A Gaslighting Primer - what is it, what does it sound like, how do you deal with it.

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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Help for Toxic Relationships

5 ай бұрын

I found this old video today! It's a good simple explanation of gaslighting, so I thought you might find it helpful. (SHARE IT with friends who need it!🧡) Gaslighting is something we talk about a lot when discussing narcissists, Hijackals, and toxic relationships. It's an insidious form of emotional abuse that wears you down and causes you to become confused about your own sanity.
This short video explains it in easy terms, with some examples of what you might hear or feel, so you can be more aware of it when it's happening to you.
* * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.
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I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane.
No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out.
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@lrogers25 4 ай бұрын

So sorry to hear the news of her passing. She was non-judgmental and supportive. Her words opened my eyes! RIP.

@c.p.8040 4 ай бұрын

I'm literally holding back tears bcI just discovered her videos today bc of things I'm going through. The first video I listened to she had the breathing tube, but was able to speak fairly well. But the next she seemed to not be doing so well, which led me to worry. So I looked her up to find the announcement on the relationship help site. It's very sad We need more people like her with this knowledge to help make the world a better place. 😢😢

@rhondarudkin8863 2 ай бұрын

Oh man, I tuned into this one marked "2 months ago" thinking she had gotten better😢 Prayers for her family and friends and all the viewers who will miss her terribly😢🙏🏻

@pam8056 3 ай бұрын

She was focused on helping people up to the end. Her impact will continue. I appreciate her help and guidance and will never forget her.

@suzukigirlis1236 4 ай бұрын

I am so sorry and sadden to hear that Dr. Shaler passed away. I was a client of Dr. Shalers and will miss her deeply. My deepest condolences to her family. My thoughts and prayers are with them at this difficult time.

@TracyAMalone 4 ай бұрын

Rest In Peace my Friend. I already miss you - April 2, 2024 - I am sure the angels are welcoming you. ♥

@val6189 4 ай бұрын

Your work has changed so many lives. Forever grateful for your wisdom ❤ RIP

@jiokenna 16 күн бұрын

Shes dead?

@TracyAMalone 15 күн бұрын

@@jiokenna yes since April

@fifisquirrel4638 4 ай бұрын

So saddened to hear that dear Dr Shaler has passed.....she helped me more than words can say.....such a beautiful lady...i will never forget you xx ❤️

@single_dad 3 ай бұрын

Can't believe she's gone. Seriously. She was the only one that really articulated it for us and put it into perspective. I constantly found myself nodding yes to what she was describing. NOBODY is as good as her and bow she is gone. I am sorry for her loved ones and I will keep her family in my prayers. I'm thankful I have these videos to fall back on, but there is nobody as good as her 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

@ashatan4554 2 ай бұрын

I find myself missing Dr. Shaler and the very important work that she did. I never got the chance to have a one on one session with her but attended a few AMA sessions. Boy could I use her help right now! Sending love to her family and anyone else missing this wonderful woman 💕

@ForRelationshipHelp 2 ай бұрын

@camey4844 4 ай бұрын

So saddened to hear about her passing. I found her amazing channel just a few months ago and subscribed to it. RIP dear Dr Shaler

@1Marflowa 2 ай бұрын

Ow nooo , I just read she passed a way. Dear beautiful soul, may you be at a beautiful place. Thank you for helping the people

@v.j.morrison1784 Ай бұрын

I just found Dr. Shaler's channel today June 23rd, 2024. This precious lady spoke direct from her heart. Her gentleness assured me it was okay to "not" be taken advantage of by anyone including my own children. I look forward to seeing Dr. Shaler in Heaven. May everyone here be comforted as you grieve her loss and accept God's perfect peace today. John 3:16 Shalom

@tamarazwinak 5 ай бұрын

For people who don't know how to respond, your suggestions are very helpful. Your validating comments are nourishing.

@antonioespinoza5134 3 ай бұрын

Rest in peace. She helped me so much in my journey

@beachbliss9366 5 ай бұрын

Good to see you’re feeling better!! 🌺

@TrueSelf1111 4 ай бұрын

I just found her today. Bless her. May her spirit continue to assist those of us open to learn. Thank you.

@user-rn8bq2gb6e 5 ай бұрын

Hello You look so nice. You have helped me so much!! Thankyou my husband for 41 years and a 38 year old daughter. You saved me from any further abuse. My boundaries were non existing. I know what all happened in the past and now I understand what is going on. I have a name for what's going on, etc.

@spiritedwoman5895 4 ай бұрын

Sorry to hear of her passing. I just recently found her site and she has helped me so much.

@Joeanna-et1bp 3 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤ Rest in peace dear friend You always had a big heart and helping people was what you lived for . Thanks to your videos , your help will never end . ❤❤❤❤ Thank you

@lilithjesus7718 5 ай бұрын

So well put, nuanced and intelligent. Thank you muchly

@Amysbiblereads 4 ай бұрын

Rest in paradise queen ❤

@stephanied9629 4 ай бұрын

Dr Shaler, your videos are excellent, I binge watch as many as I can when I have the time. Have you done a video on what to do when you are truly stuck living with the Hijackal? In my case it’s financial, lack of vehicle and we live way out in the country, have no family or friend support and have chronic health issues that are affecting how much I can work.

@andreaboyd3942 4 ай бұрын

I am at the bit that where I can see completely through him, but yet can't break away..

@denise0777 4 ай бұрын

Old video, but great! I hope you are well Dr. Shaler?! Couldn't get through to you via email. I pray for you often.

@evax0x0x0 4 ай бұрын

It is so sad that Dr. Shaler passed away. I am sure she is in heaven now. Her explanations were incredibly brilliant, she helped me so much. She changed the lives of so many people. I wish she was still with us, she was such a gift to the humanity. Her teachings are so insightful and most amazing. Her heart is most pure and full of love. May she rest in peace with angels on the other side.

@ElisaForHealing 5 ай бұрын

Hello Dr. Shaler

@denisebissell5875 5 ай бұрын

I’m going through hell dealing with adult child who is a narcissist who is now divorced and has the 3 grands. She is putting the kids in danger and I am decided what to do.

@sunshine-db2zm 4 ай бұрын

Oh my ..what happened?

@AngelRoseHeaven 5 ай бұрын

Following

@jamespurcell8299 5 ай бұрын

I hope you believe Jesus Christ as Lord and savior and that he came 2000 years ago to save sinners and get baptized and repent. God bless.

@lmf458 5 ай бұрын

Wrong channel. Not a religious site

@Alphacentauri819 2 ай бұрын

Maybe understand that it is your amygdala running your emotionally based comment…

@Alphacentauri819 2 ай бұрын

@@theraptureisnearbelieveinj448 I’m not disputing that Jesus was a historical figure. Unfortunately many religions, including Christianity, are hijacked by fear (rarely live out of love) and use that fear based message (hell, hell, pain, suffering, hell) to try to control, convince, dominate, others. Without the tools of fear (whatever ideology, dogmatic, fear based system) you can’t control others as readily. I respect your need to believe whatever paradigm you need, about Jesus…but make sure it’s thoroughly vetted for truth, and not merely conditioning from fear based programs (that often start in childhood). Lastly, how much of a “sacrifice”, or love, is something, if you already know the outcome? Per most Christians, god is omniscient…so wouldn’t Jesus have the information, that he would be risen, fine, and that the actions were mostly theatrical for humans to “get it”? If god is all knowing, powerful, then he didn’t face the fear of uncertainty, not knowing, like humans are faced with (& create religion to hang onto)…even the projections of humans about the story of the pain of the cross, could’ve been anesthetized by god’s all powerful reach. Too many human influences, limitations, on many religious stories. I absolutely believe in something divine, but it isn’t in a covert fear based religion, it’s in a knowing, of the completeness of a love so immense, no words can describe it. A peace that passes all understanding & no fear. This is what I’ve experienced

@JT0007 3 ай бұрын

Stop saying hijackal.. 🫡🇺🇸🦅

@Alphacentauri819 2 ай бұрын

Do you understand why she does that? Maybe ask a question, before trying to tell someone what to do. Also…your message is late. She passed sway April 3

@ElisaForHealing 5 ай бұрын

Hello Dr. Shaler