One of the best videos ever i have seen in KZfaq. Really real video. Thank you

i decide to go without women / wife. I can live alone on my own whole western block is living same way. Nothing new. This was to happen and this has happened . You are right evrything is changed since 2000. So boys should learn to live alone or with parents so long so they are around. If one can live alone that would be best for him indeed in this era. Men should also learn to do their things on their own. They should shed off their dependency on women for food and other needs this will balance the both sexes. Man should earn well, learn to live alone, learn to be independent w.r.t their domestic needs. Things will go balanced this way.

Realist to the core....unbiased and Hard-hitting

I did cooking for my wife, I did cleaning house, I do everything, I earn good money, brought house jointly, broken my all relationship with family to make her happy, but still our relationship is not good bcz she doesn't have humanity, if person is diye she don't care, she is selfish, now tell me a man fault

कहा थे सर आप... पुरानी बाते करनेवाले बहोत है.. पर आज समाज में जो चल रहा है उस्का इतना सटीक विश्लेषण.. धन्य है आप.. :)

Dowry cases 498A etc which you touched is actually a divorce package , lawyers have big commission and fees for putting these heavy packages on husbands , this black industry is flourishing in India bcos women are getting easy income and property .

Sir, nice video. Pls make video on 2 topics 1. Extra marital affairs 2. Rising number of divorces

"Ab Ladkio ka Payback time hai" achaa ji, smart people will always exist whether its past,present or future. If today is payback time by women then smart men can AVOID this payback by not marrying. All divorce laws are favoured for women. Enough words for the wise

I remember in the 80s when my dad was chief superindent of govt office and my uncle was chief engineer. The respect they got in home and society was immense. I listen from my uncle who was chief engineer that when he got a job parents of eligible girls throughout the city flocked to my grandparents house.

I was born in 1991 in a family in which almost all men were Labour. In 2002, my grandmother got paralyzed and she were not even able to move her tongue, legs & hands. She had been bedridden and lived since 2004. Almost 3 years, my mother took after my grandmother and made her feed, bath, urine etc... It was like a sure hell (Nark) for my grandmother as wll as for my mother. When my grandmother was leaving this world, she raised her hand little bit and gave signal to my mother to come near to her. My grandmother laid her hand on the head of my mother and gave some kind of blessings and passed away. I am the eldest son in my family and we are 3 siblings. Currently, I am class II officer in Government of India and my wife is a Teacher in UP Government. My younger brother is posted in UP Police. When I look my past I feel whatever we are today, it is because of my mother who did humble and kind deeds in her life and got pure blessings from her elders. Sometime, I feel life is not only about the money, enjoyment, comfort, personal choices and freedom etc. Life is more than these things.

Very true, my daughter's say we won't marry, it's only giving in a marriage, nothing to achieve. The man doesn't take any responsibility, why take additional responsibility of the man.

Let's not forget the love affairs outside have increased in ladies MORE than in Men.

My advice - Stay away from marriage.

I am a retired working woman . I always believed that I am earning to nurture a home and raise a happy family and that was the source of my happiness not what I was earning .

So what you are telling is that men only has to adapt, bcoz time has brought in a lot of change in women and it's their turn to exploit. And for men - it's like u better get exploited without making noice. Men have literally lost everything to women. Surrender to women and men will be entitled to have peaceful life and so have you done.

Most marriages are sexless and problematic. Nobody talks about this because sex is taboo in India. Sex is one of the most important part of marriage life, maybe the most important.👍👍👍

Sir, You are really doing a great work by highlighting the truth required to be known in today's world for Indians and countries with similar mindset. Lots of disputes and problem would be resolved if people open their eyes.

So good 👍👍 I completely agree with you sir Deep knowledge of problems of society and solutions ❤️

Not agreed. I am earning and wife is not earning. She wants to decide that i should not give money to my parents. I know better cooking than my wife. I clean the toilet,wash basin etc. I change diapers of my boys.My wife wants i should not drink beer , is it not my choice to drink 🍻? If wife earn then it is money , if husband earn , money belongs to both

Pro feminism woke uncle giving lectures … We are enough educated to see what is happening around us … And how indian law is radically feminized …

Even in olden times men used to cook , make aachar , wash clothes etc ... Women didn't even have to leave house

You are realist and practical... Men need to grow up their mindset who are still stuck in that old mentality 👍

Burst out laughing when he said "aadmi rondumal ho gaye hain" And it's "payback" time!! But on a serious note, we need to change the way we raise our sons..... And it needs to start in our homes.... Otherwise, men of future generations are going to cry!!

I know all household work (cooking, cleaning, etc.). Thought I'll be a good husband to my wife, have a good life. Go together sharing all responsibilities and live happily. But after interacting with so many girls (many my friends), my whole perspective changed. The institution of marriage is not worth the risk anymore. I've seen unhappily married men living a far worse life than alone single men.

My mother earns 2.5x times my father. She usually works for 12 to 13 hours a day and 6 days a week,so,my father prepares lunch and dinner,whereas breakfast is prepared by my mom

You are a true realist, Sangwanji I have never heard anyone speak such hard truths about the Indian middle class on a public platform like you I sincerely hope your talks bring about a positive change in our society

Sir you are great. Don’t feel offended on your opinion. Speak freely. Don’t fear of society.

Sir you are highly realistic.. Nowadays Men and their family wants well educated girl, working and does all household work like 70s women. Inspite of doing everything possible along with job, in laws are not happy.. This message should spread like anything.. Thank you for creating such content..

So basically this gentleman says that men have to start doing household work ( 👨‍🍳🍲 cooking, cleaning, etc) & become jamai raja of mother- in- laws.🤫🤦

I am a man 42 and not married....best decision of my life, enjoying my life spending money having fun and travelling the world....Men should not marry it's the worst thing possible

Sir, your view are 100% correct. Boys and their parents are struck in 70s and 80s thought about girls. They expects girls to be well educated, highly modern, well employed, well versed in household work, quick in adjusting to in laws house n their family members, bear kids immediately after marriage, take care of children without troubling husband, sacrifice their career, support husband's career...... the list goes on and on...... endless. But boys haven't changed. Their parents never raise their sons to cope up with today's requirements to supporte their wives. Couple should be encouraged to live separately. Share family responsibilities equally and lead a more compatible and understanding life.

My mother was very worried when I used to teach my brother the kitchen chores he is in class 9 i started his learning when he was in class 5 and today he knows all the kitchen work even gol aalu ka Paratha. He is no more dependent on us for cooking like things and he loves it. The girl who is going to get him in later life path will be very happy I hope.❤

Every word you've spoken is absolutely true. My in laws just could not tolerate that I am in armed forces and independent. They started turning my husband against him. He is stuck between them and me. And of course, he's choosing them. We are heading for divorce now

Sir, you are a realist leaning towards future generation irrespective of gender. I am myself middle aged and I strongly stand by you in interest of the new generation.

By seeing the comment section, anyone can predict whether the topic is biased towards one gender. If the video is for one gender, the same gender will applaud/celebrate in the comment section. Sir, your videos are very informational n unique, but sometimes it divert towards showing the shortcomings/problems in today's Male. It is not a privilege to be a Male, in fact it is a Lifetime Slavery that we have to take care of parents, kids n even wife (if she is not Earning). You are correct that the Male has to think and see what is his life's Preference/Priority, we have to cook, iron, clean and be self dependent which most of the Males are doing these days. Rest of the Males will learn when they realize that no one actually cares them. We are meant for only Earning n Responsibilities. The Male/Female topic is always debatable and the winner is always who can Speak n Express more - which Men cannot.

Reita Faria Indian born Miss World (1966) set the ball rolling for 1955 & beyond, born women. Not only was it about beauty. It also imbibed the spirit of education, courage & wealth back home amidst her Indian sisters.

I don't know Hindi. I watched the entire video. The English subtitles helped me. Sir, you are amazing. We need people like you to understand the present situation and lead a happy life. Thank you sir.

You are a realist sir! The way you explain things by adding some humour is too good. If people rightly follow what you say, it will definitely strengthen their relationships and the family system in our country.

I got married. Right now there are not any major issues but i still think if I would have stayed single I would be happier.

I wish more people see this, this is such an important message.

Very few people opt for love marriage in India due to a number of reasons like religious disputes, cultural differences, non-agreement of families and other critical matters. It has been reported that people give into arranged marriages even if they initially wanted to marry their loved one.

Really apt content, the side effect of this societal change is the delayed marriages and the removal of the happily ever after concept. Most people if lucky to find a like-minded partner should hold realistic assumptions about marriage and always account and provide for it not lasting a lifetime. More often than not the openness regarding a mutually understanding exit route will help more than hurt the relationship.

Interesting you mentioned 498a. I think you should also talk about why gender specific laws exist in India when you only mentioned that women have move ahead and are now highly capable ( to which I also agree with ). Why men are always treated like criminals ( kuch to kiya hi hoga ladke walo ne ). A simple divorce remains a stigma in the society still, hence it is often accompanied by misuse of laws like 498A.

By, the way sir, I am Christian ✝️ but as I am from India 🇮🇳 I respected all religious spirit and you are great person on these platform working for the people.

Well explained sir...... u have shown the realty situation for men and boys.

you are a REALIST and both me and my husband feel that your teachings are improving our lives and giving us clarity.

I find u a realist sir. Sir, it's a privilege to listen to u everytime.... This video is eye opener for all.... Your views are pragmatic but still not acceptable for all...CONTROL and DEPENDENCY are being explained very nicely and still families/spouses tries to be superior over one another.... Equality still can't be attained,but empowerment for girls and shedding preconceived notions about boys needs to be dealt from the very starting, we need to brought up our kids in a different way so that they will not get trapped in previously made gender roles of society.... Thanks a lot sir.... More power to u :-)

Great thoughts sir Aptly put I have been trying to teach my son cooking who is now in USA but family tradition comes into play and he is always hesitant to cook his meals. Though I wish when his wife eventually comes he states contributing more You are funny and realistic Keep it up You can try to keep your videos short so that more people listen to it Best wishes

Sir metrosexual ladko ki to zyada wat lagi hai, equality bhi maintain kar rahe hain aur 1cr ka loan bhi akele chuka rahe hain 🤐

I stop watching OTT platforms, morning evening Sango life is on....

Benificial contents Sir! As always and as expected.. Its called real debate and eye opening facts. We accept it or not..this is the harsh truth Thanks uncle for this kind of counselling. I listen u carefully and treat ur words as a Son 🙏🏼

Your videos will be an eye-opener for many. Great that you are actually addressing the truths. Keep it up sir!!

Sir you may be correct..we male hv 100 issues, may be more, also we are imperfect. 1) Man who earns money is responsible has to take care of all the member needs & wants.. without exemption 2) Man is expected by his spouse to be matured like his spouse father or like her terki jilaji.. 3) By default man is expected to handle his wife "all needs" even if he is going through financial tight, job insecurity, investment taking care of his own family. But whereas female when she becomes financially independent.. She never like to share any expenses especially of her spouse.. She try to avoid sharing.. for eg: homeloan emi, husband in laws any contribution to his family members.. She always pressure you, by giving to many demands.. she expects her husband to earning like her boss or behave like her boss.. Basic issues are coming of parenting itself..I blame both male & female culprits are their parents and society.. I don't see now a days anybody is asking dowry atleast past 5 yrs I hv not heard any of.. mostly marriage are between well off families.... even though groom family dont ask or expect..bride family their daughter as per their capacity...

What a good job you're doing! Since your method of explaining is so relatable I really hope you bring about the much needed change. God bless you!

Realist, relatable and relevant

It's great that person of your generation has spot on understanding of such issues

You have correctly explained related all the things, thanks for giving thinking Avenue to the present human society regarding the thousands of years old marriage system of the Society.

Sir,totally agree with u,time has come to change the relationship,between a man and women when both are working, and can operate independently,the sooner the society realize this the better.

Totally realistic sir .... Society definitely needs more people like you. you have been talking very real fact of most of the current marital issues

Realist, you have drawn a clear sketch of the problems along with the solutions. I appericiate your view and strongly support it

Equality and sharing domestic works keeps family happy.

You are realist.. And your analysis is good. People ( men & women alike) need to discuss these issues and analyse.

Realist! Can you also make videos on what MIL should not do? Like they can’t see their sons working in the kitchen, how they taunt their bahus, how they are biased towards their son and every tradition is just for the bahus and not for their sons etc.?

You are realist and you are showing us reality of the world. Thankyou so much we need people like you.

Quite commonly relatable with these times. Men do work and extend their efforts in house work. Respect freedom and communication is the key.

S , even I have seen the changes. Many in my relatives [ boy side ] have spent totally 100 perc in the marriage and the girls who were earning are giving their earnings to their younger siblings' education. A huge change . It's just acceptance of the change.

I love the way you corrected yourself after saying "aurat". The world must know the true meaning of this word. Mahila and naari are more appropriate. Similarly purush is more appropriate than aadmi.

Thank you for observation sir.

Realistic ke naam pe faminist and faminist ke naam pe metrimonial comercialist

Absolutely realist. And you are the best . Please continue your videos uncle.. the newer generation needs people like you..

आप बातों बातों में चले जाते हो फेमिनिस्ट की तरफ😄😄😄😄

Only option left now a day’s is either don’t get married or ready for divorce or at last suicide no option left. Sir i earn around 1.3L per month, after 12th and till i got married i lived in PG, Hostel etc. I can cook, clean my clothes, clean my house. No matter what i do there is always a some fight going on.

Thank u so much for English subtitles..kind of u sir..u r a realist..

I have seen some 8 to 10 videos on your channel. Your thoughts are updated and realistic...they will strengthen the family system in our country.

Love love love it♥️ A person on the other part of 50 and with this mindset!

You are realist to the core sir,enjoyed your video thoroughly…..and concept of true love that you showed was outstanding,I never thought this way……amazing sir,keep up the good work

This was one of your best and most hard hitting ones. Very much necessary for all to see. And the mockery of the mcps and their moms was hilarious as was your attempts to not call out aurats.

Realist....you r a truly realist, the topics which you always talk about are really appreciable....nobody wants to talk about these topics in this perspective...I really appreciate your thoughts and respect for all women and thinking with their perspective...I have recently started watching your videos ...and they are really awesome... Thanks a lot for sharing your ideas with the society.

Sir ,homescience is not only about cooking food ,delhi university offers this course in its 4 Colleges and there are many branches of it in which one can build her career, it's a request not to say that homescience buits wives only .

Sir nameste, mere mama ki bahu ne 3rd day hi jhagda karke police bula li thi, ab case kiya hua hai 20 lkhs demand kiya court ne 10 lkh Mei settlement kiya hai. Mama ki death ho gayi hai. Usne unnecessary kiya hai woh chahti thi ki makan uske naam karen, mama taxi chalate the. Woh itne paise wale nahi hai, ladka gau hai ,Kya Karen

It is so soothing to watch someone respects his wife's opinion/value. My respect increased on both of them.

High🙄 expectation from brides & there family is the reason bride expects mens should earns more than her may be in crores have everything good in him perfect Also mens are becoming mad for marriage and after that all suffering starts mens giving high imprtance to brides 😏 conclusion is demand supply of male female but after 20 yrs from now it will again reverse so we have to wait mens plz don't become crazy for women

this is very real sir, I was Bron in 89, I am 34 now, I don't know if I am young or old, my body feels young my mind feels , slightly experienced if not old, but in any case I am feel the tiredness , feel the burn, feeling the changes, big or small, birds have migrated routes, the seasons are shifting, the poles are moving, just yesterday I was using dial up internet, and now we have 5G, access to all the info in a second, the struggle has changed, the learnings have changed, am I in the centre witnessing evolution, good or bad, who knows :)

Aap mere daddu jaise ho🙂.Pranam apko🙏.

Great thought process that you are trying to spread in the society.. Keep up the good work!

Facts, facts, and more facts. You are bringing them up candidly. Kinda tough for some people to hear. It's ok. They still need to!

You are 100% realist. Accurately analyzed content, easy to understand. Thank you sir.

Feminist are saying extra marital affair are good for wifes

You are realist sir. Appreciate your efforts and help to realise the changes in the society

Relatistic. Really appreciate your efforts for this noble work of educating middle class. Enjoyed as well as took learnings from it.

Eye opener video sir. Agree with you. Thanks

How wonderfully you explain real problems and solutions,Now you are really realistic sir

Superb uncle superb. । am just watching your video, couldn't stop myself from commenting today. I always want to comment on your video but while doing some task I am watching or hearing them and just miss out.There are so many videos that are so relatable.I am 39 years old intelligent female from Dehradun settled in Pune; IT engineer but left job 11 years back was in a top IT company in Pune, due to many reasons that you cover in your videos,was once independent in terms of finance.Your videos just make me smile,strike inside.I tried to show one of them to my husband,he was wondering why I watch your videos or how I got to watch,will share this 1 with him,this has been my analysis too.My elder sister too,45years old, an IIT passout,US returned,divorced,faced all these issues.Just your videos give solace.Someone is talking out.I used to look out on google,search and read a lot ,to these modern day problems,but one thing I think am I doing it right,leaving my job etc.in the name family,to balance out,to keep the man feel superior (I knew inside) to keep the martiage intact because we were just about to break our marriage due to the chaos.But atleast these videos give peace

Yes. These are facts and this is helpful but to be frank the whatsapp groups like to see derogatory memes and sanskar wale messages (about women) but at the same time if we share anything like this they will raise eyebrows as in why this has been shared. Feel sad about my generation and next-generation boys.

When men and women are equal, then women also should share equal EMi loans, bills,home rents, restaurant bill,and everything as 50 50 %..right.

You are an 'Awesome Realist' sir !! Hats off to your wisdom !! Your wisdom is the need of the hour for almost all the adults. 👏👏👏👏👏👏 We love you for this 💖

F: I think it was Feminist. Let me tell you why, Men has also covered the distance you are talking about around 70-80% of my friends know how to cook, how to handle babies, in fact most of my friend's kids are more loved and attached to the father than mother as they are giving more time to them than mothers. One of your point was valid, women were oppressed a lot and now they are evolving but for the current scenario i still see women of my age group don't know how to drive only 10% can drive that to not for long distances. Now am glad women are earning even more than men, but they are now more money focused and very less focused towards marriage and family. The number of unmarried women's has increased drastically, You haven't covered this part that why is it happening as it is connected to topic. There is huge problem, women are also not able adjust with men even without in-laws and there are many cases like this. So to be realistic you have to cover for man and women both. As even if both are earning still women feel men has to handle the house expenses and women is earning for herself(that's again not for every woman i am talking about but largely that is the case). I am not making this up, i meet friends and they feel this and share this problem. So i would say this was from the stand point of Females majorly and the male part was not covered.

Sir you are doing are really fantastic job... it's really amazing too see someone comming up with these topics.. your guidance is valuable...also you are a very enthusiastic person

Sir, you are a realist. So much to learn from you.

Mazaaa agaya. No one talks about these topics. I just keep on listening you sir. Like a elder uncle. Giving unbiased advice. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.