The part of this film that broke me was when his dad apologized for not comforting him when he cried. As a professional crybaby since birth I realized that as I got two younger siblings and entered my teen years, my parents wouldn't come anymore to hug me and say everything was okay whenever I cried in my room. And when I would pull myself together and leave my room they'd vaguely ask how my day was and I would always lie unconvincingly, cause I wanted to seem independent and grownup, and they would always clearly see through the lie but move on. Looking back they were probably trying to give me space to work through my emotions alone, but in the moment it truly felt like they had abandoned me. Now I'm in my 20s and we're communicating better with each other, and I'm not holding any grudges because I know I was the first kid and I made things overly complicated sometimes. But if either of them ever apologize for not coming to me more during my emo teen years, I'd probably sob for hours.

The film is a masterpiece and stunningly portrayed! Andrew Scott is masterful!

As an American who doesn't follow the awards, I had just taken it for granted that the director and every actor had been nominated. Absolutely shocked.

Excellent review. Scott absolutely gave the best performance I have seen in years. Paul, Claire, and Jamie were top of their game as well. Kudos to Andrew Haigh and his vision and production. All 5 award winning in my heart and mind.

A cinematic masterpiece.

I would go further and say it's one of the best performances in the past several years. This film affected me so deeply.

Thank you for this lovely review!! Saw it last night 🇨🇦 Still processing & can't even articulate fully how important this film feels 🤍 So many pieces to relate to... Sad the formal academies won't recognize the enormous talent..but so grateful it was made & to see how many people can experience it & embrace all the emotions 🤍

Excellent review, thank you! And I agree completely that the failure to nominate Andrew Scott is outrageous. All four actors do outstanding work, but as noted the entire film rises or falls on Scott's performance... and it soars. And I strongly recommend Andrew Haigh's other work: the lovely TV series+film "Looking" about three gay male friends in San Francisco is very much his vision and sensibility, although there were other writers and directors involved; the film "Lean On Pete" is terribly underrated, and "The North Water" (a 5-part/hour TV series) is dark and powerful.

Loved your review and I couldn’t agree more! This film was absolutely transformative and exquisitely cathartic for me. It has touched my emotions profoundly. Andrew Haigh has written and directed a total masterpiece showcasing deep human vulnerability, emotional pain, and loving connection.

Hello from Spain. I saw this film this weekend (it wasn't released until late February here) and I couldn't stop crying. I'm not queer and my parents are still alive, but I felt so related to the loneliness and self-isolation of Andrew Scott carachter. I didn't know Andrew Haigh's work and will definitely be watching his other films. This movie is so beautifully done, heart breaking and all the actors were amazing. I do also think it didn't get all the recognition it deserved. One of the best films of the year.

Ok, let me explain why there was a lack of Oscar nominations for this film.

Thanks guys. I’ve just seen this film in NZ , it seems like the spirit or ghost story of lives past for the Adam character who alternates between nuanced and a little wooden. It’s like an existential film with magic realism. Of the western urban gay man motif with a disruption, a trauma, a childhood loss and yet not fully living in the present , as a cautionary tale.

What a fantastic vid..............love your synopsis. You're both wonderful

I loved the movie so much. I don’t know if I will ever watch it again though. Such a masterpiece.

Loved this review!!!

Hey Jack! Where is that cardigan from? I absolutely love it.

This show is amazing, so happy to find it