AITA For Not Telling My Wife About An Incident With Her Best Friend?... - Best Reddit
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We Live With My Wife's Friend After Her Abusive Relationship. Recently, I've Noticed That She's Intentionally Trying To Get Close To Me.
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OP (33) has been married to his wife (31) for 6 years, and they have a 3-year-old child. They live with Ana, the wife’s best friend, who moved in after escaping an abusive relationship. Recently, OP has noticed Ana intentionally trying to get close to him, which makes him uncomfortable and confused.
Ana and OP’s wife have been best friends since school. Ana was in a relationship for 2 years with a man who became abusive after losing his job. He accused Ana of cheating, controlled her phone, and managed her finances. The situation escalated to physical violence, leading OP and his wife to rush Ana to the hospital. Since Ana’s parents were not involved in her life, OP's wife asked if Ana could stay with them temporarily. They live in a 4-bedroom house with two spare guest rooms, so OP agreed.
Ana was deeply affected by her abusive relationship, showing signs of depression and anxiety. She stayed at home all day, unable to work. OP’s wife took care of her like family, and Ana appreciated their support. Gradually, Ana started to recover, smiling occasionally and looking for a job.
One Friday, OP came home early from a doctor's appointment. While working in his room, Ana walked in, topless and in her underwear, looking for his wife’s clothes. Both were embarrassed, and Ana quickly covered herself and apologized. She explained that she needed clothes because her laundry was unwashed and asked OP not to tell his wife. OP agreed but felt guilty about not disclosing the incident.
After 5 days, OP, feeling guilty, decided to tell his wife about the incident. He casually brought it up, but his wife reacted emotionally, asking for more details. OP explained everything, and his wife revealed that Ana had a history of being involved with a married coworker in a sugar daddy relationship. This past relationship made OP’s wife worried about Ana’s boundaries with married men.
Despite the revelation, OP’s wife trusted Ana and believed the incident was accidental. The next morning, Ana hugged and kissed OP on the cheek, which made him uncomfortable. OP felt conflicted, as his wife’s friends often greeted him this way, but Ana’s behavior seemed different.
OP shared his concerns with his wife, who reassured him that Ana respects their boundaries. Ana began waking up early to have coffee with OP, help with breakfast, and go to the gym together. She also started looking for apartments nearby. OP appreciated having a gym partner and treated Ana like a sister-in-law.
Ana’s behavior raised red flags for OP, especially given her past. He felt his wife had kept secrets about Ana and was worried about their marriage. OP’s wife apologized for not disclosing Ana’s past earlier but insisted that Ana’s presence was positive for their family.
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