"i was gay, and then i was gay gay gay gay" me fuckin too

Makeup and clothing is fun. Exploring your identity through different looks is fun. It doesn't matter what gender you are. People would have such richer, happier, more fun lives if they just let go of expectations and "norms" that society dictates. Love yourself, love others, do what makes you happy. If you're not hurting anyone, what's the problem?

What a beautiful and inspiring person, LOVE the vintage outfits and larger than life lipstick. This video almost made me cry, like, you gotta live your life!

I've never appreciated my boyfriend more than in this moment. I am SO incredibly lucky that he doesn't subscribe to traditional ideas of beauty, and can appreciate me for the quirky "androgynous"/"genderqueer" (I personally use the term "ignostic" to stand in for gender-norm-non-conforming) person I am and loves my body as it is. He is amazing. My magnificent unicorn.

i resonate so strongly with that sentence where they're talking about it being easier some days to just go out in shorts and a t-shirt; i put a lot of effort into my appearance to challenge people's stereotypes about the gender they perceive me as, i put so much effort into shaking up perception because it makes me so uncomfortable that people have already decided what i should be because of my body. It sucks. I'm not entirely sure how to articulate it, i struggle daily with my gender, with the expectations of people's perception of my gender, but the way Jacob puts it, 'we don't even have the language for me to even describe why i struggle to be at peace with myself' and that's the constant mood. guess what body parts i was born with? it doesn't matter. It doesn't decide how i think nor who i am. I wish people would see who i am before what my gender is.

Firstly I wanted to write a comment saying kind of "go to doctor". But then I listened that men and I want to say - he is a really brave and inteligent person.

I want to be their friend! What a cool person!

We're all on this planet to live and love. If you have a problem with someone's sexuality or how they dress and it doesn't cause you any harm in the long run then the real problem is you. Hate spews in today's world and it's ridiculous because no one's sexuality is harming no one, if I decided to draw on a beard [which I have] because I wanted to see what it's like to look like a man SO WHAT? no one is hurting anyone and were enjoying ourselves. if you have a problem with someone's happiness then maybe you should look at yours first before coming for someone else. Period

"Im really pretty, and I know it" My new catch phrase!!! lol

This is so beautiful🙌🏻💕

“At first I was gay, then I was an activist, then I was gAY. GAYGAYGAY” what a mood

i love this video so much! and i love your book

i never really got the whole nonbinary and genderfluid thing, but i love this person and i am happy to hear an intelligent and real perspective instead of somebody who just wants to shove it down your throat. Jacob is very smart and i enjoy his point of view on this. Thank you.

I feel like this was such a beautiful and intelligent explanation. I really needed this. I just want to be okay with myself.

While I still don't agree with the idea of gender non conformity, i really appreciated hearing an intelligent explanation of where he is coming from. It is not necessary for everyone to agree, but it is necessary for everyone to be treated with dignity.

There was a time androgyny was taking a hold in fashion and expression. It is truly time for it to come back and be more accepted.

This video has helped me a lot, Ive been having a very hard time understanding my existence, this has given me so much hope and validation, it is so scary but its so nice to know I exist, thank you so much jacob and thank you so much allure.

My dear your shoes are amazing and that black dress, god goodness where do I find it? Now in a more serious tone, be as you are and fuck everybody else if they don't respect you for who you are they are the problem, not you :)

this is so beautiful!

I could not stop smiling this entire video. So beautiful ❤️

I have no problem with you dressing however you want to, be yourself... however don't mix up stereotypes with gender!!! all those things you listed liking as a kid, that's what every girl I know liked - but some people give in to the pressure to conform more than others. It's great that you are brave enough to not conform to that pressure, but that doesn't make you not male. We need more people to bravely be non conformist men and women, not making up new words to confuse everyone and enforce stereotypes.

Such a great, interesting and cool video! I love how they explained how they feel. Such a great thing to see, thank you!

So I’m guessing genders are based on feelings now rather on facts, truth. 🙄😒

Love❤️

Delightful, fabulous, fantastic, fierce, lovely and handsome. Simply wonderful.

I love this. He honestly deserves the world.

I don't mind freedom of expression, in fact, that is a basic right in America. Any NB person should express who they are. But being so shouldn't be your entire life, your entire personality. Being obsessed with your gender identity is like being someone whose "hobbies" are going to the bar and getting drunk, if you have nothing else that makes you stand out, you're a boring person.

Awesome video. And exactly right. Beauty has no gender.

They have the same haircut as me! Lol how cool!

They are sooo beautiful!!

Thank u so much for educating 🏳️‍🌈❣

Tbh I'm really on the fence with this whole gender identity thing as I don't understand most if not all of it. But I applaud their courage and his sacrifice in order to be happy within himself. I hope that they finds love because there's always someone out there for everyone and sweet baby Jeebus for the internet

I fucking love his vibes.

Do you use the women's bathroom?

their soul is so beautiful, bless their soul

Beautiful!

Although, what about agender people? In response to his comment, "if you're a human being you're inside a gender"

Hell yes I love this person.

I know you know that but you are beautiful and amazing inside and out💙

This is interesting. Thank you for sharing. I'm not familiar with genderqueer, but wonder if this is even a thing for women. As a woman in STEM, I have traditionally male interests, and I buy half of my clothes in the men's department. I don't wear lipstick, but it's not uncommon. Especially in my field. I just wonder if gender conformity issues even exist for women in this context?

This person is amazing!☺

So beautiful 💖💖💖

Jacob inspires me to be myself one step at a time. Do I wanna present more femme and wear makeup? Hell yeah I do! Can I do that at this stage in my life? Hell no! But will I get to a place in my life where I can! Totally!

I love the way he describes femininity

I LOVE THE STYLE!!!

Good for you! Your are stunning!

So much of the controversy around this kind of thing seems to stem from language and people using different definitions of things. When people say there are two genders, I think what most people mean is that there are two main biological sexes and two main genders which reference identification with these. They appear to exist as poles in a continuum. But whereas in the sexes, the vast majority of people are sorted clearly into male and female with some people falling around the middle, in the case of gender identity, it seems like all gender identities are composite. People also seem to use the term "with respect" when I think a more accurate meaning would be "with dignity". Respect implies admiration, and most people's reasons for admiring people are personal and individual, whereas most people can agree that human beings should be treated with dignity, regardless of who they are or what they have done in their lives. What is more, you cannot legislate for people to respect other people, but you can legislate to protect dignity.

Love you Jacob T

I consider myself a manly man I do masonry to pay for nursing school, I would love to have a friend like you, you seem like an awesome person to be around.

They look so cool! I'd really like to be friends with them

I love the first dude 😂💟

a beauty

such a beautiful person.

Ok so a lot of people seems to get gender and sex mixed up so I'd to clear some things. First of all, sex is a group of biological features, that is described by the type of gametes (either the small ones, spermatozoa, or the big ones, ovocytes). This is the most accurate definition of sex (science-wise). - spermatozoa -> male - ovocyte -> female Sex chromosomes are more tricky because some female can be XY (usually corresponding to male). Genitalia is a lot more trickier since it is not as binary as it looks. Its formation occurs during the embryo's development : two ducts are formed, either one of them is going to degenerate, leading to the formation of ovaries or testicules. The penis or vagina is formed next. Some people are borned with anatomical "unclear" genitalia and are "repaired" by surgery to match usual genitalia. Problem is when it's done to not be different from the norm rather than having potential health issues later. For clarity, it is better to use "male" and "female" while refering to sex and "men" and "women" while refering to gender. Gender is a different thing, which is somehow related to sex but isn't sex. It directly refers to masculinity and femininity, which are a "set of attributes, behaviours and roles associated to male and female humans". It is socially constructed, one easy way to notice is to see how these sets vary from different cultures or countries. Concerning gender dysphoria, which is usually hard to understand for cisgendered people (whether acceptant or not), I've heard someone describes it like constantly having the wrong shoes on the wrong feet (right on the left and vice versa) without being able to take them off. It is uncomfortable, can be painful sometimes ; even though you can forget it when you are sit of distracted, you start feeling them again as soon as you stand up.

You are amazing

Seems to me like he does nothing but uphold gender stereotypes.

So....basically people who like to cross dress?

so cool

What an amazing person I wish we were friends lol

It saddens me to see that so many don't see that this is fucked up. Instead of feeling sorry for this person they think he is great and promote his ideas.

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When i was young and back in the 70s it wasn't acceptable to come out this way at all and now time has passed and living alone for the first time takes a toll on you and depression sits in and only to fill those gaps is to be feminine and to be happy once again. love sissygirl

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what a beautiful video

This guy is amazing. I haven't been much a fan of all the nonbinary stuff based off all the screaming sjws that exist on tumblr and otherwise, but I really respect this guy and how he feels. I hope he has a good life. If more nonbinary people were calmer and more level like this guy, I think more people would be accepting of them in general.

Some day I'm sure you will get everything you Deserve

I accept this person; anything you want to be is fine. I find them somewhat introspective though and consequently self-indulgent

Whatever the haters say, they're wrong. Jacob is beautiful as they are, they're kind and sweet, and they deserve love and respect. Keep going, Jacob! I support you!

They actually have an amazing style!

I love his outfit, I'm really so inspired by his confidence.

Don’t hate me... but I DO NOT understand this. I understand being gay. I *slightly* understand trans. But what is this? I can’t wrap my head around it.

I love this person but also moose knuckle

This man is hilarious. I want to be his friend.

If you wanna spread awareness for trans people.. please use trans woman who fully transitioned and look like biological women

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How many genders are there?

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Be bold. Be beautiful. Be you. Copyright ME ;)

JACOB = FREEDOM

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Diddo!

I love them

That's totally fine and all - but do you have to dress like an 80's lady?

🤢😱 dats da devil

HES AMAZING DGSGDGWGE

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Wow can you come talk to my middle school

Well you could just choose one gender and do whatever you want. No offence you can be whatever you want and your sexuality can be whatever you want but please choose one gender.

He looks horrible.

what

Liz Taylor whO

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How many LGBT's does it take to change a lightbulb? Just one: They hold the bulb in place, then expect the world to revolve around them.

genderqueer people can be hot just tone down the eyebleeding pink and maybe shave and you'd appear more clean.

This would be a look but the shirt needs to be untucked (my opinion)

Um. I think he's just gay. Gay men act more like this. Genderqueer isn't a thing but I enjoy his explaniation of his fairy tale.

Gender conforming.

gross