7 REASONS A WOMAN MUST PUT TIME LIMITS ON NEW RELATIONSHIPS by RC Blakes
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@candicee1865 2 жыл бұрын
I’m 48….Been talking to a gentleman, 58, I met at church. About a month in of getting to know him, last weekend to be exact, I told him that we were not a fit but I enjoyed the time getting to know him. I saw the signs of a controlling, manipulative, and toxic man well in advance of advancing the relationship. I would not have had the knowledge to see the red flags or the courage to easily walk away had it not been for this channel that I found about a year ago. Pastor Blakes, I thank God for you and for your teachings. Please stay close to God so that you can continue to operate in your gift.
@williaminaloftin3814 2 жыл бұрын
Candice E., what a powerful story. Your sharing this will help so many women.
@eldicarose3374 2 жыл бұрын
+)000
@hs-qk9qf 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly, that guy has been here on earth a little over half of a century...he isn't going to change.
@nonhlanhlamaribe7050 2 жыл бұрын
Amen 👏 Candice. 🎈yes Mr RC Blakes open my eyes 👀 too I'm not ready for sex(6)if he's not going to respect that he can go don't mind ,coz I'm waiting for my husband ❤️🥂I'm at your same age dear u are not alone of waiting yeah he's good for no🙉
@robincarpenter7448 2 жыл бұрын
Alright know sister
@toshikoroberts8023 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, time limits. Never Allow a man to put you on layaway, because if he’s truly interested in you for eternity, he won’t contemplate the future with you 🎯
@kaleema1987 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, layaway perfect example
@JM-yf5rt 2 жыл бұрын
Yes! A guy friend told me about the "layaway." He's taking you off the market while he is still shopping; and may decide to stop making incremental payments after you've collected lots of dust on the shelf. He changes his time and now doesn't want to purchase you.
@tracysims2703 2 жыл бұрын
Amen my sister I just learned my lesson!!
@marjoryn68 2 жыл бұрын
Wow.deep
@clare3791 2 жыл бұрын
THISS!!
@marilyndenham7039 2 жыл бұрын
KEY POINTS: 1. It needs to be an honorable relationship. 2. It needs to be mutually beneficial. 3. It must be an ordained connection. 4. There needs to be mutual fulfillment. 5. Promises are the vultures of time and life. 6. You are hidden from your potential husband if you are in a limbo relationship. 7. You're training the next generation by your poor example. 8. Your self worth is constantly shrinking. 9. You develop a psychological dependence. 10. You'll try to force a man, who is not husband material, to be a husband. 11. You allowed the wrong man to break you. 12. Time is life and life is precious!!!
@mattybaze5961 2 жыл бұрын
Very helpful!
@suzannecampbell2268 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the help. HmG. Wooòòo.this is true.
@charlettakey4734 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 😊
@musicmaker1311 2 жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@durbansaladyinaccra2173 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you sister Marilyn. God bless you and family. 🙏🕊
@KrystleLaughter 2 жыл бұрын
Your telling my whole story, except I married him. I wasted so much time, had his children, and stood beside him through hell. Whenever I needed him he was never around. I finally realized that he would never change and I was better off being a single mom. Now I write books and make KZfaq videos to help other women. Thank you for sharing this message.💕
@amiralove3539 2 жыл бұрын
What's your yt channel sis?
@rajakalu3209 2 жыл бұрын
What's your YT ?
@normamay8020 2 жыл бұрын
Well Done! By the way which uTube channel are you on.
@MA-yc7pz 2 жыл бұрын
Same as you but I didn't marry him .....I was like this is unfixable ...
@travellady2783 2 жыл бұрын
Krystle Laughter, I think that the "dead end" marriage isn't talked about enough, alot of relationship gurus only talk about the importance of not wasting your time as a single woman who is dating. I wasted my time married to the wrong man as well, so I understand your experience, the only difference is that we didn't have any children and the marriage only lasted two years.
@nompumelelonxumalo6156 2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes you need to let your heart break so your soul can heal ❤️
@YellowRoses10 2 жыл бұрын
I had to learn my self-worth and not allow a man to waste my time with nonsense🙂
@Amorantasia1 2 жыл бұрын
Prime example of this is Nelly & Miss Jackson. Nearly 10 years wasted, no marriage no alimony or anything! Men will waste our time easily!
@ms.a806 2 жыл бұрын
Yes and the women on that show that comes on OWN “Put a ring on it”
@pooh4025 2 жыл бұрын
@@ms.a806 Hollywood & Ashley
@ms.a806 2 жыл бұрын
@@pooh4025 there’s a new season and one of the women has been a girlfriend for 14 years smh
@pooh4025 2 жыл бұрын
@@ms.a806 ohh yeah Alexia (think that's her name) plus she should have been gone after he had 3 kids on her.
@bervin7749 2 жыл бұрын
People can only accept or waste whatever they are given. She gave her time away.
@jagthediva5485 2 жыл бұрын
At my age, a man who enters my life has 1yr to date me. Then, he must make the decision to either propose marriage or get to stepping. Periodt
@roses4me451 2 жыл бұрын
Amen! Ladies, get this in your head: "You're not in a hurry, but you don't have time to waste either!" Find out his intentions UP FRONT. Nine times out of 10 he's looking for a "hookup" and will tell you anything you want to hear. Steve Harvey said: "Ladies, a man knows within FOUR MONTHS if he wants you or not". Ladies, if you do not have a ring within 6 months of dating, and a wedding date set....MOVE ON!!! YOU are the PRIZE, and YOU are in control of the relationship. Always run a BACKGROUND CHECK on them to find out who they really are, and see all the LIES they've told you. (Never let him know. Just move on) This way, you don't allow him to waste your time! Keep your eyes and ears OPEN, and your mouth and legs CLOSED!!!!
@jackrabbit0 2 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@jackrabbit0 2 жыл бұрын
@@roses4me451 I completely agree to this
@marifestation4603 2 жыл бұрын
❤💪
@________1516 2 жыл бұрын
@@roses4me451 YES!!! 💯💯💯💯
@amieklein6043 2 жыл бұрын
You could really miss out on your husband by playing wife to a boyfriend. And that part about not being able to recognize the right one because you’ve been damaged by the wrong one. Wow your words went deep tonight and I have a lot to reflect on. Thank you for your voice. God bless you and your beautiful wife and family.
@musicmaker1311 2 жыл бұрын
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾😩
@johannaalexander2009 2 жыл бұрын
Re: Powerful🌟 I agree ☝️ Why buy the cow when the milk is free! I will not cook/clean for a man that’s not my husband. No invites to dinner because when I last looked that’s what men are supposed to do when dating a woman. Suggestions for outdoor pursuits are welcome ie playing badminton or tennis for fun 🎾 I’d pay for myself if that’s a problem 😏(which would be quietly noted) I would be able to see if he’s competitive or a sore loser! You see there is so much activities ppl can do to learn about a person’s personality & if ppl shoot ideas 💡 down by making excuses to not engage with your positive suggestions, that’s another reason why to not consider them & date multiple people without giving them your prime possession…Your Body! Im happy to tell ppl what I like about them followed by the word…however it’s such a shame…blah blah 😒 using collated proof. If they want you they’ll keep chasing the 🥕 & they’ll be intrigued how sweet that 🥕 actually is…abstinence is the key 🔑 A sexy kiss 💋 on the doorstep But That’s It…& not in my home nor in theirs on the sofa! Temptation is killer & the Devil knows your weaknesses…So BEWARE! God has an awesome plan for us…But remember The Devil 👿 is competing with The Lord & I know Who I’m Rooting For! Praise God!! Thank you JESUS!
@amiralove3539 2 жыл бұрын
Or playing wife to a situationship 🤭 can really block ya blessings
@amieklein6043 2 жыл бұрын
@@amiralove3539 that part!
@nikkyshamz2696 2 жыл бұрын
Facts on facts
@MJ13ish 2 жыл бұрын
A man that wants you will pursue you.
@danilaroche1156 Жыл бұрын
They will pursue but often it's sport. If he truly wants you, he'll propose.
@Realtalknewyorkwithjanique 2 жыл бұрын
If we don’t love ourselves enough to walk away this is what happens!
@rashawntaylor4316 2 жыл бұрын
Goodafternon real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with n what ‘s your future goals ! A real good man will we’ve you roses , make should you have gas in your car , put god in his life n make you first properity , work too bones too make should everything at home is straight !
@lifewithjgee 2 жыл бұрын
"As long as you leave yourself strung out on the promises of a man that cannot, will not, or won't commit you are off the market! As long as you stick with that you are off the market. You are off the market with no covenant, no commitment, no marriage or no honor. You are hidden from your potential husband. A husband is not looking for his wife in another man's bed." Wow wow wow what a word. Thank you!
@pattilightmayo 2 жыл бұрын
I had to rewind that part a few times. 😫😫😫😫💯
@tabathagreen1313 2 жыл бұрын
This a powerful word, Glory to God
@pamelaflanagan9119 Жыл бұрын
Amen
@tamikajackson2732 Жыл бұрын
It is so true
@ScorpioBeauty 2 жыл бұрын
When he said “A man will stretch a woman’s life out for decades with promises and never follow through” whew
@WhineyOne 2 жыл бұрын
I was with someone on and off for 7 years. Had he not forced my hand or let me go, I would still be hoping and wishing and pushing for a relationship that wasn't going anywhere. I was forced to dig deep and find myself. Did alot of meditation and praying and met my husband and within a year we were married. I'm grateful the ex forced my hand. I'm exactly where I was meant to be. I've been married 20 years.
@888hereandnow Жыл бұрын
What does forced my hand mean?
@LadyBugShaun Ай бұрын
It's a term which means one person put the other person in a position where they had ti do something they didn't want to do. So she's saying she wasn't going to move on willingly; had he not "forced her hand" she'd still be in a the relationship.
@WhineyOne Ай бұрын
@@LadyBugShaun exactly.
@victoriamomentz8848 2 жыл бұрын
Wow 💎“ A masculine man claims his territory “
@ronicaowens7186 2 жыл бұрын
“A man is not looking for a woman in another’s mans bed” 🤯🤯🤯
@delg6104 2 жыл бұрын
" A man will stretch your life out for decades for absolutely nothing!" Woooooow!!! This is so sad but true.
@mogetit5999 2 жыл бұрын
It doesn’t take much time to see a man for who he is. Within 60 days you can determine if he’s a man of his word, has a relationship with god, loyal etc. let’s stop trying to change a man and accept who he is or move on…. Quickly
@nataliegilbert7412 2 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@normamay8020 2 жыл бұрын
Amen And Amen .🙏🏾
@sharonebrown9952 2 жыл бұрын
@@normamay8020 EXACTLY
@nikkired4925 2 жыл бұрын
FACTS!
@MA-yc7pz 2 жыл бұрын
It took me 6 months but my relationship lasted 3 years I gave too many chances
@msmocha68 2 жыл бұрын
At ,53 recently divorced after 30 years. I'm here to tell you men still play games at this age. I was in a soul tie for two years, finally told myself I'm worth more. I backed off dating and told God what I wanted and he supplied me with a man that is everything. God first and all things after
@DELANODOMINICANO 2 жыл бұрын
"Demonic people will hook you; you won't know your left from right." 😆 no lies told pastor.. 👏🏽🙏🏽
@lorrie_Israel 2 жыл бұрын
That's so true! I'm able to see them clearly now and say No. I'll pass! 🙏
@Dechae13 2 жыл бұрын
Invested 8 years and finally said "I'm Done".
@faithsiva6548 2 жыл бұрын
I thought I was alone 😂
@Sassy233 2 жыл бұрын
Same sis🙌🏾🧡
@KN-rw6nr 2 жыл бұрын
Girl same..8 exact years and cut my losses..happier
@deena3003 2 жыл бұрын
My brother been tieing up a woman life for 28 years. He lives in the woman house, still live like a single person in some regards, not considering marriage, and have 2 grown-up children with the woman. Everyone in the family told the woman my brother was not marrying her ever. The woman said she don't care about getting married at this point cause she been with him for 28years. It's sad she doesn't value herself and given him most of her entire life with no real commitment.
@cheshahale 2 жыл бұрын
When someone dislikes these messages, either they are hating or don't like to hear the truth and stuck in their ways and don't want to be HEALED!
@vivianajaime2011 Жыл бұрын
This man is ridiculously WISE!! Thank you so much for teaching this 47 year old single mom of what I have been doing wrong for the last decade! Better late than ever.. I have so much hope! Thank you Jesus for RC Blake’s
@joysoyo2416 2 жыл бұрын
TRUTH. 6 months if they don't propose, gone.
@veronicathomas4607 2 жыл бұрын
6 mos and u wanted w get married, chile please
@spiritandtruth194 2 жыл бұрын
I'm with...if he don't recognize my worth in that time. I'm OUT! Not gone waste my time.
@RealLadi228 2 жыл бұрын
@@veronicathomas4607 How long should a person wait? 12 months? 24 months?
@RealLadi228 2 жыл бұрын
Planning could be 6 more months or longer...actual planning, reservations paid? Time to gain more clarity...look deep before you leap!
@spiritandtruth194 2 жыл бұрын
He should at least have made his intentions clear by the 6 month mark.
@carolynjaynes36 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve always felt happier and more empowered about the men I didn’t sleep with, than the men I did. Good lessons. Now it’s celibacy until marriage. 👍
@lorrie_Israel 2 жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏
@mikafishet8043 2 жыл бұрын
Ame
@tinyikopertuniamacebele5958 2 жыл бұрын
That is great dear.
@Carlaaa.e_ Жыл бұрын
Yes!
@glamourgalsandy7264 Жыл бұрын
Same here!
@DiveinwithDivineDiamondyoutube 2 жыл бұрын
Was stuck in a 5 year stronghold soul tied with mr wrong ….. but hey I’ve learned my lesson prayed and prayed for about a week and God released me from it . I am now choosing to follow my heart and be abstinent and wait on God to bring my husband my soulmate !!! Your videos helped me make that decision officially. ( edit) been a year since I’ve slept with him . After the prayers . But just recently decided to be abstinent over all
@mercedesreyes3162 2 жыл бұрын
I also put a 5 year mark to marry me and he discarded me just before the mark. But it’s been 2 months still going thru it but I have a lot more peace. He was a narcissist and I went thru hell. But now it’s my time to heal. Getting there with Gods help and family.
@brujalinda 2 жыл бұрын
Girl 1 week is nothing wait until u go through withdrawals @Booked Busy & Blessed
@nataliegilbert7412 2 жыл бұрын
5 years is too much of my time to be wasted. But, I am proud of you for your decision to do it God's way. I decided not to count the time, when I rededicated myself to abstinance, a few years ago. It's very empowering and helps me to stay focused and to weed out the "bad apples." Concerning, the withdrawals, I finally prayed and asked God to make it bearable ("turn off the faucet") until I marry, and he did.
@daughteroftheking721 2 жыл бұрын
✨❤️✨❗️
@johannaalexander2009 2 жыл бұрын
I’m exactly at that place myself.with regards to abstinence & waiting for my Father God, to make the selection for me. I will not allow my integrity to be compromised anymore. I’ve been a good supporting loving partner in the past, I’m waiting for the man from God my father, who recognises & above all appreciates what a Nubian Queen looks & feels like & will understand Trying Before Buying…doesn’t apply here…as there are many places to go, for that type of arrangement & that place isn’t here! RC Blakes is awesome 👏🏽 & has been so helpful in his guidance over the years & has strengthened me by confirming what I have known to be true…& taking me to the next level to Victory ✌️ Thank You 🙏 Jesus!!
@ninared6816 2 жыл бұрын
Pastor Blakes has changed my life as a woman. I was in a dark place. Listening to Pastor Blakes changed my understanding of how precious I am to God and should not allow myself to be used, misused or manipulated by men. Thank you Lord and Pastor Blakes. Wish I had known it years ago. I know now and act accordingly.
@pitbullbuck6762 Ай бұрын
Ladies, I need advice, and I would like to have your comments responded to my comment. However, first thing first, I love everything the pastor said. As a man, I respect what he said in Proverbs 12:15, which says, "The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise." so in my situation where my four-year-old girlfriend ended our relationship with me because I felt it was imperative to have premarital counseling as I thought there were some things needed in our relationship that I felt in past incidents that it needed to be addressed. Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt Love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy command. This is the first and greatest commandment. I felt at times that there was no representation of our Lord Jesus Christ in the relationship. I count myself in this, too, with my behavior as some arguments were thrown with profane and vulgar language toward each other, and I felt something like this needed to be addressed. Proverbs 15:1 says a soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." so in past times, our words caused a negative mark in her spirit and also mine with her words with both of our mean words, although I love her. I just felt therapy and premarital counseling were needed, but it was rejected, so what other choice did I have because this was something important to me? Revelations 21:4 says God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. Our words toward each other caused hurt, pain, tears, sadness, and grief, so as much as I would love to marry my than woman, for some reason, she is not open to self-evaluation through a premarital pastor. So, ladies on here, what choice did I have? I can't marry someone whom we both used hurt toward each other, and although great times and unforgettable memories will always be in my heart, I can't marry someone where the individual chooses not to address some of the issues we had in the past. So when I was given an ultimatum, all I could remember was when the bible said in. 1 Corinthians 13:7-8, "Love never gives up, trusts God always, keeps going to the end. Love never fails." So, if you let me go because I won't get married simply because I want a pastor to pray over us by providing us with pastoral sessions, then ladies on here, what advice can you give me? Am I in the wrong?
@Wall0fCatz 2 жыл бұрын
My time limit was 3 years but that’s too much to invest. Now it’s 2. I realized that 6 months to a year is not enough time to get enough data. I always saw the real man at a years time. Mask falls off within 6 months to a year if he’s not that serious. Dating is not easy these days, too many men that want all the benefits with no real investment. So for me dating is going to be different. It’s going to be about gathering data to determine is he worth my time. No lingering waiting on empty promises. Thank you RC. I need you videos because no was not taught this knowledge.
@yes_i_said_it_ 2 жыл бұрын
WHy is the limit 2 years when you said within 6 months to 1 year is when the mask falls off. So it seems by what you said 1 year is the limit.
@vhayashi7369 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly!!! Is he worth our time? I am not dating anymore. Waiting for God to show me the right one. Or I'll be ok staying single.
@ladybluemoon1 2 жыл бұрын
Same I like 1 year friendship solids by then I know if I want to go into second year of pursuit
@Wall0fCatz 2 жыл бұрын
@@yes_i_said_it_ 😂😂😂🤣 One year is typically when the mask falls off when it’s the wrong person yes. That doesn’t mean you still don’t need time for other potentials🙄 If things go smoothly 2 years. I hope that was simple enough for you😂
@MsChantae 2 жыл бұрын
@@johannaalexander2009 I guess you have it all figured out....How's that going for ya?
@dikenamiddleton2821 2 жыл бұрын
Excited about this one!! So glad I came across this man of God! It’s like the father I never had 🙏🏾
@missjackson132 2 жыл бұрын
Totally Agree
@michellejohn7470 2 жыл бұрын
Yes God's sent. Divine wisdom from the upper realm. Blessings to his Family and Ministry.
@racineburke2561 2 жыл бұрын
Righttttttt the struggle has been real out here without him.
@jacquelinestewart2584 2 жыл бұрын
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@reebee9336 2 жыл бұрын
💯
@LS-el6cq 2 жыл бұрын
This was EXACTLY what I needed. I'm just ending a 4 yr relationship because we're not going anywhere. I became obsessed with proving myself right!!
@TipswithAmy 2 жыл бұрын
Same here we were together for 4 years and 5 months and I was so patient waiting for things to get better but it was going nowhere, he is not ready to man up he still wants to live a baby boy life . We have a son together but I didn't let that stop me I ended the relationship.
@AsaAsherSmith Жыл бұрын
This is me. I recently ended my relationship because it wasn’t going anywhere. Spent almost 5 years with this person and nothing smh
@Plw1980 8 ай бұрын
Me too I checked out of the relationship 4 days before our 4 yr anniversary after a huge argument we had. He said some pretty hurtful things like he always does when we argue but this time I was done. And moved out exactly a month later. He was a covert narcissist. I ignored the signs the verbal abuse mental manipulation for years. I gave him a deadline for marriage and realized he would literate wait until the day of if he ever proposed. After I shut down on him he start picking up the pace. It was too late. Today I am much stronger and 21 days no contact. I’m in counseling and listening to KZfaqs like this to continue to build myself back up. Thanks for y’all testimony. It’s sad to hear but glad I’m not alone. 🙏🏽 for all you ladies
@DiveinwithDivineDiamondyoutube 2 жыл бұрын
When my soulmate finds me in Gods Divine timing I pray that you can officiate the wedding bishop Blake’s 😇🕊❣️
@leonthelionkelvin626 2 жыл бұрын
What if he's your soulmate, but don't fit your usual type?
@brujalinda 2 жыл бұрын
@@leonthelionkelvin626 I guess she’ll never know 😂
@nataliegilbert7412 2 жыл бұрын
As for me, I have standards, but not a "type." God knows who's best for me; and I screen them for the fine details, the deal breakers.
@DiveinwithDivineDiamondyoutube 2 жыл бұрын
@@brujalinda huh ??? You answered for me ?
@DiveinwithDivineDiamondyoutube 2 жыл бұрын
@@nataliegilbert7412 I agree with that
@user-ph9vo9hi3e 2 жыл бұрын
I blocked his number after watching this video, I was going to give another weekend…waiting for his phone calls, I am finding myself getting weaker and weaker, holding on to something that only makes me feel worse and worse about myself…I know there is a time limit, a time limit that I will have enough, this has been going on and on and on, thanks for your video, I felt a little bit stronger after listening to your video, I will keep watching your videos and find more truth and gain more strength from it. I trust I will get better and better, I have more than enough good things in my life, this is the only thing that makes me unhappy, not having a fulfilled relationship, I need to be happy within myself, get my feet on, build up strong body and strong soul, I will get there, thank you!
@mikafishet8043 2 жыл бұрын
You will get there
@godsnotdonewithyouyet6955 2 жыл бұрын
It's easy to get wrapped up into a situationships because your afraid to ask what are we? Are we getting married 🧎? Or to say I don't like this 🤷... Most don't want to lose them ,but guess what you have already lost🤷 because you can't get time back and before you know it they will leave you for someone else and say to you "WELL YOU NEVER ASKED AND I TOLD YOU I DIDN'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP!!🙄🤦🤦 Just had this conversation today and needles to say I gotta do me a year is more than enough time time to know what you want and if this ain't it I gotta go 😎🚶live your self more ladies and speak affirmations to your self daily .... people will only treat you the way you let them 🙏❤️
@dianadanielle81 2 жыл бұрын
Time is so valuable. You can never get it back, you can't rewind it, pause it, replay it, or fast forward it. Thank you for this video. ❤️
@secreteobsession3584 2 жыл бұрын
14 years I did the same
@Lakieta2 2 жыл бұрын
This is going to be a good one! I always tell my girlfriends, it does not take a man five years or more to figure out whether you are Mrs. right! Give him 2 years!
@mercedesreyes3162 2 жыл бұрын
He gave me a promise ring and talked about marriage but it was all lies. I’m only going to wait 1 year from now on. I’m not getting any younger.
@CaramelD1 2 жыл бұрын
Actually, most men know right away if you’re wifey.
@nataliegilbert7412 2 жыл бұрын
True,@@CaramelD1!
@gelisaoliver14 2 жыл бұрын
2 years is still to long. You could imagine wasting 2 years on each man? That adds up. As for me 3-6 months is the longest I'll be going. Men know from jump if your a toy or his wife.
@dontme4132 2 жыл бұрын
2 years is too long. Especially when you’re older than your 20’s.
@mercedesreyes3162 2 жыл бұрын
I’m 56 but I’ve only had 2 relationships. 1 for 33 years and we got divorced. Then this 5 years nightmare of a relationship. Now I have to be wiser and pray for God to send me a Godly man.
@thenutrientwhisperer3700 2 жыл бұрын
Watch out for rebounds. 🍀💕👍🏽
@danilaroche1156 2 жыл бұрын
Take a brief 'sabbatical' from men and let the Lord be your ALL. You need to heal and learn more about who you are in Christ and who Christ is. More time in the word and I suggest, serve others.
@angelafayesims1563 2 жыл бұрын
Amen Sis!!! I'm 53, divorced 12yrs, & am learning to ask God to choose me to be a wife; cause it's not up to me!! Abstinent now 7mths...& content!!💃💃👑👑🙌🙌💪💪🔥🔥😍😍🙏🙏
@Jane5720 2 жыл бұрын
Let’s be clear you do not need to have a man, if you’re just being in a relationship to be in a relationship it’s not gonna work well
@danilaroche1156 2 жыл бұрын
@@Jane5720 Right you are Jane! I took a lengthy sabbatical from relationships/ men and it was the best decision ever. I learned to love me and I got closer to God. Found my assignment/ calling too!
@34Nails 2 жыл бұрын
I'm not wasting anymore time in any more relationships I'm pretty sure RC blakes struck a lot of nerves with this one because it's nothing but the truth and a lot of men don't like this type of talk because it's playing their hand💯.
@MysticButterfly22 2 жыл бұрын
This message is the comfort, I wish my younger self would have known present day. Wasted years on a toxic relationship going no where fast! Thank You, for your words bishop.
@hs-qk9qf 2 жыл бұрын
😩me too.
@jibbyrose6229 2 жыл бұрын
Same. I wasted 10 years, no marriage, no children. My family was hard on me but I didn't listen at the beginning and through out, now I've learned my lesson
@Chutney1luv 2 жыл бұрын
I agree! It's never to late to learn a good lesson!
@Chigirl2 2 жыл бұрын
My husband is Jesus, He will never let me down ❤️
@antoinetteb.3869 2 жыл бұрын
This also applies to other relationships such as platonic friendships both males and females, neighbors, co-workers, church members, family members, etc. I have followed the advice you set out here with respect to romantic relationships with men, but I am finally observing that I have invested too much of my time, commitment, money, support, dedication on friendships that were one-sided and exploitative and the same goes for relationships with family members, neighbors. co-workers, church members, etc. I have decided to apply the same rules you talk about in this video to those relationships too! Frankly I am exhausted from dealing with users and takers in all areas of my life. Thank you Bishop RC Blakes for your amazing videos.
@sonyaakins7346 2 жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes I totally agree!!!
@angelafayesims1563 2 жыл бұрын
Sista, you broke that "ALL THA WAY DOWN"!!🙌🙌🤣🤣💃💃👑👑💪💪🙏🙏👋👋!!! INVENTORYING ALL THE PEOPLE AROUND MY LIFE, WHO TAKE & ARE NOT INVESTORS!! HALLELUJAH!!🙌🙌💃💃😍😍👑👑🙏🙏 GOD BLESS YOU GIRLLY!!🤣💪💃👑😍🙏
@gwenlee9562 2 жыл бұрын
I attended a chapel funeral of my best friends ex, which she has a 42 year old son with. Near the rear of the chapel a woman was crying profusely. I wondered who is the woman, she's obviously not a close family member. After the service I mentioned the woman to my friend. She responded " that's the woman he lived with for 35 years. After he died, the family took over, she did not have any input in the service, wasn't allowed to ride in the family limousine, not allowed to sit up front with the family. No retirement benefits, no social security benefits, no military benefits. Nothing but tears.
@Melly16yr10 2 жыл бұрын
SHIT 😡
@Bowleggsful 2 жыл бұрын
All he left her was alone with tears. Sad.
@jillberry2066 2 жыл бұрын
What a hateful family! And if that is the kind of family he came from I would not have want to marry in that family! My uncle had a lady he lived with for 25 years named Dorthy and when he passed away my mom was the beneficary on his life insurance and she just gave it too her! We allowed her to make the arrangements, she was a lovely woman and kind but my uncle was not so much so. Humans can be so hateful! But I am with you, I am not allowing man to enter my body who is not my husband!
@kryskrys17 2 жыл бұрын
Wow this spoke to me… wasted time… no commitment and in the end nothing but tears. Have mercy….
@ataa69120 2 жыл бұрын
Jesus this is terribly sad, 35 years just to be regarded as the woman he lived with My mama always said a man will waste your time if you allow him to Marriage is not just a title , its security, and protection
@ChaseTheLadiesMan 2 жыл бұрын
Yes sir! I've met women who aren't a wife in character and who aren't a good example for the next generation but want to get married. Thank you sir. I'm going to take my time and do it right because he who finds a wife finds a good thing.
@ladyzinada5341 2 жыл бұрын
Amen
@juneldanavarro114 2 жыл бұрын
It's true .. the Lord will give us the desires of our hearts
@lorrie_Israel 2 жыл бұрын
APTTMH 💜
@yallen2010 2 жыл бұрын
"Proverbs 20:6 many a man proclaims his own loyalty and goodness but who can find a man, but who can find a faithful and trustworthy man." He said a word there
@evelynchin5330 2 жыл бұрын
A husband is not looking for his wife in another Man's bed.💣
@Pacifica74 2 жыл бұрын
I am so grateful for RC Blakes' ministry, but at the same time I'm angry. I really should have gotten this wisdom from my very own mother & father. Now I'm 47 and trying to learn by looking here, and it hurts.
@danilaroche1156 Жыл бұрын
Your parents weren't equipped so forgive them. Few people understand the dynamics of a relationship.
@taniapylypiv3323 Жыл бұрын
❤
@zahraelizabethsalama70 Жыл бұрын
Trust God's timing
@pamaskew147 2 жыл бұрын
This is going to be good I know. I wish someone had told me these things a long time ago. Single people need to watch your videos, especially the ones on a man's energy.
@liahknowsbest5092 2 жыл бұрын
💡I sent this to women that I love and I know deserve more. We get so caught up with dishonor cause it's been made to look normal. When it's NOT! Leaving strong & loyal women hurt, broken not realizing their true worth. Let's Heal correctly women of God. The goal is marriage before none other than GOD🙏🏽💪🏽👏🏾💯
@pitbullbuck6762 Ай бұрын
Ladies, I need advice, and I would like to have your comments responded to my comment. However, first thing first, I love everything the pastor said. As a man, I respect what he said in Proverbs 12:15, which says, "The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkened unto counsel is wise." so in my situation where my four-year-old girlfriend ended our relationship with me because I felt it was imperative to have premarital counseling as I thought there were some things needed in our relationship that I felt in past incidents that it needed to be addressed. Jesus said unto him, thou shalt Love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy command. This is the first and greatest commandment. I felt at times that there was no representation of our Lord Jesus Christ in the relationship. I count myself in this, too, with my behavior as some arguments were thrown with profane and vulgar language toward each other, and I felt something like this needed to be addressed. Proverbs 15:1 says a soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." so in past times, our words caused a negative mark in her spirit and also mine with her words with both of our mean words, although I love her. I just felt therapy and premarital counseling were needed, but it was rejected, so what other choice did I have because this was something important to me? Revelations 21:4 says God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. Our words toward each other caused hurt, pain, tears, sadness, and grief, so as much as I would love to marry my than woman, for some reason, she is not open to self-evaluation through a premarital pastor. So, ladies on here, what choice did I have? I can't marry someone whom we both used hurt toward each other, and although great times and unforgettable memories will always be in my heart, I can't marry someone where the individual chooses not to address some of the issues we had in the past. So, when I was given an ultimatum, all I could remember was when the bible said in. 1 Corinthians 13:7-8, "Love never gives up, trusts God always, keeps going to the end. Love never fails." So, if you let me go because I won't get married simply because I want a pastor to pray over us by providing us with pastoral sessions, then ladies on here, what advice can you give me? Am I in the wrong?
@bellydanza85 2 жыл бұрын
It’s critical to tell the man what you want at the beginning and make sure you’re on the same page (as you said.) I am guilty of not doing that.
@snsnj7180 2 жыл бұрын
Most of us wish we knew sooner... sometimes it just hurts to listen to this, cause many years have been wasted. Those we never get back. Especially women who have waited and waited, no kids, no husband and over thirty.
@Tkconnie 2 жыл бұрын
I know it can be hard to hear. When you're enlightened and inclined to hear, don't waist another second in regretting what you didn't know, love! Absorb the knowledge and apply the wisdom, now!! God is always perfect in all His ways and our best life is in His plans not ours!
@ekindejoycenzelle1659 2 жыл бұрын
God says in Joel 2:25. So l will restore to you the years the swarming locust has eaten, the crawling locusts, the consuming locust and the chewing locust. Know a thousands days to man is a day unto the Lord, just change from the wrong ways and pursue the right, He is the God who can rewind time to fixed it for His glory. Thanks RC Blakes,Jr for the enlightenment and eye opening.
@ariesqueenofswords7935 2 жыл бұрын
I am not a Christian. But your teachings about relationship 🙏. Lifesaver. Thank you so much for the effort you put into making these video for us women to open our eyes to reality. Bless you!
@katrinarodriguez1975 2 жыл бұрын
7 years , he promised me that when we reached 5 years we would marry- 2 years later no marriage. This one is sooo good! Thank you 🙏🏾
@johannaalexander2009 2 жыл бұрын
If you’re planning to stay, hold back on the sexual side of your relationship…take power in rejecting him in an “ever so nice way”. Look you very best when he visits you, enjoy the attention thank him for the compliments, but SAY NO! Have him scratching his head & asking what’s going on! Talk about the sex…tell him the sex has been great & talk about various incidents highlighting that…ask him if he enjoyed it & how. Then he may say, well what’s wrong & you’ll say I want a Husband now & getting my body ready for him…. He can interpret that in any way he likes 👍🏾 If he’s the one ☝️ he will step up ⬆️ but make it clear he’s had total exclusivity for the past 7 years & you’re pursuing other possibilities without sexual activity.
@hs-qk9qf 2 жыл бұрын
@@johannaalexander2009 Naw, if she has to do all of that for which you suggested...then he would just marry her to keep his 'security blanket" and not because he really wants to be married to her. It would be a move to pacify her.
@MA-yc7pz 2 жыл бұрын
Same but I only lasted 3 years cuz I had enough
@makeitcount2985 2 жыл бұрын
You should have left him
@danilaroche1156 2 жыл бұрын
Don't make this mistake again. You are a beloved daughter of God. Pray and ask The Lord why you allowed this for so long..Love yourself sis!
@trainkeenpilates5227 2 жыл бұрын
“Now you’re looking at the right man with the kind of eyes you should have been looking at the wrong man with in the beginning” 💯 I have had to learn to be discerning, wise, intentional, observant and to stand up for my values and to not be afraid to stand up and say NO to the wrong men. You have helped me so much. Thank you! God is so good and He will restore the years that the locus have eaten. Amen❤️
@anyanwuakua7 2 жыл бұрын
Aman Aman and Aman again. Peace and Blessings
@normamay8020 2 жыл бұрын
Amen !
@courtneycrawford965 2 жыл бұрын
Lord help me TO WALK AWAY FROM THE TOXIC SOUL TIE🔥🔥🔥🙏🏾🙏🏾♥️♥️♥️✍🏾✍🏾just turned 40 i know God has better for me🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💯
@roses4me451 2 жыл бұрын
I was told this years ago: "To truly break off a relationship, "soul-tie" etc. with a man is to STOP sleeping with him!" It won't be easy, but it works EVERY time.
@deliteful1991 2 жыл бұрын
Time is LIFE and LIFE is precious! 🎯
@anabautista8071 2 жыл бұрын
If you're gonna spend time to a person: 1. It needs to be an honourable relationship; 2. There has to be mutual benefit; 3. It ought to be an ordained connection; 4. There's mutual fulfillment.
@orangeblossoms88 2 жыл бұрын
I lived this, and the pain lingers with you long after you end it... the pain of the situationship has to eventually overcome any amount of 'pleasure' you extract from the mans inconsistent attentions, and its a low, low place to be. Luckily I was 21-23 during that time... but yall I'm 25 now and when I say I'm still healing, phew, not because of him or anything... but because ive had to address what was so broken inside of me to even allow it to happen. Its been a journey to recover to learn how to conduct myself in a way that commands respect and self worth. I'm watching this now, because I don't want to ever make that mistake again.
@nancyamaral5620 2 жыл бұрын
You would also make a great secular counselor. I have never understood the Bible until discovering your channel you have made the Bible lessons relevant regardless of religion
@Iamsimplyfree 2 жыл бұрын
Bishop's theme music is everything. You hear and know a king is coming to speak.
@robetterodgers4584 2 жыл бұрын
Yes sis I concur!!! Bishop know that he is getting the mana from the King of Kings.. Praise God😊😊
@paulesaturday9490 2 жыл бұрын
"Your time is the greatest investment you can make."
@Jerseygirl777 2 жыл бұрын
A promise is a comfort to a fool.
@sophiasophia7790 2 жыл бұрын
"Your time is the greatest in investment you can make" Pastor R.C Blake's. Preaching to my soul...thank you, thank you. God bless you and Lisa, your family, and friends.
@kaleema1987 2 жыл бұрын
I'm off the market because I'm raising my children 💅 I got no time for a man right now. Praise God😁🙏
@Wrightn221 2 жыл бұрын
My motto: Milk, eggs, and cheese have an expiration date! Know your self worth. If you know you're marriage material, don't allow anybody to waste your time!!! Within a year, they should know. If you have save yourself for marriage, your mind/heart will not be cloudy. Say to them, 'This isn't working for me" and walk away with a clean slate. And another thing, if you can't see someone in your future, stop dating them!!!!
@simmer8161 2 жыл бұрын
U mustve been watching Put a Ring on It-cause this is EXACTLY what I was tryna say!Those men got all husband goodies while the women begged for marriage.
@ireneshelton7928 2 жыл бұрын
I have a 28 year old granddaughter that I have raised unfortunately she's grown up in the house with Grammy but no male image so I've been having her listen to you that she doesn't make foolish mistakes with her time energies talents abilities and life in general you have been inspiring to me as well and I will continue to intercede for you that God will continue to use you with women who do not have that father image God bless you
@michellecrowell8713 2 жыл бұрын
My life will never be the same after hearing this! Thank you.
@maryannrussell7263 2 жыл бұрын
Two to three months should be advance knowledge to where this thing is going...is he a leader or draining you for everything you got! Plz run fast...and pray 🙏🙏🙏you make it out in Jesus name...
@shekinahfire5936 2 жыл бұрын
💯🤞
@adaora1357 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. I see women on here saying it takes 6 months to a year to see a man's true colors. I think it's too damn long. Some are great actors, sure, but the mask slips off from time to time. "Minor" red flags pop up early, but women usually think they're insignificant or just intentionally ignore them.
@yow2363 2 жыл бұрын
You are 100% right. I let a guy go within 45 days. All the red flags were waving, and the last straw was he tried to give me "crumbs, but gave the whole loaf to his children". I told him he needs to be able balance when dating, because I will not be SECOND to NO ONE!
@roses4me451 2 жыл бұрын
"Ladies, a man knows if he wants you within 4 months. If you give him your phone number and he doesn't call you within 24 hours, he's NOT interested in you. Men go HARD for what they want. If he's not chasing you, you're not what he wants. Men are "hunters". (Steve Harvey)
@Sarablueunicorn 2 жыл бұрын
@@roses4me451 We had to learn that from self experience and watching others. Many of us are broken and had no guidance, we are told to ignore our instincts in order to look "rational". Mothers play a big role in this, they suffered so they want her daughters to suffer even more while marrying their male sons.
@sharonlee7111 2 жыл бұрын
Nobody knows how valuable time is until it's gone. And nobody knows how much we really have. Not only in relationships but everything we do in a daily basis. The only return on your time is with the one true God! Eternity is a very long time🙏 God bless everyone!
@pistolannie0714 Жыл бұрын
Every word of this is 100% true I broke off a long-term relationship with a man six months ago because I just couldn’t take it anymore I wasn’t going to waste another minute of my life over nothing I would rather be alone
@angelicabarragan7289 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve never felt the need to create a KZfaq account. I’ve never subscribed to anything before. Seemed pointless till I came across your videos. I have gained so much knowledge and wisdom. Your words align with Gods truth. You are transparent and tell it how it is. Thank you Jesus for this man. I’m sorry it took your beautiful wife leaving you back in the day for God to open your eyes but clearly He makes all things work together. Thank you for your time. May God bless you and your family.
@African.Diaspora.InLondonUK 2 жыл бұрын
From London Brixton UK. Women, black sisters. You set the standard, of how someone will treat you. Stop accepting crumbs. Just to have a man in your life. I am Lucky to know this, from my Dad.
@theresabradford2887 Жыл бұрын
So what shut up!!!
@LUVTHYSELFQUEENNATALIE2024 Жыл бұрын
I stopped this video several times and cried 😞😞. It definitely hit home because I'm a 55 year old woman and I've been in a relationship like this now for almost it will be 2years in November.
@taniapylypiv3323 Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤
@gwendolynhall2321 2 жыл бұрын
Someone once told me to never get yourself entangled with anything or anyone that you can't shake loose!
@therelationshipzonet.r.z.2258 2 жыл бұрын
Yes... let's talk about this because some of these jokers out here acting like I have time to waste on pointless dating/hook-ups. I don't. And when I've tried to do this it has left me frustrated due to compromising my very existence. I'm ready for this Sir🙌🏽
@nataliegilbert7412 2 жыл бұрын
I'm feeling you, sis. I'm not compromising with them either. They want the choice price, without putting in the relationship work. It's not happening with me.
@therelationshipzonet.r.z.2258 2 жыл бұрын
@@nataliegilbert7412 for real, for real!
@roses4me451 2 жыл бұрын
Been there, done that! Ladies, two things you cannot afford to lose: "Time & money." DO NOT allow these dusties to waste your time by running a background check on him FIRST! This way you'll KNOW who he is, not who he's "pretending" to be. DO NOT: have sex with him, let him move in, borrow your car, lend him money, "help him start a business", etc. A player & a con won't stay around long. "Hit & Run" is their game. Don't believe a word he says, watch his ACTIONS. Work on YOU and become independent. You don't "need" a man for anything once you have your own money, home, car, career, credit, investments, etc.
@durbansaladyinaccra2173 2 жыл бұрын
If I catch him lying, I will not wait around for him to cheat. If he is verbally abusive, I wont wait around for the emotional and physical abuse. If he is all about spending more money than he is making, I will not stick around for him to use me for mine. H to the N. ✋
@kaleema1987 2 жыл бұрын
So many relationships...well soul ties I had to leave alone thank you God for giving me the strength to do so. Its definitely freeing 🙌
@aprilthompson5154 2 жыл бұрын
Pastor, you have pegged me just right. This was a difficult message to hear. This is my story to a tee. Now I'm out here with nothing to show for all my wasted years. I have been a very foolish woman and I pray that God gives me the strength and guidance to rebuild my life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
@tara2434 2 жыл бұрын
You are not alone. Let's learn from our mistakes.
@danilaroche1156 Жыл бұрын
You are learning valuable lessons. God is Sovereign. Forgive yourself and align with God.
@Courie11e 2 жыл бұрын
I swear this society has made it challenging to date....
@tahomalewis2300 2 жыл бұрын
Even though I've been married for 28 years and seperated for 3, I see all of the 7 signs within our current attempt to reunite within the past year of waiting for him to fully commit to our relationship...this is a real eye opener!
@johannaalexander2009 2 жыл бұрын
Do you feel positive or negative about reuniting?
@tahomalewis2300 2 жыл бұрын
@@johannaalexander2009 Honestly...it's a bag of mixed emotions. I'm searching through prayer, discernment and observation over feelings right now regarding our relationship. I carry hope because he is saying and doing the right things, but I also have disenchantment because I am seeing old patterns rear their ugly head. The first two years apart allowed me to discover who I was again, fix things within myself and afford him the time to heal and work on himself as well. This third year of still living apart, couple's therapy, dates, conversation and boundaries are part of what is bringing clarity. However, there is a time limit set because I don't want to repeat his parent's 20+ year separation (I see patterns that she still carries...also being loosed, but not free)
@queenmichieboo7467 2 жыл бұрын
Unfulfilled expectations are the paralysis of life
@angie101972 2 жыл бұрын
This spoke to me! I was strung along for almost 14 years before i decided to leave. The relationship was never going anywhere. I knew it 10 years ago. All those years wasted 😩 and the fact he wanted it to be a secret. Because he’s private 🙄
@valerieshinia8526 2 жыл бұрын
😭😭😭😭😭
@donne32701 2 жыл бұрын
"He wanted it to be secret because he is private " ewwww some men
@danilaroche1156 Жыл бұрын
Take responsibility for your part. Something in you was broken to stay so long. Dismantle soul ties.
@angie101972 6 ай бұрын
@kendra4411 wow! What did the think y’all were don’t all that time?
@angie101972 6 ай бұрын
@kendra4411 I’m no longer bothering to waste my time looking for a husband. I’m doing great in my own
@latonyafowlkes3435 2 жыл бұрын
This is by far one of the best videos I’ve ever heard on relationships and wasting time. I’ve experienced it and truly know that this is truth in every aspect. God bless 💕
@kaleema1987 2 жыл бұрын
The reality is we have to get to know people before the commitment. You never know people can be crazy. This is why we consult God and ask Him what does He think. God work quick too because people eventually show their true colors. This is real good🙏😊
@inezfort956 Жыл бұрын
I’m so glad I met you pastor you’re have changed my life this guy broke through on my TikTok app and has hassle me for months I sign out of TikTok he came through my pandora and Apple Music, I never met this man I gave him my real phone number and it’s been a nightmare so thank you I’m getting stronger and better since I’ll been listening to you
@kaleema1987 Жыл бұрын
@@inezfort956 Those people are scammers never give out your number! God bless your day 😊
@yvonnewilliams8020 2 жыл бұрын
Thank You Holy Spirit for strength and clarity.
@queenj1630 2 жыл бұрын
You have been a blessing in my life. Everything you teach about is so true. I have learnt a lot listening to you over the years. Became wiser ever since I met you. I realised NOW that I am a Queen. The word of God you use seals the deal. Thank you and may God continue to bless you and your family. IJN. Amen!
@aminahcousin9868 2 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️
@elizabethjordan5755 2 жыл бұрын
Covered by the wrong blanket....🤔🤔🤔 Wow! I refuse to let a man waste my time if his intentions aren't honorable. Time is too precious to be strung along for years or even decades. Forget THAT!
@leticiaderamus7923 2 жыл бұрын
My parents have been married for 2 decades and never had the father-daughter talk, not that I haven’t tried because he’s so defensive.
@shekinahfire5936 2 жыл бұрын
I've learned that some men, whether parent, brother etc stick to the "man code." I'm glad you're here hun, his father/ daughter talk book is a great start, powerful book!
@mhharley 2 жыл бұрын
Thank God for Pastor Blake's advice. I am a new woman. This video speaks exactly to something I just dealt with. I used to end up in situationships that drug on for years. I just ended a potential relationship after a month. He did everything right for first 2 weeks then he did a 180. I was busy living my own life and didn't notice he had slacked off. Once I paid attention, I texted him and told him to please leave me alone since he basically had already done that. I also said if he was not going to help reduce stress in my life, he was essentially a stress factor. I went to sleep peacefully and feel good about cutting my loses early. He was not it. God has someone who He intends for me.
@ladybluemoon1 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly I am 28 if a guy is in my life I give him 2 years mainly because I need a year solid of friendship and usually I can see the intentionality or inconsistencies in a year. TD jakes said we have to see men in all 4 seasons (1year) the second year suppose to be where we’re forming a relationship and if it doesn’t go well in the first year of friendship I don’t bother! I do not waste my time with men who cannot form a friendship with me sex gets old romance is up and down but a friend sticks closer than a brother. I realize any man that pushy has no self control and doesn’t want to take the time to get to know me it never works out
@bambiebambie2860 2 жыл бұрын
You have no idea just how very important you are to so many of us. I watch your videos from Lesotho and I wish I had started watching when I was 16. I'm 26 now. It's not too late. Your words are like the much needed rain in the hot dry season. God speaks through you. He heals our souls through you. Data is very expensive here but I watch on credit airtime. I keep watching and never wanna stop.
@sarakubik5586 Жыл бұрын
I’m so grateful for your guidance. You’re speaking some hard truths, but the truths that resonate with many women whether they understand biblical masculine/feminine truth or not. You’re speaking the truth of God’s divine covenant. The NATURAL law. I appreciate you. And I am sending your videos to my community. I know I am a white woman, but the color of the skin is no difference when it comes to matters of the soul. Continue in this education and preaching. I applaud you !
@mizzdrea99 2 жыл бұрын
Omg!! I relate to the whole video my heart and soul got sick from a hopeful relationship I didn't listen to anyone I didn't know what happened I stooped so low off my standards in Hope's of my relationship of 6 years I became a fiance and he didn't stop showing me I wasn't good enough I was broken I didn't know how to leave we had no ties together except a soul tie it took for him to give me a concussion to the head my light bulb came on even then I sat in disbelief of everything that happened to me I have am on my healing journey this was 1 month ago each day is a gift I'm not completely healed from the concussion just yet but time heals everything I am so grateful for Pastor Blake's video's 🤲🏾 the enlightenment has blessed me tremendously
@sharonlovestolove 2 жыл бұрын
Always a man of wisdom. 26 yrs married to the wrong man that became a Christian after we married and prayed that God would save my marriage since we were both Christians. Pastors encouraged me to stay but "I WILL RECOVER ALL!" Wish I knew you even 10 years ago. Thank you for your wisdom🙏🏾
@shosho4093 2 жыл бұрын
“The heart gets sick” " I know I’m smarter then this” “Embarrassed “ “ still at square one” Steeped so far beneath your standards” . I can’t stop crying 😢 😭 How do you know all of this? Your so on point with all your words. 😢😢 Smh. I’m struggling to for give myself. I don’t think I ever will for believing and trusting such a man or should I say monster. Thank god I’m out after 9 years but I’m struggling to forgive myself and find myself again.
@danilaroche1156 Жыл бұрын
9 years is too long to not forgive yourself. Get unstuck and heal. God has work for you to do.
@queenvero157 2 жыл бұрын
I see so many woman waste there time on a man with no commitment. Be a example to the next generation
@Claribel42 2 жыл бұрын
In the beginning he was pacifier me telling me he needed to save some money to buy a ring 💍 and did say that fir a whole two years.
@Trisha_B_done 2 жыл бұрын
Yes!! I felt I should get out 5 months before he walked away, but bc I'd put in over 2 years being a loving encouragement support to him I stayed talking w/ my own false hope. The pain was deep indeed. I won't waste time on that again. Thank you for investing in us and the future life holds.
@sonyaharris8556 2 жыл бұрын
I was with my man for 12 years before we got married, and we were married until his death. My husband was never planning on leaving me. We were together for a total of 27 years until his passing.
@nataliegilbert7412 2 жыл бұрын
That means that he was "a needle in a haystack," an outlier. Thank God that your husband became the exception to the rule. I'm glad that everything worked out for you.
@esthertschetter9544 2 жыл бұрын
Why are you all treating sin like it’s a normal thing. The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.
@hymnodyhands 2 жыл бұрын
@@esthertschetter9544 But sin IS normal. Think about it. Walking with the Lord is not -- "a PECULIAR people," a remnant. This is also why good outcomes in the case above are RARE... like most things, it didn't start according to God's plan, but God graciously worked it out. He doesn't often choose to do that in such a case, which is why there is so much heartbreak... but then again, relative to the fact that we are ALL people who have sinned and do not do ANYTHING EXACTLY as God commands, all good outcomes are by God's grace. The above case is perhaps extreme... but never forget that we are all in as much God's debt as anyone else.
@ladyg50bx 2 жыл бұрын
I have been through a lot of situationships. Learning about myself and my value has made me stronger. Thank You RC Blakes. I am growing older but I am happy.
@yow2363 2 жыл бұрын
It's hard, but be happy in your singleness. It gets easier when you pray daily to our Father in heaven. He hears all, and he NEVER BREAKS PROMISES. In Jesus mighty name. Amen!
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