After The Breakup | Therapy Thursday

After The Breakup | Therapy Thursday | Jerry Flowers

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Жыл бұрын

It’s hard to grieve over someone who’s still alive, like you eulogized the relationship, but the person is not in the cemetery!
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@paulabarker5715 4 ай бұрын

"God will wreck your plans when He sees that your plans will wreck you". That hit home!

@Mariliza. 3 ай бұрын

💯‼️

@shadchris2304 4 ай бұрын

This pain I feel is so intense that sometimes all I want to do is sleep. There was a fear that I messed up something that was great. But I receive Gods Word that even if it was me God still has a plan for me.

@linnette6493 4 ай бұрын

I've been there. It will get better. Even if you messed it up, God still loves you. This too shall pass! ❤

@ChadRobertson-mc2cp 4 ай бұрын

I messed up terribly

@Ritatrue 2 ай бұрын

You got this!

@antwan7836 Ай бұрын

Thank you for comment. I feel the same way

@Wealthybaby Ай бұрын

“You could be a whole package,but if you end up at the wrong address, the receiver could mishandle you”

@natashatate2332 2 ай бұрын

I was dumped recently & struggling to move forward. Feeling blessed that God led me to this video. ❤

@TheAnissaMonee 22 күн бұрын

I did not want to let go and I begged and pleaded because I knew I loved him. Yet his dismissive behavior and the words “ It’s time to leave this alone” woke me up and God reminded me that I am more and I will have great. My burden is light and my yolk is easy. I love you all and I wish you an easy process I’m running with you

@siaspence6333 Ай бұрын

“You’re healed when you see the person who cut you and you don’t want to cut them back” - this is soooooo good! 👍🏾

@goldenlifelove7251 9 ай бұрын

I need this word so badly!! I'm struggling so badly w/ this breakup! Nothing has hurt be this badly in my entire life. I'm in therapy, been in no-contact since he dumped me, deleted every picture, voice-mail, text message, sent back every gift he gave me & threw away all the cards & notes. I feel so stuck with this & I'm still so hurt. I miss his friendship so much, it's excruciating. I'm fine 1 day & not the next. I cry so much it's crazy😢 I've never been through anything like this. It's been almost 2 months & Idk how or when I'll ever get past this. I don't want him back, I don't trust him anymore, I'm just hurt. There were no arguments, I was happy & thought he was too, but there were so much deception & lies on his part it hurts so much knowing he probably never really cared about me. I just pray God delivers me from this pain soon.

@cuttinupwithcrystal5484 5 ай бұрын

Same here ❤😢

@dtjisdivine 5 ай бұрын

God will. It does get better. ♥️ I’ve been there. God loves you and I pray he comforts you through it all.

@jasminedubose92 4 ай бұрын

😮‍💨

@ladyrenee1956 4 ай бұрын

When your relationship grows closer to God you will forget him I'm going through the same thing but I know I'm worth so much more than sex and a late night blunt now I'm clean do drinks no weed and no sex praise god

@alannahjack2188 4 ай бұрын

How are you feeling now? ☺️

@siaspence6333 Ай бұрын

“Healing scares people who benefit from your brokenness”

@imterry1914 5 күн бұрын

Wow....soaking myself in worship helped alot,It switches focus...I pray you focus on Jesus....I love this video...like this to remind me that can take it❤

@eltigredemazatlan 4 ай бұрын

Dude, it was me all the time, I regret not changing while she was here and now that she is gone I miss her ☹️ Miss her so much, guys pray for me …

@treasurehardy3711 4 ай бұрын

That’s my situation too! I miss him like crazy but I know he needs the space from me to move on and heal.

@whitneyparker5168 2 ай бұрын

🙏🏾🙏🏾

@lunas2551 Ай бұрын

Sometimes God is kind enough to let us learn these hard lessons before your spouse comes along. You may have wanted her to be the one, but hopefully the clarity you gained can be a blessing. I am sorry for your heartache and pray God gives you the answers you need 💗

@pwillskiapparel3886 Ай бұрын

Bro I feel you, we got a son together so I gotta see her almost everyday. It’s tough but I’m taking it day by day

@LuzMartinez-fl3qx Ай бұрын

It’s truly hard to think U had someone that was it for U.. Where U had all your hopes and dreams with this person only to find out he isn’t it… My situation is a bit unique I guess… I got married 20 years ago with my first bf to help him with his papers.. Long story short he ended up getting deported and I never got to getting a divorce… I met someone and we had been dating for roughly 4 months when I told him i was still married his perception changed of our relationship… I can’t really afford to get divorced at the moment soo after much discussion.. He basically said he couldn’t continue with the relationship because of the fact that I am still married on paper.. He said it bothers him and blocks him from moving forward with this relationship… I honestly dont understand that, I mean… If U really want to be with someone should that really matter? I mean it’s not like we are getting married now and eventually I do plan on getting divorced just not rite now.. Unfortunately financial circumstances does not allow me too..: Anywho, I really thought he was the finally the one! He was everything I had been praying God in a man and so I thought God had finally answered my prayer… Needless to say Im pretty tore up rite now… Just been praying for God to give me clarity and help me heal…

@SGWAPO 3 ай бұрын

it’s been 10 months for me & i never experienced pain this intense. I truly thought she was the love of my life, but i was wrong. 6 years of putting my heart & soul into someone only for it to be a lesson. She moved on a couple months after the breakup & seems happy. Meanwhile i’ve been dealing with excruciating pain every single day. I pray to God everyday to heal my heart & help me move forward with my life but it’s a long process. I have faith that it’ll get better eventually, God is just working on me a little longer.

@Bonafide0324 2 ай бұрын

Try fasting and praying it helps also delete everything that reminds you of her.

@SGWAPO 2 ай бұрын

@@Bonafide0324 Thanks alot! Trying my best

@alexpeebz 3 ай бұрын

I think it was both: I was the problem and also divine intervention. I’m praying for all of us.

@PreciousdaughterofChrist 15 күн бұрын

me too ☹️

@Melaninnmuse Жыл бұрын

I’m only 5 minutes through this video and Pastor Jerry is nailing my exact feelings. I always use to ask people how do you grieve someone that’s still alive, still breathing, walking around as if the hurt they caused means nothing. Oh but god, it truly blows my mind at how he works in the midst of it all. Cause in the end, it only brought me so much closer to him. And at one point I had to ask god “Did I hurt you the way he hurt me?” …because when god said no other idol above him, that’s truly what he meant. I’m so grateful for where my relationship is with him now, and if it took having to go through what I had to, to get here, then so be it. I definitely shared this with a few friends already ✨ “There is still more after this.” Amen 🙏🏾

@OmariShorts556 Жыл бұрын

Hi! I would like to start a women’s group that uplifts women and we all help each other strive to be kingdom women that God has called us to be would you like to be apart of it?

@ccartagena2262 Жыл бұрын

I said the same thing

@jessicalong6011 6 ай бұрын

Amen!

@tmarie9609 5 ай бұрын

@@OmariShorts556I’d love that!

@tmarie9609 5 ай бұрын

This was well written and I had the SAME experience!

@user-pk7se9hr1w 24 күн бұрын

I miss him for real and it's a roller coaster day to day and I know I can't go. Back

@sincereshay 7 ай бұрын

I was with a man who eventually said he didn’t want to pursue God yet, It’s been painful and I never stopped seeking God. The pain drew me closer than ever because I just didn’t understand. But I’m healing, God never chose this for me.. my actions led me here but I know better now. He’s helping me every step!

@godsgirl4241 Жыл бұрын

Shake off the dust. Don’t allow heart to be calloused. Staying in a place where you’re not received is wasting time. If I’m at the wrong address, the receiver won’t receive us. Shake it off and enter my new season!! Go and take my peace with me…to the new village.

@essmomanyi470 Ай бұрын

I feel so broken right now......everything in my life is scrambling down but wat scares me the most is my relationship with God and my career 😢.....leaving this comment here in april 2024 for future reference coz i know God is gonna deliver me 🙏 🙏 Glory be to God

@yahkar Жыл бұрын

📖 _If your always the teacher and never the student, then your probably the problem_ . 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@LearninLyfe Жыл бұрын

Yes Lord I needed this!!!!! I receive this message in the name of JESUS! Amen Amen Amen

@jam09aica Жыл бұрын

I allowed my insecurities and jealousy to take over my mind. I pushed away my ex. I am grateful that I see the errors in my ways. I understand my thoughts needed healing. I will use this time to mentally heal. I will keep God 1st pray for healing and seek help. I will renew my spirit and mind in GOD'S NAME AND WORD.

@alenablanco5151 18 күн бұрын

I hooe youve been well my love remmever God is good!! How is everything now? If the time is right you guys can meet again

@familler7 5 ай бұрын

I ignored all the red flags. This person came into my life at my most vulnerable season in 1997, and I believed it was a God send and was married to this person for 25 years through all the narcissistic, childhood trauma and dysfunction. I am determined to heal from this grief from this divorce!

@ChadRobertson-mc2cp 4 ай бұрын

I was so toxic ,narcissistic, manipulative. 100 percent wrong. I regret it. I will I've grown so much but extremely guilty.

@mandysmith4901 Ай бұрын

Same here!

@stephnyamify Ай бұрын

I also ignored the red flags 20 years and 4 kids later 😢 I'm struggling to move on

@BornAgainGeneration 9 сағат бұрын

There’s still more after this (: thank you Jesus 🩷

@tydance8865 6 ай бұрын

i was planning on marrying my ex we haven't spoke in three weeks.. i'm really struggling. we were unevenly yoked & did alot of fighting but had amazing times as well. God has revealed he separated us to get me closer to him and if he didn't i was only going to stray away from him even more.. hallelujah.

@user-dq1in3vt6p 26 күн бұрын

Same here 😔

@jasminedahna9901 Жыл бұрын

You can tell that Jerry genuinely loves the Lord and wants to help others

@iamdawnharris Жыл бұрын

“I just don’t want to move on, I want to move on right and with health.” A powerful message! Thank you for allowing God to use you. 🥹

@shaqwannacole4419 3 ай бұрын

@Destiny-pq6zd 6 күн бұрын

THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS, THE BREAKUP

@BNT1130 4 ай бұрын

Grieving and they’re still alive! Definitely that part!

@ebonydixon3568 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Lord for using Jerry for delivering this message

@sanders4911 11 ай бұрын

The way this man preaches is astounding ❤

@naenae106 Ай бұрын

It’s me, I have gotten to a place where I almost hate myself. I see all that is within me and how I push away everyone I loved…and I hate it. I’m so sick of myself, I’m sick of the result of what I’ve inflicted on others.

@lucasb4590 Жыл бұрын

I just broke up And seeing right away is just God😭

@jessieoakford6113 Жыл бұрын

God provides, the love we can trust

@alenablanco5151 18 күн бұрын

@@jessieoakford6113 are you okay now?

@kaleighaalejaga7470 3 ай бұрын

THERES STILL MORE AFTER THIS!! Lord your story for me continues onward,,, heal my heart, spirit, and mind the right way, the way it's intended for, Hallelujah! Thank you brother for being a vessel & allowing God to speak through you!

@miseducated7185 4 ай бұрын

Move on right; walked away hoping they’ll stop you;don’t know how to grieve about something that is dead but the person is still alive…. Move on with health, Heal with clarity

@sebastianwilson8899 Жыл бұрын

My mother always warned me about this: “You can’t be wrong AND strong….

@deec.christian7012 Жыл бұрын

Understanding my purpose...even as a single woman and mother

@cecemoon9692 Ай бұрын

The death was my doing. I lied to him because I was afraid of telling him the truth and fearful of the reaction I would get from telling him the truth. He was my best friend and I betrayed his trust. He had the grace to still forgive me but we’re no longer together. I recognize that I have unhealed issues. I pray for him to this day. Currently in a phase of suffering and shame but grateful for this suffering otherwise I would not be changing for the better. I am striving to walk with God more and strengthening my relationship with Him. Thank you for this video. God Bless everyone who is in the same situation as I am, I pray you heal and learn from the word so you can stop hurting your loved ones.

@rotjames1 Жыл бұрын

Thankful for the Lord letting me see it was me and the relationship was not good for me either! Grateful to God for caring enough to snatch me out when I didn’t have the strength or sense to do it myself. 🙌🏾hallelujah for freedom and true healing to move on! 🎉

@DrJohnwhancock 11 күн бұрын

It feels she is dead… but I’m finding, The more the world takes away from me, the more I see Gods hands. THERE IS MORE!

@Withlove.K95 11 күн бұрын

There is still more for me after this! ❤️🙏🏼

@ellysavatia Жыл бұрын

That was spot on! The worst combination is when somebody is arrogant and ignorant 😂😂😂

@sixteen.candles.4644 5 ай бұрын

Lol

@cherankimiorak1739 4 ай бұрын

What a word 🙌🏽🙌🏽 Yes when I was with my ex narc my spiritual life greatly declined. Stopped going to church, prayer life came to a halt.. Thank you Jesus my Boaz is on his way 🙏🏽

@chsnbytmhnyki56 16 күн бұрын

I was the red flag and I messed up, sabotaged so bad. Acted out from feelings I thought were present. They were so recurrent that I couldn’t deny them. I would ask and it would either get no energy or denied. Either I was a huge narcissist and did to him what my last did to me; or my gut was right and there was quiet manipulation. After grieving there’ll be more clarity. Our relationship didn’t start out bad but at some key points things changed. I think this hurts so bad bc I messed up and wished I had enough strength and wisdom to fix my faults. I need to change. Be happy be tender be Loving. I just don’t know how. I projected too. I didn’t give him what he needed and he didn’t give me what I needed. I’m broken. Be fixed My Love 🤍

@PreciousdaughterofChrist 15 күн бұрын

I’m going through the same thing…I’m so sad

@chsnbytmhnyki56 15 күн бұрын

I pray your healing is complete with clarity and peace

@beautifulb2078 3 ай бұрын

My heart is so broken right now I don’t love myself so I couldn’t love him neither. This man loved me unconditionally and I couldn’t give or receive it back. I promised God before I met him I would work on and heal myself before I entered a relationship I didn’t keep my promise and now Ive ran off a good man. I know God is working in my life but it’s hard not to feel anger with God! when does my happiness come when will the pain from my past not affect my present and future

@jernassedixon4299 17 күн бұрын

THERE'S STILL MORE AFTER THIS!

@kokochanel2176 2 күн бұрын

I needed this tonight! Thank you 🙏 & AMEN 🙏🙏🙏

@deec.christian7012 Жыл бұрын

That whole part...grieve someone who is physically still here

@user-pk7se9hr1w 24 күн бұрын

I did my share of hurting others and I am not denying but I want to never contribute to hurting anyone again

@charliemcindoe3539 Жыл бұрын

Omgoodness I really needed this today because I’m in the middle of the healing process of healing from a six year relationship with two kids out of it 😢it’s really hard thank you lord for this

@tyralewis5394 3 ай бұрын

Hi girlie! How are you doing now?

@takeitfromtim 4 күн бұрын

There's still more after this!

@user-ww7zh3kv7t 19 күн бұрын

I just want to grieve and get over him 🥺

@priscillacastro224 Ай бұрын

I’m on your cuffing series, trapped series, timing series and the current…. Recent breakup that effected me spiritually, mentally, emotionally the past 3 years. Coming across your page has been a blessing from God. I have been praying and I watch a few pastors online who I absolutely love and you have just been absolutely amazing because it’s biblical. It’s not sugarcoating. It’s exactly what I need to hear and this therapy Thursday is it on another level!

@ray.bailey 3 ай бұрын

Amen 🙏🏾. I needed to hear this . Went thru a divorce and I still find myself missing her and thinking about our family . Healing is messy, but necessary. Amen 🙏🏾

@jecintahwanjiru1606 2 ай бұрын

I feel you, going thru the same😢

@user-pk7se9hr1w 24 күн бұрын

Amen and this person never considered I didn't even get to grieve the deaths of loved ones

@blaquecinderella3560 5 ай бұрын

Pastor Jerry Flowers ALWAYS delivers God's message in the most loving, gentle yet firm & simple way. God bless you Pastor. I totally needed this. Watching from Nairobi Kenya 🇰🇪

@courtneyoliver5901 Ай бұрын

What a word.

@anissatention8565 24 күн бұрын

THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS

@AimeeCastle-tz4eb 20 күн бұрын

I'm getting my peace back!!

@ciaputter7462 11 ай бұрын

After 15 years of marriage I felt like I gave birth to a long awaited child (future) and it was dead. Its like this eye of the hurricane... everything feels surreal and like youre holding your breath, looking for the next step but there is no path illuminated.

@nylah3065 Ай бұрын

THERE’S STILL MORE AFTER THIS

@rhodaparker-wilson7362 3 ай бұрын

I dont want to just move on but i want to move on right😢. Help me Lord🙏🙏

@takeitfromtim 4 күн бұрын

Amen!!

@TerrellJones-Official 18 күн бұрын

This was so on time and good! I needed every word spoken!

@HorizonEast72 Жыл бұрын

Amen and Amen. Thank you Lord for showing me that I had to end that relationship. Thank you Lord for showing me my own brokenness. Please help me to heal and to get on the right path - to get on Your path Lord. I can’t do this by myself anymore without You. Thank you Lord for Pastor J and his ministry and for access to Therapy Thursday. In Jesus name Amen!

@theselflovebae 4 ай бұрын

This message is so healing. I’m going through a breakup and I know this has to be God sending this message. I literally had a conversation with my ex 2 months post break up. I gave him a message God put on my heart. Extended the olive branch and told him I’m dusting my sandals off like the disciples. He laughed but I was serious I’m going to move forward and wait for Boaz.

@mp31wellnessbridgetmccray57 26 күн бұрын

Wow! So relevant & timely!

@christeesdale5537 11 ай бұрын

So timely for me but hey that’s the power God! I needed today after a ending of a 9 year marriage and whatever the last 2 years were about. Grateful to the Lord for His strength, grace, and the healing of my heart… Time to shake that dust brother!!!

@jernassedixon4299 17 күн бұрын

I am getting my peace back

@user-wh5zc8lg2x 7 күн бұрын

Amen ❤

@tparker3685 3 күн бұрын

Amen!🙏🏾♥️

@blepaok Жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this today. I have held on to the dust of another village with dear life because it's what I want even when I heard a whispering in my spirit that God had to close that door.

@mbalindzinisa1791 15 күн бұрын

AMEN!!!!

@porchewilliams1422 Ай бұрын

MANNNNN YOU BETTER PREACH because I can’t stand my ex/baby daddy!!! Whew yeah you talking to me ‼️

@dorien2725 11 күн бұрын

Amen

@IntegraTypeSPerformance Жыл бұрын

I’m getting my peace back. 🙏🏽

@dorien2725 11 күн бұрын

This is going to be good..

@beccawilliamsme 28 күн бұрын

Amen !

@sarahdelisca9435 Жыл бұрын

There is still more after this! Thank you Jesus!! 🙏🏼

@kelliholland4520 4 күн бұрын

There's still more after this

@tparker3685 3 күн бұрын

There is still more after this

@rueymurowe4592 19 күн бұрын

This is what I needed

@beegonzales4205 2 ай бұрын

I'm getting my peace back

@anissatention8565 24 күн бұрын

This is going to be good

@DanielMunoz-sq6bh 21 күн бұрын

Im getting my peace back

@DebDaBrat Ай бұрын

Amennn how do you grieve the person you thought there were and let the die in your mind so you can see them for who they are

@dudumasindi7025 2 ай бұрын

I’m getting my peace back

@Nicole__97_ Жыл бұрын

YOU CAME FOR MY SCALP ON THIS ONE JERRY!! THANK YOU!!

@wdsanders04 Жыл бұрын

We have to move on the right way .

@RicanOnARant Ай бұрын

This is going to be good 🙏🏼

@iameunicee8318 17 күн бұрын

I’m a single mom / annulled and my ex’s family didn’t like me because they said I’m used and 2nd hand already. They said their son can do better, that he deserves someone who’s brand new. My ex can’t also fight for me and he wants to follow his parents’ wishes. Just trusting God thru this season. I know He loves me and wants what’s best for me.🙏🏼😔

@BBYSTEPH999 Ай бұрын

thank you.

@janinedelport5532 Жыл бұрын

Thank You for covering emotional abuse. I am Blessed that God removed me from an abusive marriage, but at the right time He sent my Boaz

@nidialugo7422 9 күн бұрын

There’s still more after this

@Londiebeantown Жыл бұрын

Cover this MAN of GOD!! I am so grateful for your obedience, which is teaching me obedience. This one hit real different! I am so grateful that you and your amazing family have been apart of my healing journey for the last 3 years. God bless you all!

@msaverielle Жыл бұрын

THERE’S STILL MORE AFTER THIS.❤

@michellekirk8609 Ай бұрын

Control isn’t always overt like that, sometimes they gaslight you and break your being to keep you under control. Sometimes they really can kill you with kindness. Do you think they will be watching this? He can’t be wrong. I’m broken beyond words. How do I heal?

@sieglindeallen9626 Жыл бұрын

There’s still more after this… glory to the most high

@laurahall1125 2 ай бұрын

This is going to be good!

@anakarenquiroa1215 22 күн бұрын

Amenn

@laurahall1125 2 ай бұрын

Thank you Jesus because I was just "dumped" and this pain. Smh. This helped me so much. Will run this back a few times. Continue to let God use you. God bless you.