Afraid Of Confrontation? Watch This

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2 жыл бұрын

Open social media, confrontation. Open your browser, confrontation. Look out the window, probably some more confrontation. You're not going to get away from conflict, so it's time to learn how to repair your relationship with it, whether you're caught in the trap of avoiding confrontation or the trap of being WAY too into it. Dig in.
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@bcat853 Жыл бұрын

I escaped an abusive household (especially mentally abusive) and now confrontation gives me extreme anxiety. I’m going to confront a boss at my job that has been mistreating me.

@riccardozanda8977 Жыл бұрын

how did it go?

@mikelisteral7863 10 ай бұрын

@@riccardozanda8977 he/she died. RIP

@rageius 10 ай бұрын

It seems a lot of people who dealt with emotional trauma have big confrontation anxiety

@mikelisteral7863 9 ай бұрын

INFERIORITY COMPLEX@@rageius

@naturalisted1714 Жыл бұрын

Due to all of the bullying I dealt with as a kid, I told myself, as an adult, that I'd always let people know if I feel like they're wrong, being abusive, etc. I usually avoid confrontation until I realize that there's no hope of them stopping their behavior unless I confront them. But like anything else; too much is too much...

@mikelisteral7863 10 ай бұрын

dont blame outside things for your inside pain. You dont actually want to supress other peoples speach or behavior but your pain is tricking you into thinking you do study something on youtube called: non duality.

@mikelisteral7863 10 ай бұрын

*- SIMPLY REMOVE THE FALSE BELIEF THAT YOU CANT WIN A FIGHT!* *- THEN REMOVE THE FALSE BELIEF THAT YOU DIDNT WIN THE FIGHT!* *- THEN REMOVE THE FALSE BELIEF THAT YOU WONT WIN THE NEXT FIGHT!* *- THEN CONTINUE TO BELIEVE YOU WIN FIGHTS BEFORE, DURING, AND AFTER ANY FUTURE FIGHT!*

@10k_mike 2 ай бұрын

💪🏽

@michaelglazejr.8721 2 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for the video. I've been working hard to be less confrontational and this was very encouraging. Have a blessed day everyone 😁🙏🏽

@princesssharkie 7 ай бұрын

I’m a young woman who has a huge fear of confrontation due to a history of abuse

@MM-qc9kl 2 ай бұрын

Same with me. Idk how to make my life better.

@simonsmith6213 7 ай бұрын

Such a useful video to help us understand how to grow in this area

@joemurgatroyd333 5 ай бұрын

So basically face it? But slowly?

@drydessert4198 2 жыл бұрын

A problem in confrontations is that as a default we assume that anger is naturally part of it. That is not totally unfounded because when you are angry, people might give in just because they feel attacked (which they are). That can give people an advantage who choose to be angry in confrontations (which is almost everybody). However, a confrontation is always about peoples interests seemingly colliding. Sometimes this can be resolved so everybody benefits. Sometimes one has to be fair and give in. Anger is not naturally linked to confrontations, negotiations. It's mostly an unquestioned belief. Removing anger from a conflict can also be a huge advantage as it can disarm someone who is usually getting their way using anger. If you are able to frame the situation so that you are not opponents but partners and it's not a conflict but a negotiations, not about how to get ones will no matter what but finding a solutions that is the overall best outcome, then very often you can actually get the upper hand.

@Roadmannerism-cc 2 жыл бұрын

Kill em with kindness. Costumer service/sales most of my life. It works wonders.

@213gameguy Жыл бұрын

I'm always afraid because I think is all or nothing.

@hustler607 6 ай бұрын

Rightly said

@Fkreisler 5 ай бұрын

@@Roadmannerism-cc what about when you are dealing with irrational people which don't react to kindness?

@theblanketfortcohort7332 Жыл бұрын

i hear you! Whilst youre right- words can be hurtful, words can create a snowball effect that leads to violence- theres a distinct lack of tolerance on all sides of conversations nowadays. As a trans person, for example, i dont want you to be afraid to ask questions out of a fear you might upset me- i invite questions, so long as you respect me as a person. Whilst i think woke culture is- well, its heart is in the right place- people are expecting others to regulate their emotions for them. People need to be kinder to eachother, yes, but we also need to nurture ourselves. (I came here because i hate conflict but thought this was pertinent hehe)

@stevanmilenkovic8843 8 ай бұрын

anyone have fear in heart before a conflict or geting into fight? like some stabbing in heart feeling? followed with fear ?

@JLPfrmthaWAU Ай бұрын

Do you have any videos about that warrior inside? Great video btw

@Chillphones 10 ай бұрын

keep it up man! great content

@morellaaranda 2 жыл бұрын

Very useful, i agree on almost everything, except in using violent terms as battle, war, it promotes violence culture...

@jimmycringe7616 11 ай бұрын

You talken about the Problem, But not about the Solution !??

@mikelisteral7863 10 ай бұрын

remove the false belief that you cant win a fight

@hve.d 4 ай бұрын

Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved. Acts 4:12 And they said, "Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household. acts 16:31 I accepted Jesus Christ, crucified and resurrected from death, as my personal savior. Blessings to you and your family in the name of Jesus. I hope that God will show you the truth and give you salvation.