I think what needs to be mentioned is that these traits should be on a consistent basis.. everyone can have a bad day here or there and have 5 of these characteristics during stressful times. But that doesn’t mean they are borderline.

I got diagnosed with BPD since my teenage. I'm a veteran, was actually addicted to alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with BPD. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.

I'm studying mental health. The more l study the more l see everybody as mental sick

hi. just gonna share SOME of my experiences. obviously i’m not gonna share my worst ones because this is a public youtube comment section. i know some of these might make me seem like a bad or messy person but whatever #1: frantic efforts to avoid abandonment: around a year ago, i had a pretty close best friend. we are young, so she started experimenting with drugs. she started becoming closer to people who did drugs w her. because of this, i started doing them too. i made them my whole personality, oded multiple times, gained multiple addictions, etc. i never really even liked them, but i somehow convinced myself that i needed to do them or else everyone would leave me. 2: unstable relationships: fun fact: i only have 2 friends that ive known for more than 3 years! all the rest ive either ghosted them because i thought they hated me or did something to make them hate me. and i’m gonna be honest, i’ve always tried to do the best thing in each situation. i can’t remember the last time i’ve purposely did something wrong. (but that’s not the point) my last boyfriend only lasted a month and we dated twice. my last job only lasted 2 weeks. (which is a pretty long time for me) the bsf i talked about in #1 only lasted like maybe 8 months. my social standing is constantly changing because i simply cannot have the same social group for more than half a year, sometimes not even a week. also, i cannot feel “mediocre” about anything. it always just crying and cutting or celebrating and drinking. 3: impulsive behaviors: this one’s rough for me. just a week ago i ran away from my house and parents (im a teen) into the winter wisconsin forests. (probably got frostbite) i spend all the money from my month-long jobs on useless shit (plants i can’t feed, room decorations that cost $100s) that i throw away in an episode probably just days later. and if i’m not spending it? i’m giving it away so people don’t hate me. i have multiple stick and poke tattoos that will never leave my body (i’ve never liked tattoos? i don’t know why i did them either.. i don’t even like art?) i’ve destroyed multiple phones and electronics by throwing them or biting them or stabbing them (no wonder i’m broke). i wasn’t gonna share this but i’ve tried (and almost succeeded) burning my school and house down. also, i physically cannot walk into a store and NOT steal anything 4: self harm. this one’s pretty self explanatory, but just know my parents don’t even buy painkillers anymore. also u can j look at my scars. i’ve had to be pinned down by people while forcing my sleeves up to.. yk see them. 5: explosive anger. jesus christ. i’m not sure how to exactly explain it but at one moment ur doing just fine and then something just burns inside of you and you can’t even begin to control it. it takes all the other emotions you feel and just repleacss it with pure anger and hate. some results of this are holes in my wall, broken objects, sore vocal chords from screaming, etc. 6: extreme mood swings this one isn’t HUGE for me, but it still definitely exists. there’s not much to say besides just being so fucking unstable. i don’t even know who i am at ALL because how am i supposed to when i’m a different person every 2 hours? i guess it’s not necessarily the worst thing because at least i’ll swing into a happy mania sometimes 🤷. although, it makes everything 10000 times more tiring. i can wake up at 8am after a good nights sleep, swing into 4 different moods by the time it’s 11am, and be so emotionally and physically tired. 7: unclear or shifting self image. when i say i have absolutely zero clue on my actual personality i mean it. when teachers do those things that are like “write 3 things about yourself!” i genuinely cannot write a single thing down. id 100% rather do calculus than that. but also?? my personality COMPLETELY changes every ≈half year. i’m not kidding either, i’ve observed it since 7th grade. 8: chronic feelings of emptiness idk what to say besides this is the most tiring, hurting-but-also-not-hurting thing EVER. there’s always been like a black whole in my brain, and wether i try to fill it with drugs, food, friends, relationships, etc, it is never satisfied. it has never even been 1% satisfied. no matter what i do i just always feel so empty - like a hollow person. i guess this just makes relationships even MORE difficult, as i get so attached to even the idea of not being empty because of someone, that it hurts so much more when people leave. 9: feeing suspicious or out of touch with reality. some of this probably is just me being horribly derealized, but here this goes. i once convinced myself (still partially have) that i am in a government study-simulation that the only way i can escape is suicide. i also convinced myself that everyone was wearing physical masks to disguise themself as people i knew. this has led to not being able to trust anyone. i was gonna continue writing more but im way too tired now, sorry.

My life got ruined with this disorder. I'm 38 now. Lost everything. Just sober

I have quiet bpd but the older I get, the harder it is to hide my anger. Sometimes I become so angry that my vision becomes temporarily blurry.

I'm waiting for a diagnosing but I've gotten multiple professionals tell me that I have a very high chance of suffering from BPD. 9/9 of the symptoms, life is great

just got diagnosed and it makes a lot of sense. it's so tiring having bpd.

Yep, my doctors tell my constantly how im a "textbook" case and i just LOVE how these videos agree with them....

The problem is, I know that these 9 traits seems very similar with other disorder, actually their appearances are very different. You can see, someone can got 8/9 point by this chart but got another diagnosis. Why? Because they are not the same. You can't diagnose someone with just by a chart. For example, someone who got fear of abandomment is always anxious or angry and tend to behave harshly when they feel they are at break up situation. This don't have to be BPD. It may be PTSD or scheme in mind. You see, I just marked 3 items of chart. What matter is not what happened but how the situation unfolded. Catatonic symptoms of schzophrenia and major depression got similar features in chart but the manifestation of these features is very different. What I am trying to say, reductionism to reading 9 features and making a diagnosis is reducing ordinary peoples faith in psychiatry and psychology. I know it is not that simple, you don't diagnose by it and examine deeply but it seems like it from outside. People have problems when they see that 5 different diagnoses have the same items. Without medical history and patient story, nothing can be diagnosed. You can be BPD or regular macho characterized with bad childhood or autism if you just read chart. Do you got suspicion about your psychological situation? Go to an expert and tell your problem with story. Without story, no one can say if someone is major depression, unhappy, in mourning or schzophrenia by just looking his/her neglection and dirty. I don't say chart is meaningless. I say it can be misleading for uneducated and inexperienced people. Unfortunately, psychology is mostly verbal field and anyone who knows how to read has "opinion" about this. Like, reddit youth who can read Mises and draw supply-demand chart become libertarian economy demagogue.

So lucky for having all 9. So lucky for having a few more disorders on top of that. So lucky I lost my husband now who couldn't handle my BPD but after 5 years still can't remember the name borderline. On the other hand I couldn't have handled the constant betraying and gaslighting anymore. Or feeling bad or crazy for getting angry over that and struggling with trusting. But still cant help but feel crushed, especially since after my mother passed away 3 years ago he was all I had in my life, gave him my all... And now so lucky we have social media, the only place left to try reach out because people connect on here so good 🙄😔

Jeeesus this shit is spot on- I pretty much figured this was my issue when someone asked me what I did in my free time and I struggled to figure out how to explain the fact that one side of me enjoys reading, physics and mathematics, classical music etc. And then the other side just wants to blast trap music and get fucked up at a party. It is such a shitty duality to be honest but slowly overtime the two have started to morph into what you labeled as a more cohesive sense of myself. I hope to one day truly understand who I am and what I am searching for in this world.

The reason for any personality - disorder is that we all have a personality type - which is biological- and the disorder is always due to the developmental factors that have influenced the growing personality. There is not so much a stigma on mental health,people are not informed and taught about the workings of their mind as a formal and integral part of learning and education. Instead we go to school to say learn to read and write but are completely desensitised from all the suffering at home and school that are contributing to the mental health problems developing. So we are never really learning anything if the most important component of understanding how our minds and emotions work is not properly addressed. All young minds need to know is how easily influenced their mind is and how the mind works and how we process information. Then we could learn anything. Many thanks for your video 😊💕

I have all the symptoms (except the fear of abandonment) meaning that yes I don't wanna be abandoned but i will never beg someone to stay and if someone is not "okay" i will throw them out of my life. The saddest thing that literally destroys me is that years before i had(still) depression and i thought that it was something that i couldn't be saved off..(maybe was true idk) And now all these years, fighting everything alone the problems hugely grew up and i am hopeless. I just can't be saved. And i even can't suicide cause i will cause a huge pain to my mother and she don't deserves that..but tho i must live everyday like hell for the rest of my life..

4/9.. Fear of abandonment, mood swings feelings of emptiness and problems with my self-image.

I searched high and low to see other diagnosis fit me because my family thinks I'm bipolar and I have suffered with depression for as long as i can remember. At a certain point, I just believed I was a very messed up person. I literally just lost the love of my life because I fit all of these criteria but I will seek a medical professional, again, before. I am a messed up person but I think I see a step in the right direction before I do something harmful. I feel almost hopeless.

I have abandonment issues and fear of being rejected, and borderline traits. My dad couldn't regulate his emotions, and would neglect me, and my mom has issues handling her emotion and left me Both threatened to leave me when there was issues or argument I would even get scared when neighbors would move away

My mother never threatened suicide. What she did do is lie about health issues she never had and stated to me as a young child that she would soon be dead. From the Reddit sub forum, I've found this is not rare. These though don't make it to the ER and are much less documented.

My parent and aunt might have bpd or npd...I was raised in a very very traumatic enviroment as child by them...I also feel that their parent might also have a personality disorder...It becomes clear to me that trauma is passed on through the generations.. Victims of long-term emotional and mental abuse don't just need healing but also justice...

i thought i was crazy but it feels better to know that others feel the same

I always didn’t know what I want in life I like everything and nothing at the same time, I went to college n studied till third year and now I wanna change my major but I don’t know what I want.. once I was in a program and someone asked me how will you describe yourself or who you are? and my mind went blank I didn’t know what to say it’s so frightening

i recently just diagnosed with bpd and its so exhausting.. i lost friends, families, and my world. I felt like there's literally no use to live because of this i don't know. i feel so alone even though my friends tell me they're there for me, i fucking hate myself.

I have all of those, and my whole life I thought it was what everyone feels.. but I always felt out of place. Misunderstood. I was always accused of acting abnormally angry, or tense, and when I was sad I was suicidal and people would think I’m just threatening or manipulating them. All I was trying to do was to express myself and feel understood, I wanted to be like everyone else, and I always felt like I could never fit in. I always felt like I was the bad one, and it’s an awful way to feel, especially chronically, I’m talking years. Even in what’s supposed to be your youth, I’m past my youth and still feel like this. I’m getting mental help finally, I just need a good therapist who has high empathy and high trust. ❤

I was diagnosed at a mental hospital a couple months ago and wow... How couldn't I have known sooner when I check off all the boxes????

9/9 yay, that's the highest grade I've gotten I'm months!! *someone whispers in my ear* oh, that's bad ok 🥲👍

Impulsive behaviors, could this include alcohol and drug usage as well as binge eating?

I’m always exceedingly cautious about self-diagnosis, especially off the back of a KZfaq video, but the fact I check every box may mean I need to investigate things further.

Please learn DBT. It helped me.

I experience all of these in mixed cycles every day... I can go 1-9 within a couple hours and by 6pm I'm so tired I can't even speak. So I avoid sleep and drink energy drinks to stay awake as much as possible so that I wouldn't have to wake up and suffer panic attacks just for committing the sin of waking up and being me. I know what every day will be like and it's unspeakaby painful... Not going to sleep is also a way I can punish myself because of what a waste of space and a burden I am to others. Every day is unbearable mental pain and suffering.

The Concrete Confessional blog guy just dropped a hilarious article about his experiences with DBT and some other forms of therapy. Worth checking out, for sure.

Maybe I’m just severely anxious and depressed and got away with “tantrums gets me what I want” growing up that’s mooooooot my most attractive trait these days

My ex and daughter both have it. They both steal things, bing eat, 3 or 4 tantrums a day, always rebranding themselves,will say anything to get what they want, very paranoid but I thought that’s because of what they do to people. It’s terrible. Don’t have children young before you know who you are. You can’t possibly know who someone else is until you know yourself

The literal symptoms of deep, deep pain. People are diagnosed and are only seen by their diagnoses and most do not have the possibility of healing due to their environment and continued trauma. Sometimes the trauma can be continued due to it being what someone is used to, so they reinforce it without even realizing it. Sometimes people can get through it and create something better for themselves after experiencing something new and consistent, but they are still seen as their diagnoses and affected by it long after the healing has begun. I don't understand how we have gone from feeling things to just being a permanent diagnoses for feelings that can be changed with a change of environment and lifestyle

I have all of them, but i’m not sure if i want to be diagnosed bdp… but sometimes i’m so tired of trying to control my emotions. I just want to explode, maybe i just need to come back to my therapist

I have all of them. Psychiatrists have told me I likely have BPD but I refuse to actually get diagnosed because of the stigma around it.

i feel like as human, somehow majority have such symptom, but i feel this is really similar with bipolar disorder. i still feel like the mindset always need to have, is no matter what mental issues you have, it just your body want to give you some warning for you to take care of yourself, just like our physical disease, as a diagnose as bipolar and moderate depression, i think couple years ago, i still have lots of issues and symptoms like binge eating, dissociation , but i feel like it is just body and emotion learn to react some situation you never experienced, or try to expose your childhood trauma. it help yourself to heal and cure yourself, to give you the chance to build yourself, explore yourself. as long as we never give up, there no way for us to fail.

Geez! I was nervous when the test started but definitely relieved to know that I only have 4.9/5 😅

Not diagnosed but I strongly correlate with every one of these now and since a young age

Does anyone feel like there's so much more to them than friggin BPD, and that insightfulness (is that not a word??) and other positive attributes of their personality have helped them overcome so many things about BPD through their own efforts? And does it kinda feel like you're looking at BPD through a microscope sometimes? 😅

I just wanted to share that experimenting with different medications in the past I find Cymbalta now to be amazing. I refrain from taking any benzos and anything else that is habit forming. I had trouble falling asleep so now I take melatonin.

i feel like i have something wrong i trust noone. feel so alone and afraid of being alone the rest my life. i dont see a purpose to live everyday is a battle being alive it really is but i have mum and familly that love me so i cant be selfish to them. i feel like i dont know who i am anymore its horrible and feeling so lost and hurting inside life is hard

Why do i get diagnosed with schizophrenia, when i got diagnosed some years ago with ADD, years following it then Asperger's Syndrome, and now lately Schizophrenia? But i have all the signs of BPD Is it a worse treatment or something? Give me clue as to what please. I want to change my world to the better... I live in Sweden. (edit: nevermind. :) pls dont answer if you dont want to...)

I was disgnosed with bipolar disorder. But the medication for it didnt have any satisfactory results. I always felt that my struggles lean on the borderline side, but my psychiatrist keeps on insisting on my bipolar diagnosis. I get enfuriated and extremely frustrated that i m not being given the proper treatment and afraid that my diagnosis is pure and simple incorrect. I am 9/9 of all these criteria by the way.

My mom accuses me of having this disorder and blames everything I say or do on it, and I was diagnosed with it years ago... but I don't know if this sounds like me anymore. I only feel this way when I am around her and talking to her. Around my friends and partner I feel completely stable. I'm so confused by what this means :(

I got this diagnosis the other day I was devastated the more I learned about it tho, The more I do think it's probably correct. The doctor wanted me to go on a medication that I refuse to go to. So I'm just going to do the dBt therapy and stick with 150 mg of Wellbutrin. I've many years of sobriety so I have that going for me. What has worked for you all?

I'm ruining my own life and i can't seem to stop myself.. I'm just sitting and watching it all happen, my spending is shit too.. all i can do is cry at the end of the day or pretend my life's perfect by hiding behind my love life/situationship or whatever the fuck it is that's going on.. but at least i temporarily stopped switching or whatever it is i did in my prev situationship cause I felt choked and mentally unstable being around that guy and his problems, so i kept switching involuntarily to adjust to the stressful and mentally draining environment he created for me until i left.. besides that, its not like anything else is getting better.. my therapist only cares about his pocket and ive wasted my dad's money so much that I'm afraid to waste anymore.. he tells me to pray and God will heal me but I'm not a believer.. how do i tell him i stopped going to school cause i felt mentally stressed out and scared.. and ive been collecting my school fees and i don't know what i spent it on exactly.. for two years now.. I love architecture so much and want to become a good architect, if not one of the best the world has ever seen.. but i burned out my motivation in my first two years, now i don't even want to go for my exams, i have no attendance for classes, assignments or anything and i know it's bad, I'm throwing my dream away for nothing.. but i somehow can't seem to confront anything.. I'm scared of everything and the pressure.. and i don't know how to push myself, i fe3l unmotivated.. and I felt empty for so many years, until I met this current guy and he makes me feel other things that's not just anger and unending emptiness ... but when I'm away, i go back to feeling like shit.. I know i need help, but all i do is cry or just throw it all up in the air and hate everybody and just keep self destructing

cheers to everyone trying to self-diagnose lol

I scored 5/9 and I’m not sure about unclear self-image, and fear of abandonment.

confirms the clinical diagnosis at least.. good to have that affirmation. May just be singing in the rain but if you could release a video on elaborating on the ins&outs of this disorder it would be appreciated throughout the collective fracture. yet this is a tall order, best left to your descression.

i've already been diagnosed with bpd by my psychiatrist but i keep on gaslighting myself into thinking i don't have it 💀💀

9/9 baby let’s go

Wow I knew something was off with me and here it is

Recurrent self HaRming in bpd can take place as haRming oneself and then staying clean for a bit and start again? Does it count in the diagnosis?

Well.....I wasn't expecting to identify with all 9.

Pretty sure I check all 9

I have some of these symptoms, doesn't everybody?

7/8-8/9 should I get checked for it?

All the descriptions what I have seen in many places is a perfect description of 90% of World Population! We leave in a World what have all tipe of disorders, because not existing any stability. With this World where social media offering platform to create another personalities it's creating more emotional instability for young people's. We can see around us that EVERYONE have something of Personality Disorder already! What Peoples needs it's to learn to Self-love, Reciving and Giving more Love and Affection!!!! Because we all of us living in a cruel WORLD where nobody cares about nobody! A World where People are so confused that they not even knows WHO they are!!!! Everyone is AFFECTED, you are NOT ALONE!!! JUST LOOK AROUND YOU AND YOU WILL SEE SO MANY PEOPLE WHAT DEALING WITH THE SAME!!!

9 of 9 .... 😐

Oh no. I have a lot of the symptoms discussed here.

I used to have all of them when I was a child but now rarely ...

I hate this. I don't want this disorder. I have like 7 of these symptoms regularly. I already have autism, now this? I'm already barely functioning.

This may be an attribute for some who are on the Autistic spectrum. So for some Autism can be the main beast.

1 yes 2 no 3 yes 4 yes 5 yes 6 yes 7 no 8 yes 9 yes

ive got every single one 😃

I got 8/9, everything besided fear of abandonment but that's also probably because I'm used to it... Fun times

Yup, got that.

everyone question ! did you get bpd as the result of a toxic relationship ?

I’m up to 4, boy oh boy was that close

Yes to all of them

I have all 9 of these an I’ve self diagnosed myself

healthy keto diet and exercise goes a loooong way..

Drink Beer

Wow that sounds like me. Awesome

What the difference between CPTSC ? I think this diagnosis is a label but doesn't get to the root cause. Complex trauma explains a lot and the behaviors are similar.

So question do you have to have all 9 or can you have like 5 of these traits, to be diagnosed with this illness

All 9

Music is too loud, i cant concentrate on what she is saying

From these 9 criteria. I got 8 over 9. Theres no Extreme angry to me.

I have all 9

if I am diagnosed with bipolar but im having only bad reactions to meds so now im no longer able to be medicated and I feel like I further fit this more should I bring it up?

So basically you just do the same thing as pshycic cold readers do when it comes to diagnosis

Not me using this as a "put a finger down" game 💀💀💀 anyways got 7/9 pls God i can't deal with another mental illness rn 💀💀 why does my brain hates me

What is the cure? The medications seem so severe

i have 7/9 of these traits

the only thing i have is binge eating ams anxiety.. so i guess not bpd ..

Discuss somatoform disorder please. Me doing specialty in psychiatric nursing

I am your perfect case study 47yo and I tick all these boxes

Is there a medication for this ?

Huh, 7 out of 9... maybe 8 out of 9... but I was underdiagnosed.

I have 4,5,6,7,8

I have all of these. Damn

I got 6

how can i tell if my girlfriend has BPD?

How would I go about being diagnosed? I know I need to see a doctor, but straight up saying I think I have BPD seems like reaching

Im not doing well

i feel like this

Realizing you meet all 9 criteria 😕

i lonely have the mood swing one 😮‍💨

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