Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA ) Traits and Treatment

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Adult Children of Alcoholic Parents #ACOA Traits and Treatment #cptsd #innerchild #abandonment #alcoholicsanonymous #alcoholic
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@DocSnipes 9 ай бұрын

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@sandramcgrath4885 Ай бұрын

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@teetrav Жыл бұрын

So many people have been traumatized and have no idea how it hurts their life today.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you watching

@DirtyDruid Жыл бұрын

Im working on it.

@ranc1977 Жыл бұрын

Yes! And CBT will tell to socially anxious that trauma does not exist - or that trauma is not important to learn about.

@wade4688 7 ай бұрын

Ah cbt the golden wrench of psychology. Fixes everything

@zoozooe 4 ай бұрын

Absolutely, it's really sad. Especially when you spend years or decades not realizing this is what has caused you issues.

@omibear1313 Жыл бұрын

My therapist recommended I look into this. It's honestly the story of my life. Being the oldest in a home with an addict still affects me 30 years later.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@dnk4559 Жыл бұрын

I was the oldest as well. Both parents have recently passed and my relationship with my siblings is awful.

@fayeblanche9882 Жыл бұрын

My sister is the oldest of 4, i am the second oldest. We both grew up very quickly to help look after each other and the younger two, although i definitely acknowledge that my older sister was dealt the hardest hand without a doubt. We have just lost our father and our mother's drinking has plummeted. It sucks. Even as an adult & mother myself if i hear her drunken voice on the phone it will cut through like a razor.

@inkblot101 Жыл бұрын

How's your journey going?

@m.r.e.5731 6 ай бұрын

Mine were either way too attentive - smashing down my boundaries - or they were in their own stupors... never one style or the other. as a consequence. I am working through figuring out who I am and what my needs are, and I am in my 60s. I need to find a good therapist who can deal with this.

@angelahlah Жыл бұрын

I describe my dad as a functional alcoholic. He never missed a day of work and always provided financially, however he was explosive, mean and controlling. He was verbally abusive to my mum. My mum did not drink. I've realised my mum picked up the slack in regards to parenting where my dad was lacking and without her I would be a lot worse off.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching and for sharing

@shelsea7245 Жыл бұрын

Walking on eggshells. I did every single day of my life when growing up until I graduated high school and moved out. Of course you bring all the damage with you into adulthood. I was still trying to please my dad and gain his acceptance when I was in my 40's. I should've given up decades before that. I tried to kill myself by overdosing on Triavil in the 80's. After being in ICU and stabilized, I received treatment for my depression in the psych ward of the medical hospital for 9 days. While there a nurse gave me this sheet of paper that listed 11 characteristics of an adult child of alcoholic parent(s). After reading this one sheet of paper it changed my life! My life finally made since for the very first time. I will never ever forget that moment! But it would take decades before I was finally diagnosed with BPD, after experiencing years of trauma throughout my adulthood. It's been two years now that I see my therapist weekly and I'm also in DBT but struggle to feel if it helps due to how much PTSD I experience on a regular basis and my constant suicidal ideation. Dr Snipes, this presentation was exceptional! I am very grateful for all your videos!! Thank you SO MUCH!! You're a Gem ❤️

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Ty so much. 😀

@jacqueslee2592 Жыл бұрын

Alcoholism is a sickness that destroys the health of the entire family and your children. Alcoholics should be sterilized from having children. I am a child of alcoholic and as a result I decided not to have children due to this genetic disorder that ruined me and the traumatic experience that I went through. Alcoholism is a generational trauma that can impact your family and children and lead to mental illness of your children and children's children, as parents were children of alcoholics as well. I don't want my children to inherit this disorder or be ill as a result of the generational trauma.

@momione11 3 ай бұрын

Dito.

@RobotsCanDoAnything 20 күн бұрын

Hang in there, best wishes 🙏

@thedivinemisslilybeth4149 9 ай бұрын

I had a series of emotional flashbacks recently (at 60), with all the realizations that C-PTSD was such a "normal" state for me all this time... got myself into a 12-step program this year, and feel less alone and love the sensation of being in recovery from all that ugly ugly stuff I had swept under the carpet. Traditional therapy can help, but to a point. It really depends if the therapist is knowledgeable about the subject. A 12-step Fellowship is truly a road to explore, Al-Anon and ACA! Many thanks for this 🙏💜🦋🦋🦋🦋

@DocSnipes 9 ай бұрын

You’re most welcome. Thank you for watching the video

@JamiesLife Жыл бұрын

I relate to this so very much and it is crazy because all of my siblings you literally explained and perfect One of my siblings is extremely selfish and can't recognize other people's problems the other sibling is an attention seeker and always lying about what they've accomplished and I didn't marry but all the relationships I have had were very dysfunctional and toxic and they were broken men and apparently I thought that I can fix them well now I know I cannot I always chose men with very big red flags not realizing I realizing anything because I never was taught about anything you are seriously spot on

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@cathygarneau Жыл бұрын

Wow... I'm 66 and still have a full blown case of cptsd, codependency & struggle with a sense of self. My emotional & physical childhood scars are lifelong.

@ranc1977 Жыл бұрын

It is scary to see how American medical industry is blocking and banning information about CPTSD and codependency - and instead it instructs victims of abuse to self blame and self pathologize (ABC model and cognitive distortions crap).

@m.r.e.5731 6 ай бұрын

I am just a little younger than you and dealing with much of the same things. I wish you a successful healing journey.

@mazzylove4174 6 ай бұрын

@@ranc1977 the deep state helped create this whole scenario. Broken families, dysfunction and raunch was all part of the "programming through media" they did to 3 generations to bring us to where we are today. Wake up ppl! It is as intended and we suffer the consequences.....generationaly

@bernicerose4255 3 ай бұрын

I hear you. I can relate 😊

@joanna538 Жыл бұрын

I just got out of a 7 year long relationship with a narcissist. I kept searching for ways to prevent this sort of thing from happening again and I realised that the only thing that will help me is to look into my childhood and my experience with an alcoholic father. I’ll be rewatching this over and over again. Thank you 🙏

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@yaya-qb7hd 10 ай бұрын

My supervisor and I love you ❤

@JamiesLife Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video I came from a mom who was a hardcore alcoholic/addict I'm 1 of 6 grom both parents all different dad's and my dad's a heroin addict/alcoholic I started using with my parents very young I am 33 now my mom died from alcohol 6 yrs ago I have so much cptsd I have almost no friends I live with severe crippling anxiety daily I had no skills NONE I've been trying to teach myself as much as I can it's been a very long road I am all alone i have only my 3 kids and they all like me suffer from adhd but I've had them in behavioral therapy since 3 and they have all got so much better living with all these problems is really hard I cry for love all the time I'm 33 but wish and pray for a mom and dad everyday I don't wanna give up I feared abuse,I've always been a people pleaser ans did anything to make them love me nothing I did worked I went after men that were very abusive lost my teeth ans almost lost my life I wish people understood I'm trying to get better it's truly not my fault people have told me I'm grown so I should be better and get over it it happened a long time ago and no one seems to understand I can't just get over I'm in trauma therapy and I really have come so far I can drive on the freeway now I didn't for 3 yrs I got over 5yrs 7 months sober I'm doing it they told me I'm severe adhd and bi polar but after thinking I was bi polar I Fina got a good therapist who told me I am not bi polar I have severe ptsd from years of abuse Ypu have helped me tremendously I am so very grateful to you

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am SO glad to know I have been able to help you. 😀

@dnk4559 Жыл бұрын

Praying you continue you’re healing journey. You are worth it!

@jacqueslee2592 Жыл бұрын

The effects of alcoholism is generational. ADHD, autism, mental illness, and physical illness are a result of alcoholism and the alcoholic's breath or smell that cause reproductive, mental, and physical harm. It is similar to second hand smoke, it can affect your children. My mental illness and adhd are a result of alcoholism and most likely the alcohol smell that my mother breathed when pregnant at a daily basis.

@jenniferstanley2282 Жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness! Therapist to me: have you done any ACOA stuff? Me: What’s that? Aaaaaannnnnnnnnndddddd just like that, Doc Snipes to the rescue with a treasure trove of information. Thank you so very much for this video. I can’t begin to tell you how your channel has been absolutely transformative for me.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@inkblot101 Жыл бұрын

Been to any meetings yet?

@NickeyVamp 6 ай бұрын

I fall in this category and I have serious abandonment issues. I am working on myself and self love. I tend to find people with Narcissistic personality disorder. I can’t wait to heal and move forward.

@DocSnipes 6 ай бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video

@LL-el8sl 6 ай бұрын

Yes I have ptsd from childhood trauma and after therapy realized I have been in a lot of narcissistic relationships and friendships.

@normanjefferychester882 Жыл бұрын

Meth addiction all my life , June will be 3 yrs counting the year I was in Jail, praise God Hallelujah

@chrisnyman9258 6 ай бұрын

I had to deal with so much of this growing up, and really wasnt aware of how much it was impacting me until years later...i developed a very stoic personality and would almost not react in the face of a negative event (death in the family or friend, or some sort of bad news thay would normally be upsetting)....im lucky i married an amazing supportive woman that isnt toxic in any way that helped me to start recognizing these things and was able to slowly work my way through it....i could write a book on all of my behaviors that are exemplified by this content

@laurali2479 Жыл бұрын

I don't know if my mom already drank when I was a child. If so, it was in secret or I didn't understand she was drinking alcohol. But listening to this it would make soooo much sense. The rage fits, the constant irritability, 0 guidance but lots of money given for feeling guilty.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=ptsd

@guera2003 Жыл бұрын

Yes… I relate so much.

@samanthacollingwood8513 Жыл бұрын

Growing up the “alcoholic” that was painted for me was physically/ verbally abusive. The house was loud and scary. Children are scared to be around them. Because of that I was in denial for years that my mom had a problem because she wasn’t anything like the stereotypical addict that I saw. I’m now 27 and the past year is when I heard it said officially from a doctor. Learning more about ACOA and the effects it has on children the more things click about myself. I’m so grateful for all of these videos for me to learn as much as I can.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I truly appreciate you watching

@AlexeiMikhailBoleslav Жыл бұрын

Dr Snipes, I'd be interested in a video being done on the relationship between addicted households / children and subsequent psychiatric illnesses, like ADHD, anxiety, depression, bi polar, and schizophrenia. I know there is still debate as to how much of each of these disorders are chemical vs psychological, so I'd love to hear your thoughts about it

@dee0731 Жыл бұрын

I am so thankful to have learned about the hpa axis in your videos, it has helped me in my life so much thank you Doc Snipes, God has used you so much for healing in my life which I prayed for🙌🏻🌞

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am so glad. Thanks for being here with the channel!! 😀

@Angels_surround_me747 3 ай бұрын

I’m 54 and finally brave enough and tired that I want to face these things .. now . Good stuff she has taught me a lot

@DocSnipes 3 ай бұрын

I am grateful to have been of service

@ladyoftheveil8342 Жыл бұрын

I am adult child of an alcoholic parents, and my grown children's dad is one too. My former spouse neglected me medically and food. He stayed gone he said working . But he could not or would not even borrow money to take me to doctor with severe stomach pain and weakness. I finally had him take me to the hospital, and behind my back he had me picked up by the police and I spent a week being heavily drugged. Some thing like this is unforgivable.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry that happened to you and I appreciate you watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=trauma

@LisaS1 Жыл бұрын

When I was a kid growing up I got dished out grief from all sides - at home & at school, however home was pretty good a good percentage of the time. Home only got chaotic periodically and during times 2 of my older siblings gave me problems.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry your older sibling gave you problems. Here are the videos on the inner child: kzfaq.infosearch?query=innerchild

@jamesr2888 Жыл бұрын

I was in the car when my alcoholic dad was pulled over for DUI. I remember every detailed minute of chaos that night; I was 11 & this was over 38 years ago.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry that happened to you and ai appreciate you watching.

@jacqueslee2592 Жыл бұрын

As a child of an alcoholic, I am for the forced sterilization of alcoholics or the banning of them from having family or children. Without alcoholism in society, there won't be drugs, homelessness, and mental illness. Alcoholism is the root cause of many of social ills because many of those people were children of broken homes with families with addiction.

@dM-ij1we Жыл бұрын

This is one of the most concise videos I have seen on the aca. Thank you.

@alexjones8866 11 ай бұрын

Omg, most of the things listed in here I can so strongly relate to. I feel like I’ve been woken up - disturbed but I have a sense of clarity which is more freeing. I knew my this journey would take work. It all started when I had an addiction - this explains why. Let the journey commence ❤💪

@DocSnipes 11 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching

@annak29 Жыл бұрын

What a living hell it was to be in a "relationship" with someone who grew up with "party house parents" who supplied for their own kids and their friends...total chaos, abuse, neglect, Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde extreme raging or completely abandon you, severe narc abuse and all other forms.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about that. What tips from the video do you find most helpful?

@kimberlymorrison4880 Жыл бұрын

My god, my poor 21 year daughter. Explains her a nutshell. My alcoholic ex terminated his parental rights, in order to not pay child support. We just wanted him out of their lives. My husband adopted both of my biological children. I have not been able to figure out why she does and says the things she does. She has been damaged her to her core. Trying to get her into therapy. This saddens me so much.....

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=trauma

@kimberlymorrison4880 Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes I sent it to my daughter! Noticing the characteristics she fits to a "t". Honestly, we new there was an issue, but couldn't put a finger on it. I learned SO much from that video. Now I only hope that she will take me up on therapy. Thanks for all your great videos!

@DarthAkira Жыл бұрын

Thank you posting this. It’s helping better understand myself and be a better father

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@TristineBarry Жыл бұрын

@DocSnipes Thanks soooo much! I talk about this frequently with my clients-the Adult Children.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@LeeRichardson808 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this information, my therapist mentioned ACOA and this video helped me understand quite a bit of my childhood. You are truly helping people!

@DocSnipes 4 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

@R0M4N313 Жыл бұрын

One of the best talks I've heard. Thank you

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@margaritarosa5842 6 ай бұрын

That was such an extraordinary talk. So helpful. So glad to come across your channel. Thank you Dr. Snipes🎉😊

@DocSnipes 6 ай бұрын

You’re most welcome. Thank you for watching videos on the channel

@valouloup3485 Жыл бұрын

Doc Snipes you are a Gold mine of precious information... thanks so much.... It is so usefull to talk more about the spectrum of the various personality disorder, to see when they are only traits and not full on diagnostic... I have the impression that some of the "unprofessional" videos about Npd / Bpd etc is doing a lot of harm at work , in families and couples.... . thank God people are doing psychologie researches and don't stay at the level of the DSM... ..........................................i could see in your speech, the codependant, affective dependant , alanon, self love deficient etc After 27 years of 12 step programs , i can say when people get sober, the diagnostic they got changes after a year sober ... so many wrongly get diagnosed Bpd , Bipolar for instance. How could they be diagnost properly if what they really have is not even reported in the Dsm...

@Amgirl03 Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Truly appreciate your effort and knowledge on this subject 💗☺️

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you watching.

@phoebeburkett7212 Жыл бұрын

As the oldest of two I’ve definitely had it much harder than my younger sibling in terms of after effects. Thank you so much for this video, it made me feel heard!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video

@ranc1977 Жыл бұрын

This information is extremely helpful. This helps with social anxiety explanation, it explains Complex Trauma, It explains panic attacks and people pleasing and fawning and triggers and flashbacks. It all now makes sense - and it is not hallucination as CBT explains social anxiety away.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your comment and thank you for watching the video. I am so very grateful. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=acoa

@JamiesLife Жыл бұрын

And it just amazes me at your intelligence You got it completely right for my situation everything you said Was exactly how I grew up

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for being here with the channel.

@PianoMatronNeeNee Жыл бұрын

Finally this topic! Thanks so much for sharing.

@beverleyhusbands2544 Жыл бұрын

I understand a friend of mine so much better. I did have some clues but you confirmed so much for me! Thank you!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Glad I could help!

@georgethalman1639 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video... you are doing so many people a great service.. love and light to you dear 😊😊😊

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching!

@terryrustad1800 Жыл бұрын

I relate to and identify with so much of the information that you presented. It sucks being a adult with out adequate emotional and cognitive skills. It is never to late to address these issues and learn. Your videos are informative and inspiring. Many Thanks... Gratitude and Appreciation 💫

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome! You are right, it’s never too late to address these issues and to learn. What did you find most useful from this video ?

@terryrustad1800 Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes Hi Doc, thanks so much for asking about my observations regarding this excellent video. I found your description of the numerous characteristics very informative and relevant. Following along with the text during your presentation was also very helpful. At 60 years of age embarking on this journey of connecting with my inner child and addressing my adult behavioral issues seems overwhelming but videos such as yours are a beneficial place to begin. You also provided some great recovery options and suggestions in the summary. I could say so much more about the plethora of useful information in this video but will conclude my comment with saying "Thank You!" for sharing your wisdom, knowledge and experience in a upbeat, personal and caring manner. Your clients are very fortunate to have you as their therapist to work on these many important life issues. I will look forward with anticipation to watching other videos concerning this and other mental health related topics on your channel. You and your dedicated work are greatly admired and appreciated! Much Gratitude, Love and Appreciation 🙂

@dawnpirke2942 3 ай бұрын

My life! I’m 48 and just now beginning this work. It’s amazing how my childhood is still affecting my life.

@DocSnipes 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry your childhood is stil affecting your life. What tips from the video will you use to start healing?

@trishawallingsford4146 Жыл бұрын

Very well put, it’s all great stuff and helps me loads ❤❤❤ thanks and can’t wait for more ❤️❤️❤️ getting better everyday 💪💪💪

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What will you do first to heal? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=ptsd

@dee0731 Жыл бұрын

Great teaching, thank you Doc Snipes🙌🏻🌞

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

@mike90004 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for helping me understand myself 😢

@DocSnipes 6 ай бұрын

You’re so welcome. Thanks for watching

@joeyc_ 3 ай бұрын

ik it hurts to think about sometimes, but just remember it was their first time living too. i forgive my mom everyday and love her so much

@maryk8509 3 ай бұрын

I feel so understood 😢 thank you. I make more sense to myself now and understand where to go from here.

@DocSnipes 3 ай бұрын

You're so welcome!

@gregorybowden4460 Жыл бұрын

Amazing content! Thank you for your work!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@perhapsshellliveafterall Жыл бұрын

I'm watching this to reinforce my own recovery from alcoholism as I have a young child and I dont want her to experience any of this. Its interesting to watch as everything that you mention is how I felt as a kid and how i have acted in my adult years (although I'm much better these days after a long long healing journey) thing is, my mother was never an addict. She didnt even smoke cigarettes but my childhood was so similar to what's stated here.

@theliftexpert Жыл бұрын

Research Dr. Gabor Mate , he has some amazing content that might help you on your journey. Peace be with you 🙏🏻

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@melhoney21 3 ай бұрын

thank you so much for this video. i have just recently discovered that ACOAs are a real thing and i’ve been battling for years from these symptoms and had no idea. I wasn’t aware my father had a drinking problem until he was already dead. Over time he didn’t speak to me as much and he was split from my mother since i was 2 so i didn’t get access to him much. Very distant. I’m just now learning this about myself and it’s provided an exhaustingly painful amount of clarity and insight into my life and relationships. I’m looking forward to doing the work to heal but damn is this hard. I’m just happy I have some answers now.

@DocSnipes 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry you went through that and I appreciate you watching the video

@dddamaged7501 Жыл бұрын

Great talk. Now things make a lot of sense. Can see how PDs develop. 🤔

@normanjefferychester882 Жыл бұрын

Looking good doctor , thank you for your work

@booradley0x0 Жыл бұрын

Im the youngest in a family with an alcoholic mother. My older brother has grown up to be highly narcissistic and in denial about our childhood, what we witnessed at home. Ive been dealing with my mental health for 21 years, I fear my older brother will snap some day. I would put money on it.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=trauma

@Angels_surround_me747 3 ай бұрын

Thank u for sharing your knowledge with all of us

@DocSnipes 3 ай бұрын

You’re most welcome

@nicholastrickel6917 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video, sure helped a lot.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Glad it helped!

@hK_Ultra_ 4 ай бұрын

Listening to this as I sit in the hospital with my 79 year old alcoholic father after a fall. I’ve always known I have AVPD, but I never managed to correlate it to my dad. Whew

@DocSnipes 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@pacificpearl7165 Жыл бұрын

This is hitting the nail on the head… wow…

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@anllvr 2 ай бұрын

Wow, it felt like I was listening a description of my childhood... Avoidant and not present alcoholic father, all the chaos, unrest and feeling unsafe in your own home. I really don't want to seep my traumas on to others, just because I had shitty up bringing, but sometimes I feel that shadow self coming up...

@DocSnipes 2 ай бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video

@inculcatetobemaudlin2943 Жыл бұрын

it is a very complicate subject, but thanks for providing the tips Dr. Snipes.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

@goodgracious6364 Жыл бұрын

Great review!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks!

@kirkb2286 13 күн бұрын

Great video Doc……you just told my life story.

@DocSnipes 13 күн бұрын

Thank you for watching

@psakbar Жыл бұрын

You pretty much nailed it. You just went right down the line. Thank you.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. What are your favorite tips from the video?

@Candycanecoup Жыл бұрын

All of this is so accurate for my childhood

@cliffbrown4217 Жыл бұрын

My God thank you , I have been looking for help , I am trying to get better.

@Sarah.cherie Жыл бұрын

amazing video with great insight!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Sarah, for your kind words and for watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?

@zoozooe 4 ай бұрын

Great video. I'll be sharing it.

@DocSnipes 4 ай бұрын

Thank you. I am so grateful

@user-nr4dw2nh2y 7 ай бұрын

I'm 19 and im a mess right now all around emotionally, physically, and financially watching this video made me burst into tears at certain points your tone when you would try to put the viewer in the child's shoes was overwhelming cause I've been abandoned in a lot of ways and I've never really felt remorse or acknowledgement from the people who hurt me and who have enabled them to hurt me. I don't know it's just been awhile since I felt any sort've backup? It's clear to me I need a therapist it scary watching this cause I touch so many marks, including substance abuse itself. Knowing im adopting traits as well as already having those negative reinforced habits from a child. I want to be a good parent someday, but it feels like I've been living in a loop its so tough break out and begin real progress and recovery

@user-nr4dw2nh2y 7 ай бұрын

Its difficult cause I still feel like a child and yearn to have a parent in my life but I'm legally an adult I get jealous of others with good parents quite easily im at a very very low point in my life. those people that I had in my network are not there and I really cant do anything about it. I don't why but I just don't traditional therapy man I want my fucking friends back it hurts to much I lost the 3 closest people to me in less than a year ever since a kid id just hope life would get better with time but damn man its just been the opposite so far a slap in the face from life

@DocSnipes 7 ай бұрын

I am sorry for your losses and am sorry you have been abandoned

@LisaS1 Жыл бұрын

Great helpful and informative video; thank you! I'm an ACOA.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I am glad the video helped you. I am truly grateful to be of help. Have you watch the videos on trauma? kzfaq.infosearch?query=trauma

@LisaS1 Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes Thank you Doc! I haven't but I'll try to get around to going to this link. Thanks!

@ecohumanism Жыл бұрын

When i hear about alcohol addicts, it reminds me about the mess in the apartment. I've never been drunk, and rather dislike how alcohol smells and other related things, so it is easy for me to not want alcohol at all - nothing in my brain says that i would have any pleasure from consuming it.

@johngwinn838 Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. Thank you so much for watching. What is your favorite tip from the video, a tip you find extremely helpful?

@wholesomelunch6576 5 ай бұрын

Father and his partner were both heavy drinkers and both were angry. So many instances where others or myself had to be physically involved. Home resembled a hoarders house. Dog shit left on the floor, mold every where, constant police presence you name it. recently I’ve decided to seek mental help. I suffer extreme panic attacks, ptsd, anxiety, depression. I had a panic attack recently that caused me to go unconscious while walking up my steps and was hospitalized for a bit. It’s hard for me to do day to day activities like going to work or simply leaving my house. Loud environments really ring my ears. Shits hard af but sometimes simple activities allow me to escape. Working on my car, playing games, hanging out with the nephew. It’s a constant uphill battle and none of it was my fault. Just got dealt a bad hand.

@DocSnipes 5 ай бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video

@tonyzamberlin 6 ай бұрын

Great video and information!

@DocSnipes 6 ай бұрын

Thank you. I appreciate you watching the video

@Debtslave155 8 ай бұрын

Fascinating thanks.

@DocSnipes 8 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for watching

@LisaS1 Жыл бұрын

I'm estranged from my 4 older siblings. 1 of them I still have on social media but I can tell, we are still estranged; I can't talk to him. I'm tried and it just never works out.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video

@Lauren_Fields Жыл бұрын

This subject is right on time

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

@Pukeyray Жыл бұрын

Thanks Doctor! I know you love Dr. Gabor Maté and I sure do too. His latest book will be out this September '22 "Myth of Normal."

@mistyblue2917 Жыл бұрын

I have been gradually realizing why my person has behaved constantly so strangely towards me since the beginning, despite having deep feelings for me. Watching this live rn is further giving me epiphanies. Thank you 💗🌟👐🏻

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Wonderful!

@saphiquefemme Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching.

@SgtD1981 Жыл бұрын

This is also about adult children of depressed parents

@krisscanlon4051 Жыл бұрын

Yes, ACA the 12 step program is known as Adult Children of Alcoholics and otherwise dysfunctional families which include any form of dysfunction/trauma. All are welcome in this 12 step fellowship.

@dee0731 Жыл бұрын

Thanks!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for your support!!

@dee0731 Жыл бұрын

You are very welcome Doc Snipes 🙌🏻🌞

@hunnyghold1507 3 ай бұрын

Very Informative ‼️

@DocSnipes 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching the video

@jasonpinson8755 Жыл бұрын

I grew up in a abusive home and apartment from multiple family members.thanks.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@CikisHelyzet 8 ай бұрын

I be.eive these children can also go another way and rather than not develop intimacy and not having emotional intelligence... sometimes they become highly attuned and empathetic to others.

@DocSnipes 7 ай бұрын

Yes, they can. That is also a trauma response. Thank you for watching and for sharing

@solidstehl9546 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely true. Nailed this one on the head of the nail!! A bit of deja Vu there... Are you classically or theatrically trained? 😅 Shakespeare's "all the world's a stage"

@solidstehl9546 Жыл бұрын

Once again ... "Monarchs and mimics" ... Thank you for articulating

@solidstehl9546 Жыл бұрын

It's almost as if there is an threshold for negative frequency that has been programmed in by auditory learning with criticism and visual learning with micro-aggression awareness ...

@michaelmckenna9022 11 ай бұрын

My father wore a suit to work, smiled all day, and was loved by everyone. When he was home drinking his martinis he became a manic. Used to grab me right out of bed when I was a baby or toddler and beat the crap out of me and scream at me. No one believed me because they thought so much of him. Most people think that drunks are sloppy people, but that's far from the truth. I was always told that martinis are for upper class people and Beer is for low class people.

@guera2003 Жыл бұрын

My mother was irritable when she didn’t drink and irritable when she did drink… But she always told us she loved us so much so I was confused growing up with what love is supposed to be… When I lived with her as a child I thought mimicking her behavior would help me get by, being pompous and narcissistic to feel heard. But now that I am older and finally moved out… I feel spineless and weak. My subconscious calls me all of the names she used to call me as a CHILD. Being called a (b) itch since I was 5 years old has hurt my self confidence extremely. My mother used to call me Bipolar and diagnosed me with Borderline when I was just 16 living with her, who was causing my internal plight. She convinced me I was crazy when she abused me. Made me feel like I deserved it. And my father was an alcoholic too… but he just was absolutely not present in my life, he feels like a stranger. Both of my parents are like strangers. And I end up looking for love in the wrong places now, having anxious attachment styles while also wanting and needing my alone time… I wish I could say I was more healed than I am. And I cannot afford therapy. I dont know what to do, I don’t want to hurt people anymore. I dont have anyone in my life who I feel I can turn to, for any reason at all. I distrust almost everyone :(

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry that happened to you. It’s awful. Here is the video on healing the inner child: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/f7F6g9ehxrS0YnU.html The video on developing a secure attachment with yourself: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/iLWKmK52283XgKc.html Here are the videos on releasing trauma: kzfaq.infosearch?query=Releasing%20trauma

@KoolT Жыл бұрын

Yep, they don't feel safe and are anxious and depressed nervous wrecks.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you watching

@Djturnt 7 ай бұрын

I feel like this me but mainly the abandonment stuff. My childhood was chaotic to an extreme. My dad beat my mom my mom died young when i was 10. I lived in foster care until i was adopted y a family member. It feels like it affects me and my older siblings worse than my younger ones because they dont remember. And now its affecting my marriage. Hard stuff to cope with but i just started looking for help

@DocSnipes 7 ай бұрын

I am sorry your childhood was chaotic. Losing your mom at such a young age is awful.

@Pukeyray Жыл бұрын

Was thinking how smoke exposure from drugs or nicotine might also do something to the child's brain.

@elizabethkelsey8087 Жыл бұрын

Is it possible for someone to be addicted but aren't using more than what is recommended of a substance? The example I'm thinking of is someone drinking daily two glasses of alcohol but it hitting them harder than other people, and it makes them irritable/moody and they aren't able to skip a day of drinking without getting upset or angry.

@truthspeaks623 2 ай бұрын

Im 43 years old, my narcissist/dry drunk father.. at almost 70 years old. Is capable of giving the silent treatment to his own brother for 45 years, his own son for 10 years now, and he's alaays hated me. Haven't heard a word since I called him out. Once I develope a secure sense of self and some emotional regulation skills I'll be just a ok.

@DocSnipes 2 ай бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video

@arturohull14161 Жыл бұрын

I’m gonna go to this organization .

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. What did you find most useful from the video? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=PTSD

@arturohull14161 Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes I don’t know why more psychologists recommend this organization to people. I’ve seen several psychologists in 2 different states and none of them have really helped me get to the root of my trauma. My dad was a drunk with anger issues had a seasonal job and was only in my life for several months a year, and my mom was neglectful, has an eating disorder and prioritized my younger brother over me. My mom’s nephew and my mom’s older brother were psychologically abusive towards me. My maternal grandma had an alcohol addiction later in life and my mom enabled that. My younger brother was also psychologically abusive to me as well. My mom also ran cover for her nephew (my older cousin) and continues to do so.

@arturohull14161 Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes I also learned trauma survivors marry broken people so they can’t be abandoned.

@patricebradley6553 Ай бұрын

Could anyone recommend a book on this topic? Thank you ahead of time.

@taylorw.6752 Жыл бұрын

I don’t recall my parents drinking but I was subjected to my maternal grandmother’s abuse. My mother didn’t protect me…and here we are. Dysfunctional marriage to an abusive alcoholic then an Aspergers man. Now I’m in AA and realizing it was more…and this is it.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry that happened to you and I appreciate you watching the video. If you’re interested in videos on addiction, you can find them at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=addiction

@DonTrump-sv1si Жыл бұрын

Is there levels of severity with the addicted person and the severity of problems the child grows up with. I feel like i have acoa symptoms but my mom wasnt a raging alcoholic. She was most likely a high functioning alcoholic. I see alot of these symptoms in my life but not so severe.

@lb2229 Жыл бұрын

This is a good subject

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

@lb2229 Жыл бұрын

I am an adult child of an alcoholic! I’m experiencing recent anxieties and I do not trust relationships, even more so! I would like to live a quiet life, single, and by myself…it’s quieter

@KoolT Жыл бұрын

You may feel afraid forever.

@thehighpriestess8431 5 ай бұрын

What about Adult Children of a parent that resent them for just being born?

@michaellemmen 7 ай бұрын

It’s just too much sometimes. It’s so hard to correct this. Why? Because it’s already been 30 years. Trying to fit in with ‘normal’ people seems like being a kindergartner amongst adults. To add to the confusion, I oftentimes think ‘normal’ people are unwise.

@DocSnipes 7 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching the video and for sharing

@charmee4045 Жыл бұрын

What are we doing as a society to deal with this huge problem, which is never spoken about by any politician. Even in a pandemic hospitals and liquor stores were the only things that were open? Why? Because the emergency rooms would have been filled with beaten woman and children if the alcoholic didn't get their drink. What does that tell us?????

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@CC-oq2mj 5 күн бұрын

It's bad for the children who have an addicted out of control parent and NOBODY else in the entire family wants to help the children. Then the state has to step in. Social workers, police , it's a mess.

@DocSnipes 4 күн бұрын

It's heartbreaking to hear about children in such difficult situations. When a parent is struggling with addiction and there's no family support, it can indeed create a challenging environment for the children. It's a sad reality that sometimes the state has to intervene to ensure their safety and well-being. Social workers and police do their best, but it's never an easy situation. Thank you for bringing attention to this important issue and for watching the video. Every child deserves a safe and supportive environment.