I have been dealing with this for eight years and I’m exhausted. I’ve been smeared on every social media platform and stalked no matter what account I open up and it doesn’t matter what I do they always find me and spread lies. I haven’t done anything to deserve this level of insanity.
@samhill-cr2dn Жыл бұрын
You might be hacked kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ittyqZl0zK6sZqc.html
@Butterflyyyy9 Жыл бұрын
@Michael Most differently he is not the only one.. Just continue to live your best life and ignore ignore ignore them
@traveloguedog2730 Жыл бұрын
Sounds like someone is providing them information OR they've tapped into something
@Take_Risk9980 Жыл бұрын
Swear to God I’ve been going through the same thing for the last two years it’s been pure hell, they have destroyed every job I’ve gotten by telling lies so my financial situation is so messed up. Swear to God it takes all I have not to shoot one of these people when I notice them following me. I’ve thought about crashing out and throwing my life away just to prove a point by shooting one setting an example so just maybe they think twice about doing to another person with there weird evil ass. Even if that means me going to jail for the rest of my life.They have even tried poisoning me with some type of poison that makes me dame near have a stroke or heart attack so that’s why I’m to the point of just shooting the next weird mf I catch following me and they just don’t know how close they are to one of them losing there life but they will regret fk with me because that blood will be on there hands
@shawnwomack3446 Жыл бұрын
It's called gang stalking. I've been dealing with the same thing. Whether it's online or out in public, I'm harassed.
@andrealea23697 жыл бұрын
Abuse by proxy -- it is so much more pervasive than anyone can see. And once the system, authorities, become invested in the abuser's fantasy, there is very little the victim can do to walk away unscathed. I've seen it happen, to others and myself, ever since I was an aware teenager. Great channel!
@andrealea23697 жыл бұрын
Lonely Lesbian Lady I had to delete Facebook and linked in, so I can empathize. They want to isolate and alienate you,maybe so you won't have any real friends;they want you to feel like they do. Finally stopped putting up anonymous handles because mine will be on jail soon -- it's a federal crime to tape someone's phone ( and hack).
@andrealea23697 жыл бұрын
Lonely Lesbian Lady I want there to be no doubt whatsoever that they know who they are victimizing so I can prove that it is personal - not just some random trolls creeping around the internet. And it is creepy that the losers have nothing better to do than harass someone they really don't know. I mean who's the bigger loser here? I will still always get to be me and they will still always have to be them. You want to put them aback, use your real name. They won't do that in this cyber hall of smoke and mirrors. That's because they know what they do is shameful.
@amandalouw22956 жыл бұрын
Its insane!!!! They want to gaslight u back at the ranch they are insane😱
@amandalouw22955 жыл бұрын
You have no idea disgusting comes to mind
@goldenexperience42653 жыл бұрын
Yup
@salinacarter43359 жыл бұрын
My former boyfriend is a complete narcissist. He is currently on a smear campaign yet again, against my son. I've been doing my research and I'm two steps ahead of him. Karma will deal with him someday.
@reresmith411511 жыл бұрын
When my Narc realize he could not control me...He tried to use his family members to abuse me....I stood up to them as well...it did not work....then he tried other methods of abuse until it became violent & them I left......never to look back again.....free at last.
@matthewash18626 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what's happening to me and it's extremely frustrating that nobody is able to see that this is what's going on. The smear campaign is so pervasive and thorough that people are actually under the impression that it's warranted.
@c09s282 жыл бұрын
Has it gotten any better since this post?
@techmail5820 Жыл бұрын
And me too! the stupid mind games are so lame, its pathetic! The social media its just nonsense with these clowns! my computer and phone are being bugged and I'm not impressed of how far these clowns are willing to go with their nasty games.
@POV00005 Жыл бұрын
🎯🎯🎯
@Take_Risk9980 Жыл бұрын
I’m going through the same situation and I’m far from a shitty person but whoever started this has been obsessed with me and they finally got others to believe there lies told about me. Swear if I find out exactly who it is ima crash out and nomatter if they at work or home or anywhere swear ima do something that just mite stop those same weirdos from ganging up on anyone else period especially a innocent person like me.
@kathiewippel75512 жыл бұрын
Abuse by proxy is used when the abuser(s) want to keep their positive image in place. If you’ve got two they tag-team. If one cannot trigger the victim the other takes over.
@Mustbeluve3 ай бұрын
This is unbelievable truth 💯 %
@Dev-jq8ch7 жыл бұрын
my mother used church members and my own siblings, my grown daughter uses police, teachers, family members and her own siblings. They're very good at what they do.
@mattlogan50987 жыл бұрын
don't give these assholes credit they dont deserve they are looking for a name for them selves the pussys have to earn it
@RahWar884 жыл бұрын
They're only as good as the one who does nothing
@markferris49988 жыл бұрын
I was stalked for from 2008-2015,they sabotaged my relationships they made up stories and told people to stay away from me.,hacked into my computer,put spy ware on my cell phone,got my fired from 2 jobs,got me kicked out of school,bankrupted me. They seem to get everyone around you to go along with their games and harassed you they followed me from California and chased me all the way to Texas and the harassment continued,they try to communicate with you through other people saying thing like "Were not going to let you start a new life" and other terrifying comments like "If you keep talking Sh..t about people were going to come get you and f,,k your shit up> They get people to pose as romantic interests and come on to you at work and tried to turn it around saying that i was the one who come on to them and tried to get me fired at 4 of my jobs in a row.I went through 7 jobs trying to evade them but they seem to track me down and start the harassment over again. they followed me back to California and they found me and started the harassment again, The books are rite "they will never stop:. The Police thought that I was the crazy one and that I am just being paranoid and should see a shrink and offered no help at all. You cannot run, you cannot hide,they will track you down pretending that they are so worried about you and all of the things you are going through and just want help, that is they want to find you and continue doing what they have been doing "Terrorize and harass you " sabotage your relationships,your jobs ect.. what ever they can do to keep you terrorized.. Still being stalked
@donaldglennprohaska63788 жыл бұрын
+Mark Ferris Understand had many of the same things happen to me
@andrealea23697 жыл бұрын
You are not alone on that one. But guess what, you will always get to be you, and they will always have to be them;.
@robdrich85567 жыл бұрын
You are not really you anymore after prolonged narc abuse. you end up with ptsd or worse you become a narc yourself.
@deelight40975 жыл бұрын
If you choose to you can read my story. It almost the same as yours. Many blessings to you Dearheart... lovenlight
@deelight40975 жыл бұрын
Mark, this is divine wisdom again. I'm hoping my story doesn't get deleted by the narcs in my life. This too happens to me when I share my experience, hope and strength with others regarding narcissistic abuse.
@bunniewilder25156 жыл бұрын
I'm dealing with this right now. Thanks for the video.
@costadura110 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr Vaknin. Just wish the justice system would be trained on this when child custody is used to destroy parents.
@taraarrington2285 Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately what people don't realize is it's a business like any other so usually Whoever has the most money is the one who gets the influence or gets what they want basically
@wendyrosen31794 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Sam. I am sitting here crying tears of joy at hearing your words. The people who REALLY love me are the ones like you, who understood what I have been living through. Few have ever understood how gang stalkers operate. I was isolated by it for 27 years. Now, because of lawsuits and a few real friends, and videos like yours, I and my two daughters are finally getting freedom from a narcissist man. Thank you!
@fasttrackblastback8286 Жыл бұрын
You understand that this man is a narcissist also?
@eugeniebryan5384 жыл бұрын
Has anyone ever been able to prove this? I’m at my wits end. There’s only so much a human can take. I trust no one.
@Greeny_isthegoat3 жыл бұрын
Boundaries
@kathiewippel75512 жыл бұрын
No. Which is one reason why they do it. Psychological abuse that leave no physical marks.
@mpoppins15286 жыл бұрын
5 years after divorce and years of court he is now sending flying monkeys at me through his girlfriend on social media and his family contacting the kids offering money . We have no contact and he is hoping I'll bite so he can prove I am crazy. I won't. This is a game they all follow the same rules.
@JephyrX6 жыл бұрын
Have experienced this first hand. Although this video primarily focuses on males as the abuser and females as the victim-I can assure you females are quite capable of perpetuating against male victims-ALL of the abuse and tactics described.
@samvaknin6 жыл бұрын
Female narcissists samvak.tripod.com/faq34.html
@daved39484 жыл бұрын
Yes they are, I've been dealing with a female proxy stalker for the past 10 years. And she's a genius at her craft.
@commonsenseneedtobepractic18613 жыл бұрын
Facts
@deelight40975 жыл бұрын
I read all the comments and listened to your video.I can relate to all of it. I lost 2 jobs bc of this AND two of my closest friends of 40+ years. I've also had 3 Narcs on my tail doing their best to destroy me. One turned a good neighbor against me and put a surveillance camera across the street to watch my every move. Another Narc used the neighbors next-door to me to watch everything I'm doing. Plus, they monitor what I watch on utube. I even caught someone re writing a comment I made on a channel I watched. When I quit one job bc I couldn't take it anymore, my last week there it became evident to me that lies were flying around this assisted living place. The women couldn't even look me in the eyes and the men who lived there all had these big smiles on their face when I walked my client in for lunch. We always sat at the table with his friends except for that day, which was my last day, my client wanted to sit at a table alone. They even practiced my handwriting and stole my journals and read my private thoughts. Some of these journals would show up weeks or months later either with pages ripped out of them or they were rewritten to look like I wrote it. They somehow got the police involved to go against me...so everytime I was robbed I looked like I was crazy or didn't know what the hell I was talking about. Because of the stress, I got shingles a couple of years ago and decided to go to Emergicare. When the doctor and nurse first saw me they were great. At this point, I didn't know what was wrong but I had been in acute pain for 4 days. When the doc and nurse came back into the exam room, about 15 minutes later, I sensed a big shift in their energy. All of a sudden there was nothing they could do for me and I needed to go to the ER at the hospital. I knew, I just knew someone called and told them lies about me. When I showed up at the hospital it was even worse. I felt judged and humiliated. When it was all said and done, the head nurse told me there was NOTHING wrong with me and I could leave. I was devastated. I'd never been treated so badly. I knew there was something wrong bc the pain was so bad I didn't sleep for 2 nights. I, yes I figured it out...I had shingles. I was told to make a follow up appt with my doctor which I did. When I came to my appointment his whole demeanor had changed from my previous visit. I have CHF, congestive heart failure now, I used to be healthy and happy. Anyway, when I showed up for my appointment he was distant and cold...ice cold. At the very end of the appointment I said to him, hey doc, do me a favor and write on my chart that I don't want to be given morphine bc it gave me the worst headache and I couldn't stop itching. He turned around and looked at me and said, "what did you just say?" I knew then that this bitch had gotten to the medical community as well. This is no joke! I'm still being harassed and this has been going on for 7 years now. These people have no bottom they just do worse things to drive you bat shit crazy...to the point where you start to believe that you are certifiable. I'm homebound bc everytime I leave my house, even if it's to go down the street to 7-11, inevitably I see that someone was in my house stealing coffee, sugar toothpaste, garbage bags, cat food. ..and on and on. I did go to see a therapist but never went back bc as I started to tell her my story she gave me this look. I said to her, you think I'm paranoid don't you? She replied, well actually yes I do. And I've been on my own since. I can't talk to anybody about this. It wasnt until I started investigating what was happening that I slowly woke up to the fact that something very dark, very real, and very evil was happening to me. As I stumbled onto the utube channels about narcissist abuse there was no one...not one single person I could talk to about this. I know this is long but if whoever reads this, if it helps you then it's worth it to me. Thank-you Sam for you courage in speaking your truth. Much love to all of you enduring this abuse. Just one more thing, this is so prevalent in today's society and people need to get a clue. This hurts people's lives in every way imagineable. Honestly, I could write a non-fiction suspense book and it would be on the best seller list. If that happened,.at least I'd make back the money that's been stolen from me. However, I'm reluctant to do so bc it would be like reliving the last 7 years again. Once is enuff!
@elisamasilvaalmeida87982 жыл бұрын
Você deve ter vários stalkers, pode confiar em ninguém mais
@jocelynnowen3078 Жыл бұрын
I like what you said about the therapist because it’s true. Often if you go for help your automatically considered mentally unbalanced. Been there done that. Remember that not all therapists are the same. Seek out another. What this person did spying in you is a crime.
@youdontknowmehaters4 ай бұрын
Thank you ❤ sam I've been going through this for many years , the police won't even take ar Report when my Apartment is broken into they think I'm insane, for calling , or don't think there is no evil in this world 🌎,what's. Happen ing is murder , the laws in this country are allowing caritor assassin tion Or trying to get them to commit suicide ❤. Stalking is slow murder. It has to be made a Federal Crime . Needless to say they need to go to Federal prison , then the stalking will 🛑🎉
@youdontknowmehaters4 ай бұрын
I need to say one. More thing stalking LEDs to murder . When a country has to no GOD it cannot have Justice, quote from Saint John of the Cross.
@Aydin21229 жыл бұрын
Don't call them spouses they're more like prisoners
@mantra11556 жыл бұрын
This has been my life!!! Every single word of it accurate!!! My exhole Malignant Narcissist is a practicing psychiatrist, you can't even imagine the Hell on earth he has created for me.
@nmg62482 жыл бұрын
Exhole! I love this term
@elisamasilvaalmeida87982 жыл бұрын
Logo um psiquiatra?
@danacalhoon6779 Жыл бұрын
I’m currently experiencing a smear campaign against me and being gang stalked, phone hacked pic’s deleted and computer monitored . I joined his online group and witnessed many acts of verbal abuse towards myself and others. When I challenged him and stood up for others I became a target. I quietly took the abuse and left the group. The absolute joy he got from convincing the group just how terrible Ii am for me was astounding . Like a kid in a candy store. A high for him. His goal is to ensure I fail at my dreams and to never reach my goal. Finally I’m speaking out about what’s going on and what’s happening to me. I moved on and so should he.. he needs to invest his time in therapy not me.
@cvsmiss75787 ай бұрын
I’m going thru the same
@kjtamf6 жыл бұрын
I think the hardest part of being a victim of evil , is that the victim starts to change & hurts themselves instead of continueing a cycle of abuse. I think it’s hard for victims to deal with , and also when you allow someone to abuse you & forgive them & don’t tell anyone , it sadly gives abusers a lot more power to abuse & revictimise others & the same victim sometimes. I think that’s what makes me angry is that just because someone forgives the actions of others dosnt mean they forgot or are not affected by abusers actions , they forgave . & That isn’t a thing to be abused repeatedly. These evil newly privilidged people may be thriving off stealing lives & creating trauma bonds & abusing Victims ...... but they need to remember just because there victims chose to survive & not thrive in causing others misery does not make them weak . It really means the victims chose to try to forget & forgive. It’s not hard to traumatise or steal & ruin others lives it takes minutes. If I did to people what they did to me ....... I wouldn’t be hurting right now. I pray everyday I don’t do to others what they did to me. But I just want these people that do this to understand there’s nothing clever or better about them. Except there very good at being evil & hiding it ........ but even that didn’t last long. The weird thing is , they had nothing when they did this to me , as soon as they got any property or material things from inheritance or victims , they were gone out of here & the other teenagers grew up & stopped ruining there vulnerable neighbors lives. so in essence they had something to lose in the end & were scared there victims might do it back to them. So really when they had nothing to lose in there lives they abused & robbed & traumatised there community ...... sad thing is they get weird privileges & help . There victims are left suffering lives they didn’t arrive in the community with. That’s not at all justifiable ......
@zer0creative9302 жыл бұрын
They're good at being dishonest, They're good at using your morals against you, and also emotional blackmail. And good at hiding their shit.
@christinehaigh98076 жыл бұрын
Many of them often deliberately degrade anyone they bump into.
@patriciacarrasco12 жыл бұрын
wow this is so accurate how the narcissist can turn someone against you with all their acting, thats all it is - acting. the narc. NEVER shows their true colors to the person theyre trying to convince that theyre really a victim of this crazy, hysterical person. this constantly happens to me to the point that i know i will never win against a narc. its poor me against a person w/ the devil on their side - the father of lies.
@Noniboots6666 жыл бұрын
My ex narc made my life a living hell when i was with him & worse when i left him I lost so many friends due to his madness & smearing everything he is an every nasty thing he's ever done he ran around telling anyone that would listen to his crap that I done those things. I lost some friends due to them being naive & believing him and other friends because they were freaked out with his madness. It made me so depressed for years but now he's just an unemployed angry drunk that no one can stand to be around so in my case the whole karma thing came true
@TheScoopHere11 жыл бұрын
Thank you Sam for enlightening the public to this process of abuse and making available all your educational videos on the topic.
@-musictomyears-13314 жыл бұрын
This video explained the last two years of my life. All I have left from the life I knew are my two small children. Though he was detached and interested in his children, now he suddenly looks like the stable parent. I was practically a single parent in our marriage. he cheats, lies, manipulates, and uses everybody around him. He has shown relentless cruelty and alienation alternated with sexual mind games. It's incomprehensible, especially growing an orphan, that he has shown the capability for such dark torture. Even crazier that everyone has turned against me and believes I'm responsible, as if I took on all his consequences. I fear he will take the most important things, not even wanting them, but to see my pain. I don't usually write on any videos, but I find yours so detailed and insightful. It has given me more confidence in what to expect and that I am not going bat shit crazy. The only thing I wish, is that this topic had a happy ending, magical technique to conquer the painfulness it all brings and to feel safe and empowered. So far it seems as though I have a long hard road to travel, and my children will be dragged behind. Thank you for your time, knowledge, and tools to aid in becoming empowered and healed of all of our unique childhood trauma patters, so we may all strive towards wholeness and compassion in this life.
@RichardTheEdwin13 жыл бұрын
I have read through some of the comments. Religion often has a strong emotional response - each person feel theirs is the right one, the right view... Abuse by Proxy and also involve abuse by peer group. A group which formed due to being a like. peer bonding, I think is the term. A bad personality will not want a good personality around because the good person or personality might not let them do damaging things, so they will tend to try to get rid of the 'good' person
@wendyrosen31794 жыл бұрын
My mother and ex-husband, both of them narcissists, took my children from me and they were kept from me because I did not want to be involved in fundamentalist religion or to live through any more life-threatening abuse, such as my children's lives being threatened, or my being choked to the point hospital intervention was the only thing that saved our lives. Then, I had a very, very few Jewish and Arab friends who spent 15 years keeping me alive. I have had bullets hit my vehicle, broken face bones and teeth, injured spine... other injuries. Some of it was directed my way by a narcissistic ex husband working with my own mother, the other 50% was work and school related. I never heard of either mobbing (work related Flying Monkey Stalkers) or Gang Stalking (when an ex husband or my mother used their influence on people via Flying Monkey Stalkers.) I am an educated woman. This kind of thing is not commonly known. I think Sam's description of it is perhaps the best, most succinct and easily understood description of what it is and how children are used (unknowingly) by the narcissist and his Flying Monkey Squadrons. I plan on buying a copy of his book. I still have a valid faith in my life, but I will NEVER be around fundamentalists again. Far too many of them are very abusive.
@elisamasilvaalmeida87982 жыл бұрын
As vezes familiares são os próprios inimigos, quem faz mal.
@pennyyeomans41155 жыл бұрын
Thank-you. You described my life to a T. I have washed my hands of my mother, the main narcissist. She controls the cult including my ex. She has my kids. Lucky for me she is old and unhealthy. I am just waiting. I can wait.
@zer0creative9302 жыл бұрын
Gossip it ALL STARTS with nasty >>pointless
@kathrynnorrisctmltbsascp29135 жыл бұрын
You're information is Spot On, from Tulsa, Oklahoma.
@ellemonette32903 жыл бұрын
Yes, I can relate. The top abuser loves to put my child in the middle of this craziness because he is the only one that can calm me down and talk any sense into me while going through this gangstalking. Everyone else is hated and will never be trusted. Targeted and gangstalked all of my life. Mostly by those I thought I could trust like my parents, other family members, teachers and counselors. Eventually I realized that it wasn't just them it was many strangers and the government. Born into this craziness being nothing but a lab that and living in a truman show type of reality.
@elisamasilvaalmeida87982 жыл бұрын
Quer dizer, confiando em ninguém, desconfiando de tudo e de todos
@wednesdaygrey2666 жыл бұрын
Very informative video, Sam. In my case the abuser "invented" 3rd party individuals to harass me. The narcopath used fictitious email accounts that sent me threatening messages "on behalf" of the abuser. He also used his friends social media accounts while visiting friends to send me messages and then delete the sent message so the account holder was unaware of what transpired. These individuals are dangerous. Just when you think the harassment has stopped it begins again. There is just as much fear from the silence because it makes the victim anxious about what could happen next.
@wednesdaygrey2666 жыл бұрын
Raman Dhaliwal you are 100 percent correct.
@fionaphillips34584 жыл бұрын
Thank you, this described my situation 100%. I have found it exhausting. Having you describe what we have been living with makes me feel much better, that I haven't imagined it all.
@beammeupscottie711 жыл бұрын
Ex is a narcissist and so is my sister........they are birds of a feather........talk about isolation
@Noniboots6666 жыл бұрын
so is my ex & one of my sisters I don't talk to either of them but they still can't stop their nasty mouths. Funnily enough they also hate each other
@forgetgangstalking86465 жыл бұрын
Do you have any knowledge of Gangstalking and how it relates to narcissism? I know this may sound crazy but I assure you I am a sane person with a masters degree. This is a real phenomenon that is happening to people.
@samvaknin5 жыл бұрын
Why crazy? It is a very real phenomenon which I predicted in 1995: samvak.tripod.com/abuse11.html
@RahWar884 жыл бұрын
Still active and safe? Prayers to you
@RahWar884 жыл бұрын
Danielle Bridgeman this makes no sense , or it suppose to
@jacintanorman74144 жыл бұрын
No it is real ,by gang stalking U mean big circles of people, who all work together to gaslight U,and all have different reasons for doing it,so U have the leader of the gaslighters,and the rest are the gaslighters minions,
@yesvember113 жыл бұрын
I hope you are okay staying safe and taking care of your mental well being. I 100% believe you, that is some very rough stuff to go through.
@opheliaheimat36855 жыл бұрын
All of this is so accurate that it scares me. For the ones that have grown up with that kind of parent it is hell.Having family turned against you is awful, and as well having to leave them behind, but there is a point at which you realize that they are like part of a cult, so they stop to be reachable. The only way is to run away, burn the bridges and never come back, because trying to "save" them you only end up hurting yourself. After watching this video and knowing my tendency to fall for narcissists, I think I have to thank that I've never been married 😂
@plizzo4 жыл бұрын
I worked in risk management at my previous job and my former supervisor has access to tools of public record. You might be surprised how much a normal citizen's life is public record. She can stalk me anywhere. Already had via Facebook to turn a few friends against me. They blocked me for no reason and no longer talk to me. Since it is all silence, I can't prove anything. I am being harassed and belittled at my current job for no reason. The two jobs are nothing alike.
@mikebailey93506 жыл бұрын
Wow! This is whats happening to me now- a smear campain! I have strong support here where I live.But these twisted, demented ass wipes always find an audience for this shit! Just 2 minutes with one of these ass wipes & then justice will be served! Stay strong everyone & God Bless!
@TheScoopHere12 жыл бұрын
Having your work available is a tremendous BEAM OF LIGHT on a gravely important issue embedded in many domestic violence and abuse situations RE=how they eventually get "played out" not only in the setting of the "family & neighborhood", but also in mental health settings->judicial/family court settings->law enforcement settings->ALL THIS EXPENDS YOUR COMMUNITY'S LIMITED RESOURCES FOR THE MOST VULNERABLE POPULATIONS->All skillfully manipulated by the abusing party~Think about it~ U END UP PAYING
@MsEl-pk8zu7 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Dr. Vaknin! You're a lifesaver!
@SusannahPerri3 жыл бұрын
I wish resources and information like this had been available when I went through my divorce from my narcissistic and abusive first husband 30 years ago. I finally learned to be a survivor, but my children, now in their 40s still struggle with mental health issues. If only people understood to get away before getting involved with a true narcissist. The pathology and desperation to hurt the one who leaves them reaches every other close person and causes damage that lasts a lifetime.
@ropesnochains Жыл бұрын
WOW Thank you Prof. Vaknin
@CYMidtown13 жыл бұрын
My ex (abuser) did this to my sister. My older sister lived with us for a time and there were certain times I would vent to my ex about how I was ready for my sister to move out, all the while my ex didn't want her too----drinking buddy. There was one day that my ex was mad at my sister and basically forced me to confront my sister with information I had only shared with her. My ex wanted me to hurt my sister. I did, and she got hurt. I see now how she used me to do her dirty work.
@MissUnderstoodasAlways2 жыл бұрын
Ah great video. Thank you. I learned a new term
@yesvember113 жыл бұрын
My now fiancé’s BPD ex stalked and harassed me. Scary stuff. Thanks at least for validating what I went through - I know it’s common for BPD people to abuse their partner like this, but I haven’t found much on them abusing/violating third party folks like myself.
@ellemonette32903 жыл бұрын
The more I say things back to those that stalk me the more in harassed by other stalkers, but I really don't give a sh**. Im done keeping quiet ....if I feel the need they will get a response..not every time but sometimes.
@macnchessplz11 ай бұрын
Yes,what they want is your submission and full acceptance of the stalking (as in, sitting back and allowing it) and if you resist? Like rapists, they will try to take it by force. The ante will be upped if you stand up for yourself.What’s mind blowing is there are people who believe this is a good way to problem solve or to have what it is they want other than your compliance. You know you’re dealing with a severely personality disordered and dangerous person when they can’t take a moment to see what they are doing is flawed.
@hannahb90614 жыл бұрын
Spot on S V . That’s what they do . That’s what they are.
@lli14732 ай бұрын
This is so spot on . Thanks so much
@OneLittlePiggy112 жыл бұрын
My ex narc used his ex wife and their children to abuse me. They're a family of bullies!
@mattlogan50987 жыл бұрын
i agree it's ridiculous that they don't know about it or that no one speaks up about it
@booooboooo201012 жыл бұрын
The mother of my daughter is a text book narcissist and indeed was relentless in attempting to con people into believing her accusations until ultimately she was exposed. Her abuse came in the form of alienating my daughter and using phycological/emotional abuse against my daughter and myself. She was revealed as having a personality disorder by one of the best,Peter Jaffe,a known feminist. He stated to the courts the aforementioned, and even talked about parental alienation.
@user-uj9dt9zt5l Жыл бұрын
I'm living this. And they act like they're victims. It is sick!
@lovechild24746 жыл бұрын
This is very eye opening that id what my abuser has done to me all what you have said everything to destroy me in jhis game of control.
@amandalouw22956 жыл бұрын
Thank u Sam so helpful! I cant understand why the cops hate me so much i aint do shit! Why they not catching real bad guys😳 my Son! I give it to Jesus🙏❤️
@user-ze4uf2fo1x12 күн бұрын
Almost 10 years in and it's followed me across the country. It's a living hell. They'll use anyone and any means to continue to target their victim.
@dylanesque6611 жыл бұрын
Great topic.
@targetedtyranny4661 Жыл бұрын
I think its most important to identify the people that help do this to the target, I know community is used mostly, and in some cases police, I've noticed them do small things,drive bys, showing up at a store when u do and do directed conversations, they generally don't do anything too obvious because they don't want to be caught, and the community do covert things as well, I really think these people need to be pointed out that they would do these things, its very serious abusing,and tormenting people.
@GangstalkingReality Жыл бұрын
I drive about an hour and half from home and to work every day and it’s always a Convoy following me everywhere I go 24/7. I’m from south texas and I know It has to be law enforcement orchestrating this.
@truthseeker353611 ай бұрын
Record them discreetly. A hidden camera is ideal, or at least record with your phone while pretending to be on a call. Then save it on multiple platforms. Do not record them in an obvious way or confront them, because they will turn that around and make you seem like the 'paranoid weirdo who thinks he is being stalked', then try to throw you in a mental asylum.
@maryb82274 жыл бұрын
Such a great video
@RichardTheEdwin13 жыл бұрын
On the religious end, there are different types of religious people, found in all faiths. 1. The one who is their because it is a tradition in their family 2. the social, they go for social reason 3. the person who goes who wishes to learn how to be a good person - the latter is the least found in all groups. So, when feeling if a spouse would see their mate as an extension of themselves, it may not be possible because they cannot even see the person as being worthy of good treatment -
@dominique72694 ай бұрын
My mother assassinated my character. Starting age 13 and ongoing. It’s incredibly devastating because people will always believe a mother over a child. Even I did for a long time - cognitive dissonance is thick when it’s your parent doing this. She gains supply and sympathy over her “my daughter is a problem child, poor me” narrative, leaving out the part about the disgusting abuse she inflicted. Next level gaslighting.
@cecechristian37916 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@jwutube437 жыл бұрын
Thx. You use the word Engineer. Why use word "Engineer situations in which abuse is inflicted...etc..."? Abusers tend to think, plan, calculate like real Engineers (Civil, Electrical, Computer engineers)? Like maybe a "social" Engineer? Or are Psychopaths tend to behave like Engineers, can Psychopaths work as Engineering Managers? or Engineers?
@frangipaniflour Жыл бұрын
My family did this for 11 years in total. I fought back after being screamed at and told I was responsible. I just gave up. I have up hard. A year later I found files that showed 4/5 family member framed me to the police department. I've proven it now. I snapped and lashed out though and I can't take that back. All I can prove is that the stalking was occurring and that I was framed by the other family members. Gaslighting has been proven too. As well as emotional abuse and blame shifting. I hope people forgive me for my one response. I was framed for over eleven years. I only ever had one response. But they told me I had hundreds. The police reviewed evidence and legit didn't find any proof at all that I did what they said I did. Escape they said - there were nights I pleaded to go back because leaving meant I was attacked. I turned myself into the police as soon as I reacted. I was being abused, and there was backdated evidence to 17 that they legally disowned me. No one bothered to check. I realized I would rather be in jail then around them, and that's true. It sounds fucked up. But it's true. My restrained orders were breached multiple times. And then I realised until they die - they won't stop. They don't care what they take.
@dataexchange38597 жыл бұрын
so how do we escape? or survive to that ?
@scandinavianflickgd73312 жыл бұрын
This needs to be said without the words narcissist in it. Every type of person youve mentioned in this video has been involved with what has been happening to me since 2017.
@reresmith411511 жыл бұрын
My ex narc came from a whole family of Narcissits..The mother was so cold & ridgid.I was in the family for 10+ years and I never seen the Mother & father have a conversation or be in the same room @ the same time.I also knew that the father slept in a seperate room...and if looks could kill the father would have been dead a long time ago, the way the mother use to look @ him.
@robertah2353 Жыл бұрын
This is bang on 👌🏾
@matthewash18626 жыл бұрын
They've used every tactic that's been listed here short of the thing about kids because I don't have any.
@robertafierro5592 Жыл бұрын
It's called BULLYING. It's called GANGING UP ON PEOPLE. It's called POLITICS in Hudson County, New Jersey.
@cvsmiss75787 ай бұрын
Gang stalking
@crystalgeter.6294Ай бұрын
Sick 😮 As Hell 🙀 Wow l Am Going Through this Now Lord have mercy 🙏 Stranger Danger 🙏 Now Unhidden World 🌍 Wide awakening So be it
@aunahmaix30485 жыл бұрын
True, Gem did this to me!!!!
@andrealea23697 жыл бұрын
Is sad that I've gotten to the point where I think of everyone on an internet forum as a troll... Anyone who respond to a post, every email. I told her I had some reservations about the internet in class. It's almost as if she wanted to really make me hate this space she uses to torture people.
@andrealea23697 жыл бұрын
She is just a proxy for something much bigger, a foot soldier. That's okay. I'll make sure she spend three years without the smart phone, and is monitored on the internet by the judicial system.
@jaimielynnedwards26985 жыл бұрын
Yup
@1401chan7 жыл бұрын
Sam thanks for this. I have a question. after a discard the narc smears you. Does he believe the things he says? and if convinces himself of how horrible you supposedly are, do those thoughts remain or do they change over time? I just don't like to be hated
@samvaknin7 жыл бұрын
The Narcissist as Liar and Con-man groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/narcissisticabuse/conversations/messages/4951
@helenbairmapc66336 жыл бұрын
At the end of this video you said there is a video in your series of 'how the abuser leverages the children.' I have not been able to find that video. I really want to watch it because that is exactly what has happened to me. Can you send the name of this video to 1mamabair@gmail.com, so I can watch it. My oldest son was brainwashed by his narcissistic dad all through the years he was growing up and his dad and I were divorced. Now, as an adult, my son is the narcissist and continues to run the same smear campaign toward me with my other children and grandchildren, just like his dad did years ago. I'm getting really tired of being the target of smear campaigns. I have other children who are on the fence and don't know which one to believe, their mother or their older brother. It's a nightmare that has been present in my life for the last 40 years and seems to have no end. Narcissistic abuse if pure evil.
@samvaknin6 жыл бұрын
Narcissistic and psychopathic parents and their children - click on the links: groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/narcissisticabuse/conversations/messages/4727
@andreaknowles444011 жыл бұрын
My N will have random women call me to break up with me. Within 24-48 hours N is calling me and acting as if nothing is wrong. When I ask him what that was about he claims to have no knowledge of such phone call and then N says the woman who called me (contradicting himself) is a stalker and to ignore her. I must admit on N's behalf I've contacted women and done the same thing to them as well. I feel horrible because I really didn't see N's manipulative hold on me until watching your videos.
@amandalouw22955 жыл бұрын
Law enforcement🤔
@g-starryne74513 жыл бұрын
They dont to nothing they know who he she is but dosent to non
@michaelduong5562Ай бұрын
How can you make them go away?
@dannydyer4444 Жыл бұрын
I need help! I’m constantly deemed mentally unstable, no one takes me seriously even when someone has been coming in my home and torturing my dog! I am scared to go to the police as every time they have dismissed my complaints as star trek or James Bond and I literally don’t know what else to do? This has been going on since 2011 I think what the hell do I do?
@michelledevitt10632 жыл бұрын
all If that !
@GW-gz8jh6 жыл бұрын
Will a person utilize a smear campaign by proxy as a form of hoovering if you’ve maintained a solid no contact? Mine ex narc is blocked on every single form of social media I am on, blocked on my phone, and I changed my email. We now live in two different states. However I recently was told I’m now being accused of harassing and continually contacting his new wife when I have not had contact for over a year with them (breakup was 14 months ago.) I have not made any contact. He kept saying he wanted us to stay friends. I basically vanished to him. So in that scenario is smearing the victim to a rare mutual friend a form of hoovering? To prompt me to contact him to “defend” myself? He won’t make contact himself because I told him any attempt would be immediately forwarded to his new wife.
@g-starryne74513 жыл бұрын
This is very real stuff it Sounds grazy but this is real stuff
@americancitizensagainstcov8920 Жыл бұрын
Does anyone know where I can find the clip to his similar video where he specifically mentions 'sound' being as an abusive tactic used by narcissistic abusers? Thank you
@samvaknin Жыл бұрын
Watch my videos on entraining. Not sound - but speech.
@patriciacarrasco12 жыл бұрын
@rhoadess u dont dishonor ur parent by not doing everything exactly as they say, this is not true. u are ur own person and can do what u want, u are not ur parent's puppet. if ur mom or dad want u to commit a crime and u refuse are u dsihonoring them?
@goldenexperience42653 жыл бұрын
It's called changing the tide boi👌😉
@elaineclewley47042 жыл бұрын
When the narc has smeared you , do they still hoover?
@amandalouw22955 жыл бұрын
Used to be Dr now im strong AF, she got clever
@karolinehj8 жыл бұрын
My Ex is "funny" enough to use your videos in his smear campaign against me.
@tonyperez27744 жыл бұрын
Ironically, a strong knowledge of the relationship between the narcissist and her flying monkeys gives the intimate partner a glipse into how and when a narcissist is vulnerable to a narcissitic injury!! Let's say a narcissist has a history of criticizing the intimate patner for not paying his fair share of the household expenses. If the intimate partner quietly gives the narcissist some money, he will be criticized under the principle of 'no good deed left unpunished'. To counter this, the intimate partner waits until the narcissist is talking to a flying monkey. He then loudly announces his contribution of cash for expenses, handing the narcissist cash money right in front of the flying monkey. Later, the narcissist will ask why the contribution was made in front of other people. If the intimate partner responds that he is tired of the narcissist's constant public criticism of him, this will cause a narcissistic injury. However, if the intimate partner plays dumb, essentially denying any flying monkey manipulation, or even their existence, it DOESN'T cause a narcissistic injury!!! The narcissist knows he is lying, but views this, not as an attack on her, but rather a continuation of the game she is playing with the flying monkey in particular, and life in general. It might even be a source of low level narcissistic supply!!!
@marymoroschan26375 жыл бұрын
This is a tactic that family lawyers who help child sexual abusers of the highest income tax base. It's methodical, but whose going to deny truth when a lawyer calls you for the abuser stating, the other parent needs help, she's lying.
@horrez6809 Жыл бұрын
Does this person tend to have money
@SomeGuyWho759 Жыл бұрын
But ur honor I'm the illuminati the all seeing eye of provence.. try that and see how that works out for u.. 😆👍😏
@Tired1-dq5nb Жыл бұрын
SATAN will be crushed when the Lord returns and all his evil imps running around pretending to be decent people.