I love how you take stalking seriously and point out how people who are stalked are not taken seriously! It can ruin someone’s life or be deadly like in this tragic case.

Just goes to show stalking can happen to anyone. When I had to come forward about a stalker at work, I was shocked how many of my colleagues, male and female, who had similar experiences. One lady said her stalker crashed his SUV through her patio windows! These people are not confused or lovelorn. THEY ARE INSANE. You can't just "tell them to stop".

Law enforcement would often say “there’s nothing we can do until a crime is committed”. Yes, but by then it’s too late. 😡

“ stalkers can roam with impunity”... this says it all. Thank you for another thorough analysis.

It’s so frustrating that the law doesn’t take stalking seriously!! Great video Dr Grande.

She obviously new he was very dangerous, but she did all she could, and I guess having the 8 year time span with nothing happening she must have felt the threat was over, very scary.

Stalking is illegal in Scotland. More than two instances of stalking behaviour that causes fear or alarm is prosecutable. I don't think it's ever been enacted for so few offences but it has definitely got some persistent offenders off the streets.

Such a sad case...she had everything to live for. Good show, Dr. Grande, and nice shirt, nice color on you. 👍

I work with domestic violence survivors. The fear they endure is so hard to witness. The police's dismissive attitude towards women makes me feel so discouraged. I am talking about Toronto police.

Thank you for understanding what stalking is Dr Grande, very few people do. When it happened to me (my ex) I had to inform one manager and she said that she wished her husband would love her that much. 😪This is not love, it is a debilitating experience that slowly crushes your joy, your sense of safety and massively increases your paranoia. It is terrifying, you see your pursuer everywhere and question your sanity. Thankfully the Police were sympathetic and helpful but I was in despair for a while. I feel so sorry for this unfortunate woman, her life taken away so violently but an evil man. May she rest in peace. She made the world a better place with her good work.

She sounds like she was an interesting and very kind person. How sad that the world lost her.

I was stalked by an ex. I withdrew from all social media and changed my phone, and after 3 months not being able to contact me she sent her two brothers round. That was great, I much prefer to face the danger I'm in than having it hanging over my head. I pursuaded them to leave and never saw them or her again. I think the message I sent back with them convinced her.

How completely sad and frustrating for this poor woman! Nowhere to turn or look to except over her shoulder for years and years. No one should have to live their life that way and she did until she was murdered. So sad.

Such a heinous hitch in our laws that a woman has to end up dead before her abuser/attacker/stalker is held accountable.

Having a stalker was the exact reason I started watching your videos years ago, the first video I watched was about Narcissistic personality disorder..The laws need to be more severe when it comes to this type of situation. Thank you for bringing awareness.❤

This one really scared me Doc. I just found out my long-term stalker from years ago lives less than a block away. I haven't noticed any contact and I'm unsure how to proceed. You are right, there is no handbook for dealing with these people 😰

That shirt is just peachy!

I knew a girl while I was in college who was a victim of stalking and the police never did anything because her stalker (luckily) never escalated to violent behavior. But she went through months of hell with this creeper following her around at a distance, writing her cards, and leaving her hand carved wooden baby toys...

Wow...she had the financial and intellectual ability to do everything right, more than what anyone should even have to do in such a situation, and it seems as though it was so easy for him to do it as soon as he felt like it.

When women say they’re scared of men, this is what they mean :(

When her picture popped up in this video as the Doc was talking, I was legitimately taken aback by how pretty this woman was.

Ive been stalked before and again by the same person very recently. No one takes you seriously, especially the law.

Great analysis along with a caring tone. Almost ten years she suffered and feared this outcome - truly horrifying

Stalking kills your soul slowly and painfully, and leaves you feeling scared, tired and paranoid. Sometimes the only solution is leaving your town or country and even that seems not enough. Thanks Dr Grande, hopefully one day authorities and mental health professionals take this issue as seriously as you do.❤️

Thank you for this video about an underappreciated topic. Even in cases where stalking does not lead to murder, it's terrifying for the victim. The anxiety can be really torturous.

This is such a horribly tragic case. Thank you for remaining respectful while discussing it.

Abuse at an early age or whatever the case, doesn't excuse someone from their actions, especially as an adult. Dangerous people out there.

The thoughtful care you put into this topic was incredibly touching, Dr. Grande! At best, stalking victims live a life of fear, and there's no need to say what the worst is. Amazing episode! ♡

The gorgeous cactus with the 🤍🤍🤍🤍 printed on it is now the center of attention in the cacti family. 🙂 Great topic btw.

Dr Grande should maybe address the victim blaming / misogyny on some of these comments in another video ...

If someone abused you once they will do it twice and it changes if you cut them off they go obsess over you and abuse go farther to real harm and death. Stay safe all. Thank you Dr. Grande 🤍🫀

This is one of the most tragic cases I’ve seen you cover. The way she did everything she was supposed to and was still murdered is so terrifying and heartbreaking.

Another great take Dr. G, I think you addressed the "why didn't she get a gun" argument very well: not everyone is capable of/willing to take things to that degree, and at any rate it offers no "surefire" solution to the problem. I recall another case of stalking where the woman had her armed bf come over to her parents house with her the night things went down, and the all of them ended up dead because the stalker was watching the house and chose the right time to strike. If she made any mistake here, I think it was talking to him at the convention and afterwards: he was quoting voicemails from 8 years ago and berating her as if things had just happened, and it's hard to imagine any productive interaction could happen under those conditions. As in the Jodi Arias case, one must take heed when dealing with the mentally unstable: it seems the interaction only agitated the stalking mind-state (if indeed it was dormant). Of course, just seeing her again may have been enough, even if she had shut down the conversation immediately, and this doesn't not mean it was "her fault" for giving his delusions life again, but it is a caution for those empathetic souls who feel obliged to give crazy their time and space: we may just be giving the fire the fuel it needs to consume us.

I always like Dr Grande’s videos before I see them. His videos are always entertaining.

Dr. Grande, I agree with others about the peachy shirt. It's a great colour!😊

Very sad. Amy must have been so terrified in those last moments of her life. Yes, laws need to somehow change. 💔

As someone who was once stalked for nearly two years - this is terrifying. Poor Miss Harwick, she sounded like a wonderful person.

Such a sad situation and a great loss of a high quality person. Thank you for sharing the story, I didn't know everything about it good to know thanks

That is such a sad story. That poor woman. Great recommendations for a conclusion.

I lived this life. The day my stalker was served with a Restraining order, he came to my home after work, looked me right in my face, waved the paper in my face, and stated " This is just a piece of paper, nothing else, it doesn't matter one bit!". Hecontinued to show upevery si gle day after I got home from work, he'd be waiting on my front porch. Ignoring him only made things worse. He was violent when we were married, and he only escalated. I had kids to protect. I remarried, and he still stalked me. The final straw was when I went to drop my Granddaughter off at the sidewalk, because her Daddy was over at his house visiting HIS Dad, ( my ex) . Things had been civil for quite a while). I opened the door to my pickup, took my Granddaughter out of her carpet, and set her on the side walk leading up to my ex's house. Like I said he drank a LOT, and suddenly I heard my Son yell from the porch "DAD!, what are youv doing!?" I tried to jump in my truck as fast as possible as he was running full out towards me. He slammed the truck door as hard as he could by hitting it. My lower legs had crush injuries to them across the shin bones. In shock I drove home, He had moved in 4 blocks away from our new house, and I knew then, he would always try to hurt me...he felt he owned me. This was insane. I sat with ice packs on my legs, and my new Husband wanted nothing more than to go shoot my ex's kneecaps. I told him he wasn't going to prison, his Kids, and Grandkids, and I needed him here. Ironically, the idiot made the mistake of calling me, still slightly drunk, and started screaming and telling me about how next time he would make it worse ( Like that hadn't happened when we were previously married) . Something just "clicked " in my brain. Like a switch being turned on or off. I simply yelled at him to " Shut UP! And then as calm as ever I told him ...if he EVER hurt me again, if he ever broke into my house again ( he'd done so 6 times AFTER I moved to a different house,because he insisted it was HIS house, and as long as our kids were living there he could come & go whenever he wanted) and like I stated before the Restraining Order meant nothing to him) I would shoot him dead. I told him I was DONE living in fear, he'd had 15 years of his sadistic fun with me, and I was "DONE!". Stunned silence on the other end of the line, then very quietly " Would you repeat that"? I said " Repeat what" ? The fact that I'm going to stop your abusing me one way or another? I think you heard me loud & clear the 1st time." Years & years later? He still makes asinine comments at the Grandkids Graduations, and I just smile, and ignore him. He leaves me alone now.

Thanks for this. I was stalked for 4 years and in my country at the time there were no laws to stop it. It was exhausting and terrifying. Thankfully it didn't end like this case. Poor Amy. As you say, she did everything in her power to protect herself.

Makes me wonder how many people have just killed their stalker to end the fear. Like one day, they've just had enough, and decide to flip the dynamic. You have to figure it's happened at least a few times given the lack of protection provided by the law for stalking victims.

This is so scary. I think she probably tried to reason with an unreasonable/unhinged man because of her profession at that event. Rest In Peace Amie. Ps: you don’t own anyone anything especially an abusive stalker, you don’t have to give that person your time or energy because you feel “bad” for their upbringing

THE ONLY WAY A STALKER WILL STOP STALKING - WHEN ONE OF YOU IS DEAD. - Shelley

A Smith & Wesson brand security system seemed to be in order.

Excellent another early Dr Grande video.

Dr. Grande, I ALWAYS find your analyses of topics to be interesting. I appreciate you! 😍

Thank you for your views and opinions on stalking. You are a fantastic doctor, I appreciate and admire your dedicated and insightful content.

Excellent as always. . . Thank you Dr. Grande❕💛

Another great video Dr. Grande! Loving the peach color on you, it really suits you ☺️

Your content is always interesting. Thank you for providing this content.

Another excellent analysis, Dr Grande. Thank you for making this video.

I feel like stalker laws across the board are not taken seriously enough. I’m so sad she lost her life, especially when she was running out of ideas on how she was supposed to protect herself. She just wanted to live.

Thanks so much Dr Grande, so eloquent and heartfelt. Amy should have been safe. It's wholly unacceptable and the law does need to change. Bless her and her loved ones, what a huge loss of someone who did so much good.

Your Analysis's are Outstanding and Sooo Remarkable Dr.!! I Enjoy Them Sooo Much!! Thank You as Always!!!

Someone make a compilation of every "Hello, this is Dr. Grande"

Bless her sweet, giving heart! Such a devastating tragedy at a time when we need all of the truly good human beings we can get!

A tragic case. I heard about it in passing, thanks to the Drew Carey connection. Glad to know more about it Dr. Grande. So am wondering if you have heard of 'tapping,' or acupressure points, as a form of therapy? I read about it once in a book. The one case that stayed with me was the one by a stalker. He said, he was stalking, knew he was, knew stalking was wrong, that if he did not stop he could be locked up. But just could not stop. Until a therapist tried acupressure points with him, and he stopped. He could not explain it, but was grateful. He said something along the lines of it ending, or releasing, his obsession with the poor woman. Have you have heard of this type of thing? And do you think there is any truth to it? Thanks.

She was so beautiful. Very sad.

Does anyone else think it’s an extreme irony that a stalker who feels he/she is “destined to be with” their target will kill that person?

I wonder if FB stalking others is somehow less criminal? I would like to know why people do that? Although:. Some years ago one of my NHS colleagues met a girl, and their relationship although it lasted just a couple of years was not great. They always argued, he treated her terribly and he was unfaithful, They split up and he could not leave her alone, he would come into work crying like a baby, He missed shifts we all hated it when he was in work because he shirked his job and behaved dreadfully. His ex was admitted to the hospital where we worked, but not to our ward, we were accident and emergency and she was on an elective ward. I don't even know how he found out she was in! It turns out he attacked her with a knife while she was on the ward, he was restrained, arrested and sectioned. The lady in question survived. Just! She emigrated to get as far away from him as possible. He is no longer working in healthcare but I heard he married some poor soul last year!

You have interesting details that I hadn't heard. I just read that he "yelled" at her at the event, not that they spoke for 45 then 30 minutes. Yikes! Obviously, she thought that by being "nice" and talking to him, it might help. Unfortunately, it did not. He was a good-looking guy and could have easily found another love. Obsession is scary!

Thank you for always being so respectful.

Thank you for this video Dr.Grande!

I was stalked when I was in college, it is scary. I was in a major city, and I still did not feel safe, and my practical classes ran into 10:00 at night and he followed me home twice, one time I met him on my steps. I really wish they would change the laws surroundings stalking, it is incredibly disturbing

In my opinion, the mental health effects on victims of stalking and continuous harassment are underestimated by courts and society in general. I've seen it happen to good friends of mine. The emotional scarring and fear that it instils in a person can last for years.

This case is so tragic. The irony is not lost on me.😢Thank you for compassionate and informative analysis Dr Grande💛

Dr. Grande the same could happen to anyone. I learned in a sociology course specific to what I was last studying in that men studying in a university or college program are being targeted with violence more often than men get attacked elsewhere too. Unfortunate that no one, like a policeman, took the time to tell Amie how to upgrade her locks and secure her balcony better. Like reinforcing balcony railings and installing a four [3 inch] screw strike plate box in both front and back door frames. New homes need that upgrade too. Monitoring systems and practicing mindfulness always during waking hours helps protect a person too.

Years ago, I met with my attorney to file a restraining order. My attorney asked me if the person carried a concealed weapons permit. I said, "yes." The attorney simply stated, "a piece of paper will not stop a bullet." Instead, it can anger this individual more, just knowing they have an obstacle to overcome. The stalking got worse. My husband and I went to the police. The officer told us that the individual has every right to do what they were doing, until they caused us (or our daughters) harm. Those comments have stayed with me and my husband. We moved away and live every day to the best of our abilities. By living our life and being happy, we believe it creates more pain for the individual that was putting us through hell.

This world is scary but it's even scarier when you're a woman. I always have to look behind me when I walk outside on my own due to my own personal stalker as well as an online stalker. Which is why I use this pfp and I'm actually not Korean. I hate living like I'm paranoid, but as women, you cannot let your guard down. Stay safe

Excellent analysis as always . Thank you Dr Grande. BTW Love the shirt.

I’ve been catching up on the videos with Dr. Grande this am, I truly can say, many of the ones lives that were taken to soon can really, truly, help so many with red flags, and so much awareness. I’d absolutely love to see Dr. Grande do a video to help so many, being stocked is very scary. We need many ones to bring awareness on saving lives. I always carry away much safety, & I always share with others.

Great as always

It's a very sad situation. I can't imagine being stalked. Thank you.

Love your relaxed manner in this video !

Excellent. One of your best...

Harwick was so out of her killer's league. She was bright, beautiful, very educated and financially stable, even if Drew Carey said she had some difficulties. May she RIP. I have never been a stalking victim and don't think it's likely that I ever would be. However, I heard what steps Amie took (by the way I am a Pepperdine MBA and also lived in both Hollywood and W. Hollywood.) I think prayer is in order as well. So among other prayers, I do pray the Auxilium Christianorum daily followed by the prayers for the Society of the Most Sorrowful Mother. I also pray to my Guardian Angel night and day. Jesus I place my Trust in Thee.

I think Dr. Grande should be working with the legislature on this and many other issues. If they listen to him, we'd certainly be living in a more just society.

Nice work doc G. I especially enjoyed the Rolling Stones article. Take care and thanks.

I was looking foward for this

Hey Dr. Grande. Would you ever do an AMA? I’ve so many questions, and I’m sure a lot of us do too. Thanks for another video, btw.

Seems like the onus should be on stalker. Lock them up and make those consequences clear. Put them on parole and the minute they are within a 100 yards of their target, throw them back into jail.

Thank you, Dr. Grande!

Dr. Grande, please post more episodes. Quickly! My habit of listening to one of your episodes to help me fall asleep isn’t mitigating my insomnia!!!

This case is a strong argument for concealed carrying a firearm, even in your own home.

How about a case on John Nash? That would be interesting. Thx!

Thank you for bringing awareness to this topic.

Amazing job. I love your insights into these cases. 8 years is a long time!!! I like that shirt Dr.Grande.

We don’t need new laws for a lot of things in the US but we definitely need more protection against stalking! 🥺😰 Horrible case. Excellent video Dr. Grande!! 💕👍🏼💕

Thanks for your analysis Doctor. What I don't understand is why she did not file charges against him for assault. He would have gotten some jail time wouldn't he ? I also think the only protection against a maniac like this is a gun.

Great analysis Doc... Thank✌🏻😎

I like this vid. Good insight and great analysis.

i have no doubt her stalker being there was no coincidence

Wow! She was really beautiful! Great commentary! Love ❤️ your channel (and your shirt) 😘

This is very sad. Thank you for this video Dr. G. I wasn’t aware of this story.

This is so sad. Good analysis

Move away and hide, get a bodyguard, or change your identity are some of the only options against domestic partner violence. It's hard to get the police to even acknowledge what's going on, particularly if you were in a marriage with your stalker. To the rest of the world, you are their property, women's liberation is behind the times on this subject. The courts should provide a bodyguard, offer to relocate people, and help them to change their identity.

Thanks you! Stalking itself should be a criminal offence. Unfortunately stalking and other sorts of intimidation that abusive partners (current or ex) choose to do seems to be mostly legal. The effects can be terrible for the victim.

Dr Grande I love your work

Dr. Grande, I love your merch! One request, or rather question? I’d love to be able to purchase from past collections. There is this one thing you had that I was in love with but it must have been shortly before your new line. Don’t get me wrong, new line is great, but the one I want is like what I consider your OG line. Also I love how you still respond with a like to a lot of our comments even though you’re famous now. Lastly, your humor is the best and I laugh my ass off every time.