The term is maturity. I've known responsible and mature 14yos who are and act more mature than most 25yos. And we know immature "adults," we see them everywhere.

Everyone in the comments not understanding what this man is saying really is super alarming. It’s not about maturity levels or people not wanting to take responsibility. It’s about realizing that people who you look up to, people who you thought were superhero’s still don’t even fully know what this life of an adult is supposed to be. It’s supposed to be humbling!And just remember if you don’t know what you’re doing, neither does anyone else!

When we have clear and important goals the real adults reveal themselves. Sadly the people who are forever children will reveal themselves as well.

He’s got a great point, most people get old tired and lazy, mentally are no better than anyone from the perspective that they still just human

Adults exist. It is just that what makes one mature is not necessarily age alone, but the experiences one goes through. Especially the experience of having to be responsible, and actually doing your best to be responsible, being a parent is a great example.. I never really felt like I grew up until I had kids who looked up to me and depended on me.. who emulate my every move.. shit got real!

I'm 36, he kind of has a point. It's all pretense, nobody knows what they are doing, it's a mix of: being in denial to oneself about it, trying to keep face to others, especially younger ones, and being accepting of and at peace with it. Maybe that's the adult part, being aware, at peace, and not startled by the idea of being clueless about most things

I've said it for years. There's no such thing as "adult behaviour". People often remain what they were as children just in a different format.

I completely agree and I've come to the same conclusion myself growing up... On a similar note, I've noticed most people spend the majority of their adult lives having to unlearn, the honestly damaging, "adult" persona and only really settle into truly being themselves again when they're old... In so many ways we as children had life intuitively figured out, but the pressures of society, and "growing up" breaks us.

I’m 78 and still not fully matured but I do have enough wisdom to know who is in charge and I listen to him.

This reminded me of a novel named 'Godclad' a seriously entertaining novel with plenty of philosophy Spoiler warning At a certain point the novel got into the idea of 'killing' ones parents/idols/gods. Basically to realize that those we looked up to like our parents arent all that special. In the novel it happened literally when the MC's father forced MC to kill him Sometimes later when he saw how other people were bounded by the faith they had towards their idols(parents etc), he realized how liberated killing his father made him. It made him realize that nothing is absolutely above him and he could achieve things that would be impossible even for his father, unlike others who had a sense of what is possible and mot possible bound by their idols(like their parents)

We are always, still ourselves deep down inside!

When I was a kid I was given an assignment in school where I was asked what I think I would be like as an adult. This is where I asked myself what is an adult. I believed them to be mature strong intelligent moral and they have money. As I got older I realized I was more mature as a child than some of those that are around me. I didn't know adults needed to hear lies in order to continue life without being a wreck. I'm thoroughly disappointed 😞

I know a guy named Kyle Skinner in Indiana that embodies this. Listless, failed to launch into his 30s and became a kindergarten teacher. He never had a girlfriend and now he's more probably attracted to children.

So true ❤

"Well, that's a very, very interesting theory." -Thor

The difference between child and grown up is when you have children. It's much easier to have child-like attitudes when you don't have anyone to be responsible for. That being said, I think everyone (parent or not) can have a child in them for all of their days, but there should be a grown up side too.

Wisdom has to be earned sometimes at a cost

I’m 31 he’s getting somewhere things just start to annoying you and your not sure why and more and more things annoy you so you don’t surround yourself with this people or things anymore

I've recently come to the conclusion that we're all kids pretending to be grown ups acting like we got our shit together.

Of course true, mature, adults exists. It's just that not every technical adult has grown into that. For most poeple in most countries, you can see a clear difference in them throughout their ages. It is a mainly Western issue, that the majority of adults are either the drunk idiot, or that aimless, hopeless, 30-year-old.

Im 34..... I still feel mentally at 17., I'm still ashamed to say its not bothering me as much as it should

In a modernized society such as ours, where legit “coming of age” rites of passage have been phased out, how can we mature to become the people who can carry ourselves and each other in effective and honorable ways.. The rituals that give us a way to transform our identity to become who we need to be for ourselves AND the pack, and the honor and responsibility that comes with it… we kind of stay children without them

I kind of agree...

I think the real question is, ‘where is integrity and good character?’ That’s what we expect in “adults.” AKA people who are mature. Perhaps in the circles of influence you’ve been around you have not been able to find this?

I love this idea. I always think I'm behind in life and then I realise there's people almost double my age (I'm 17) who still unironically go to night clubs 😂

General Manager and Single full custody father at the age of 18 and now 8 years into GMing and am currently a Regional manager. Second kid now with a beautiful fiancé and been making six figures since I was 20. I have felt like a grown up since I was 18.

This has happened to me several time. The first was when these stupid incompetent people started to get promoted to sergeants. Because there is nobody else. And they acted the part as if they were that person. And the new guys obeyed, not knowing any better. The second one one is when a friend of mine who has works for himself putting Sheetrock and stuff and how stupid he is. Successful because he works and does a good job. People hire him. He has people working for gim, a wife, children. But immature, unreliable. No principles. No manliness. It’s shocking to see that this is what adults are. This is it?

Thanks!

20+ yrs ago when I started to work, I would revere those directors, VPs, C-suite guys in their tailored suits, and think they must be absolutely brilliant people to be in those places, in control of so many people and resources. Then as I aged, worked, climbed the ladder myself, I realized the closer I got to the top, the more dumb it got, yes there are amazing people, brilliant people, but it's actually selfishness, ability to play politics, to be liked, etc. that determines your status as a higher priority than your intelligent, merit and accomplishments to the company. That's when I realized this shit aint for me.

Those who I thought were adults were just trying to figure shit out as am I now.

Yeah. I was really out of touch as a kid cause of a abusive household and my teachers and school just treated me like my dissonance was me being bad. My 8th grade algebra teacher literally would scream at me for simply not doing my homework. For 5 minutes straight. Every day in class. That just shattered me. Luckily there was a few older teachers that stood up for me. But the insane part is. This very abusive algebra teacher would get the teacher of the year award. Fake fake fake. And also when the classroom observers would enter. They always warn the teacher far in advance. And than our algebra teacher will be a totally different kind lady for a day. Doesn't yell at me. When the 9bswrver came in the room one day. I said. I didn't do my homework. Your not gonna scream about it today for 5 minutes straight? And she turned real red and moved on. Than she stopped doing it after that. And I got suspended by her a week later. Told I was disobeying class instruction. "Insubordination."

Exactly my view! At least very very close to it

Things people tell themselves to avoid responsibility.

I feel that "adults" are what we think of as boring people beyond a certain age. The most interesting people are the ones who are still growing up.

Adults are just children with extra layers.

That is why the saying goes "You never grow up"

Watch that famous short of kids from Manchester in 1901. They are infinitely more mature than the overwhelming majority of adults today.

From birth we're always told to look up, listen and respect elders because they are supposed to know best and highly more intelligent. I believed that lie too. Now I know from experience most adults are complete mindless idiots.

Bc people stop learning and growing. It’s called arrested development

Fair enough but we do, I get what he's saying but adults are the people who step up.

I have been saying this for years! I’ve never met an adult.

Completely agree 💯

Adults do exist. When children become boring, they become adults. It’s nothing to do with age.

Rich Children run the world... That is why it is a mess. Because the most powerful & Influential are still trying to get needs met that were neglected in Childhood, but often at the expense of those without power or influence... Sobering.

Nah, the realization that everyone is a robot is much more profound.

Some adults have more in the way of money, power, influence, wisdom, experience, and technical knowledge and skills than a mere child ever could simply because he or she has had more time to accrue those things, but everyone is different.

“Adults don’t exist” I’d say the same thing if I looked like the world’s oldest 3rd grader.

said a lot of words but he means moral, discipline, and purpose driven maturity ; adult is just a word to segment age mainly.

I Just had this thought today 🤯

Adults DO exist...he just didn't understand what an adult was. That'd be like saying horses dont exist, and then you find out that he thinks a unicorn is what defines a horse.

Totally agree at 54

Responsibility makes you an Adult.

We're all just a bunch of kids trying to figure out how on earth we happened to be fortunate enough to be in the body of humans on this tiny rock in outer space...

The word you're looking for is maturity. Of course there are adults. Saying there are no adults opens the doors to P-files blurrying the lines.

Because the "Adults" aren't wasting their time and energy at "College" any more. They haven't for decades. The "Adults" don't waste their time on social media. They're building their family, their community and keeping the lights on. This guy needs to get out more.

37 here Sales director Earning well Got 2 houses Got a family Woopdidoo Still like to watch stoopid movies and play fps games I’m never “growing up” Some people have always been old. “Old souls”. Even at 25 they look old af PS my gf says: “hock thu”

Sounds like hanging out in cities and colleges has you thinking you’ve met the world. Go to the country, to countries that don’t have cities, meet people all over the developed and not so developed world who go through massive hardship and take on massive responsibility and aren’t just playing a comfortable game of entrepreneurship but truly surviving and sacrificing for their loved ones and community, even for strangers. There are men and women who will blow your mind with the level of “adult” they’ve been their whole lives and their selfless sacrifices for others. You are correct though. There are little to know grown people at colleges or in cities haha.

It is about being mature. And that usually comes after having borne some responsibility.

I feel like most people become adults when they have kids, or adopt an equivalent level of responsibility.

You view the world as full of children who never grew up because you and your friends are children who never grew up. Because it applies to you, you see it in everybody else, but it doesn't necessarily apply to everybody else... There are people alive today who have witnessed things you couldn't possibly imagine, experienced hardships you couldn't possibly endure, done things you couldn't possibly do. Those people are adults. Just because you're not one of them, does not mean they don't exist. When you've spent your whole life in a first world country, and probably the most difficult thing you've ever accomplished was graduate college, and very likely the most extreme hardship you've ever had to experienced was finding the cafeteria was out of french fries, it's no surprise you stayed a child basically forever. Though this is extremely common in modern society, it is not the truth for everybody out here. Some of us have seen things beyond the halls of our state college, some of us have experienced things that change people, some of us have been forced into many difficult situations that have given us no other choice but to do a substantial amount of "growing up".

There is a lot of truth in what he is saying but I think that from 40 to 50 is when you really become an adult. Your parent and their generation are leaving so you realise you are inheriting the world and the new generation is coming up and looking for leadership from you. Of course you fail on both accounts but it is a moment of realisation

don't strictly agree. it's an oversimplified statement for shorts clipping. true that we are children raising other children. however, when you experience the loss of your support network, then you become an adult, or you are eliminated. the wiring in your house blows. "Dad, how do I fix this? " "I'll Google it, and if I get it wrong, dad will fix it," "I'll just pay an electrician" To varying degrees, these are all the statements of children. "Damn... I've got to fix this myself somehow. " If you experience this, you will know what it is to be a grown-up.

Isn’t he saying the “people don’t grow in mindset and maturity”? How is this true at all?

Quote of the century

All you gotta do is have children and then you’ll figure out who the adults are real quick lol 😂

Yep, I kept waiting for my husband to grow up- never did and I lefr

Some of these grown up children will try to talk to you in a certain type of voice that conveys authority. You just have to remember that a tone of voice on its own doesn’t actually mean anything.

I will say most millennials, gen z'ers, maybe gen X may feel this. I'm not so sure boomers or traditionalists felt this way.

If you define an adult as someone who is not confused about what to do and knows everything, then nobody is an adult.

Paradoxically, realizing there are no adults means you are becoming an adult

Couldn't disagree more. At 33, every new year has come with new insights and more progress. Mistakes, certainly, but progress and wisdom, and maturity. I absolutely think some people remain feeble and immature, passively coerced into an adulthood they don't really want, but there are absolutely people who mature into the gravitas of their age. I also think that he's made a correct observation with teachers. Many do it for good reasons, and with full determination and a healthy goal, many more seem to do it because they don't know what else to do. His error is in extrapolating that to everything else.

Im 56 and just found out I don’t exist.

Omg it’s so true. 😂

Adults realize they dying

Yep. It's weird when you see people with white hair as big kids.

A person needs to decide to BE AN adult.

Stop glorifying pettiness. Step one.

It Is called growing... At 35 you are not longer the person you would be at 21, which doesnt know what to do with his life. The fact that they are not behaving like that later Is the proof they became in fact adult. And also, not everybody behave like a college mess

What is this trend of putting fancy tags on the most mundane things of life

Much fewer mature adults these days, certainly. But that is a fairly recent post - WW2 phenomenon from comfort and relative affluence. You wouldn't say that about Martin Luther or Otto von Bismarck, for example, or a great many other historical figures. Robert E Lee or Abraham Lincoln would be 2 more good examples!

38 here, still don't know.

45 and I'll say turning 40 actually flicks a switch, and then the years after really dial that in. There are such things as adults, this guy just isn't old enough to know... yet I'm guessing he is preaching life advice. The absurdity of 2024.

Grown up children....you mean adults? Thats what the word means ffs. The modus operandi these days is just be the guy who says shit and get a platform... doesn't matter how ridiculous the shit is, just say it out loud in front of people. 🤦🏼‍♂️

I would have to look at the full video, but what he might be referring to is the fallacy, that everyone becomes an adult just by reaching age 18, even if they do NOTHING the whole time. No development, no improvement, just grabbing that "adult" title and bossing around with all the privileges assigned to adults, but without any knowledge or mindset necessary to put these privileges into good use.

Yeah I'm surrounded by such people, even as they self-proclaim as Christians whilst getting up to mischief and self-harm. It can be disheartening and lonely at times, especially when you make more mature choices than they do and then start to ignore or ostracise you for a time. And on top of that, it's almost impossible to develop deep friendships and relationships with them... rather, the meetups are very ad-hoc and come-and-go basis. So yeah, it can be a pretty lonely situation to be in.

Can we stop with this "any color pills" stuff already

Its not about labelling or age, its about specific behaviour when required, and its known and respected when it seen- what this fella is saying so unexperienced

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Adult here. Have kids, then you'll see

This guy needs to seriously grow up. It’s not that adults don’t exist, it’s just that he has the mindset of a child. I’m 50, I remember how I felt as a teen etc. I have the life experience to know what I’m talking about. As an adult I am acutely aware of how short life is.

Most people, to become an adult, which is nothing more than a mindset, need to experience some transformational event. Mine was being shot at everyday for 28 months in a middle eastern hell hold. So many people, particularly boys, in the western world never have any such transformational event, and they keep getting older without becoming an adult.

Ailly

he doesn't realise he's making himself look like a child in a way he isn't intending to

Poor wording, obviously adults exist, it just doesn't mean the person is mature or worth listening to purely because of age. Have a few kids and see if you feel like an adult then, that'll change your perspective a bit.

Adult doesn’t mean emotionally mature it just means grown, yes, they exist and you’re ignorant.

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Hahaha

Is that peter pan ?

So years of life experience don’t count for anything here? A 25 year old is the same as a 15 year old? Really? I don’t agree with this person. Unless there’s some context missing this is just silly.

That sounds stupid. He must be still a child. 😂😂😂