8 WAYS MOMMA MIGHT HAVE MESSED YOU UP IN LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS by RC Blakes

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8 WAYS MOMMA MIGHT HAVE MESSED YOU UP IN LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS by RC Blakes
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@RCBlakesJr. Жыл бұрын

HELLO FAMILY!!! Please LIKE as you come in today.

@sharonlaprade2787 Жыл бұрын

Hello

@latoniafreeman163 Жыл бұрын

My Mother always said "Do as I say not as I do."

@dianawelles1726 Жыл бұрын

@@latoniafreeman163 mine too

@Devin3329 Жыл бұрын

I love your video's but this one i don't agree. first of all because of our mothers we know what we want in a men, and not a marriage they had. we know better, and they deserved better too. there are mothers who defending their low value men who did nothing but to hurt them but we don't follow our mothers, THANK GOD for that!! And you also saying that mothers teach their daughters to be strong and independent. first of all, i wish they did and do that, but they don't!!!!!! we should be independent and not be submissive like they where!!! i know alot of tradional housewives, the older generation especcially, they teach their daughters, whatever your husband do, just forgive. and thats wrong. i talked to hunderds and hunderds of woman about this kind of stuff because of my research. i wish they told their daughters to be not like them. Mothers couldn't always hide their feelings their frustrations about their husbands, so they told their daughters, but not to their sons, i wish their sons also knew how much their mothers suffered. Even when my mother told me alot of bad things about my father, it didn't messed me up and than she prentended like nothing happened and that because she thaught she had too, thank God we woman now are not like that anymore and we don't have too. We don't act, listen or want to be like our mothers. we know better and we won't settle for less. and a woman who is married a low value men is because she is low value too. i am married with a men who is very loving and he support me with everything. we love and respect eachother. my mother didn't messed me up wiht that. so i am do not agree. And another thing, its the fathers who messed up their sons!! but you talk about daughters, why? sons follow their fathers, how they treat their mothers. Alot of men think that woman are less than men, but they also believe a woman should do everything in the household. and that because there mothers did that too. they expect their wives to be like their mothers who where submissive.. thats so wrong. those sons have no idea how much their mothers suffered because when i tell them we don't want to be like our mothers, they think we are menhaters, and that because they are not very smart. some how they think we should be like their mothers. Wel HELL NO!!

@BellMarell Жыл бұрын

Little girls need to be separated from psychopathic, demonic, abusive men. That doesn't mean you should bad mouth him to or in front of your daughter, but your #1 responsibility as a parent is to protect your children from harm & abuse, even if that abuser is their biological parent. Careful..

@angelajg Жыл бұрын

1. She modeled disrespect for your father. 2. She conditioned you to believe and behave as a voiceless shell of a woman. 3. She put a demand on you to be tough for the world you would face. 4. She coddled your brother, while she was tough on you. 5. She infused you with a hatred for your father. 6. Her poor relationship with money has become your norm. 7. Her overly critical attitude towards you has created an inferiority complex. 8. Her competition with you for your father's affection has introduced you to toxic sisterhood.

@omw2230 Жыл бұрын

God bless you!!!! Thank you

@waundashelton3736 Жыл бұрын

Wow Bishop you are on point with this message!! 👏 Blessings man of God!!

@marciadawkins7731 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this summary! Much appreciated. 🌱

@patriciapatricia3586 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for writing the points down :)

@coz7891 Жыл бұрын

A trillion, trillion THANKS!

@tasiahill9010 Жыл бұрын

I carried my mothers pain and trauma for so many years in my relationships and marriage and didn’t realize it until therapy 😢.. thank you

@theresacathy8178 11 ай бұрын

Do No😅h

@madelinebigio7565 10 ай бұрын

Wow and they act like you are the bad one and they don’t realize that all of the things they was doing was affecting you! Unbelievable I had always realized it and now they are trying to act like 👍 it never happened…

@naturalgirldiy Жыл бұрын

This is such an important conversation. My mother and I have never really had a good relationship. It took me years to truely understand why she harboured so much bitterness. She had a toxic, traumatic childhood that she refuses to address. Our relationship has reached a point where I cannot be around her because I'm trying to find my own healing and be a better parent. Thank you for articulating this so well.

@gatortearscryinin6164 Жыл бұрын

I can agree with you so much..sounds just like my mother. I think there needs to be support systems about mothers behaving like this

@naturalgirldiy Жыл бұрын

@@gatortearscryinin6164 There definitely needs to be more open and honest conversations about toxic mothers. Sadly guilt and shame often prevents us from having these conversations.

@Blissful_Gia Жыл бұрын

This one was personal 😢. Being African our parents NEVER talk about partner selection, Sex safety, STD, birth controls, pregnancy, etc but they expect their daughters to show up with a degree and a husband. I love my mom soo much but that conversation could’ve saved me from molestation ,domestic violence, and unplanned pregnancy. Never did I ever think I would be a single parent but I am and I love my child soo much and to break the cycle, I’m going to make sure my little human knows all of theses thing and then some. I forgive my mom because she was an immigrant in a new land and back in Africa they don’t teach any of theses things so she didn’t know better. But unfortunately, I had to learn the ways of the world and I’m still learning as if I’m 15 again. Love your channel. I start and end my days with your videos ❤

@DioniWise87 Жыл бұрын

Gia, you are doing a wonderful thing for recognizing what your mother couldn't give you and being wiling to teach your child what you know now. I pray for your personal healing and success in creating a new, healthy cycle of parenting with your child.

@omw2230 Жыл бұрын

You are not alone. I'm in the same exact boat!! Our children will be better!

@Godisgracious85 Жыл бұрын

God bless you

@gigibrown_wright Жыл бұрын

I can certainly relate but I make it a point to do better for my children. 🙏🏽

@annetteprince9615 Жыл бұрын

My mom age 78 was a single mom of 3 daughters no fathers & 1 given up for adoption. It was a horrible experience growing up until I was displaced by age 15. Older men, living from home to home of childhood friends, still attending school.... grandma & mom both uneducated and my sisters were not parent at all. My sister & I both had a husband once, & I still struggling with life ups and downs. God has blessed us throughout our trials and errors. Also, mental illness plays heavy in family upbringing.

@joyfulpm6303 Жыл бұрын

My mother emotionally, and sometimes physically abused me,she left me to fend for myself, not spending quality time with, no taking me shopping,no bonding time, and hardly even talking and sharing anything with me, my dad was absent most of childhood and adulthood as well, I experienced so much pain from this and made alot of bad choices with men, and being mislead by men thinking by having sex with many partners that they will probably love me. I had no moral guidance and no one to show me or talk to me about men or loving myself and having self esteem growing up in my younger years, It has been so hard to cope as an adult.

@wisesavedone2721 Жыл бұрын

Yessss!!! Mine is a narcissist

@Cat-sx6ep Жыл бұрын

@@easylistening6718 me too

@BigMommaBrooklyn Жыл бұрын

This is something I am realizing as well.

@AshzxQuidYT Жыл бұрын

Same here my mom didn't physically abuse me but she had nothing to do with me for most of my young life. She's passed away, but I never got anything answered. I ended up with my husband at 17 years old and he mentally abused me for years. Therapy has helped me.

@eattoliveveganstyle65 Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you and I had the same childhood experience 😌

@JesusismyKingNL Жыл бұрын

I was in my 30's when I finally let go of my mom. I love her but I can't make her be someone that she is not. Let's all forgive, Heal and seek our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

@stohandmadejewelrycraftcorner Жыл бұрын

This video is timely. I have been struggling recently because I have come realized that my mom didn’t teach me how to be a woman or wife. She was married to my dad for 52 years before he passed away. I have been very upset with her because I am watching her parent as well as teach other women how to be wives and mothers. She’s replaced me with other women in my life so many times in my face, and expecting to except it. It hurt so much, but I am working to not hate her. It’s difficult. I am working on me now. It’s a lot of work, but I am determined to be a better versed of me. I am truly grateful for for RC Blakes. He’s helping me so much in my life. I am truly grateful.🙏🏾💕💕🙏🏾

@savannanicole1981 Жыл бұрын

Im nervous but excited to hear this topic.. Ive been no contact with my narcissistic mother for almost a year next month. She can never understand or have empathy for how she hurts me and make me feel seen and heard. Its always about her and her feelings matter more. Im always the villian. When I finally came to terms that she is a narcissist it made sense to me why ive been attracted to toxic/ narcissistic men and its only damaged me even more. Im praying you'll go into deep depths in this topic, its very much needed. Thank you Rc Blakes!!

@noneofyourbuizness Жыл бұрын

Aaw im glad you realise it . I am the other type of traumatised kids. The one that cant stand abuse and abusive behavior. To the point that if a man show me some traits that remind me of my family I run away !! I have zero tolerence and patience But in same time I have been avoiding unconsciously relationships in any kind of way I had my first love at 27 and realise all my trauma soo late in my life ! Now I know.I wont get married because by the time I heal it will be too late to build a family but its okay

@sharonlaprade2787 Жыл бұрын

Same hear. I have very toxic relationship with my mother

@Kristina-zj4je Жыл бұрын

You and me both

@janicejackson9228 Жыл бұрын

Mother's can be just as Emotionally Unavailable", as Father! Even in the same home together...hurt people, hurt people! People can't give you something, they don't possess themselves! The Kingdom of God lies within you, Queen!! Focus on being gentle, loving, kind , forgiving, & patient With your Beautiful self! You Got this Sis ( s)!! Go Inside, that's where your love & your POWER lives! This is FEMININE Energy! Then Mom''s attitude will change..When we change as individuals, the people/circumsstances around us changes😍

@kameshiam1674 Жыл бұрын

You are not alone. My mother is a narcissist too. I've been avoiding people for years because I was ashamed. Last year I shook off the embarrassment and started to show my face to people in my old church again. It's not easy because many people suggest that reconnect with her. I won't do it. I can't drink her poison. Blessings to you and your journey. It's been 7 years for me, but I've struggled 13 years before that. You can have a good life. You can be happy.

@Queen_Esther985 Жыл бұрын

My mother was a very narcissistic person. At a young age, she accused my father of cheating and we would go on late night escapes to look for him. She also coddles my brother. She neglected me in the process. It’s nice to hear this validating message

@Bishopblakes Жыл бұрын

🎁👆🏽

@cheburrell3989 Жыл бұрын

Ooo weee. She def messed me up, but I refused to stay that way!!!

@LUVTHYSELFQUEENNATALIE2024 Жыл бұрын

LOOKING BACK MY MOM WAS VERY CONTROLLING IN MY LIFE AND I FOLLOWED HER FOR MANY YEARS. NOT UNDERSTANDING THAT SHE WAS A NARCISSIST AND I TOO HAD TO SEPARATE MYSELF ON MANY OCCASIONS NOTHING WAS NEVER GOOD ENOUGH 😭😭. BUT MAY SHE REST IN HEAVEN SHE WOULD HAVE BEEN 72 YEARS OLD ON JANUARY 19TH😞😞🙏🏽🙏🏽

@dijonpreville6991 Жыл бұрын

As a 29 year old single man. I love me some Bishop Blake Jr. Can’t wait for the next episode of the Code Podcast.

@Ddeath.Eaterr Жыл бұрын

“Women don’t say nothing, ‘shhhh.’” That eerily, chillingly resonated with me. I am a recovering people pleaser. Just now finding my own voice and sense of self at 26. I know that my grandpa was abusive when drunk so I know my grandma had to be quiet to survive and taught my mother and aunts this as well. Every time I call out abuse in my everyday life my mom punishes and ostracized me for calling it out. I don’t care any more, definitely reparenting myself and my future daughters. My mom is amazing and did her best I’m sure but that right there is not continuing to the next bloodline.

@braddissandridge5712 Жыл бұрын

I thank you for this topic. I was today years old when I began to really start understanding why I was single. My thoughts about myself weren’t even mine I took on everyone else’s opinion about me. My mom and I have never had a good relationship and I blamed myself for it not knowing or realizing she didn’t love herself so she was not capable of ever loving my correctly. My grandmother and her would use my faith against me to make me feel bad like I was supposed to just keep allowing my mother to abuse me. Not to mention people who have never had a toxic mother tell me I only get one mom. It’s easy to speak on situations you’ve never had to endure. Now that I’ve been no contact I have so much more peace in my life. I am no longer mad at my mother I just want better for her. She isn’t healthy for me or my son.

@Spokentruths725 Жыл бұрын

Same here girl. Taking space is the best thing to do.

@angelabaldwin9889 Жыл бұрын

That last paragraph is happiness enjoy it. I’ve been through it too.

@VictoriaScott07 Жыл бұрын

SO glad you are speaking on this Bishop! The role mothers play in grooming and conditioning their own daughters to participate in unhealthy relationships is real. Momma ain’t always right. In reality, momma is often wrong when it comes to men, love, relationships and marriage. Especially the advise church mothers (some not all) give women on these topics. It consists of a lot of toxic and dysfunctional ways of being being passed down generation after generation. It has to stop. So glad you are discussing this…..

@myraware8230 Жыл бұрын

Oh, I'll definitely be there, but I already know my momma messed me up. I survived her abuse. Now I'm doing the best I can. I raised me with the help of the Lord and reading the Bible. See you here. 8 p.m.

@ellawhitfield9862 Жыл бұрын

Bishop please write a book on this! You described my whole childhood and I didn’t understand why our home didn’t seem to have love ❤️ spoken or shown but now I know! I couldn’t understand why I was thought about all the bad things my dad did from mother but what I saw was a good man trying his best to show love to a woman that constantly pushed him away! Lord there’s so much to my story that I can’t tell it all! Thank you Bishop for filling in the gaps as a father for a woman that had a father that didn’t know how to be a father! Lord have mercy 😢

@tjharris7305 Жыл бұрын

During the pandemic, me and my siblings tried to look into the roots of our behaviors, and it all points out to our mother

@ThinkingLikeAVIRTUOUSWoman Жыл бұрын

I will definitely be tuning into this. I have a daughter who will be 18 at the end of this year… and I want to make sure I am not making these mistakes. Sometimes, the very thing we think is helping is actually hurting. So I’m always open to listen.

@pamgraham1751 Жыл бұрын

My Mom didn't abuse me Mentally, emotionally or physically. I grew up in the church but I realize NOW my Mom gave me what she had to give. I look at life now and realize she had wounds she probably never healed from. But I'm grateful she taught who GOD is, to pray, lean in and TRUST GOD....Healing from my childhood & Adult wounds has been a journey. Pastor's teachings HELP

@natinamack5123 Жыл бұрын

But, it's ok to make mistakes because as humans we will do that. However, what's important is we want to experience our parents taking responsibility when that does happen, and being able to talk it out with the fruit of the Spirit. So, when both make mistakes out of love we forgive. I hate when my mom make mistakes she's always using the line, I didn't know because I wasn't taught. However, she has a relationship with the Lord, so he will teach you the ways you weren't taught.

@alanalambert8914 Жыл бұрын

Bless you I wish I had a mother like this 😢

@natinamack5123 Жыл бұрын

@@alanalambert8914 I truly understand you. I wish I had a mother like her too. My mother is still living and her childhood stuff is always deflected on projected onto me. Be blessed my sister. God is providing what we never got. 🙏🏽💖

@alanalambert8914 Жыл бұрын

@Natina Mack thank you bless you too. God got us 🙏

@NeneThe129 Жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this topic RC Blakes. I was so angry at my mother because of how I grew up. I didn’t receive the love that I seek from her, she was always so cold and hard towards my sister and I. A lot of things I had to learn on my own. That mother wound is so serious. No wonder why my relationships and friendships didn’t work out. I just recently started back talking to my mother, but the relationship has always been challenging. Thank you for this message it was truly important to hear.

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@amerokeewiya1320 Жыл бұрын

She probably was envious/jealous of you.

@Food_Enthusiast777 Жыл бұрын

This makes sense because I keep getting guys who want sex and then they backstab and disrespect me. Then I don't get anyone for a long time. It's a repetitive cycle

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@nicolerenee7 Жыл бұрын

7. Her overly critical attitude towards you has created an inferiority complex. I am a stone's throw away from saying that I hate my mother. The effects of her narcissism are so deep, and I'm in my 30s. I've been going to therapy but I think I need to get away from her, as in move to another continent. I have realised that I cannot heal around the same person that broke me.

@luxurioushomendecorpalace1708 Жыл бұрын

We need one like this for the daughters that were raised by single mothers

@ladyg50bx Жыл бұрын

You are speaking the truth. Especially about mothers not working on themselves. And putting it on her daughter's. My mom is doing that.

@filmsbyaaj Жыл бұрын

God’s timing is so divine. He knew I needed to hear exactly this and used you to speak to me. thank you ❤

@healthylifestyleandhealthy2023 Жыл бұрын

The teaching really impacted me, I had to go to counseling 5 years ago due to the wounds from my mother during my childhood and I truly believe that counseling is a a necessity for closure and to process trauma from past.

@amberhobbs9174 Жыл бұрын

You're exactly right... I pray for feminine energy for me and my daughter for our sakes ...and to be good examples of love to my sons .her brothers.

@BeautifulMorning-dl6nl Жыл бұрын

This is it right here. I'm so glad you spoke on this. I have been in No contact with my narcissistic mother for 2 years. I am just now starting to work on Reprogramming myself. I knew I was messed up when not only relationships were a disaster but Friendships also failed, everything always failed and I knew then that something was terribly wrong. So Thank you

@soulstoryshow Жыл бұрын

This is full of truth. Our parents were definitely from the "do as I say, not as I do" but they did it all. My brother always called my parents hypocrites for this very reason!

@tff8514 Жыл бұрын

Realising that you too are not perfect and have hurt other's, and it's not just you who has been hurt, really brings it to heart. And realising that people repeat patten's often, and really alot of the time are not intentionally harming you All have fallen short. Love covers all sin.

@daniellecushman1024 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this I’m grateful for this msg much needed. I am now taking care of my mom and I’m parenting me and her at this moment. There’s a lot she didn’t teach me or any of her kids. I am now 34 and reprogramming my mind and learning and teaching myself a lot she didn’t. I’ve forgiven her and learned to accept what she didn’t do because she only could do what her parents taught her. She lost her mom at 8 and her grandmother raised her and her siblings she told me her grandmother didn’t teach her anything she had to learn on her own. My dad was in my life but he died when he was 26 in a car accident and I was only 6. My mom did what she only knew how and now I understand. It took me years to forgive her but now I understand. I’m now a mother and learning so much at the age of 34. Helping her and taking care of my three kids and teaching them differently I express a lot of love for my kids and have random conversations with them. It’s sad sometimes to see my mom in this condition she’s now sick with cancer and her husband left her and abandoned her 😢. But we keep God first and know we’ll get through whatever it is we’re going through. It’s a hard job for me but I’m a warrior and know I can get through anything that comes my way. ❤❤❤

@latonyamorgan1520 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this video I can relate to this I have to reparent the little scared/hurt “Latonya” in me, I keep putting it off because I’m nervous I know it’s going to bring up some emotions that’s going to make me sad but I have to do the work bcuz I want to feel “FREE” I’m tired of feeling “ARRESTED” I must do the work!! I’m 56 and I’ve never been genuinely happy just masking the trauma to feel happy.

@sunflowersoul821 Жыл бұрын

Great topic. Can you please add in how a mother’s abandonment and emotional neglect can have ramifications on how the child(ren) view love and relationships? Thanks

@gailpdesigns Жыл бұрын

Hi if you like reading or listening to books I’d like to suggest “Will I ever be Good Enough “ by Karyl McBride, hands down taught me how to respond to triggers. Be Encouraged Sis

@sunflowersoul821 Жыл бұрын

@@gailpdesigns Yes, I like to read and thanks for sharing this book. I am going to purchase it on Kindle now.👑🤎🌻 Thank you!

@RCBlakesJr. Жыл бұрын

Absolutely

@sunflowersoul821 Жыл бұрын

@@RCBlakesJr. Thank you so much Pastor. 🙏🏾

@deborahfranklin9370 Жыл бұрын

I dealt with that too and was attracted to emotionally unavailable men.

@janethbwari.b5708 Жыл бұрын

Such a deep topic Pastor Blakes. Especially in African context, we are very much affected because our mothers have a kind of bitterness that we don't understand...

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@SleepyPariah Жыл бұрын

I’m so ready to be a future generational curse breaker! I’m determined. If the Bible says that I have to submit as a wife, then I’m gonna submit as a wife. Can’t go wrong following God’s structure- he has a reason to make it this way It is what it is

@mnorwo2 Жыл бұрын

I'm ALWAYS amazed at how you articulate these hard/harsh topics with so much simplicity YET back with so much impact. Thank you! I completely agree with these 8 points.

@janemakori8995 Жыл бұрын

This video was SENT to me by the LORDI thank you for your obedience, you are TRULY a spiritual father! The Lord has been helping me to unlearn and identify where my patterns and behaviors have affected my womanhood, life, and relationships . He has consistently led me to you, I see why. I beleive new patterns are being formed, things are breaking!

@evaphillips2102 Жыл бұрын

This topic has been heavy on my heart and mercilessly attacking my spirit. Thank you for speaking about this.

@carolinaserendipity Жыл бұрын

My mother raised me with tuff love. I was given many opportunities to learn many things such as taking dance lessons, piano lessons and was in girl scouts. As I complained about getting ready for these things (as a young child), my mother got tired of listening to me complain and allowed me to quit. I wish she had encouraged me to continue my dance lessons!! Dancing was a natural talent for me. As a grown woman, many times she would mention "If I had continued dance lessons, then I could have been a professional dance instructor and wouldn't have to struggle as much to make a living. My mother really didn't coddle my brother, but he was favored with the double standard that he was a boy and not a girl. My mother was hard on me and as a grown woman now, I see that she had to do what she did and I turned out to be an amazing, tough woman.

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@nomfundomolefe5881 Жыл бұрын

I was mainly raised by my dad and my mom was very passive in raising me. I understand that she came from a very disfunctional family, nobody ever taught her anything. So I am still trying to balance my feminine and masculine energy because I am mainly masculine. My normal and comfortable zone is masculine, I am fearful to be feminine. My guard is always up, waiting with a sword for a kill😩

@Free_Introvert Жыл бұрын

I can relate. It takes a lot work and self care to balance those energies. Keep loving yourself. No one will ever love you better than you can!

@TheJo4peace Жыл бұрын

This has been a word for me! This broke me down b/c it is confirmation of what has been in my spirit for sooooo long! Nothing would make me happier than to just be a GIRL every day! I listened all the way through. It was hard, but it was the most refreshing breaking and conformation I've ever had. Great springboard Sir. God bless you!

@jewishbride5010 Жыл бұрын

Critical mom, definitely, although I can appreciate her much more nowadays, seeing also her soft sides. I think at a certain point I felt no effort of mine to help her out was rightly appreciated, I hope I am that far in my spiritual growth I have outgrown any complex that could stem from this. Father God, if there is anything in me feeling inferior because nothing is ever good enough I bind that spirit to the pit of hell while binding myself to know every rightly and diligent effort to do good makes a positive difference already. And so it be, in accordance with this word and titus 2:3-5, ephesians 5:33, numbers 13:33, 1 kings 15:1-3 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah, thank you God!

@pjbooker7035 Жыл бұрын

on point - i 'm at this point in my counseling therapy; i'm dealing with this so i can be better to my adult children

@Shamieka4 Жыл бұрын

It end with me today!! God is helping me to heal within . I won't continue like this because I want better for my daughter and my little cousins being born in my family and overcome what my mother couldn't do for me. It's not easy when confronting these issues throughout my family but it's worth my tears and pain to realize what was right and wrong through my family.

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@laurabayer3545 Жыл бұрын

My loves bday is todsy he was born in his mamma bday 1.22. But she committed suicide when he was a teen...he is now on a mission to try to save ppl and its hard to watch bc he himself suffers under abuse. Timely message...

@sarahcinnamonthriving9563 Жыл бұрын

I hope you do a talk on ways smothering mothers mess their sons up into adulthood. I wish more ministers would address Emotional Incest and Triangulation of a parent with a child into adulthood, where they selfishly inhibit their target child(ren) from developing as equitable, functional, self-valuing adults, but held back to keep supplying a parent's Narcissistic controlling compulsions.

@victoriapsalms6080 Жыл бұрын

you preaching! 😇

@anaiahgoods Жыл бұрын

My mother was abused by her mother and sexually abused by her father. I was abused by my mother and sexually abused by my sister. So when I gave my girl up for adoption to spare her from this cycle all judgement broke loose. Not all are mature enough to understand. I can only hope my daughter gets it someday only I won’t be quick to tell her since I do t want to plant that seed in her imagination as she is approaching her teen years - esp as she is approaching those years. Thank you for this!

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@javelinhardy5281 Жыл бұрын

Omg I’m going to have to breath and do some meditation after this subject. Folks don’t teach on this enough. I was taught it’s better to have half a man than not a man at all. Grew up in a battered home severely toxic relationship.

@jennifervillegas4442 Жыл бұрын

There's a lot of times I wanted to be no contact with my Narsassistic mother, but I just can't, and she's done some horrible things you can't even imagine.

@Cat-sx6ep Жыл бұрын

I understand

@zakorahsheskingdomministri2617 Жыл бұрын

Whew Bishop RC Blakes I don’t think you understand how much this word was needed, thank you for the delivery of this word! This is truly from God and just how much he cares about his daughters thank you so much again ... Glory be to God for raising us up and reparenting us through his vessels I’m so thankful & grateful 🙌🏽❤️🙏🏽

@lanarose2460 Жыл бұрын

And another one! Pastor is READING us y’all. Definitely need one for the single Mothers who have raised or are raising Kings. I’m trying hard not to mess mine up.

@donnajeffreys8252 Жыл бұрын

Reparent the parts that our parents got wrong YES !! MY children will also need to reparent the parts I got wrong ( I've had to apologize for the things I got wrong and so thankful that they opened their hearts 💕 with me ) their dad got wrong , their in-laws got wrong !! My momma was the domestic queen 👑 cooking, taking care of her children , taking care of her home but when I got old enough to know I learned she didn't have good wisdom to share about men or things you deal with in this world. She wouldn't even talk to you hardly about personal things because she didn't have wisdom to share . My father was a good provider but gentle he was not , Very controlling!

@crystalgrose Жыл бұрын

I Thank God for putting it on your heart to speak 🗣 on this Bishop RC! It is definitely a needed discussion.

@MysticButterfly22 Жыл бұрын

This was by far one of your most impactful videos, I've seen to date. Thank You this was therapeutic and healing for me as a 35 yr old woman. Thank you Thank you R.C.🙏🏽

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@eeestabuuuni7790 Жыл бұрын

Thank you, @RCBlakes MY MOMMY CAME FROM AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP SHE ENDURED WITH MY FATHER. THERE WERE 4 CHILDREN MOM AND DAD. I APPRECIATE YOUR MESSAGE. WE LEARNED LATER IN LIFE HOW TO PROTECT OURSELVES. SOMETHING SHE ABSOLUTELY DID DO. SHE INSTILLED IN US HOW TO 'SURVIVE' WE EVOLVED EXPONENTIALLY

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@mjones342mj Жыл бұрын

Very good teaching... I use the term often that "people have just been taught wrong!"

@ritadoran5039 Жыл бұрын

I was blessed to have a loving kind hard working mom she and myself were a great team Until her death I did not have a good or present father but I'm still enjoying as always I literally listen to your content daily on my nature walks learning daily Thank you

@ygfbff198 Жыл бұрын

I’m constantly nervous about how I am raising my daughter, all I knew was I didn’t want her raised (taught) like I was… after listening to this, though I’m sure there’s more that can be discussed, you’ve solidified that I’m doing something right ❤

@tammymarbury6890 Жыл бұрын

Needed this! it feels like a lifetime effort of trying to undo the influence of what my mom left me to handle relationships.i can recall all her life she was in abusive relationships and that was passed on to me.i eventually came to realize that it wasn't the norm but by the time I realized it I had already passed the same curse down to my daughter that is now in her early 20's and doing the same thing my mom did I did and no matter what I can't get her to see I was taught wrong about life and relationships and to learn from me now not when I didn't understand or know better..but I do understand she has to uncover her eyes herself and see but dang it I sure hope she doesn't waste many years like I did walking through relationships blind..thanks To The Almighty Above and you R.C Blakes helped me to understand what abuse was because I could of went my whole life thinking it was normal because my mother endured it until her late 50's then she decided to end all relationships with men not sure if that's good or bad.but i still admire her courage to finally work on herself and not die an old woman tied to abusive men

@javelinhardy5281 Жыл бұрын

It’s not a curse love it’s learned behavior we need to stop cursing our families

@pelicandame Жыл бұрын

My mother was a doormat. My father was a horrible man, and she should never have tolerated it. She was the breadwinner, but she is very broken. Her example led to my first marriage to an abusive man. Dad was the one that wanted me to be tough, because he didn't know how to be a father to a girl. My mother was un-feminine because of her personal history, so she couldn't teach me how to be a woman. I may be broken from so many of my experiences, but I own it, and I'm doing my best to heal myself and the rest of the women in my family. I'm remarried to a much better man, but he's broken too, so we have to show lots of grace.

@fstblk5 Жыл бұрын

My mother and sister sometimes ridiculed my father behind his back and in front of me. That use to hurt me to hear her and my sister. When my mother was afforded the opportunity to travel to the Bahamas one year, Europe the next, and Africa when I was 13. I was asked to join her and my sister but I declined each time because my father being a workacholic would not go and he would have been by himself. If my mother had suffered some sort of incident where she couldn't return, I would have been just fine because I had my father. She had me the last of 6nwhen she was 41 and he was 43. He was delighted so said my brother but mom not so much. We didn't ever get along until the last years of her life but the dye had been cast and it was precarious. She died age 97 in 2014. I didn't attend her funeral. My father died in 1972 when I was 14 and my whole world changed. GOD bless them both

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@lynetteb5544 Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Bishop! This one is so good. Every mother and daughter should watch this. ❤

@tcjt.v.-theconquerorsjourn6209 Жыл бұрын

I must say THIS teaching was PHENOMENAL! Really spoke volumes of my own upbringing. Also, I LOVE AND APPRECIATE your spirit of confidence merged with humility as you present. THANK YOU, I am now subscribed!

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@Pacifica74 Жыл бұрын

I believe my mother primed me to be satisfied with receiving very little. She used me as the good example to my older brother who was spoiled. She'd say, "Look at your sister, she doesn't have and she's content." She made me feel sort of good about that.

@czhanell Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this Sir! Much needed

@kitaevans8686 Жыл бұрын

This a powerful message Bishop. I needed this God sent this word at the right time.

@blondemartin Жыл бұрын

THIS. IS. EXCELLENT. Thank you ❤

@dnorton0927 Жыл бұрын

I never comment ever !!! but this is worth millions that I’ve paid for in therapy! It finally clicked! Thank you

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@lotis672 Жыл бұрын

WOW! RC Blakes Thank u so very much for sharing this

@tieonneyvonne7420 Жыл бұрын

This was good! Thank you, Bishop Blakes!🙌🙏

@mitiaoliver9738 Жыл бұрын

Thank You Abba Father!! This is on time…thank you for your obedience. Whew! 🙏🏾

@donnajeffreys8252 Жыл бұрын

This is so true ( if it's not addressed often it's repeated ) hurting people hurt other people 🙏🏾

@beautycelestin789 Жыл бұрын

This one really hit home. Grateful for this message❤️

@ormai246 Жыл бұрын

Learning what held me back. Thank you for the favor of God. Thank you, pastor RC Blakes for sharing this goodness. Love and peace to you, your family, and the community. ❤️❤️❤️🌹🙏

@johnnyboy24 Жыл бұрын

Great video. I talk about this a lot. Very unexpected but a very much needed topic.

@sunkissedarkandainty01 Жыл бұрын

This was spot on 🎯 My egg donor (mom) deliberately taught me how to get it wrong. She was a malignant narcissist . However, I am on a quest with the help of my heavenly father to fix this traditional trauma...

@Spokentruths725 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video! I was always aware of my mothers issues and the issues it has caused us. We need more people who will speak on it because too often we look past them when they’re just as important as the issues caused by the fathers.

@Kingdomupwithmila Жыл бұрын

Gems!!!!!! Thank you for what you do💎

@zbrere2475 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this!

@irmabryant6979 Жыл бұрын

Thank you. This was enlightening 👍🏾

@tiabarring Жыл бұрын

Bishop!!!! Thank you for your Holy Boldness! Thank you for your spiritual courage!!!

@azucar.morena Жыл бұрын

This was amazing. Thank you Pastor Blakes 💜

@amme9943 Жыл бұрын

This is a very powerful message!!!

@annegreen8214 Жыл бұрын

Thank you RC Blakes. Again brilliant and very inspiring and helpful 🙏

@cathayes6862 Жыл бұрын

WOW!!! You are spot on.. especially with the reparenting.. I didn’t want to listen /watch this video for weeks… but I finally faced it..

@marshalyons8056 Жыл бұрын

Keep Preaching the word Pastor… 😢Generation of women of a repeat my God! This is awesome therapy tonight 🙏🙏🏾

@moniquezmuda3924 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this message Spiritual Dad. Love you, Amen!

@Christina-tq1qd Жыл бұрын

Such a blessing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Please more of how to heal and to empower our children as single mothers. Stay blessed 🌱 ❤️

@DioniWise87 Жыл бұрын

Bishop Blakes, there is no doubt in my mind that God ordained you to be in my life some months ago and that He knew I needed to watch this video today. I'm all the way in China studying the Word daily and repeated Proverbs 22 just hours before watching this video, in which you mention that chapter twice. I have always separated Proverbs 22: 6 and 7, saying one is for parenting and one is about money. But you paired them together and gave me an "Aha!" moment. I'm glad that you finally touched on the mother wound for daughters because you hit the nail on the head several times. When you started talking about personal finances (No. 6 48:53), I yelled out in my living room. That was my story until I reparented myself in personal finances and started sharing my story with others. I'm now coaching a young lady 10 years younger than me who inherited terrible money practices from her mom. I'm gonna share clips from this video with her, doing my Titus 2 duty. THANK YOU, Bishop Blakes, for answering the call on your life! I'm currently studying the book of Esther with my sisters in Christ and you are very much my Mordecai. Your teachings have been those I desperately need from my father. CONGRATULATIONS, FIRST LADY LISA BLAKES, on getting ordained as a minister by your husband. What an accomplishment! :) Peace and blessing to the Blakes family and my sisters growing from this channel.

@dublingirl1691 Жыл бұрын

Great message Pastor blakes! I got so much out of your message this evening. Much appreciated.

@KashG901 Жыл бұрын

Very helpful! I’m in the season with my young adults. Thank you for this healthy, and true word of God.

@nyjiaorso8603 Жыл бұрын

This subject was so enlightening on things that I have experienced myself and from those of others. I appreciate you and what you bring.

@jamiejohnson6260 Жыл бұрын

Wow!!!! Wow!!! incredibly enlightening. Thank you so much! 🙏🌈🦋

@fredericathompson808 Жыл бұрын

This is directly to me 😢God I thank you for ur teaching I'm being a better strong high worthy woman at 37 all isnt lost thank u Jesus 🙏🙏

@khadijahnyabinghi Жыл бұрын

This is an extremely relevant topic. One I can definitely relate to. Thank you so much RC Blakes for covering this sensitive and somewhat taboo topic.

@casandrahornerdbamaomnp3046 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this profound message tonight. Five out of eight ways resonated with me. I have been unpacking these areas of my childhood for some time… I recognize them and thank God for healing. I am re-parenting which is growth and life changing😊🙏🏾✝️