This is an amazing lecture. Its such a shame that uk school teachers are not mandated to watch it. In fact, all adults, really. My child's experience in school was like the first example at the end. The headmistress was harsh and uncaring, businesslike. I used to work in schools and physical contact is banned now. In my sons school, even hugs between kids were banned. He's home educated now, strong, resilient and the person he deserves to be. I hear so much hollering and violent tones of voices from next door. It makes my soul weep.

Very informative and useful resource. Thank you

excellent topic

I had a rough start, born breach in the early 60s with a broken collar bone. One week after I was out of the hospital ( they used to keep babies and moms a week), my mom had a car accident, and I guess I landed on the floor board. I am now in my early 60s and wonder how much that affected who I've become. Don't see much on very early trauma.

I have had elevation of stress for many years.I know its not healthy however i cannot process it and it does not go away.I can. I was not seen or heard as a child and today .There was never a safe place to go with my fears or trauma.so i stayed in flight or frozen and so i found alcohol. I didn't know how to cope with life.My dad was a raging alcoholic so i didn't drink as teenager. I married a heavy drinker and slowly became a alcoholic. Today i understand i was predisposed to seek answers from the behavior modeled before .me.I am sober today but it is hard because my normal is to change the way i feel as quickly as possible. 887i

Love this lecture ...it just reinforces ll I've experienced and know to be true.

It was an amazing talk!! However, nowadays so many hugs are banned from schools ( I'm not even in the US, I'm in Mexico). How could we foster caring relationships if the system is banning all forms of bonding?

I found this very helpful. It is a wonderful resource with great information.

An excellent resource. Thank you.

Good job. Thank you

You need an enlightened witness (at least one) in order to recover. I couldn't find one when I left NYC. Outside of NYC the "family values" religion was too powerful.

She seemed to be all over the place, but still very informative and helpful. Thanks for posting!

not everyone who was truly victimized as children, and who now have to deal with all sorts of physical illnesses like autoimmune diseases, and also have extreme depression, are hung up on the identity of being the victim. How deeply insulting, that after watching you for 45 minutes, your big emotional come-to-jesus moment was to enlighten us to your revolutionary revelation that what people like me need to do is shake off our pet identity of the poor little victim and start thinking of myself in new ways. man, im 42, im a successful painter which is actually how I see myself, and I do so much stuff I like, and I think about everything really hard because I love it. AND ALSO the cptsd that I earned in my terrifying shitty childhood home continues to effect me by way of its mastery of its own cruel crafts, namely training my body to attack itself and convincing my heart to trust everyone, totally unprovoked, until I fall in love with someone at which point become convinced that she manipulated me into trusting her because she has a malevolent plan . Its like positive thinking ratchet only more blamey and shamey.

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Make my head hurt