I am a firm believer in some people we love have to be loved from a distance‼️

I listen to this as a mother who’s always making sure I’m doing right by my children (respecting their boundaries amongst other things) . No… I’m not perfect, but I’m definitely trying to be a better version of myself daily!! Von I hope you and your mom find that common ground so you two can have a healthy relationship before you can’t anymore.

As someone who has an amazing, loving, nurturing relationship with my mother who passed away almost two years ago, very unexpectedly, I just want to say how very happy I am for you setting boundaries and protecting your mental health and peace. People are sometimes very quick to put a title (i.e. - mother) over the quality of the person holding that title. I loved my mom but don't deal with her side of the family for a variety of reasons, all of which are valid to me. You seem to be a fantastic mother, wife, sister and friend. I hope you enjoyed YOUR day.

Sigh 😔. I knew I hadn’t seen your mom in while, but I’ve missed a lot of blogs so I didn’t want to ask about it. I’m happy you’re working through it and I wish her the best too.

If MsVaughn don’t do nothing else, she will be improving her home DIY style!!! I love it and am inspired by it ❤️❤️

I just loss my father April 15th this year . My mom sent my son a text message saying he was sick although we don't talk she could have relayed the message to someone earlier so I could go see him.We live different states I found out after he had passed 2 hours that horrible day. I didn't get to see him or say goodbye. My mom has history of hate towards me and I didn't know why. Your not alone I'm in therapy also . Mrs Vaughn you're a beautiful young lady . God Bless us all that are in these situations. God will always keep us strong 💪🏽🥰🙌🏽🙏🏽👋🏽

@msvaughntv proud of you for setting boundaries. Because was is not transformed is transferred. And generational curses are real. I chose me over my relationship with my older sister, I refused to allow her to mentally abuse me again. That toxic behavior has transferred to our daughters. I hate it but I refuse to let anyone disturb my peace and act as if nothing happened. You are one of the realest KZfaqr out here. I love your content and I will definitely be using better health so that my daughter hopefully want need therapy for anything I have passed to her. ❤❤❤

Mrs. Vaughn you don’t need to hire a contractor because YOU are the contractor!!😂😂😂

I never had a loving really loving relationship with my mother either

Vaughn just know you are doing a great job with raising your beautiful babies, being a wife, a sister, friend, and daughter. 💕 we appreciate you for opening up your life to us for all these years. We appreciate your transparency and know that you are touching lives and hearts across the world. Keep going and know that you are loved. ❤😊

Vaughn you impress me every time with your skill set. Bravo girl.

Vaughn, Happy Mother's Day again and thank you for sharing your time with us! It feels like I'm hanging out with a friend, vibing. Your mother's day festivities was a sweet gesture. Anthony's planning and the meaning behind the 3 dozen roses + 1 faux red rose was extremely touching. Anne's gift had me in tears and really pulled at my heart strings. TFS the popcorn company. I honor of my autistic godson, I will make a donation and think of you Ms. Vaughn and Anne. The dresser turned out great. Sending you love from NY 🤍🖤💗🍿🌹🖼

I get it. Sometimes it"s hard for people who have good relationships with their mothers to truly understand the struggles. Not every mother is "the ideal mother" just as all dads aren't dads. Sometimes you have to get off the rollercoaster...choose your own peace of mind and apply distance but continue to wish them well💕

I hope and pray it gets better day by day with your mom. I just lost my mom on April 2nd, my queen, my everything. Even though she’s in a better place considering the pain and suffering she endured I miss her immensely. Much love to you and your family. 🥰

When I see your vlog it’s time to relax. Your vlogs are such a serene vibe and your content is so relatable in words and deeds. Thanks for sharing in such an authentic way.

Hi my dear🌸I been a follower for a few years. I am seasoned and even more being a mother and grandmother. We must respect our children lives and boundaries. It’s not hard to do. If our mind sets are in the right place. I always said our hearts can function accordingly. What makes your heart fulfilled is having your peace. I enjoyed your videos those with you and your mother. I remember when it all stopped. I just began to pray know thoughts at all. You and your husband are my beautiful young couple. Wonderful parents 💖God’s grace is so sufficient. 🙏💖🌸🌹

"Boo-day" really made me laugh.😂 The gift from Anne's school almost made me cry. So very thoughtful. I'm glad your Mother's Day was special, Vaughan.❤️

My mom’s mother was extremely abusive to her, physically, mentally, and emotionally, with the emotional and mental abuse causing the most damage. I witnessed the constant agony and pain this caused my mom. I do believe my grandmother was jealous of my mother and held a lot of resentment toward her. for some unknown reason that my mother could never quite understand. Unfortunately my mom died with that pain and I believe that poor relationship contributed to her illness and death. I always wished she sought therapy. A parent is a huge part of our foundation and to have that missing can cause all types of pain. Prayers for you and I’m glad you chose the route toward therapy and healing..there’s nothing like acquiring the proper perspective and having peace of mind, something I don’t think my mother ever got to have regarding her mother’s actions.

I love how Anne was like I want to hang with Mom let me move out the way. So I can stay, she so cute.

Hi Vaughn, I loss my mother when I was 18 years old. I’m now 53. I miss her so much especially on holidays and her birthday. I didn’t have a close relationship with my father and he has passed away a few years ago. I’m one of the ones that has told people to spend time with your parents while they are here. I understand it’s not that easy for some depending on what caused them to stop talking to their parent. I just pray whatever it is they can all agree to get counseling to help bring them closer.

Vaughn… You have no idea how this almost made me cry.. As a future therapist.. therapy has always been apart of my life, even many years ago when family made fun of me because of it. I have always struggled with the toxic relationship between me and my mom and in recent times I felt as if I was alone in this journey.. No one understands how exhausting it is to always be the one trying to have a healthy relationship with a parent who is not emotionally mature or unaware of their toxic behavior.. But God has put amazing people in my life that understand those dynamics in a way as no one’s relationship is the same. Parents aren’t replaceable but there is special space for others in our life to fill that void. Thanks for the transparency.

So glad you are addressing 💕peace be still🙏🏿

At least she had her father some of us don’t even have that either.

Love the braids. You've always been so family oriented and level headed that I'm sure whatever you decided was for the best. I'm going through similar things with mine so I understand.

Idk how I missed the part about her mom. I miss seeing her in the vlogs but also understand how their situation can be. Blessings to you Vaughn 💕

Scalloped potato for my early dinner❤. Now back to Vaughn and da Fam ❤

Happy Mother’s Day!!! You are such a great mother and we don’t choose our mothers but we can make a chili ice to be better and that’s what your are doing with your beautiful daughters!!!!! 💐

Honey, this was my life. My mom is no longer here but I’ve been able to make more progress with healing since then. No response really is the best response sometimes.❤ Much love to you!

The bookcase is beautiful and looks so pretty against that pink! This vlog was a reminder for me to continue to do some checks and balances to make sure I'm respecting boundaries of my adult daughters.

Vaughn, you have gone through so many trials, traumas and life challenges that you have shared with us over the many years that i’ve followed you and i have cried like a baby from man of them. However, when you briefly spoke about your relationship with your mom it was so triggering for me but it also made me realize how many of us struggle with the exact same thing. You’ve vlogged with your mom and no one would have ever known that y’all had any deep rooted issues. I’ve done the exact same thing to the point that people have come up to me and stated that “I wish i had a relationship like you and your mom.” It was not until I sought out therapy that I began to heal through these traumas. While I love my mom, she has hurt me so much that i’m unsure if our relationship is irreparable. I never say never but I’m still in disbelief at the things that she has done to me but I do realize that she is ill due to depression but i can’t continue to excuse that behavior. To anyone that has taken the time to read this…I pray for your healing and that you can break those generational curses. I pray that you can forgive when the time is ready and move through life with a support system and feel an abundance of PEACE & LOVE, even if your mom is not in your life. P.S. When y’all say “well, you only have one mother, so you should…….” OR “There is nothing that my mother could ever do to make me ………..” this can be triggering to some so have some GRACE and be thankful that you don’t have to experience this type of pain because it’s NOT easy. BLESSINGS 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Hope you had a lovely Mother’s Day! 💐

I like the angle placement also. I wouldn't cover the decorative wall that you have there. It's all so very cute! Your backyard patio area is AMAZING, I would live out there all the time. very inspired and motivated by you staining that little shelf.

as soon as I read the Anne's hand painting I burst into tears! Girl, thank you for sharing! I will have to do this tonight because tomorrow is my husband's birthday and I know that he will love this!

Thank you for sharing I just want to say this let go and let god trust and believe we love you and happy belated mother's day and that was so touching what Anne gave you ❤❤

Sharing your experience with your mother is such a gift to me. It helps to alleviate the shame thatvisboften attached to a broken relationship with my mother. I appreciate you sharing your story.

I love that so many people get to experience the kindness of your parenting. It’s such a beautiful example💛

Just walked 2 plus miles and your videos get me through my weeks. You are loved Ms. Vaughn ❤ Happy Mother's Day Ladies ❤❤

Hey Vaughn & family, as we get older peace is a beautiful thing. It’s good for your overall mental health. Once you let go & let God you will definitely see a difference. ❤

Vaughn the builder! You know you will tackle anything and love it. 💪🏽

Hey Ms Vaughn, thank you for all of your videos, especially sharing your journey with Anne’s autism. 🥰 My great nephew was just diagnosed with autism and his mom is really going through it, but with the help of her mom and my family we can make his journey a good one. Btw I just ordered my popcorn, can’t wait to try it. I shouted you and Anne out. Again thanks for all you do. 😊🥰

Thanks for your transparency in sharing this with us, Vaughn! As someone who can relate, I pray your continued healing and peace! 🙏🏾 Happy Mother’s Day to you!

So proud of you Miss Vaughn in addressing issues with therapy. I have noticed that the therapy has changed your whole aurora in a lot of positive ways! Vaughn, girl U you need a "SHE SHACK" in the far Left Corner of your backyard so you can do all your little projects in the Backyard, instead of the garage! They sell them at Home Depot, & Lowes. I have one for my Gardening projects. Happy Mama's Day, we Heart You!

I totally understand what you're talking about too well about your mom. Ive been watching your channel since 2011 and i always realize you spoke about your dad with such love and admiration much more than your mom. Im glad your going through therapy. I wish you all the best! Great vlog as usual my Fave!❤

My mom passed 4 yrs ago. Miss her dearly and sad on mother day.😂😂😂❤❤❤

Thank you for talking about this

My sister and I feel you 100%. We are currently trying to fix the relationship with our mom after bring estranged for quite some time.

A peri bottle can be used instead of installing a bidet for those who want the freshness without the installation of a bidet.

Enjoyed this vlog. Appreciate you sharing your life. Totally can relate to a lot of what you discussed. After reading most of the comments, I relaize there are some people projecting and don't totally understand. Anyhow, keep shining ❤

Belated Happy Mother's Day and Congratulations Anne!

Thank You Mrs Vaughn I know this may have been difficult to discuss but I Thank you so much because when you have complicated relationship with your Mom it's hard for others to understand especially if they have great relationships with theirs and it will have you going back and forth in your own head instead of acknowledging your own feelings.

Happy belated Mother's Day! Vaughn, you are awesome!!! I love your vlogs! You have a beautiful family and are so real!! May God continue to bless you and the family!!!

Happy Sunday Bestie!!! As I have been following for quite some time now, I will say that I am so proud of you and your growth as you navigate life with distance between you and your mom. I pray nothing but the best and that whatever will be, will be!! Best wishes to you both! I love the storage chest for the patio. I am looking it up and definitely going to make a purchase. We also have the bidet and like you said, it does exactly what it’s supposed to do and accurately 👏🏽👏🏽😂😂. Have a great day and blessing to you, Anthony, Anne, and Ava💖

Yay! I was looking forward to your upload. I'm glad you had a great Mother's Day. Nothing but love for you and your family 💗

The bookcase is beautiful in Ava's nursery. GREAT Job!!! 🐩💙💛

❣️Thanks for sharing & the bookcase looks nice. Hugs to the girls!

Happy Mother’s Day! I love how you just get the things done!!

Thank you for your transparency. Your words will have others to seek help ,find solace and peace. Happy bless Mother’s Day to you. Enjoy every second with your girls which you do so well and lovely. Continue to b@peace!

Thanks for sharing your DIY...it looks great

I love your strength and transparency ❤️.. Mental health is very important.. thank you for sharing. Peace and positivity to you and yours..

Thank you for sharing this with us! I can sooooo relate and I am still learning that setting boundaries while attending therapy are a must! Breaking generational curses starts with me so my girls will see and experience better is the goal. Again, thank you! Wishing you continued blessings and peace 🤗🙏🏾

Beautiful Gift from Anthony and Ann!

Happy Belated Mother’s Day Vaughn!

Thanks Vaughn for sharing. I enjoyed your video as always. I have been looking at the bidets (boodet) myself and couldn't decide if i wanted the warmer. But now after your review, i guess I'll get the one I've been thinking about.

Happy Mother’s Day Ms. Vaughn. And thank you for always being yourself!! Unapologetically 🫶🏾. Your vlogs are always uplifting and inspiring and amazing. You just keep inspiring and motivating people. 😊🤗❤️. God got you and your family And everything else will follow. 😊

Love it cornered . Love the decorations . Great job!❤

I do not get along that well with my mum. She has always been the strange one in the family. She never likes what I do and we are always arguing. However I do know that she wants the best for me, but in a strange way. I was planning to distance myself from her because I just couldn’t communicate with her. But I had like a revelation. I remembered why I moved back to my old town. It was to be closer to her. I always felt that my mum was sad and unhappy with her life. I do not want her to leave this world like that. I want her last years to be full of joy. So I decided to make a last attempt. My goal is to bring some joy in her life. I’m not sure I will manage. I took that decision last month. I did ask some of her cousins what happened in her childhood and learned that she was mistreated. It does make me understand her attitude better. I will try my best without putting my mental health at risk to help her. I can afford to do it now as I don’t have my own family. But I will not recommend any to try this. Someone you just have to let go. I’m very scared that if I do have kids I will be the same. I really need to break this chain. ( my grandma treats her poorly)

Thank you for being transparent. I lost both of my parents, mom in 20, dad in 22. I wish I could talk to them both. You’re doing the work of processing the issues, behaviors etc., which allows you to show up for your family in the best way! Onward and upward❤

The brick laying part was so calming for me to watch. Now Im about to look for brick laying videos here on YT. ThAnkhs Vaughn💚

Me and mom were like oil and water at times. I lost her October 2021. I've had to heal without reconciling with her. I could always sense you and mom were opposites, and their was tension, but never felt the need to bring it up. Just hope things get better before its too late.

Happy Mother’s Day Ms. Vaughn 💐🌷🎉🌸🌼.

I’m sorry you are dealing with this Vaughn bc it has to be incredibly difficult. However, I’m encouraged that you are setting boundaries for yourself. I also really appreciate how you aren’t telling us all the nitty gritty details. You addressed it previously. Now you are saying how you are coping & still thriving. But the specifics you are keeping private. I think that’s really a good thing to do - as long as you feel the need if not forever.

Your fitness/ health journey is definitely motivating me ❤!!!!

Mother’s Day was challenging! I’m glad you’re talking about this

The intro to this video hit home for me and it was confirmation that I am doing the right thing . Thank you Vaughn !

Vaughn, you’re doing the right thing. Long story short, my mom unfortunately is a narc. Very emotionally, mentally & verbally abusive. Over the last decade of my life (I’m in my 30s) I’ve spent a lot of time trying to make things right because my thought process was that we only get one mom. I would find myself apologizing over & over for things I never really were at fault for, though some were my fault, but was at fault in her eyes because she always had something or someone to blame. Accountability was something only I took & when trying to address my feelings, they were dismissed or acted as if nothing ever happened. It hurts & it’s incredibly hard. It took me therapy to understand that reconciliation goes both ways. I just simply have to let go of taking things personally & come to the acceptance that I cannot change my mom. I had to step away for 2 years of no contact to really rebuild my self esteem & identity apart from her. We’re in communication now, but things are much much different with boundaries! Keep pressing forward & healing!

Happy belated Mother’s Day! Your arms looked amazing in the pre-run footage 😊

Thanks For Sharing ❤

Well thank God that you are a wonderful mom and you do the best you can I'm so sorry about this my daughter and I have the same relationship and I miss her so much

Glad you enjoyed your Mother's Day and was able to make time to decompress and have some selfcare/alone time.

Happy Mother's Day❤ I had been wondering why we hadn't seen mom in some time. I understand. Thank you for being so open , continued blessings on your journey to healing ❤🙏🏾

You always inspire, motivate and I have to say entertain…love it❤

Ann is so adorable!! I’ve fallen in love with her!! She’s so beautiful just like her mom. Take special care of her. I love seeing you all how you guys interact with her, she’s so loved

Love your videos. Just placed an order for the popcorn. 💜

Happy Mother’s Day to you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Hi girl. I love your vlogs and yes they are very helpful . I have started therapy also and I also don't have that traditional relationship with my mother .I'm learning through therapy on how to deal with my mother and father. Thanks soooo much. Keep doing what you are doing. Love ya sis

Hey Ms Vaughn I’ve only been subscribed for a few months since I randomly stumbled upon your channel. Been binging ever since. I do remember watching a vlog a long time ago when vlogs weren’t even that popular. ❤ your content. The DIYs, workouts, cooking, organizing, sharing your beautiful family and your down-to-earth vibe are all so inspiring. The bookshelf came out so good and Ava’s room is gorgeous. And Sansa is such a beauty. Did you guys ever try grooming her at home? Would love to see some Sansa clips I can relate to the confusion you felt about your mom before therapy. When I finally started to figure out her behavior it hit me like a ton of bricks. I feel like she has held me back so much in life. But I have accepted that when you know better you do better. So yeah, I just wanna say…tfs

I love the Mother's Day flowers concept with the artificial rose. Vaughn the builder strikes again! That shelf turned out really good.

Girl, I have a very similar relationship with my mom. It's so difficult for others to see. But I understand and emphathize with you on this mother's day.

I absolutely love my bidet except I wish it had a water temperature adjustment because it doesn’t bother me! 😱😂 Otherwise, I so appreciate your vlogs and thoroughly enjoy your skillset around the home! You rock queen. Glad you had a beautiful Mother’s Day! 🌹🙏🏽🧡

I’m behind on your vlogs I’ve been catching you on IG d/t new work schedule BUT Happy Mother’s Day to you! You wear ALL Hats Well❤️❤️I love the new intro/outro , the wood piece turned out beautifully! Your skin looks Amazing! Ava Wava is getting big, The catfish and praline French toast made me salivate, (recipe please) and my heart melted with Anne’s gift to you! 😢Finally I am glad you are working through your healing journey as it relates to your mother too🙏🏽🙏🏽

I too at the moment have family issue's as well. I've had to set boundaries due to just remaining sain. Its disheartening for sure because we are taught because they are family we have to subject ourselves to their poor behavior and decisions and its not the case. As a counselor working on my Master's currently as much as we set boundaries still allow in your heart where things could change and be open to it if your willing. I must say i love how your sisters and you show up for each other in major ways and your friends and family. Its a blessing to see family genuinely love to be around each other.

I remember you once mentioned boundaries with your mother. I wondered at one point if you visited her or connected with her at some point. That thought crossed my mind. Relationships can be complicated at times.

Love the DIY

That clip of you and Anne sitting in the garage is so cute.

It’s not for us to understand. I learned not Not to interject, or judge regarding others in their relationships. I lost my mother, my sister, my brothers, my father, and my husband so through loss I’ve learned not to judge.

Congratulations sweet girl 🥳🎉💕

Hi Vaughn, I appreciate your transparency about your life. I couldn't help but notice your mother wasn't in vlogs etc, but noway on earth I would ever ask as quite simply none of my business or anyone elses for that matter. Some people on this internet don't know boundaries either lol. I haven't spoke to my mother in 15 years and won't ever, so i know things can get complicated in family. I wish you the best and you do what's right for you in your life. ❤

Happy Belated Mother's Day!💐 In the future can you do more content on fitness. Your a great motivation! 😊 Thanks for sharing just appreciate your vlogs overall!💛

Vaughn, Many times the simplest misunderstanding can balloon into a mountain. Even as I write this comment, I haven’t spoken to my daughter since early February. Her father & I are divorced. I have forgiven him but since he’s a minister I told her that I didn’t want to hear him preaching. My sister passed away Jan. 6th. Her son wanted my ex to deliver the eulogy but my brother-in-law and I didn’t want him to preach. My ex and I split up because of his infidelity. I have forgiven him. We both are remarried but I still don’t want to hear him preach a sermon and evidently that upsets my daughter to the point that she has isolated herself from me since February. It bothers me by her actions but I know I didn’t do anything to her. She didn’t even call me or send me a Mother’s Day gift this year. Did it hurt? Yes. But my husband gave me a bouquet of flowers. He’s a godsend and doesn’t want me to let her actions bother me, but that easier said than done. If she can live with herself treating me that way after I’ve been nothing but good to her…then so be it. I’m a Christian but I refuse to be anyone’s door mat or allow anyone to treat me indifferent because of how I feel about my ex-husband as a preacher. I trust God to work everything out in His timing. In the meantime, I keep living my life. The best thing you can do in your situation with your mom is to pray for her and wait on the Lord to fix it. Much love to you and your family. You are truly blessed to have the village of friends and family that you have. And a wonderful caring husband. Enjoy each day to the fullest ❤❤

Happy Mother’s Day