Another great one Tamara! I can see these behaviors not just in individuals but in communities, cultures, governments and administrations. Brilliant work!

Once they’ve figured out you’re a good person they take you on as a project and will show that they’re nice until their mask slowly starts to come off. Then you find out that they’re actually an immature narcissist they will try to destroy you. GET OUT quickly, save yourself!

"It's about keeping YOUR identity center stage in your mind. If you DON'T do that, then you're gonna get ran over." 100% words to live by.

1.passive aggressive behaviour 2.emotional control 3.mental corruption:corrupt how you see yourself 4.triangulation:drama triangle, 5.no boundaries, they dont respect your space 6.evil and vindictive

This was spot on. My ex-husband, Narc, went into full retaliation mode when I finally decided to divorce him. If you aren't knowledgeable about parental alienation, you should look it up. In short, my ex manipulated our teenage daughter to completely reject me. She and I were very close, but he manipulated her by giving her money, permission to engage in dangerous behaviors, etc. He engaged her as an ally against me. They both started a smear campaign on me with extended family members. My life collapsed after an extended period of this alienation by my daughter. Run, run, run from these evil people . Their goal IS to destroy you and they will use anybody and anything to do it. My daughter has refused communication with me now for 13 YEARS. I am stuck in a neverending grief cycle because of this.

I just flushed a 'friendship' with one of these people yesterday and I'm angry that I didn't do it 20 years ago.

We need more professionals with your level of education about narcissism. Thanks for sharing this information.

I think it's very important to learn about psychological self-defense. Most people are strangers, and most of them don't have any meaningful effect on the well-being of a particular person, so there is no selfish incentive to care about most people. Yet we live in a society that is governed by rules that prohibit physical aggression, so that those who want to take advantage of others are incentivized to keep low-profile and employ manipulative tactics to advance personal goals.

Being in this sort of situation is absolutely mind bending heartbreaking and soul crushing. It can destroy you, but only if you let it. You are an individual. You have agency. It is Yours and only Yours..only you possess the power over You...period..EVER..

I should also express that through my negative experiences with various narcissists etc, I cannot hate them because that is not who I am. I really try to see past their actions and understand what makes them the way they are. It's almost as if they want to upset you and get a reaction. I will state the facts, but I will not allow them to get a fight out of me. It's as if they want you to lower your vibration to match theirs. I am remembering what my grandmother taught me years ago. She said never lower yourself to the actions of anyone else. It took some years for me to really utilize that and it isn't about blaming another, but making sure that one really tries to keep their standards of love and caring in their heart and themselves and avoiding hate. Hating another is no good for anyone.

I have been this.. I hate admitting it.. I was also locked in the self destructing cycle of active addiction.. this video really hurts to watch.. but if anyone has felt like that.. like me.. there is a hope.. if you want change.. you can change.. I’ve only been sober about 2 1/2 years and my life has changed dramatically for the better.. anyway.. thank you for this video.

Thank you, I grew up in a family of pathological liars. And many of us had public-facing jobs! I really thought everyone interacted that way until I got out in the real world and no, that's not accepted. So, I got help and changed and it felt SO good to take that weight off and not have to constantly be linking the fantasy with the rest of the world. I had no idea how much hatred, insecurity and sadism was involved with my family's generations of lying until I changed my ways and then, at age 21, my family turned on me and triangulated and smeared me because, in my mother's words, "You think you're so f-ing evolved now!" It's embarrassing to say that you came from that kind of family and that you too did that until you were 21, I'm not proud that anyone who met me before that age must have thought I was crazy and that I did not form good friendships. On the other hand, the good relationships I have had as an adult mean a garet deal to me and I value people in ways those who have intact, sane families don't. It says a lot that changing from living in a fantasy to living in reality at 21 threatens one's family so much that they punish you for it, punish you for getting better and punish you for telling the truth and seeing the truth (because if I had to see the reality of my life, I had to acknowledge the abuse and neglect, it was less painful to lie and live in a fantasy where my family were all just eccentric intellectuals who were too good to be held to the standards everyone else had to live by).

Ok, my niece was abandoned by her mother at 3 months old. My parents took her in and legally adopted her. Her dad, my brother was around, but it wasn't a loving relationship. Myself and my parents raised her; I was 15 at the time. Now..... she is definitely a pathological liar and it's frightening. I can no longer have a relationship with her because of the fear that she put in other's heads about me. She will put lies about me into the heads of men that I have dated. The latest, she lied about her pregnancy and who the father was. If you don't know her you will think she's an angel, but she is a horrible horrible person in reality. *sad*

This is truly your calling to give a voice to these toxic relationships. Last month I had to cut off 90% of my family because of the triangulation, manipulation, &emotional abuse. Thank you, please keep making your videos.

Great overview. I've always thought compulsive liars have a pattern of behavior. Any time I see thed patterns, I run because I'm the only one getting hurt.

I wish i knew these things years ago because life would've taken a different turn

Yes, you are totally correct. My sister is a classic narcissist and she has done everything to me including going to the court. She wants control over me no matter what and it shows. She is very good at fooling everyone in the family and friends who I thought actually knew me and really cared about me. The wisest advice I took was to go no contact. I believe the next wisest thing I should do is move from my small home town because I have no doubt that she still lurks. I have already been made aware of it.

Yes, keep the video's coming! The second narcissist woke me up and then I was able to identify the patterns with the first one; I always say a Narcissist Saved My Life because it required me to do the inner-engineering and comprehend mine why? Why am I allowing someone to disrespect me it's always some underlining problems that were never addressed during childhood. However, I am learning new tools to navigate; not so much as letting my guard down but I am learning to trust my instincts. Yes, when mental corruption is on the horizon it's time to discern these narcissistic properties and get out of there otherwise we will get pounced on instead of standing there like a deer in headlights! #anchoredinknowledge #healingisaprocess #trustheprocess

Wow, so well explained! My parents, and to some degree some other family members are like this. Unfortunately this rubbed off a little on me when I was younger. But in my twenties I realised I didn't want to be like them. I felt iving a life of narcissism and lies is like not really being alive, not being a whole person. I'm now close to 50 and have healed to some degree.

I said it from day one such people have mental issues due to their own struggle hence tend to reflect the same towards others... great video

If you're thinking "is this normal?" Or "am I crazy?" Because of this person, you might be dealing with a narcissist predator. My advice: RUN AWAY. I'll tell you what worked for me: 1. Look up the definition for the crime of "stalking" in your area. Usually it will require you to tell the person "do not contact me again" at least 3 times. Be sure to do this on text or email so you have proof when they inevitably contact you again. 2. Once you have this evidence, and their behavior officially meets the criteria, call the nonemergency police hotline and have a cop come out to talk to you about your predator. Ask them how to get a restraining order and ask them if you can file a police report regarding the stalking behavior. 3. Collect evidence. Every time your predator contacts you, call the police. Every time they step for in your space, snap a picture, and keep records. Best believe your predator is collecting dirt on you to try to threaten you and take you to court. Get a step ahead by making sure there are police reports proving this person is engaging in criminal behavior. 4. File a stalker protection order or restraining order. You will have to go to court but that's no problem because the police reports will convince the judge for you. Judges recognize predators because they see them every day. If you feel you are not brave enough, try to recruit a lawyer or a trusted friend or family to go through this process with you. 5. Move. Even if it's just to an apartment in the same city, move so the predator cannot find you. If they know where you work, and you have reason to believe they will show up, you can also get a new job. 6. Purchase a handgun. It's better to have one and never use it than to not have one and wind up in a situation where you need it. 7. Get counseling and move on. 8. You are not crazy. You are not crazy. You are not crazy. No one deserves to be treated this way! Please save yourself!

I completely agree with this vid, but compulsive and pathological are two very different things, be careful with labelling people who lie compulsively as narcissists as a compulsion is something that isn't controlled. Narcissists lie because they're trying to manipulate

This is such a great commentary. Some insight and understanding was gained from this. With Pathological Liars still not being clear what motivates them you did a great job tying it into narcism. This commentary brings peace to us that had to face this.

I had an incident a few days ago. I spoke with an old neighbor and I learned back long ago that she lied about most everything. So a few days ago she had told me a few things regarding a couple jobs she had. I texted her asking about the name of the temp agency she said she used. She wouldn't give me the name of it and told me I was on my own. Instant snot to me of which I ignored. I then asked her another question in relationship to our talk about a job because I was confused and things didn't add up and then she got mad at me and she said "I never said that." Well, I didn't pull it out of nowhere (my a**) because I know for fact what she said. Then she told me to get my facts straight. At that point I was not going to allow her to rule over me with her lies. I knew I wrote the name of the temp agency she told me about somewhere in my notes. So I searched and found the name which was Arch. Well its a no wonder she didn't want to repeat the name to me because there is no way she went through that agency for her job because there were only 6 jobs listed and one in the state where we live. I caught her again. She lied about Arch and she also lied about what she had told me regarding a particular job and then she twisted it all around and called me the liar. I texted her back after I found Arch and did some investigating. I told her what she had said to me (once again) and then informed her that Arch only had 6 jobs listed and one in our state. Lol She flat out knew that I caught her and yet she still insisted that she never said what she said and her only response about Arch was that it was a small place. Denial, denial, denial. This is not the first time I caught her lying. I already know better with her. Anyway, what really makes a person lie about everything? There was no need for her to lie about a stupid temp agency let alone the bs she spewed about a job she had. She had told me she walked out of a job...and then two days later she said she never said that. Then accused me of calling her a bad worker. I could care less because if anyone hates a job and leaves that is their decision and no judgement from me. Everything she told me was a spin of lies and the only reason she got caught is because I asked her about the stupid temp agency. The whole thing is so rediculous and it makes me wonder why do people lie over and over about most everything? It really is quite sad because her credibility to have any honest conversation is ZERO. I guess I was hoping that she had changed her ways, but clearly she hasn't. She really is a pathological liar.

God bless you, this is helping me come to terms with a friendship I just ended. Dude is a pathological liar, negative and draining. He exaggerated his circumstances to elicit sympathy from everyone in order to get what he wanted. I'm so mad. I believe he robbed me of something valuable as his story keeps changing. No trust, known dude since we were kids. I've been staying at his house last few months and have really got to see real him. His mother and I were real close, she was my sifu/sensei, she passed over a year ago, but always warned me he was a liar and sneaky and one day I'd see the real him and split

Great video. I grew up surrounded by pathological liars. I ended up marrying one that lied and said he wasn’t like that. He’s now trying, emphasis on trying, to destroy my mental health and reputation to match his lies. I’m grateful to God that our children noted the lies early on in their childhoods and decided not to be like him. The divorce is done. Thank you for explaining this phenomenon so clearly.

You hit the nail on the spot! This is the first time I'm actually looking at it with such a clear perspective

Hey! you made my day. I now understand the situation better and how to deal it. Thanks so much.

Yes! They also use passive-agressive behavior to sway others in number to abuse by proxy. This happened to me as a target and it was awful. I know people refer to it as "flying monkies". But its rarely discussed by clinicians. I'd be interested to hear your thoughts about abuse by proxy.

Just found your channel, where have you been all my life?? Left a 20 plus year marriage with a pathological liar. We have two court dates currently so that part of your video hit home. He is a pouncer. Been away from him 5 years now and he is still being vindictive. Will keep watching, thank you.

So glad I found your gem of a channel. Thank you for all your hard work. You are appreciated.

Thanks alot. Real eye opener to people in the work life and relationships

I love this video. My father's propensity to pathologically lie and triangulate against me (I didn't know the meaning of this until now) has me so confused. My father seems genuinely lonely and sad with a strong need to be liked by others. He somehow thinks exploiting our fathers daughter relationship will win others over. I didn't see him as a narcissist because he wants to so badly to be liked. He tries to dominate my friendships, to compete with me and to lie about his own aceheivements & I'm expected to lie and support his lies. I stopped going along with his lies & he has lied to family about me so they will stay away from me. It makes me sad.

Thank you. Now I’m not spinning in confusion with this guy. Some of the things he comes up with are out of a horror flick and the ‘game’ is to get me to believe the claims he makes. I can’t fix it. Thank you so much for repeating the obvious in life! ( laughing at myself for being conned but it’s okay) I got this now. Thank you❤

Your videos have helped me so much in dealing with a pathological liar! They are to the point and really good.

Thank you for your videos. I've had a crazy few years and these videos really help explain a lot! I am so grateful for these and other KZfaq videos because I don't know how I could possibly learned about these things from just reading and never learned it from therapists. This kind of video really is making a huge difference in my life. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

Very helpful and enlightening. It cleared a lot lot of unanswered questions for me.

Best video explaining how the disordered person looks for Weak minded people to influence to destroy your life and thanks for making it clear they need to run fast if that’s who you are dealing with they are so destructive

Sadly, I know several people like this. Another great topic and issue to deal with.

I'm very grateful that u helped me to clarify this out in public!

Thank you so much I myself am a pathological liar and this is going to help me reform myself and make amends with those I hurt

Once they invade your space they don't respect your privacy or boundaries. Then they play turn about.....I'd suggest distancing yourselves from them. You posted a great video. Ty

Hi Tamara! What a useful video! I want to thank you for taking the time and talk about these people. It's the first time I hear about triangulation and I just understood what my mother is doing to me. I wish I could do something to help her, but I should leave as soon as possible to persue my dreams and finally be a happy person. Once again, thank you for your time, I suscribe!

Love the video I'm going through that right now in my relationship

Brilliant Work 👍👍👍 and I can See the Nonsense a Mile Away.

I was lying in bed thinking about something that happened with an ex-friend and started wondering about personality disorders, so I tried to find an answer through google and came to your video. I had a friend, J, and we had a mutual friend, T, (whom I didn't actually know very well). Well, everything going fine between us all, then J quietly tells me that T once told J he wished he would die of cancer. I was absolutely horrified because T seemed like a really likeable and kind person to me. Well, a bit later on, maybe a couple of hours later, I mention to J how shocked I am that T has such a mean streak and J tells me "oh, that didn't happen, I was lying." and just carried on like it's normal to do that. Thinking about it now years later, and even after watching your video, my brain just can't make sense of why someone would do that for seemingly absolutely no reward whatsoever? There were many other lies but that one is so baffling to me for how malicious it was.

Great video...makes u understand what you're dealing with

Your entire channel describes my narcissistic mother perfectly. So glad I found you today.

Wow you nailed what these people are like ...Dangerous as hell

This happened to my son 😢 She was diagnosed BPD. He never saw it coming. None of us did. It destroyed our families and also made me take a good look at how this happens... The "Red flags.'

Love it !! Well done !! Thank you for this!

Hi Tamara!!! Amazing video!!! I’m stressed out about not being able to pick up my puppy. It was strange that I wanted to hurt my own dog and put her into the shelter. My narcissistic father, despised my grandmother. He said that she never worked a day in her life. Also, he said she was a bad cook. He said he was close only to my grandfather. I believe that he resented women, including female puppies.😍🌺❤️🐶🦋🍓🍦🎂🍕🍇🐣💥🍪🍎🐕🍿😎💕🏅

They are very bossy but we get called bossy for setting up walls against their controlling behavior.

Thank you for sharing, you did a great job explaining everything:)

Just found your channel and it's so helpful, thanks!

Wonderful video, super helpful. This is my property manager.

I know a woman that has Dependent Personality Disorder and is also a pathological liar. She tried to date me. We went out once and she would text, Facebook message, and call non stop and want my input for what to wear, eat, etc. She would tell incredible stories about everyone around her, from coworkers to family. I started reading about personality disorders and watching videos. I told her I wasn't interested but she continued non stop. I stopped answering so she had friends and family to message and call. I quit having any communication with them.

...you're like an angel. Great info.

I ran away, stayed away and never got to pay my final respects to those near and dear to me.

Brilliant... absolutely brilliant! It’s not as though you are imparting knowledge that isn’t already out there, but you did so without referring to sex, gender or specific relationship(s). You have demonstrated that anyone can be in any kind of relationship and endure persistent truly toxic lies. We all lie, at some time or another, and to varying degrees, but most of us don’t make a habit of it (yes, we all tell “little white lies” in order to spare the feeling of others, but that’s a completely different playing field to that of the issue covered in this video... which is not to say that I condone lying, in general). The biggest gripe I have with liars is when they declare that they don’t know why they lied; any useless excuse is at least slightly less insulting than claiming no knowledge of the logic behind telling the lie. We all know why we lie, each and every time we have occasion to lie but rarely have the courage to out ourselves in order to ease the pain we caused someone else in our momentary lack of judgement and, of course, selfishness. Here’s hoping that more people watch material like this and start refusing to let the lies drag us down in order to let someone walk all over us in order to lift themselves up ❤️

Wow, this is very accurate. Thanks

My father is a pathological liar and a highly vindictive person but unfortunately I can not get him out of my life nor run away from him because I 'm totally dependent on him financially. He is so mean, he keeps telling me I 'm the one who is paranoic and should pass some time in a mental ward. He is a sick, manipulative monster I can not break free from, that 's what I know.😢

This is invaluable ❤ Thank you ❤ As someone who is totally inept at reading social behaviour I am sooo grateful ❤ Luckily my ability to bond is not there, thanks to Asperger's :) in this case it is an extreme advantage!

Wow, your videos are so good. They make so much sense and I am also learning about some things in myself that I can work on and improve. Thanks so much Tamara

Some people adapt to survive from trauma and end up messing up when they have a good healthy relationship and it takes them eight years to change their behavior. So if they can identify their faults and wrongs then they can fix it.

great video.another life giving lessons bro.minister Eddiekhane jr x

mrs.hill. you just described my neighbor and i would have never known without this video. when she first moved here she was very nice and friendly and then out of the blue she became full of hate. stsrted slandering me, put up security cameras all facing at and into my house, would make hateful comments. she would have friends come over and watch the security cameras. she set up a place outside so i would know she was watching me. would accuse me of wanting to steal things from her hacked into my Facebook account and wrote more slander and on and on.been going on for 5 months and i am having to take her to court and hopefully that will end this but am not to sure. every attempt she makes to anger me has failed so far but when they do she just ramps it up and keeps on trying. we were just friends and had no relationship beyond that so it was a big mystery as to why she started this and it still is but now i understand what, she is trying to do and how she is trying to do it. thank you very much for your videos. will be watching a lot more of them.

I don’t think they have low self esteem quite the opposite, they think they are better and deserve to dominate them.

Excellent

These people can change if they seek help by counseling and psychiatric medication. I have done this my whole life to survive the only way I knew how. U til I slowed down when I met my husband who was healthy and respectful and counseling showed me I’m the problem and I am fixing it because it’s not worth loosing him over. I love him and my family with all my heart. So somebody must hurt you host!!!

Boy thanks all you mentioned and more talk about mental problems where i am and now looking how to move a caravan off site permanently will cost me but necessary

GREAT clip - thanks for sharing

What I know so, as of now about the person is they definitely lie. She also doesn’t respect boundaries. I feel trapped by this person. Firstly, she’s my sons gf who “had nowhere to go” basically she was living in her car. Now, after just a few months, she’s pregnant. I’m beginning to figure out how to handle the situation. I’m distancing myself, letting her know that I know she lied without saying it and I’m going to ask a lot of questions. It’s a very difficult situation to be in. TFS

Hit the nail on the head, fantastic video!

Your Awesome Clearly Described A Pathologic Liar.I Caught them TODAY.Thank you Jesus 🗡️💪💪🙏🥰🤩❤️💋💪

These are so helpful. Thank you!

Great and informative. Thank you!

Very helpful video thankyou!

Great video! Thank you so much ♡

I sooo wish I could have a conversation with you on this topic. I’ve been dealing with this for what seems like a lifetime. This video has been the only thing that has not made me feel crazy! I wish I could ask you a few questions I have following up after your Pathological Liar series

Thank you

thank you so much Tamara for this information. please help me with how to deal with pathological liars whom the school principal supports and showing the principal the proof videos also is denied. it will be great help. really suffering .Thank you.

Power, pounce. Emotional control, power hungry, Mental corruption, dominate Triangulation, destroy you, they have a low self esteem, appear a certain way. Don’t respect others. Disregard your boundaries, often evil vindication. They want others to think their the victim.

Thanks Támara!

My mom

Yeah, Indigenous people getting caught up with people from Europe in the 1800's already with these issues, and creating a domino effect, grog shop's popping up, in the main centres, and ghost towns happening in the rural areas leaving behind a ton of problems.

I grew up with a Covert Narcissist and borderline Mother, who abused my sisters, dad and I..She is so controlling, we all have to walk on eggshells so awful.. My dad was married 60 years to her, and still loved her the day he died.. He was a real gentleman, I felt sorry for him tho.. My two sisters walked away from mum 30 years ago.. I felt sorry for mum being on her own, she is 97 years old now and she won’t move from her own house..I have tried over the years to help her, but she won’t stop abusing me..I have walk away sometimes just to have peace from her...It very painful..😢.

My bf daughter and his X are compulsive liars. I feel sorry for those people

My family members just destructive we have to stay in prayer 🙏🙏🙏protection from God ia the only way 🙏🙏🙏🙏 cut ties

Thanks!

Great video thanks

I'm dealing with this now. Thank you

Very good video.

I know somewhat with this disorder and boy oh boy,that's all I have to say.

I have a frienemy who all of a sudden admits to lying to others and has tried to lie to me about unimportant things. In the past she has been very good to me but also a bully at times. We get together at my house every week to make art and that means there’s no way I can gradually disengage and will need to have a talk with her. It’s gonna happen bc I now can’t believe anything she has ever said or will say.

Why do we let people disrespect us with their lies and games ?!

Describes some female family members of mine here in California! I had to cut ALL of them off.

like you... good stuff

Describes my family; especially so malignant Narc father.

.I've got this friend who lies about serious stuff like going to mental hospitals and randomly losing consciousness and that type of stuff. She's not really vindictive and I genuinely don't believe that she's evil. What would you call that? Also when I confronted her she denied it and basically kinda stopped talking to me. After some time went by, she called often, but I never answered then the day I called back after missing her call she said it was her last time calling me anyway and that she shouldn't have bothered in the first place. That was basically the end of it. Anything? Anyone?