8 Unspoken (But IMPORTANT) Rules of Healthy Relationships

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8 Unspoken (But IMPORTANT) Rules of Healthy Relationships

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Is your relationship healthy? It’s no secret that maintaining a healthy relationship is challenging. It takes effort and time. To help you with that, here are a few unspoken rules that can help you create and maintain a healthy relationship.
Disclaimer: Videos are not to be substituted for professional help or advice. If you can't relate to any of these signs, please know this feedback is not meant to discredit anyone. It is meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you.
Need more relationship advice? We also made a video on the difference between healthy and unhealthy love: • 6 Differences Between ...
Writer: Sara Del Villar
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Naphia
KZfaq Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
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Life ‘N’ Lesson. (2018, May 2). 10 unspoken relationship rules every couples must follow. Life ‘N’ Lesson. Retrieved from lifenlesson.com/unspoken-relationship-rules/
LOVEPANKY Staff. (2022, March 7). 19 signs of a taker in a relationship: Are you a taker or a giver? LovePanky. Retrieved from hwww.lovepanky.com/love-couch/better-love/signs-of-a-taker-in-a-relationship
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Pace, R. (2020, October 20). 22 relationship rules for a happy union. Marriage Advice - Expert Marriage Tips & Advice. Retrieved www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/rules-for-a-healthy-relationship/

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@muditahlawat Жыл бұрын

When ur earlier then the timestamp person

@PeachLemonTea Жыл бұрын

Fr I was kinda surprised

@khalilahd. Жыл бұрын

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@khafa1 Жыл бұрын

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@internationalentertainment6906 Жыл бұрын

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@johann_saint Жыл бұрын

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@endlesswonderland205 Жыл бұрын

0:22 Learn to love yourself 0:54 Do not avoid red flags 1:26 Have the uncomfortable conversations 1:48 Acknowledge and support each other 2:08 Be loyal to each other 2:22 Keep your promises 2:41 Be friends 3:05 Always say good morning and good night

@Kenju157 Жыл бұрын

my guy watching and making timestamps

@Kenju157 Жыл бұрын

props to you mate

@jessieh9127 Жыл бұрын

I was just about to do this lol.

@Kenju157 Жыл бұрын

das it

@fresh.prince7472 Жыл бұрын

I'm actually cured after reading this depression is no more 😆

@witchw0lf98 Жыл бұрын

The part about red flags was very helpful for me Im a very anxious person so I do tend overthink on things like that and I needed to hear that its okay to talk about some "red flag" issues and grow with each other instead of just running away from it sometimes.

@wallflower_365 Жыл бұрын

One of the hardest things for me was the difficult conversations (since we both hate conflict), but I think I've found a way to address present problems in a constructive way so that we get to talk through it. I mean relationships can be complicated (mine is no exception), just remember to look out for yourself and your well-being first and foremost.

@theliftexpert Жыл бұрын

Don’t dig up the past,it’s gone ……have your difficult conversations about the present and how this will enhance your future together.

@wallflower_365 Жыл бұрын

@@theliftexpert thanks, that's what I meant to say (idk why I added past in my comment tbh), staying present is definitely something that has helped

@theliftexpert Жыл бұрын

@@wallflower_365 you’re very welcome 😉….. I think we all have a tendency to suffer in the present ,from our past negative experiences. I too am trying to focus on the present and future when I communicate with my partner,family and friends. Enjoy your life journey ❤️🥂

@screamingfrogs7917 Жыл бұрын

Pleasantries like saying "good morning or good night " only made them feel like they were somehow superior to you . Which I guess they were right ?

@raynewithhorns 15 күн бұрын

It’s like I’m ignoring my own feelings so it doesn’t hurt him

@aronclosson6732 Жыл бұрын

Being able to love myself has been one of the hardest struggles of my whole life. I’ve gotten better in recent years, but to be perfectly honest. I still have a very difficult time with this concept. There are days where I can barely manage the negative feelings I have towards myself. Would you be willing to go more in-depth on this subject in a future video? I know I would greatly appreciate and learn from it. Thank for this video.

@mankrip- Жыл бұрын

There's no need to love yourself. The actual point, as explained in the video, is to learn to accept love from others. Even thought I hate myself, I let my wife express her love for me, and thanks to this we got together. And even though I hate myself, I don't talk about this to the people who loves me, because this would make them feel as if their love for me isn't making a difference (when it actually does help). "Love yourself" is more of a catchphrase than an accurate description of what people are trying to mean.

@loopzfordayz Жыл бұрын

@@mankrip- you don’t need to love yourself if you don’t want to. But if you’ve never had that loving relationship with yourself, you really won’t be able to truly love another person. “Love yourself” is not just a catch phrase. It’s taking care of yourself the way you would want to be taken care of by someone else. Loving yourself allows you to be independent of outside validation, So the moment anyone stops showing you love, you’re able to walk away just fine because you know your self worth.

@loopzfordayz Жыл бұрын

Look at yourself as if you were your own child. You have this child you need to take care of, what are you going to teach your child, what are you going to feed your child, how do you want your child to behave, how do you want your child to feel. Unfortunately many people forget to take care of their inner child before having kids and it’s one of the main reasons many kids grow up without discipline. In addition, it is extremely important to have that healthy relationship with yourself before you even think about starting a relationship with another person. It makes it so much easier to build a relationship once you’ve built yourself up. Patience and Persistence. Stay Positive!

@loopzfordayz Жыл бұрын

@Nontobeko Ncube No problem! Never give up on yourself! Take care!

@charrydog22 Жыл бұрын

The path to love yourself is not linear but as long as you are making an effort (even a slight one) to love yourself you are on that path

@solrxjas Жыл бұрын

Timeline ✨ 1) 0:25 learn to love yourself 2) 0:53 don't avoid red flags 3) 1:25 have uncomfortable conversations 4) 1:50 acknowledge and support each other 5) 2:08 be loyal to each other 6) 2:22 keep your promises 7) 2:40 be friends 8) 3:07 always say good morning and good night

@khalilahd. Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@sober1373 Жыл бұрын

0:24 ❤️ Learn to love yourself 0:54 🚩Do not avoid red flags. 1:26 🫤 Have the uncomfortable conversations 1:49 💕Acknowledged and support each other 2:09 🤗 Be loyal to each other. 2:23 😇 Keep your promises 2:41 🤝 Be friends 3:06 🥰 "Always" say gm or gn omg "all" you guys did timelines lmao

@elizabethrose644 Жыл бұрын

THANK YOU for the red flag one. it’s ridiculous some of the little things people consider red flags without even finding out why the person does the things they do

@Nola5427 Жыл бұрын

Depending on what it is! That' s not a reason or excuse, fix it!

@anubhavghosh7660 Жыл бұрын

I have been in a relationship for three months now, and it feels great to know that my approach has been right, specially because I have problems expressing myself, or even recognising how I feel at times, and even face trouble while responding to some stuff. The last point just hit so hard, it is now a routine for us, and I've always seen it as a bridge across the passing days.

@LottieWeb Жыл бұрын

Good to know that the made-up relationship I made up by rping w/ my friend (and crush-) is 100% healthy

@drcheese2 Жыл бұрын

Where is the boundary between a made-up roleplay relationship with a crush and an actual romantic relationship anyway? 😅 Good on you guys 🥰

@metal6447 Жыл бұрын

can't wait for you to hit 10.000.000 subs soon! sooo well deserved. keep making the great, loving and beautiful content for the people in need. for a channel like this can save lives.

@lem0njuicee Жыл бұрын

Timestamps: 1- 0:22 Learn to love yourself 2- 0:53 Do not avoid red flags 3- 1:26 Have the uncomfortable conversations 4- 1:49 Acknowledge and support each other 5- 2:09 Be loyal to each other 6- 2:23 Keep your promises 7- 2:41 Be friends 8- 3:06 Always say good morning and good night And remember that communication is key for a good and healthy relationship! Hope you have a good day 💕

@mousumisarkar7406 Жыл бұрын

Rule #0: First get into a relationship.

@MoonGlow22 Жыл бұрын

I finnaly learned what Im doing wrong

@returnoftheromans6726 Жыл бұрын

There is a level zero. Good to know.

@torsasarkar301 Жыл бұрын

Here's the time stamps 0:24 --- 1.Learn to love yourself 0:54 -- 2. Do not avoid red flags 1:26 -- 3. Have the uncomfortable conversations 1:50 -- 4. Acknowledge and support each other 2:09 -- 5.Be loyal to each other 2:24 --6.keep your promises 2:41 --7. Be friends 3:06 -- 8.Always say goodmorning and Goodnight You're welcome ✌😉

@piegirl8263 Жыл бұрын

As someone who has never had a partner this is very helpful!

@erlgjnerigneoifnroiueabgr Жыл бұрын

this was such a helpful video for me. i have now just completed a month of my relationship and i have always worried that both me and my partner had used subtle manipulation tactics on one another (such as lovebombing and the silent treatment), and i was paranoid that these few details meant that we were doomed to be a manipulative mess from the get go. well, recently i had the talk with my partner and he agreed we kinda lovebombed eachother into a corner, and everything was great! we have great communication and do everything else in the video. but something kept telling me that just because we did something red flag-y at the start meant that they would always be present, which is not the case, and i just realised that now. thank you!

@ThisFactswin08 Жыл бұрын

Yes 🥰 Learn the Love language both of you. ☺️ And treat your partner as your best friend.

@diegogalvan1810 Жыл бұрын

I absolutely love the drawings in these videos, they’re too cute

@amyhoover9 Жыл бұрын

One thing that made my relationship toxic in the early stages (and is still a work in progress in some cases) is that neither one of us had a strong sense of love for ourselves... my boyfriend would struggle with low self-worth/depression, and my self-worth has been shaky since my teenage years for various reasons. We've come a long way with the help of some counseling and a lot of talking about uncomfortable, personal issues, but this isn't to say that we don't still deal with these issues sometimes. We just need to find that balance of having enough together time, and having enough alone time. ❤️

@SoloMotivation Жыл бұрын

*This Will Open Your Mind* Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So, throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover. *I LOVE YOU* 💝💕

@Olivia_Faiheng Жыл бұрын

I needed this so much :)

@UndercoverTherapist Жыл бұрын

I think the best among these rules is the one about loving yourself. You must be able to love and value yourself first before other people can love and value you. Once you both value and respect yourselves, then the remaining rules of friendship can easily fall into place.

@ACE_6210 Жыл бұрын

Loved this video, and this definitely goes for any relation/friendship. Also, loved seeing Moomin in this video!

@saranikolovska540 Жыл бұрын

I really appreciate your content! 💖

@random_phobias_1119 Жыл бұрын

I need to work on my self love so bad, i just don't know where to start :(

@childoftheking14 Жыл бұрын

thank you so much Pysh2Go!! 💗

@naomivasquezvega6045 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this info guys!!!

@iamgoddessoflove Жыл бұрын

How much each of you give and how little each of you take for granted, will determine the success of a relationship. 💙KZfaqr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

@Lahah5_lara_art_comics Жыл бұрын

This is awesome, you guys do the best videos

@tammytsang3487 Жыл бұрын

The rules are helpful. Thank you!

@valerievandenbroeck6651 Жыл бұрын

I really like this one, i Needed this very much! Thank you ❤

@RayPeng-07 Жыл бұрын

It's so nice to hear Amanda reading again

@thereal_Achilles Жыл бұрын

this was actually really helpful, thank you! I also rly liked the adorable artstyle :(( - love from a stranger online

@Absolhunter251 Жыл бұрын

I needed this, thank you for this video..

@dr.aiswaryad.b.6192 Жыл бұрын

💯 . . . Self love.. loving yourself first can make others love u more.. . . Living in negative vibes is hard..So find the posivity in everything you do...

@keerthanas8038 Жыл бұрын

thank you psych2go for always uploading videos and help me be aware of myself better also, for anyone who's rushingg, 1. Learn to love yourself. 2. Do not avoid red flags. 3. Have the uncomfortable conversations. 4. Acknowledge and support each other. 5. Be loyal to each other. 6. Keep your promises. 7. Be friends. 8. Always say good morning and good night.

@TimmyKawaii Жыл бұрын

tysm Psych2go ! 9th !!!! love ya i remember LOOK AFTER YOURSELF TOO your important 2 so its very kind how you help others..just make sure you spend time on yourself too : get a nice drink ( starbucks recommended B,) , go on a walk by yourself or you ~+your dog if you have one or ever just chill and watch something! 😺😺

@JReyesTbn46 Жыл бұрын

I'm glad my relationship checks off all of these items. There was one time my girlfriend and I didn't say goodnight to each other and it was because she took cold medication that knocked her out early. It's funny how little things can make such a huge difference. My past relationships didn't check all of these off (I would say equal blame between my exes and I) and I understand why they didn't last. I'm glad I learned, because I want to spend the rest of my life with this woman.

@Princess_Orla Жыл бұрын

Thank you ☺️❤️

@nurhariyanto5438 Жыл бұрын

: every time I watch video from this channel, I just like list-checking every point with my current situation.. and yeah, this was very useful for helping me build better relationship..

@peggyrogers9943 Жыл бұрын

Excellent advice. I listen to all these and like them all !

@piotraugustyniak6591 Жыл бұрын

Great video 👍 great advice 💯

@Noone-rw8qp Жыл бұрын

Wow I am early for the first time on my fav channel

@RegisteredNurseL.A. Жыл бұрын

Perfect!

@chrisjustchris8599 Жыл бұрын

There is a german poem: Gute Nacht Bessere Nacht Die beste Nacht Ist die Nach der ich morgens schon mit deinem Guten Morgen Erwach (Goodnight / better night / the best night / is the one / after i wake up with your / good morning

@lulu_g8445 Жыл бұрын

I love it!

@khalilahd. Жыл бұрын

So many wise tips in this one ❤ thank you!

@Ash-yb8ex Жыл бұрын

tysm!

@orangfriut1994 Жыл бұрын

I haven’t been in a relationship for the better half of a year and yet here I am

@tacolemon1992 Жыл бұрын

Number 3 is the main reason I ended my last relationship. He was too immature and flat out refused to have serious conversations, to the point of not talking to me for more than a day when I tried to bring up something.

@Haze_Limited Жыл бұрын

I messed up and ended my relationship awhile back and it was my first best real relationship and it’s been so hard to forget being with them (as I’m with them as friends cause I can’t just leave them they were funny cool awesome silly it’s hard to let them go cause I liked(and yes still but I recpecting being friends and school and I don’t wanna hold them back from anything, and I don’t want them to see me not able to love myself and sadly seeing the dark issues I have either) and they were my friend and I still wanna be friends, it ended it for a few reasons and I told her my reasons and I should have told her more of them cause I don’t know how to show my emotions or let them out and trust is hard and I doubt they wanna talk to me that much. I hope as I get older me and them can be friends who talk more then right now. I’m scared cause I miss them a lot and it hurts. And it feels like I really have no one to talk to or be around like no one texts me people barley talk around me it just always feel lonely. And that one person made me feel a lot better and not see how alone I was but barley talking to them :/

@kenrickbautista6141 Жыл бұрын

Yeah, I truly find them helpful. Thanks as always, Psych2go! 🙂

@valerievandenbroeck6651 Жыл бұрын

Please more of this. On how to maintane a healthy relationship, friends, lovers and otherwise like colleages (I’m not a native speaker so excuse me for typo’s and other errors 😊)

@keynosdreffan Жыл бұрын

I'm literally sitting next to someone I had a very bad relationship, we are "fine" now but I feel so sad seeing this and seeing everything I did wrong in our relationship

@babylyrics2005 Жыл бұрын

I fall in love your voice

@bryangonzalez4604 Жыл бұрын

You know honestly I used to be in a relationship before but it didn’t go well and I still miss this person to this day because we had so much in common and we got along so well and now I’m afraid that I won’t see her again online. But I’m hoping that things get better for me in the future and hope I’m in a relationship soon because I don’t have many irl friends rn.

@apexian2827 Жыл бұрын

Can you make a video on enemies to lovers?

@BCSchmerker Жыл бұрын

+Psych2Go *I am not in even a friendship without immediate family, let alone a romantic significance.* Thanks for the pointers anyway: 0:22 (1) Learn to love oneself 0:53 (2) Don't ignore red flags 1:25 (3) Conduct conversations uncomfortabe to oneself 1:49 (4) Acknowledge and support one another 2:08 (5) Be true one to another 2:22 (6) Keep promises 2:41 (7) Be friends 3:05 (8) Greet one another at morning and night

@nomad50528 Жыл бұрын

Could you possibly make a video on how to keep a long distance relationship going, ill be moving soon and going into one for the first time and its feeling very tough just thinking about it

@caseycarney9660 Жыл бұрын

Close to 10 million subscribers very very nice

@nick27march Жыл бұрын

Didn't leave any stone unturned for keeping NK happy and smiling. For a single frown I would fight against the whole world. For them I would have fought against Goliath.

@pandascoops Жыл бұрын

Important to know that red flags are okay to avoid when seen before an official relationship, it’s more understandable. but once in a relationship, red flags are more like flaws and address it from a place of love than anger or despise.

@angelfaithparba9940 Жыл бұрын

Here before 24 hours!!

@sarvaepc Жыл бұрын

Psych2go, EVERYONE LOVES THIS ANIMATION STYLE, WE NEED MOREE

@mankrip- Жыл бұрын

"Learn to love yourself" isn't necessary, actually. The actual point, as explained in the video, is to learn to accept love from others. Even thought I hate myself, I let my wife express her love for me, and thanks to this we got together. And even though I hate myself, I don't talk about this to the people who loves me, because this would make them feel as if their love for me isn't making a difference (when it actually does help).

@loopzfordayz Жыл бұрын

I’d recommend watching the video again, that’s not the point at all. By going about your relationship in that way, you are depending on someone else for love. By loving yourself, you depend on yourself for that love. Bottling up your feelings is never a good idea, if you hate yourself for any reason, you need to open up about it and figure out why you hate yourself or else you might just be sabotaging your relationships.

@alessadolan5718 Жыл бұрын

Self love is a big plus point in relationships, some people can not enjoy their own company what leads to to much attachment with the partner which can be very uncomfortable over time. some people don't like how they look like and are insecure about certain things and that leads to jealousy and being controlling over their partner. some people do not take care for them selves and are most likely to get their partner grossed out which leads to a break up or lack of care for their partner.

@liberty.b.r Жыл бұрын

Hope everyone does well in their relationships or otherwise, and God bless! :)

@rainycross8929 Жыл бұрын

Hi! I'm wondering if you guys can make something about long distant relationships, me and my partner are close but sadly live 11 hours away.

@FA3WILDES Жыл бұрын

Love this TvT i might send to my partner!

@drinasun6984 Жыл бұрын

Hi!

@xxxtsukuyomi1191 Жыл бұрын

My ex girlfriend and I used to watch all these types of videos. Especially the psych2go ones. I miss her very much. I which we had more time to work on ourselves before it crashed and burn💔

@xeniathetiefling831 Жыл бұрын

The heartstopper reference ☺️

@afriband6244 Жыл бұрын

please What is the name of the program you use to create image you use in your video

@meisstupid1831 Жыл бұрын

But if you spoke the rules, would it still count as “unspoken”? DEEP THOUGHTS WITH THE DEEP

@MrSa458 Жыл бұрын

You know that does make sense cause I just think that my God ordained spouse is taking a little time off I won't trip I'm a patient man cause I had asked her if she knew how to twist dreads and she never responded maybe I should reach out more I just don't want to come off as creepy you know. So anyways God bless you big sis and you're beautiful family 👨‍👩‍👦‍👦 congratulations on the bun in the oven keep up with the videos about mental health 🎚️🔥🕊️🙏

@radicaldisability9192 Жыл бұрын

I disagree with number one because I never understood what love is my father was always authoritarian but when I ask for the love I felt at one of my schools I never got it I am 24 seeking whatever that good feeling was from my days at Quaker school

@mariannapapikyan4123 Жыл бұрын

I always write good morning and good night to my boyfriend I like to say that my day always starts and ends with him It's come to a point that when I don't text it he thinks something happened and is getting worried and I get too because I know he will get worried and obviously don't want that He's the best

@Toasted_bread37 Жыл бұрын

I began doing that last one kinda naturally

@ellenberg7961 Жыл бұрын

Lucky these women find the right man for them to be happy with that is an empath who looks good and does not cheat or play mind games with them or try to make them jealous also does not need to take selfies. Those who have empath friends that are there for them and do not stack you in the back or gossip about you or betray you.

@zenendrahhernz1371 Жыл бұрын

First one is already hard. I think I've made progress since highschool but still have a lot go 😅

@chrisbsgr.383 Жыл бұрын

useful

@sarahreads4 Жыл бұрын

I've got new subscribers today! 🥺 Subscribers Count - 596! ❤️ I'm sooo happy!😭🥰

@shawnciantar1953 Жыл бұрын

these kind of people I'm upset about that always gives me unhealthy relationships.

@urfavphish Жыл бұрын

How am I supposed to communicate with them when i absolutely hate talking. When i talk to them about something I’ve been holding back i start to stutter. And when i stutter i start crying and after i start crying they find me obnoxious

@mariansantiago9517 Жыл бұрын

@ax0ltl881 Жыл бұрын

Not the heart stopper background at 2:44

@kiwikey1840 Жыл бұрын

ahem sooo I've been in a happy relationship for almost 11 months now and I don't really know how to ask her if she's ok with talking or doing more intimate things between us. We're long distance but I want to know if shes comfortable with it, or if she's not, when would she, if ever?? It's not anything big worth breaking up over for me but even though I can talk to her about almost anything else I'm having trouble bringing this up and it's making me feel terrible (and at one point it was making her feel terrible because I was saying I wanted to ask her something but I felt like I couldn't say it) does anyone have any tips to help bring it up???

@Dr0wzyst0rmz Жыл бұрын

2:43 holy crap Charlie springs room 👀

@Mayeoli22 Жыл бұрын

I was looking at these through a friendship perspective until it mentioned partner and relationship 😅

@vangothengirl Жыл бұрын

9.) Never go to bed angry

@cecigata88 Жыл бұрын

@shambhaviverma2890 Жыл бұрын

2:51 Its Charlie Spring's room!🤭🙈😙💟

@gr1nm Жыл бұрын

The unspoken rules of a healthy relationship are: 1) 2) 3) 4) 5) 6) 7) 8)

@krisztoth8475 Жыл бұрын

If I don't look into your phone or go through your stuff then I expect the same thing from you and if I dont allow you to go through my phone that's not because I'm cheating on you.