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They are not. There are many cases where adoptees are systematically abused tortured and exploited by the adoptive families. You do not know half of it!! Ignorance is the downfall of humanity! International adoption is human trafficking and it´s criminal human trafficking, warfare and a way to enslave ppl. Its been used for that for centuries.

I hope you are happier than the moment you left the message. Let them speaking, let them judging, you are not what in their mouth or in their mind. You are you, a true, self-loved and angel person. Be yourself, and enjoy your life!

Hmm, you must have been part of the early '90s wave. Kids adopted in the '00 had a relatively developed internet by their teen years.

That's what I'm afraid of. When the adoption involves lots of money, you wonder where the money went. The jobs in China created by these adoption agency and profit for government. So worrying.

The stolen babies were boys only...

Hi,did it cost much money to adopt a child in china at that time?

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so sad :(

@Advant Garde Not just that, but a lot because of the one child policy so there were a lot of abandoned babies. In Korea also there are a lot of adopted children to foreigners because of the war and accidental pregnancies etc and Korean's are not big on adopting other people's children so they tend to get adopted out. Very sad. In India a lot of girls are given up as well because having a boy is more profitable and stable. A lot of babies and children during these times either get out up for adoption, abandoned or killed.

Rey Rey they probably should not search for their biological parents at all. Any Chinese will tell you so. In some places in China, especially in poor villages in Jiangxi and fujian provinces, people strongly prefer boys than girls, they would try everything until they get a boy. If they can’t, they adopt a boy from relatives. With strict one child policy they just abandon baby girls. There are studies from Chinese scholars showing in certain period, the recorded gender birth rate is extremely unbalanced, one can only guess why. When the policy is not so strict, they raise them as helpers of their little brother. One huge problem from it is that in these areas nowadays young men are outnumbered women thus it’s difficult to get married, and the family of women usually asks for tons of money to agree for marriage. Guess who is paying the money for the little brother to get married? Big sisters! They also have to help with buying house and car: standard start for marriage in China. I watched many videos of adoption and get moved each time. so happy for the adopted kids. They are so lucky to have the loving parents and family. Their biological parents don’t deserve them. There are cases that some girls found birth parents in the end, who fake crying and say how much they love the girl, only hoping to get financial help from her. I hope the adopted kids never have to meet them and find out the ugly truth.

yao sun You may be right. I’m just thinking for those who really want it - then registering into a DNA database to find matches is the right way to go.

@@yaosun1646 A lot of children were flat out stolen. A lot of Chinese parents ARE interested in finding their children. This is a very difficult situation indeed. But please don't paint all Chinese with the same brush.

Children in orphanage are usually abandoned, not stolen. There is a scandal though, that mainly between 2000 and 2005 in Shaoyang city, staffs from Population and Family Planning Commission took babies away from many parents and put them in orphanage for adoption. For these families, of course I hope they find each other soon. Except for these rare cases, usually the stolen kids don't end up in adoption system, but human trafficking: boys as sons, and girls as current labor and future wife of their sons to avoid huge payment for marriage. They have little chance to be found and rescued, let alone making decisions of anything. And It is not about nationality at all. I am Chinese, that is why I know these things. Most people in any country are just normal people. I wrote down the names of places where these happened a lot in the past. Again, any Chinese will tell you the same story why there are so many adopted girls from China. People who abandoned their kids don't deserve kids.

no way...many prefer not. so sad to think of the past

It doesn't sound like you've researched this very well if you're asking questions on a KZfaq comment section. Adoption is a very serious business. People don't adopt to give their child a playmate. Special needs adoptions are all that's available in China with varying degrees of medical needs depending on what family can handle. Btw good news is that an older child (5-10 like you mentioned) adoption is one of the easier kinds to do and you can get grants for that.

A child is not a perfect doll

Yeah, you are right! Thank you for the suggestion. I really wish I was able to find more adoptees.

@@SummerHailstones its definitely a hard thing to talk about, especially on camera haha. but as a Chinese adoptee I have a hard and complicated relationship with it, even though my adoptive parents are good people who mean the best.

Wow, you are an adoptee. That's why I felt you know much more about the topic than I do. Have you been to China to search for your birth parents?

no, theres no records either so its pretty much a dead end :/@@SummerHailstones

oh....well...But anyway, you can visit China if you want to see the place where you were born. It would be still very nice to know.

there are abandoned kids in every country.

Specially girls boys r most valuable 😢

There's a lot though due to 1 child policy at that time.

How does the government steal babies? Do they just walk up to the family and say give me your baby and they do?

Because most people want to adopt a child younger than 6 and in the U.S it's actually really hard to be able to adopt a child younger than 6. The U.S is always trying to keep children with their biological families if possible. If any reason they can't keep them with their parents, locating other families or the family is unstable etc just a lot of it comes into play. The children are put in the foster care system until all those can get resolved. The only real way to able to go through with adoption here if the family foster to adopt which can take years and during the whole process any biological family member can come in and take back the child. It has happened before. So technically it's a little easier to adopt internationally because they are guaranteed a child if the family is accepted through the program.

Also there a priority list in the U.S too. First dips goes to couples that can not physically have a child. If they already have children depending on how many you have you get put towards the bottom of the list for adoptions. I watch a lot of adoption videos and parents explaining why they chose to adopt internationally instead of within the U.S.

@@HopesUAllDie Thank you for explaining this to me.

An there are times when God puts it on your heart or gives you a vision, like in my case to adopt overseas!

Annie Hall Why not research it yourself to find the answers? I think you'll be surprised at the differences in scenarios. It's also very interesting that you apparently think one kind of orphan is more deserving than another.

China's population would have been around 3-4 billion right now... more than half of the world's population

Lets not forget Obama started war in three countries on three different continents too, murdering millions of people who have the will to live and take care of their families

@@TsarOfRuss that doesn't justify killing millions of Innocent girls child . You killed them because you wanted son not because you wanted to control population.

As somebody that knows plent yof people in China i can say that it is certainly not an accepted practice in China. Maybe there are people who do it, maybe some even think it is ok, but that is certainly not the norm.

Granted USA has enough people. But if couples cannot conceive, then they adopt. That is the choice of childless couples. Greetings from Switzerland.

@@user-ot1jo2mp3h well said.!