His wife is a controlling AH. She doesn’t own the baby, they are both its parents. They both make decisions. She unilaterally decided her family could see the baby but not his. Whatever comment at the end was dead wrong.

She is being ridiculous NTA

The last guy obviously has hearing issues cause he said he asked, respected that boundary, and pushed down his feelings, MULTIPLE TIMES. Before his wife went all hypocritical on *the father of her son,* not letting his parents meet *their* son.

She keeps referring to the baby as “her baby” as if it isn’t his too. She is definitely the AH. What’s more, she feels entitled to share the baby with HER family, but the moment you want to show it to yours? Unfathomable! Maybe try to communicate this to her, because that’s just unnecessarily controlling.

No! She let HER family see the kid, HIS family is just as important its THEIR kid, not just HER kid, i just saw a story where the wife did the exact same thing and the guy’s mom died without ever being able to see the baby and the relationship was fully ruined, the wife in this story is full on TAH and fully selfish

Nta ur kiddin wife doesnt even accept op's family to visit their grand child even though they helped with most of the items and etc

the comment spoken at the end after the OP's story, i have to disagree. the husband did not violate the wife's boundaries. they both agreed neither family would be able to see the baby for a month so they can adjust and soend time w/ their new son. a month went by, and the wife had invited her family over to see their new grandson/nephew/cousin, so OP rightfully assumed that meant his wife was ready to have his family see their son too. she got angry and claimed she wasnt ready to present their son to his side of the family yet. OP respected her wishes at first and explained to his family to give her more time. OP is NTA for going behind the wife's back; he meant well and his family had every right to see his son too. theres definitely something fishy here and they do have to talk because theres something more going on here. either the wife is hiding something and/or her family doesnt like his family for some reason

The wife is ready for her family but not his even tho they helped

There can't be one side meeting the baby without the other side wanting to meet the baby either

Also the person reading this story, communication is a two way streak she wasn’t talking to him at all, and he tried talking to her from what it sounds like, so she is the one who “bread” the mistrust, she went behind his back and broke a rule she put in place and then yelled at him for breaking the same rule. Huge hypocrite. And AH

Nope not at all, the baby is OP's too

Your not it’s both of yalls baby she can’t just decide if only her family can see it

The child is not her kid, it is both of yours. Granted she carried it for 9 months but who else could do that. I would worry about the child’s future / mental health / being too tied to her apron strings if I were you. She sees the child as her property and I suspect she has some actual or perceived issues she needs to work through with a professional. Her parents aren’t helping and one wonders whether it is they whispering in her ear that is causing all this.

He ain’t the dad

The comment they chose to use is total bs the wife went behind the husband's back so her family can met their child fuck that divorce the wife and clam full custody of the child with supervised visits for the mother.

NTA. (and the Edited in comment was moronic) A Father has ALL the same rights as a Mother does. He does not need her permission to take his child anywhere. She needs to wake up to her selfishness as she does not get to solely control the baby.

This reminds me of another story where the op's wife just gave birth, and her mother came to live with them for three months in order to help out with the baby , after that time was up the op asked his wife if his mom could come and see the baby she said no and started giving him all sorts of BS excuses about wanting to spend time as a family.

NTA That comment at the end they need to read/Lauren to story again, So it’s ok for the wife to bring her family over and not ask permission, but hubby can bring his own child to see his side of family. In-laws need to butt out and their precious Princess needs a wake up call, more over as for FIL threats I’d make sure he never saw the grandkid again clearly has anger issues

Nta

0:51 time stamp

I feel like op is not telling the full story

DNA test

She has PPD and you were motbthe AH but living in the spare room isba good idea Get counseling PPD and marrisfe immediately and still lawyer up

Hes nta

The baby might depend on her more right now but that child is equally yours. If their was a valid reason why she didn't want your side to meet the child then she should say it. Or perhaps she did say it but you omitted that part. But if she's really just this controlling for no reason you probably don't want to have anymore children with her.

YTA