe to enjoy the heady stuff instead of being intimidated by it or overwhelmed with trying to find the words. Thank you.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@angiejavier9915
@angiejavier9915 3 жыл бұрын
This is a great topic Mat! The one you've mentioned , be playful, have fun games, it really works! Its not only fun but we became more closer and know each other well. With the question and answer games and tackled different questions, about likes, reaction to a scenario given a situation with multiple choice answer, or even sex matters, everything what comes into our mind.,no limit to ask any questions. And another one being yourself, it's true! Sometimes guys discover something that they didn't reliased it's only on you what they really desire to a woman. Perfect, topic to start a new relationship. Thanks for this video!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome angie javier! 🙏
@valentinanocross8677
@valentinanocross8677 3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate everything you say as wise reminders. Kind of like Charlie's Angels... I hear it like Angels...here's your assignment...
@shynedc1406
@shynedc1406 3 жыл бұрын
I love this, thanks so much for your videos.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
So welcome!!
@jacquelyndavis4993
@jacquelyndavis4993 2 жыл бұрын
This was SOOO helpful! Thank you so much for this. I have work to do!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Youre welcome! Glad it was helpful!
@jennaayoub5236
@jennaayoub5236 3 жыл бұрын
What a wonderful dating and relationship coach you are. I appreciate these videos!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I appreciate that!
@doloresjanet
@doloresjanet 3 жыл бұрын
This was phenomenal! Thank you so much!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad you like it!
@tammi8458
@tammi8458 3 жыл бұрын
Love it! Of course w working from home the only men I talk to are my son and the geriatric maintenance man... but I’ll be ready! 😊
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
Haha you got this!!
@brendastarcher6294
@brendastarcher6294 3 жыл бұрын
You are so great at what you do. I realized after watching a few of your videos that my man is very much into me. Thank you!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
so sweet thanks for sharing! it's a great connection :)
@micheledespland2161
@micheledespland2161 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you , so interesting , important and clearly explained !
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
Glad to hear that.
@sism3028
@sism3028 Жыл бұрын
I just discovered your Channel and really enjoy it! You give the best advice, thank you.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Awesome, thank you!
@pamiewatkins7354
@pamiewatkins7354 3 жыл бұрын
This is super beautiful I learn something about drawing him into you instead of you drawing into him and that made me think I would be so much easier and also you don't have to worry about worrying all about him you know when you're trying to drive them into your so
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad!
@Nicole-is-global
@Nicole-is-global 3 жыл бұрын
You are SO spot on and your SKITS are hilarious.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Nicole Lawrence! 🙏❤️
@vanessamartinsdesouza1718
@vanessamartinsdesouza1718 3 жыл бұрын
Mat,you are most the most profound and sensitive relationship couch.💝
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you!
@careyh38
@careyh38 3 жыл бұрын
Great tips! I am being myself in front my best guy friend. He is getting closer to me. It makes me happy.😁 I have using lots of your advice. Thanks!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
aw so glad to hear that@ keep us posted on how it goes
@careyh38
@careyh38 3 жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer I will do so.
@Rabbatullbayt
@Rabbatullbayt 3 жыл бұрын
Well thought out content with high intent, Kudos Mat!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
aww love it my dear! So glad my content supports you:)
@adaofcharles1217
@adaofcharles1217 3 жыл бұрын
Learnt so much, thank you Matt.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You're very welcome!
@joannseguerra4647
@joannseguerra4647 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Sir Mat for sharing these wonderful and inspiring relationship tips that helps boosts our self-esteem and be the best version of ourselves 🌟💯 All the best to you and your channel 🌻
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
My pleasure! 🙏
@kathydimitroff2946
@kathydimitroff2946 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Mat! Your insight is helping me a lot!
@justfanni7777
@justfanni7777 3 жыл бұрын
I love all these tips, thanks.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
So glad!
@caramiawintterer3913
@caramiawintterer3913 3 жыл бұрын
Very sympathetic! Enjoyed listening. You are in your body😁
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Oh thank you!
@malourdescesista2587
@malourdescesista2587 3 жыл бұрын
May, good day, I pray And wish you more success. You are the one I am looking for to coach . very clear specific and I understand truly.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I appreciate that!
@cinnamonswirl4490
@cinnamonswirl4490 2 жыл бұрын
Love this!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear that.
@manishamaya2692
@manishamaya2692 Жыл бұрын
Brilliant video Mat, I sure need to work on 2,4,5 and 6. Thanks for sharing!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You can do it! Good luck🙌🙏❤
@elizabethalfonso6008
@elizabethalfonso6008 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the 9 tips you shared, i love it👍😊❤️
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
so glad you enjoyed it my dear! :)
@elizabethalfonso6008
@elizabethalfonso6008 3 жыл бұрын
Mat Shaffer Actually I enjoyed all your topics...i love the way you interact on us...by means of your eyes 👍😊😍
@legaleagle4947
@legaleagle4947 Жыл бұрын
I find that I am watching and rewatching 😅 helping to ingrain these messages in my mind 🙏
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Amazing I hope it helps
@hoiliswu6070
@hoiliswu6070 3 жыл бұрын
Great tips thanks for advice
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
You bet Hoili Swu! 😉
@sitmengchue4077
@sitmengchue4077 3 жыл бұрын
No. 6 is very interesting! Thank you!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You're very welcome :)
@claricesmith9528
@claricesmith9528 3 жыл бұрын
You are so patient and authentic. Thank you so much. I really love this man and I want to create a wonderful relationship between us.❤
@mannimafi1222
@mannimafi1222 3 жыл бұрын
+:2:3:4:9:0:5:5:5:7:4:9:4:4 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here.
@mannimafi1222
@mannimafi1222 3 жыл бұрын
Whstapp him
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Wow! I’m so happy for you my dear!
@lynnettec271
@lynnettec271 3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate the definitions of standards and boundaries described in this video, as well as how they play out within the relationship dynamic.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
absolutely so glad that resonated with you :)
@devinabharat8965
@devinabharat8965 Жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer 😇😇😇😇😇🙌
@annettet7941
@annettet7941 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@pennyjackson1699
@pennyjackson1699 3 жыл бұрын
You are an awesome, truthful guide.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@ydasda4210
@ydasda4210 3 жыл бұрын
Awesome ❤❤❤
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
🙌
@vivalamanika
@vivalamanika 3 жыл бұрын
Brilliant!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Many thanks!
@alanabobb-simon9386
@alanabobb-simon9386 Жыл бұрын
Well defined👏.... Definitely on point😊
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙌
@davidmclarney4542
@davidmclarney4542 3 жыл бұрын
This guy is awesome he's always on point great stuff
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Many thanks!
@lorelyndunn8459
@lorelyndunn8459 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks, so true amd so overwhelming ,it really help. Greetings here from Philippines.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
@fionajaneespante4539
@fionajaneespante4539 3 жыл бұрын
You are absolutely a blessing for us women. I would just imagine Greta Bereisaite's lesssons along with you, and it just all made sense. BOTH OF YOUR TEACHINGS GO TOGETHER. True masters of High Value Women and Men :))))
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you!
@brendastarcher6294
@brendastarcher6294 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad I found you on here. So much I didn't know about men. I've read a lot of books and even listened to a female coach for awhile. I'm so glad you put your talents to work as a couch and didn't stay an attorney. .
@daviddickenson1243
@daviddickenson1243 3 жыл бұрын
Hey. Brenda
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
Your kind words touch my heart
@marysunshine4730
@marysunshine4730 3 жыл бұрын
Amazing. Thank you.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad you liked it!
@carolinas.maroco7352
@carolinas.maroco7352 3 жыл бұрын
Awesome video !!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it
@thedarkshawol
@thedarkshawol 3 жыл бұрын
This is so cute , thank you so much ❤️
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I'm glad you like it
@godsgrace4682
@godsgrace4682 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you some 😊🙏🙏🙏🥰🥰I'll must try this
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome.
@esmesha8456
@esmesha8456 3 жыл бұрын
Love your videos mat🙂
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much my dear!
@atyehatyeh6257
@atyehatyeh6257 3 жыл бұрын
Dear Mat Thank you for this advice it is the best advice I I will use this and listen to this over and over. There is a doctor that I'm quite fond .of I'm giving him space to live his life as I am doing for myself. Won't be long before he reaches out to me
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your kind words! Best of lucky with your doctor 🤗🤗🤗
@krystalguthrie8248
@krystalguthrie8248 Ай бұрын
Thank you for all ur advice it's helped me get to get closer to my man more than I ever thought possible. It's helped him to make me his confidant and really open up to me more. Thank you so much again ur advice is very helpful.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Ай бұрын
You’re making my heart smile with your kind words! Keep being amazing. 💖
@sheillaeco8008
@sheillaeco8008 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you coach 😇😇
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
You're welcome 😊
@faithnaks8246
@faithnaks8246 3 жыл бұрын
Superb🙏
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thanks 🤗
@Soralella71
@Soralella71 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@jingjingwang747
@jingjingwang747 2 жыл бұрын
like bread, that's awesome! You are truly amazing!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
@patriciaklosterman7962
@patriciaklosterman7962 3 жыл бұрын
This is great
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much my dear!
@maggiewanjiru2807
@maggiewanjiru2807 3 жыл бұрын
Mat, your coaching is beautiful thank you I don't know what to call this, but i like when the one i truly love, to love me and only me. Am trying to say that deep down i can't accept any other way if he will love another except to quit from such dramas. So Mat, what do you call this, my kind of feeling?
@esmesha8456
@esmesha8456 3 жыл бұрын
You're amazing mat
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much my dear!
@MariaCruz-lp4mw
@MariaCruz-lp4mw 3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate, your video, love Light and LOVE to your channel. First time to watch it. I just subscribe😇🙏
@markanton5069
@markanton5069 3 жыл бұрын
love is life, there's no love without happiness and there's no happiness without love, I want to recommend you to someone that helped me restore my broken relationship in less than 7 days..
@markanton5069
@markanton5069 3 жыл бұрын
Text on whatapp and appreciate later..
@markanton5069
@markanton5069 3 жыл бұрын
+ 2 3 4 9 0 2 2 9 5 0 8 0 8 😍
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@ivyfgiordano
@ivyfgiordano 3 жыл бұрын
u explain tings an a such cute way! i like it
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad you like them!
@muyarmyawin3372
@muyarmyawin3372 3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Sir 💓💓💓💞
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
@violaristic
@violaristic 3 жыл бұрын
Oh the cute dogs got me 😍😍😍
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
😆🐕
@dianajegenyes6710
@dianajegenyes6710 2 ай бұрын
Very intelligent way to help women to understands and express themselves/trueself more. ❤ Thank you this helpful way of communication with us
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@dhyanmukta
@dhyanmukta 3 жыл бұрын
Mat you speak in such an engaging and easy listening voice . I make a request that if you think it’s necessary to break the grounding rapport with these sounds and acts, please have their volume lower as it’s shocking to my ears when on headphones. Please continue with your much needed, appreciated generous wise words🌠always
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
Wide Awake thanks for the feedback I really appreciate it!! I’ll pass that along to my editor 🤗🙏✨
@MsCorina222
@MsCorina222 3 жыл бұрын
True
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
Happy to hear that!
@nimasoraya1193
@nimasoraya1193 3 жыл бұрын
🍀♥️♥️🍀 thank you so much
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@MargaretBuj_InterviewCoach
@MargaretBuj_InterviewCoach 3 жыл бұрын
Another great video - thanks Matt!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
So glad you enjoyed it Margaret 🤗🤗
@townsendmelissa9849
@townsendmelissa9849 Жыл бұрын
I’d like to know how to bring up a conversation of how he feels about me. We started as just f buddies but I’m falling hard for him 5 months later… and he does the sweetest things for me and surprises me with gifts, he totally gets me!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I’m glad to hear everything worked out well. ❤❤❤
@dianaduval9497
@dianaduval9497 Жыл бұрын
.M___Good Day___Thank you for the reviews at the end of your videos. This allows me to recheck notes
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I appreciate that!
@helensilo6790
@helensilo6790 3 жыл бұрын
I have a date tonight and it was perfect timing to hear this. Thank you! I’ll probably listen to it one more time before tonight.😂
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
HAHA awesome!! Let us know how it goes, good luck!
@helensilo6790
@helensilo6790 3 жыл бұрын
Mat Shaffer it went well! Probably could improve on being more playful. I get nervous which makes me more reserved. Time will tell what energy and effort he puts into connecting again going forward. We’ll see....🤷🏻‍♀️
@iketi256
@iketi256 Жыл бұрын
Update?
@viciousscorpio22
@viciousscorpio22 3 жыл бұрын
Matt is very charming☺️💞
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Aw thanks you’re making me blush ;)
@lokkikol
@lokkikol 3 жыл бұрын
When you weren’t investing in them, they were all over you. When you fell for them, they changed. And that’s when we come to this video and to hear that we have to be ourselves again and and that’s why women feel it only works if and when we care less. I’m listening to these tips in hope to salvage my relationship and I felt burn out in the middle thinking how at the beginning it was effortless. What do you think about the statement ‘when it’s the right one, you don’t have to even try?’ Is it another illusion? I just wonder why there are love coaches for women more than for men and will it work if we adopt men’s mentality.
@themaggattack
@themaggattack Жыл бұрын
Love is a verb, an action. Which means we always have to try. But it shouldn't seem like an impossible uphill battle. Some of us were raised within a dysfunctional idea of love, so we have to learn HOW to love. THAT'S hard. But actually doing the work of loving, once we understand what love IS (standards, boundaries, compatibility, healthy communication, authenticity, fun and so forth) isn't so hard. If you want to attract a man, I wouldn't suggest adopting a man's mentality. That will only clash with him. I'd say stay in your feminine frame. And if it's not working out between you two, then don't keep trying to salvage it if he's not trying. Take the lessons available to you from this relationship on how to love and be loved and eventually you will find the right one for you.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for your feedback!
@CamperVan-K
@CamperVan-K Жыл бұрын
Err... I've had three relationships and I've done all that you suggest in this video. And it was all natural, coming from within me as part of my personality. However, it doesn't work. It will only work if the man is ready and wanting something special.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I appreciate your opinion on this!
@sandraharrison3188
@sandraharrison3188 3 жыл бұрын
What if he's the one looking for an outcome? I like the space between us, it has actually made us both better people. He wants thing back the way they were. I guess I should explain....My X and I are trying to reconnect. A lot of water under the bridge after 33 yrs of marriage. We had lost the connection and Mat, your videos have helped me get close to him again. He keeps referring to when we'll be living together again. I like things the way they are. Seems weird to most that we are dating after such a long marriage. But It's working for us. He's happy too....just wants more.
@meredithboswell4003
@meredithboswell4003 3 жыл бұрын
Tell him I respect his advice
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
I appreciate your opinion on this!
@cherylcook218
@cherylcook218 3 ай бұрын
so precious aternie turned relationship coach lucky us
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 ай бұрын
AMAZING love that share!!:)
@faezahjumahat4196
@faezahjumahat4196 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Matt Good AfterNoon From Singapore! Why Are The Guy Or A Man Seems Hard To Crack His Walls Down Regarding Intimancy Or Emotions Connections With A Woman He Surely Falling In Love's With? What Are The Ways To Be Closed To A Guy If He Wants To Talks Or He Seems He Is Shy Or Quiet? How Can A Woman Indentifies A Man When He Is Really Falling In Love's Or Secretly Staring Silently Or His Eye-Brows Raise Or He Is looking Or He Feels Vulnurable With A Talkative Woman Or Indepandant Or Quirky Or Crazy Individual Types Of Woman Has Some Standard & Boundaries In A Relationship With Any Man Or A Guy?
@lauriesimonds9229
@lauriesimonds9229 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Mat - really heartfelt video. I'm enjoying the comedic skits in your recent videos - add filmmaker to your resume 😉
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
You're very welcome.💜
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
❤️ JOIN MY FREE LOVE COURSE STARTING 2/21/22 - masteryofconnection.com ❤️ QUESTION OF THE DAY - What is your favorite way to get a man to drop his walls and connect deeper with you? Let us know!
@reginareneerobertson
@reginareneerobertson 3 жыл бұрын
Demonstrating acceptance when he shares his truths.
@mariarossi6719
@mariarossi6719 3 жыл бұрын
I hope this makes sense but by me being as transparent and authentic with my emotions as I can be so that I can be the way-shower and hopefully give him that permission to be his true self. Does that make sense?
@AtomicSonicHalos
@AtomicSonicHalos 3 жыл бұрын
Make him laugh! Guys try to get girls to laugh, & I found that guys appreciate it when you're open to laughing AND want him to make him feel comfortable, free, happy, & relaxed too. You can always joke about the weirdness of living with boobs, or socially awkward things that happen in crowded elevators & now in the ghost-town elevator rides.
@careyh38
@careyh38 3 жыл бұрын
Several things come to mind.. When he makes me laugh , Leans in closer to me and smiles😊
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
@@AtomicSonicHalos YES great one!!! laughter is SO ATTRACTIVE
@emilliapeachrose5692
@emilliapeachrose5692 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Mat! The thing is, my boyfriend is a quite person. When i asked him how his day was he usually answered "im tired" 😂😂 what should i do to connect into his feeling?
@nobuhlebhengu7074
@nobuhlebhengu7074 3 жыл бұрын
Give him a compliment about being a hardworker ☺
@coreoflife
@coreoflife 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Mat, I hope you are surviving the horrible fires and are safe with your cute furry pals. I love listening to you. You make such good sense. I don't think there are a lot of men like you in the world. You get it!! I am older and have been through some pretty substantial relationships. Marriages and partners that wouldn't stick it out and do the right thing. I have come to the truth and realization that men either love you or they don't. It doesn't matter if you are the most wonderful fabulous, giving, honest, loving woman that has an unconditional capacity to love. It just doesn't seem to matter to a man. I do believe I am a good thing, a wife. Yes, I do. But I have to just be me. It shouldn't matter about trying to make a man love you. I just don't think it works that way. Either you work it out or you don't. A man loves you or he doesn't. I have seen women who treat a man horribly, yet he loves her and stays with her. I have seen handsome men with women that no one would look at twice. I have seen men with women that look unkempt and don't care about their bodies. I just don't understand. I want to be a good example to my daughters but I seem to not be able to attract a man that cares for me the way it is supposed to be. I am not needy, I am considered very attractive. I am independent, but not over the top, I can take care of myself, but I want a partner in my life to share good and bad times with, to laugh and play and work toward a common goal. I am forgiving and intelligent, and yes funny!! But it just doesn't work out. They just go away...
@christinewyndham-woodroffe9422
@christinewyndham-woodroffe9422 3 жыл бұрын
Awww I feel your pain. Me too. It would've good if Matt could reply to your comments as it would help others like us.
@rebekahwoodward9152
@rebekahwoodward9152 3 жыл бұрын
I been date this men almost 3 month.he a truck drive. I love him had good realanship.have been give him space .he really qute men dosnt talk.we both been devorices.I dont what to do with him.I.m always with him truck. He goes different state.I dont what do with my relanship with him.
@simplywithsabrina1528
@simplywithsabrina1528 3 жыл бұрын
Would you do a video about attachment style please ,😍
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Great idea!
@starshake8998
@starshake8998 2 жыл бұрын
"Exhausted" is my authentic self on all of my days off.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Be strong my dear and mazel tov:)
@Alexi-pj4yb
@Alexi-pj4yb 3 жыл бұрын
Matt, this is one of your most helpful and amazing videos ! Excellent tips with examples, this info helps me in my trasformation to become a more femenine and attractive woman. Thank you for providing this channel ! I'm hoping to find love 1 day 😍 ❤💙🍀
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! love it!!!
@anitapruett2130
@anitapruett2130 3 жыл бұрын
My poetry gives me a unique gift.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
I appreciate your opinion on this!
@reemsaif3105
@reemsaif3105 Жыл бұрын
This explains a lot. I've always been putting walls like men. My mum didn't allow me to be vurnable up till now. I've only decided to drop my guards, I feel much better and more relaxed now
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Very good!
@shannonmckenna7139
@shannonmckenna7139 3 жыл бұрын
I need your one of one coaching. That’s if you offer it. I tend to sabotage myself in relationships. I feel like I’m not worthy of these men. Anyway thank you for these videos.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
I promise there are good guys out there my dear!
@shannonmckenna7139
@shannonmckenna7139 5 ай бұрын
I don’t even remember that comment. “I feel like I’m not worthy of these men” isn’t something I’d ever say. Most likely it was a comment from my ex narc. Funny how things he’s done from years ago keep popping up.
@shannonmckenna7139
@shannonmckenna7139 5 ай бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer I’m sure there are.
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