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I never understood how people got into and stayed in abusive relationships until I was in one

If you were to send this video to a narcissist, I imagine they would say “yes! This is how *you* treat me”.

remember not every narcissist will match this 100% but if you feel a constant anxiety around a person instead of comfortability it’s a good idea to listen to what your body is telling you and to get away from that person

I literally asked myself yesterday “how bad does it have to get before I realize I need to leave?” Wow this is really confirmation. Only happy tears from here on out

The day you realise you just not taking it anymore ... is such a good day.

If you're like me, asking yourself if you're the narcissist, just remember a real one would never ask themselves that question. You think you're narcissistic because you demanded to be treated well and with dignity

I suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder 18 years ago as a teenage. Got diagnosed with OCD. Spent my whole life fighting OCD. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

The thing with narcissists. Based on my experience with them that they expect you to be nice to them all the time and at the same time, they treat you like garbage.

This is so hard to watch. To finally accept that someone you love and thought you wanted to spend your life with was just smoke and mirrors. I’m having all of the signs of anxiety I just want to heal I don’t want this ugly feeling of loneliness upon me. That man didn’t love me , he loved the way I loved him and what I can do for him. The day you realize you can’t change these people is the day of awakening. Currently almost 1 whole month of no contact. Please pray for my strength.

I think one thing common with Narcissists is how draining they are. You can feel as if your life, joy, happiness, dreams get drained a way. Dealing with a narcissist is like being someone s unpaid servant

When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..

Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I hired a private detective Barryinvestigation@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!

And my parents wonder why I stay in my room all the time

The misinterpretation of my words and arguing was the worst. And they always say it’s you doing that. When it’s clearly them.

There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at Digitalinvestigate@gmail. com, where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........

As hard as it is and as much as I cry , I AM SO GLAD I FINALLY CHOSE ME AND WALKED AWAY.. Don’t ever let anyone dim your light, you are meant to shine ✨

They never admit their wrong. And they love to push your buttons they hate to see you happy. Anything you enjoy they hate. They leave you so angry because they repeatedly disrespect and argue every single day.

Worst part is when the narcissist lies and flips the script so well to make themselves the victim, that they actually convinced other people that you’re the horrible person that they say you are. You don’t even get to defend your character😭

Narcissistic ex had me walking on egg shells, giving up my hobbies, my time with my friends, and even my time by myself by making me feel guilty for it. She didn’t have her own group of friends but made me feel like a terrible person for having my own. I tried to introduce her to my friends, but she didn’t even put any effort despite the fact they were so kind and careful when speaking to her and very welcoming. Before I knew it I had spiraled into a lifestyle where all my time was being spent with her, not doing any of the things I liked and me just settling for anything that would keep her from getting upset. My friends worked really hard to save me from that relationship. And they succeeded.

I'm re-watching this video 48 hours after splitting from my partner whom I believe was narcissistic, but not pathologically so. To be reminded about trauma bonding was so useful as I've been wanting to reconnect with him already, despite 72 hours ago being suicidally low. I thank those who contributed to and produced this video, I'll use it as a reminder of what I went through and am working through... and I'm sending love to others out there struggling with this.

One thing I learned after 17 years of dealing with a narcissist is they are always the victim, or the hero, but never the villain

Getting tangled in a circular argument with a narcississt is one of the most draining things on earth. Its possible the argument will never end and you'll just end up confused and feeling like a horrible person.

Fibromyalgia hit me like a truck during my last relationship, and when I started breaking free, it started stopping too. I cried so hard watching this. Thank you. I will never again forget how priceless freedom is.

I am just realizing now that I am trapped in a highly abusive narcissistic relationship. I hate being stuck in this position.. this is the second time in my life I have been here. I hate how everyone is quick to take her side and blame me because I am a man.. I am literally constantly defending myself.. I do not understand how people can be so evil

"If someone in your life doesn't share your values and doesn't care about your feelings, then this is not a healthy relationships for you."

Things that nailed my relationship on the freakin head. 1.Incapable of a genuine apology. 2.Easily triggered. 3."I don't deserve this disrespect" 4.Projecting their bad behaviors onto you. 5.Disasters are always looming. Relationship is unstable. 6."Hey I'm still talking!" Meanwhile the narcissist is ignoring. 7."We're not going to talk because you're so dramatic"

It's so hard to leave someone I love, but I know doesn't really love me, but loves the control they have over me.

I had a friendship like this since I was a child and I am glad to have finally had the courage to move on without them. This video is incredibly educational and helpful, thank you so much!!

He always told me “you have no idea how nice I am to YOU.” He tried to make me feel guilty for regular human decency.

♡ summary of the video ♡ 1. Your relationship is not kind, caring, or sane 2. You’re dealing with immature behavior and give up pieces of yourself to comply 3. You are behaving in ways that you normally don’t 4. You find yourself trying to prove that you’re a good person 5. You are mopping up the messes 6. Your boundaries are being disintegrated 7. You feel addicted, disjointed, and manic 8. You’re suffering from abuse symptoms i recommend watching to learn more 🦋 stay safe, i love you all sm.

I am in tears after listening to this. Every word in this video is relatable to me. It gave me confidence to believe that it's not my fault all the way long and that I should not look down upon myself all the time in my relationship. Thank you.

I just left my second narcissistic abuser. Good times. Picking up the pieces after abuse like this is never easy. This was very validating, though. The part about projecting his own faults and failings onto me hit me hard. My ex does that constantly. I knew it was over when he told me that I deserved another abusive relationship. Just unreasonably cruel, especially for the context. I have to remind myself that he hit me just to keep myself from messaging him. If you find yourself in a relationship like this, don’t wait to see if they get better. Don’t go back to them and let them hurt you all over again. Don’t let them dangle themselves as a carrot that they snatch away if you step out of line. Just stay gone.

The most telling sign you're Dating a Narcissistic Person is when you have ZERO say at all and they get mad anytime you try to express your feelings or concerns and make you feel guilty for doing so,they go out of their way to make sure they ALWAYS have the Upper Hand in the Relationship, because for a Narcissist it's ALL about control

The signs are more subtle. I wish it was this easy to spot them. There's a lot of manipulation going on, that make you feel they're the nicest people ever and you need them in your life. I wish this was portrayed.

I could relate most of the points with myself. Being in a toxic relation where I had to literally prove my worth and broke myself in the process of understanding and loving her unconditionally just to realise how manipulative, ungrateful and inhuman a lady could be

This is *THE BEST VIDEO on NARCISSISTIC ABUSE I'VE SEEN* ~ Should be mandatory viewing for High school students.

The hard thing is when you believe them to be a good person inside that has just been tarnished by the world and you believe you can help them find their peace; while breaking your own.

I’m making a plan to leave. And I’m working on my emotional and mental health so I don’t come back.

Yes the TRAUMA BOND as explained is the most traumatic thing is you know you are being abused but you can’t walk away 🚫 it literally takes someone 7 times to leave an abusive relationship.

The only thing worse than dealing with a narcissist, is having to watch one abuse someone you care about, with little to no resistance.

Watching this just made me cry.... I can’t believe I tolerated this for so long...

"As you water their ground, yours dries up."

been in an relationship for almost 10 years and just realised 2 months ago that she has vulnerable narcissistic traits and abused me emotionally through gaslighting, ignoring behaviour and alot of the other stuff mentioned in the video. I almost gave up on myself and had suicidal thoughts. I was always the fault and was held accountable for her emotional state. I questioned everything about myself and still doing it. Im in therapy now and getting better. To all who suffer from narcissistic abuse, LEAVE and NEVER GO BACK! Thank you for the enlightening content! Without this I wouldn't have realised the situation I was in. You saved my life!

Lately i been learning alot about narcissist, trauma bonds, domestic violence towards men and it has opened my eyes. I couldnt believe how spot on alot of the stuff ive been reading or listening to was. I left her after 7 years and now i fear for our Daughter and her son.

This is so accurate , especially the trauma bond- and how they never ever apologize for anything

It’s a bit difficult to leave a narcissistic relationship when the narcissist is a parent/guardian. Especially since they’ve pretty much programmed how you respond. This really hit home.

The relief.. as soon as they are out of your life!

This checks every boxes of my journey with a narcissist partner. My love is gone, myself became empty, I’m in total isolation and suffering from depression, only lingers for other family members to have a short and joyful conversation which I can never seem to get from the narc. I watched this video at a time when my narc discarded me right after this year’s Christmas, forcing me to move out in two weeks from a house that was under my name, forcing me to stay away from our 3 kids. The pain is real, the struggle is constant, I’m stuck in wanting things to go back to “norm” or break free, start over by myself, and have a chance to finally heal from years’ abuse. I just need to know I am strong, and it will get better, I just need a little bit help and strength to get through this.

I left my narcissist ex & 6mo later I met the best man everrrr 😍 I’ve been happy ever since & I married him 3 year later 🥰🥳 leave them & find love, ppl!! You deserve it!! 😌❤️

It's actually f scary how long I tolerated this. Holy shit. To everyone commenting their stories, I hope you can get out of that environment or find a way to protect your energy. I'm sending prayers and so much love to every single one of you ❤️ you will heal

This video completely opened my eyes to the truth. And the comments here opened my eyes even more. I’m living with a roommate that has the same exact abusive narcissism as described here. He doesn’t just do this to me but to many others including my true friends who have actually been more there for me than he ever has. I just need to have the courage to take that step to completely cut him off from my life for good.

I was in a very hectic long term relationship for 8 years, related to so much of this video it hurts. God protect and bless anyone currently going through this situation

I lost myself trying to fix a toxic relationship

I remember begging and pleading with my expartner to just be nice to me, to please just stop yelling at me and just be nice to me, all I could see was disgust on his face. Cant believe a loved one would do that😔

The sentence at 3:00 couldn't be any more accurate. One of my biggest fears is becoming like my mother, so I am hellbend on being a good person and almost obsess over the idea. This comes with second gussing myself, thought spirals, not being sure if I should rely on my feelings since they got manipulated and (it feels like) "rewired to be inaccurate" over my whole life and generally questioning my reality and values, if they got somehow "poisend" by my mothers abuse. All of this being followed up by THE biggest fear: That I have reached a point of no return, where I am either inevitably becoming an abuser myself or will never fully heal from the trauma that is infecting my brain, but will always stay a vulnerable victim for her and/or potential future abusers to exploit and destroy. Thanks to anyone who read this, I just really needed a place to vent.

It helps to hear it being told to actually make you realize you need to get out of this situation.

This really touched on how I’m feeling right now. The worst part is knowing someone is bad for you but not being sure what the right decision is

It was weird how we’d be having a great day or weekend and he’d randomly sabotage it. He’d say something cruel knowing what would hurt me or start flat out ignoring me. The mixed signals kept me around because i was always waiting for it to get better. It truly felt like a roller coaster.

For real 100% every single detail that you provided in this video. I’m so sad and yet so happy to know that I’m not crazy and that I can stop second guessing myself. Thank you so much for sharing this!!!

Wow. Typing this on a cracked screen due to the obvious. Today was bad, our 2 year old baby girl witnessed things she should never I’m just broken. This video makes me feel comfort. Thank you ❤️

Leaving my parents was the best choice I ever made. I've never been happier. I used to think I was just a sad person, that I was naturally miserable. My home is happy, I love my girlfriend, my world is brighter.

1 - Your relationship is not kind, caring or sane 2 - Give up pieces of yourself to comply 3 - You are angry, disjointed and behaving in ways you normally don’t 4 - Trying to prove (them) you are a good person 5 - You are mopping up the messes 6 - Your boundaries are being disintegrated 7 - You feel addicted, disjointed, manic 8 - You are suffering from abuse symptoms

Thank you for this video. I found out through therapy, I'm a people pleaser. I have a hard time saying no, sticking up for myself and drawing and keeping boundaries. I think a lot of this stems from my childhood, specifically the relationship I had with my mom. As long as i can remember, I've always sought out validation from anyone, but specifically men. I found myself in an abusive relationship beginning at age 21. It was an 11 year ordeal, with a now 4 year old involved. Just 2 days ago, I had to call the police on him for DV, after he intentionally injured me by launching my own cell phone at my face, after he got mad that I told him to get out of my car, due to him disrespecting me. We haven't even been in a relationship since 2019. I'm hoping to get back into therapy and I'm sure I'm gonna need it, especially after being physically assaulted recently.

I have finally had to say goodbye to my sister after 4 years of trying desperately to make sense of our dysfunctional relationship and finally realizing that she is suffering from NPD. Not an easy thing, but so necessary for my mental health and well being. This video is very helpful.

when they watch you disintegrate in front of them because of their gaslighting and lies, and then, when they've apologised and you think you've made a breakthrough , they do it all over again to you.

aww, its like yall wrote a biography about my personal relationship with my mum! Shout out to all the kids out there that were raised by a deluded, mean and childish parent.

This has to be my most revisited KZfaq channel. You do great work

The being addicted part really hit home for me....i got out of a toxic relationship but still was and am thinking about what i did wrong or how i need her back in my life. Everything that used to bring joy just had no effect whatsoever and my hole life was completely centered around her. It's just so unfair that it takes so long to heal from such an experience and that you have to be the one suffering even after the relationship even though it was the other person that misstreated you :(

Anyone else wish they can just go back in time and stop yourself from dating someone in particular???

My heart goes out to anybody whose been through this. It was the worst relationship I've ever been through. I have never felt so broken and confused after a relationship in my entire life.

O.M.G completely relatable. Anxiety, depression, withdrawing from the world. I can’t believe I have been snared yet again

I have felt ALL of these things. Thank God for that day you decide you’re out of there. It takes time to realize how much of a toll it took.

Yep. The begging and the pleading for BASIC RESPECT *sigh* That should have been the red flag I ought to have payed attention to.

To the person reading this: You are who you are. You are a gorgeous and beautiful creation. You are a masterpiece. You are who you are. You are strong and courageous. You can absolutely do it. You are powerful. Remind yourself that you are who you are. Move forward with your determination, and conviction. You can absolutely do it. Have a great day ahead, Remember you are who you are. ❤️❤️❤️

Me watching the images was an eye opener. Im the person kneeling and always begging to be loved and crying.

After 18 years of being tormented by a narcissistic person I used to be friends with - I got to speak my truth to her, tell the things she did and said to hurt me. I am not interested in being friends w her, she’s in my neighborhood and I have to run into her at times. After I told her - we talked for awhile. I hope she finds peace some day. Narcissists really are somewhat unaware of the damage they cause and they don’t really care. Stay away is the best advice. Great video

It's ALL about what THEY want. Your happiness is of no importance. But it is. DUMP them.

This episode broke me. It's so tragic people find themselves in these toxic relationships.

I have some of these types in my family. The way this disorder blinds them to their own behavior...I was tired of being in the blast zone of every outburst. Nothing was every their fault. Always scheming to get out of being held accountable. It's been a great decade without them!

Stonewalling is often used by narcissists and avoidants to avoid all responsibilities... If you're avoidant, you most likely have said to family members - who had a major role in your childhood: "You only accepted me or liked me when I was happy/obedient/emotionless." This one simple statement fits with ALL the core symptoms of avoidant attachment: 1. Being overly self-reliant (and in doing so, you hide your needs, emotions, problems, and acute illnesses) 2. Pushing down anger until it explodes and manufactures the boundaries you crave but can't/don't/won't always ask for 3. Not wanting to burden others with your problems 4. Wanting to fix your own issues to avoid looking incompetent or even getting bullied and teased/mocked 5. Numbing out emotions with self-soothing behaviors that are either totally unhealthy or pseudo-healthy (like getting addicted to working out and healthy eating) Remember ALWAYS this process is all about YOU!!! Not him. He is just a catalyst. Consider, he may be your twin flame. Look into that. After he initiated your trauma, you're now left to deal with and to heal: all that has come to the surface. GOOD! This is a blessing. Albeit painful. A necessary blessing, nonetheless. HUGE-HUGE gift! Major advice!!! Listen closely!!! NEVER ever CHASE HIM. He will run further and you will lose yourself more. You are the feminine. You are the divine goddess. You just be and approve (or disapprove) whoever comes along. It's a yes: you meet my requirements, or: it's a no, you do not. Be clear on whom you're accepting as a partner and DO NOT settle for less (or you just delay what's actually really divinely meant for you). Accept your struggle, anxiety, fear, sadness. Whatever comes up. It's all human, and in need of your attention. If you push it away, deny it, block it, hide it, or run from it... You will just have to deal with it later... And when later comes, those emotions will be: intensified/amplified/magnified! 1) Put yourself first and foremost! 2) Fall in love with yourself. Be your own dream girl. 3) Rejection is redirection. Embrace the energies of miraculous possibilities. And, Any time you have a painful thought/memory/flashback/worry/belief: 1. Find the belief... 2. Write 11 DISADVANTAGES to having the belief 3. Write 11 ADVANTAGES to having the belief If you can NOT find advantages then that’s EXACTLY why you're stuck!! When you finally see both sides... Your mind will STOP thinking about it 'cause your brain will be rewired. So you gotta keep at it, until you find the positive to the negative... And therefore, ultimately rewire your brain! AND REMEMBER: STOP making it all about manifestation when really, it's actually all about VIBRATION!

I need to be myself again. Being in a relationship where they hide you and make you think it’s normal is emotional abuse. I was so stupid

Being in a relationship with a narcissist is like plugging yourself into another person’s life and never being able to unplug. Sucking the life and any sense of identity out of you. I was so relieved to get off the emotional roller coaster. I experienced the addiction “trauma bonding” to the narcissist... it was so crazy because they did something wrong to me and I attempted a breakup-then I felt lost and wanted them back even though they were the problem. I gave them 3 chances and at my last straw I told them I was done with them and ghosted them...I blocked them and they called and called left texts and voicemails but I ignored them all. I did listen to a few voicemails (they went from pleading to questioning to desperate and for the final act hinting at potential self harm. I didn’t fall for any of it. I was free and I could breathe without someone taking up every second of my day.

This was on point in a lot of areas I haven’t seen in other videos, and the crown was a nice touch, they act like the king

When you change everything who you are to walking on eggshells to please the narcissist to avoid shame, guilt, and anger is the moment you aren’t doing it right and need to leave. That’s not love, it’s control.

I was avoiding this video for so long because I didn’t want to hear what I already knew and felt in my soul. I’ll forever be grateful for this!

Today I finally gathered the courage to get out of such a relationship... It hurts but I feel lighter... I can relate to all the points in the video...

I was shocked how accurate this was. I am glad these feelings are normal and that it wasn't just all in my head. ❤

I sat and sobbed after watching this video because I’m at the stage at the end. And the narcissist in my life if my adult daughter who lives with me, along with my 2 year old grandson, my one and only grandchild. She’s mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially abusive to me. I hate who I’ve become. She will work me to death and she takes my full pay. I can’t go to the dentist anymore because I owe them money and she controls the money so my bill doesn’t get paid, but I have to drive her to HER dentist appointments. My psoriasis has come back full force because she won’t pay for the medication I was taking that keeps from flaring. She tells me we can’t afford my meds. But I see her getting things delivered from shoes, etc, bought online, and she gets cases of beer every week at $40 each. I’ve developed pain everywhere and I think now that it’s from the abuse and not a new medical condition. Thank you so much for this video. Im terrified to grow old with her. How bad will it get when I can no longer defend myself?

To all the empaths out there ❤️ We attract narcissists, please be careful. They don't ever change. You can't change the narcissist ❣️NO CONTACT is the only way to free yourself 😌

"Just walk away" as if finances don't get entangled. Shit gets messy, bridges are burned and there is not really anyone else who cares after a while. Just leaving is easier said than done.

Thank you for this video. I was having difficulty time in the past few weeks to find a explanation the staff I suffer recently. I finally take courage to break a 2 years long toxic relationship. It is hurting but I feel much better now.

I was accused of opening up an old wound during a Christmas family gathering over something that seemed innocent to me but to my narcissist was about supposed mother issues I haven't dealt with. We fought in the car ride home and the whole thing was so destabilizing that my whole nervous system has been wrecked since then. Depression, anxiety, claustrophobia, avoiding my friends and family are my hallmark behaviors as of late. Worst of all is that I ended it last summer but I gave them a chance and im right back where I started.

They pushed you they twist you they manipulate they are never sorry and when you finally break you're the bad guy,, if their actions hurt you well that's your problem for being hurt because you're not allowed to have emotions unless they dictate them

It’s really hard to identify when you’ve grown up with narcissists that aren’t physically abusive and only mildly mentally and emotionally abusive because you think it’s normal until you realize how unsatisfying it is and what you’re missing.

I’m just now learning that my dad is and these videos are helping me understand myself and him so all I can say is thank you

I dealt with a narcissist for 4 years it was horrible..and all the things in the video that was mentioned, is literally what I went through. I couldn’t talk to them, or give them my opinions on our relationship, it was to the point I was scared to even talk to them about anything I had to break away. It’s been 2 years now and, I’m so glad I’m free from the toxicity I went through.

When u can’t leave the narcissistic relationship because it is your mother

I watched this video a year ago and left my 6 year relationship a month later. In June I’ll be a year free. Thank you for putting out awareness and education.

I can definitely relate to many of the characteristics laid out in this video and I can identify with the one about trauma bonding. There is an addictive quality to it which I recognise. I am now separated from such person and lessening all contact with them. I also also getting counselling and support from other people. My road to recovery is tough but a very worthy one. I deserve a loving, happy and healthy life.