I'm 57 and its ok! My brain is just as busy as it always was, full of ideas and creativity. I think you do need to consciously look after your health and make sure you out and fo and learn new things. I'm studying part time with a view to move to a different job for my last ten or so years of work. I still love dressing up and going out. Am i less good looking? Definitely. Am i less valued by society? Quite possibly, but I'm still having a pretty good time. Love that young people like you are being so thoughtful.

It's so sad that women are instilled with the ticking clock idea and also believing their value is derived from their looks. It's so toxic. Loved your thoughts on this topic and your optimism in the face of those ideas. Wisdom also comes from life experiences that challenge your assumptions about the world or people, but you also need the reflection to get the full benefit from those experiences. AND there is power in building up your emotional resilience through pure self reflection, I really resonated with that.

Thank you for making this video. As I am approaching my 29th birthday, I too feel that I am becoming invisible or I fear becoming invisible to men and as you mentioned about yourself, I spent my teenage and mid twenty years hiding in a cave, reflecting and making sense of me and the world and only in the last 2 years I have been able to come forth with tiny stepts. However, I agree that femininity is not just about being beautiful, sought after and lusted over- wisdom is crucial too. Hypatia being an example of that! Thank you again! ✨️

Im 40 this year and realized that my age (not my body or face) was a problem.. you earned a subscriber❤

What a strange and happy coincidence, that I stumbled across your video. I have been struggling with the idea of getting older for half a year now. It began when I noticed two very small forehead wrinkles that didn't fully vanish anymore when I stopped frowning. I'm only 25, but I kind of began thinking that this is a sign that I'm going to die soon. My whole life I looked "too young for my age" and I've been hit on by men that were then surprised that I am older than 18. I must have internalised, that my value as a woman is tied to my youthful appearance. I hated it but simultaneously enjoyed the advantages. I have never been scared of aging, even looked forward to it, as I hoped to get taken more seriously and be more confident as a member of society. Now at the very first sign of aging, I was terrified and thought I have wasted my precious youth during the last couple of years in my own cave. I thought my life was over. It is getting better again day by day. Your video was a very nice reminder, that aging is not a death sentence, even for a woman.

Jokes on you I always was invisible.

There are a good handful of accounts in the Bible of older wise women who single-handedly saved the day for all of society.

Society valuing female youthfull beauty might be the biggest trap for women, harming their personnal growth and true equality: Becoming invisible with age doesn't hurt most men because they are invisible from the start. Men that are not tall and naturally very handsome are invisible to women and society, and are forced to developp practical and social skills, physical and mental strength, build up their career and their social status, be usefull, bring value to society. Only then may they become visible and desirable, generally in their 30s or 40s. And most men (short, or low income, low socially skilled men) stay invisible their entire life. For example, most women can't handle rejection as well as men. That's because most women rarely have to. Rejection is an essential part of most men's life. They learn how to handle it because there's absolutely no way around it. Young men's personnal growth comes from that incentive, that might lack to young women. I believe becoming invisible will stop being a problem, and true equality between women and men will appear, when female youthfull beauty stop being put on a pedestal, when being "visible" is something to be earned, not dropped on girls when they get their adult body and removed around 30. I hope this take can be usefull.

Beautiful words, you are a blessing to humanity. “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding." Proverbs 4:7 Wisdom grows greater in time, whereas beauty can fade with time. Nice to have outter beauty but true beauty such as wisdom is eternal!

You have a very soft aura

This video was such a gem to find! I’ve intentionally been on this wisdom-oriented journey for almost a decade now. And I’ve notice everything you’re saying along the way… It’s not simply “valuing femininity beyond what makes it pleasurable for others”. It’s beyond and above what makes it pleasurable and convenient for men. There was never such thing as “Be a woman!”, because growing up into womanhood increases the gap between fraud men and women, and therefore makes it impossible for fraud men to consume a woman’s resources (including her ideas) to feed their false sense of superiority, power and strength. It cuts the narrative of women dedicating their lives to the development of a man, instead of their own. No wonder so many so called men are struggling more than ever, as more and more women refuse to live for men and choose to live for their own individuality’s development. The presence of a woman is absolutely fundamental to the human development, and they know it. But instead of recognizing its importance and respect it and feed it, they chose exploitation and control (as a way the keep the source of supply). In fact, attacking women’s sense of self and worth is fundamental and instrumental to keep women as voluntary slaves to fraud men, long after the so called “women’s prime”. And, as you said, wisdom is not desired by those who are not in the path of truth and development. But those who are not life-truth-oriented don’t deserve wisdom anyway. It’s brave of you to talk about this. Great pieces of wisdom you got on this channel!

such a valuable message 💗💗

I am a 65 yo white divorced male with a son. Only relevant for demographics....I watched a couple of her videos and .I think this women has valuable things to say. She is careful, concise with profound honesty....a breath of fresh air. I find most women in her age group and women in general today lost. And I mean fundamentally lost. Wrong assumptions, wrong information ......lost. They would have to have their hard drive wiped to have a chance in life. I wish her luck and success.

May i just say, you have a very calming voice. Best of luck to you 🌸

Thank-you for this video and the beauty and the wisdom of its message. I'd never heard of you or this channel until this video popped up in my recommendations. I'm glad I came! I'm 54 and never married, never had children. These were both dreams of mine, and I let go of both of them in my mid to late 30s. I wasn't giving them up fully, but I began to accept that they might not happen for me. It really saddened me at the time, and sometimes it still does, but, overall, it no longer bothers me and I love being single and living on my own, with just my cat. I've always embraced my femininity as a positive thing, although there were times when I was uncomfortable with it, of course, namely during adolescence and when men would look at me in a certain way. But for the most part, I've always viewed it as a good thing. About a year after I had my last period, in February 2021, I went through a really tough time, realising that my time of being able to have children was over for good. As I said, I'd already accepted that I would most likely never have children years earlier, but there was something about the physical reality of it that hit me like nothing else ever has. It was really hard for me knowing that that part of what made me a woman was gone forever. I talked to my mom and a very dear friend of mine about it, and they both related in different ways. For my mom, who'd had her tubes tied after my brother was born in 1972, she'd accepted that part of things a long time before she was even close to starting menopause. She said that going through menopause, though, made it more real and final. It didn't hit her in the same way that it had hit me because she was married and had children, but she was still a great support for me. The friend, on the other hand, had been married for a long time, but her hubby wasn't able to father children, and neither of them ever wanted to adopt. So she never had children, either. She could relate to me in a way that no one else I talked to at the time could. She went through menopause a few years before me. We cried together and were just there for each other. She hadn't had any kind of sympathetic support when she went through the change. She and I decided to focus on this new part of our lives and embracing our new form of femininity. We jokingly call ourselves The Wise Old Crones, and some other women have joined us in this. Womanhood is a very special thing, and it should be celebrated at all stages, not just during youth and the most fertile years. During that time, too, there are lots of women unable to physically have children due to various health reasons, like some other women I know, and it's a very hard time for them as well, the so-called fertile years. Women are valuable and important at every age and at every stage, and, while I fully understand the focus on youth and the time of life when women are supposed to be able to have children and become mothers, that's not necessarily the best time of a woman's life. I know that for me, while I loved my teens (once I got past the awkward early years of that) and my twenties, I really didn't start to come into my own until my late thirties or so. I became more confident in my mid thirties, and I really started to truly embrace myself for myself, not for what was expected of me or how others saw me (or how I thought others saw me). I feel more free now than I did when I was a lot younger, and I've heard other women say that as well. Thanks again for sharing your wonderful thoughts about this with us in this video, and I'm sorry that my comment is so long. I've always had trouble being short and sweet when I write stuff. :)

As a person whose phd is in the world of social gerontology, there's so much to think about here regarding the gendered nature of internalized ageism. Your points remind me of Margaret Morganroth gulette, a critical gerontologist. She even crafted a crone goddess named "Senexa" that embodies both the value of old age and the need to end ageism. Part of this is an appreciation of age and the unique value of wisdom that experience brings, but also a realization that we are aged by a culture that stigmatizes growing old and we should reject those values. Something to consider here is that wisdom will not simply come as you grow older. Gerontologist Bill Thomas rejects this, saying that there's no fool quite like an old fool. Wisdom often comes from pain and introspection, sometimes even pursued voluntarily. And even then it isn't a guarantee. It takes real deliberate work to cultivate. Then again, I challenge hinging the value of wisdom as a signal that aging is valuable. I think we need to reject the premise that people's value is anything but intrinsic. Otherwise, you're centering on wisdom will fall flat as cognitive impairments become more common with age. There are many old people who do not have the capacity to wisdom due to diseases such as dementia, yet they can still provide and experience joy for themselves and others. They have the capacity to be valuable despite their wisdom not because of it.

They only say that. They'll still hit on you. Don't worry about it 😉

Thanks Reine, I admire your story telling skills. You inspire me in ways that I feel can increase my potential and I appreciate that. Here’s a story of my own and I hope it makes sense. When I was a simple young sapling I started playing this game with myself. If there was a moment where I could visualize an upcoming milestone in my life I would try to remember that moment, the moment I thought of it. I would tell myself that I would be there someday and remember the moment where I first visualized it. At the moment it seemed like a long time but the closer I got the less time it would be. I remember when I would reach that milestone I would feel connected with my former self. I thought “Wow I’m already here” Every time I set a milestone, I would try to go further and further into the future. Until I realized that I’m already on my death bed. That’s as far as I can go. So now that I’m already there, might as well do the most I can. Now I go out and do things. My favourite part about doing things is that it makes things happen. Try to Believe you can make a lot of things happen and you will.

The Ancient Greeks understood this as these different aspects of womanhood were not embodied by one being, but by three separate deities: Athena (wisdom), Aphrodite (beauty), and Hera (womanhood).

This is true, but honestly we men are mostly invisible already since early 20's

Fair or not, men get better with age while women just age.😂

Society valuing female youthfull beauty might be the biggest trap for women, harming their personnal growth and true equality: Becoming invisible with age doesn't hurt most men because they are invisible from the start. Men that are not tall and naturally very handsome are invisible to women and society, and are forced to developp practical and social skills, physical and mental strength, build up their career and their social status, be usefull, bring value to society. Only then may they become visible and desirable, generally in their 30s or 40s. And most men (short, or low income, low socially skilled men) stay invisible their entire life. For example, most women can't handle rejection as well as men. That's because most women rarely have to. Rejection is an essential part of most men's life. They learn how to handle it because there's absolutely no way around it. Young men's personnal growth comes from that incentive, that might lack to young women. I believe becoming invisible will stop being a problem, and true equality between women and men will appear, when female youthfull beauty stop being put on a pedestal, when being "visible" is something to be earned, not dropped on girls when they get their adult body and removed around 30. I hope this take can be usefull.