Thank you!!!

Sooooo true

Omg yes!

Well said !!

Yes. My husband was like that. Was!!! RIP Hubby. BTW...This man DOES NOT MAKE SENSE. BETTER OFF WATCHING R.C. Blakes

@@Bitsy-h3p Amen!! 🥰

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Amen Sister in Christ well said.

Amen 🙏🏾

Yes!

True

Women are noisy and talkative but don't like silent treatment that's the only way to get sanity as a fed up man so it's either you shut it stop tantrums and then maybe there won't be any reason for silent treatment you can't have it both ways

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@@melaninbotswana2474 this response is not normal.

@melanin Botswana so sorry you think like that. Someone has brainwashed you. Hopefully one day you wake up soon.

I’m praying for you! Pray for me as well I ended my relationship on my birthday 10/2! Enough is Enough stay strong!!!

Wow! The fact that you said "enough is enough!" I know we're going through the same thing! I pray for you too. May we get through this one day at a time! 🙏🏾

Congratulations! Your life will get better.

I will keep each of you lifted up in prayer 🙏. ME AND MY GUUY FRIEND WE WAS ON GOOD TERMS. 😊HE AND I LEFT THE PHONE BLOWING KISSES AND MY PHONE EXCIDENTLY HUNG UP ON HIM. NOW HE'S NOT TEXING OR CALLING ME BACK. I KNOW I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG SO I TRUST GOD TO TAKE PEOPLE OUT MY LIFE AS WELL AS PUTTING THEM IN MY LIFE 😇🥰

Playing for you beautiful, you should be proud of yourself.

That is the way I take it.

Damn really??

Not always...sometimes its because they found someone else and just can't tell you because your a good person and he just feels bad....but whatever the reason doesn't matter...just find way to heal without closure so you can move on.

Thanks

You are so rite on!✊🏽 A narcissist

what about when he changes his number? my narc ex threw me a party and was giving me mixed signals. he usually blocks me but this time he said I ruined his life..I didn't even do nothing. he threw my a birthday party and then got all jealous thinking someone messaged me and told my friend I hurt him and now he changed his number

Absolutely

So true!!!

Taurus are good at this

@@Strongpoeticmind exactly. My man was a Taurus and after he came on strong and suddenly pulled away silent I found it has a manipulative method. Hurt his feelings when I caught him red handed for being a hypocrite.

Love it!

This is the best!!!😅😅💪🏾

That's what I'm talking about

Well damn🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yes

Agreed with yah

Yesssssssssss sis!!!!!!!!!! Currently at the end of a relationship and he is sick!! I simply have learned to not need his attention and validation. He called on his break and I told him I prefer he didn't call and just enjoyed his break. I remember a time I'd be upset he didn't call. Now he sees my apathy and is trying to be what I always wanted. No thanks pal, it's actually offensive that you stepped up because I stepped back

@@touchyanose9464 the fact that they can switch it on and off is kinda scary

Yup im like ohhhhh well 💅🏾

@@SinoxoloNhonkieGibson scary asf!!!!

Exactly, Sis!!! Lol.

Cassandra Velvet Carson amen

The answers are very good they are always very good for me.

Amen sis👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤💯

Cassandra Velvet Carson Amen!!!!!!!!

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😂😂😂😂Good one but your right!

SALUTE

You absolutely learned the right thing. Simple and honest way of living saves everyone’s energy and keeps the peace.

While he off with his silent ass, a whole other man talking his ass off😂lol stay silent please spare me

@@divinequeen313 wf

I'm so glad we have online support and encouragement to do so. I honestly could not leave and conversations like this and comments like yours woke me up and I did it!

if he goes silent I just take no notice. I don't talk to him.

no one will try an control me by playing stupid mind games

AMEN 🙏🏾

That's all

Period

Facts

@@mellead8727 it depends on what you are calling him out for. people tend to be defensive if they are not willing to change. if this situations happens consistently... thats something you must think about, question urself is this person healthy for me?

Know where I can find one 🤣🤣

Make sense

Me too. It's far more simple

Sunsu Bee 👏

Truth

Sunsu Bee Amen sistah!!!

How did you do that I’m interested to know

@@glowwithjade6377 By planning!

Well that was stupid

I was going through something similar. It almost drive me nuts. What he did though was taught me how to live without him. Now that I'm in therapy and mentioned separation, he wants to try. I'm over it. The lies, cheating, being emotionally unavailable, not communicating, liking women pics on FB, in the DMs, and so much more. His DM sexual messages took place less than a year of us getting married...🤦🏾‍♀️ I didn't find out until 3 years later (2019)His wanting to all of a sudden work on it is a manipulation tactic. I have been planning my escape. I am debt free, has good credit, and saved my money. It's almost time.

Nice❤

That is a good ass point and that is the truth!

You are dam right about that

Hell no

You're absolutely right!

So true & it feels so lame being around someone that does that, Being in a relationship with someone like that make you always feel like your around your parents all over again

🤷🏾‍♀️ his loss, your gain . 💯💯💯 Right on!!! 💜💜💜

Cheating never solves anything. Not saying you did.

What did you do girl? Lol

That the hardest thing is you treat each other silence for long days! Be alarmed if took a week.😂😂

Iam Jenae Yup ! Next ! I grow cold 🥶 as balls and I’ll be busy watching the grass grow before I’ll let him back in. Oh you’re back all of a sudden? I’m busy tonight ... washing my hair !

Exactly no body has time for that nonsense 🤣🤣

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BINGO

Wish i could do that...,🤣... You go girl...!!!

Clown 🤡

@@ceecee8924 yea he is 😂

😂😂😂😂😂

🤣🤣🤣🤣

If she disrespect she’s not a Good woman

He is not a man… he is a child and he has to grow the fuck up

Yep! Keep on, sis!💋💋

when u are acting like are grown boy I unfriend and delete u one time life to short for B.S. if u can go silent I can do it better

Yes, my ex was all that and I walked away with no regrets!

Amen

Point blank peeeri-oddd !

That was SO FUNNY LMAOOOOOOOOO

Chyle… I bust out laughing! 😂😂😂

I know this loss of appetite soooo well.

LMAOOOOO

He made me laugh so harrrrrrd because it's soooooo true!!! I was like THAT😂😂😂😂

Amen

Jesus is the only man whose love fulfills mines and is equal to the amount I give. Agree with your post sis ! 🙏🏼

Aww that was well said best comment here 🎉

💯 % me too

YEP!!!! Absolutely!

AND I do..stay in the corner like a child. Didn't Tony say you have to be prepared to LEAVE... I AM AND WILL..what's for me is for me and I will not be breadcrumbed or played with he messing with a grown ass woman..go find them basic desperate girls to play with

Soooo trueee when you give them a taste of their own medicine they become so defensive, babylike and the blames on you as if you're the problem, and you're wrong smh... BOY BYE ❌

SAY IT AGAIN

Yes!!! Exactly!! Treat them the same way they treat you!! 😃💯. I agree!!!

Facts this is soooo true ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

Yeees indeed!!!!

So true no matter what you think of a person or what you assume you can get away with no one is instinctively stupid...

Facts.

People not even recognizing the incredible truth that's behind these words. Daaaang!

Amen!

Amen!!!

Amen

GLORY GLORY YES!!! Me too! I saw all the signs too knowing damn well it had nothing to do with me. Boy bye ✌🏾 I had all those conversations!! At the end of the day the bottom line is I was good before I met him and I’m even better after!! So deuces darling thanks for the ride!

Amen!!!

😟 oof. I thought I was bugging for hating it so much. It be hard to sleep

Facts like this shit is crazy all these comments got me feeling bad for these women

Thx you

So true this guy personally pursued me on multiple times and I finally gave him my number. But my discernment was quickened because I felt like something was off. He only texted no calls actually. Shut down out the blue and finally texted and said he ready he shut down he do that sometimes. I immediately blocked him. You show me who you are that’s who you are. No consistency no communication girl please he can keep that he tried it smh

Dr. Elaine BIG FACTS 🙌🏼🔥

Amen 🙏🏽

That's a good one

Amen!!! What a great way to look it

👍

Amen

That's for sure.

Yup..

Yesss !!!!

Agreed

Exactly,that's why I blocked this guy I was dating for a few months

Lol fr

Why did you guys fall out in the first place? What was the reasoning he went silent? Do you believe also if you might be in the wrong? Is it warrented then? Or never at all no matter what?

Forever ever and ever

What if I call him out and instead of apologizing, he accuses me of “starting an argument”?

Yep manipulation

I'm curious, did he go silent for no particular reason?

@@EducatedLady1975 Yes

EXACTLY where I'm at with it sis

Totally Agree

What if I call him out and instead of apologizing, he accuses me of “starting an argument”?

Exactly

IKR

So true

I agree. Some men act like the silent treatment is really supposed to hurt you. I’ve been moving on with my life while he’s stuck doing childish things to me like the silent treatment.

i cackled. lmao so true. Why would it bother ME? If only they have some self awareness to see how stupid it is. They should be embarrassed.

alpha aint the word for this b.s.

That’s what beta men do.. beta men are insecure and playing these power games

That’s opposite of a true APLHA. Alphas typically know how to communicate and do it super well

Wtf, no, a weak beta ass dude plays these games!! A real alpha man doesn't do this type of shit

That ain't alpha. Periodt.

Nope. Fighting, arguing and drama are adult temper tantrums.

So true adult temper tantrum

shigsho what about when you brought up a pattern of behavior that was starting to impact the relationship nicely, on several occasions, but they persisted with it in new forms and increasingly became more manipulative/cruel and then you finally out your foot down firmly and they go silent? Is it so immature and dramatic then?

Gravity’s Apple just means you should have checked the behavior sooner and not let it go on as long.

NaturallyBeutiful I did, the first time I thought oh it’s maybe a one off. Second time, I gently stated that wasn’t kind and to stop. Happened a 3rd time and I said they’re being disrespectful. Then a 4th and I explained more in depth that I don’t respect their argumentativeness that formed in the last few months and the deflecting is becoming damaging. Then they weaponized a vulnerability against me to deflect and I firmly put my foot down. They finally answered and just said they don’t feel like dealing with it because it’s too stressful AKA cop out because they were cornered. That told me all I needed to know after nearly a 2 week silent treatment

Exactly 💯but still move on. Block him

That is the absolute truth! It’s also a form of control.

@@danareaves4813 yesssss he's trying to send me subliminal messages on social media to contact him because I won't budge. He thinks I'm going to break the silent treatment. It's been over 2 months hell no. I know all these tactics

Exactly!

And Peace!!😊🙏

This comment is in my top 5 of real ones! 💪🏾💜

as u should🤣🤣🤣

Peacewalker 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Sis! My exes didn’t know I am the QUEEN of silent treatment and its not even to be petty. Its because I love myself, rather find solutions and move from there. If a man opts for the silent treatment all he is doing is doing me a favor and reminding me of life without him. Oh, don’t talk to me now baby is my always my approach when they comes back around...and they always do. Just to see if they can still have it. Nerp. I rather save my energy for the right man who wants me and only me, honors the same values and has integrity. Instead what I say is “Hey, I respect your decision and left you alone. I need you to respect my decision to move on.”

Yes! 3 weeks silent here. I'm not chasing. I'm not texting. I'm not calling. He went silent, so did I. If he comes back, I'm gonna tell him that I don't do games. And I respected his silence, he was either trapped under something heavy or in a coma...🙄 And now I expect him to respect I'm moving on.

Love it!!Lol

Silent treatment went wrong. Right? They went so far we walked. God on us. I know that feeling. WHen they finally want to talk, (AKA manipulate you further) but you shut it down. Me too. I got to the point where it was unresolvable, and now they want to "try." Nah. good on you.

I LOVE how you just said that...."No one, who forgot how valuable you are, deserves and explanation. Move on." Beautiful!!!

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This is the BEST comment I have seen here regarding this topic. I blocked a guy on all social media two weeks ago for giving me the silent treatment for 1 week after we argued. He went silent, but yet he was viewing my whatsapp status every time I update it. After 1 week I decided to delete his number and block him from all SM. Mind you, months ago, he ghosted me for 1 week, without any arguments or anything. I was so confused, but after 1 week he reached out to me and I give him a chance. In the midst of our argument this time, we were on video chat and hanged up on me. I did not here from him for 1 week and I decided to cut him off silently for good at the end of the week. We never had closure in going our separate ways. This happen 2 weeks ago, so I am sure by now he realized that I blocked him. After a while I felt guilty for leaving so cold and without closure, but seeing your comment made me feel so much better. Thanks for the reassurance that I am not the bad one....I FELT THAT!!!

I came to this page to watch a video about how to make a man regret losing you, and it said to ignore him for 2 weeks, because if he really wants you he will go crazy that you are silent, this is so confusing lol

Yes indeed

See it's different for me when I do the silent treatment I was being disrespected and things was said out of anger and you can't take those words back.

I like that 🗣🗣

Lovely me yes queen!!

Amen to this😉

He can stay silent right on my block list silenced him forever🤷🏽‍♀️

Me too, I was out here questioning my sanity. This man is out here driving me nuts. Today I’m blocking.

I c, Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!!

Let him stay gone

Girl, you are just way too pretty to keep enduring his foolishness!😵

@@christianpulisic7784 thank you I appreciate it

@@patriciadavis3549 thank you

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Amen sister!! Exactly this 🙌🏾💜🖤

Yep mine ghosted me back in June after I held him accountable for his poor communication and double standards. He went to church and did everything else that made him seem like a good man... Then after 7months he pulled a stunt like this, I went through the hurt and now he could take that ghosting and stay dead... you couldn't pay me to give him another second of my time.

@@muhoza299 yes you will move on... and you will be so much better off for doing so.

Natasha Freeman facts

Exactly since they can't seem to decide what the f*ck they want, because the women they crushing on don't want their azz either. Please grow up!

@@gloriahenry9149 😂😂😂 WOMAN...OR...MAN !!!! THEY...CRUSHING...ON !!!!

@@moneymoney6817 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@@gloriahenry9149 yes Gloria

F that! 😂 He wanted me to pay for a date he planned and I called it out and he went silent. I called him after 3days and he still didn’t call me back. That was the last time I seen him. He keeps coming back. A joke of a man

Cee Cee H A man who has healthy mature love for his woman would not want to lose her. These immature creatures could care less jumping from person to person seeing who has the “best” to offer at the moment. They are shameful!!

That ain't always true. I'm not saying I was right but I went silent out of anger. I did everything I could for her. I would walk her to the car, put lunch in the car or send her lunch. I would get home at night tired but I would sit and rub her feet and let her talk about her day even if I came home from working in the cold. I would cook on my day off, wash clothes etc... She started ignoring US, getting upset about the kids wanting to be away from everyone, then lashed out at me and compared me to all her past relationships when i didn't do anything they did. I felt so low for weeks i would only speak when i came home. I felt it was nothing i could do. I never really even asked her to cook not unless the kids were home. I feel we all have problems but after someone treats you wrong for months and then compares you to their worst is horrible. All black men aint bad and some of us go the mile for our family but we get taken advantage of also.

@@olandofuller5588 I'm sorry to hear about your experience. That is why open and honest communication between a couple is vital in order to understand each other issues. A healthy relationship is hard to maintain for true but it requires willingness on the parts of both parties to make it work.

Without Jesus you wont get far. 🤷‍♀️ how can you love yourself if you dont love and honor the one who created you?

Exactly..my ex was a Narcissist hes use to do this I cant deal with this childish behaviour its all to prove a point gain some sort of respect..little boys

Same experience here one year later. Still healing bc I care about him but he is gone after I exoressed my confusion and I didn't want this stress.

Lol! Righr

You betta say it!!!!!!!!

Perfectly said !!

Period honey💯

Feel me🗣

What a gift...having a woman you no longer want to talk to leave you alone. A real man can not only "take it" but is GLAD the woman is leaving him alone.

shigsho looool pfffft

@@Sound7heWarCry 😂😂

That’s right mirror hm allllll the way. And keep it moving!

What if it's his religion that won't allow him to speak?

@@latoyapowell4450 what religion? Lol

@@lilymaryloui7335 the SELF RIGHTEOUS religion. 🤣

@@bbeasley8254 ahahahahhaha

Yes

I agree. Not responding is petty and for playground little boys. Communication is everything.

I will never stop believing that one of the qualities of a truly good man is his ability to communicate and to do so kindly and effectively.

Peeeerrriioooddd💯💯💯💯💯

Yep AMEN

Yes 👏🏽 x

Yassssss

Yessssss 🙌🏾

HOW sadistic! I called mine up on such Disrespect by giving him a taste of his own medicine... And it was revealing to see how he really didn't like the reverse psychology of him going thru the same silent mistreatment 🤔 Ladies we are so much Better than such callous mind games!!!

Preach... you are so correct. My X narcissist it's hovering and trying to buy me gifts but in between the bouts of Love bombing and trying to earn me back he still revert back to himself. He was really after sex from me. He finally broke down and said... Can you do me a favor. I'm thinking he wants a real favor and he was like when I come over can we please have sex. When I laughed and said no . I can't give sex as a favor! He appeared to be okay but when I went to further discuss it he didn't even want to speak about it oh, but he's the one who brought it up. Now I'm getting the silent treatment. It's okay though ... He won't be getting my goodies. He is the same person with the same habits. Let me rephrase that, he has the same demonic spirit! I soften because I look at him as human but his actions are inhumane. The devil is walking around in the flesh. The narcissist is a soul taker and will suck the life right out of you. Last time I checked Lucifer was described as the taker of Souls.

@@Progressivethots 26/8/20 Sometime's it takes two to get even. Meaning that you have to Put your foot down at some point and time to set boundaries. Or else, men or anyone else will keep on toying with you, because they know that you will tolerate it. Let em know you are a Queen and that you deserve RESPECT.💯

He cant do that and speak to you?

@@adhdlivingyourdreams9515 9/4/20 8:53 It honestly depends on the person and what they do and don't tolerate. In my personal opinion I feel as though, if you still want to carry conversation with the person who ,continously does that then you tolerate the way they treat you. But however, if you don't than you have put your foot down and didn't tolerate their "I'mma keep you as a drag along, side chick option, but never make you my top priority selection."💯

They always give red flags. Sadly

He will come back trust me take this time heal and when he come back ignore him don't look back he is a narcissist thank God 🙏 he left

"This ain't Easter and I ain't no bunny!"

Keep it up sis!!!

Amen knowledge lover I totally agree with you.

Facts!!

Thank you me too. They just can’t be decent people for us ladies 🙄🙄

Yes sis!!!

shanny smith yes! Men with one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel, still acting like children. Its very sad. 😱👎

Boom exactly!!!!

@@peaceful_and_blessed2879 not banana peel 😅😅😅😅😅

Welllllllll!

Lori Garcia yes indeed. It’s ridiculous.

Lol one year later abd I'm recovering from an intense emotional torture experience and I lost weight too. This one really got me bc it was tte first seemingly civilized man but I was wrong. They are good in making you feel like the issue creator but they are the ones making it complicated

Sir, I totally agree!

@@ashleybeverly7328 🙏

Yes Sir!

Don't let silent treatments last forever. I like silence myself, but there should be a response, SOMETIMES. GEEZ.

Silent treatment = stonewalling. One of the four pillars that Dr. John Gottman’s research shows is a sure sign of a relationship that won’t last. For those of y’all interested it’s called The 4 Horsemen of Apocalypse (criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling). Worth researching!

Jenni Renae A to the men ! 🙌🏻🙌🏻

And In that order!

That’s right!!

Same, it’s hard but I’m standing my ground.

Ex~actly!!!! A petty woman is concerned. A confident woman moves and stays stepping forward. God bless

God's got you Sis! Focus on you and pamper yourself.

I would look into adoption options and get your exit strategy together

Wow. I imagine being pregnant by my man n he doing this to me during pregnancy :/ i just can't imagine what u went through But he giving me silent treatment too, aint no way i will make him do that to me. He getting checked when he back

I'm moving too... silently 😊

@Suny Blaze hope she's ok.

Period

@@DaTaJaSi she must've took him back.

Silence is golden, duct tape is silver..lol

I learned this the hard way. Smh

How about you don’t act up in the first place to cause the silent treatment

Sameeeee, I'm 21 and I'm learning Soo much.

Yes it will

@@tipsy09 There are people who give silent treatments because they do not know how to communicate their feelings or feel like the one who they are giving a silent treatment to, is going to go after them like a dog goes after his boss. Men and women participate in silent treatments. I myself think it is very childish. If two grown adults can talk it out why would someone give the silent treatment. So just to let you know, someone does not always have to "act up" in order to be given the silent treatment. Some people just feel like giving them because they want to train the person.

Relatable..after I told him I felt confused and we have different communication values, I flipped to fear of being wrong..he replied 'very surprised to see my message'. I went in the fix it mode....apologizing etc. I felt nervous. I must have responded to some form of control energy.

🤣😂

Demetria Calvin well said 👏🏻👏🏻

😂😂 so true!

Chile 😂🤣

Say that Sis 🤣🤣💯

Amen to that😳😳😳😳😳.

AMEN!

In Jesus name, amen. 🔑

Amen

This is so accurate though 👌🏾. My ex to the T

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Glad you didn’t give in, know your worth yes

Damn at least he kept it real men can make love to your body and STILL not even care about you. The difference between men and women sex is emotional for us sex is physical for men so they can detach the two.. it's crazy and kinda scary

Girl he should be blocked after that statement.

💯

Amen!! 🙌🏽

AMEN 🙏🏽🙌🏽

I'm glad!!

Good

Me too gal! The narc was lookin everywhere for me. It’s like went ghost. Change my number and everythin bc I had got that block then delete real quick. Random oh calls from random numbers. Wow the audacity of these ppl to think they sn come bk into your life after display in their behaviors this way. They truly got no value. Then ran into an ol pal and he goin tried and go off on me about ‘how me going ghost is not how to treat people’ . You’d said what now?. Anywho boy bye

Sorry but I don't get the part your youngest and your eldest, who are they?

My 2 daughters

Oh I'm sorry to hear that. So they first supported you then 2 years later turn back on their decisions. Hope that when they grow up then they will understand.

That's what your suppose to due anyways

YES MAM!! Only He knows

Proud of you for getting out sis, keep your head up, there's better ahead... God bless ❤️

Well done for getting out with a sane mind. Love from a sister. Xx