Personally I don’t fire my boss, I put them on a PIP. I write down my unmet needs and problems, and I set a date 90 days away. They can improve the situation, or I quit. I don’t tell them about this, obviously.

In my opinion, the worst trait a boss can have is being condescending.

If a coworker tells you to watch your back with management and one day he/she just vanish...RUN.

I quit two jobs with two toxic bosses. Narcissistic bosses are the worst and can tear apart your self esteem and confidence. Gaslighting and projection and blame are just some of the toxic behaviors.

This one really resonated with me, as I had to quit a job with TWO toxic bosses last month. One was short tempered and unpredictable, always at odds with second boss...and both channeled hostilities at me. Detailed scope of my duties defined, then dropped new unrelated projects on my lap that were suddenly more urgent regularly. Approving work from home three days a week then venting about me "never being in the office" when both of them lived 2-6 hours away from said office and came in sporadically. When they served me with a PIP my stress level maxed out and I quit a few days later--along with the second boss the same week. Stressed out over burning through my emergency fund at the moment, but feeling WAY better than I did in that company.

I am a cop (for over 25 years) and I have had many bosses who ticked these points! The problem in a job like mine is that you can't just leave and go elsewhere (because then you wouldn't collect your very significant pension after age 50 etc) and if you point out the problems, you can very often be kissing any advancement or progression/development goodbye. I'll be hopefully retiring before Christmas and I can't wait.

I just realized my current boss is doing almost all of these. The one that I really appreciate you sharing is the "hands-off" because I was not sure why this bugs me all the time as my boss is never aware who is doing what, but she always demands us to finish the tasks she needs right away without seeing how busy we are at the moment. And most of the time the tasks she wants us to do can wait.

Every thing you said happened to me at my last job. I was doing the work of 3 people, my supervisor talked about me to my coworkers, even upper management. I quit my job on the spot when he lied about approving my vacation time. I was there for 21 years so I knew it was time to go. Now I have a better job that offers a work life balance, I work from home, and the benefits are exceptional. When a company starts to disrespect you it is time to go.

I landed my first professional job back in 1998 at a chemical company. No joke, in my first week, my coworkers were literally telling me “Yeah if I were you, I would just keep looking…” Toxic environment was a nice way to put it .

Yep. After the 3rd or 4th boss like this, I just decided to fire bosses in general and work for myself lol

I was at my last position for 14 years. After coming across your videos over a year ago. I’ve made the changes in my career and treat myself as a free agent. It’s such a breath of fresh air!

My boss is ok but the main thing with her is that she will straight up lie to us. Even when she knows we know she's lying.

Your videos help me rethink my career and mindset. I had to fire my old manager/job due to unrealistic expectations and terrible work life balance.

Dealing with toxic people in any situation is never easy, but they can prove to be a great personal development tool if you allow yourself to learn and grow from your experiences with them.

I have a supervisor who regularly gives me negative public feedback in front of my peers. Not only that but she likes to create her own narrative that I never go to her for help (which is NOT true) whenever I do make a small mistake. I've been going to her for help the whole week and regularly ask my colleagues for help because she told me to as well. It seems like if she didn't see me do something, she likes to assume I didn’t do it. Not to mention, I do ask her for help but she hasn't been very approachable to me and most of the time she has an attitude when I do ask for help. She's told me in the past that there is no such thing as "stupid questions" but then treats a question I have like it's a stupid one when I am. genuinely trying to learn and not make more mistakes. I am tired of her toxicity and how her feedback causes my usually friendly co-workers to change their behavior around me. I think it's time to quit.

My current boss gets argumentative over trivial things and is a micromanager. It's very demoralizing but most other companies can't pay me what I'm currently making and I don't want to go back to 2-3 wks vacation. I don't trust HR and even though my company has a no retaliation rule managers know how to disguise retaliatory tactics.

I think what I've seen happen is many "bosses" take the promotion to their leadership role because they want to enjoy the benefits and priveleges, like being paid more and being seen as an authority figure. But when it comes to the hardest part, which is ultimately their core role of being responsible for the outcomes of the business as it relates to individuals' performances and how their outcome affects the business as a whole, they star to fall apart. When they get moody, it's the stress. When they remain "hands off", it's because they don't want to be too involved in your development or decision making so that they can't take the blame for your results. Because ultimately, in many institutions, it's their head that gets rolled if things aren't working the way they're supposed to. I was a retail manager for a little over a year, and for the last six months I struggled to meet expectations from my own superiors which seemed to remain unclear. Ultimately what I was told is that it was "them or us", meaning either I started writing up/firing the people on my team or it was me that lost my job. I ultimately stepped down, because it seemed like the company I was in wasn't really setting anyone up to succeed, and it simply didn't feel fair to my team to hold them "accountable" for things out of their control, like unmanageable workloads, unrealistic expectations and being blamed when short-staffing and payroll issues meant everyone was expected to do the work of multiple people.

I needed this video. I moved cities for a new job that I was excited about. I had the exact industry experience they were looking for so I was qualified. The job ticked all of these points and I don't know how I've survived one year. They still don't trust me to assign the work that is required for the job. I'm treated like an intern who "needs to shadow" others work while having very little work I'm responsible for. Why would they pay for my relocation and invest in all of the training programs if these people still can't decide if I'm ready for the job? Can't wait to leave this place.

My boss sadly fits many of these. He's unpredictable, way too hands-off, doesn't value the work I do, never has anything positive to say, doesn't understand the job I do but yet still seems to think its easy and doesn't provide any feedback, apart from criticizing once in a while, which I don't call feedback. I know he won't change and I'm happy to say that I've started looking for a new job. Thanks Bryan, your videos have been quite helpful!

I had a boss that screamed at me, threatened me, etc. He later fired me. I heard that he was terminal in the hospital about a year later. I visited him, and told him "i am glad you are going to die" in front of his wife. #karma.

the boss I had is hands-off in real work, but micro-managing on petty matters like status on chat, late for meeting for 1 minute, etc. She asked everyone in the team to attend night meeting, while she herself go offline and take our summary from that meeting. Not just that, of the 10 things that I did right, she magnify the mistakes during meeting in her passive aggressive manner. I just wish there's karma for a piece of trash like that. Ironically... I'm having a hard time explaining myself why I am leaving the organization. I love the organization, but not the boss. Unfortunately, the big taboo in job interview is, we shouldn't be complaining about our boss. Not even briefly mention about the toxic boss I can't work with.

My boss displays many of these traits. They are to turn 70 so I was trying to outlast them. Now it doesn’t appear they will be retiring any time soon. Thankfully they don’t contact me outside of normal business hours.

I had a boss that was too hands off. Smart guy but he didn’t know what he wanted and needed his people to tell him. He was the odd combination of being a good boss but a terrible manager.

I've had bosses like those mentioned here, and believe me, getting away from patterns of behavior is something that you must do before it is too late.

if you're (un)lucky enough, and your boss also has a boss at the top of the food-chain, you can actually get the boss fired if you carefully document questionable actions of said boss.

Very useful. I am in the process of trying move jobs. Manageress constantly emailing/calling me throughout the day. She even called me whilst on leave!!!!

It’s like the employer/employee relationship is not healthy, and should be done away with.

Our entire team is experiencing the first two from our current manager. It makes every day a living nightmare because we don’t know who we’re going to get, and the overall tendency is to be hands-off in an inappropriate way. Thank you for this video. It’s a much needed wake up call.

The hands off point really hit home with me. This woman was my boss for over a year and I can honestly say, I'd be hard press to say if we ever exchanged more than 20 minutes of conversation combined throughout the year. She left her position without truly announcing it to the team and went on to another position.

Corporations don’t care about toxic bosses. I work for one that openly tolerates a bad manager even after a dozen comments pained to HR he’s still employed here. As long as the on time goal is met he’s not going anywhere.

My former boss and now current boss both are guilty of being too hands off. They want to be informed of everything but don't step in until something happens and even then it's only to find out who's guilty.

Stay away from bad bosses!! Always apply to other jobs. If the company is great, start by documenting everything and report the boss to HR to ask for a transfer as a solution, if that doesn't work after a few weeks, triple your job hunting efforts and apply to every related job. This is how I got away from a careless boss who was also a big documented THlEF, he literally stole people's wallets and company staplers on camera and "somehow" got promoted after.

I got my terrible boss fired one time. I arranged a meeting with her boss and invited my colleagues to attend where we went through her various transgressions and they backed me up. She was gone the next day.

Looking back, one of the most telling aspects of a toxic workplace is when the bosses treat people around them or under them poorly, especially under the guise that it's just for the sake of business. Any business environment or culture that rewards you for being harsh and treating people badly isn't one worth being in, and I don't think it's justifiable as simply being business. Sadly, far too many companies have bought into the idea that the bottom line is the most important thing, and if its at the expense of the work-life balance and mental health of the very employeees continuing to make the business function, so be it.

I’m suffering under #1, but last one was a #2. Very common

You just gave me validation and clarified the trauma I was dealt! Thank You Thank You

If you are career driven honestly the hands-off is the worst IMO. If your boss is just an apathetic lump you can't really get anything out of that relationship.

Wow...can´t believe this video comes out at the right moment xD I just talked with a coworker about our boss and found out that that many coworkers had issues with her, got fired, quit themselves, one even broke down in tears because she is so cruel. I was seriously thinking about to bring that to the light, because it seems that only the coworkers knows it...or it doesn´t even interest anyone in this company.

another flag is when they talk badly about coworkers to me. last time this happened, it wasn't because I had his trust - he did that with everyone including about me to others.

All that bosses need to do is not to be terrible. But sadly 99% of them still fail it.

My last manager was a micromanager, bureaucrat and a sneak. She took an instant dislike to me due to my making suggestions or even questioning her commands (many of which were damaging to the service). I always ultimately carried out her orders but it was the fact I even questioned her that pissed her off. I was a supervisor and a fellow supervisor never opened her mouth, even in meetings - which is what my manager wanted. The whole culture of the job was like that so Im glad I finished my contract last week and to be out of the place.

*TIMELY* I'm in a toxic situation. Poor work life balance, not paid what my work product is worth, a violation of trust. I would love a brief session with you regarding my existing strategy that is already in place.

If you go out of the way for your boss and they throw you under the bus the first chance they get it means they don't respect you and once they start doing it they will keep doing it to hide their bad decisions.

2 weeks ago I walked off a job because a toxic environment and crazy boss. Sabotage/ micromanaging/lying to me and coworkers and even her own boss, favoring the men in the department - plus I hated the place anyways. I was there 9 weeks. I’m still recovering from anxiety and my self confidence is very low, but at least im not there.

All that, plus this one my boss did all the time: Playing one employee off another. He'd call you in his office, and say "Hey, so and so said you did this" So, some people would say "oh ya, well, he did this!" Very toxic, and he loved it.

When I met my to be new boss for the first time management were discussing soft skills for teamleaders. She put her vinger in her throat and made vomitnoises. Second time she said she had never had any problem to get rid of people when she needed to. I lost my younger sister and my father last year and was still learning to do my job. Never got any help, she never asked how I was doing and we had one meeting of half an our in six months time. Due to her behaviour I was scared to ask for help and now I am home sick, massive burn-out. Began working on setting bounderies as soon as I could. This happens to me only one time.

Yep. Done that before. I think it was very obvious that they were lying trying to twist the truth in my feedback. Not because my performance was poor but because they actually couldn’t fault my performance but wanted to build a narrative regardless. There had been layoffs and she was mid senior management versus me being a junior in a small company. Because I was good, she was probably worried that in the future I could be promoted and she would be laid off (cheaper for the company).

Can you make a video on the difference of working hourly and salary. The Pros and Cons please .. thank you ‼️‼️

Statistically i outperformed my team by 600% in my last job but he refused to recognise it and tried to roll it up as the work of the team.

I like this guy. He makes sense and has been helpful.

My friends who work in multinational companies all had/have toxic bosses. The worst part was that some of these bosses were hired not based on competence but based on who they knew, whose lovers they are etc. A friend who speaks 6 languages was always skipped from promotion and she only got incompetent team managers. I was a contractor for a company and one day when I got there to hand them an invoice, I was approached by this woman who was a project manager (I hadn't met her before). She kept complimenting me on how slim and pretty I looked, but from that day on, I never received a single work project from them. A few of my friends also told me that when they complained about their toxic boss to the higher management nothing happened to that person, but even worse, the complainants became the targets, some lost their jobs. Unfortunately finding a good job has never been easy, and leaving your toxic job isn't an option for people who have mortgages, kids, etc. Especially nowadays with the advent of AI, I've actually seen a lot of competent people (even managers) losing their job.

Amazing concept, you gave me the tools to think like this before this video and I fired my CEO. The concept of being the CEO of your Career / Life, it's amazing and so simple at the same time. Thanks for sharing and helping so many people.

I once worked for a woman who ripped her office door off its hinges during a fit of rage. She also threw a laptop against a wall...I've had some fantastic bosses as well, but unfortunately you always remember the bad apples.

I worked in a call center a few years ago. It was the worst job I have ever had. I was out of work graduate with grad experience and lived worked in North America in my early 20s. I had no recent customer service experience and no office admin experience (before the call center). It was the only time an interviewer told me I was incredible and amazing (nobody told me that after I joined). At interview she was charming and put me at ease etc. Two of my answers didn't apply to a customer service and none involved using phones or a computer, I still got the job a short while later. I didn't realize until my first day I was joining a call center lol. The lady that interviewed me would be my line manager (I knew that anyway before I joined). She was a narcissistic psychopath who used me and overlooked my weaknesses when it suited (other staff on leave during the summer) and then accentuated my weaknesses when I no longer suited and sold me down the river when everyone else returned from leave. The entire experience working there made me bitter but toughened me up. I now work with a better employer with great benefits and I get to use some of my skills and experience. Moral of the story, if the job feels too good at the interview stage, it is because it's too good to be true. If you get flattered at interview (and you are the only person in the waiting area waiting to get interviewed lol) these are tell tale signs you are about to join a bad job (toxic supervisor). In every trouble a blessing. Have a good day reader.

Worst boss I had started out as my equal. We were both community college tutors, he was the guy who joked around and watched football on his laptop late at night, he seemed harmless on the surface. He was antisocial but I just said hi to him and moved on to chat with other coworkers. He grew weirder, after that promotion, he started stalking me, and acting weird. He seemed to believe he owned me after the promotion. I think it was always there he just got weirder, he's stalked me at about 2-3 academic institutions in the Boca Raton area. He just went weird, his girlfriend dumped him due to his stalking me years ago when he was supposed to be eating lunch with her. I also watched her ream him out in public in front of half the staff before he was promoted. Just got uncomfortable, I would excuse myself from the room and he would exclaim to another coworker how he thought I liked him. I knew it was doomed at that point. I'm not sure if in grad school it was either him or his best friend that stalked me based on the message I received from a third party. Now high schoolers are stuck with him as a teacher for the past few years.

In my 30 years in the electronics industry I've had every one of these types of bosses. I think I've finally landed at a company that had a culture where these traits aren't accepted for leaders but time will tell....

Another option is to change teams within the company.

Thanks a lot for this video. Helps me realize that I’m just postponing a decision that I made a few months ago.

I had this one boss who was a great guy & supported his team members really well but was a liar! Other team members knew he was a liar but we put up with it.

I guess for me I am not sure what to do and no one has any good advice. I love my job, but after nearly 5 years I have been passed up for a promotion & am really struggling financially. I've been told there is "no growth for me this year". In situations like this, do you wait for things to get better? I would hate to leave a place I love just to be miserable--but at home my financial situation is making me miserable.

I had a boss who asked me and another co-worker to turn in a book report on shyness. Really?

Too hands off. This literally happened to me on Friday!

Wow, a lot of these boxes are being ticked, and I'm experiencing these weekly, if not almost daily at this point. Really hoping those feelers I've put out recently grabs hold, else I'll have to take much more drastic steps for sure

My boss was extremely disorganized and he didn't see my value. I was paid a decent salary but he became really disrespectful towards me. On the day that I walked out on my job, he was screaming at me, belittling me in front of an office full of lawyers and throwing papers and totally out of control. He asked me what I did all day? Then he was screaming at me saying that I did nothing all day. I was like "oh really, since I don't do anything all day, I don't need to be here GOODBYE!" After I walked out, he was begging me to come back. He was practically crying. His wife even pleaded with me to come back because he cant run that business without my help. It took me YEARS to learn that business and it's quite complicated. I refused to go back. He was warned two other times to stop screaming and to stop embarrassing me in front of an office full of people. I'm not saying that I didnt make mistakes but I think that if you have to scream at your staff and belittle them to get your point across, you reap what you sow. The lesson for him is "don't shoot the golden goose" because it will have a bad result. Meanwhile, I have got to find another job. I made a compromise with him to help catch him up on the work and train my replacement in exchange for a good reference. He agreed to my offer. I felt that it was the right thing to do even though he truly doesn't deserve it. No doubt he's going to try to convince me to come back but no amount of money will change my mind. I have high blood pressure and my anxiety is on overdrive. No way, he can keep that job.

Great videos, Brian!!

I’m dealing with a bad boss right now he’s all of these things. How can so many people be this way. 😡

It's easy to manage. It's much harder to be a good leader

My current boss is an asshole, so I'm going to fire him first thing Monday morning!!

I was fired back in May for being a whistleblower, hired by a boss who used me as a pawn. Chronic liar. Committed elder financial abuse.

I am working on firing my boss so to speak. My boss lacks knowledge to understand the work we are doing and are very much about showing of that she is the boss. Hoping to find a job closer to home that are into medical research.

All they want is more bang for the buck and less they are holding me back and thank you.

The last one fuh sure 👌🏾💯

This one resonated with me.

So pretty much all bosses.

OMG... this is my boss 100%. She started by introducing herself as a "tiger mom" and used me as an example of her "child". She's chronicly bipolar. Recently I let her know my team was going to lose admin access to the servers we're responsible for (we're an IT server support group) she wasnt even a little concerned, and told me she didnt think we needed admin access, as a matter of fact she didnt think we SHOULD have it. I had to point out to her we run the servers, install and upgrade software on them, etc. And she still had a blank look on her face. I cant get out of here fast enough! I was supposed to move to another manager by the end of this month, but he left last monday 😢 The worst part is that I've got a bad ticker, and my fiance and son have health problems too, so we need to find that unicorn job that provides insurance fast. And of course, my experience also dictates a decent salary (not to mention monthly cost). i feel totally screwed.

Went into work today had no work. Today ended up being the fibsl straw. Part-time hustle. The company I work at is 650 billion dollars in debt, and another entity bought that debt. The ship has been thinking for a while, I'm actually starting to see the water rise Im gone. Wasted my intellect at a place thats mad ungrateful

Its the last on for me.

I agree with the premise and the information is good, I just find phrase / the title of firing you boss is a bit confusing, what you mean when to quit your job if you have a bad boss.

My last boss was as qualified to be one as Michael Jordan was to replace Eddie Van Halen in said band. He was and is completely unqualified. I even asked him one time why he didn't have basic access to things that managers normally do and he said that his boss at HQ didn't give him that power. He was more appointed to the position because he was there during day shift with the manager that left, plus he had been there a while.

Fire your boss? Great title. This'll be interesting.

What’s frustrating, is that this person isn’t even my boss. My boss is amazing. It’s a higher up who is in charge of the department we are in, even though they should be separate. This person is technically not my boss at all. But I have to deal with them constantly & them giving me “orders” that I have to oblige to just because of their title. I have been in this job for only a few months but I’m debating leaving already because of the higher ups/ownership. This person is leaving on maternity leave soon, but when they come back, I may be packing my bags… And yes they pull the “we’re family” manipulation 🙃

My previous manager from Microsoft is kinda the way you describe here

Damn this give me flashbacks. I had a 6 month internship with a totally hands-off approach guy.He hired me for one of his pet projects but he lost interest 2 months in so I was not getting the equipment needed to continue but was still employed on contract. I pretty much had to hound him to give me shit to do otherwise I was spending 8 hours a day on youtube. I ended up doing a bunch off smaller projects and tasks for people in other departments. It was fortunately decently payed and it required and counted for my degree. He also had to write an assessment of my work for my school. Let's say writhing that assessment myself was a pretty damn fun project LOL.

Thanks man 🙏🏾

5:51 😢 I am been contemplating for 2 months to look for another job. Well, yes it's the boss I am resigning. Thank you Sir. Your advices helps a lot.

Other times you know you REALLY need to fire your boss... 1. When (s)he let's other staff members get away with murder, but decides to have a staff meeting when upper management comes down on her for letting people get away with this, and (s)he comes down on you for your mistakes. 2. When the company VP is emotionally unstable and throws temper tantrums out of the blue. 3. When upper management has HIGH UNREALISTIC DEMANDING expectations of staff and they become annoyed when these aren't met, and staff wasn't trained properly. THAT'S WHEN IT'S TIME TO FIRE YOUR BOSS.

So most of what I'm hearing here is "Leave your office job if any of these are happening." So what about those of us who don't work in an office? What about all the people working unskilled labor because nothing else is available, have no other choices, and have to work under these exact kind of bosses?

I think I m thinking of quitting my job it bring nothing but problems .

When I worked for a small company, they had this office manager everybody regarded as Hitler, he was very authoritative, exacting, and wanted everything his way. If employees made mistakes he would solo them out bring the office staff to attention and embarrass and deride the associate Infront of everyone. The boss didn't last long, yet the owners did something I think most should do, they just transferred him to another company. This company was owned by the same owners of our company, and he practically was the sole operator of the business, no employees under him. But the owners, employees couldn't fire them, they were as bad as him if not worse at times. After a while though they got a business coach, and they changed their ways or should I say hid their derision until they sold the company.

Can someone answer me.I am in the Pharma industry and I have seen people who keep getting fired for some pretty horrible things seem to easily be rehired at other companies just weeks after they are let go?Why are they having such an easy time rebounding?

My former employer is not rep of me any longer...how can I ensure a gov is no longer able to abuse their over reach?

Nah some people want to work nights and weekends to appear like a dedicated team player

How about a boss that gives newer people other opportunities within the workplace and not the ones that have been there a while? Also, a boss that say things like, "It's my call, I make the decisions." Blah blah blah. Heck, might as well just tell us, it's my way or the highway.

With one condition: the economy to be healthy. Otherwise, use a "spice-rack" and silently, open your own business.

Some bosses lie act like they own the company are condescending. They are worst than criminals.

I didn’t have a toxic boss, but I had a double standard boss. Let me explain. We switched from fully remote to hybrid at our office. I had to drive an hour there n back because of traffic, 3 times a week. My boss, who lived 10 mins from the office, never went in. So I asked if I can do the same. Her response was yes however if anyone in the office noticed I wasn’t around and asked her, she wouldn’t back me up and say idk. I said fair. Two months go by and I probably went in once a week just to be safe. So one day, some approached me on a day I went in to the office, n asked… “where has she been?” I remember her response and used it for her. I said “idk”z A week later, she had called HR n reported that I never go in the office and was fired after that. My word vs hers. So toxic… not really as we got along. But self serving and hypocritical? Yes. N I hope nothing but there worse. Cause it’s just as bad as toxic.

Just want to say thank you. I Followed youre rules and tips Switched companies ang got a 50% pay Raise frome 15€ to 22€ and great benefits. Regards frome Germany.

Narcissistic bosses are partially to blame for unemployment problems, I didn't get abused as a child just to get abused at Arby's, like sorry hun lol

If you worked for gov 10 years then leave....What do you do if the gov follows you to each new job and infuses great conflict by speaking to human resources/management? What steps can be taken to shake government from following you? I want a restraining order from my former employer!

#1. Unpredictable moody behavior and walking on eggshells. No thanks.