How did you get so wise at such a young age, sweetie? (I'm an old granny who loves your channel and has watched every single video and learned a lot from you.) You have that baby however you want to and don't let anybody push you around about what you "should" do. Do what is right for your baby, for you, and for your family.
@Frankie_9022 жыл бұрын
I could not have said it any better!! 100% Agree!!
@kathyw57012 жыл бұрын
This Granny agrees completely!
@SoilToSoul2 жыл бұрын
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@nansfam85342 жыл бұрын
This Gramma also agrees 💕
@NoFUYT2 жыл бұрын
this Nana Agree!!!!
@sharobes80652 жыл бұрын
By reading these post, my opinion might not be welcome, but I feel it’s most important to be informed. I know everyone is advocating for home birth, but as a nurse I feel that you really need to understand the risks involved. Questions like, how long would it take to get to a hospital if there were issues? Questions like should your first time giving birth be in a home setting since you really have no clue how your body is going to respond to child birth? I know so many people have their opinions on how wonderful a home birth is, I personally have seen the after affects on how home births can cause potential life threatening, life ending consequences. As a pregnant mom you spend so much time eating right, not smoking, not drinking, staying stress free for the good of your baby, but then thinking that it’s best to have a child at home where there is no life saving equipment when things go wrong. A baby can have brain damage in minutes without oxygen. Life altering forever. I am not trying to scare the heck out of you but just giving you some facts. Check out your local hospital and see if they have alternative birthing rooms where you could have a doula, or a midwife in a relaxing environment where you can have a beautiful experience without as much risk. I love what you do and just sharing my opinion and my heart to you. Most important educate yourself on both sides. So excited for you and Josh on this new wonderful adventure. Children are a blessing.❤️
@lora17182 жыл бұрын
My granddaughter planned a home birth.. had a picture perfect pregnancy and after way to many hours at home she was taken to the hospital and delivered a stillborn… That was two years ago and she is still not healed from her experience… I am not against home birth.. I just realize from personal experience that they are not all picture perfect and that doesn’t seem to be spoken about enough 😢
@mountainmama71552 жыл бұрын
Having the right midwife make all the difference. That being said, no one should ever birth in a place they are not comfortable with. Education on our options is key. I have had many homebirths and a couple hospital births. All were good experiences because we were educated in our choices and chose our birth team accordingly. We believe in prayer,so we did alot of that as well.
@mountainmama71552 жыл бұрын
@@lora1718 , I am so sorry for your loss💔 That is heartbreaking. Every loss is tragic ,regardless of the hows and whys. My sister in law lost her precious baby at 38 weeks from a doctor prescribing her a medication not intended for pregnant women. The loss wad so hard on our whole family.
@denisedurham93852 жыл бұрын
@@lora1718 my heart breaks for her and I know it will take time for some healing but I know she will never forget. Your childs death is real and serious trauma. As a mother that lost my third child when he was 12 1/2 I would suggest ongoing counseling because it is important for both parents and family to recieve some kind of healing so you can live and not just wander from day to day. I hope she has been able to go through all the processes of grief. I send them hugs to the very depths of their hearts.
@susanbissonnette6812 жыл бұрын
As a NICU nurse I totally agree. Unfortunately I have seen too many devastating results of a home birth. I get the idea of a beautiful home birth but there are times when it just doesn't go well or "as planned." The ultimate plan is what works for you to have a healthy baby and mama!
@stellasfarmlife24652 жыл бұрын
So happy to hear you’re keeping you’re baby off the internet. Protect that baby at all cost!! 💙💙
@harmonyfamilylifetk2 жыл бұрын
After making my own baby food, I now do baby led weaning, which is basically giving them whatever you eat. It is so much easier. I also homeschool my kids and one of my kids has dyslexia and adhd, we have really had to go outside the box in how he learns, but he's now reading chapter books at 11.
@brandiwall9632 жыл бұрын
I made my own baby food too and should have went straight to led weaning. Totally agree
@b.t.m.devries1762 жыл бұрын
I Made all the babyfood to. I cook everything without salt and sugar. When they begame older salt and sugar were added litle by litle. I love your KZfaq cannel 👍🙏
@nseni313852 жыл бұрын
Pre made baby food i only bought for the convenience of having it in my diaper bag. When we were home all of my kids ate what we ate. When you get a chance becky go to your local supermarket and look at the baby food. Stages 1 and 2 are a little bland stage 3 you could probably cook all of that yourself, and healthier. It's sooo easy to make and adapt food for your baby! Similar to the way you already prep food. You can buy tiny noodles and add them right to your own sauces with vegetables in them or on the side. Super simple!
@HealthGeekMum2 жыл бұрын
I went straight into BLW, seriously so good for ease but also for the infants jaw development etc. The funny thing is I love cooking so beforehand I was looking forward to cooking baby foods, and then I started reading on BLw and realise there is no point to do any baby foods. 😅🤷🏻♀️
@dlsdyer90712 жыл бұрын
TK so great to hear about the school progress of your youngster. All four of ours had dyslexia in two or more areas of the four. We decided to homeschool so that family time would not be limited to doing homework. We wanted our children to have a childhood. Note: The two most affected, one has a degree in mechanical engineering and the other is a licensed PTA and works with special needs children.
@guyonmybike2 жыл бұрын
I completely respect your decision to not film your baby. Is so refreshing to see you talk about consent with filming
@ivyblack81452 жыл бұрын
I haven't watched yet, but this comment gives me so much relief. It was definitely going to effect my decision to continue watching the channel.
@twinkiestar65382 жыл бұрын
@@ivyblack8145 Same here. I absolutely hate family channels, as it almost always comes across as a breach of privacy on the child's part. Certain channels cross this line more than others, but I've seen channels featuring their daughter's first leg shave or 'the talk'!! It comes across as taking advantage of their children and purposefully exposing them to creeps for the money. It's sick!!
@ivyblack81452 жыл бұрын
@@twinkiestar6538 oh, it's 100% using your child for likes. People just will twist it any way to justify it, especially by saying their child says they are fine with it. Your 5 year old has no idea what that means and the long term effects. Plus, there are so many awful people doing things with even innocent pictures, it's not worth the risk. I just send stuff of my daughter to close friends and family directly. No one is entitled to my child.
@guyonmybike2 жыл бұрын
@@ivyblack8145 I'm honestly so happy she won't be featuring her baby in the videos. I was also getting worried that she would and I'd have to stop watching. Im sure she'll talk about her experience being a mom much like she has with her pregnancy. But I'm so glad that babies first steps and first laugh won't be on the channel. Because they shouldn't be and children deserve privacy.
@alikruger60302 жыл бұрын
Agree
@bellabailey11832 жыл бұрын
Very wise on your birth situation. I worked for OB/GYN for 35 yrs. Keeping your options open is the way to go!!
@JamerrillStewart2 жыл бұрын
This was such a fun Q&A, Becky! I think your baby plan is perfect. Also, as far as baby items go, and your sharing about having a minimal nursery area, I think a good pack & play with changing table, baby wrap (I use a Moby for the first 4 months, then transition to the Ergo), baby blankets for nursing & spit up, a small portable baby swing, and the basics like clothing & diapers, are the basic necessities needed. And as far as you sharing about baby food, how your mom did it is also how I have done it. I might make up extras like batch cook a bunch of sweet potatoes, but for the most part the baby always eats whatever we’re eating. This is such an exciting time for you guys 😍😍😍
@AcreHomestead2 жыл бұрын
Aw thanks! That’s super helpful!
@yanasmith6813 Жыл бұрын
I love this! When we were growing up there was no baby food. We are what everyone else ate. It's even easier to do that now, just blitz it in a small onion chopper, and voila dinner is served. Everything else just smaller portions ❤️
@shirleyjjohnston54692 жыл бұрын
If I could I’d like to sit down with coffee and tell your parents that they have raised a wonderful, leveled headed daughter. OMGosh Becky, I want you and Josh to have the best life, a wonderful pregnancy and may your journey be blessed with mostly roses and few hurts. Your both going to be ok!! Can’t wait to meet baby boy or baby girl. Finding you and Josh is like opening the best book and I don’t want it to end. ❤ EVER…🇺🇸🙏🧸🍼🍇🥦🥒🫒🌽🥕
@DrofJustice2 жыл бұрын
I’m a retired pediatrician, mother of 2, homeschool proponent, and recovered control freak. As for birth situation, try not to have your heart set on anything. Stuff happens. I REALLY wanted vaginal deliveries, but I don’t have the pelvis for it. My oldest was sick after birth and complications after the second c section shut down the option for a third child. I am blessed to have two wonderful boys and the birth situation, it turns out, is completely overshadowed by the years of memories with them. ❤️
@shodson3142 жыл бұрын
I sooo agree! Have the same problem but was blessed to get 3 before the doc said “no more”
@Momma4Freedom2 жыл бұрын
So well said! Had my first vaginal and the last 3 C-section after my se one was an emergency from a placental abruption. God was watching over us because it ruptured into me and the amazing and very blessed and talented OB and Pediatrician saved my little girl! A complete miracle and one that is actually in the books. Love Becky so much and all she does! I’m a grandma to 7 and have watched and learned so very much from her!
@anonomas61262 жыл бұрын
I have had two vaginal births after a cesarean.
@Earlymorningbookworm2 жыл бұрын
I completely agree! I had my first two naturally at a birth center with a midwife. I wish my last two could have been that way. With my third my placenta abrupted when my water broke. So that really threw my birth plans out the window as I ended up with an emergency c-section hours later. I tried for a vbac with my 4th but after my water broke, I still hadn’t gone into labor 24 hours later. In my heart I knew I needed a c-section and I’m so glad I didn’t stick to my desire for a vbac. I had the surgery and it turns out if I had gone into labor my scar was so thin that I would have had a uterine rupture. God took care of me that day and I’m so thankful for four healthy babies even though not all of my births were what I wanted!
@nanaronhano3372 жыл бұрын
I really, really wanted vaginal deliveries too but my babies haven’t been able to fit out. I’m 5’2 with a curvier, athletic build but my pelvis is pretty narrow and my babies are chunky! But God is good. I think the BEST advice is to have your birth/postpartum/breastfeed preferences but keep in mind that your needs and baby’s needs can certainly change what you pictured in your mind. And that’s okay! Some babies can struggle with nursing and your next might be a total natural. Do your best to go with the flow. :)
@Gunapithesunrose2 жыл бұрын
With the baby stuff - I had my baby at the start of Covid and we had barely anything (shops closed, deliveries were taking weeks) and that taught me that you can definitely have a minimalist attitude to newborns. The only thing I swear by is an ergo baby or a wrap to carry baby - hands free is a must with a newborn!
@KCJohn3162 жыл бұрын
Lol, a mom of 3 who worked with my husband suggested such minimal supplies 5 white onesies, 2 baby socks, etc that I laughed. Oh I wish I had listened. So much $$ wasted on silly stuff.
@anonomas61262 жыл бұрын
If you do want more variety thrift stores are great. I also second the baby wearing. Ring sling for the first few months then an ergo. Last a lilbaby toddler carrier for bigger toddlers.
@DinoReader2 жыл бұрын
Oh absolutely. We went from pack n play bassinet straight to twin mattress on the floor. Very min clothes etc. But that carrier? Essential.
@lydiah71842 жыл бұрын
Agreed, babies just need mommas milk, clean diapers & lots of love 🥰
@samanthaw14192 жыл бұрын
My ring sling was the most used piece of equipment.
@Rofamily62 жыл бұрын
I agree about giving up expectations, but I also highly suggest, and I think would be wise to have somewhat of a birth plan. Especially for after your baby arrives. Your birth plan (that you submit to the hospital and keep a copy with you). Like with gardening, if you have somewhat of a plan, you're prepared, and your garden is much more likely to be a success. Having somewhat of a plan in Parenthood, in my opinion, bring security to both parents and children. Example, Do you want your husband to be a part of your birth experience?. Do you want to snuggle baby if there is no emergency, and the hospital protocols (weighing/bathing etc) will have to wait and hour or two? Do you want the goop put on your baby's eyes right away? Is it necessary for you personally? It wasn't necessary for me, so I chose that they did not put the goop on my baby. I also wrote in my personal hospital plan, that my husband would cut the cord and give our baby her first bath. This was such a special time, and we cherish the photos. I also chose to wear my own clothing, not a hospital gown. I felt much more relaxed. I also wrote in my plan who I wanted at the birth. my husband and I also chose what testing/vaccinations we agreed on and which ones we did not want for our daughter. Every time there was a question, I heard the nurses referring to my plan. I am so grateful for this plan. It helped me and my family so much. It have us peace and assurance. I have had one long and hard, yet beautiful hospital birth, and 7 beautiful, incredible, peaceful and safe home births. Both experiences were safe and beautiful. Your experience will be beautiful as well!
@Mamato32 жыл бұрын
These are great questions to ask yourself!
@katysudlow73342 жыл бұрын
Well said.
@botanicalbecca84432 жыл бұрын
Amen! Love this statement. 💗
@jennielaguana34522 жыл бұрын
💕I can’t say it enough… “Becky you are a true inspiration!” 🥰You are soo wise beyond your years. I wish I had the knowledge and drive that you have, when I was your age. I think I would have been set for the rest of life.😊I am 50 now, but feel inspired and motivated just watching and learning from you. Like you’ve encouraged through your videos, if you want to do something, whether it’s a KZfaq channel, farming, homesteading, canning…“now” is the time, just do it, plant it, start it, it’s never too late unless you don’t attempt to try. ❤️Love and appreciate you and all you impart.😘
@magsstewart54882 жыл бұрын
RE BABY FOOD: My sister kept a little food mill on the counter and her babies ate whatever she cooked. I think the only alterations she made was taking babys portion out before heavily seasoning anything. I tried to copy that, but had more babies and a lot faster, lol! So while I also fed my babies whatever we were eating, it wasn’t the wonderful scratch meals my sister was capable of creating daily.
@pranichealer30782 жыл бұрын
I had twin boys and did this same thing. I patted myself on the back that I was introducing my babies to all different flavors and developing a sophisticated palate. LOL. Then the toddler years came, with new independence, and they became fussy. I think just on principal. They are now both 18, and one is still almost completely adverse to vegetables. But I don't regret anything. I'm still glad I made homemade baby food. One of the things my babies LOVED, LOVED was guacamole, and avocado is super healthy for them. Good luck and congratulations!
@JD-hi8qx2 жыл бұрын
We did "baby bird" style where we chewed for them lol
@debbieselland65912 жыл бұрын
A food mill is great to use.
@lydiah71842 жыл бұрын
My baby is 9 months, she’s always eaten everything we eat. She doesn’t eat puréed food! It’s so easy and she’s such a healthy girl with a great appetite.
@Kriistall72 жыл бұрын
@@JD-hi8qx that's disgusting 😅
@cindyking33042 жыл бұрын
I am on the way to a concert for one of my sons. I am a Mother of 9. The first 4 in the hospital, the last 5 at home. Most of my grandchildren are home birthed! Find a Fabulous Midwife!! My husband and some friends were my Midwife’s!! I will listen to the whole show tomorrow. Oh yes, all 9 were Homeschooled 💗💗💗💗💗
@saltycat6622 жыл бұрын
Wow 9 kids. I don't know how you did it. That's pretty amazing. My grandmother had 11 kids. Two aunts of mine had over 8 kids, some of the babies didn't make it unfortunately. I don't see big families like that anymore. Everyone I now know has maybe 1-2 kids or none at all.
@ingesexton8112 жыл бұрын
My grandmother is German and all of her babies were born at home with a midwife only one that was born in the states was born at a hospital. A lot of people don't realize in a lot of countries women have babies at home. Still! I think it's great and good for you for homeschooling. I used to be totally against it, now I have a 4th and 2nd grader and the education system sucks. I teach a lot at home myself because I'm worried they aren't getting a good education and they are leaps and bounds above the other kids in their grade. In fact my 4th grader scored the highest on some test they gave them out of the whole school!
@lesviesblanchescomptent2 жыл бұрын
@@saltycat662 because millennials and gen z are lazy and selfish, and are more passionate about abortion (child murder) then raising families
@lindseyrenee092 жыл бұрын
Love it! I’m one of nine kids, all homeschooled as well and my mom had 3 homebirths. ☺️
@shodson3142 жыл бұрын
Wow girl, you are an overachiever!! Well done💚
@kellimurphy7552 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing about your dyslexia. My 12 year old little girl is extremely dyslexic and I have beat myself up so much about her still not being able to read very many words at her she. Hearing other women speak on their learning disabilities and success makes me feel so much better about how she’s doing and how I’m doing teaching her. She is homeschooled as well. We did school and it was the saddest time for her. She can read most three letter cdc words and I could not be more proud of that.
@AcreHomestead2 жыл бұрын
I went to a reading tutor called sylvan learning center and that was a game changer for me. I did so so so much reading out loud and that helped me. I went to a privet tutor for years before that and it didn't help. She will get there. It is hard though.
@kellimurphy7552 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the encouragement.
@kam21622 жыл бұрын
All About Reading and All About Spelling worked for us!
@Julie-si3hi2 жыл бұрын
Becky ...so so so much respect for talking about consent and family vlogs! Too many put the children out there for clicks and likes, so it was refreshing to hear your views! Also your channel is awesome just as it is x
@danielledunavant31462 жыл бұрын
I am a retired Newborn ICU RN and worked there for 30+ years. I know home birth has improved greatly over the years but I have to say I have seen too many home births go bad and both mother and baby end up hospitalized. I am happy you are opting for a hospital birth since everything is there for a healthy birth and for emergencies should the need arise. I know the majority of home births are successful but there is always the possibility of problems and even though the nurse midwives are equipped to handle some of these emergencies, the extra hands and equipment of hospital birth just plain makes sense to me. Hospital births can also have problems but rest assured the staff is there as are the specialists that might be needed. This is just my 2 cents worth.
@rogeniadunn-anway28912 жыл бұрын
Agreed! I'm a retired Respiratory Therapist and have also seen many unexpected complications that would have been a poor outcome if delivery was at home. Do the safest thing!
@andreaadams82322 жыл бұрын
I am a medical coder this is what I see as well. I had both my children in a hospital. I nice thing to have is a doula at the hospital.
@ceecee78682 жыл бұрын
How many hospital births did you have in the NICU?
@lindseyrenee092 жыл бұрын
You’re seeing the small percentage of home births that end in transfer and not the majority that are well. 🤷🏼♀️
@sandifriest18572 жыл бұрын
Yes, I know a lady to lost her healthy newborn. Midwife didn't call for ambulance in time...I would never want my daughter to take that chance...
@marygray90022 жыл бұрын
Becky, you and Josh are such special people and I love your channel so much! I am 81 and love canning, dehydrating, cooking and gardening! You have taught me so much and I wouldn’t miss any of your video’s! I used to be a foster mom for newborn’s and can’t wait to see your precious baby! Keep up the good work girl, you are a treasure!
@arch17522 жыл бұрын
Agree 100% to that statement xx
@kerriesler90622 жыл бұрын
As a mom of 4 who had WAY too many plans & none of them happened, I absolutely love your way of thinking! No plans=no disappointment.
@ReadAndThrift2 жыл бұрын
Also love what you said about homeschool. My sister has 3 girls and homeschooled all 3 for years and always told them if they ever decided they wanted to go to public school they could and last year her oldest decided she wanted to and she has thrived! She is an extrovert and loves being around others and her sisters are very content being home and not in school. Personally I hated school and would’ve loved to stay home if given the option
@LurkerSmurf2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the honest Q&A! I love your description as a "work at home mom". Producing a channel is definitely work, as you found out when you had to choose between careers. I hope you don't feel pressured to make family choices based on KZfaq opinions. This is Your life, Becky. We are privileged to share it.
@Iamam3132 жыл бұрын
Even just raising a baby is a job in itself...
@MISNM02 жыл бұрын
Completely agree!!!! Her role by the very reality of t/reaching us IS her work product.
@nameistakentm10892 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy to hear your thoughts on resepecting the baby's privacy and ability to consent. Thank you!
@dianebaker52432 жыл бұрын
Totally agree 👍
@saltycat6622 жыл бұрын
That's because she's not a narcissist who wants to use her child to feed her own ego. Some people go way too far with showing their kids and their private lives online.
@aurtnowski2 жыл бұрын
I had twins unexpectedly after being married for 8 years and my philosophy was very similar to yours, simple and you just address things as they arise. It was all about psychological preservation for me, I also got very overwhelmed when I was faced with all the things that people “thought “ we needed (x2!). We realized that our home was happier if we found our own normal. They are 21 now and they are just as amazing today as they were the day they were born. Whatever you decide to do for your family will be the right thing, because it will be right for you and that is all that really matters.
@MISNM02 жыл бұрын
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@donnadonahoe90442 жыл бұрын
Becky, I absolutely love this particular video. I would have never guessed that you struggled learning. You are so intelligent and your love of learning is inspiring. Your so knowledgable about so many things. I see you in a whole new light. Your honesty and acceptance of yourself is so refreshing. We are who we are and the sooner we just love ourselves and get on with it, the sooner we reach our goals. Thank you so much for sharing.
@judithnugent57382 жыл бұрын
I was thinking the same thing but honestly a good homeschool foundation early on can be the best way to individualize and address learning differences.
@lindaparshall92762 жыл бұрын
Being a retired birthing/pediatric ICU RN, I can say ,the saddest day I ever had ,was when a dead baby came in from home birth that went wrong. When something goes wrong with birth in hospital you have everyone and everything to save you and your baby at hand. Home births aren't worth the risks.
@nicoleaitken94582 жыл бұрын
As a NBICU nurse I can’t agree more!! The best birthing experience is one that ends with a healthy mom and baby. Having emergency resources seconds away is vital to your baby !! You can have an amazing natural experience in a hospital!! Also be careful how much advice you ask for! Everyone has good intentions but life is colorful with different experiences and needs!!!
@theirishcailin3332 жыл бұрын
Yes I've had all mine in hospital, don't know about home births where I am (Ireland) but my last 2 are lucky to be alive, 2nd wasn't moving, emergency induction and last one at the end the heart beat took a nose dive and they started shouting at me that he had to come out now, can't imagine (well I can, he would have been dead) if I was at home
@soniaallen14762 жыл бұрын
Linda, I agree. I think it's great for some people, but I could never imagine it ever in my lifetime! I was really glad when my daughter-in-laws chose hospitals!
@angelareed70792 жыл бұрын
My husband and I followed Dave Ramsey and have been debt-free for over a year! Because of this, I have been blessed to stay at home and do my own thing. We've also been able to help bless our kids. 😊
@angelareed70792 жыл бұрын
You'll get there...it took us awhile but it's so worth it! Keep moving forward!
@RainyJo7152 жыл бұрын
Hi Becky, I have been growing peppers for many year’s, although I’m in South Dakota, and zone 5, however, I really border zone 4b very closely, so I have a short growing season. Not the exact same as yours, but I can tell you that I have learned over the year’s that peppers love to be planted close together! I have the absolute best results when their leaves are touching. Also, I heard you say a sunny spot, so you already know that they love the sun! Peppers 🌶 do not require the water that other plants like cucumbers and tomatoes do, they thrive in a more drought based environment. Not totally dry, but I’d say less than half the water that you’d give tomatoes and etc. So if you can, plant your peppers in a very sunny area, close together, and by themselves, so that they can have their own watering orders. If you get enough rain, then you may not need to water them. I fertilize them twice a Summer, and they do great!! Also, pick any leaves off the bottom of the plant, as well as fruit, until it’s larger and established. Pick your peppers 🫑 often to tell your plant’s to keep producing. I hope this helps. You’re doing absolutely amazing for only starting a couple of seasons ago!👍
@madison78502 жыл бұрын
With my first pregnancy we planned a homebirth, I went over 41 weeks and induced labor with a "midwives brew" smoothie. It helped kickstart a very very slow labor and I didn't know my son was flipped and twisted in the womb. Took 16 hours to start pushing and I couldn't push him out due to his position and my exhaustion. Went to the hospital and had to have an emergency cesarean due to his heartrate decelerating. During COVID we had our second baby and because of the lockdowns, having zero family in the state, and living over an hour away from the closest VBAC hospital, we had to have a repeat cesarean. Pregnant with our third in 4 years now and we will have another repeat cesarean. I live in WA state too, and there are a lot of COVID restrictions still in hospitals. We still don't have family here and my local hospital doesn't allow VBAC attempts. I consider myself a very holistic and naturally minded Mama. We have a farm and raise our meats and I like gardening and scratch cooking. I wish I could have a homebirth, I also am all for having supported and informed births. However someone wants to give birth, as long as they are respected, informed, and supported in their birthing decisions that is all that matters! I do have to say, that having a C-section the first time was very traumatic. I had to give myself grace, stop being mad at God, and tell myself (like you mentioned) that "all birth is natural! there is nothing unnatural about childbirth" I know we were created for unmedicated births, and I wish America didn't scare women at every turn about the "pain" and "horrors" of childbirth because it is such a beautiful thing. Woman are so powerful and I feel like our culture strips us of that power. I loved my midwifery care and I have had to retrain my brain to stop viewing all Doctors as "bad guys" and learn to be respectful yet firm in my wishes, asking questions, and also having my research done to advocate for myself. I had a doula and I couldn't recommend one enough! I guess I'll stop typing now since I've left you a novel! Take care whoever read this!
@melissal35122 жыл бұрын
I am a RN/NP. I had three children all w a midwife in the hospital. My third was born w respiratory difficulties and was transferred to a nicu at birth. I think it is so hard to know how things will go and it is safer to have a hospital birth if any complications arise unexpectedly. So often everything goes well but better to be prepared and somewhere they can help immediately if needed
@cinnamongurl81022 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing Josh & your personal life, thoughts, feelings & plans. You are a true treasure.
@susanjones31772 жыл бұрын
Don’t feel bad, we don’t even know the gender and we are the Grandparents! 🤣 Susan, Becky’s mom!
@DG-pu1lp2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your upcoming grandchild! Your daughter is such a credit to you and your husband. What a lovely, intelligent, hardworking, sensible young woman. It is a pleasure to follow her channel. 😊
@nourishingourhome16472 жыл бұрын
I am current reading “French Kids Eat Anything” and I’m loving it! Ps. Minimal nursery is 100% possible!
@AcreHomestead2 жыл бұрын
It’s a good book!
@jenniferdaley61862 жыл бұрын
loved this!!! When you mentioned your long term goal is to write a cookbook ...I got so excited!! sign me up!! please include all your tips and tricks in every day life as well!!! I love that you are so personable, energetic and thorough with your explanations and conversations with us. also love the fact that not everything has to be broadcasted to everyone. I'm a private person myself. excited to hear about the cookbook!! blessings to you and your family!!🌻
@angelabutler18082 жыл бұрын
My first child almost passed away . He had the cord around his neck and no one knew so second baby was in the hospital just because I felt safer I was scared that might happen again. Nothing is scarier than almost losing your child and the what ifs I ask myself. It may not have made a difference but I just needed that security of being right there with a nicu around.
@lydiah71842 жыл бұрын
I had a homebirth & my baby had the cord wrapped around her neck AND chest. We had no problems, midwives helped as she was coming out and there was no need to panic. Cords are made to be very stretchy and permeable. If your team is knowledgeable, it’s very rarely a big problem!
@theirishcailin3332 жыл бұрын
I nearly lost my last 2 children, scares the life out of you
@famservingyah7652 жыл бұрын
Cord around the neck is actually very common. That's part of why they have you stop pushing once the head is delivered - to move the cord if need be as well as to prevent tearing.
@michaelatran99462 жыл бұрын
No reason for people to share negative birth stories with new moms… why do woman continue to do this? So here I’ll share some positves- first baby was a c section, second was a hospital vbac and my last two were homebirths… my homebirths were by far my favorite:)
@iamsdoula2 жыл бұрын
@@michaelatran9946 right!!! I can not with some people. Uplifting and inspiration zone, everything else keep to yourself!!! sheesh!
@Escapetothe8thConcession2 жыл бұрын
Loved learning more about you and your plans for the new house! I get so inspired with your bulk freezer meal cooking and just your drive and energy (even if it isn't every day!). It gets me striving to harvest, preserve, and cook more from my own garden.
@plumtreefarm98282 жыл бұрын
When I was pregnant with my son, I had hyperemises gravidarum. It was like having the worst stomach flu you can imagine for nine months. I gained no weight when pregnant. In fact, I lost 35lb. I had to be hospitalized for hydration therapy once. Some of the things I found that did help 1] never let yourself get too hungry. Eat something every two hours, even if it’s just some crackers. 2] find your “ go to” meal that gives you energy and helps fill the void. For me it was peanut butter and grape ( had to be Welch’s grape) jelly - again, every two hours. You will find what works for you. Good luck and best wishes!
@psymompa2 жыл бұрын
Same for me. I lived off pb and grape jelly. After I initially lost 15 lbs, I was given anti nausea meds which helped a little but the only thing that helped was birth, ha! I tell folks that I felt like I had a stomach virus for seven and a half months. Ugh. It was so bad that I went from wanting four kids to barely having two.
@katehassen60212 жыл бұрын
I was a devotee of Carla Emory in the 70's. We lived off grid for about 20 years and I used her book nearly every day. So happy to see young people still remember her.
@rebellajm2 жыл бұрын
I just used her book today; haven't heard her mentioned in ages...
@MISNM02 жыл бұрын
Very very cool!
@hannakanonik73092 жыл бұрын
Mom of four here! First baby was in the hospital with a midwife, second and third in an independent birth center and baby number four at home. Everyone will have an opinion on what’s right for you.. I say tour your a hospital, find an independent birth center and get a tour, and meet with several midwifes if you’re not already set on the one you have. I would have my babies at home time and time again. A quick thinking, knowledgeable and well prepared midwife will be invaluable in most emergency situations that could arise. Xo
@robertmcmaon19862 жыл бұрын
Yes! Mom of 7 here. First in hospital, next 6 at home. Midwifery care at home has been far superior and healthy in our experience.
@WonderInReverie2 жыл бұрын
Hello Becky! You truly don't need even half of what everything/one tells you you need when having a baby. Get what's right for you and your family. You will do such a great job. Trust your instincts and you will have everything you need.
@bobbysmith8552 жыл бұрын
Mum of 6 here and grandmother of a lot too, and I'm soo relieved to hear baby will be born in hospital! I know how lovely a home birth is, but having had one of my deliveries go so wrong so quickly during delivery, it left me a firm believer that safety is key. So excited to for you and Josh Becky. God bless you both.
@donna63682 жыл бұрын
I have had 3 children. 2 of them being high risk. They were all born in a hospital. It made me feel more comfortable knowing that immediate help and pain relief was available if it became necessary. I wanted my labor and delivery to be as enjoyable as possible and not blurred by worry and pain.
@loiscassels89662 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad you’re not turning into a “family channel”. Not everyone is fascinated by other people’s children. I’m excited for your baby and hope everything goes well but I enjoy your channel the way it is. ❤️🇨🇦
@dianedeck2 жыл бұрын
Yeah I kinda hope she does it kinda like Laura in Garden Answer does. She shows the babies at times if they happen to pop in but its not the focus of the channel and they are just around. Love the babies for sure but they just need to be with mom and dad not parents worrying about showing them at all. Also it is so dangerous in todays world to be having kids plastered all over youtube.
@AnnA-jd4xm2 жыл бұрын
@@dianedeck Laura Vitale does that too! she shows her daughter a few times and even has a couple videos cooking with her but it's mostly just Laura.
@suzannelangdon2 жыл бұрын
I fluffin LOVE your channel and I'm absolutely delighted to hear that you're not going to film your precious little one, too many exploiting their children for money and too many creeps on KZfaq looking at their babies. God bless you and your sweet family 😍 you're a rare gem that I'm delighted to have found xx much love from Ireland 🇮🇪
@crimsondryad2 жыл бұрын
Hey Becky :) Look up Dexter cows - they are snack sized! Almost like having a golden retriever that moos. I am on the fence about having a cow too. Nothing wrong with getting the baby a little bigger before deciding.
@AD-rp8xw2 жыл бұрын
:D Laughing over here @ 'golden retriever that moos'!!!
@nessasbestdiy2 жыл бұрын
I am extremely dyslexic as well. Unfortunately I was not given the opportunity to overcome it. I am learning a lot more now as an adult but I praise you for sharing it makes me feel less alone!
@iamsdoula2 жыл бұрын
Right!!!
@mymemories2372 жыл бұрын
Yes same, wish I had some help as a child.
@Leah-ic1et2 жыл бұрын
We have suspected my 8 year old is dyslexic, we are in the process of formal testing but it’s $1700😮 just for the test to confirm it😢. I find it so frustrating trying to find information on what can help him. We have been doing intervention from when he was 5 as I had that feeling in my gut that something was not right. his teachers on the other hand have told me they would not have done anything for him as he is not behind in their testing. Do you have Any tips on what helped you growing up navigating dyslexia?
@erirose86802 жыл бұрын
@@Leah-ic1et Can you not obtain testing at your local public school? That is crazy you have to pay $1700.
@Leah-ic1et2 жыл бұрын
@@erirose8680 no I live in Australia, dyslexia is not classes as a disability so we have to pay for it ourselves 😢. Our school won’t get funding or support for his learning from our government, everything we have done so far has been initiated by myself to get him help he needs.
@califam39632 жыл бұрын
I’ve had a c section, hospital VBAC and two home births. Home birth is not for everyone but I can say that it was the best choice for me. It’s so much more peaceful and calm. You don’t have anyone coming into your room all day and night. In the end it all boils down to what you’re comfortable with. Either way you’re still going to birth your baby and you know what’s best for you.
@FC-xs3qk2 жыл бұрын
Great “birth plan” I had all of my kiddos in Vancouver with a midwife in a hospital. Such a great way and to keep your options open! So glad to hear your perspective on showing babe minimally! So much respect for that! Seriously have thought about starting a KZfaq channel very similar to yours we have very similar interests lol. You are amazing and inspirational!
@raechelaine2 жыл бұрын
Love your perspective on things, Becky! So true about feeling overwhelmed with all the baby things that are available to buy. As a young mother of 2 I can say less is often times more! ☺️
@kishamyers79052 жыл бұрын
I was high risk for both of my pregnancies so I couldn't have a home birth and I wasn't comfortable with that idea regardless because there were too many variables that were out of my control. Talk to an experienced midwife and your obgyn and really get all the information for both hospital and home births!
@heidij21262 жыл бұрын
This is one the most eloquently and well done sit down. I felt it was an honest interview of the information you want to share. And all of it beautiful 🦋
@joannevdm64372 жыл бұрын
I have learned so much from you Becky (I am. 57 years old!) I am meal prepping now and this past weekend I started purging my home. Thank you 🙏
@amandakhanyase85232 жыл бұрын
I just love how simplistic you live your life. I particularly love that you don't put pressure on yourself by having certain expectations of things you can't really control. I think you are going to be a great mom and your husband will be a great dad. I wish you guys nothing but the best and thank you for sharing part of your life with us ❤
@GenXtothe7thPower2 жыл бұрын
I really admire your decision to not put your children on social media!
@Momma4Freedom2 жыл бұрын
I just love your philosophies so very much!!! You are an inspiration and an amazing young woman! Your parents must be so proud of you! Praying your pregnancy gets a little easier on you and that the move goes uneventful amd that God showers you and your family with much joy and many blessings!
@mornarobbins75952 жыл бұрын
I love your attitude towards consent being on KZfaq because a lot of creators do not have that consideration. I love this channel even more because of that!
@MISNM02 жыл бұрын
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@debdunham14932 жыл бұрын
I loved this video. You are so good at speaking in a that gets to the point and eliminates non relevant information to your topics…therefore knocked out LOTS of questions. I’m so pleased I found your channel. Thank you.
@Dkk8452 жыл бұрын
I noticed that you added extremely accurate timestamps in the description, which must’ve taken you ages to do. I really appreciate your effort behind all the youtube work and producing all the wonderful content!❤️
@MISNM02 жыл бұрын
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@Basswife262 жыл бұрын
Your birth plan is SOOO smart!! This way you’ll be happy in the end, no matter what happens!!
@isabelmariavalades14072 жыл бұрын
Hello Becky I’m British born but live in Spain 🇪🇸 I love your video and I would like to congratulate you and your husband for sharing the news about your pregnancy I enjoy very much all your videos sending you hugs and kisses 😘
@kimr40052 жыл бұрын
Becky I just hung on every word of this video. So full of love wisdom and insight. I love how you work things out, make your decision and stand. It’s refreshing. Blessings to you and all your family
@kathrynrichmond8112 жыл бұрын
This was very enjoyable and motivating! You handled every question with wisdom and grace! I to am a grandmother who watches your channel and also a great-grandmother! As I stated in one of my previous comments, you would be surprise to know the generations you inspire. Again, it's awesome to see young people be a positive role model to so many others. Oh, I love the response to allowing the baby to have choices! Every individual should! I applaud you for that!👏👏
@eileenbrooks-laitinen97782 жыл бұрын
Same...grandma and great grandma. Love Becky and her approach to life. She appeals to all ages.
@kathrynrichmond8112 жыл бұрын
@@eileenbrooks-laitinen9778 Yes she does. 😊
@wingandaprayer77772 жыл бұрын
Becky, we can't thank you and Josh enough to show us all the dreams you have and the realization of those dreams! As far as the home birth, I took pictures of my girlfriend's home birth. She was always so thankful for the photos because there is a lot happening that you can't really see (like the crowning for example). Home birth with a midwife was SO peaceful and such a tender, touching moment. Based upon all that I saw, this was much better than the hospital environment. One major reason my girlfriend opted for home birth was that she felt that she wanted to know WHO was handling her baby at all times and it was much more comforting for the baby to be 100% near her momma from the moment of birth since that is already shocking enough to the baby. Hope that these points help you make your own personal decision. I know my friend NEVER regretted her home births (she had two naturally - using teas and walking/pool/ball to help with labor). God bless you. Thanks also for all the tidbits of info on you and Josh! Y'all are my husband's and my favorite couple on YT!
@zoerice42272 жыл бұрын
Honestly speaking, your decision to avoid making your baby into a product elevates you even higher in my esteem. Too many people treat their children as content, like-bait ect, and even as someone who never wants to have kids, that breaks my heart to see happen. Kids deserve privacy, just like everyone else. It makes me happy to see someone, at least, knows the score on basic decency.
@natashagorecki43692 жыл бұрын
I found your channel in May when I was about 30 weeks pregnant and trying to stock a freezer with home made meals. I felt so prepared for my birth in June and nothing went how we expected. I was also very open to my birth going the way it needed to go, but there were also many moments where people dismissed my needs and I was in no position to advocate more strongly. Highly recommend talking through all the possibilities with Josh and your Doula so they understand how you might feel in different situations that come up and can support you. You will not need about 80% of the stuff people tell you to get for your baby (I learned this from 8 years of nannying). Thank you for all of your hard work to make your channel, it's given me so much confidence to trust my own cooking skills.
@dawnhenderson-blunn33122 жыл бұрын
I also agree with the comment about keeping some things between you and Josh..this should be a private experience for your family. Personally I would never jeopardise myself or my child by taking the risk of something happening at home. I have experience of both and biggest mistake I made not being near a hospital..but that’s me you do what’s right for you 😊
@Just973512 жыл бұрын
Totally agree with you!
@Megan96892 жыл бұрын
Agreed.
@karenhelser28342 жыл бұрын
Becky, thank you so much for answering all these questions. You are a very informed and wise young woman, poised and easy to listen to. Love your goals and your positive attitude. Your audience appreciates all the hard work it takes to film, edit and format your videos. You are amazing! Blessings to you and Josh.
@chelsybearden2 жыл бұрын
My son was born two years ago. I also was so overwhelmed by what everyone said was a necessity. The few things that were life savers for our little guys were diapers, wipes, a&d ointment, the Hatch sound machine, an oogie boogie booger picker, and a humidifier.
@deborahlawing27282 жыл бұрын
My daughter is a single mom and she got a "wipe warmer" as a gift for which she thanked the giver, and then returned to the store for some cloth diapers. They were expensive to start with but over the long run so much cheaper than disposables. The warmer was not essential to f her, the diapers were.
@janicethomas66922 жыл бұрын
You told us who your inspirations are, and I haven't heard of them before, and I will look them up. I must say that you Becky are my inspiration. I love your knowledge and willingness to research and then share what you learn on this channel. Always eager to watch, learn, and be entertained hanging out with you. Biggest Hello from Victoria in Australia. 👏👍
@margaretfralin40122 жыл бұрын
I second the NICU experience. I'm a retired L&D nurse and the same work stories. I worked high risk and low risk OB. The hospital experience can be very personalized and family oriented, look for that and gave a hospital birth. What a great ride you're on! Enjoy it!
@AnnA-jd4xm2 жыл бұрын
Thankfully many are offering deliveries with midwives now so if I choose a hospital birth, I'd def do that!
@hayleychan55332 жыл бұрын
Re: Sourdough - My starter died several times after I kept trying to get my own culture going (would go good for a couple weeks but then eventually just mold over). I got some starter from a friend of my mum's and started keeping it in the fridge, feeding once a week instead of daily. Now the culture seems to be strong enough that I can actually neglect it for several weeks in the fridge, and it always comes back after a feeding! I'd say give it another shot and if you think you killed your starter, unless it has visible mold growth then it can come back to life after a few feedings. A layer of liquid (hooch) is fine - fuzzy mold or discolouration though means toss it.
@jmwoods14282 жыл бұрын
You can also put your starter in the freezer if you go on vacation or just get tired of feeding it.
@YeshuaKingMessiah2 жыл бұрын
I have a liquid black layer on top It’s been in fridge 2 mos Think I should toss it?
@followthewildflower-2 жыл бұрын
@@YeshuaKingMessiah i saw a vid on instagram the other day about it. She mixed the black layer back in and tossed most of the starter. then she started feeding it again to bring it back!
@bintlooda2 жыл бұрын
Totally agree. After killing multiple starters, I took some of moms which was a year old strong and healthy and since then it’s so so easy taking care of it in the fridge I can forget about it for a month or so and it will be strong after just two days of taking care of it like two feedings and it will be good and healthy again
@theirishcailin3332 жыл бұрын
I just started mine last night following the advice of Lisa from Farmhouse on boone- I'm hoping it'll turn out good, fingers x'd
@theirishcailin3332 жыл бұрын
When my children were starting on solids I did fruits then veg first and popped them in ice cubes trays and then labelled them and put in ziploc bags in the freezer. It was brilliant as I'd just pull out as I needed then obviously increased the foods until they were eating more sizeable amounts
@victoriastewart71162 жыл бұрын
I did this too. My daughter had variety at every meal. And it was so convenient! I really enjoyed making her food. It was all really tasty too!
@dlsdyer90712 жыл бұрын
Yes, we did that to avoid the commercially canned stuff. One word of advice, what makes you nauseous during pregnancy that normally does not, will most likely be something that baby/child will not tolerate well. One has milk issues, another sea food, the nausea was the harbinger of those intolerances.
@jennyb8432 жыл бұрын
Let me just add.... the older ice trays, ( not the fancy half circles, or shapes new ones) the ice cube is roughly 1oz. So answering how much they are eating is easy. I steamed and pureed fresh fruits and veggies for all 3 of our 15 year olds. (3 of them, we were all pregnant at the same time. Lol)
@lori9292 жыл бұрын
Love this, I feel you have always been so transparent, but I love the fact you shared so much with us. I am a mom of 3 girls and was sick for the whole entire 9 months with all 3 of my girls. I hope you feel better, and you do what is best for you. You are going to be a great mom, and Josh will be a great dad. That little baby will be so blessed to have you both as parents.
@tinatippin57052 жыл бұрын
You did the best job in this Q&A, Becky. Such good questions and your answers were rich in wisdom. Very encouraging to new gardeners and old gardeners. Learn to cook, learn to preserve, source local producers, grow what you like. Very well done. Thank you.
@melissajohnson29352 жыл бұрын
Paramedic opinion here...if you want the experience of a home birth I would look into hospitals that have a birthing center very close or connected to the hospital. It's not home, but it's definitely not hospital-ly. The plus is having all hospital services right there should you need it. I've been called to home births gone wrong and it's traumatic all the way around. But of course that your and yours husband's decision to make.
@rachelsweets2 жыл бұрын
Great advice 🥰
@KCJohn3162 жыл бұрын
Yes, after my first birth was home birth with scary situations I went with birthing centre at hospital for second birth. Highly recommend it 👍💯
@JD-hi8qx2 жыл бұрын
And keep in mind that homebirth midwives don't transfer at red flags, but at orange.
@lydiah71842 жыл бұрын
Hospital trauma happens everyday during birth, too. It’s just normalized. Home births are actually proven to be safer and have less interventions than hospital births.
@melissajohnson29352 жыл бұрын
@@lydiah7184 you are absolutely right about hospital trauma happening. I have a very good friend that was a victim of a horrible hospital birth that resulted in the loss of her son. But I also know that for every one of those stories, there's a hundred more that's the exact opposite. I work in the medical field, therfore I have a lot of faith in the medical field. Like I said I've been to home births gone wrong and I've been to just as many unplanned, unexpected home births that went absolutely fine with parents that have one hell of a birth story to tell the rest of their lives. I also know there's hundreds of planned home births that go exactly to plan. It's entirely up the individual and I was just giving my opinions. The medical community have definitely stepped up their game when it comes to birthing options and there a way that's right for everyone.
@patsygorveatte39142 жыл бұрын
You make my day. I get so excited when a new video pops up! I stop whatever I'm doing and watch! I love your enthusiasm. You motivate me to improve. Keep up the great work. Clearly, your audience loves what you do! And we love Josh too. I'm glad he's in more of the videos now too!
@diananoonen22622 жыл бұрын
Love your birth plan. I had two C sections- the 1st not planned the second planned. You never know- but you keep that mindset its perfect.
@heidipustelniak6522 жыл бұрын
Years ago, I used to milk goats once a week, to give a friend a day off. I got to keep the milk for that day. I made the most wonderful goat cheese! I always hated goat cheese, but made from fresh milk, it didn’t have that “goaty” flavor. I also made goat milk soap. It was great to have the soaps to give as gifts. I am so enjoying your videos! Praying you have an easy labor, safe delivery and a very healthy baby! Hope we get to see the baby at least once in a while. So looking forward to seeing the changes you make at the new property. I live in Tucson Arizona, gardening in the desert is a real challenge! I absolutely love the PNW! It is such a great climate for growing things!
@nurseally862 жыл бұрын
I was a labor and delivery nurse for 12 years and I saw horrible home birth stories. If that is what you choose just make sure you have a midwife who will not hesitate to call an ambulance if needed. Time during delivery sequences can mean life. Yours or baby’s. I am also pregnant right now, due in late September and we live on the tiny island of Kauai with limited resources. If I need extra things my baby and I get flown to Oahu. Just be careful.
@michaelatran99462 жыл бұрын
You are not doing anyone favors by sharing negative stories, most woman do their research and you know what mothers intuition is far superior than peoples opinions on what they think is best.
@nurseally862 жыл бұрын
@@michaelatran9946 Oh don’t be such a weirdo. We are all entitled to give honest comments and that was mine. No need for YOUR negativity.
@briarmunro2 жыл бұрын
As a mom of 2 I would suggest doing your post partum meal prep a bit earlier. With my first I did it in my 8th month and it was a very exhausting day! With my second I did it in batches over month 6/7 and a little in month 8 and it was way easier!!
@MadTracker2 жыл бұрын
I didn’t have kids until my 30s either 😊. Don’t feel alone, during my 1st pregnancy I was nauseous all the way up to the last 2 months. -Had *NO* problem with nausea during my next pregnancies.
@HealthGeekMum2 жыл бұрын
Funny how each pregnancy is different 😅 I was only nauseous maybe week 6-12 with my first. Second one a bit less in the first trimester but nausea came back mildly in the third trimester 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️😅
@dlsdyer90712 жыл бұрын
Yes, each pregnancy is different.
@christawright26852 жыл бұрын
So cool my sweet husband and I were almost the original online match up, we've been married 20 years in November. We met online it was an mIRC chat group, my folks thought I was crazy, it was definately not the norm. It worked for us, we have two beautiful children together and a wonderful life. Thanks for sharing yourself!
@theirishcailin3332 жыл бұрын
Wow over 20 yrs ago!! I met my husband nearly 12 years ago online (only 1 person knows we met online) married 6 months this weekend, we hit lucky 😁
@Emmms192 жыл бұрын
I have 2 kiddos, both naturally delivered. I will say, I worked my factory job while pregnant w my first & the delivery was much easier than my second. I think from me working out / constantly moving while pregnant w my first. It's the one thing I recommend to do. I'm so excited to watch yr journey & yr new home is beautiful. Congrats on all the things ! Xo
@JD-hi8qx2 жыл бұрын
Constantly moving definitely makes for a fast labor. Too much sitting gives a cervical lip (at least for me).
@_pugito16592 жыл бұрын
I second this! Exercise is so important!
@somethingelse42042 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your expanding family!! So excited for you! My brother and his wife had a midwife and home birth for both of their daughters, and they were very happy with their experience. But as with so many things in families, what works for one, may not be right for another. No matter which way you go, I'll be praying for a smooth delivery!
@kinseyjohnson43412 жыл бұрын
It's a really good idea to not be rigid with what you need/do in your labor. I was really disappointed when my first birth turned into a C-section because I was so set on vaginal, unmedicated. It took me like 6 months to not obsess about it anymore. While I still want an unmedicated labor for my current pregnancy, I know that it's not always possible. Going for a VBAC! We will see. Can't wait to see what your journey looks like!
@c.r7012 жыл бұрын
I am a homeschooling mom to 6 children. I have always wanted to deliver at home but dew to some complications I could not. I wish you all the best you and Josh are going to be a wonderful mom and dad ❤️.
@sarakathryn1242 жыл бұрын
Becky, birth is such a personal situation. As a woman you have a beautiful internal knowing (intuition) that will guide you if you listen. Other people's experiences can be a real road block especially when you don't know any more about their life except in this small comment section. The best thing you can do is learn about how our bodies work in birth. Talk to care providers and read from books that talk about birth from a physiological point of view. Then make the decision that fits for you and your life best. We have been fed so much fear about birth and so many women go into the experience wallowing in that fear. So do the research, watch birth videos, follow Doulas and private midwives and the. You'll have a more well rounded Understanding rather than just from a maternity system pov. Birth is beautiful, postpartum care is vital. You are amazing xx
@JD-hi8qx2 жыл бұрын
Amen! Too many people giving advice dilutes your intuition.
@ourtinytownhome-stead2 жыл бұрын
All of this 👆🏻 Knowledge of what the body does during labor really helps you make decisions on what interventions you want or don't. It's also really helpful to research the impact different interventions have on things to do with the baby afterward (like breastfeeding, if that's something you're wanting to do), and also your own recovery.
@blackriflehomestead2 жыл бұрын
I had kinda the same mindset with my first baby! I didn’t want to have a birth “plan,” I just wrote out a few “birth wishes” but kept an open hand. I wanted an unmedicated vaginal birth but knew that things happen and ultimately wanted a healthy birth and healthy baby. That mindset worked in my favor because our son turned breech between weeks 39 and 40 (very uncommon!), and I went into labor with a breech baby before we could attempt to turn him. I had an urgent C-section but it went so so well and it was a wonderful experience!! No trauma. Fast forward 19 months later and I had our second son, unmedicated VBAC in a hospital! I’m pregnant with our third son and planning another unmedicated hospital birth, but only because a birth center or home birth is not reasonably available to us. The closest birth center is not allowed to do VBAC’s, and then our military insurance only covers home birth if a Certified Nurse Midwife is the provider, and there’s no CNM’s in our area, which is a bummer. It would cost several thousand dollars to hire a midwife and we just don’t have that kind of money, and with Tricare the fees are so low for covered births. When I was pregnant with our first son, as an RN I thought I’d probably never be comfortable with the idea of home birth for myself, because I know of what can go wrong in labor/birth. But over the last few years my mindset has changed and the truth is that birth is not supposed to be a medical event and as long as you have a good team, feel safe birthing at home, and are a good candidate, then home birth can be an amazing option! Maybe one day I’ll get to do it, or at least have a birth center birth. But as both a C-section and VBAC mom, I can say that both my births so far have been beautiful even though they happened in very different ways! My advice is to listen to positive birth stories, both ones that have gone just the way they wanted and ones that ended up unexpectedly. Just because something is unexpected doesn’t mean it is negative! (Like my C-section.)
@baykittygirls95202 жыл бұрын
Becky, you are beautiful and intelligent and your videos are fun and educational! I love your down-to-earth, relatable personality. Keep on, keeping on! ❤️
@famouxlytame11302 жыл бұрын
Do whatever makes you comfortable! 😊💕
@SaraH-pt9wt2 жыл бұрын
Esther Emery was my KZfaq gateway drug too!! I'm so sad she stopped making videos. It was great getting to know you better!
@bluebirdhomestead2 жыл бұрын
I have a youtube channel and I typically call myself a stay at home mom, but I at love that you termed it a "work at home mom". KZfaq is hard work! I don't know how you put out so many videos each week. You really do have a full time job. You should be proud of all the work you have put into your channel. As a mom I want to encourage you that no one knows your body and your baby best except you. People will have good intentions and give lots of advice, but take everything with a grain of salt and do what your gut tells you is best for you. Congratulations again! Being a mom is truly such a blessing! 😀
@kellyjd19782 жыл бұрын
I adore your outlook on the birth process! No rigid birth plan. This is so refreshing. Good for you.
@kellyjd19782 жыл бұрын
Also, I did not enjoy pregnancy. Like. Whatsoever. Just FYI. :)
@simone39462 жыл бұрын
So many things I want to chat with you about! In terms of things you need for baby, I agree with your approach. If you find you suddenly need something you can always rely on friends and family to have things on hand and if all else fails there is amazon prime! Xx
@heatherj30302 жыл бұрын
Regarding baby food, I can't remember what KZfaq channel I saw this on, but they used their freezer dryer and powdered any food they wanted to use for their baby then just added water. It made it even more convenient than commercial baby food, but I agree with you that babies can pretty much eat what we eat with a few exceptions. Btw, you look beautiful Becky, and are going to be an amazing mother!❤️
@MISNM02 жыл бұрын
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@stephanietaylor86152 жыл бұрын
If you plan to continue to garden with a young baby (good for you!) make sure you look into getting a really comfortable baby carrier- or a few depending on your needs! Baby wearing really increases the amount of things you can do with little babies. You might even have a local baby wearing group with different carriers you can try out before you buy.
@qm99522 жыл бұрын
I enjoy watching your channel! I am similar in age, homeschooled and love farming. I am not good at gardening and have been learning so much from your gardening videos so thank you!
@Sasywhatsbiz2 жыл бұрын
Strongly recommend looking into Babyled Weaning. Basically it teaches you how to feed baby the same foods you are eating and how to cut and cook things for baby. No baby food purees involved, baby eats and learns food, learns how to manage their gag reflex which is extremely important to avoid choking. Also I was high risk with my babies so had them in the hospital with an epidural cause my pain tolerance is terrible. I would not have been able to do homebirth.
@kristyh9822 жыл бұрын
We did a mix of baby led weening and purées. It’s totally worth it, but a little scary initially with the gagging.
@lovewins22652 жыл бұрын
I LOVE your view on having“no expectations”! Smart, smart woman!
@patreacelina17162 жыл бұрын
I’m not sure how I found you but I’m happy I did. You’re so gorgeous and such a natural beauty and I love how you garden!!!!! I just started a little garden and boom you show up so I know it was meant to be. Congratulations on the baby! Oh and your skin looks amazing 🤩
@staceyrogers61252 жыл бұрын
I love the idea of the neutral, minimal nursery. My two boys' nurseries are my favorite rooms of the house. My second is a greenery theme, but very simple and uncluttered and it's so relaxing. Can't wait to see what you come up with for the nursery! ❤️