A great video which I can show my clients, thank you! There is one more important tip I would like to suggest, and this is about treating/processing any difficult memories with EMDR. The process is not easy, but it reduces difficult emotions and thoughts connected with earlier life events, and once it is completed the person does not get triggered so often and so strongly. Contrary to what many think, it is effective with complex trauma, not just isolated traumatic incidents. Although it has been developed by an American it seems to be known and used in Europe much more extensively... It really does work! Wishing all of us peace and calm and thank you again for your vidoes

Another thing I've noticed is a thing called FP or Favourite Person. You invest almost all of your value in how that one particular person interacts with you. The intensity of validation or rejection is ten times stronger with this person. In my experience it's usually people who exhibit similar symptoms to your parents or have qualities you wish to see in yourself. Or both. I've also experienced they are usually someone with a avoidant attachment style or people who are emotionally unavailable or are narcissistic. But that's just in my experience x Thanks for the amazing video Kati x We love you so much

I know a trait of BPD is hyperanalysis, but the fact you refer to the symptoms with "we", and not "you" makes me feel less judged. It's smaller details like this that would make me feel less alone by watching these videos. Thank you!

i've been diagnosed with bpd but i still watch these videos and act surprised when i relate to every single point

my therapist described my bpd as a “ bottomless pit of emotion “ and that’s the best way to describe it. never enough LOVE, too deep and hard to reach ANGER/DEPRESSION/LONLINESS. EVERYTHING is bottomless.

Never been diagnosed with BPD BUT that emptiness, the feeling like I'm alone, the deep sadness has always been there.

My therapist thought I had been misdiagnosed with BPD because I presented differently but I informed her about quiet BPD. I ended up becoming a massive internaliser because I grew up with a narcissist mum who would use the silent treatment and I became so aware of her emotions and constantly trying to please her that I’m disconnected from my own emotions.

I had a friend who also has bdp who never understood why when I felt rejected by someone I would immediately withdraw completely instead of latching on. It’s because you’ve lived so long with BPD you’ve learnt it’s actually less painful to “leave them before they leave you” you are avoiding the abandonment by leaving them first at the first sign of “abandonment” or abandonment from that person. I also realised that not everyone experiences BPD that way regardless of how long they have been living with it. Everyone is different.

The hypervigilance, always present. Splitting is the worst...and it can be triggered by ANYTHING...ANYTHING. The wrong word, the wrong tone, the wrong gesture, wrong facial expression, speaking, remaining silent, disagreement, knowing, not knowing. And then suddenly you're accused of being the worst person in the world, evil, or having some hidden motive, intending to cause harm. And no logic, no amount reasoning can change how she feels, because that's how she feels, and it must be because of something you did. Maybe you're being yelled at, maybe not. But you're already frightened of whatever impulse reaction you'll need to deal with later....

Feeling angry and trying to be accepted at the same time. Boy, it's hard. One thing that helped me was learning to express my emotions while trying not to be disrespectful of other people. It kinda alleviates the weight of negative emotions. It's hard at first, but it’s ongoing learning process. Wish you all the best, everyone.

The ghosting people after getting left on read once really hits

One thing I really appreciate about your videos Kati, is that you always say "we". I know you probably *don't* have every disorder you talk about (I hope so at least, for your sake lol), but it's surprisingly comforting to hear "we" instead of something like "people with X".

I'm autistic and have been diagnosed with BPD too. I feel things so strongly all the time. It's exhausting

Ten Signs of Quiet BPD: 1. Feeling empty, alone or numb a lot of the time 2. Feeling like we don't exist or we can struggle to know who we are 3. Passive aggressive behavior (sarcastic, purposeful ignorance) 4. Turning our anger inward 5. Impulsive behaviors (binge eating, gambling, abusing substances, risky sexual behavior) 6. Have an intense fear of rejection 7. Isolation 8. Splitting behavior 9. Self sabotaging behavior 10. Hypervigilance 6 Ways to Better Manage Quiet BPD: 1. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) 2. Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) 3. Be more mindful of your emotions 4. Build a healthy support team 5. Use impulse logs 6. Playing it out (worst case, best case, most likely scenarios)

When somebody disappoints me I wanna go crazy like it's a mental breakdown even if they have a really really important reason it's crazy

Feeling unwanted, not needed, unimportant,useless and just a side character😣

I always thought BPD is always shown in extreme ways (super hot and cold), so I never considered it a possibility till seeing this video….everytime I had a “well that’s not me because I do this instead of that”- , Katie would just add it on the list 💀😂 now Im setting an appointment talk to a professional because wow did this video held up a mirror to myself.

Quiet BPD and ADHD. Been told it's Bipolar, started getting treatment for bipolar, made me feel worse. I brought it up with the shrink and I was told repeatedly that "no, I am sure you are bipolar"... I finally went to a different set of doctors and finally got the right diagnosis but it took a long time and a lot of money just to find the right people to help

I’ve been trying to figure out what’s wrong with me for years and I never considered borderline as a possibility because it’s always shown as extreme and abusive… but I relate too much to this video not to see a psychiatrist.😅

I recognise all 10 signs in myself and I feel so attacked right now. Never would've guessed I might have bpd, because I just never outwardly express any emotions (heck, I've been pushing them away so much, that I don't even feel like I have any anymore). I'm in therapy for lots of other issues (diagnosed depression and possible anxiety, adhd and autism), but we're kinda stuck right now, because I just never have anything to tell.

i’ve been diagnosed with major depressive disorder and i ALWAYS thought it was more than just depression, but i never related to any other mental disorder like this one. this video makes so much sense to me. thank you.

Katie thank you so much for all this information you put out. It really has been very helpful as I’ve been recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and I’ve really been struggling with it my whole life. The better part of 40 years. Anyway I just wanna say thank you for all the research you do and the way you present it. Again it’s been a life changer thank you.

Omg kati, your videos are absolutely life changing. Idk where I’d be without you. Saying “thank you” is not enough to express how grateful myself and so many others are to you 🙏🏻

Thank you Kati, thank you so much…. Turning 48 soon, so have been living with this quiet hell for quite some time now, and it’s not getting any easier but you’ve been helping with your ever understanding attitude and clear explanations, it’s like a bit of a boost each time, a boost to not to give up. Thank you for being here for us. Much appreciated..

this video is so validating and helpful. Kati makes me feel safe

TY Kati for sharing this informative video (I am also a provider!)! I've struggled with BPD (definitely on the quiet side) most of my adult life and even though getting help and DBT has definitely made it less of an emotional rollercoaster for myself and those I'm close to, I still slip up because BPD is rarely the sole mental challenge a client like me carries (eating disorder, bipolar disorder, adhd, gender dysphoria, for example with myself) that can sometimes need different treatment modalities (finding the right medications definitely helped, but some meds can be risky prescribing to someone with BOTH an eating disorder AND ADHD -stimulants are generally a no-no for us- or bipolar). But getting back to BPD things...here's an example from yesterday when I was meeting up with someone for a dinner date: after seeing some younger clients where I work, my friend texted me to tell me when she'd be at the restaurant to meet up. Well I was already frazzled from working with kids (adult clients was my focus in grad school, not kids!), and having that along with my friend telling me I had XX minutes to meet up with her made me feel rushed and upset and I told her that making me feel rushed like that soured an already bad mood even worse. That, on top of struggling with suicidal ideation and urges most of this month has generally made me morbid and dramatic af whenever I feel stressed out, and I'm not sure if it's a BPD thing, but my knee-jerk response to stress is "kill me now" which isn't very adaptive, I know. So, by the time I met up with my friend, I was still upset, but more on the guilty side of things because of some of what I'd said in texts to her. At least my friend knows about my struggles and she's really compassionate with me, but if this is me AFTER DBT, it's probably not surprising that things were even worse back then! TL;DR: Those 10 signs Kati shares are good points to watch for when working with someone with "quiet" BPD, but it's rarely so easy to notice when trying to help someone with several different mental challenges!! Stay safe and strong everyone!

This video is bitter sweet for me. I love the way you give the information without it sounding negative at all. It also makes me sad/ashamed knowing how many more battles I have to face even though I've come so far. Keep doing what you're doing! Your videos are what original got me to seek help, and continue to be very beneficial in my process. Much love

I’ve never watched a video that more directly addressed almost everything I was feeling.

I love your explanation. I also explain to the people how it feels as a person with BPD is I feel like living but without skin, only flesh. Every little touch, small touch, unintentionally touch could hurt me, and this could be ALOT, without I can control.

I’m so glad you made this video. Even though some of the information isn’t new to me, its comforting to hear you talk about it.

This vid makes me wonder if I’m a quiet bpd, I used to think I was a self destructive type… or maybe I’ve changed my behaviors but I still have these other aspects. The thing from DBT that helps me the most in a sobbing crying type of moment… is “willing hands” you face your palms to the sky and it signals to the brain that things must not be that bad. This technique can be used in the hardest moments, and my emotional state starts to lower in just 1-2 minutes 🤲

I say "I am fine" all the time, when I am not fine.

I love the BPD videos. As someone with BPD it is soothing to see what I deal with on a daily basis is actually legit.

Thank you so much for this video. I have severe anxiety and depression but for a while I’ve suspecting there was something more going on too. I identify with almost every symptom you listed. Not sure how to feel about this, but I guess it’s good to know there are professionals who understand what is going on.

I got the diagnosis borderline but I was always wondering why my relationships are so good. The standard description just didn’t fit to me, but I fit to the five criteria‘s. Now I found the term quiet BPD and I noticed, that’s me.

Thank you for mentioning about the slight gaslighting! My family treated me in the same way in your example! It was hurting me to the point where I began to wonder about the existence of a portion of my life! I can’t thank you enough! Now, I have a bit of strength to stand up to this torment.

Thank you thank you Kati !! I'm in tears... I've spent alot of money on therapy sessions and they didn't even come close to everything you've discussed in this video. And thank you for pin-pointing that DBT is a better solution. Honestly grateful

I was diagnosed with situational depression.anxiety disorder and a non specific personality disorder and I listened to the ten things and all of them I do to myself thank God I have on going support and make sure I use all of that support and all my CRT training:journaling mindfulness meditation it does help.

When I was 15 I had an ED and it was severe enough that my school ordered me to get therapy. The therapist obviously didn't take it too seriously, because with the daily weigh ins I wore more layers of clothes and drank water in the waiting room. They suggested to my mom I might have bpd. It stuck with me. I'm now 29 and I do fit the description. Except and that's why I never really connected with the disorder (but my therapist just diagnosed me yesterday) is that I don't even know, if I get angry at all. I get ashamed and frustrated a lot. And if I do, I get really silent when with people and being pushed further I'll cry. When I can retrieve, I cut to release. And when I cry and somebody is there even if it's my boyfriend of 9 years I get so mad at myself. It's nice to know you have a quiet bpd and depression, it helps to have clarity. I know when I'm splitting on my boyfriend ie he doesn't immediately write back I instantly feel like he finally saw sense and left me. I am working on my rational thinking, because otherwise I am good at it.

Hi Kati. I watched your videos a long time ago, and they helped. I'm glad you are still around and making more videos

Best description ever! It is so hard to find a therapist who is knowledgeable about quiet BPD. it's been a huge relief listening to you. Thank you so, so much.

Thank You so much for the discussion on this topic. whether it is CPTSD or (q)BPD, basically trauma is most likely at its inception. I just purchased your audiobook "Traumatized" so looking forward to listening to it.

Thanks so much for posting!!!! I definitely wonder if I have quiet BPD, I really feel like this could be a life changing diagnosis for me (in a good way- for finally getting the right help!) so thank ya for posting!!!

Thank you SO much Kati!!! This was incredibly helpful! I have a loved one that didn’t fit the traditional BPD diagnosis, but this video now makes perfect sense! Now I feel like I have tools to move forward!

I struggle with BPD daily and this is the best description of my struggles that I've seen out in videoland. I hope you don't mind, but I'm going to share this vid to everyone I know so they might understand better. I love your content and it helps me a lot. Thank you

“Even when things are going good for us”. I feel like, for me, it’s especially when things are going good. It’s definitely that I feel I don’t deserve what I’m accomplishing. It’s hurtful to myself and to others. I love this video. Thank you ❤

I don't want to self diagnose myself but i could relate to a lot of what you were saying in this video. I was doing CBT a few years ago and i got better! Unfortunately i've been going thru a ton of changes and i just feel like i lost all control again. Looking very forward to get back to therapy, thanks a lot for the vid Kati

Thanks so much Katie. I’ve seen this video(and probably 99% of your videos) like 10 times… but it still hits home. You’re an amazing therapist, I really admire you and Dr.Fox. I love that you use “we do this/that” and not “people with BPD do this/that”. You are helping so many❤ Thanks from the bottom of my heart&sending love from the Czech Republic 🇨🇿

I am currently helping my boyfriend with shifting from negative self talk to neutral self talk. I talk to him about how it helped me so much with my BPD. I refer to it as a stepping stone to feeling better or a stepping stone to feeling happier more often rather than allowing the negative self talk to spiral into a negative depressive slump. I really reccomend these neutral thoughts! with BPD it really helps me balance my negative self talk and my overly positive (grandiose) self talk, these neutral thoughts give me a sense of relief from my rollercoaster experience of life!

I'm so happy I found my therapist. I didn't know that I ever felt angry. I could not see that emotion. Any time I would get angry, I would just dissociate. Most of the time I had to sleep because I felt so dizzy from it. She looked right through me (a task other therapists and doctors failed) and knew how to teach me to feel my emotions (like you said by looking at my body) and allowing myself to feel them (still struggle with that sometimes). It is still a hard way, but I was lucky to find a therapist who is expedierend

1-What is the difference between BPD and cPTSD? 2-Can "masking" be a form of disassociation? 3-Is it possible to give 'backhanded compliments due to a lack of tact (cognitive disability) and Not because of passive aggressiveness?

Thank you thank you thank you!!! I was misdiagnosed for so long. I have quiet bpd and it has been so challenging to try and understand my mental health. Thank your for this video!

First of all, I love these videos. I have quiet BPD and it's hard to find things that can express what I don't know how. So thank you so so much 🖤 And I think I relate to the part about all of nothing when it comes to myself; in that if don't achieve certain things I'm trash. And that others don't want me around. I think people's view of me is all or nothing; not my view of them. Because in my head, my opinions and feelings don't matter so to me, I don't expect anyone to give a damn. In general. That also causes me to oversee acts of kindness done to me. But as mentioned, I don't view people as all of nothing; it's how I feel people view me.

Thanks for this video, Kati. The sabotage point made me cry 😢 because that's what I'm struggling with today. Also the reminder of people pleasing hit home big time. I have been diagnosed with bipolar 2 and BPD. Currently in a phase of crawling out of the big hole 🕳 and trying to keep going. 🙃 I wish I could build some willpower to do all the things you mentioned to manage it all. But it's just too much 😕 😪

I really appreciate these videos. They are so educational but also filled with so much empathy and kindness. I’m always happy to see these pop up under my suggested

Hi Kati, thank you for your inspiring video's! I am a 60 year old lifelong 'BPD-Dutchy' from The Netherlands, experienced after 5 times year long therapies and since two months daring to be in love again with a wonderfull woman, being honest from day 1! Sharing, explaining and connecting in a true way! Without losing myself or her in my many BPD traps! I share your vids with my girlfriend and watch them together! You have a very fine and connecting way of explaining and I am so thankfull for that! Now about your question: "If you have something to add to the list..." What I would like to add is the habit of oversizing things, feelings, situations etc. In my head normal things - for other people - allways seem bigger, ergo heavyer, and more scary and exciting. I would like to add that to readers, maybe they recognize that aswell? So in short, the most tasks or challenges allways feel bigger and intenser! Afterwards they were'nt at all... But it is like a sort of building up a strange sort of preparation tension... Anyways, thats what I liked to say to you along with honest complements! I wish you, and all your fans and readers all the best and succes... Stay honest, stay true, stay pure, you will survive! I am still going on at 60, and got many tools by opening up to learn! Keep believing! You are special and beautiful, all of you, yes you too! All my love to everybody! Hans

Thank you so much for this Katie! I finally got a referral from my GP to talk to someone about my mental health today, I live in the UK and get my healthcare on the NHS so it can take a while to speak to a psychiatrist. I felt both relieved and anxious as I’ve been to see the doctor about my MH a few times. Then the same day, you post this video with tools I can use to help myself in the meantime. Thank you, you are appreciated so much ❤️

So much of this resonates with me. Wow! Why has it taken me until my 50s to start understanding what is going on in my head. Thank you for everything you do!!

Thank you so much for this video ! I was diagnosed with bpd a year ago and even though I meet most of the criterias, I never understood the "lashing out" part of the disorder since I actually never lash out at anybody. I had never heard of something like "quiet BPD" before but I see myself in so much of what you said in this video, it's quite overwhelming to be honest 😅 Thank you very very much :)

Thanks! Your BPD videos are so helpful to me! ❤️

I've been bothered by the fact that quiet BPD describes my situation well and watching videos like this is pretty nice. I just like learning about such stuff and it sometimes can be helpful. Hoping that my psychologist will figure out if I have quiet BPD or not. Thanks for this video!

This is something I JUST learned about today, and it's really interesting. I'm not the type to self-diagnose, but it would be something to bring up someday when I can afford therapy. The only thing that's a little different is the attachment thing, I've never been interested in changing myself for other people. Although! I do have an issue with becoming really attached to someone if I open up to them, and they accept me, it's a big reason why I struggle to get close to people now. I would always get super attached, the person would leave, or get married and develop a new life, or not want to be friends anymore and I'd be left behind feeling hurt. Other than that I feel a lot of similarities. I am moody, more likely to get mad or frustrated, and it either comes out as a passive aggressive thing or I bottle it up, or I spiral into myself. When I'm not moody I'm kinda blank, like the part of my brain that can feel emotion is missing. I got a lot of self-loathing issues, I can be really stubbornly impulsive with wanting to buy or do something, I'm really self sabotaging, I'm really anxious and sensitive to loud noises (Dogs barking is the worst noise.) or stressful situations, I really like making people happy because when they're happy they're not upset, and when they're upset I feel like they're always upset with me. Again, not saying for sure that I do have quiet BPD, there are a lot of things I can have, but it's nice to know about for discussion in the future.

I honestly think I have this. When I think of BPD, I think of people who are loud, unpredictable, and violent, but that's not me. It definitely presents itself in a "quiet" way, so much so that I'm able to hide it completely. I can relate to all 10 signs you mentioned. Another thing I feel quite often is a "switch" in my personality. I sometimes feel out of touch, like I've forgotten who I am, or I will suddenly speak with an accent or act differently than normal. I also get a lot of "ups and downs" mood swings. I can be happy, then something makes me really anxious (I have really bad anxiety), which then sets off my anger. I've gotten irrationally angry at people and animals and situations that don't really warrant being angry about, and I've lashed out in the past, but usually I internalize the anger and harm myself instead of hurting somebody. I definitely turn my anger inward, I'm impulsive at times (drinking, purchasing things, and self-harm), and I ALWAYS feel empty and alone, even when my boyfriend is around. I've always felt sort of hollow, like I'm just a shell of who I should be. I also do fear rejections, and I try to please people to keep them around. I slept with a coworker because we were friends and I thought we could stay friends if I did it... and I also let a grown man groom me when I was 13, because he was the only person I could talk to and I needed to keep him interested in me. All of this has been an ongoing issue since my early teens... Everything. I relate to all of it, and I've considered that I may have BPD in the past, but not everything clicked and made sense until now. More of the symptoms apply to me now than it did a few years ago. I just hope that if I reflect on my behavior and think about it to the fullest, with enough self-awareness about it all, then I can try to stop myself from doing some of these things in the first place. I am working towards being a better person. And I do it quietly, on my own. Someday I hope my mental health can be where it should be.

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I'm from West Yorkshire in England in UK. And u explain things better than my doctor

I've been suffering with this for years..and I just knew that all of these symptoms completely match to me. I knew there was probably something wrong with me, and I thought I was just making things up but the accuracy of all of the signs you just mentioned made me reflect on myself. I cried as you listed through each sign that perfectly described my condition. I'm not alone, and it's a real issue, I'm not crazy after all. I'm glad to have finally discovered the real issue. I'm in so much pain, but I wanna get out of it, I don't wanna be pathetic anymore because it'll ruin the beautiful things and the future I have ahead of me..

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I’m glad she made a more updated video about this. As a person with bpd I feel like there aren’t much info about this online and I wish it was in the dsm

How do I express.....after 45 years of hiding these feelings, because I did not know, I grew up thinking I was totally alone and knowone would ever understand how I feel....thankyou for this 💓

Is someone else out there with BPD who feels joy also very extreme to a point where the tension is nearly unbearable? It is so hard for me to try to explain to people that I am very stressed cause I am too happy. It is so uncomfortable and also really sad that I cannot enjoy my happy moments in life

Magnificent video Katie. You were very skillful in approaching this. For some of us, i think there may be an overlap between Complex PTSD from childhood trauma (i know i have that) and BPD, which i'm coming to recognize in myself as well separate from OCD, anxiety, and depression. Again, very nicely done video. Full of compassion, information, and wisdom. Thank you.

Thank you Kati. Your words have meaning for me, and that brings hope.

Yep, first symptom nailed it. I feel completely helpless to get myself to do anything that's I'm not already habituated to, comfortable with, or in the "perfect moment" to do it, and though I can intellectually understand alot about my condition and situation and what I should do to improve, I just CANT SEEM TO DO ANYTHING. If I'm pushed in the right way at the right time I can do new things, but otherwise if I'm pressured enough to go somewhere with family for e.g. then the fear and tention in my body starts to surface to my conscious mind, and then I either get emotional and/or try to get away from the pressure source, even though it's almost always a loving family member. I think the only true "fix" is to be more aware of life, of our selves, stop giving so much power to thoughts and emotions and return it back to your will and executive function. Meditation!(which I can almost never get myself to do 🤔)

I got excited see the notification for this video pop up. I find I resonate with quiet BPD more than the others. I definitely internalise a lot of things and emotions and try to avoid conflict as much as possible. I find that even though I don’t outwardly express my emotional discomforts I do this behind closed doors by myself and to myself. I do have to say it takes a heck a lot to push my buttons to get me to ‘explode’ outwardly to those around me but this doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen it’s just a lot less frequent than what could be considered as the ‘norm’.

This is so helpful. I think it’s helpful to hear why each specific trait developed too. Thank you

Thank you for this video it helped me relate a lot better than knowing I've definately got a few of the traits going, but because I hold things in and don't lash out unless I feel attacked it was sounding like I didn't. Still need a Dr.to see for sure. Thanks and keep up the good work.

I call a “complisult” a “back handed compliment” 😂 thank you for this video. Love the way you explain things, easily understood x

I can't really form or accept bonds anymore or I'm terrified of those due to a few years, but it gets so wacky relationally at times if I'm feeling relatively close to someone. I've been really overwhelmed and intense lately, so it's nice to hear relatable stuff if anything, and I've had trouble with 9 of these quite a bit. Idk if it'd describe me if I'd dive into it, but it feels nice at least

This is very helpful to me as my wife has quiet BPD and I’m not always sure how to support. In the past I’ve tried to bombard her with positive responses to her negative thoughts, but now I know that aiming for neutrals may be more helpful. Thank you!

omg she is so good at explaining things

Very interesting video, thanks a lot Kati! I still wonder how someone with Borderline can feel the difference between being mistreated & their Borderline traits taking over? Can be a challenge, not being sure if it’s Borderline or that you are dealing with toxic people.

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Ayee letz get it! Thanks Kati. I hope you and yours are well 💯💚🙌🔥✌

Every. Single. One. Thank you for such a compassionate, insightful, informative video, Kati.

Thank you so much for your videos.🙏❤️

My mother had BPD and she was insanely abusive. I haven't seen her in a while but everytime I hear about BPD I can't help but feel angry and distrustful of people with it. I don't relate to many of these symptoms but after listening to the whole video I started to understand a bit of the struggle that people with this are going through. I feel like I've both learned and unlearned something today and I'm grateful for it. I don't know if I'll ever fully be able to forgive my mother for what she did, but maybe its time I stopped blaming BPD for all the issues she gave me. Thank you for this video and the insight.

Thankyou! 50 years old and feel a light has shined in the darkness.

Complisult! That's brilliant. One of the best from my ex was "Wow! That new hat suits you so much better than your other hats!"

Hi Kati! Thank you for taking the time to make this video. I understand narcissists tend to have a low empathy level. How about BPD? Do BPD patients generally have low or high empathy levels?

I worked in residential mental health mostly with teens who had Borderline and didn’t realize I had Borderline because mine is quiet. I learned about QBP while subbing for a therapist’s group about metallization-based therapy. I’ve found that many professionals don’t know about it. My supervisor teaches the DSM at a college and didn’t know but is talking about it now. I wish more professionals knew about the different presentations

Thanks for the video Katie, always informative and helpful, this helps a bunch

I had several glass shattering moments watching this video. Thank you.

I have this Katie!! X

Holy crap! When I was a teen, a therapist thought I might have BPD, but didn't meet quite all necessary criteria. That was 30 years ago. I have noticed the symptoms a lot more these past 10 years. I think I may have quiet BPD from your description. I will explore this more to verify. HUGE thanks!

I relate to about 90% of the BPD signs but have never been diagnosed. I don’t have the resources to see a psychologist but that hasn’t stopped me from looking for answers. I recently discovered the philosophy of Stoicism and have applied myself to living this philosophy. The answers I find from many psychologists online relate closely to Stoicism. Mindfulness being the most obvious. It’s not an easy philosophy to practice but it has helped me immensely. I continue to learn from the Stoics but I also learn from these videos.

I'm definitely a quiet BPD.

I have BPD and I only got diagnosed a bit ago and it's really nice learning about it

Thanks Kati for such an informative video on BPD. Its important to dispel the myths of BPD right and give the clinical picture of this diagnosis. Its interesting you are talking today about the inner world of someone with BPD

Thank you for this video 😊 If these are the more nuanced symptoms of BPD, I think I have a better idea of arriving at a self diagnosis between this and a few other diagnoses.

I’m without doubt a quiet borderline, and I want my children to understand this condition. My daughters are 10 and 13. I have on occasions, tried to explain how I often experience life, but if someone like yourself, a seasoned professional could make a video which would explain things in a manner most suitable to their ages, I think this would be incredibly beneficial to me as a father. Or perhaps point me in the right direction to somewhere I can find this medium. Many thanks as always