It hurt reading that because an ADHD diagnosis is merely a label - not an IQ test. You can be a genius and have ADHD. It is just "how your brain works". It may help to explain to your your son that ADHD refers to: attention span (inability to focus on a task), how easily distracted you are, hyperactivity (feeling restless), being disorganized, etc. Those ADHD symptoms make it more challenging for the ADHD brain to access their SMART! Think of those symptoms as a fog in your brain ... In other words, ADHD does NOT equal stupid. 😊

Of course, Little man your smart. Just figure out, how to make it, in this world, your OWN way. And you will be fine.

often giftedness and ADHD go hand in hand. ADHD brains just think in different patterns than other ones.

😞 it hurts that our kids who have a diagnosis-I have raised 1 with ADD,1 with ADHD&OCD and 1 with Autism spectrum disorder-are made to feel less than in this day&age!! The only one of my 3 that felt like he was not smart or that his being different was bad was my youngest,so many people have a misconception about Autism! Even a lot of educators know next to nothing about it! I took great pleasure in knocking the wind out of one educators sails after she insinuated to my face that he was not smart,told her that he was smarter than every one of us in that room,she scoffed-until the school psychologist spoke up and said "um,I administered his IQ test and trust me-he is!!" After that we armed him with knowledge about his Autism and now at 19 he is his own best advocate and loves to educate others!

I'm 16 and I have ADHD and I thought I just wasn't smart enough to pass highschool with good grades. Since the pandemic my school went from 7 classes to 4 and now I'm passing with a B average. When I saw that at the end of 1st semester I was passing my classes I cried because I finally realized that I wasn't stupid and that school just wasn't made for people who think like me. I hope your son knows that he can do whatever he wants with his life despite what others think or say and that he's vary smart and awsome!

Ikr I feel like it explains it better then every teacher/doctor/ adult that has tried in the past

Yeah, he nailed it

My brain does the same but without the on part

yeah we sadly just have 2 settings on our thinker, it is what it is

If your brain turns off, you are dead, so he lied

There is no "Do". There is just "Don't Do" and "Overdo". There is no "Think". There is just "Don't Think" and "Overthink".

right? Feel so sorry for my husband. lol

Husband and two grown steppies. After 14 years I get it. Boy, do I get it!!!!

Her expressions are priceless, she's so funny

The wife's look of sheer, utter panic mixed with despair at the 1:29 mark just cried out "Oh no! He has money!" and slayed me to no end! 🤣

Yoikes, if what my mom learned that’s a rare jump from father to daughter. Something I was concerned I might pass to my daughter but seems I didn’t. My mom learned at least a couple decades ago that it was more father to son hereditary.

❤️

I relate to you on a different level rn. I’ve always known I have something different, I know I have to be nuerodivergent, I just know, and I think i have adhd but I haven’t gotten a proper diagnosis yet

@@ImzadiHollis You're not alone. I'm going through the same problem.

Just diagnosed at 40 female with Aspergers and ADHD Inattentive

Yeah, can relate in a way, I'm awfully forgetful and tend to get bored easily (so yeah, ADHD). I'm currently untreated and my father thinks my forgetfulness is because I'm immature.

That and for Epilepsy!

I totally agree

Ohh yes!!! All or nothing is our way.

I have adhd, epilepsy, ocd, and a brain injury, I so identify this song,

Couldn't agree more.

We just have too many things to think about. 🤷🏼‍♀️

😂 oh i feel you

I need multiple alarms just to get the hell up lol, my work truck always looks a wreck but so long as nobody goes in there I know where I keep things, And my time in the service I was able to spend 12 hours a day staring at trees. The catch to adhd is you need to be interested in something to find focus. So anyone who has it and is young, go into fields of work you enjoy and you’ll be able to focus on your job. Which only leaves figuring out those “organizational skills” I’m 42 and still struggle in that end lol.

@@wakcedout You've hit the nail on it's head! I went into see my school counselor to ask what type of jobs I would be able to do using my ability to identify certain things based on feel, texture, appearance, etc. I was told there wasn't any such job. If only I'd known then what I do now; but, the focus back then was for girls in particular to go into job fields that were considered appropriate. Boo! Hiss! I now know I could have used these skills in so many ways. I would most likely been extremely good at discerning items that were genuine vs fake, recognizing minerals & gemstones, precious metals, whether something was a product of the 18th or 19th century, whether a piece of furniture was from the original time period or was a revival piece or a "married" piece or a deliberate fake plus have been able to tell you why I'd reached that conclusion. Oh well, life is what it is. No one should underestimate the talents individuals possess even if our organizational skill are much different than those of "normal" individuals. We are able to remember where in a pile of stuff we put a certain document - unless someone "messed with" that pile. We tend to also be perfectionists, which is why we get discouraged when we can't continue organizing exactly how we want to. 'Nuff said.

I feel this.

How did you get better? I have adhd and I'm struggling

@@bopeep9271 mainly I've accepted my limits and force me to not push over them. To do it I analysed my behaviour and found some patterns. For example, when I cannot stop thinking about a thing I start to drink alcohol, so I'm monitoring my alcohol assumptions to know if I'm too stressed, if I'm too stressed I simply stop doing some things before it's too late or I start new things to relax myself (like listening music). In this way I can control way better when to stay focused. The big problem I've encountered is that many of my behaviours are not "normal" (like start singing while I'm working) and this is a trouble if there are other people in the office, however I can explain to them my situation to make them comprehend and maybe they will actually help me (like my girlfriend does). I went to a psychologist to know what to do, I'm sure that a comportalist can help you too

Own it.

I found out that engineers have a high proclivity towards neurodivergence. Thank God for you ! I come from a family of odd people. Many are engineers. The world needs you! Just remember that without you people, the rest of us would still be without modern conveniences. Your brain is too busy thinking up cool stuff to worry about phone numbers and car keys. That's why they made our phones remember that and invented air tags for keys

That´s me! :D

You guys know ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity dis- oo a butterfly

Square up

Same here for me that's true

hahahaha thought that was on being a leo

how do you help them tho?

Thank you! I’ve been lucky enough to have enough chill teachers that the problem ones are bearable, but I know many other kinds are t as fortunate. Just let them fidget, and above all, don’t get angry with them for asking the same question half a dozen times. We really do zone out, and getting negative feed back in response to questions will just make us less likely to ask them in the future.

​@thesmilingknight4982 I can't speak for the original poster, but for my adhd kids and adults... I have common instructions posted everywhere. I repeat common instructions everytime rather than assume they will remember it no matter how many times I have said it When I say common instructions I mean everything from basic write your first name and last name on the back of your paper and we are class 6b2, why because you are 6th grade, b day, 2nd encore. (I know my school's scheduling system is ridiculous but that is not under my control) to please place all supplies back in the bin (and I supply a laminated photo of what the bin should look like). I have a chill out corner when over stimulated and need to just look out the window and be left alone and a crazy cow corner when you need to jump around in the middle of class to get your hype on.

Yknow. It isn't all bad and it doesn't make us failures BUT being "different" in our society can cause very real suffering. So please remove those quotation marks, it's insulting.

@@Someone-dv7hw yeah, but I think she meant it as the condition itself causing suffering, not the very real effects causing suffering. I agree with you, but I don’t think it was intentional.

Blessed if you have someone to do a list and dance with. You got it made …..

:D

ADHD FOR LIFE!!!!!!! (I also have autism)

@@ravenstone366 my brother and I were diagnosed ADHD at age 6, but not Autistic until 21. Back then ADD (we hadn't added the H yet) wasn't really well known, so we just thought it meant we had a problem paying attention without medication. That it was something we could overcome, or grow out of. I think this mentality really messed me up in subtle ways, as I have problems thinking of myself as truly having different mental processes, and I have to overcome a kneejerk reaction that I'm cheating or abusing the system if I take advantage of systems that are designed to help me out. I'm much better at it now, but if I had been less self-stygmatizing in college, I probable would have done better.

My bro has ADHD, which by the way Penn did a song about the totally true topic: THATS A TERRIBLE NAME!!

I learned I had Adhd after my son was diagnosed and I realized he has the exact same processing functions that I have struggled with since I was little. Back in my day girls weren’t even diagnosed with adhd.

Same with my family, except it was all 7 of us! My younger sister got hers as a young adult, and the more we learned, the more we realized we had all grown up unaware of it because all of us had it! Things have made a lot more sense since then!

My husband and I have ADHD. We were diagnosed in our 40s. Somehow we went to college, graduated from our respective PhD programs, got married and had kids. I'm pretty sure our kids also have ADHD but they haven't been formally diagnosed. We try to get organized but it's hard, especially when we all get distracted with the house chores.😅

Yeah after watching this I was like “this is pretty accurate...”

Yeah - but mostly ON

Yep 100%

What adhd

What is adhd

❤

you’re an amazing mom💗

❤️you are the best mum ever❤️

I attempted to do the same thing with my 8 year old daughter. She listened to the song, said "yea, I liked it", but can I have one of my rainbow sugar strings?". Then she walked off. 😖

How to adhd youtube channel is really cool especially for female adhd

🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣😂

ME TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BAWLING!

Seriously this was an emotional thing to come across.

also tears.

Me too!!!!!!!!

@@vicjay1139 its a disorder

Agreed

I disagree. I like the destigmatizing and talking about how the brain is different etc. However I have a big problem with the implication that he doesn't have to try at any of the stuff he isn't good at and that it's OK and he shouldn't be concerned with his wife picking up all the slack and being stressed out. It sends a bad message. I think for adults it's fine. Adults can understand it's an over dramatization and that he doesn't REALLY not care or try but kids won't understand that and will just think that they don't have to be concerned that they are making more work for their loved ones or have to try on the things that are hard for them.

@@Mythinspace Good point, I hadn't thought of that. I still think the benefits would outweigh the consequences, as ADHD affects kids in elementary school, but they don't really need to learn how to be good parents or spouses until college or later hopefully. I'm not saying it wouldn't be a bad influence in that regard, just not influential enough to outweigh the pros.

Fun fact- they showed this video in band for no reason. It was so random. She didn’t even tell us she was turning a video on.

Yes! And it's an adult who's a parent they will know that it won't go away but you can still live a normal life with people who love you

Ohh I think this is my favorite comment yet! True true true true true!!!🎉

Man hats off to you. I’m trying to be an artist but it’s hard for me to concentrate on learning it, it’s so annoying. I’m 16 btw

Good for you! My family supposedly accepted my ADHD but criticized my impulsivaty so it really is not acceptance.

I was 50 when I was diagnosed it was such a relief.

Best wishes.

Please tell her she can conquer the world with all the imagination and creativity we have. She just needs to figure out how she learns and stick to it and always defend what is best for her, I won’t say is easy, but is possible. Use the superpowers!!

Gosh I feel that so hard. I’m in engineering school and I still cry because I think I hate my brain. Then I go watch this video for the 23rd time 🙂

This^ is why I think this song is fantastic.

Same

Haha! It's a good reminder! I was just telling a friend how crap it is to have ADHD... But i forgot about the fact I'm crazy and hilarious (amd how fun it is!)!

I too am an ADHD musician and I love the mixing board analogy part.

ADHD is only an issue if you don’t know how to control it. And it’s different from person to person. As someone who has ADHD for me it’s as simple as background noise

I mean, dyslexia is sometimes hereditary, it makes you move letters when you write and some people dislike it when someone has it so... I guess it's a nice comparison 😊

Does neurotypical exist? I think it may be like bigfoot.

​@@keylimepython641 yeah they do-

SQUIRREL!

I actually learned Under the Sea on the recorder as a kid!! I had a Little Mermaid recorder music book! 😂

@@Dahkie111 COOL! I still have my Melody Flute (a type of recorder no longer being made) from elementary school... Now maybe I have a reason to dig it out and learn a real tune! Thanks for the inspiration

@@keetrandling4530 yeah I saved mine too, in my memory box. But I have about 50 of them, big ones too, so I don't know where I have it. I'd like to play it though. Even though I dont remember how. I know I'd get so distracted looking for it that I'd forget to eat for 20 hours. :-\

@@theholdernessfamily NO, I see a BEAVER, even though there is no water in my neighborhood. But still.

I always explain like this. A person's brain has a door that opens and closes as information comes in. My door is always open. ALWAYS!

Yes!! Exactly!!

Agree! The best information-movie I have ever seen!

Same 😂👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

@@snoopygonewilder and it happens to be double doors! lol I'm with ya

Thanks! The stigma, I think, starts with the name (ADHD).. It's time to change the name

@@theholdernessfamily yep, those 2 D’’s are problematic, even if better than the previous term of “minimal brain dysfunction”. Only question is, how do we get the “differently focused” to agree on an alternative and spread awareness? Brainstorming’s no problem, but it’s hard to imagine the organized grassroots initiative that usually promotes change. We might need some neurotypical allies!

@@theholdernessfamily it's the "D"s that are stigmatizing. "Deficit" and "Disorder" How about DYNAMIC and neuroDIVERGENT instead?

@@glowfishin1 I like those two "D's". A lot. Very good.

@@glowfishin1 I like Neurodivergent. That's what I stick with.

So glad to help!

I am the same I have both makes life so much fun much love to your daughter I hope her journey in life is awesome :)

I'm ADHD Asperger's myself. (It's either I can't focus or I'm so focused I forget to eat.)

@@tesswinker2482 I have Asperger's as well.

I have three children on the Spectrum with ADHD, and a husband with ADHD. I *am* the Executive Functioning. :)

Haha yeah felt nice to do something a lil different...

Because we’re adapting

Yes finally I was getting bored of those songs anyway

Too bad there's new covid strains 😑 Get vaccinated people cause it's gonna get worse before it gets better

Thankfully!

Me, too!!!

Then you have to click ‘Undo’

Welcome to the club!

You definitely should look into the community around How To ADHD. It has helped me so much kzfaq.info/love/-nPM1_kSZf91ZGkcgy_95Q

I second the How to ADHD community recommendation! I've had my diagnosis for a couple decades and thought I was well adjusted (stigma wise) as well as understood my ADHD. It's been amazing how much I've learned/recognized and grown since discovering this channel and the amazing supportive community surrounding it!

Thanks for the recommendation, I'll check it out 😊

Yup! I got diagnosed at 40! It's never too late! 😁

I am staring at a list now that my wife left taped to my phone o,O.

Once she becomes a mum, she will realize it's not about her. It's about established gender roles. Apart from funny, entertaining and creative, people with ADHD can also be empathetic, responsible and caretaking. Unless they're taught they don't have to.

Many women with ADHD who I know struggle harder with making a relationship last to the point of marriage because they struggle with all the things that the husband in this vid struggles with, without the forgiveness a man would usually get for it. I'm a 31 year old woman with ADHD who isn't straight (being asexual complicates why I'm not married) who lives my dad and my dad likely has ADHD too but his seems a lot more managed or milder etc and so he'll be nagging me or annoyed with me for almost all the things the wife is annoyed with the man for in this video - my dad's not super organized in every respect ever but he wishes I wouldn't let dishes pile up or leave my dirty tissues all over my desk and sometimes just gives up and does the dishes for me, would love it if I could more easily help with things like mowing the lawn, but I'm usually procrastinating like crazy on helping with that, etc etc. So while he's a man and I'm a woman, and we're not a married couple, we still kinda end up being an example of reversing what is typically expected given gender roles. I'm working on learning how to be better at all the adulting tasks and chores and am pretty new to understanding how my ADHD affects me. I highly recommend René Brooks of Black Girl Lost Keys book on learning how to do cleaning type chores while having ADHD - and she's helping validate for all of us adult women with ADHD how much we're often just like this man in this video.

That’s how I am with everything I read about adhd! (Diagnosed at 43 😱) I can’t wait to share this with my 6yr old when she gets a little older...I know that she and I are wired the same..so when the time comes for an actual diagnosis, this song will be perfect! Of course, she will be hearing me sing it all of the time now...so might be just best to have her watch it with me! 😂😂 lol

@@KassianiDimitriadou what are you talking about? The cookie cutter comment isn't any better the second time you used it. It wasn't about gender roles. It was about the fact that the chores and monotony aren't important to him. They were to her. A woman with ADHD would be in literally the same boat with the roles reversed.

Me too hun. Tears!

I didn't know there are different kinds of ADHD. Don't worry about getting emotional. This year has been tough on everyone. I use one of their videos, "I'm Doing The Best I Can" to tell myself I'm handling this OK. There's only once it didn't work. A few hours later, it did. Look up that video.

Me too!

Honestly... one of the very few disadvantages to being single, in my mind, is not having a spouse to help me keep my sh!t together some days.

Oh yes, such an amazing example of how a couple can complement each other in their differing areas of strengths, and make it work so well!

I'm married almost 13 years and my husband still has no idea what to do with me...

I need advice because I am frustrated and becoming exhausted

I have been married 30 years. I was only diagnosed 4 months ago. My husband is a Saint for putting up with me all these years. Especially as I have RSD aswell and was misdiagnosed for 30 years with anxiety and depression 🙃

I cried watching this too

I'm not crying... much... okay, yeah, quite a bit actually...

This phrase did the same to me !!

Alternative title "Masking gender roles under an irrelevant diagnosis" Do ADHD wives have similar experiences? Do their husbands do all the chores and mental/emotional labour?

@@KassianiDimitriadou i think it really matters on the person, its just that in some families the husband does most of the chores, and some the opposite and some just both. I feel like this song really makes me happy and feel good about my adhd. I agree that its a little bit blaming adhd for not even trying- but honestly I can be very hard sometimes to think out every detail (right?). and pretty sure in some families the other person (if there is one) won't do everything and clean up after them. btw I am not arguing, this is just my opinion not trying to be rude! thank you have a great day

@@KassianiDimitriadou Many women with ADHD who I know struggle harder with making a relationship last to the point of marriage because they struggle with all the things that the husband in this vid struggles with, without the forgiveness a man would usually get for it. I'm a 31 year old woman with ADHD who isn't straight (being asexual complicates why I'm not married) who lives my dad and my dad likely has ADHD too but his seems a lot more managed or milder etc and so he'll be nagging me or annoyed with me for almost all the things the wife is annoyed with the man for in this video - my dad's not super organized in every respect ever but he wishes I wouldn't let dishes pile up or leave my dirty tissues all over my desk and sometimes just gives up and does the dishes for me, would love it if I could more easily help with things like mowing the lawn, but I'm usually procrastinating like crazy on helping with that, etc etc. So while he's a man and I'm a woman, and we're not a married couple, we still kinda end up being an example of reversing what is typically expected given gender roles. I'm working on learning how to be better at all the adulting tasks and chores and am pretty new to understanding how my ADHD affects me. I highly recommend René Brooks of Black Girl Lost Keys book on learning how to do cleaning type chores while having ADHD - and she's helping validate for all of us adult women with ADHD how much we're often just like this man in this video.

@@iloveeeeeecats He's trying though... his wife gives him a list of things to do and then he does them; he lives by the list and even asks for them.

@@jerryharris876 exactly, i feel like there isn't a problem. people are getting so mad and for whatt

Ehum...feeling called out here!

I was thinking the same about getting the Paperwork ready for Taxes. The last receipts I am getting, hopefully, are in the mail next week. Then I can send everything in and let someone ELSE figure it out.

I can spend hours writing poetry/doing other creative things. But figuring out the grocery list each week - I hate that. Paying the bills each month - I hate that. Filing income taxes each year - that is the BIG BAD. LOL I do all of those things but it's slowly murdering my soul LOL

Yeah. It's so bad that I KNOW I have lost rebates etc bc I put the SNAIL in reading most mail. Or worse, I try to reform and do it better than ever and fall down the (almost) OCD like/ over organize so that I won't fall into bad habits. Then you fund yourself color coding highlighters you wind up never using... Anyone else fall in this trap? This guy's lucky he has a "farmer " wife (ie ADHD has hunter mentality and non ADHD has farmer mentality... great match/ lucky to find / very complementary but most times ADHD are attracted to other ADHD)

If anyone is curious about the hunter/farmer theory it is quite intriguing/feels very much like its a how to guide to understanding how ADHD is so prevalent in our society. Great book.. "adhd, a different perspective"

ADHD*

Hope they end up ok

Exactly! Neurodiversity is a good thing! People have different gifts, and we should appreciate them in ourselves and others.

Penn really thinks ADHD is his superpower! Love to your son.

@@theholdernessfamily it sure is 👌😍❤️

haha I NEVER REMEMBER WHY I WALKED INTO THE ROOM

@@theholdernessfamily, How many times have you tried to find a pen and realized it was in your hand for ten minutes? Or Put your Glasses on, so you can find your glasses?

Exactly!! Well said! 😊

I can never remember why I walk into a room either!! Back and forth back and forth. Oh but I don't have the creative tinkering, and making things out of thin air, that you ADHDers have. I've witnessed it, especially in adults, and its amazing!

@@theholdernessfamily It's a running joke that I take my water bottle into the bathroom and then forget to fill it or bring it back to wherever I was--often several times a day. But I get in more steps than most people I know! 🤣I also agree about (real) walking and exercise--that's my "secret." Thank you again so much for this 🙏🏻

I am an ADHD music business owner, performer, teacher, and college music professor. I was on the floor crying I was laughing so hard!

🙂

Stfu

When my oldest son was diagnosed with ADD in the 2nd grade his doctor sat him down and told him flat out that this diagnosis was a reason-NOT an excuse! If he didn't do his work,or if he misbehaved it was on him and NOT his ADD!! It helped that our pediatrician has ADHD himself and is the doctor who does teacher workshops across our state.

@@bethfarrar4803 This is what I try to get through to my son. We'll help you buy you have to work at it too and I recognize that you are doing more work here than other kids are. But other kids have to do more work in other ways that come easily to you.

As a pediatrician (and former middle-schooler ... and current adult... with ADHD), I know that not all teachers understand ADHD enough to be comfortable allowing students the freedom to demonstrate their knowledge and skills in a way that allows students to leverage their ADHD to be an asset, so thank you for facilitating this for your students!

Agreed!

As a Doctor of Audiology, I can say that college and grad school almost didn’t happen for me, due to difficulty applying myself the way school expected. I experienced teachers who labeled me as a problem or someone who “didn’t take academics seriously” and others who identified my unique way of learning 30+ years before a diagnosis. I used to think I just didn’t have it in me, watching in amazement as other kids just did their work quietly. If it weren’t for those teachers who found ways to help me do things differently, I wouldn’t have believed I could go to graduate school or become the success I am today. Thank you!!!

I'm 42 and I still am reminded to let others talk and not talk so much myself! My Mom, to this day will tell me, "Take the quarter out, Kristi!" Or "Who put a quarter in you?!"

@@MINGIRL1979 that's so cute, I like that!

Yup!

I try, but it's hard!

Both my teen son and I have adhd. My son has been obsessing over his hair for the past two weeks. He goes on for hours about it.....even when I had a migraine. I understand totally. It’s hard though

@@Si-Toecutter, I just realized I still had the song going through my head reading these. I'm not ADHD.

@Kevin Anderson The HYPER makes all the difference...

I made a project in school that was all about how everything that could go wrong with my project did go wrong ... before i made it and basically pre-predicted everything that would go wrong. Down to the video struggling to play, i was laughing so hard cause i knew thats what the video was about. Looking back, i called it The Project but i should have called it Turns Out I Have ADHD. The content wouldnt change, but its weird to look back at what i thought was just inevitable school chaos and is actually ... me being chaotic and aware of it enough to recreate it preemptively.

Yes. Sometimes we work 2x, 3x, 4x harder than neurotypicals to do the same damned thing. It's exhausting sometimes.

Hahah most Disney songs are

@@theholdernessfamily They're made to be ear-worms, that's for sure! XD

ADHD ADHD 😁

@@theholdernessfamily Disney is cancel culture now...did you not get woke ?

EXACTLY!

Umm… I feel called out

We just need automatic doors, that’s it. I live alone, there is nobody to close them for me anyway and they still stay open 🤷🏽‍♀️

I'm 31 years old and my dad is always annoyed with me for leaving the cabinets open! (We live in the same house)

Apparently the cabinet doors are an ADHD thing, which explains why the cabinet doors growing up were always open - we're 4/4 ADHD

Same here- ex- husband has it, my daughter has it, and my son has it! Luckily I am super organized and a planner, so I teach them my skills as much as I can! In my house it's messy rooms and homework that is done but not turned in...

no shame in any of it!

you did not fail at being an adult! I know that feeling so well. I felt the same for years. but you did not fail. doing what is best for you and taking care of yourself is a win! and a very adult thing in my opinion :)

I guess it's a matter of perspective. Avril Levine has ADD; takes adderall and does not think it a failure. In fact; she is quite successful. Taking medicine for a condition like ADD when you need medicine is not a failure. Not taking medicine for a condition like ADD when you need medicine is a failure.

I was in the same boat awhile ago. This video helped kzfaq.info/get/bejne/h8p2qpRhud2wdo0.html

You aren't failing at all, just taking a different route :D If it makes you feel any better I just found out I have Ankylosing spondylitis, which explains all the fun pain I've been having for a long time. Imagine having ADD and then being too tired and in pain. I have been called scatterbrained and lazy in the same breath, but hey! Now I know :D P.S. Knowing is half the battle according to my Hubby and G.I. Joe xD

Samee

I AM OFFICIALLY PROUD TO HAVE ADHD

Yes!!

YES!

Especially with people nowadays. If anyone is above average at all, they are considered extremely special. But most of us don’t want to be lifted above others.

I’ve always thought the same!!!

And it was thought ‘bad’ to doodle notes instead of writing words.

Yup. Music is always on in my brain

Best wishes on your journey. Glad you found this. 😊

This is my favorite line!!!

I am most confident that people with ADHD having a shorter life span is something that can be avoided if our ADHD is more well managed. It's harder for us to drive safely, to schedule a doctor's appointment for a regular checkup or even to stop procrastinating on checking out a concerning symptom, we can be more prone to addiction because of self-medication if we aren't on a good med regimen that works for us, we can also be more prone to Binge Eating Disorder and that can lead to all the shorter lifespan issues that can with obesity and again meds often super help curb the impulse to eat, we sometimes just hyperfocus on hobbies or work to the exclusion of exercising even if we otherwise would regularly do it and also to the exclusion of sleeping enough (almost all people with ADHD struggle with going to bed instead of staying up too late because they don't want to stop what they're doing at night). Sleep is such a key for a longer lifespan. Also just procrastinating indefinitely on hard life changes that are in the important but not urgent box in our life like improving our diet or starting an exercise routine. But if we can figure out managing all this stuff i don't think we'd have a shorter life expectancy.