Start teaching this in school. It shouldnt be a secret or something you have to figure out the hard way.

Abusers are master manipulators. They know how to sweet talk you, break you down, isolate you from friends & family and then they stick their claws in you and the HEAVY abuse begins. I had no idea how the brain chemistry of a domestic abuse victim changes until I myself was a victim. The threats, the gaslighting, the torture, then the apologies come and the honeymoon phase sets in and you get pulled back in. Then the abuser gets triggered by something so trivial and you’re getting screamed at again. I finally broke free when my abuser set me free. It took him crashing on his motorcycle to wake him up and let me go.

I'm sad you didn't even address non-physical violence. Your partner doesn't have to hit you to be abusive. Emotional abuse is just as bad for a person, even if it doesn't leave physical marks and scars. It's a MUCH wider problem than physical abuse and NEEDS to be addressed. It doesn't matter if they've never hit you. If you're scared of them, you shouldn't be there. Get away. They shouldn't isolate you from having friends or being close to your family. They shouldn't act like a different person in public instead of private. They shouldn't make you feel guilty or coerce you into things you aren't comfortable with doing. If your partner makes you feel unsafe or question you sanity, GET HELP and get AWAY from them. Run if you have to. Violence never starts with fists. It's starts with words. Get out before it escalates.

I think the first thing that should be made aware in public is that abuse usually starts with positive behavior such as love bombing and such, also idolization, for example, is also a form of control. Another thing is that abuser is not going to do it all the time and will twist the concept, such as saying that each relationship has up and down or everyone has flaws so when the others start thinking about leaving, they don't. The concept that it is not about violence behavior is crucial to be educate too. Even though you don't have any bruised or never got hit doesn't mean it is not abuse.

Society underestimate celibacy. Really. Like you have to be with someone. You don't.

Verbal,emotional abuse, jealousy, disrespecting boundaries are the first sign of an abuser. Anyone who experiences abuse during childhood are usually abusers so ask the person about their childhood.

The abusers need to be the ones who are made by police to leave. It isn't a real solution for a person who is being abused to "go to a shelter". That is their home. A violent perpetrator should not be rewarded with the residence. They should be in jail or made to go somewhere else.

My sister is married to an abusive husband. It’s horror. It not only affects her but all of us. Especially my mother. And she always goes back. And every time, the blow up is worse. And we worry. It’s horrible.

Extreme anxiety is one of the signs of abuse, it prevents the victim from separating from the abuser, it results in a complete meltdown of the victim. You can be sure that the victim was emotionally and psychologically abused and drove to a physical altercation. The victim usually experiences trauma bonding, they can't understand that they are being abused and take the blame upon themselves. The abuser is usually the rational one and acts in control. Psychopaths usually joke and laugh with the law enforcement and act friendly but that's all an act. Unfortunately, we will never know what kind of relationship they had unless she confided about her struggles to someone close to her. Usually, those couples look perfect on the surface but very toxic behind closed doors. Rip Gabby, I hope your story will address domestic violence and psychopathy on a different level. We have to educate children, so they wouldn't become easy prey for psychopaths.

I was sexually and emotionally abused years ago.My sisters,one who was a advocate for women,said I gave as good as I got.I have suffered anxiety and panic attacks since then.I had nowhere to go at the time.I still feel so much anger towards my abuser.To have the abuse not believed is so devastating and adds so much to the trauma.I have never resolved the feelings felt from the trauma.I feel so much for anyone going through this.At least today it is more openly talked about. Much love to anyone going through this.

Most don't tell anyone. Once you tell someone, they throw it in.your face and think you can just immediately leave. Or...they tell the abuser what you said and cause harm. So no, not everyone reaches out. Most just live in hell.

So many times there is the violence, then the acting normal and loving. The abused person then gets so confused wondering if it is really their fault and life has a dream quality.

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this video says nothing about how to spot the warning signs of abuse.

By the time some family member's observe domestic violence, she's already been going through it a while. Some families do not help the victim, they help the perpetrator. Especially if the perpetrator knows how to fool everyone. I've seen that happen before.

i was very forthcoming about my abuse, unafraid of my abuser talking about his abuse right infront of him to others. i paid for it in silence, with him, and especially with the ones i told thinking i was just trying to shame him. i was just begging for help. i was never a submissive fearful victim, so i guess that’s why no one cared to look. i spoke too loudly of my trauma that it fell on deaf ears

"how to spot warning signs of abuse"... A slap across the face is a huge warning sign.

I never understood how woman are not called out for being abusive, It blows my mind...

One of the ways to instantly spot if the one you're dating is physically abusive is by conducting background check, especially if they have history of cases already. Once you found out that they have previous records, please save yourself and walk away from them as early as you can. Do this before taking relationships in deeper level.

How about addressing how to spot an abuser?

This video is necessary. People (men or women) be so quick to abuse and mistreat people! Life matters. Don't let anyone subject you to a relationship where there is abuse. Its not nothing to get used to, nothing to be quiet about.

They will isolate you from your friends & family and make you think they all hate you.

I'm a survivor of dating violence

If a man raises his hand on you just once, you are in fact in an abusive. You shouldn't need an "expert" to tell you this and if you do, well than god help you.

I have been years in a heavy mentally and physically abusive relationship as well and i would always take the blame on me too, it is a mix of fear and a result of the mental abuse, they always make us truely believe it is our fault and we somehow believe we deserve it, my abusive ex always made me feel guilty for everything and i ended up believing everything he said, i was 17 years old and he was 31, i stayed with him till i was 23 years old, i am still dealing with depressions etc and PTSD, even now after 12 years (almost 13) he still stalks me and is obsessed with me, i am lucky i got away and survived his last attack that almost got me killed, if it wasn't for the police arresting him i would have never break free from him, i have been shot at and been cut with knives, i never dared to leave him as his threats were very clear, not only the treats of killing me but also my parents made me stay with him, he was stopped because he shot at me and the neighbours heard the gun shot and called the police (weapons in my country are illegal) so the police came over very fast and they barged in with 15 ME (special police force) and arrested him and put him in jail, his last attacks were on my birthday 31 december and even now almost 13 years later my birthday never has been the same again... it sadly always reminds me of that day seeing my family distressed, upset, crying and not knowing what to say because happy birthday wasn't something they wanted or could say.

I had a 6 year CO-DEPENDANT SOMETIMES VIOLENT "RELATIONSHIP". 20 years later SOBER AND SINGLE. It's a TOXIC RELATIONSHIP and BOTH have SOME kind of ISSUE. WE BOTH DRANK. I DIDN'T KNOW my partner was also doing coke. Speaking of 6 it took 6 POLICE OFFICERS to remove HER from MY HOME. #ADDICTION in many cases keeps ppl STUCK. THERE IS HELP. I HOPE VICTIMS FIND IT. 💖 #AA

I am against domestic abuse. Women should never suffer domestic abuse. Women, children, and men should be free from domestic abuse, free from bullying, and free from sexual abuse. Good men and good women should stand up for victims.

In the Gabby case the person that called in to officers saw Brian strike her pretty good indication if u ask me. The sad thing is when u are young u want to protect the person u think u love. Well don't !!!!! That is the 1st mistake. After that the person thinks i got away with it once i will continue. When they tell people oh she is the one crazy or he is. Pretty good indication they are setting u up in case something happens in future thinking the crazy person will go to jail since they are already reported crazy by the abuser.

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Patriarchial society 200 women are murdered every month in America by their husbands or boyfriends. Never mind women in Afghanistan having it rough and tough.

⚠️▶️When getting to know/date someone randomly tell them no! No long explanations.. just "no im going to stay home tonight. " Telling them no usually gets a response indicative of who they really are.

Men get abused too! Talking from experience!

One of the other favorite saying for a male abuser is oh she is drunk or on meds . When most likely they are the one. Drunk or on meds. Plus i watched that video with Gabby and Dork he was definitely hiding something in that van surprised the officers did not search it. Everytime they wanted to get something he basically jumped up i will get it.

NONE OF THESE SIGNS WERE THERE AND I WAS STILL IN A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SITUATION IMA SURVIVOR 🙏

Well in back days not much was said what was .Now u understand it more .includes fam friend relationship coworker street etc etc.

That's 28,800 people per day abused 😳

They should have certain Police Unit stations officers assign to just DV cases

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I am Dialysis patient… my husband is abuse whenever there is small arugument … only he has to talk not me …?if I speak up he tries to break things around he doesn’t even the kid is around. He tries blame me for everything. I am still staying with due to my health condition and dependent and I have special needs son I am just helpless.

Never let a partner exclude you from your family, like take you to another country. Then they'll get to abuse you without you getting help.

It seems like those (male) police officers missed all of the warning signs regarding Brian Laundrie. Most likely, they were probably too busy forming negative judgements about the "emotional female" who was taking all of the blame/ blaming herself.

How much is a bodycam? I feel.like civilians should wear cams too for future evidence.

Do I have to wait till he hurt me Physical to call the police? For me hurts more the words and the way he treats me.

Please. I called the police twice. They are useless.

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After the last few months I'm starting to think that all the DV pamphlets USCIS gave me were a warning

Ok so things are great at first but then emotional abuse starts Or the man or woman doesn’t do basic things like pick up the “ significant other “ from work. Spends money, spends time away from the other. Those are signs yet people don’t move on! Forget about working things out. When the Lies and disrespect begin it’s over just face reality and move on!

Yeah a someone calling 911 saying there is a 180lb man hitting a 115lb women in the head should be a dead giveaway but wasn't good enough for Utah police to save a girl's life. Here's hoping the general public finds her murderer and deliver vigilanty justice because the criminal justice system already failed at that job so miserably.

I could stop this but nobody will let me.

Our lives matter ❤️❤️❤️❤️

I have domestic violence in the home but I don’t know who is at fault necessary…….😂

My neighbors hector angle Jackie and her sister domestic volience verbal abuse

When I listen to people talking about this subject I fall under the impression that it only happens to women.

Be relaxed lady

We need to know the first time is the last. No second chance. No mean no. The first he or she curse, leave. Ist strike call the police.

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Listen I don’t think women need a domestic violence expert to teach them about the early warning signs of abuse the first and second slap should be enough to know What relationship you’re in

If we saw gay couple slap each other, can it include domestice violence or just 2 guys brawling... 🤔

Men need to be taught that they do not have to tolerate the abuse that so many of them endure. Woman need to be encouraged to, if not demanded to, be accountable for and control their emotions, thoughts, and behavior.

Asking way too much of teachers.

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The cops blamed her. Isn't that pathetic.

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The sad thing about all of the stuff with women and how women have it hard but men when they get sexually assaulted or they are in situations like this like domestic violence people don't care because they're mad and they can deal with everythingThe sad thing about all of the stuff with women and how women have it hard but men when they get sexually assaulted or they are in situations like this like domestic violence people don't care because they're mad and they can deal with everything

Better to go to a womens' shelter where you will be protected.

Lol. Worse than the taliban!!!!

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She has 2 DVs on her criminal record.

I have absolutely no sympathy, sadness, or pity whatsoever for women who are victims of domestic violence as such women showed extreme stupidity and idiocy to have gotten involved with their abusive men to begin with while rejecting nice, docile men for boyfriends/husbands.

Halt!! It was mental health issues on both sides of this story. They both hit and scratched.

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