stalkers doesn't respect privacy,they're delusional, controlling and has narcissistic behavior.

Stalking is a terrifying experience and it produces so many overpowering emotions. It is exactly the way you have described, you feel intimidated, powerless, you self-isolate as you can not feel safe anywhere you go. This is an extremely cruel and painful way the abusers feel entitled to ruin their victims lives. The worst case of all is when the stalkers feel as if being on a moral crucade to convert the infidel. It is often done with the help of many other people who are acting as the stalker’s agents and those May even include your family members and awuaintances. It is shaking the victims sense not only of physical but also psychological safety. This kind of contact is evil and damaging in so many different ways. I believe the best way out is to try and ignore the stalking in any way possible and seek help and support. It has been happening to me for a long time now and I think the only way out is by talking about it outloud. Thank you for the help and support I get from your channel Darren.

Years ago, I was attacked and badly beaten by a man who was stalking a woman I was dating. I had no idea she was being stalked. He broke into her house in the middle of the night because he saw my car in her driveway. This guy was enraged. I was sleeping, and awoke to find this creep looming over me. He threatened to kill me. Then he attacked. I never had a chance to defend myself. The police did nothing because I didn't know who the guy was, and the girl refused to identify him, because she was so scared of him. Obviously, I stopped dating her at that point. Stalking is no joke. It indicates severe emotional derangement. It can and does lead to violence and murder. Strong laws and enforcement are needed to limit the damage these people do. It's not just men either. I've been stalked by women I've dated. No bunnies boiled (yet) but it sure is creepy....

Important to never interact with a stalker. Interaction will be an intermittent reward, and make it worse.

I see stalking as spiritual warfare. Praying for safety and peace of mind for myself and intervention against the harrasser. In the natural I stay aware of my surroundings. Its an awful experience, but my faith has increased significantly especially when the harrassers stopped.

Your competitor might stalk you too. Someone who desperately wants to "outshine" you. Mine has been stalking me for over a decade now.

I am going thru a stalking / harassment case right now with my own mother. It’s draining me emotionally and mentally!

I feel like my stalker was a blend of almost all of the types. He started stalking me when I was 18, unbeknownst to me. Then he insinuated himself into my friend group when I was 20. I dated him briefly. When I broke off with him he insisted we "stay friends". I was very, very sheltered and naive and had no idea whatsoever what a dangerous person he was. I didn't know how to handle his obsessive behavior so I tried to "manage" it by "staying friends". He befriended my older brother and they would do things like going fishing together, and when I asked my older brother and his wife to please cut off all contact with him they both refused (in my opinion, they are both narcissists). I had a horse training business, and it was at a large public stable which meant I could not keep him from coming onto the premises. He went around and spread lies about me to everyone who would listen. He poisoned my horse. He drove nails into the hooves of my other horses. Later he stabbed one of my fillies, trying to slice her jugular vein and missed it by a sixteenth of an inch. The veterinarian who stitched the wound had to put in 4 layers of stitches and told me the vertebra in her neck had been nicked. He was a Vietnam veteran and put on the receipt for the surgery that it was a combat knife wound, and he knew one when he saw it. My stalker would show me his gun collection and knife collection, and retrospectively I knew which knife he had used. I called the police, and a detective came out and talked to me. At the time I had no idea who would or could do such a horrific thing. He pinpointed this "friend" and told me that he had done it. The problem was that the stalker had moved into the apartment next to mine. I moved. At my new house, I often had a feeling someone had been in my house when I was gone. I had been gone one Saturday all day and came home to my front door wide open and my dogs loose in the street. When I walked into my house, he was sitting at my computer reading my emails. I called the police and they arrested him; he was out within two days. He repeated this twice more, but I felt he had been in my house without being caught several other times. He poisoned my dogs twice by throwing the poison over the wall into the yard. I barely saved them by rushing them to the vet and having activated charcoal on hand. I could go on - there is almost no aspect of my life he did not try to infiltrate and damage. He succeeded to one degree or another in almost all of them. He left unwanted gifts hundreds of times over the years, at my door, at my mother's house, on my car, at my place of business. He intruded into my office building when I worked for a real estate company. He followed me on dates. Finally I met my future husband, and he followed me on those first dates and slashed my tires when I returned home. Then the second weekend, he called me non-stop all weekend. I didn't answer, so he left a voice mail saying he had taken poison and that I needed to come over and "save" him. In my mind, his suicidal behavior was really homicidal. I called the police and they had paramedics take him to the hospital. The police told me he had to have his stomach pumped at the hospital and then he was kept there on a mental illness hold for 72 hours. I finally got a restraining order, but a veteran police officer told me it was just a piece of paper and might make the stalking worse. He told me that they could not protect me 24 hours/seven days a week and that his assessment was that I would be murdered if I didn't leave. I left everything behind and flew to Canada where I rented a small house. By the time I flew to Canada, I was such a wreck that I couldn't eat and could only sleep for four hours at a time. That lasted for two years after I arrived in Canada. I dated my future husband and eventually married him. Every time I went back to California, the stalker stalked me at my mother's house. My brother never did cut off contact with him. Eventually, at the 18 year mark of stalking, my brother told me "something sad" had happened. My stalker had died of pancreatic cancer. There's a song I like, called "Goodbye Earl" by The Chicks. In that song there's a line that applies to the stalker "He was a missing person that nobody missed at all". That's the real truth about him. I'm glad he is no longer alive to hurt any other person or animal. Stalking is a crime that happens every. single. day. It is not a one-time crime. It is a crime that never stops. As for advice - read the book "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker. If you are being stalked, the book will help you get over any denial you have and help you to assess how dangerous your stalker is and it might help you to save your own life. Sorry this is so long.

My neighbor has been stalking me and my wife for about 2 years. Watched us through the bushes, came to our work and followed us around. Drove behind us on the road. Walked by our property several times a day and night, stopped and stared in, shined a flashlight onto us, our property and our windows. We got a restraining order against him, and things are somewhat better. Now, he waits for us when we come home, because he lives next door, and he lights a smoky fire as soon as we come home, then immediately puts it out. Then, as we're walking through our yard, he follows us on his side of the property, banging things around and making noise. Then, he gets on his motorcycle and repeatedly drives by. His life revolves around us.

The burden of being severely stalked is a huge weight to carry alone. You need someone to support you and help you with this burden. Someone who will believe what you say, will comfort you or sprone you on in the difficult moments when you feel like giving up. You need help with the practicalities of bringing a court case (selecting the worst messages, printing them, going to police stations multiple times to report the acts of the stalker, lawyers' offices, court hearings, preparing yourself for depositions). If you have children to care for, are working a full-time job and you have to add all of this to your weekly routine things can become overwhelming. In these cases a shoulder to lean on/someone who gives practical help can be the one thing that gets you to the finishing line without crumbling to the floor.

Covert malignants are notorious for becoming obsessive and vengeful stalkers when you escape their sphere of influence because they're mortified at the thought of you exposing their behaviors. It becomes difficult to combat when they and their flying monkeys run around smearing you to anyone who'll entertain the idea that you're the perpetrator while covertly antagonizing you to get a reaction. Then you end up with not one deranged stalker, but multiple stalkers. Some of which have been duped into thinking they're somehow protecting or defending a victim/victims who's actually the predator behind the scenes. I've dealt with a covert malignant stalker and their flying monkeys for years now. My husband and I play an online game and we almost *constantly* have monkeys spawn in on us in servers. Luckily for me the narc may be intelligent enough to attempt covering their tracks because they know what they're doing is wrong, but also foolish enough to keep stalking/harassing by proxy because they can't control themselves. Document everything. FBI will tell you, it doesn't even matter if it's burner accounts so long as they can cross reference IP addresses to show a consistent pattern and tie it back to the owner/owners of the accounts. Unlawful communications doesn't even have to be direct communication either. Meaning no words have to even be exchanged for it to be considered stalking/harassment. Let the stalker(s) dig their own grave, they eventually will.

I hadn’t even realized I was dealing with a stalker until someone I know who worked probation & was familiar with the different types os stalkers heard what was going on & told me “You’ve got a resentful stalker on your hands. Make sure you keep quiet as this individual seeks to know you’re upset, but next time a false accusation comes up, tell whoever brings it to you you’re being stalked & it needs to stop.” I don’t wish to reveal too much other than this individual had an axe to grind, and had poor relationships with others in the organization. Ultimately they experienced karma by way of employment termination. All I can say is it takes time to get over feeling everything from unsafe to resentful about what’s taking place. It may take years for these feelings to subside, and they may never go away altogether, but they won’t be nearly as intense as when the stalker was attempting to bring you down.

I know one of these creeps. He stalked a friend of mine, used me to get to her. Then he denied it, even when he was caught in the act. These ppl are psychopaths, narcissists, and generally unpleasant to spend any time with. Hell, this guy even found me by stalking ppl on the internet. Carefully SCREEN everyone in your life with multiple tests; if they refuse to take tests then cancel them from your life.

It is so incredibly violating, you feel helpless, victimized over and over. My mother in law is my stalker, being an older female too, most people minimize her behavior. Sweep it under the rug and play it off as not harmful or dangerous. Yet if you had the same behaviour being perpetrated by a young male everyone would call it dangerous. Breaking into my car and leaving unwanted gifts after ending the relationship. Turning up at my work and sitting there for an hour staring at me grinning with the most demonic smile I've ever seen, just intimidating me. Turning up to playgroups for my children, attempting to snatch one of my babies out of my arms that she wasn't allowed to be around or have any contact with. Coming to my house threatening my life infront of my children. Using her other children her abusive son (BIL) to abuse and threaten me in my own house again infront of the children. Turning up at my work spreading lies and slandering me to my employees. Telling our small town community I'm crazy so when I did finally start telling people about the stalking and abuse there were plenty who wrote me off and played it down. She abused me while I was pregnant tried to force me to have an abortion claiming she had the right to dictate what happens to MY body. Made me develop severe pre-eclampsia form the stress and put my twins in NICU for 15 weeks. I'm in a wheelchair from the complications both my sons have significant developmental delays and medical issues form the pre-eclampsia. And almost 5 years later she continues to terrorize me. I barely leave the house anymore, a few months ago she aggressively followed me in the car almost causing me to run off the road fleeing from her. But she's a 67 year old granny so people think it's perfectly okay. The trauma I live with is all consuming.

I'm going through stalking now. It started as soon as I tried to end the friendship. He has no desire to be in a relationship with me he just wants to control me. I don't think he's coped with rejection that easily. He manipulates every one around him. Including his partner and police and even my old acquaintances. He's trying to replace my life. It's like he wants to be me. He started drinking where I drank, then started to work at the same place as me. Even his banter reassembled mine. His mannerisms. He follows me when I go for a walk. It's caused me stress, anxiety, flashbacks, nightmares. Time off work. Confidence issues. Trust issues. People question my sexuality. He has a partner as well. I made a mistake by humiliating him and publicly calling him a stalker. Now makes my life hell by turning everyone against me. Slandering me to other people. The list goes on. I'm isolated right now. I'm struggling to deal with what's going on. I already suffered with my mental health then this on top of it doesn't help one bit.

You can’t reason with a stalker. Notify the authorities and your social network. Document, get an attorney ASAP!

Five types of stalker 1. rejected stalker - ex partner or estranged family member 2. Incompetent stalker, sense of entitlement to time etc of the desired person. 3. Intimacy stalker - deluded idea someone who doesn’t want to be with them is the love of their life 4. Predator stalker - power and control, use mutual friends to find out about the target 5. Resentful stalker - vendetta, settling a grievance. Can become violent.

It isn’t fair but the only way I could manage to get rid of an ex boyfriend stalker in the early 90s - who refused to accept the relationship was over and had been stalking me for roughly a year and was threatening suicide, making my friends and family feel sorry for him etc - was to change address, job and change universities unexpectedly all at once and only stay in contact with a couple of trusted friends. Had to do something similar again 20 years later - ex husband harassed me for 10 going on 11 years post separation- to escape had to give up custody of my kids to him before suddenly and unexpectedly changing my name and address . By not having residence of my kids any more he had no legal right to know my name or whereabouts and couldn’t harass me anymore. I ended up living near the kids school and kids and met them for contact in public places in the community. Had to keep my location and name and all secret. My children have honoured that fortunately. I do not have any faith in the legal system - as some stalker ex partners (usually fathers) can use the legal system to force contact and to make your life as difficult as possible. I believe it is very important not to reward the person by picking up the phone or giving them any sort of attention or response if you can help it. Even read messages or simply picking up the phone to tell them to go away can be rewarding for these individuals because you are giving them your attention and if you are giving them any sort of attention in their warped minds they think they may be in with a chance. Change your number and email address and keep it private. Block the person every which way. If possible remove yourself off social media. It is also extremely important to be careful of mutual friends. You may sadly have to forgo some mutual friends to protect yourself from reputational smearing and/or the stalker using the connection for information gathering purposes.

I didn't really know much about stalkers when I was a child but when I got older I realized I had a pretty serious stalker for almost a decade when I was growing up. Whenever I got home from school for years as soon as I walked into the house the phone would ring and if I answered there would only be breathing and if i didn't answer they would leave a voicemail that was just heavy breathing. They would also come up to my bedroom window at night and watch me sleep and sometimes they would knock or bang on the glass to try to wake me up in the middle of the night. I could see there was someone out there in the dark but I couldn't make out their features. Sometimes I would even talk to them, like saying "hello? is someone there? please go away." and they would just stand there and breath loudly. gross. Very frightening! For years I just thought I was dreaming because whenever I told my parents "theres a man outside my window who watches me sleep at night" they would just tell me I was having nightmares. But then when it continued up into my teens I began to realize there was an actual person out there and I was like "wtf? is this a pedophile? a murderer? who the is this guy?" I never did find out who it was. Eventually I moved out the state. I don't know if i would say it "haunts" me to this day exactly- I wasn't really that scared for most of it because I didn't really understand the danger - but its definitely something I think about every now and then when I see strangers in the dark.

Thank you for covering this important subject, Darren. Very interesting and informative video! 👍🏽

these stalkers are mentally and morbidly obsessed with everything i do in my life and somehow they can think for me apparantly. they keep saying that what i was taught i think is the truth and i never said that!! i belive in it from what i seen. i never once said what i believed was the truth. i hate when people try to assume what i think.

eBay was involved in stalking a couple that wrote bad reviews about them so sometimes corporations are involved in stalking. In the cancel culture that we live in, those who want to cancel you will gather in groups and engage in revenge stalking. They seek to "frighten and punish the victim."

I left my wife & divorced because she was driving ,me crazy & I found out she was screwing some low life. 2 years after I left I noticed that she was doing regular drive byes past my house. Initially I was disturbed about it but then then I decided to ignore it. Another 18 months on and she is still doing it but less frequently. It no longer bothers me. I have a new life and she aint going to get any chance to intrude into it.

I have only recently been through this with my ex partner and I've never experienced anything like it. He was initially breaking into my garden, moving things around to play gaslightibg games. When he realised I had sussed it was happening, he continued but started leaving messages to let me know he'd been there. I put up security cameras but it only made it more entertaining for him. He found blind spots and tried to smash them down. He had specify created hiding spaces out the back of my garden, and had been climbing through all the neighbours gardens to get into mine. I called the police but they underestimated what was going on and charged out the back without listening to me first. This just made it worse, as he did get caught. The next day, grass was posted through my door. Previously, he had been using social media to post messages to me. And he admitted at the start of this relationship (it was a hoover) he would sometimes drive into my road in the years we were apart, but "wasn't stalking me". We were apart for 6 years, meaning he could have been doing this all that time. I didn't think he had been back, but my cat has now disappeared..... The pice can't arrest him because I couldn't get his face on camera because it was dark. But he was coming every night for weeks on end between midnight and 3 am. It isn't some to be underestimated. I felt continuously on edge and I still don't know if it's really the end but at some point, I will have to move. He was very angry. I had dumped him. He felt humiliated. But he had been having an affair...... The worst thing is wondering when it might start up again. But for now, I can at least sleep, but for weeks I couldn't. I just still can't believe this has all happened.

Thank you so much for this video.. I felt so bad these days because of my ex’s stalking.. and i can’t understand why he is doing this.. I understand more about him.. Stalker is a creepy exsistance ever and they don’t do anything in their life

Thankfully, the only social media I use is KZfaq. Years ago, I was stalked in person by individual that I didn't know too well...their antics progressed into; breaking into a vehicle I had, stealing my belongings, stealing mail by changing my mailing address to their P.O. Box, broke into my apartment and tried to commit suicide in front of me, etc. I felt forced to move farther away for my sanity. Deeply disturbing stuff to try to understand/cope with in ones life.

The level of the stalker and the reasons for his stalking gives me a calmness that helps me to cope.

I really liked how you advised victims to seek help. A stroke of genius!

Thank you very much for the information I have been stalked for years but I’m no longer afraid

Still happening to me 3 years after I left. Police don’t take seriously at all. Everywhere I go he pops up online. Fake accounts etc. it’s never ending.

I’m going to agree with others that reading Gavin de Becker’s The Gift of Fear is very sound advice. That was a very insightful read.

I deal with it everyday and it’s the worst possible way to live why can’t people just leave me the hell alone and move on

I wish someone had believed me all those years ago when my ex was stalking me. Fortunately, when I moved a series of terrible events occurred that resulted in injury & my car being put in the shop so I was out of work for about three weeks & had no car. The phone calls increased but he was otherwise gone & years later the calls stopped to. Thank God!

I have actually been stalked by another female. Cannot stand me but asks others repeatedly where I am and what I am up to. 😮

I have been stalked for over 10 years. No one ever helps, not even the police.

@2:00 is on point. Stalkers, like NPD types, use their victimhood/ hate *to self regulate.* Bad poetry notwithstanding, if they can’t point the crooked finger, that finger tends to curl back around. Gaslighting is their passive aggressive default mode.

Thanks Darren and I'm going to watch this now with a cuppa ☕ best wishes ☀️

I think I was accidentally a rejected /incompetent stalker. I didn't even realise that I was seen that way, I was just going about my life, following the breadcrumb trail, and when I found out that that's what he was calling me - I was offended and angry, when i found put thrpugh others that was what they were saying about me, imagining the common resentful/dangerous/ predatory subtypes. However years later - I ended up in a shelter for domestic abuse and had therapy and training on how to spot and prevent domestic abuse - where as I'd firmly categorized my former ex as narcissus and exploitative- actually my behaviour reflectively was stalkerish. Terrible.

If you’re able to, install security cameras around your property like Ring, and Blackvue front and rear car cameras with apps that are easy to use. Don’t be predictable and take care when entering and leaving your property. All your windows should have key locks and external doors triple point locks and dead bolts. You can also have an alarm and can arm sections of the house when sleeping. It’s not over the top to have locks on internal doors too. I know some women get security grills on their windows. You can also get your window glass treated with a film that won’t break.

This is correct. Even corporate figures are now STALKING (EX- employees) and EX-sellers. Some of them are concerned about whether or not WE have enough MONEY to retire ABROAD...or whether or not WE will remain MARRIED forevermore. Yes, their behavior is beyond CREEPY and it is beyond SCARY!!!

I have a guy who is low key stalking me. I have had to block him on all social media because he keeps finding new ways to talk to me. He comes to events he knows all be at and then introduces himself to my friends almost to show he is not afraid of the fact I have confronted him about following me. I don’t really know what to do about him/ can’t really be bothered getting involved anymore!

It's a living hell, it's been happening on all my personal information, cell phones, jobs, trying to move away, and on, this has been going on around 8 years now!! I've been through multiple cell phones phone plans, mail taken or held, cars tampered, repeated phone calls from numerous number, threats, subtle death threats, years on and off of this, sleepless nights, or just sleep while getting enough energy from repeated hell and discouragement to move on! Put of where I feel trapped! No personal privacy no one wants to come to visit! It's control over my life lies spread to ruin my life ECT...the worst thing is WHY!!

Why are their lots of people today that believe its normal, or justified to stalk and harass someone? These groups really feel like its the thing to do,what is going on to change reality for these people? Is the group so good at normalizing the behavior?

Only psychopaths stalk people. They need serious help. Thank you you've just described my stalker 💯

Can we talk about abuse by proxy????

Thank you for this information Sir!

I’m a victim of gang stalking by the narc in my life. I know now what’s been going on.

my stalking was delutional and formed out of obsession. im still obsessed but i realize its an obsession that needs to be put down like a dying dog. the problem is it lives inside me, its SEEMS impossible not to feel incomplete. emphasis on seems because i know its not. but im greatful i stalked a very understanding person who i agree gave me way to many chances. i think its due to an deep understanding of mental illness but despite mental illness i am aware it doesnt make you any less a predator or threat despite the amount of personal growth spiritual or physical you do. you just have to accept youve ended up down the right path, intention or not youve been led astray and you didnt take enough of all the clues. i dont know when there's room for improvement, i think i need to die to see the karma be resolved because the pain is anguish. but that's only if you can recognize it in yourself. its hard cus i dont believe in an afterlife necessarily but yet ive extremely spiritual since looking at my own monster. however if god will let you live you should take it and suffer and stay in your lane and understand youve just narrowed the width of your lane and possibly numbered your days with all the manifested stress and anxiety for allowing the monster to creep in and express itself through your actions. once that happens you need to identify as the monster and now dealing with it is not a simple path but its either that or psychopathy. i genuinely believe that. i say this cus, other criminal stalkers searching for some reason to resist their chaos may come to this video which is beyond brave. just know it doesnt end here. im actually here to lern about my counterpart, im specifically searching for the mindset of the female stalkers, i want to know now how a female stalkes cus i lived the life of how a male does it, at least what drove me wasnt malicious in intent but its terrifying how it evolves seemingly against the person you stand for. I wasnt a broken human until i had a break up, i have abandonment issues and ive never been taught how to cope, now i just live knowing theres a monster inside me that if i truly care i will kill myself if it feels like coming out. i hope thats not the case for me tho. to me feels like the peak of my BPD dissorder

I have been stocked and my house has been broken into for the past 16 years. I have moved 5 times and moved to another state. and this person still continues to break into my home.This one knows how to break and enter people's homes, jams the signal to the camera, picks the locks and breaks into your home. The way that I have secured my home is by putting bar locks on my doors, I have a buddy bar supporting my back door. I am going to install a night lock on my front door that is supported by the floor. In the windows, I have two wooden dowls in each window so you can't open them. I have two trail cameras, mounted on the wall of my garage,recording to an 128 g sd card, glued into the camera. When I remove the cameras, I put in a metal bar on both sides of the tack of my garage so you can't open my garage door. That is my security system.

My mother is a rejected stalker. After I cut contact with everyone I knew and moved across the country, she hunted me down. I was able to get a restraining order, but she still sends people to my house. I got security cameras and a gun.

I find it very disturbing how many times I have been stalked through my life. AND ITS CORE.... THE SHATTERED CHILD/AND ADULT FROM A SADISTIC NARCISSISTIC FATHER. for I walked down the street looking at my feet in shame. I can remember questioning myself and life as a 5 year old walking alone home from school. "I can't be that bad???" for as the first born I was the scapegoat for the family... "if you didn't do that, say that... your father wouldn't have done that". I was stalked by 2 men in a van calling me to get their van as that 5-6 year old. later I was stalked the same way as a broken high schooler, again walking home alone... then 2 men in a van... I pretended the home I was in front of was my own and decisively went in the back door and waited for them to leave. I was stalked all the way from a grocery store to the front door of my first apartment at 23 years old. now I am married at 68 and I found I married a raging narcissist . I ran after less than a year married. I am very concerned for my safety. he loves his guns and is completely delusional. I have stumbled my way back into public art jobs... (yes he gave me a gift in terrorizing me out onto my own 2 feet again.) and I have had to make a courageous choice to pursue my public art projects that are lining up in front of me. I can't live in hiding, it will be no life. I have chosen to set my fear aside. do what I love and brings joy to others. and if he does do something physical to me. I'M PISSED ENOUGH TO LIVE MY LIFE WITH GUSTO UNTIL THEN. MAKING THE BEST OF MY LIFE GOING FORWARD.

One tip is to eliminate all social media. If you chose to keep social media, lock it down so that you only have trusted friends, cannot be tagged, all setting are private (not public). NEVER post where you are in real time or do check-ins. Only post after you have left and preferably places that you will probably not go back to, so in the rare event your stalker goes get access to that post they will be stalking in an area you will not be frequenting.

Was stalked for years by a woman who I rejected on multiple occasions. Appeared everywhere....surely I went, work locally and in other towns, outside my flat, in the stairwell of my building, supermarkets etc etc sometimes more than once a day....I eventually started taking notes of times, dates and cars she was driving and went to the police. They told me she was just going about her daily business and was perfectly acceptable behavior unless she tried to communicate with me. The following and "random" appearances immediately stopped. I was assured by a friend who is a retired police officer that if it had been me stalking her it would be an entirely different view taken by the authorities. Stalking is a very discriminatory crime.

Stalkers as they may might usually migrate between different interests or intents, shifting targets. They are mood compromised. Generally narcissistic. Can't confuse them with those who are genuinely concerned about matters that generally concern conscientious people. We call that 'looking out for eachother'. Good video and content. When you detect being stalked the letterbox fills with a tapestry of clues. We might feel keen to go about out own investigation for curiosity. Strangely it seems some like to deliberated themselves with behavior that is bound to attract attention, from others. Mater of factly, we all comprise some sensation seeking behaviors. Some are hypervigilant about how others might perceive them. 😉

I've been stalked for 7 years. Primarily online but they do their absolute best to get under my skin. Going as far as using or grooming or hiring others. I'm still not sure if it's my family or a pen pal or just a collective of very unwell people. Watching this video does very little to help me narrow in on the "type" of stalker.

I think it’s so interesting that platform’s who have actually engaged in cyberstalking and harassment don’t ever address the kind of harassment that they engage in when they are trying to cancel someone on social media considering it’s often really illegal and vicious. And is done in conjunction with others who harass said person by breaking into their home and hacking their devices. Stalking is a federal offense and is a crime in all 50 states of the US.

I got myself a very cute little shih tzu maltese dog who lets me know when anyone is creeping around. He also snuggles up to me and is a great comfort to me when I worry a little too much. Feeding and taking care of him gets me out of my head and focused on him and he is a funny sweetie. ❤

Thank you this was very informative. I always wondered to myself how these kinds of people don't think they are creepy You answered my questions.

I am being stalked by my middle brother-in-law and ex-neighbor. What's worse is that they get help to continue stalking. My brother-in-law's help from relatives who helped him has stopped. And they also see how jealous and envious he is. It's a different story with my ex-neighbor. She talks her way out of it. And keeps going. People around her provide her with information. I do have help now.

I'm at a loss of what to do, myself. I've had coworkers and strangers find out personal details about me that I've never told them. It's kind of creepy. An Uber driver once picked me up with a British accent after I watched a video saying I'd meet my soulmate with a British accent just the previous night. There's been so many weird moments like this that others have witnessed as well with me, such as talking to my boyfriend about "if we saw a certain underaged drinker (who had harassed us before) at the casino, we would report her as underaged." Then I was reported a couple hours after for being underaged in the casino when I was well above the age. So many instances like this and I don't know who to talk to about it so I talk to my loved ones instead because how are authorities going to help with something like this exactly? It's strange.

Samo mi je stigla poruka od nekog nepoznatog ko se hvalio, a posle ništa od toga. I često razmišljam što baš meni. Dobro što je pokrenut ovaj kanal.

I had a stalker and thought he was gone. I wiped all my social media, moved, and changed my phone number. This was over 10 years ago. Now, in March of 2024, I felt safe enough to create a LinkedIn account. Guess who tried to reconnect TWICE? Him. Gene Towner is his name. He tried following me here, too, and I had to block him. He makes multiple accounts. I’m so tired of this. I own three guns now because I couldn’t get restraining orders against him because he lives in a different state. I tried twice and presented all the phone calls, emails, voicemails and letters he sent to my HOME. Nope, no restraining order even though he threatened me in many of his messages. He would go from threatening to nice and then back to threatening me in his VMs because I never responded.

Presently a victim of a resentful stalker. Its been months, and they wont let it go. Ive removed every avenue of contact can think of, but they keep finding new ways to reach out, trying to do things to upset me. I just want them to leave me alone.

Absolutely stupendous, Thank you Darren for your help and getting the Information out there, Peace, love to you and everyone, Thank you universe 😀😍♾️🧿🥰👽👽🌌🛸✨️✨️😁😃💞

Thanks for explaining the good and bad intentions in detail! There is no reciprocity in bad intentions towards others. That explains everything.

My stalker tried to reverse victim blame and call ME the crazy one. Its scary tbh. Ive never even once been diagnosed as clinically insane. Clinically insane is when you LIVE in a fantasy world and YOU are disconnected from reality and you cant get out of that mindset. SO NO. Im not insane. HE IS.

I, personally, have dealt with stalking for quite some time now, and not coming from a stranger but from a relative. Mainly via the internet than in person. Darren Magee's examination on the types of mental disorders which stalkers deal with; for my relative, I believe is suffering from a personality disorder (due to childhood trauma and parental abandonment). Does not excuse the actions to which I have suffered, all of which have been criminal. But the only thing I supposed one can do is just pray for their soul and some direction because they will never change unless the stalker themselves comes to the conclusion their brain is very unhealthy and they need to seek treatment ASAP to get better.

Yes, I've been and still am being stalked by Resentful Stalker and he has gotten others to join in on this. He feels entitled due to his own behavior and yes, is the "victim". This has been going on for a long while.

I have been stalked by a woman for the last 50 YEARS - yes - 50 years! She stalks me and finds the people who are close to me or my business associates, and then uses her social power to legitimize the lies she spreads about me. She is a lesbian so its creepy. She hates men and has been involved in anti-rape, and more recently in child abuse. Her public face is one of caring and promoting women's rights and human rights, but in fact she is an abusive narcissist.

Can a stalker be more than one type of stalker at the same time a resentful one that is also predatory and/or rejected at the same time?

I tried to go to go the FBI because of the size, depth and extent. They wanted me to bring the evidence. There isn't a single person that will help me without a significant amount of money to be paid. The stalking prevents me from earning a living wage.

My stalker is a 65-year old plutonic male coworker who over the last 18 months started stalking and following me from a distance. He started inquiring about my whereabouts from other coworkers. He’s always staring at me and watching my every move. We were totally plutonic as he talked about how he would never cheat on his wife. Then when I realized that he had a thing for me, I began avoiding him and I don’t engage him at all. I guess this angers him and he’s constantly subtly hanging around me and causing me great anxiety. I don’t know what to do. He is fully aware that I have no interest in him. It’s been almost 2 years. I don’t want to report him. He’s got over 30 years on the job. I’m so tired.

I HAVE A MOTORCYCLIST WHO STALKS ME EVERYTIME I WALK OUTSIDE MY HOME. IDK OF HE IS A HOMOSEXUAL, MENTAL OR A COP. The police say " because the person doesn't say anything to me or haven't hurt me theres nothing they can do." Thats not right. Seeing a stalker everyday is alarming and annoying and not knowing what the stalker is thinking could bring fear to someone. Women/ men who are stalked on social media they wont get hurt or sometimes not communicated it doesn't mean a police officer should not do anything. My stalker is getting away with committing a crime.

I've been stalked much of my life and has increased the past 5 or 6 years not for a direct sexual reason. Mostly verbal harassment persistent unwanted communication. One thread I realized is their desire for me to talk.

The stalkers I've encountered are when I was a caregiver for my mother and father. They were a married couple who were tenents that lived next door and we were owners. They figured out I would be inheriting the property so they stalked and harassed me trying to make me angry for normal noise they made in the middle of the night banging on my walls to kill insects. Nails in my tires, keyed up my car, watered her plants until there was water damage everywhere. Then when I confronted her about her bahavior she called the cops on me to claim harassment and that she was going to sue me! I showed the officer the videos of all her causes she felt there was no consequences for and it all backfired on her! I didnt tip my hand until she tried to spin it the 1st chance she got that I was the problem to try to take my property! Susan was so enraged that she got even worse to where she paid more attention to me then her own husband. Turning on her lights when I got home to let me know shes watching my every move. I had to sell the house with my sick and dying parents to a new house in a better neighborhood with better neighbors.

I am a person with an ex partner who I failed to get closure with... I sincerely never knew what went on in her mind to distroy all interactions. Try as I might I could never get her out of my head. I would caution people with using the word stalker... Primarily because it is a word that is use a weapon for covert narcissist to get immature revenge. Sometimes parties break up. Sometimes there is regret. Sometimes there is the need for hurt parties to get revenge by ghosting. There is a multipul pay off for the hurt individual (A) They know their ghosting causes you pain (B) The can brag to their friends...You will never guess who tried to contact me again. (C) Then if you attempt contact a number of times they can drop the stalker bomb...into the conversation. If you never want to see a person again for the remained of your life... Be very direct in your language... Tell the person they are effectively dead to you. That you NEVER want to see them again. For the remained of their natural lives you never want to see them again. Hope is a terrible thing... I always assumed I could take on a reduced role...at a subconscious level. Unfortunately in my younger years I was terrible an expressing myself. I was never dangerous I often wonder how many ex partners use this tactic to validate their own egos as a form of revenge?

A former partner stalked me for over 4 years. Followed me on dates, tapped my phone, interrupted mail, he was relentless! I isolated, horrified to speak up out of shame and fear of not being believed.

It started in an unhealthy abusive relationship that got me trapped in a place where I'm living, and this is nowultiple people, tamperedcars mail taken misery😢

If you deal with hate stalkers be aware you are dealing with dangerous fakes. They are jealous of who you are and they are not

My naïveté & laziness fully cooperated with 60yr old passive aggressive stalking/ doxxing. So innocuous and pervasive I refused to deal with it.

Thank you for the information!🙏🏻

Thank you 💞 shared love from Albuquerque

Very important video even strangers who act like they know you and say where you have eaten what you watch etc. Orwellian type stalking goes on

Any type of stalking is horrible and I’m going through an incompetent stalker right now… lol

I was made to understand that STALKERS are mostly upset due to "UNREQUITED LOVE." (i.e. telling the whole world) that someone's husband aka your lover is madly in love with you). And that you're even planning to get married to the HUSBAND/LOVER and having children with HIM. While in fact, your "LOVER" is actually busy getting ready to RETIRE abroad with HIS WIFE of a few decades. So...What exactly is it? MENTAL ILLNESS or did you take a PROPAGANDA course ? Obviously..."We The People". . .must seriously decide which version of these STORIES...WE choose to believe. "Never interact with a STALKER." I totally agree. Hence, we must NEVER minimize what they're capable of doing. Because they obviously WANT something. It could be the MAN, the MONEY, the FARM, the BUSINESS.... everything! Because..believe it or not, there are those who only want to be taken out to DINNER at MCDONALD'S.

My stalker of over 2 years was told by police to stay away from my area, he has stayed away, but will he ACTUALLY stay away?

Can you determine what catagory the ''stalker'' falls under by the methods used to stalk?

What if the stalker didnt realise what they where doing, people with mental health disorders such as bpd depression, gad, ocd etc. A non violent stalker who was just very unwell and not of sound mind who knew they needed help and even told doctors etc that they need to be in a hospital to be treated but just got brushed off and just put on more medication. A stalker can be going through hell as well. Its terrible for both sides. But a rational person of sound mind is a whole different ball game.

My boyfriend’s ex girlfriend has been staking me for over 4 years. Her harassment patterns are consistent with those of someone suffering with narcissist personality disorder with baiting, hovering, flying monkeys, etc. The harassment started with her accusing me of stealing her “boyfriend” (even after they broke up) to now where she is messaging my family on social media on different platforms, she moved in to another city with my abusive ex boyfriend to gain information (my socials have been successfully hacked, my ex had my passwords), to getting random strangers I don’t know to threaten me for her. I’ve had to get the police involved. She seems to fall under the vindictive/rejected stalker mentality.

🙏🙏🙏 prayers for the people who suffer from these disorders

I witnessed a crime in the year 2000 and I was punished for it. The people who were supposed to help resolve this crime wrote a negative report about me saying that I was a problem. So the person stalking me took money to do it and now every bit of my life is compromised. He has money and power it works for the government. I just realized day before yesterday that that's why I've been feeling so heart sick. I've been being stalked for almost 4 years now. Don't feel like I can go to the police. I have proof and I even have his phone number. It just makes me truly heart sick and I feel unsafe 😢

I’m beginning stocked now. I’m scared. I find myself looking around now when I do anything. Filing out the restraining order is bringing back all the bad history. I fall into Stockholm syndrome. 😣💔 thank you for the information.

So my stalker was seeking a romantic relationship with me. It all started in 9th grade for me. But his fascination for me probably started in kindergarten. I was just minding my business going from class to class. He was in two of my classes but he didn’t seem to notice me. I noticed him because I thought he seemed familiar and kind of cute but I put out of mind. Then one day he saw me without my glasses. He said to his friend. “It’s her!” Then he proceeded to tell me that we had met in kindergarten. I agreed that I thought so too. After that he made some crude attempts to get my attention. Mostly he would show up in the same places as me. Places he wasn’t supposed to be at like near the girls gym. I thought if I ignored him he would give up and stop bothering me but unbeknownst to me, he was following me way more than I had realized. Those time that he “showed up” trying to say hello were nothing he was following me all the time everyday from class to class. He knew my route to classes that we didn’t even share. He followed me to the bus area. One time he sat next to me on the bus. I thought it was odd because why did he sit next to me of all people. I was certain there were other spots open. He said hi to me. I don’t remember if I said hi back but then he just stared at me the whole 15min to my stop. I felt so uncomfortable. I thought about asking why he was staring at me. Then we came to my stop and I grit my teeth because I had to tell him to move. He moved on his own and I was relieved. I thought he was going to sit back down but instead he walked behind me all the way to the driveway of my house and then turned around and left. The only reason I knew is because my brother saw him and asked me who he was. I think he developed an obsession with dating the cute girl from kindergarten. I wasn’t necessarily me in the present moment. It was the girl he met back then. He was obsessed with my face. My physical attributes but he cared nothing about my feelings. He was only obsessed with my looks. If he found a doppelgänger that looked just like me he would probably be obsessed with her too.

I have a question. I have been stalked recently by friends and family of a girl who gave me her number out of the blue without me asking. She sent one text and i later replied with one text. I got no response so moved on and didn't text or call. Her friends and family have started stalking me for the last three weeks everytime they see me in a very small town. My question; could this be for drama or something, as i found out from one of her friends that she had a boyfriend she is with, or a cover story for why she gave the number?

So do you think this means that most private investigators have like borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder? Because they obviously enjoy that kind of career or they wouldn't stalk people for a living.

I was stalked by a fellow student when I was in college who was the ex partner of the person I was dating. They had broken up 2 months or so before we started dating. I think she would qualify as the predatory kind of stalker in that she just seemed to enjoy collecting information on me and lording it over me, relishing in the power to unravel my already frayed mental health. She gave me a nickname that implied that I was crazy. She stopped stalking me as soon as my relationship with her ex ended. She went on to become a marriage and family therapist.

Thank you.

Blessings Darren. Just touching base to prove I have sought this info again. 🙏

I've been accused of being a stalker before, but I didn't have any malicious intent, I just wanted to be friends. I feel bad for the guy but don't know how to resolve the situation, and now he doesn't like me. Here's my perspective on what happened: Throughout my first 3 years at secondary school, there was this one guy who was always bullying me, which I found really hard to deal with, but that's not relevant just yet. Fast forward a bit and this guy's best friend (the one who I was accused of stalking) made a song and published it on his YT channel, but at the time I didn't know about his channel so I didn't know about the song. Then one day in form time, the friend was given permission to play the song to the whole form, and he did. In my opinion, this song was just so much better than anything I could ever hope to produce. I also got a glimpse of his YT name after the song and saw his channel was doing much better than mine (pretty small in the grand scheme of things, but compared to my channel it had quite a large number of subscribers). I honestly was jealous of him, of the fact that me and my bully's best friend are about the same age, but he seemed to be doing so much better than me (his YT channel was doing well compared to me and he's better than me at music). I was also around the same time trying to find a solution to the guy bullying me. I thought if I told a teacher about him, he would get in trouble, realise it was because of me and would just bully me even more. I was hoping to instead become friends with him, but I thought there was no hope in ever directly talking to him as the situation had gotten too out of hand. I eventually thought of the idea that I could try to become friends with his best friend, and then maybe through him I could become friends with the actual guy himself. The friend genuinely seemed (and still does seem) like a good person, and he had never done anything to annoy me in the past. But I'm a huge introvert and don't have the courage to go up and speak to people in person, but I find it slightly easier to interact with them online. I thought maybe if I was active on his YT and subscribed to him, then I might have a chance. So, I decided to search up his song after school that day, like the video, subscribe to his channel with bell notifications on and also comment something (he didn't know who I was so I felt it much easier to comment than to talk to him in person). I started off by commenting some not too weird thing that I can't remember exactly. But then, my ASD kicked in and I felt an uncontrollable urge to point out a bunch of spelling mistakes throughout the song, with a few over the top compliments thrown in to undo the bad things I pointed out, so he knew I wasn't saying the song was bad. This was a huge mistake. I didn't realise this at the time but apparently, over the top compliments don't seem genuine, so looking back on it, he probably thought I was being sarcastic, but I'm not the smartest and I genuinely thought I was being nice by commenting on his video to hopefully make it more popular. I even listened to the song on repeat for days and eventually, I for the most part carried the video all the way to 1000 views, making it one of his most popular videos. But that's not all I did to try to become a positive part of his community, I also joined his Discord server. Big mistake. He DMed me asking who I was. To this day I have no idea why I did this, and I know I shouldn't have done, but I first made him guess who I was for a bit, which I just thought was a bit of fun, but I guess he didn't see it like that. Then I told him. Instantly blocked on Discord and hidden from his YT channel. This was my first sign that I should've taken that he doesn't want me on his channel, but I didn't see it, I just thought he had just had a bad day or something like that and moved on. He later made more music, which I also listened to on repeat, and since he didn't have one on his channel, I decided to create a private playlist containing all of his songs on my channel. Then, he unlisted one of his songs. This was when my selfishness shone through, but I didn't realise how selfish I was being until much later. I still had the link to this unlisted song, and I didn't think it was a bad song, so going against what he would've wanted, I decided to make my playlist public so that other people could still access it if they looked for it. At the time, no one knew about this playlist except me, and no one really ever did find out about it apart from him, but I'll get to that later. Then he actually privated this song, and now it's lost forever. This was when I suspected (correctly) that he seemed to be in a cycle of releasing a song and thinking it's good, then later on he would stop liking it and eventually get rid of it. So, being the ignorant selfish guy I was, I saved all of his existing songs into web archive, removing his privacy and meaning that he could no longer ever fully delete any of his songs, simply because I thought they were good songs and still wanted to listen to them. Later, when he deleted some more songs exactly as predicted, I put a description of what to do to get to them into my public playlist description, meaning anyone could access them if they wanted and so they're not really private. Then, he found my playlist and commented on one of my videos, saying if I didn't private or delete my playlist of his deleted videos, he would take legal action using YT's copyright system. This was the point when I finally realised way too late that he doesn't want me anywhere near his channel, and I would never be able to become friends with him or the guy bullying me, so I did what I should've done months prior and stopped. I unsubscribed from his channel so as to not see when he uploads and deleted the playlist. Knowing how selfish I was I feel really bad for him now, I can't even imagine what he must have been going through, but I think if I ever speak to him again it will just make the situation worse. The guy who was bullying me also found out about this and started bullying me even more. TL;DR stalked a guy whose best friend was bullying me as an attempt to become friends with both of them, ended up getting bullied even worse

I was also being stalked in regards to my dog. I was being falsely accused of abusing her and the information given out was false gossip information. People who falsely report or accuse are nothing but a POS 😾