Amen

They truly do, not everything has to be new, especially when you can’t have your own or you decide you’re ready to take on older kids that don’t have a forever home. my heart says those are the truly blessed humans of the world,😇✌🏻💕

Made me cry

When I first decided to adopt I said straight out I would want to adopt older kids. I always advocate for those kids because i know exactly how it feels to be them. Every single one of those babies, children, teens deserve a home.

I bet they were just as scared & nervous.. but as adults we can cope with it better bcs we aren't as dependent on everyone else..

I absolutely agree, I sadly hear way too many horror stories than beautiful, endearing, happy endings, at least here in the US, perhaps that can change one day, perhaps🙏🏻✌🏻💕

Yes it does my grandma adopted my mom and aunt and I’ve never knew till I was older a person that adopts can love a child as much as the mother that had it

I hate the Social Worker and the adoptive parents of the 3 kids. They are so cold about how they have helped steal babies away from the birth parents. The adoptive mom was so rude when she said "the birth mom will keep having kids and we can only adopt so many." Horrible People the adoptive parents, as well as the Social Worker. The Social Worker was so cold while she is talking about how this is the last time they will see thier baby because we are stealing her from them right after this. I hate them all. I hope the adoptions fall through or the adoptive parents die, they don't deserve to be parents. And as for the Social Worker who makes her living by helping to steal children away from a loving home I hope for nothing but the worst. And I hope the adoption of the older kids falls through or the adoptive parents die, they don't deserve those kids. They are helping to steal them away from the birth mom. And I absolutely hate thier Social Worker, she was manipulating that poor little girl so much. Trying to brainwash her into forgetting about her real mom and only thinking of the people that are helping to steal her away from a loving home. I wish nothing but the worst for the Social Worker.

​@@elizabethcampbell5428 blood means nothing

Yes! God bless the family who kept the family together and also the ones who adopted the much older kids. Beautiful souls

I know a family who adopted seven siblings ages 5 to 15. They had six kids of their own, the same age range

I was holding my breath, absolutely, a very blessed moment, a little tear in my eye, if it didn’t happen, they would’ve dealt with it, but hallelujah it went through, and I bet all three children are just a happy bunch of ,what they deserve to be, kids😇✌🏻💕

I aged out in the system since was a toddler.

This is why I'd like to adopt, never had plans to have biological children because I find the entire process such as birth to be terrifying. Still not having kids isn't entirely out the window, adopting is an option.

Well, their new father was a product of the foster system so it's not all bad. In fact it seems to have worked out marvelously in this family's case!

@@nicole4659 So sorry to hear that.

How could you disrespect your birth mother like that your sick. Without her you would not be alive.

Me too 🤗

I'm happy for you and your family ☺️

❤

Yasss thank you

I only scold those who don’t want kids and had them anyway.

@@marialiyubman Thank you for understanding. 😀

THIS!

You’re right, it’s not for everyone and good on people who know themselves enough to recognise this.

I love them.

I was so surprised to hear the social worker say that at the tender age of seven, little Lauren was “too old” and they had trouble finding an adoptive home (bless the parents who adopted them). There are so many teens in foster care. I know personally of 17 year old twin boys, who turned 18 last month and now have no hope of an adoptive home, as they aged out of the system. Terribly sad. Teens in foster care are very vulnerable. I sponsor children in foster care at Christmas but wish I could do more.🙏

@@HerMuffiness You do what you can, which is more than most. ❤

Yes! What wonderful parents they got! Yay!

My mom did foster care and she said it qas difficult cuz you fell in love with all yhe kids that come through. She adopted each one of us when we became available and the ones she didn't got either placed with there bio families or there birth parents go rights back. She never wanted any of us to feel unwanted.

It was good that your sister had you, to take care of her child. God bless and sorry about your sister.

I wish I was adopted by a good family

The father too. They were happy with their decision.

I was so excited for them! A perfect little trio. I do share their same fears that the bio parents will keep having more kids though.

@ProfessorMM me tooo I couldnt see the screen I was crying so much haha

ok ditto 😂😢😢😢 I thought my hormones are driving me crazy or something

These social workers are wolves in sheep's clothing, I'll stop ✋ there 😒 and I don't have children SOB'S Not all parents deserve this 😤 that's why you have people stealing kids or wanting abortions! This world's DOOMED!

I wish the foster parents could of adopted them .

@@andreakuipers6406 if they adopted them then they couldn't save other kids

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Same for me😢

Maybe they are realizing that they can't take care of her in the way they should; I would myself be devastated too.

@@gillianbrookwell1678 the biological mother did say that she feels like killing someone, so to me that doesn't make her realise that they can't take care of her, to me that is a mum and dad who have made too many wrong choices unfortunately 💔...even the adoptive mum said that she will most likely keep having babies, which is really sad 😪...I mean a judge doesn't take away parenting rights away for no reason 💔

They’ve already had two other children removed from their care. At this point they’re probably desensitized. Very sad.

I would too!!!

The episode before this showed a 2 year old called Tommy getting adopted, His foster parents had had him since he was 3 days old. When the adoption was announced you could see the old man's glasses start fogging up, there were also various parts throughout the process where they were sad, they were also very happy for him, though and were glad he ended up in a good environment.

It would be such a difficult transition. I’m glad it’s to adoptive parents and not to more foster parents.

It's pretty selfish. I work with young adults aging out foster care and one of my clients had 11 other siblings, all were removed from the home and sent to foster care. My great grandmother had 6 children from 5 fathers. My grandmother being the second oldest. Everytime my great gma got a new man in her life the others were sent into care. This happened on and off for years until my grandma was 17 and left care. She did raise the baby of the family but I always couldn't understand how she could do that over and over.

The fourth one will soon be on the way... and the cycle continues..

100%should be fixed so no more bring babies they won't change their lives

Idk about there but I've heard of cases in the US where females have been fixed due to it, but males should be as well.

As much as it’s heartbreaking to see children neglected, forced sterilization by the state is a very slippery slope.

All I ever heard in the States was the wonders of adoption until I started meeting some of the kids who had been adopted. Parents who foster and adopt are like the rest of us - imperfect human beings and some do better than others. We need parenting classes and free birth control for males and females. And the fact is that many/most females get pregnant and sometimes they don't believe it till it happens. Males don't get pregnant. It is the fundamental difference between the sexes. And liberated females get abortions, get an education and a career and then want a child and they can get them from poor women.

I was adopted at age 9. From my experience I’d recommend more monitoring of the adopting parents. In America if you have enough money they’d adopt you to the devil.

More so in the USA. I've lived in both countries.

It will take both kids a while to understand. They don't yet know how to feel about the abuse, especially Lauren. They need lots of love and patience. Lauren will start to act out her feelings, but with therapy and love she will begin to heal. I was 12 when I went into foster care, and I was broken. Through the years I've gone from anger, to hatred, to peace with it. I still have nightmares, I don't sleep through the night. I also have depression, anxiety, and PTSD.

@@rachelmartin3631 Oh Rachel! I'm so incredibly sorry that you had to go through that! Truly I am, my heart just breaks for any child that had to or has to suffer any kind of trauma or abuse. It seems that you are able to identify with Lauren in some way due to your own childhood. If you don't mind me asking, what are/were your thoughts on the foster care system where you live? Where you placed in a group home type of setting, or a foster parent's home? Where you reunited with your family? Adopted? I'm sorry, I hope you don't mind me asking these questions. & if you don't want to say or answer, I completely understand. It was honestly just so incredibly sad to watch with the fact that Lauren was about to "age out" of the short term fostering/adoption & be placed into long term fostering. I was so happy when they were getting their forever home with their mom & dad. I really don't like seeing kids upset or hearing they've been abused. I'm a huge empath, especially for kids. If I could, I'd adopt every kid that needed a mom & dad & a home free of abuse, & neglect. Ugh, I'm tearing up just now while writing this.... Thank you for taking the time for even reading my long comment to begin with, & thank you for commenting. I hope that you're in a better place now, & are able to still receive the help you may need. Your life is important & because someone couldn't do right by you, that isn't fair to you, & should not be a chain that holds you back. Keeps you from sleeping, or having good dreams, or accomplishing your goals. Just know that not everyone in this world are horrible, even though it seems like we're constantly seeing nothing but that. Sending you internet hugs. 😊🧡💕

@@rachelmartin3631 So sorry you have to go through this. Also wish the best on Lauren and Liam, they had a rough and tough beginning, poor little things. Lauren is very smart and picks up everything very quickly, I wish she could relax and just enjoy being a kid now.

When the foster mum said that Lauren never cried, I wondered if she had been ignored or punished when she expressed emotion. When she was told that she would never see her bio mum again, everything flooded out at once.

@@windybeach2184 Yeah, what you said takes me back to what the parents said about Liam. That he was a "frozen baby." Which leads me to believe that that is exactly what happened to Lauren as well. The neglectful part of abuse, I sometimes feel, isn't mention or talked about as much as say, physical or emotional abuse. But to be neglected by a parent or loved ones can cause a lot of damage to a child.

Have you thought about fostering?

Try to work with birth parents. Then that will at least initiate hope for the child - always examine your motives. It’s a wholistic thing. You must care about the child’s origin and parents to really care

@@BD-ir7gp oh, really? The commenter was most likely a virtue signaler, and won't foster anyway. Your expectations of anyone fool enough to do this should take on the burden of the child's failed parents is ABSURD. Most failed parents are drug addicts/alcoholics and/or severely mentally ill. The level of responsibility and sacrifice that you seem do expect is actually PUNITIVE, look up that word. A saint would not do such a stupid thing since they know the difference between kindness and masochism. The root of the problem is an alarming number of people who SHOULD NOT BREED because they are unfit and always will be.

⬆️This⬆️

Uu must be joking!

@@carecc7191 no virtue signaling here. I can't take another child into my home yet because I don't have the legally required single bedroom yet. Anyway...

I don't that's healthy at all. The source of problems in the world that are result of encouraging competition at all levels. You aren't succeeding unless you are doing better than someone else. Holding secrets and 'force teaming' children is a bit manipulative really.

No! No secrets because kids aren't mature enough to distinguish between "good" secrets and creepiness. Best to be safe and NO secrets.

The skinnier older dad gives me a creepy feeling. Keep secrets? Dont tell? Wink? That is horrible and creepy to me.

Never healthy to tell child to keep a secret from mom about anything, big or small. That sends such a dangerous message and makes them vulnerable for predators. They can't differentiate between petty secrets and dangerous secrets. They just learn secrets are ok, which is what no responsible adult want to teach or role model.

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Obviously…. Then there would never be babies on tv

Surely the kids and prospective adopting parents get to meet first before the decision is made? I'm happy they found a forever home but it just seemed a bit off to me that a 7 year old is told these are your new parents here's a photo album. Babies won't remember but a 7 year old knows.

​@@suzannekirkwood6392from what I've heard, not always. I know someone who has adopted children and one in particular, they had to fly to another country and pick the child up. No meeting, no conversation. Nothing.

I understand why they wanted to reassure her and tell her not to worry when she asked “what if”. The extra step is to acknowledge her fears and empower her to prepare for possible outcomes.

This just came out 4 days ago but there was another one before this years ago ..diff one tho

I think they just re posted it because I watched it years ago too

Canuckmom1958. I was just going to comment about the fact that birth control should be a prerequisite for future assistance. You're right, if any of these birth parents got pregnant again after having children taken from them already. I'd say their extremely selfish and seriously mentally ill. What a difference it will be for these beautiful, bright children to be raised in a stable home, no addiction or domestic violence issues. 💙 🙂

I'm so sorry you were failed twice, you didn't and still don't deserve that. I hope you have been able to find a "family" no matter what it looks like. Family can be our friends, our coworkers, and so much more. Sending you a giant hug

Same here

Yes!

Are they zoo animals to be gawked at?

@@keithlightminder3005 No, they were pa

They were adopted.

Perhaps heavily drugged? If talking about the couple and the baby, I read it was their 3rd child to be taken away from them. Perhaps they're numb to the process. I can't imagine how they feel in the long run.

SOME of them are. There are some really bad foster parents out there. It happens much more often than it should.

It's because most people want toddlers. It is really sad, though.

My understanding is that I n the US children who’s parents had their rights terminated can be adopted for as long as they are in foster care.

Why cant they be adapted??

Why cant they be adopted? Why do they need to be in foster care their entire lives??

@@lindagusch2671 Ask the foster care people

I don't understand this sentence.

@@username.not.known2473 me neither

@@username.not.known2473 I could be wrong, but I think they're saying that if a child tells the social worker or fosters that they're worried the new parents won't like them, then the correct response would be "You're right, they're going to love you...".

@@ashleysix2523 Oh that is it, thank you

Which is suggestion, it’s wrong.

I thought the exact same thing, you can do harm planting an idea that perhaps you would have a reason to be scared. Unless the child brought up the word "scared" I certainly would not make the child think the future may very well be something to be scared of

I didnt like that either. She was so excited until they said it would be frightening too. They brought being scared, worried, nervous, frightened every single time when she was excited and didnt really talk to her about how wonderful it was. They seem like good foster parents but i got the feeling that subconsciously the lady wanted to feel like they would miss her instead of just telling her that they will miss her if that makes sense

Being perfectly honest as a mother myself my biggest "secret" as a mother is I have a favorite child. I love them all the same but I like my middle son the most. I always thought that mom's aren't allowed to have a favorite but we are human after all lol. I don't speak for all mom's of coarse.

​@@jessa3654of course (not coarse) you don't speak for all moms. Most moms are decent people. You certainly don't speak for the decent people.

@@rachelsill79 funny how you’ve taken offence over someone “scolding” you on KZfaq before but here you are doing the same. Pot, black much?🙄

That's so true and it's so sad that those people will always have "reasons" that aren't realistic. They only care about the fetus. When it's actually a baby, they're no where to be found

The thing is though that it's not these people having abortions. It's people who are responsible and sensible enough to know they can't care for or dont want a child which means they likely would be better parents than some of these people to start with.

But yes, why is the adoption list so big when the "prolife" rallies are packed?you're right.

​@noone-jw7nd Read what you wrote really slowly..... are you serious? "Responsible" women take birth control and keep track of their own menstruation cycles and ovulation. There's literally a million apps for that and it takes less than 5 minutes to figure out what extremely narrow window it is that you can get pregnant- AVOID SEX for those 48 hours...problem solved.. Literally all you have to do in order to avoid murdering an innocent defenseless living thing in the womb

It differs in every country. In the UK the stability & safety for the child goes first. They don't put years on trying "fix" the parents as the US would. They decide quickly for permanent adoption, esp with a baby. It's preferred to do a permanent adoption fast before it has a chance to affect the baby/child negatively. Because we know this is best for the child. The sooner they get into a permanent stable home & can start develop the relationships, the better. So yes the parents will get a chance, but the window is small & high up! so the parents REALLY have to change a lot & fast. Which is really hard. Also permanent adoption doesn't necessarily mean 0 contact with bio parents.

​@@ingridakerblom7577you know absolutely nothing about the American Child Protective Services or you're just straight-up lying. 3 months to a year is how long these cases last not a year not years. So stop lying or educate yourself

​@@ingridakerblom7577and adoption does means zero contact with the birth-parent unless the adoptive parent decides it's okay. You're really not very educated on this

@@ingridakerblom7577that’s really interesting… I never knew that about the UK

@@rachelsill79in some countries that might be the case but I can definitely tell you here in Australia that is not the case most if not all adoption cases here are open adoption and when the child hits an age where they can consent to having contact with biological they are allowed to the only time it is not an open adoption is if the biological parents chose for no contact or the kids decide to not know their biological parents

What was the name of that documentary?

@@ashleysix2523 oh shoot let me try to find it

@@ashleysix2523 Re-homing: America's shocking trade In unwanted children|60 minutes Australia I'd paste the link but it won't allow it ❤🙏

Oh, please. The fact that you have no husband, are most likely on the margins of poverty makes you unfit, period. Your decisions prove that you aren't capable of adopting/fostering and that you are ruled by your emotions, not reason. In socio-economic terms, you are the type of mother whose kids end up in foster care. The normalization of recreational sex and the attack on the nuclear family are the reasons behind these abandoned children.

@@Shannon_Moore I read about it, but surely it's illegal! Poor kiddies. Why isn't the law after the adults, if they're on Facebook, it should be easy to find them.

In the states usually therapy is required in most foster situations. At least that's how it is in the state I live in. I've been in mental health for 10 yrs and working specifically with young adults aging out of foster care for 7. They usually get therapy while in care and it's typically required at least for a short time post adoption. However, if they remain in care it's usually required at least monthly until they age out, could be more times per month depending on the child's needs.

Then we age out and that's it. No one helps with life skills, finding housing, getting a job. No one helps the disabled get SSI, or Medicaid. When I aged out I ended up turning to drugs to help deal with the changes. Then I ended up in prison. Aging out can be worse than being in care.

@@rachelmartin3631 I’m so sorry, Rachel. I won’t even pretend to know the emotional toll that takes on kids. (I say kids cuz when I was 18 - I was most certainly still a kid) I can relate to the drugs part tho. Unfortunately. My (and my sis who’s 2.5 years younger but mentally challenged functioning around 2-3yrs old) childhood was filled with domestic violence, drug abuse, and being shifted from one family member to the next - over and over. I was probably 10yo when I realized that our household life was NOT normal. And honestly I’m really surprised that I made it to 15yo before I started using drugs. After 14 years of never ever being clean/sober I was finally finalllllly able to actually get the help I needed (and asked for on several occasions) to get straight. I’ve been clean since 11/6/2013 I hope you are taking care of yourself now. You are worth it. You are enough. And don’t forget to smile!!!!!

@@rachelmartin3631 I aged out 2 & Life has been Hard,but we hold our Heads up & keep going..We are much Stronger bc of it..Hold ur Head High young Lady

@@cobycuzzocrea9142 Thanks. 😺

I agree. Mandatory sterilization. Some demographics are worse than others.

@@yeetnama9094👀

As good as that sounds, eugenics is bad as well

I wish YOU happiness and love

I hope you are happy and safe now

I hope you realize you did nothing wrong and deserved better. I also hope you cut them out of your life. I’ve been there. We were innocent children. Monsters preyed on us. You deserve love, hope you’ve found replacement parents or the love you need.