It isn’t rude, it’s actually quite polite

I mean, usually people say "are you a he or a she" when they ask for pronouns which is why nb's would be uncomfy with it. If you were to ask about someones pronouns you shouldnt ask if theyre a he or a she, but ask "what pronouns do you go by" I hope that helped in some way! uwu

It's rude to say specifically boy or girl because like what are you supposed to say "all of the above"?

@@imherewaitnoimhere9401 yeah!

@@gink_ie I've said that before actually I said it to a transphobe

Did you just misgender my pronouns?

saying "he or she" is shitty though

True I actually love when people ask my pronouns instead of assuming but I don’t go all crazy on people when they get it wrong I’ll usually just brush it off and ignore them or correct them politely

I have a friend that just finished the medical side of a full mtf transition. I met her about 6 months into hormones and only really knew her as "K"* the grocery store employee with the unisex uniform. Then her and I became better acquainted and i asked her if she would prefer if I used female pronouns as well as her preferred name. "T" was excited and relieved that I asked. I also let her know that between that point up until her surgery, if she ever felt uncomfortable using the women's washroom, I wouldn't think twice to be there for her. I think she has always been a beautiful human being and can finally see the beauty to match what's on the inside. *letters used for privacy.

Georgia Mitchell to some people it is because they’re rude or they’re a tumblrina

I was thinking about this too. Liking flowers doesn’t undermine your gender.

I get what your saying, but nobody identifies as gender fluid/non-binary/whatever just because they like something traditionally feminine/masculine that doesn’t align with the gender they were born as. Gender identity comes from a place of self reflection, what you feel as a person.

@@michace Thank you for your response. Counter point: Surely such self-reflection would ultimately be based on comparing oneself to gender-stereotypes? If not, what is it based on? A side point I would to make: one thing that comes up in many of these debates is the idea that "gender is cultural traits, sex is biology" (or variations along those lines). However, I would argue that this differentiation only really exists in the minds of those immersed in modern (western) gender-politics. To most people, "sex" and "gender" mean pretty much the same thing: the only major difference is that "sex" can also refer to sexual-intercourse, whether as "gender "does not - and personality traits (whether they be stereotypically masculine or feminine) don't really come into it. For example, girls with stereotypically masculine traits were traditionally called "tom boys" - but this was never considered a gender, tom boys were ultimately still seen as girls. Surely its better for people to just be who they want to be regardless of their sex/gender? Surely its better to see gender/sex as simply an irrelevant biological quirk that shouldn't matter? (i.e. like ethnicity). And just to clarify, I'm not trying to offend anyone or undermine anyone's identity here. I am genuinely just trying learn, and I believe the best way of learning for these kinds of topics is for people to challenge each other in civilised debate.

STOP TALKING SENSE! You'll never get a job at the BBC with that attitude!

If a child (born female) comes to you and says i feel like a boy.. im transgender.. ask them why and see how deep the conversation gets.. never make a child feel unworthy of understanding.. but challenge them always.. you dont want a generation of snow flakes and people asking you to call them dem/demon/demonself because they identify as a demon ..!

I mean, all clothes are "unisex" because clothes don't have sex. Everything described as "unisex/fem/masc" is an object that shouldn't be gendered at all. If that's not their reasoning, then idk what else it would be. Even still, I get that it's annoying but people really haven't gotten that far yet. They weirdly haven't fully processed that fact yet so I wouldn't get mad, since it's not common knowledge for many people.

@@TheNoobler Of course clothes are gendered. They are designed for either a male or a female body. If everything is unisex (or whatever word you may use), what are transvestites supposed to do?

@@jeanv1352 No object has gender. Anyone can wear anything. There are sizes that fit male/female bodies better though, that is true. But a skirt isn't a "female clothing item", it's a fabric shaped into a skirt. As for transgender people, they can also wear whatever the hell they want.

@@TheNoobler Sure, everyone can wear whatever the hell the want. That doesn't change the fact that clothes are designed for a specific gender (mostly).

@@jeanv1352 Yes, they currently are still designed for genders. I already said everything I had to say on it.

Y E S, SAME

That's literally what the people in the video should have been saying

i was born a disappointment

I was born as A worm on a string

I was born as cheese.

The child of Rak Kultesh

Hello genderfluid flag profile person, I have a pansexual backround

@Mia Young thx so much

@@drwilsonstoenailpolish3194 hi i'm pan too ^^

@@lilzlilzlilzlilzlilzlilzli3992 hieee

I don't need a bathroom at all cuz my shit don't stink just kidding LOL

is it safe to assume that you are from India?

@@s0meRand0m129 im German lmao

@@sakunyaa7825 lmao

My numerous UTIs have entered the chat

Not all of them answered and the person with coloured hair didn't say their sexuality is defined as 'gay'.

Well if someone is non-binary they cannot be straight… they could be lesbian, or gay, but I’ve usually seen a lot of non-binary people identify as pansexual

@@daffo6264 How could a non-binary person identify as lesbian? Lesbians are people who identify as females who are attracted to other females. Non-binary people don’t identify as females. And from my understanding, being gay as a non-binary person sounds like they’re exclusively only attracted to other non-binary people since being gay is being attracted to the same gender. Am I understanding that correctly?

@@skylargray5642 Well somewhat, it is complicated, lesbian could be used as a word to mean a female liking another female, but I’ve also seen actual nb people go by lesbian/gay

I think "gay" is used as an umbrella term for being in the LGBTQ+ community as well? I've been asked that question before and I was a bit baffled but then the person explained that they were just asking if I was in the community lol

*Mood*

I am not male or female. *I identify as a microwave*

how much swag do you have

the only valid comment

People call me nuts

Correct. Feminine Trans Males and Masculine Trans Women are valid.

Totally true, and you don't even need to call yourself non binary, you can just continue on with your day, doing what you do and not giving a shit what others think

@@Nozrhul Well, that's what I want to do. But I suffer from gender dysphoria if I'm seen as Male or female. So, I identify as Non-binary which gives me gender euphoria and try to live my life. But people keep stopping me and making who I am political or whatever. I just want to live my life.

My identity has nothing to do with stereotypes or anything. But people make me feel like I'm faking my identity if I'm not acting perfectly within those stereotypes!

exactly

because they are just pretending to be, they want the attention but not the real life struggles that follow

What’s your gender?

"most of us" no, you said that just to make your "community" look better, most nb people will get mad over that

@@zbattlez5530 who are you asking? The original poster? They said they were non-binary so that is their gender.

@@lagelada3307 it's better to ask questions rather than make assumptions I'd say. Just don't treat people like a lab rat haha!

Sounds ideal tbh.

Thats a good one

That's a good one!

I dont get it

Took me a bit.

@@smokeymcbongwater the / symbole is called slash. so they slash them.

God-tier comment

are you stil going to finish that sentence

*my fellow peo and ple*

Ah yes The true Texan way Uhh Uhhh Yeehaw

Lmao

Stealing jokes, unoriginal random humor, WEEB PFP, WEEB HOMESTUCKER -JACK

This made my week. "3 cats in a trenchcoat" is going to be my go to answer to that one.

It's a difference between sex and gender identity. For most people, their genitals and sex line up with their gender, for instance a man with a penis, but sometimes these don't line up. A non-binary/genderfluid person is someone who (regardless of genitals) doesn't identify with their original perceived gender identity and doesn't nescarily see gender as simply binary (on one side man, on the other woman) but sees gender as a spectrum. Hope this helps.

@@dcashley303 a man who thinks he is a woman is still a man. having a different personality than "most guys" doesnt make you not a guy

@@alvegutt42 non-binary isn't men thinking they are women.

@@alvegutt42 there is actual studies put into this stuff that proves non-binary people aren’t just “making stuff up.” Gender dysphoria is real.

Jimmy IsABird shut the fuck up jimmy

Jimmy IsABird shut the fuck up jimmy

Jimmy IsABird . Women's clothing has much more space in the chest and hips but the waist , leg length and with are small compared to the chest.

when anyone displays a point for you to deny it is the utmost childish thing ive seen all year

Considering the widely different body types of even just cis women or cis men already is a huge argument for why this divide makes no sense and it would make much more sense to divide clothes by cut/fit. How does for example a cis woman with a very flat chest benefit from a shirt that's cut for larger breasts because that's "what a woman's body is like"? She doesn't. Because it won't fit well in any size. But if she knows where in the store to go for shirts that fit her body type better, she would probably not feel as awful about her body. The same goes for every body type of everyone of any gender. Shopping for clothes would get infinitely more easy if we knew rightaway which section of the store is for our body type, not which section will show us how much we do not fit a certain ideal or alleged average.

mood 24/7

facts

Mood.

You gotta look inside yourself and say "What am I willing to put up with today?" NOT FUCKIN GENDER

@@jumptherooftops6333 I got the reference

Me too, I'm not gonna participate in their word games. These kind of ppl tend to be really toxic. I consider ppl describing themselves as non-binary to be mentally ill. Madness has gone way too far by now.

Rip language teachers

So you never went to school, got it.

Ive been thinking the same thing.

sadly

Shit I don't even have to look back I can barely maintain sanity getting through it.

...

what? this was honestly really difficult to read

Ah actually, I'm a scientist. My gender is taking quick notes and muttering "hm... interesting... I must tell the academy at once." What's in my pants? Potassium Permanganate (ouch)

sksksksks spil the tea sis shut up

Sarah I’m going to have to ask you to shut up

Same -w-

Hahahahahah😭😭😭😭😭 why do I live

@@sammccreath7641 Why? Maybe the problem is them? Maybe they shouldn't feel like the world owes them anything? Like A.M said they are not special, they just want to be. I feel sad for them.

@@sammccreath7641 But you don't want equality. You want to be special. Equality means you will have to take crap just like every other person on the planet. Yes everyone deserves to be treated with respect but some of these aren't rude questions but now those asking the questions are being treated like stupid. Respect you say? Respect is earned as well and when you start off with the attitude these people displayed what do they expect from people? To act as if you are better and more special than others is one sure way to get treated differently and what would happen if the person respectfully states that they don't agree with this lifestyle? They get branded and lambasted as transphobic when it's just something that they don't agree with. Respect goes both ways.

@@sammccreath7641 you say you want equality and you dont have it yet. What equalities have been given to others and not you or this group? Genuinely curious but I will say that these individuals dress to stick out like a sore thumb and that might not help when you walk about in public. This video is full of people that look like goofballs and that would definitely cause people to ask questions. Also never heard a generation talk about genitals soooo much in my life.

We wait till they give us instructions and hopefully they tell you their preference or preferences. Sounds alot like Government Organizations to me.

@@sammccreath7641 that's hard to do because I have asked questions in the most polite way and people have taken offense to it. I literally asked an associate of mine that is Trans due to being worried about starting a conversation with a fellow human "How should I approach someone that I'm not sure of their preference? Should I slowly talk and get into what do they identify as? " And he got offended I didnt know when I honestly didn't in this situation. Kind of ruined our relation because I remember when I met my associate years ago it was just natural and we were cool. Now I can almost feel the stigma of individuals feeling as if I'm automatically going to offend them on purpose. The vibes are like walking on eggshells. Years ago seemed people didn't care about preferences at all. I remember him asking me a few years back if I was gay and I simply said no and took no offense. Just find it ridiculous that now for some reason some of the first conversations you have with someone is trying to find out their preference so you don't offend them. When it shouldn't be that way. We should be able to talk naturally and bond without having to even worry about personal preferences. I mean at the end of the day it's a personal preference so why isn't staying personal during the beginning stages of introduction? Not saying that in a way of dont ask dont tell but in a true world of equality you naturally just talk to people and bond not caring about anything that is visible. I have had conversations with homeless individuals that no one will approach eveb individuals apart of the LGBTQ community because their visible appearance and they were the best conversations I have ever had. I don't think many understand the actual meaning of equality.

And im 3 books in a bag

Depends of the kind of lizard, cuz if you were all komoto dragons then you would be a gaint! Like probably as tall as a hotel or something!

In 2019, really? :) At this point, it makes me want to pat you on the back really

Sid Sidney can you *be* my fish!?

I say IMA FUCKIN BEAST HONEY

Everything is gay

I know... Makes zero sense. To be gay is to have a same sex attraction. U don't need to k ow what's in people pants to tell whether they are male or female. It was very clear what sex each individual was. The guy who said he was gay obvs sleep with men only. As he feels he is both genders, and gay, shouldn't he be attracted to both sexes like himself?

There's different terms for people who identify as non binary and are attracted to one gender/sex. That person used the word "gay" most likely because they don't know the term for their attraction.

Confusion of the highest ordah!

So the word gay doesn't technically fit in super well with nb identities, but if people are more aligned with a certain binary gender and they only like people who identify as that binary gender, they might consider themselves gay. There are other terms such as androsexual, gynesexual, and skoliosexual which describe sexual attraction to male, female, and nonbinary people, but they're not very widespread to my knowledge. Also, just as the relationship between two men or two women is described as gay, the relationship between two nb people is described as enbian. Hope this was helpful. Again, this terminology is just there for nb people who want it, and not all of them feel the need for words to describe their attraction, or they use more widespread vocabulary that others can relate to.

A woman is a creature created since the beginning of time who has the ability to make babies ONLY through intercourse with a man because it is the NATURAL way (sure Jane the virgin incidents happen no denying that) but a non-binary is a recent creation by people who’ve gotten so bored with their lives that they became sick to the point where they use words such as vae vaem or incorrectly use the Shakespearean term “thee.” But wait, before you insult me I’ll help you out and call myself “hOmOpHoBiC” 🥴. Now I’ll go ahead and prepare myself for this zombie apocalypse.

Jess Ferguson good question! the word “gay” has become an umbrella term. when they all say that they’re gay, it just means they’re something in LGBT+.

I agree with ^ I indentify as non binary, and i am pansexual, even though i scream "im gay" all the time. Gay is more used as just having a sexuality other then hetrosexual like bi or pan, so basically non binary people being homosexual is i guess only liking other non binaries? Im not sure but i hope this kind of helped :D ♡

Jess Ferguson same

Jess Ferguson people use the term gay wrong

As someone in the LGBT category. The way I look at it is that either A) Gender and sexuality are different topics entirely. B) If you are Non-binary/Gener Fluid, etc, you would come under demisexual or pansexual.

Daniel Sniderman how do you not know how many there are. That's when you know what your saying isn't real. Mmmm idk how many types of water there are... maybe there is 57!!!!

Daniel Sniderman when biology accepts them, then the rest of us will too. Maybe

@Daniel Sniderman "fuck biology I have a brain" is possibly the dumbest think I've ever read. Fuck the arguments idc about genders but you are stupid as shit

Daniel Sniderman biology and psychology are the two factors here and biology is the sole reason there are only 2 genders

@Daniel Sniderman there are 2 genders

If everyone had trauma it wouldn't have diagnostic criteria.

020ctmarie and then they get offended when we don’t know what we’re talking about yet we can’t ask questions

Agreed. To them they seem like stupid questions and they laugh at them. I’m not sure why it is funny to them. We are curious and trying to learn.

When we tell people who are cis about it they just make fun of us and think it's funny or cool to be transphobic so I dont see why most of the time we should just be nice and over the moon when people are transphobic towards a whole group of people they know nothing about at all

Well sometimes you don't really have to know everything about a person. Just because you don't understand something doesn't mean you have to question people on things like their genitalia. (kill me if I'm wrong if so iam very sorry)

Sam I said nothing about questioning someone’s genitalia.

@@xavierquinn5215 lol

Exactly!

@@xavierquinn5215 stfu.. you sound like a cross training vegan flamingo as well. Typical 'let me speak to the manager' pissbag.

It's a counter-culture thing. The people in the video have to convince themselves that they are attacked by the whole of the society to justify their self-centeredness. The fact of the matter is the vast majority does not pay attention to the subtleties discussed in the video, if they see a man with tiddies in the streets people are just confused at best.

@@andrewcohon669 BEST! 🙌

YES. THANK YOU. ♥️

Nailed it.

Each person has a sense of identity. It's just that language is catching up with the ability to articulate it.

It's being called a mental illness, spread the word. It's not in their best interest either, to participate in their delusion.

exactly?? what-

they make all this stuff up. Ask them to define what non-binary is and they cannot even do it. It has no definition. Ridiculous.

@@Ray03595 the definition of nonbinary is literally "outside of the (gender) binary"??? It isn't complicated luv

What the heck is wrong with the word unisex? Seriously?

@@gr1mreap3rz15 how does one be outside of the gender binary?? genuine question, not even intersex people are outside of the gender binary, they are somewhere in between

And then getting mad when they don't ask and "aSsuMe yOuR gEndEr".

Yeah I agree I'm non binary and I think it's so sweet when people ask

Lucinda hill same!!

Bucky Barnes exactly if it’s “offensive” to ask then how are we going to respectfully address you...

@@luluraven7698 Non binary means a cucked feminist rip

I saw this one so called "NB" that was honestly impossible to identify His/Hers gender in this one vid ! Sad to think how not being able to get laid leads to such insanity :(

It's a funny video about venting some of their frustration and sharing their experiences. Literally every single one of these videos is like this calm down.

I shop pretty much all over the store. My hips are more narrow than an average woman and wider than an average man so it's gonna be a hunt anyway.

NightAngelus vary true

I shop in the females section cause they have pleasant colors. Relaxing...

John Brown I guess I don’t think bout the colors since I like wearing darker tones. I think half my closet is black shirts with some kind of gothic design on it

I agreeee

Shyla Saunders I think these people are not being very understanding. there are so many of us (including me) who are simply curious about this topic and might ask some of these questions in a respectful manner and dont mean any harm. some of us simply want to learn because we aren't educated well enough on this topic. I don't think we are expected to be educated on this either. there are so many things in the world and it's like everyone's expected to know everything about our society right now but that's simply impossible. I didn't even know what non binary meant before the video started. but now I do. and it is OKAY that I didn't know. I simply hadn't been taught before, and now I have. I believe that someone simply asking a question (to someone they know, maybe not just a stranger on the street throwing accusations) but if you are asking in a respectful manner, then these people should answer! they are so upset that we don't know these things, yet we haven't been given answers, so answer us!! don't judge us for not knowing.

Shyla Saunders I'm non-binary and whenever someone calls me "she" or "her" I just kindly tell them "I prefer they/them better." I kindly tell them again if they forget. But when someone knows and is calling me a "she" on purpose that makes me mad. (But I'm too shy to say anything)

Maddie; no, it is the "non-binaries" who are not being understanding or tollerant. If you consider yourself a different gender that the only two known to all human kind ....and expect the rest of humanity to instantly understand and know all the "other" genders - don't get upset or demanding.

Maddie okay exactly! If you want me to use your pronouns, tell me your pronouns. Don't just think I'll know them. And at that point, don't be upset with me about it, if I didn't know! That just makes things more difficult for both me and you. It's so annoying to be in fear of upsetting someone because they assume I know they're non binary.

Thomas Korn if you read my comment correctly, I said if someone KNOWS I'm nonbinary and says "she" or "her" on purpose just to piss me off or annoy me, that annoys me. But if someone doesn't know I just kindly tell them "I prefer they/them better"

It’s like saying that your height has nothing to do with how tall you are! 😂😂😂😂

I wish I had two dicks instead of one.

it’s true

mr krabs makes cents

from now on i’m using this-

how do i put this on my passport imiiediately

I'm 30 rats stacked in trench coat tho (I'm non binary btw)

@@alexthegamer7387 ok

@Skarbie Well es Elles :)

@Skarbie Well i dont know spanish so im not sure

Communist.

Pretty obvious that all the leftists are for the evil communist agenda.

KobyTheHedgehog I was born a woman and I have a very male body shape so?

I do know some women who occasionally wear men's clothing (primarily t-shirts), but men most the time cant do the same... a fit male has a much larger body (not to say a guy couldn't find a larger size, but generally female clothing is made to fit in a specific way while male clothing is pretty basic and universal)

Nikki then wear men's clothing because you have no femininity to flaunt. Men wear men's clothing whether they are pear shaped or fit as a fiddle. This doesn't change that men and women have different bodies, just that yours is inadequate and cannot be marketed as something healthy and attractive. Don't try to pass that off an argument for unisex clothing.

Who are you trying to convince? I prefer hourglass, as do many hot blooded men. There's a difference between child-bearing hips and a pear shaped fatty.

KobyTheHedgehog every human has different body types, so why don't we divide clothing into different body types?

Lena with a Box there is biological sex, which is assigned at birth, gender is they portrayal of that, you can portray gender in any way, a non binary person can feel boyish and girly at the same time, and trans persons biological sex doesn’t match with their gender, so they change their gender, hope this helps! Ask questions

@@vivamalcarney6205 uh, yeah. What is the difference between a non binary person and like, a tomboy? i know there is a major one, but i never really got it... Thanks for answering my questions btw

from what i can tell just from this video. the difference between a tomboy and non binary is non binary seem to care what u call them and a tomboy doesnt really care they just want to live life.

The difference between a tomboy and a non-binary person is expression; the way someone looks: masculine, feminine androgynous, or a mix of that. The way someone expresses there gender isn't the same as being any certain gender. A tomboy is someone who dresses masculine and identifies as a woman, and a non-binary person identifies with not being male or female. How masculine or feminine you dress doesn't affect what your genders is, and plenty of non-binary people dress masculine, plenty dress feminine, and there are a lot of people who dress kind of in the middle of gender(androgynous).

Lena with a Box. Yeah I mean I don’t get offended when people ask because they’re just questions i use (she/her. And they/them pronouns) and I like that people ask questions and I’ll happily explain to them and people who ask what gender I was born don’t offend me either I just explain what I was born and how I feel about myself honestly so long as they ask politely I’m glad they ask it’s better than them not understanding

Exactly! At the end of the day these kind of ppl suffer from a mental illness. I'm not going to participate in their delusion, it will only make it worse.

Actually it means you're attracted to the same SEX. Not gender. That's the biggest misunderstanding. If you were attracted to the gender, you would be attracted to a MASCULINE/FEMININE person (and the sex wouldn't matter). But if you're a woman, and you like men, you might be attracted to a very very andro/masculine woman but in the end it wouldn't work because you like men (and penises I guess ?) and you wouldn't be sexually compatible.

Lucie Ng they still like the same gender and doesn’t matter if their masculine or not

Lucie Ng - Got it in one.

Sophie Tomkinson, I am Non-Binary, and use gay to have a sense of community.

@@lucienguyen4055 Oh my god *Leave*

Same.

I was born 3 bears and 10,000 rats

Oh I was born as a green frog that crawled out of hell

I was born 500,000 snails in a human body

How convenient, I was born as a superior entity that is feared by some and will be feared by all

same

Same

@@ladymaria892 wtf

Wth 😐

Wow you got the whole squad laughing 😐

Judging from your profile pic I don't think you are being dishonest, but genuinely didn't understand, so let's take a step back; Society has and reinforces gender stereotypes and roles, that bears little or none at all biological reasons, so they shouldn't matter nor define you, literally quoting the video: ''you can be a boy and you can like flowers, you can be a girl and you can like cars'', but we have a context in which, in the first case, you are a boy liking a female thing, and sure, there are patterns, but the concept non-binary people have, is to not have a strict separation between genders(male and female), but rather a spectrum, and it's a misconstruction on your part that they define themselves as non-binary because they like both, flowers and cars, this would be just another restriction, gender is more complex, it's based on experiences, how you are perceived and perceive yourself, how you relate to other and other relates to you, and being on the extreme of that spectrum for some it's limiting that understanding. Even sex is more complex than memes might let you think and it's not so strictly binary either, been both part of sexuality, it might relate to gender in different ways, but they are distinct. Some non-binary people partly or completely disassociates with the assigned gender at birth due to experiencing social and/or physical gender dysphoria to varying degree, others might be more gender non-conforming.

tiffany tl:dr

@@user-ns8my1bw7r But what he's trying to say is...here is this group that tries to associate themselves as not really having a traditional label of how to identify themselves...while somehow at the same time...extremely particular about what labels they'd actually like to be called. I can't wrap my head around it..which is fine...however, I don't think it's fair to get angry at me when I'm actually trying to understand how to just...talk to you.

when did they do that? lol

tiffany I read your reply with interest because I'm a liberal who thinks non binary is just one step too far. I do think it's a fashion thing. I'm trying to understand.

Cereal this is the best comment hands down 😭😭😭😭😭😭

I am sorry for that I even didn't came out

this reply section has no drama! woo!

As a Pan, Non-Binary human. love the minecraft bee on the pan flag, it's all i ever wanted in life

CunfuffleBuffle You don’t exist

HAHAHAHA that is the best comment I have ever read!!! 😂😂😂

Lmao brilliant

M H this is the best comment ever.

I’ve screenshotted this 😂😂😂

Cool, I’m Alvis Presley

I am new to understanding NB if we don't ask questions we will never know

@@ellentaylor-king5680 Im glad youre trying to understand! I you dont find it weird, feel free to ask me any question about NB

@@eden-.-3483 thank you x

Non binary huh? That's fucked up lol

lol yeah right, and i am a donkey

Never heard of a hir. Not gonna lie it sounds dumb off rip

Unisex is a word that means any gender can wear it. But they're saying that if you enter a clothing store it shouldn't be male clothes, girl clothes, it's just meant to be clothes I want to wear not what you define as feminine or masculine wear.

All clothes are gender neutral

@@Upcastpanther Why?

Dylan.thomas7 a boy can wear girl clothes so idk what you mean

PikoStarsider that's false. There are clothes that only a female can wear properly

more people than you'd think

@@immerensisdeus no one goes around asking what going on down there especially if that person is just a stranger or random person in the street

@A M. dude you have no clue how often I get asked if im a boy or a girl, if im trans, and then if I answer, what my genitals are/if ive had surgeries. you say we are fixated on our sex, and yeah, thats probably true! wanna know why? because we spend every day in a body that feels Wrong. most days I cannot even pinpoint why, exactly, but my body feels wrong all the time. like it isn't mine. like it's some mask or suit im wearing. except I cant take it off. and every day, no matter how hard I try to cover it up or change it, people see the suit im wearing and assume thats the gender I am. do you know how painful that is? so, yeah, maybe we are obsessed with our genitalia. because we have the wrong ones. and im sure if you were in that position, you would want to try and get rid of that suit to the best of your ability, too. for some its literally a matter of life and death. I know personally I was once so depressed from my dysphoria I seriously considered killing myself because transitioning is so difficult and so expensive. shits tough, and you aren't making it any easier

More then you’d think. I’ve had several kids at school ask me “so umm, what are you?” while looking at my crotch.

A M. I’m not fixated on my sex so I’m not sure what your talking about. We get surgery and make fake dicks because it makes us feel less dysphoric. Judging my that comment I’m going to assume you don’t keno what dysphoria is (I’m really really sorry if I you do know what dysphoria is and I guessed incorrectly) so I’m going to explain it to you. Dysphoria happens when you are born in the wrong body. Imagine if you were born with boobs (or without if your female) it would feel wrong right? Like something is missing/attached to you that’s not supposed to be. That why we get surgeries to get rid of something that’s not supposed to be there or to add something that’s supposed to be there. It’s like if you had a bump on your leg, it didn’t harm you but it was big, annoying, and it made you didn’t like the bump, especially when people noticed it. You would get it removed right? That way you would feel more comfortable in your body. The same goes for surgeries to change genitals, it’s to make you feel more comfortable in your own body. I hope I explained this well! Have a good day!

Or theirbies lol

Well I was born an ADULT 😡

@@gayandfuckingproud3730 well I was born an old man

@@EatFrozenPlastic I was born as a middle aged man

I was born on my birthday

Thank you. There’s a lot of sources on internet so if you’re really interested.

Honestly there is no reason for someone to get mad at you for asking. To me it’s the best thing cause I know that person doesn’t want me to feel uncomfortable

I understand what you're saying, but the non-binary people get questions on the daily about that. They start to get annoyed when they get that question every day, even if it's being asked politely. Sorry if I sound rude, and I understand where you're coming from, just think about how many times they get asked that daily. Oof sorry, and have a good dayy

Yes you can ask!! Unless its a situation where you wouldnt have needed to know their pronouns. So if you are a friend, coworker, acquaintance, etc. thats totally ok to ask. If you walk up to someone where you wouldnt have been talking to them or referring to them its rude because it might be a question they have to answer over and over and you are basically saying 'im a random person who will never refer to you again I just really needed to know what you are'. Also heads up, 99% of the time they are a binary /cis person would will be pretty confused/hurt by the question.

This. This is the best way to approach it because you want to learn. And that's amazing enough honestly

An extreme game of pretend for people who have the luck to never have to face reality. =/

@TheWonderWoman2005 "Then why not advertise the clothing as having a certain shape instead of a gender. Its just fabric" Because the majority of people on the planet identify as male or female. If you don't like that, tough luck.

As a cis man with very wide shoulder who frequently shops in the women's section of clothing stores, most clothes, if large enough, will fit you without much problem regardless of gender

@Tarot Tune Up Most of the time when society mostly goes one way, it is the right way. Most people view murder as bad. Most people view racism as bad. Are they actually bad? Yes. The whole point is gender is determined by dna, you don't pick. The only things that should be identifying as genderfluid are the actual living organisms with male and female organs.

@Tarot Tune Up The Majority would mind their business if the minority would stop acting oppressed and act like they need everything to be changed for them. Literally they changed how we do our graduation gowns at my school because the non-binary students can't stop crying about everything. Chick literally just said clothes should be changed to shape instead of gender. Literally watched a girl complaining about how doctors are rude for assigning them genders. It's not the doctor, it's your dna. What's next.

Tarot Tune Up It’s hard to mind your business when these people literally are going everywhere trying to change everything. My school has had to change so many things because of their crying.

Not funny.

@Landon Hoppe It's my opinion, no need to get defensive.

I don’t mind that question as long as they are kind and appropriate and respectful about that

@Landon Hoppe I didn't say offensive, stop getting so defensive.

@Landon Hoppe no. U

Yeah. And I'm non-binary. One question I can understand getting mad at, though, is the GENITALS. Why would you ask it to ANYONE ELSE?

@@machfassett5749 That's true, I can get that because, sure you may be curious but it's a very personal and private thing where only in a very close relationship I would personally share.

I was mainly upset about the part were they got upset about people asking what there’re pronouns are like I don’t feel that that’s a rude thing to ask I’d see it as a sign of respect and it’s not like people can just automatically know someone’s pronouns that’s to me what it sounds like they’re saying that people should just know they’re pronouns

@@laurajholmes Its like if I use the wrong pronouns then you get mad but if I ask you what your pronouns are to make sure I'm being respectful then it also makes you mad..? I'm sure it can get annoying at times if someone forgets or something but I mean its still a relatively new thing to use more that 2 types of pronouns so you have to understand.

I feel like this video really didn't portray non binary people in a good light. As a nonbinary person, I'm never upset if someone asks my pronouns. I personally don't mind if people ask me questions about it. People have to learn about it somehow, right? We should educate whenever possible.

Well, actually, there are a lot of way to learn without ask questions to non-binary persons. Like, for example, there is internet. And then, i know it could seem weird to say "I don't want to answer your questions, learn alone", but a lot of non-binary/transgender people answer questions all the day, all the week. And it is just really unconfortable and tiring, because it's everytime, and because they feel like they need to justify their existence - which is really hurtfull. It's why they ask you " stop asking". For them it means "let me live my life without ask me to justify my existence".

99% of non binary and trans people I know are very open to questions, as long as they aren't obviously meant to be antagonizing. At the same time, it is not our job to educate you. You can easily do your own research.

There are KZfaq q and as watch those

I assume, but virtue of you being able to write KZfaq comments, that you are, in fact, not a toddler. Therefore, I trust you can use Google. That said, I personally don't mind questions, so long as they're not rude or invasive.

It’s not their job to educate you though, and half of the questions you ask (if you ask the same kind of questions portrayed in the video) are just rude or intrusive. If you’re truly curious, search it up. The internet exists.

@DMB agreed -JACK

Agreed -JACK

ikr

period

It's more of the phrasing of it than the actual question itself. If someone said, "What pronouns do you use?" Its easier to answer than, "Do you use he or she?" because its more open and not giving you options that you have to choose from.

First off...non binary is fictional... Secondly...see above.

@@Kornknealious I love this

@@hannahp7205 seriously? The phrasing of the question? Is their skin that thin that if you phrase your questions wrong they'll take offense?

Joseph Clark It’s not offensive as such, it’s just easier to answer when it’s an open question and not one with set answers.

Rory Stalker I noticed it wasn't when I read your comment lol

Erik MetalyRock ahaha

but the British version

Rory Stalker less, well, less fake stuff though.

Exactly

Someone saying he or she is non-binary is just like a black or white person saying he doesn't have a colour. Imagine me a black saying I identify as a white😂

@@awemanyfit ok “awe many fit”

You're just regressive

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@@awemanyfit lol well said 🤣👏

Ask away, mate. Not all of us are as... unique as those in this video. Some are just trying to live their lives.

Look it up

@@chvllywvlly how to be gay

Maybe not ask sensitive questions in an inappropriate setting to a complete stranger? There are plenty of proper places, online or in person to learn about the lgbt community. If you really must ask that trans /genderqueer colleague of yours, maybe ask their permission to have a private lecture first? But as i said, its a very sensitive topic especially for the trans/genderqueer person in question.

It’s not about not asking questions it’s more about not asking rude questions

Its okay to ask what our pronouns are, in fact its great when people do because then it shows they care, just be careful the way you phrase it

@@alexlaw236 okay. If i as you like this "what pronouns should i refer to you by?" is that okay? Or should i phrase it different

@@lenap319 yeah, that's perfect! It's just when people act like it's a drag or a huge responsibility to ask or use the right pronouns that it starts to go south, for the most part the majority of LGBT people who has a different pronoun will be fine if you're just respectful about it

@@alexlaw236 yeah, i never met a nonbinary or trans person, so i never acvidentaly misgendered one. I assumed that (same is in fandoms and such) theres a vocal minority that gets realy offemded if you accidentaly say the wrong ponoun (even if you apologize and correct yourself right after). But i figure thats just a small lart of the comunity. (also im bisexual and most of my friends are bi or gay. I just dont really associate with the nb part, because where i live theres no or just little nb and trans people)

@@lenap319 yeah, there is a minority of really *really* offended trans, NB, ect. people and thats all you really see and all that people really think about... Also like all of my friends turned out to be NB or trans (I'm genderfluid) and some of them get really self conscious about pronouns but that's about it, as long as your respectful most good people will forgive you. Hell, my best friend went three months without telling me his preferred name and to use her/him pronouns

Damn straight if trump wins were fucked

@@kstuart371 oh he’s gonna win, i think a majority will not vote wanna vote for a woman of color and that’s reality

@A M. Telling people not to be dick heads and respect human beings no matter beliefs isnt the worst thing in the world

Kinda is an understatement

Ecyenna Egas I think if it was changed to ‘things you can say to a ____’ or something more open ended instead of complaining and negativity

@A M. these people have been through hell. There's lives have been turn to shreds by people like you. People can't just accept them but have to take time out their day to make them feel worse. Your a dick is what im saying.

@A M. Your acting like we have to do soooo much for them when they don't ask you to do anything but great them as a normal human being

it's kind of dumb and outdated for the most part. It's a very outdated way of looking at gender that if something is 'for men' and 'for women' it's 'unisex'. Things don't need to be targeted at a specific gender. People can just wear what they want. Hope this helped :)

@@averyprice1771 unisex means both sexes. Funny how you have been giving false statements this whole comment section wtfff.

Natasha Price but in real life, some clothes are for men and some clothes are for women, that’s just how the majority of people live

Because they don't like it therefore it shouldn't exist.

Cuz it just symbolizes gender roles

Exactly it just feels more peer pressure

It doesn’t though it’s still stupid

I'm afab and I wear "female" clothes and they still don't fit me so...

TheCrap what’s stupid about clothes fitting to your body? If you want you can wear clothes fitted for a male body. They are just bigger because men tend to be bigger than women.

Yep. Which sucks, because I have zero boobage and, like, Shakira hips. There is a grand total of zero dresses that fit my hips and don't make me look like a walking square.

I saw a hot woman with a penis yesterday. I blew my brains out and now I am a ghost that reads comments sections. I miss my boner.

I think a lot of the time it's the tone and assumptions that come with the questions that are the problem.

This video isn't exactly serious advice of what not to say. It really just means try to phrase questions non offensively if you're confused. I understand that there's the whole "this generations will be offended by everything" but if you preface things with "I'm not tryna be offensive but" it should go a bit better

Exactly, whilst I totally agree with people’s right to identify as whatever they like and be whoever they want to be, it’s not fair to abuse those who don’t agree with you. Unfortunately you have to accept that people aren’t going to understand and aren’t going to share the same opinions. Too many of us feel so self entitled that we demand that everyone agrees with us. As soon as someone doesnt share the same beliefs they are labelled as transphobic, should lose their job and recieve abuse. Such as in the case of cancel culture. You can’t be liberal if you want to silence people who don’t agree with you. There are lovely individuals who are non-binary but most of these people in the clip seem ignorant and their attitude is so off putting.

They love not having a straight answer, it gives them a narrative they can work with.

Yes, thank you. Why does asking and trying to understand make you a bigot? Why cant we just assume that people arent bigots and work from there. Why cant we just assume that people are genuinely trying to have an open conversation and understand you rather than trying to upset you? People have debated for millennia, politics, philosophy, ethics, religion, why cant we just talk about these things without assuming every question someone asks you is a personal attack? How can I learn if I cant ask questions. How can I learn if the answer to all my questions is "oh god you are so close minded." Like they throw their arms up when the statement came up "I dont get it" and shout "well learn!" But I've literally learnt nothing from any of the answers they have given to all that great list of questions presented to them literally. Nothing. Apart from apparently in India there is a third gender? Which wasnt explained any further just slapped on the table like it's a well known fact. These things clearly arent well known or more people would understand the third gender no gender thing, so maby they should talk about it and then more people will know. Rather than throw their hands up and act like all these things are so obvious everyone should know. But then the people who are asking to whom it is not obvious and of whom there are clearly a lot because these questions are apparently so common, learn nothing and come away hurt because theyve been called a bigot for not understanding something that noone will explain to them.

General Maulious 😂👏👏as an enby with no fashion sense, this is such a mood

Never ask someone in a kilt what gender they are

@@akasickform i thought a kilt was scottish war attire

@@f4g0nm3th Anything a scot is wearing could be Scottish war attire if you cross them

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Jana Amr THANK YOU 😂

its not easy offence, we just want people to respect us for who we are and honestly “they get offended easily” is just kind of a transphobic slur

Mystíe :3 no u offend easy unisex is for both genders and bc u think have none doesn’t mean u respect who u are

that makes honestly NO sense. please learn english and try again

Mystíe :3 How do you know they’re being transphobic? Jana (OP) may not have meant all transgender people are too easily offended, maybe Jana was using “They” as a pronoun to talk about specific person in this video. Maybe your the one being transphobic, how dare you assume he was talking about more than one person just because the word “They” was used.

Yes, i avoid these people.

Delusional? I think you are

pretty sky Rude? I think you are.

Weird

Boi True, but you to automatically label it as delusional is rather rude, especially if someone has gender dysphoria. (Something they can’t control)

camelia mihailescu Freaking dumb? I think you are.