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@doberchic2 жыл бұрын
More reason to never force women and girls to be parents against their will. Every child should come into this world wanted!
@personalfreedom27002 жыл бұрын
And even more reason to not have voluntary unprotected intercourse when your not ready for the possibility of unwanted pregnancy… surgeon general states that celibacy is 100% effective to prevent unwanted pregnancy
@jbates7252 жыл бұрын
@@personalfreedom2700 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@explosives1012 жыл бұрын
@@personalfreedom2700 Or they could just abort brainless fetal tissue. That works.
@personalfreedom27002 жыл бұрын
@@explosives101 it is well accepted that casual unprotected intercourse is dangerous on many levels, especially with STD’s surging around many part of the world, my doctor was telling me horror stories of all the STD’s he treats constantly, some of them sound horrific, sores all over your body etc. But you take your own risks. Im happy to be celibate and wait until marriage, its not a big deal to me, but i know having random or casual unprotected/weak protected intercourse is super important to some people, we all take our own risks.
@explosives1012 жыл бұрын
@@personalfreedom2700 I think fornication is incredibly disgusting, and should be discouraged. But fornication cannot be punished by taking away early stage abortion rights. A married woman who gets raped by a stranger should NOT be forced to carry the pregnancy for 9 months.
@chipoid86di46 Жыл бұрын
I’ve never wanted children and it angers me when people ask me to justify that. The answer is because I don’t want to and I don’t have to.
@dmackler58 Жыл бұрын
Me too!
@jogriffiths5766 Жыл бұрын
Well said!
@margaretsallee1848Ай бұрын
YES! 💯
@timothyloayza678910 күн бұрын
@@dmackler58indeed which I both respect and support not just you but everyone on here. I want kids but I understand the reasons of why for many childless humans. I just you all save up for retirement like senior care, have a heir to all to your wills so the state won't repossessed your assets, portfolio, and properties back into the system where they'll jack it up. I will make sure my kids won't be a nuscience to yall and be like mini well behaved adults like a prodigy kid because that will be my duty. You have my salute.
@sherlyc1978 Жыл бұрын
Children don’t threaten me. It’s just they are annoying.
@Rosè_petalr27 күн бұрын
Agreed infinitely
@timothyloayza678910 күн бұрын
Bad ones definitely but that reflects the parent, I semi agree with both of yall. But I sort of see it as chronologically hypocritical to say, we were all annoying unless you were a legit good kid or prodigy kid. Prodigy kids act like mini adults, also I hope yall save up for senior care and find heir to inherit both assests and properties plus I support and respect both of yall decision plus opinions
@Rosè_petalr10 күн бұрын
@@timothyloayza6789 thanks for respecting my opinion and desicion I appreciate u ❤️ it's just that I hate babies I mean not only me but even other people
@timothyloayza678910 күн бұрын
@@Rosè_petalr fair enough lol, I had raisemy lil bro sine in diapers due to our mom's negligence and hey those late middle in the night or early morning before sunrise of crying I understand it lol. I am saving up for kids and will stand up for those who knows and are firm on not wanting kids, respect one's free will dang it, is that so much to ask of our species lol
@Rosè_petalr10 күн бұрын
@@timothyloayza6789 yeah it is fair and there are some people who say "You shouldn't hate kids or babies they are cute" like tf bro grow up these people think that the world revolves always around the babies I mean I get it I do respect the opinions of people but like they need to respect our opinion also then we are fair
@Sarahintheforest7849 ай бұрын
I don't hate kids, I just see them as small people and I see their true selves. So if a kid is genuinely sweet, kind, fun and creative and open to me as a person, we can connect and enjoy each others company. But I have often found that kids are loud, obnoxious, demanding, and these days especially, very spoiled. I don't find them to be nice people, just because they are children. I've seen a lot of cruelty, bullying, deceptive behaviour, lying and lot's of manipulation. People overlook all of it and say "oh but they are so cute" or "oh they are just kids and don't know any better" and I look at the kids faces when people say this, and I can tell that they knew exactly what they did and are now enjoying being let off simply for being a child. I feel the same way about elderly people. The stereotypical "sweet old lady", is a joke. There are sweet lovely people of all ages, but to generalize and say all old people are sweet, or all children are lovely and kind is just being blind to reality.
@vismaynyАй бұрын
bang on
@LauraAmanda888822 күн бұрын
This is so true! I can't stand some kids and absolutely love others, just like adults. With kids the feeling is much stronger because they are less filtered
@timothyloayza678910 күн бұрын
Indeed, I plan to have kids with th AW and then adopt 2. I will make sure that they'll behave like good moralistic and mannered mini adults like prodigy kids. Those bad acting kids are the reflection of the parent and wha the parent is like uncensored and with no laws. A mirror of them darkly enough. Also I hope yall save up for both retirement and senior care, plus find a heir to inherit all your assests, portfolios, and properties so the state won't reposses it and jack it up back in the system. I respect and support all of yalls decisions
@albket18922 жыл бұрын
For me, it is not just " dislike" .. I think that they are a huge responsibility and deserve love, giving and security that I cannot provide, so life without children is better for me and them
@haltersweb Жыл бұрын
@albket1892 your statement is very wise. I am so glad I didn’t marry / become a parent until my mid-to-late 30s. I had too much C-PTSD and would not have had the capacity to give them the love, guidance, and attention they would need and deserve. It took 15 years of intensive healing of my childhood wounds to be able to venture into the world of parenting.
@rachelthompson7487 Жыл бұрын
Same
@bluevayero10 ай бұрын
Same, though I won't say I cannot provide those things. Honestly, I can and I'd rather just keep them for myself. I'm very skeptical of "altruistically" motivated parents, and am not convinced that people have children out of anything but selfishness, or by accident. I imagine my supposed child asking me "why did you have me?", and I can't come up with an answer that's both selfless and honest, and that breaks my heart. So yeah, I may not like children, but I don't think I'm the dissociated person here.
@Salma30b2 күн бұрын
Same. I'm barely able to take care of myself, let alone another human being. I've also seen a fair share of unhappy couples who decided to stick it out and continue living miserably for their kids to have both parents in the home. I don't want that added complication.
@purplemonsoon83762 жыл бұрын
People with autism might hate them because they are so loud and it's painful to be around.
@sagaedling1952 ай бұрын
There’s a big difference between hating being around kids and hating kids though
@purplemonsoon83762 ай бұрын
@@sagaedling195 I hear you sis! I still relate to both though 🤣
@amandad.23222 жыл бұрын
I don’t want kids because honestly, I don’t have 18+ years to waste raising another little human who may or may not grow up to be a grateful adult. Plus, once kids come along, life is pretty much over for the parents, and I am not about to go through that.
@mrsgolden65262 жыл бұрын
@यश कुमार natural selection will always take the trash out one way or another
@mrsgolden65262 жыл бұрын
@यश कुमार evolutionary seen, natural selection always takes out the trashy inferior genes by not letting them be passed down
@queefersutherland396 Жыл бұрын
@यश कुमार the best part about seeing other people's children around is knowing you get to go home and have quiet time without them, you get to send them away, you get some reprieve - You don't get that as a parent, you're stuck with them
@gloriouscontent3538 Жыл бұрын
The things wrong with what you said are why you shouldn't have kids. You call it a waste, but there was a time in history where legacy was more of a thing. But now people think its evil to know your own ethnic background.
@Arasa왕 Жыл бұрын
No wonder your parents are disappointed.
@fenriz34857 ай бұрын
I don’t hate kids or wish them ill thoughts. I just don’t like being around them or play with them. I just prefer animals.. that’s it.
@timothyloayza678910 күн бұрын
Which I respect and support your decision besides your peaceful about it, also I hope you save up for Retirement and senior care, also find heirs to Inherit what you earned so the state doesn't reposses it and Jack's it up in the system
@fenriz348510 күн бұрын
@@timothyloayza6789 I’m fine thankyou.
@timothyloayza678910 күн бұрын
@@fenriz3485 I understand I am just speaking out of concern and wish you best to liveyour life fulfilled as you should that's all and besides team animalovers lol
@valerietaylor96156 ай бұрын
I’ve only met one or two people in my entire lifetime, who dislike children as much as I do.
@onelastchance64823 күн бұрын
Oh I would give you a run for your money.
@timothyloayza678910 күн бұрын
I understand and respect and accept yalls opinions and perceptions. But I hope yall save up for retirement and senior care and have a heir to get your properties and assets so the state won't reposses it and jacks it up back in the system. Also this is just a question not trying ro instigate nor demean you as a person nor character; wouldn't yall be chronologically hypocritical since all of us were kids unless we were born as a adult humanoid genetic experiment?
@Izzy-g7t7 ай бұрын
I feel bad for your grandmother. Claiming that people who don't like or want children "don't have a self" or are "false" is ridiculous. Some people just don't like kids, it's not a pathology.
@D4NC3Rable2 жыл бұрын
I keep coming back to this video & trying to write this comment but it keeps not coming out quite right, but basically not to disregard what you're saying (because I think it's true for a lot of people) but the way females are expected to like/want/have children is fucking inherently traumatizing, at least it was for me & I imagine it is for anyone else born female who was made the default free babysitter when they were too young for that responsibility. I'm not going to go into it because it's really overwhelming but basically I have PTSD around children and it's not because I have a poor relationship with my inner child or something, or maybe I do in some ways but it's not related to that. Literally kids were just left in my care when I myself was still a child, still desperately in need of adult attention & a lot of traumatizing shit ensued & I think that's a valid reason for not liking kids that's completely separate from what you're talking about here, and I think it's just different when you're born female. Everyone thinks because you have ovaries you're naturally equipped to nurture & you like it & you never want to stop and I hate it I hate it so so so so so so much.
@briannajacques76702 жыл бұрын
Man, I feel you.
@KyleEvra2 жыл бұрын
Same here.
@laurav2275 Жыл бұрын
Not sure what do you mean with "valid reason" are there other reasons that are not valid? You're very clear where your trauma comes from, it would be a good idea to work on yourself to heal, not with the purpose of liking children but yes for overcome your trauma.
@natalieengleman2753 Жыл бұрын
Actually, my friend you do have a wounded inner child. You were a parentified child since you were literally forced to take care of children when you were still a child, that in and of itself is traumatizing. When you were traumatized as a child you have a wounded inner child. That apathy towards the wounded inner child you once were translates to external children. That's just the way it works. It's not rocket science.
@jogriffiths5766 Жыл бұрын
Agreed. x
@juliettailor16162 жыл бұрын
I think unwanted children know they were unwanted and suffer that trauma throughout their lives. I have known two such people, both borderline/narcissists. This is why the rights to birth control (not the toxic pill!), necessary abortions and the morning after pill are vital to protect. Children should be conceived only in loving, secure relationships.
@juliettailor16162 жыл бұрын
@TracyThe "new meaning to the rights of the unborn child", spot on! Those in the know who are not actually religious are fully aware what they are doing in outlawing any and all abortions. Breeding masses of traumatized and mentally ill, doomed to be deviant or criminal, while neglecting those already born. In this sense protecting the right to abortion and birth control is protecting all of us.
@CatEyedGoddess2 жыл бұрын
Excellent!! I’ll put it to you like these. My mother has 3 kids. One day, while laughing hysterically, she told us she didn’t want kids and we all had abortion stories. Meaning that we all were meant to be aborted and she told us the stories as to why we were not. None of them had to do with her wanting us. I was the oldest and only girl. So, I had to be my brother’s mother and my mother’s mother. I have no idea what it’s like to be mothered but I’ve already raised my kids, my brothers. My mother lived her life like we were not alive. But, I’m tired of having to take care of others. I want to finally have a life.
@indescribable38652 жыл бұрын
Birth control & voluntary sterilization! If people don’t want kids, why do they just keep their fertility? Why kill children you don’t want instead of just not making them?
@NathanBB20052 жыл бұрын
Just use birth control. Abortion isn't a contraceptive
@honor9lite1337 Жыл бұрын
@@NathanBB2005 there are fairly obvious 1-5% chance of birth control failure.
@jetnight882 жыл бұрын
No I seriously don’t like children because I don’t have the Patience with them
@yuuya21112 жыл бұрын
Hahaha you hit the nail on the head, Daniel. I disliked myself as a kid intensely, I couldn't wait to grow up as I had so little freedom and was judged harshly. And now I dislike children, I could be nice to them but I can't stand them for more than half an hour.
@purplecatonbroadway2 жыл бұрын
I feel the same, I didn't get to be a kid really, so seeing them be able to be silly and loud and expressive and just full blown children makes my heart ache and I tend to feel resentment :/
@leahflower9924 Жыл бұрын
Damaged people are usually subconsciously jealous of kids because like this guy said kids are creative imaginative and alive and dysfunctional adults are largely dead robots the problem is us not the kids
@DontPretendtoCare Жыл бұрын
I hate the Goddamned little bastards. It is disgusting and anyone who says they actually want and love children are lying.
@quentins81657 ай бұрын
@@purplecatonbroadwayI see this and wish they would shut up.
@robynhope2194 ай бұрын
@@leahflower9924 I am afraid ur right, which makes me dislike the little brats even more
@thomascraig68142 жыл бұрын
What a load of crap. I had an absolutely amazing childhood and I don’t like kids. As a child, my parents were extremely loving and doting and I was the center of my grandfather’s existence. In fact, my childhood was the best time of my life. I hated kids though even when I was a kid. Even as a child, I got along with adults better. I always found kids loud, gross, gauche, unrefined, and generally unpleasant.
@rishaa6822 жыл бұрын
sounds like you were over indulged
@thomascraig68142 жыл бұрын
@@rishaa682 Maybe. All I know is I had a hoot and never liked kids.
@mrsgolden65262 жыл бұрын
It's still not "normal" no matter how much child haters want it to be, psychologically what He says is absolutely correct
@mrsgolden65262 жыл бұрын
@@balletshoes evolutionary seen it is, and psychologically as well,
@mrsgolden65262 жыл бұрын
@@balletshoes No it's not normal never was, never will be, just because it's more common and encouraged in a specific dysfunctional society doesn't mean it's normal, not biologically, not evolutionary psychologically there's not just one reason but many, but it's still about psychology You mean how many childless people label children with dehumanizing derogatory names?
@azeria7232 жыл бұрын
I think your problem is you're looking at this from the perspective that everyone should want and love children and how can the world make people love children again - which is wrong in so many ways. Sure, trauma might play a part in some cases but definitely not all of them. It's not a crime to hate children and people are allowed to have that opinion. I hate infants too, they're ugly, all look the same, creepy to be around (hate how they stare), and the idea that they were inside a body is revolting and I don't ever want to be pregnant/give birth. They're loud and obnoxious and the things people say about them are disturbing and creepy - ex: smelling them/saying they have a good smell - which is false and creepy to watch. Children have no sense of sanitation (or I should say the parents never taught them). No sense of personal boundaries (I don't give them consent to touch me). They say rude things and act out (although this can be blamed on bad parenting). Plus, I know I won't be a good parent and it's abuse to force someone be have children when they don't want them. I feel bad for your grandmother. She probably never wanted kids but was forced to because she was a woman. Its sad to hear.
@jogriffiths5766 Жыл бұрын
Quite! x
@bernadettebockis41202 жыл бұрын
Daniel, what if most children are unwanted? What if that's the norm? I think it's the norm.
@kaleidoscopicvoid2 жыл бұрын
It does seem that way, huh?
@j0ellyfish2 жыл бұрын
There's this cool thing called condoms.
@mrsgolden65262 жыл бұрын
Many people might be unplanned but not unwanted
@queefersutherland396 Жыл бұрын
I think many people see how many others have children, and afterall, every one of us is also the product of birth, so people see it as normal, so they wind up pregnant and go, "well, I guess it's that time of my life now to start raising these things, as everyone does eventually," and they just go along with it not thinking about how truly horrible and soul crushing it is and without thinking that it's actually a choice
@mrsgolden6526 Жыл бұрын
@@queefersutherland396 it's not like that for everybody so people like that can only speak for themselves
@neilparmar57052 жыл бұрын
I don't mind kids as long as they go home with someone else.
@gracedevine4460 Жыл бұрын
I don't think you're right entirely. I didn't have children, I dont particularly like other peoples children much. It's not so much that I didn't like MYSELF as a child, as I think I had some quite amazing points, but I didn't like my CHILDHOOD. So I wouldn't want to re-create this for someone else. A poor relationship with victimised parents leaves you feeling cold about being a parent, why bother, it's not a great situation / hard work / not worth it. I was a smart kid but I was bullied. So I don't think its about not liking yourself as much as not liking your childhood. Also, let's be honest, a lot of children are just awful narcissistic bratty little horrors. Not exactly inspirational.
@prhippie9878 Жыл бұрын
This! I resonate a lot.
@challengingoldhollywoodmyt2934 Жыл бұрын
Some of us just don't find kids [or kid culture] fascinating. You're making it more complicated than needed. I'm just not interested in children.
@tybryson15354 ай бұрын
Kids are not a blessing. They are the worst financial decision a person can make.
@pod93632 жыл бұрын
The point about people not even having a true self was interesting. I don't even know if it's possible to have a true self pre-grieving given most of your interests and habits are all built around keeping your traumas at bay.
@Ruunmaker2 жыл бұрын
I believe we all have a true Self, but through trauma we push parts of ourselves into shadow. When we identify with or give into to those shadowed parts it appears to us that Self does not exist.
@pod93632 жыл бұрын
@@Ruunmaker is it possible that we have a true self but it’s so frozen in stasis that it hasn’t developed any further than when we were kids?
@Ruunmaker2 жыл бұрын
@@pod9363 I believe our inner children can be frozen in trauma scenes from the past, and that we can become identified with them or the parts of us that attempt to keep them out of awareness. In my heart (and my experience) the true Self remains intact in all of us, but parts of us can (through shame and fear) feel totally alone and fully believe that Self does not exist.
@timothyswauger39849 ай бұрын
Having children or even being around children requires patience that some people don’t have. I know I am one who doesn’t have it and for me, the thought of being subjected to childish nonsense isn’t appealing. I will always avoid and ignore kids and I don’t think that makes me a bad person.
@Noor-sl5ep7 ай бұрын
It does seem weird not gonna lie. You seem to have a big ego that is blocking you from enjoying things
@shaolinqueen36847 ай бұрын
Yup, some kids are annoying afffffff. I then question how the parents are and they are worse than their raggedy kids.
@valerietaylor96156 ай бұрын
@Noor-5/5ep What’s wrong with not liking children? Does everybody have to like the same things? People who don’t like children don’t usually want to harm them; we (yes, I’m one) just don’t like being around them
@Noor-sl5ep6 ай бұрын
@@valerietaylor9615 Hey man hope you good, it's ok to not have children if you don't want it's definitely better than most parents who traumatize thier children and they have zero empathy towards anyone. I myself am not sure if i'm ever having kids but i will take the decision when i see myself finally healed or at least 80 to 90%, anyway, it's just you mentioned not liking kids in general. Like all children. Wich is kind of a problem to me because why ? What exactly is wrong with children? They are just innocent beings that need to be loved and accepted when you seem disgusted of them.
@oyabun9650 Жыл бұрын
I don't like kids, in fact I have rather negative emotions towards them. Now I would never hurt or yell at a kid, but I try to avoid them to my best capabilities. They are loud, nasty, rude and demanding, little narcs. Just overall exhausting being that consume the attention and energy of those around them. That's too much for me. Along with the thought of the things that happen during pregnancy it's a hard no from me. I will never have my own, I don't think babies and kids are cute either.
@MomoKunDaYoАй бұрын
"demanding little narcs" calling a child a narcissist means you are most likely a narcissist
@onelastchance64823 күн бұрын
@@MomoKunDaYo For those of us that don’t do well with children, don’t get on your mommy blogs and go on about how bad we hate kids and what horrible little creatures they are but man you guys sure come to our pages and bashes on the way we feel. You should be grateful for us, it’s more crap for your kids that we’re not buying
@MomoKunDaYo23 күн бұрын
@@onelastchance648 "dont go on your mommy blogs" I'm not a parent nor do I frequent mommy blogs or any space involving children, I am however a former child, and I follow this youtuber because he speaks about child abuse and negligence which I had to endure. I don't care if someone doesn't want to have kids, but reffering to kids as burdensome, narcissistic, undeserving, really bothers me, because in all honesty, most human beings fit that bill, but the only humans deserving of critisism are full grown mature adults, not developing children. If you don't want a child, fine I understand, but to generalize kids, as if they're corrupt, misaligned, selfish, and narcissistic, is just the pot calling the kettle black.
@silverhoundss99249 ай бұрын
Children frequently demonstrate behaviors that we would never tolerate in adults - and for good reason we tolerate them in kids because kids deserve more leeway; they’re young and they don’t know any better. But it’s important to acknowledge that disliking kids is a reasonable response to have to them because even the best behaved of kids will at times be unbelievably rude, self-centered, demanding and unhygienic, and we’d also dislike any adults that showed those traits.
@abarbadan5 ай бұрын
it may be a common response, but it's certainly not a reasonable one - to feel dislike for a child for not behaving like an adult is to not really see them as a child. it just so happens that children very much need to be seen for who they actually are, and to not be viewed through the lens of what is expected of adults. dislike for child-like behaviour in children is a surefire sign of being out of touch with one's own childhood to the point where one is unable to draw on memories and feelings to harbour more nurturing feelings toward the child when they're messy or self-centred, and to intuitively see their behaviour as healthy and age-appropriate
@XZ858XZ5 ай бұрын
@@abarbadancompletely agree. I was a lifelong self-professed “child hater” from a young age but in the last few years at around 30, I started having a sneaking sense that there is something inherently aberrant about this aversion, and I completely agree with Daniel, I am certain it stems from my childhood, which formed the way I view myself and my own inner child. I am astounded at how many people are in the comments trying to defend literally hating children…
@Hitoshuratdn4 ай бұрын
@@XZ858XZThe normalisation of child hatred is incredibly apparent in social media platforms like Reddit.
@thirstonhowellthebird2 жыл бұрын
I never had children. My sister hates children. We had a terrible toxic family upbringing filled with violence, abuse, drugs and alcohol all denied and masked by prominence and charming intelligence on the side of my father. Who would ever believe such a charming man could at times be such a monster and triangulate and project and smear and demean and criticize and belittle and shame his own daughters. I think when you grow up in toxic families where the parent causes such divisiveness then children think the children are bad and learn children are bad so why would they want children. It’s really sad the whole dynamic is cloaked in denial.
@j0ellyfish2 жыл бұрын
I had a wonderful childhood. To this day I wish I could just go back. I've never liked kids. To the point I'd laugh if they get hurt. Ain't my problem.
@joydanleigh7711 Жыл бұрын
@@j0ellyfishThats disturbing and abusive to laugh at children when they get hurt.
@joydanleigh7711 Жыл бұрын
Yes but we shouldn't treat children the way our abusives treated us.
@thirstonhowellthebird Жыл бұрын
@@joydanleigh7711 Totally agree. Sometimes abused children have latent, dormant reactive abuse lurking deep in their nervous system and like the CPTSD that it is, an event in the current day could trigger the buried emotions stemming from the injustice of being beaten, gaslit, shamed, humiliated etc and the fear of those unhealed emotions being launched decades later uncontrollably onto some innocent soul was too big of a risk for many to take. Given that abuse is cyclical many opted to end the cycle.
@j0ellyfish Жыл бұрын
@@joydanleigh7711 Not really. Gonna' be dumb, gotta' be tough.
@patriciadavison14862 жыл бұрын
No need for an analysis. Some women genuinely DO NOT LIKE KIDS OR BABIES. We don’t have to . I can’t stand them and have never been maternal at all. For women who want them, great (good way to care for the over populated planet). I was happy lone wolf child by the way and still am and I like me a lot too. So, get a life mate!
@johnmachenzie1613 Жыл бұрын
not wanting kids is one thing, discouraging other people from wanting kids is another thing.
@santanapage50442 жыл бұрын
I have 4 children and I actually HATE being a parent, it's horrible, they take over your life, they ruin lives, u get no sleep, they make poor choices, u have to drop them off and pick them up, they leave toys all over the place, it's just horrible, the bed wetting, the day care, the crying .....
@p1nc3r95 Жыл бұрын
Which are all of my reasons why I don't want them in the 1st place. I work with kids all the time and I'm so grateful everyday that they're not mine.
@fairy12324 Жыл бұрын
What made you go on to have another 3 children? Did you feel this way only after they were all here?x
@santanapage5044 Жыл бұрын
@@fairy12324 I lost all family support and my 3rd child is autistic, it's not their fault I love them but it's such a struggle, everyone feels sorry for me
@nenyeo6090 Жыл бұрын
@@santanapage5044 you don’t love your children. You’re a LIAR. Shame on you
@santanapage5044 Жыл бұрын
@@nenyeo6090 I do love them I just Regret having the last 2, I made a poor choice
@CatEyedGoddess2 жыл бұрын
My mother didn’t want kids. We were all supposed to be aborted. My mother could careless about us. She abandon us periodically for whatever new man was in her life. I as the oldest and the only girl, I had to be my brother’s mother and my mother’s mother. I think I’m done being self sacrificing for others. I put college on the back burner. I work 2-3 jobs at a time for years, to put food on the table and keep lights on. I wasn’t able to be a teenager or a young adult I was too busy being a full-fledged mother. So, I’m not trying to do that again. No kids for me!!!!
@dmackler582 жыл бұрын
In my experience, dreams always say something about our personality... But our personalities are complex so it may take a while to figure out what our dreams mean...and they can also mean a lot of things! Daniel
@valerietaylor96156 ай бұрын
@dmackler58 What did that woman‘s comment have to do with dreams? Did she even mention them?
@Chucanelli11 ай бұрын
I’ve always been uncomfortable around and disgusted by children, and recently started making the connection between that and how I felt/feel about myself as a kid. I’m glad I found this video, thank you for making it. 🙏
@the81kid2 жыл бұрын
It seems to me that most people like the idea of children, but hate real children. It's like a society of narcissists: they like the idea of other people, then hate the same people when they aren't the fantasy version they idealized before.
@Cleenishere2 жыл бұрын
I hate them in general 🤷🏾♂️
@p1nc3r95 Жыл бұрын
Yup. They both suck in reality 😆. The udea of being around people is nice till you're around people.
@none-xh1ib Жыл бұрын
The best comment ever!
@DontPretendtoCare Жыл бұрын
I hate the Goddamned little bastards. It is disgusting and anyone who says they actually want and love children are lying.
@HakuCell2 жыл бұрын
or maybe sometimes people may dislike children simply because they have seen them in bad moments like tantrum and therefore have developed negative associations with them.
@silentladyd2 жыл бұрын
Tantrums just show that the parents don't know how to deal with children, because there wasn't anybody in their life at that stage. I really enjoy examples of gentle parenting showing how to deal with tantrums, it works like magic. Knowing that, it's painful to see it in public, how parents do the opposite of what the child needs.
@evangeline90522 жыл бұрын
People are triggered by children’s emotional expressions because it reminds them of all the emotions they push down and repress
@josephanglada47852 жыл бұрын
I never seen me or my brother in a tantrum in public. That must be very bad parenting.
@NiinasJournal2 жыл бұрын
@@evangeline9052 the thing is I don't like that I can't express my needs and wants same way I did when I was a kid. People need to supress their need to show feelings just because they are adults and somehow should be like robots after they turn 18.
@halfmelty2 жыл бұрын
@@NiinasJournal children don't know how to properly express themselves most of the time and require a parent to guide them. The first communication humans have when they are born is to cry. When we start to develop language it's still foggy on how to use those words to get needs met so toddlers throw tantrums, by the time your 5 children usually have an understanding (albeit limited) of how to express needs through language. Even teenagers will struggle with appropriately expressing themselves. Nobody expects you to be a robot at 18 but hopefully you had parents who allowed you to make those expression mistakes as a child and lovingly correct you when you didn't so you can mature into an emotionally intelligent adult. You shouldn't want to express yourself in a childish manner.
@deathmetalmaniac9647 Жыл бұрын
As someone who doesn't want kids, from my experience my childhood has nothing to do with it I have mostly nothing but fond memories. For me it has to do with my siblings having many children (I have over 7 nephews and nieces) and the fact that they were all undisciplined.
@Ishbu1012 жыл бұрын
I don't like kids because I taught for a few years. I got out of the profession but my dislike for children has remained.
@ti12862 жыл бұрын
“A lack of self”, c’mon. Don’t be so quick on considering people you don’t understand merely wicked. We, those not crazy about children, already get that from society every day.
@sorvex9 Жыл бұрын
Don't try to convince NPC / slaves of society.
@chauncie8201 Жыл бұрын
You don’t need to have kids. I prefer people that don’t like kids not to breed but you are probably wicked and selfish for disliking an entire group of people based on their age and lack of life experience. Children do not have the years of experience to you do and have not learned the social skills yet to be an adult. Do you see why we come to this conclusion?
@joemahma3017 Жыл бұрын
@@chauncie8201 🧢
@leahflower9924 Жыл бұрын
There's a difference between not wanting kids and not liking kids
@valerietaylor96156 ай бұрын
Many of us find children annoying. What’s so terrible about that? People think we’re evil. Well,I have news for them: Hitler loved children. 😮
@randomnumbers84269 Жыл бұрын
I just dislike children in general for the same reason I dislike dogs. They're loud and obnoxious. (and messy). I like peace and quiet around me. I don't think it has anything to do with how I was as a kid.
@valerietaylor96156 ай бұрын
I posted a W.C. Fields quote the other day re dogs and babies. It got deleted, so I won’t try it again. Suffice it to say, he wasn’t a big fan of them. You and I are obviously kindred spirits. 😊
@LilfoxTheHybridHylian5967 Жыл бұрын
I am not wasting my life taking care of a kid that might not even be a functional human being in society. I ain't having kids. If I want to be child free I will be child free
@nunyafawkingbiz Жыл бұрын
In today's society I couldn't imagine having kids. the way kids are now a days I do not approve. I took a job working with foster kids with high behavior problems just solidified the fact that I do not like children! The funny thing is that the kids I work with are in the system because their parents cant or won't deal with them anymore so they pay us to raise these little bad people!
@purplecatonbroadway2 жыл бұрын
I have a very uneasy relationship with children (my nephews and niece especially) cause I envy them and what they get to have that I didn't and you're dead on, it's triggered my unmet needs and old grief from childhood. I won't trauma dump, but I will say so much of my childhood was taken from me so early, and I wasn't really allowed to be a child in a traditional sense. I tend to age regress for this reason
@MomoKunDaYoАй бұрын
Damn, I'd advise you to stop internalizing your grief, and use that envy to provide more to your nephews and neices
@waynejones78252 жыл бұрын
I had an amazing childhood, and all I remember from it is overwhelming amounts of love! But I still hate children. I don't believe everything is always as deep as people want it to be! It could just be the fact that the screeching and screaming is obnoxious, they're expensive, they're needy, they need their asses wiped, some people are just honest with themselves. I think someone that has kids knowing they don't like them is just irresponsible especially with the amount of contraception in the world today! I think what we have here is someone trying to make themselves feel better about a bad situation when they were young! When somebody grows up thinking THEY were the problem, it's natural to project it back on the people that made them feel that way! I'm not trying to be rude, so I hope this isn't taken that way, but to say it's only healthy for an adult to like children is ridiculous! The person is reaching at that point!
@mrsgolden65262 жыл бұрын
It's still not normal, not in the evolutionary sense nor the psychological one
@waynejones78252 жыл бұрын
@@mrsgolden6526 I wouldn't disagree, but what I will add is both of those things are most strongly effected by one's environment and surroundings. So what does that say about thr world we are living in today?!?! To put it lightly I believe we took a wrong turn somewhere along the line!
@alliasn33842 жыл бұрын
@@mrsgolden6526 There are many ways in which human behaviour defies biological evolution especially in 2022 - it’s very common and normal part of our world today. Culture and technology have immunised humans from many selection pressures.
@mrsgolden65262 жыл бұрын
@@alliasn3384 defy is not the right word for that, our biology is something we have no say over just like the laws of physics, it's how the world is programmed and when someone goes against that there is a evolutionary reason for it
@ThatAyaatibuggatiDude Жыл бұрын
Your parents give you such a good life and your parents treat you well and this is what you grow to be you,should be ashamed of yourself
@mushroomkaiyoti1112 жыл бұрын
I love how insightful your videos are. 💖✨ Love love love videos like this! It speaks to the raw authentic truth of reality. How damaging adults are to children, often so unknowingly - yet it can do immense damage and suffering to those kids long term. I don’t mind kids most of the time except I’m extremely sensitive to sounds and smells... nooooo thank you ... I’m also just extremely puzzled why anyone would bring another lamb to the slaughterhouse. I agree though there is definitely some truth to not liking kids being correlated to not loving a part of your own little inner child. I don’t think people like themselves either though to impose and bring new life here as well. Just because someone is a parent doesn’t mean that they truly love their kid. Usually they want a mini me and someone they can control, exploit, use for their own agendas such as expecting them to handle and solve the worlds problems OR take care of them in their old age. It’s absolutely bullshit... and I don’t understand why we keep it going. Life is full of immense suffering.
@alicjakrag3132 жыл бұрын
I don't like children, will never have them but I have little cousins that I love, but don't have any relationship with (so far). I don't consider myself as evil person, just not interested in interacting with anyone below 12. Saying that I was loved as child, had and still have loving family, parents are still together etc. I just don't like little loud annoying kids 🤷🏼♀️
@HansensUniverseT-A2 ай бұрын
My lack of empathy towards people including children would make being a father impossible, I'm a cold individual with little connection to my family, they're there but not there, I'm best off alone, a child in my life would soon find another place to be.
@EL144112 жыл бұрын
I worked as a server at a restaurant many years ago while in college. A mother and her two boys came in for lunch. The 5 year old yelled at me to get him a plate. That’s when I decided I didn’t like kids. 😂 But seriously kids are so disrespectful these days and this is coming from a Millennial. It’s hard to like them because of their parents for the most part.
@stefaniamirri11122 жыл бұрын
If the parent would have respectfulky driven him with love, the child would not have been that way.
@juliettailor16162 жыл бұрын
Exactly. A child who is sweet, interested and well mannered is a delight. An ill behaved child is miserable and you're right, it's because of the parents, and those are the ones having children. Children having children.
@user-xp4jr1mq8t2 жыл бұрын
I think that the problem is not with kids per se, but with how children are raised in certain cultures. In the United States, children are often not very well-behaved because many parents don't discipline their kids anymore. When I traveled abroad to some Asian countries (Japan, China, Taiwan), I observed how much better the children behaved and realized that I don't actually dislike kids, just the behaviors that result from terrible parenting.
@joincoffee93832 жыл бұрын
Just like rude dog owners raise vicious and always barking dogs. There are too many sick people letting their unleashed vicious dogs wandering in public spaces. There should have a law making it a felony. So many people’s safety, sense of safety and even lives have been threatened, damaged and lost.
@ThatGuy-tx4vm2 жыл бұрын
And there you show how immature you are. Dislike the damn parents. The kids are only a mirror of the parent. You either lack empathy or critical thinking to understand the truth. You put the blame on an innocent child instead of the worthless parents.
@itsamagicalliopleurodon Жыл бұрын
I had an amazing childhood with a woman who genuinely adores children as a Mother. I just don't like children; I'm introverted and like quiet! Being a parent requires energy and patience that I do not have.
@joincoffee93832 жыл бұрын
It seems like a tall order to ask everyone must like kids. One must have a strong reservoir of energy, physical health and mental strength to cope with the demand of kids. Also some psychologists say children are narcissistic by nature. If it’s true, that’s one more reasonable reason some people are not fond of children. There’s nothing wrong about it.
@NiinasJournal2 жыл бұрын
Yeah because very small children can't feel empathy just yet. It comes later if it comes. So small children can't understand how other people feel they only understand how they themselves feel.
@Cleenishere2 жыл бұрын
@@NiinasJournal does that include middle schoolers
@victor-zi7bu Жыл бұрын
@@Cleenishere no at that point they should be empathetic
@catlady1589 Жыл бұрын
I think you are exactly right. I chose not to have kids in order to stop the generational cycle of abuse and neglect I experienced in my family. Before learning about inner child work, I didn't understand why I feltl animosity toward a well cared for child or baby on television. My mom had a rough upbringing and my dad was a narcissist. Emotionally, she had nothing left to give and was probably suffering from depression. We were never hugged or talked to. I remember sitting at the kitchen table at around 7 yrs old, trying to have a casual conversation with her, but nothing. I was on my own. Subconsciously I am jealous of people from close, loving families because I missed out on that.
@Aperson-ki2hl2 жыл бұрын
I like kids that are quiet and sweet or when they mature but most kids are gross/dirty and annoying. Even exceptionally cute kids tend to be covered in food and snot. But I can’t stand when moms don’t hide their disdain for their children, to me that’s abusive. Kids know when you can’t stand them, even when you’re the mom.
@georgezhelyazkov8152 жыл бұрын
My childhood was great, but when I see kids I wince. I hate how noisy and obnoxious are they
@allthe1 Жыл бұрын
What you describe with your grandmother and father can happen without them ever being open about or even councious of it. Some people think they like children but behave the same way as your relatives did. They do it for the cover, or by obligation. I know my parents loved me in some primal way but as far as I can remember they were not at all interested in me, my tastes, my friends, my thoughts. We became and are still becoming more and more astranged as time goes by.
@TomHuckACAB2 жыл бұрын
I was a kindergarten teach for one amazing year where I was run ragged by other people's kids. I still loved them all. Sometimes more than their own parents. Funny how "grow up" is the go to insult for so many people. I'm like WTF, you use kids to insult people? Crazy.
@SilverFalcon.2 жыл бұрын
I haven't like children since I was 5. I'm 33 now and still detest kids. I'll be kind around them, but I'll leave as soon as one comes around or near me. Walmart was the best b.c ever.
@Sealust5011 ай бұрын
Can't stand babies and kids at all. I'm a 64 year old female and NEVER liked them - never WANTED them. Haven't changed one inkling bit, and it has NOTHING to do with how my childhood was either because I had a wonderful childhood.
@user-vj4tk6jw8i2 жыл бұрын
I dont think thats true. I had an amazing childhood, loved by my parents. But i just cant stand kids, im not mean to them but i dont like to interact or be close to them. I see their entitled behavior, them being little shits and missbehaving and demanding stuff like little roalty... It grosses me out how mean children can be amongst themselves... Theres no such thing as "inocent angels" theyre all devils that should be disciplined.
@lehananber3181 Жыл бұрын
They are developing and learning...
@kevinslyter2 жыл бұрын
I went to the gym today and I blew up in anger, they were having a day camp, 200 kids at least were running around, I realize now I hate the noise of 200 children I can’t even think. Maybe I do need to do this inner child stuff. Maybe someday I will like children again but not today.
@courtneytouchette2109 Жыл бұрын
Sorry but I call bullshit! Yeah I had a shitty childhood too. I was an only child with an alcoholic dad. My mother bless her heart, loved me and over protected me and I'm sure she wished I was more popular and confident but I just wasn't . I knew I never wanted kids by the time I graduated high school. No man was ever going to change my mind. Kids today are pampered pups who are over coddled and needy. The cost of childcare is barbaric. Leave childfree women alone!
@chchwoman99602 жыл бұрын
I love my neices and nephews, and babies, but beyond that kittens and puppies are way cuter. Some kids surprise me by being adorable but, on the whole, I would rather stay away. I'm not afraid to admit that but when I have occasion to, often someone else will confide, in a whisper, that they feel the same
@personwhoexists0802 жыл бұрын
I don't like the child I was at all and dealt with a lot of emotional neglect. My family situation forced me to put almost every aspect of my personality on the backburner and put on the face of my parents, then later, despite being the youngest, I became a councillor for my entire family. But it caused me to instead love children more than anything, I find their innocence and lack of knowledge endearing, and I feel like I have a duty to show them love and care and protect them, because they'll turn out better that way, even if I just babysit them for like 1 day or something. One good memory can have the potential to change a child for the rest of their lives. Instill a sense hope for humanity within them.
@sandrafledglingmixologista22212 жыл бұрын
I have spent thousands of dollars over the years trying to verbalise this with therapists and they just did not get it. I don't even know how to thank you for this video. I feel you understand me.
@crazy2coolauntie7592 жыл бұрын
I feel he understands me too. The "self" thing hit hard.
@j0ellyfish2 жыл бұрын
Probably because they're breeders.
@jayzeeflex5476 Жыл бұрын
Same... No one can understand the word I don't like kids or children I didn't mean I hate them ... they just think I hate em😞
@TrueGamerRZ773 ай бұрын
Kids are a waste of money, why throw your life away? If you have a kid, you are not yourself anymore. You died as a person and you will just be a parent without life and free time. No thank you
@jagodat2 ай бұрын
real. I don’t want to sacrifice my own sense of self for a kid
@emmajiang7782 Жыл бұрын
The society has high expectations on women and expect them to give birth (at high cost of their own life) and love their kids with their own life while they never had enough love from the world themselves… never force women to have kids…
@catherinebirch2399 Жыл бұрын
You have to be very empathetic, loving and caring to be a half decent parent. If you have issues from your past and have kids, then your`e likely to pass those issues onto them, and they will pass them on to their own kids, creating a generational curse.
@paintbrush3554 Жыл бұрын
I agree whole heartedly with this video. My childhood wasn't perfect but I definitely was loved and felt nurtured and safe. I liked myself as a child then and now for the most part and look back at most childhood memories fondly. Because of this when I'm caring for kids I'm excited to see them feel the excitement, nurture, and build their own memories like I did and better. Like my parents I'm proactively protective but open minded. Children are so earnest and more powerful than they're given credit for. I feel a combination of experience, study, and one's own childhood can effect their perspective on children. Reading the comments I want to say liking kids and not wanting kids are two different things. I adore caring for children and for a long time wanted to be a mother. However, I no longer want to have kids due to the world we live in, my financial situation, and desiring to focus on my own personal growth. Its possible to like kids but not want to have your own. Bringing another consciousness into this world is a big choice and often its more moral not to. But for those already here, they deserve all the care they can get.
@lukethekuya Жыл бұрын
One of the only positive comments on the video. God bless you.
@hypatia4754 Жыл бұрын
I'm the same. I love kids and I see myself in them and understand their vulnerability, their excitement, their curiosity, their need for love and validation. Why would I want to destroy that in any way? However, I never wanted to have them and i didn't, because I knew I had unresolved traumas that I would invariably act out on them and I didn't want that. Plus, I love my peace and quiet!
@Moribus_Artibus Жыл бұрын
Sir, it's more complicated than that. Apparently you rarely spend time in restaurants on the weekends.
@MichaelJordan-xp3yb10 ай бұрын
nothing worse than a family with 4 kids walking in just after the lunch time rush has ended and you want to take a breather.
@TheTypeofGuy-pb2uiАй бұрын
I’ll be forever thankful that I had a vasectomy when I was 26. One of the best decisions I’ve made!
@hrose5484 Жыл бұрын
A commitment I never wanted. Never ever got pregnant. I have some awesome animals and that makes me happy!
@melaniexoxo2 жыл бұрын
I don’t like children but I love my inner child. The interesting thing is that when I go back to that time in my head it’s when I felt like my mom loved me so like 9 to 12.
@anitat97272 жыл бұрын
I disagree. I dislike kids because I'm disabled, in a ton of pain and kids are just annoying, rough with a ton of energy. It's not their fault - they act like kids but one accidental tap from them means I'm in a ton of pain for the day. I can play with them for a couple hours and will be there in an emergency but that's my limit. It's a reason why I won't have kids.
@janacjura5896 Жыл бұрын
I dont want kids because I like myself too much to waste anything from my free will and possibilities I can experience in life. I spend tremendous time to understand myself and the others as many other childfree people who just dont enjoy the presence of kids. They want to have some meaningful conversation with adults and if they never or very rarely spend time with babies they obviously dont usually know how to behave around them. In fact, I think you are speaking from a place of hurt putting all those folks into one bin. As you said, your grandma was never mean to you, she didn't want to hurt you, she was just living her life - the fact she had your dad and didn't want him just shows us that back in the days it was expected from women to carry and raise kids and her generation wasn't raised to have a room for deep self-reflection, therapy etc.. But your dad decided to have kids and thats not on her, it wasnt her decision, she never ment to hurt you but she couldnt do any better. And am speaking from a place where my dad's mum was the same and died also when I was 12. I understand her even tho my mum's side of the family is very motherly and supportive. I know what love means and I want to share that with my partner - an adult. Not to waste years and kill this planet even more with producing another humans.
@songsthatarecatchy2 жыл бұрын
I'm proudly childfree. And I do not like children much at all. They're self centered annoying and entitled. My childhood was pretty good.
@markl.zarlenga32245 ай бұрын
I had an awful childhood. I never wanted children. My spouse wanted a child, so I did it for them. I've had to relive my terrible childhood again.
@ebony414415 ай бұрын
I remember my grandma didn’t like me and use to pretend like didn’t exist. She’d feed and give cookies to the other grandkids and never gave me eye contact or offered me what she offered her other grandkids. I remember wondering if she could even see me. It was very hurtful. In sixth grade she died and I couldn’t feel for a stranger. I asked if I could skip her funeral and go to school instead.
@masked3213212 жыл бұрын
I'm leaving this comment before watching the video, I'll come back and edit this if I end up making a tit out of myself, but I often say I don't like children as a response to people asking me why I don't want children. The response I get is nearly always "that will change when you have your own". It always shocks me how flippently people say that. I mean sure let's just roll the dice on that. The real truth here is that Im not sure if I would like raising a child, I haven't been one for ages, I haven't been around a child for just as long. Any idea I have of what raising a child is fiction. And to be frank it's too great a responsibility for someone with my issues. Saying I don't like children is a quicker way to say that without upsetting parents themselves. Edit : good video Daniel and it's hard to disagree with what you said. Children are harder to "fool", or maybe more accurately I'm better at fooling adults
@masked3213212 жыл бұрын
@Tracy it's hard to get other people to see where we are coming from isn't it? I often find they take what I say as an insult towards them... Oh well You take care Tracy :)
@silentladyd2 жыл бұрын
I'm also being pestered to have children, sometimes I wish had some, but I couldn't afford them, would have to go in debt, I also have some health issues that would make baring and birthing a child more expensive. And then, the predictor of a child's success in life is the socioeconomic status of their parents... so yeah, we also have close to no friends, we would doom that kid. I'll start telling people we can't have and that's that, it's also really difficult to adopt in my country, if you don't have the means to adopt, you shouldn't be having kids at all. Even the memory of going to school in the morning gives me tremendous anxiety as I go to work as an adult, would I subject anybody to that? NO!
@stro_mpg803917 күн бұрын
@@masked321321bro u hate ur self when ur kid💀💀💀💀
@tiffder4855 Жыл бұрын
Ya can't say I agree to this at all. I had a very nurturing and loving childhood with amazing parents. I love animals but still don't like children. I loved myself then and was super talented and I love myself now and am very conscious about my growth.
@rozannamurayama96292 жыл бұрын
I am so fortunate to having a loving set of grandmother's and grandfather's.
@katec98932 жыл бұрын
You really are, a lot of us don't have that at all.
@LivingEmpoweredToday2 жыл бұрын
This was my Grandmother too. I spent a lot of time there but we had no relationship. I was just baby sat. Honestly, I didn't like her either🤣 What's so funny, she baby sat tons of kids and lavished all kinds of love on them. That confused me until I heard things she said about me to others. I don't really remember any hugging or anything and as a child I noticed that. She was a very angry woman about her own life.
@bernadettebockis41202 жыл бұрын
Agreed. I felt grandmother liked the boys, not the girls. I never loved her, or much.
@gabbsdy87412 жыл бұрын
Thats the history of millions of woman who where not allowed to have a life other than husband and children Who can be happy living as a frustrated slave all life?
@Awarebynature2 жыл бұрын
i really dont like children either
@stro_mpg803917 күн бұрын
bro hates his self when his childhood💀💀💀💀💀
@suryacoapy51292 жыл бұрын
Daniel you just described several generations of my family. So much truth and depth in this talk. Thanks.
@Misses-Hippy6 ай бұрын
My mother often said she did not like kids, only her own. And she did not like "whiners". Her mother told me she wished she had made my choice to have no kids, but she was born in 1907. I NEVER told my mother what she said. That would be cruel.
@TheDeepstory95957 ай бұрын
I’m good with kids and kids like me, but I don’t want children. I don’t really have patience.
@NightinGal892 жыл бұрын
My grandmother never said she did not like kids but she always gave me the vibe that she did not really like kids (or me). I also had no relationship with her, but to be fair, she moved to a foreign country when I was 4, and I rarely saw her after that.
@annajaworska36272 жыл бұрын
Wow! Thank you Daniel for sharing your thoughts about children from and in dysfunctional families. I think this video is one of your best. I don't remember my childhood, that is why I survived my trauma. I have been working hard for a long time to know, feel who I really am. I can recall, that very early as a child I didn't like my family, I was so afraid of a woman, who supposed to be my mother. I recently heard the proper name for her, an attachment figure.
@themaestro30342 жыл бұрын
I had an incredibly happy childhood but I dont like kids at all. How does your ridiculous theory account for that?
@ellyk88342 жыл бұрын
My sister would say her childhood was wonderful but she's in denial... Maybe you are too. Your accusation that his theory is "ridiculous" says a lot. Maybe your childhood wasn't as happy as you think/are trying to convince yourself it was.
@themaestro30342 жыл бұрын
@@ellyk8834 lemme guess: you are a self-described “christian”, am I right?
@Liz-wz8dh11 ай бұрын
I'm not so sure it's always that a person dislikes themselves. A lot of people just grew up in toxic families and don't know how to relate to kids. If you barely got to have a childhood yourself, it's unlikely you know how to act with a kid who is in the midst of their childhood. A lot of people also just dislike the way the world treats kids and don't personally want kids as a result. It's not even a dislike, necessarily, but they just don't see kids as relevant to their lives. I used to think this was a new thing but I actually suspect parents have felt this for many hundreds of years and it's just something that is not talked about very often. So many people just have kids because they feel they're supposed to but thank goodness that is changing.
@apoorpersonwitharichsoul42798 ай бұрын
I don't think this is right for me. I have had wonderful parents throughout my life who have always shown me so much love and care, and I am grateful for that. But when I have to take care of a child, I feel very stressed and bored doing it. I do my best not to show my true feelings directly to the child, but in my mind I beg his mother to take them away from me. So, unless I missed some points, I don't think my dislike of children stems from a trauma. But what this video reminds me is that kids are still human beings who can be traumatized by the shitty behavior of adults. It was heartbreaking to hear about your experiences with your father and grandmother, but I honestly doubt that I, as a parent, would have been any different. This is exactly why society needs to stop gaslighting people because they don't like children, or even forcing them to have children. Because if a person can't handle being a parent, they will likely turn into another example of your grandmother (by the way, I'm not saying childhood trauma can't cause a person to dislike children. But not everything can be boiled down to this one factor).
@slauzon012 жыл бұрын
For some it's a personal choice outside of trauma and for others it's devine intervention through living that trauma. I had such childhood trauma that it shames me from seeing a little version of myself judging me as a failure.
@elyse44310 ай бұрын
It’s a form of bigotry. Hating a group of people based on immutable characteristics is, by definition, bigotry. If your dad said she doesn’t like Black people everyone would be disgusted.
@NJGuy19739 ай бұрын
Children don't stay children forever.
@Not-Ap2 ай бұрын
@@NJGuy1973 But they sure as hell remember everything you say around them.
@kitchencountertalk91152 ай бұрын
Just because an Adult doesn’t like kids…doesn’t mean they’re false or don’t have a sense of self. It’s the exact opposite. If you don’t connect, then you don’t connect. You can’t force any type a relationship. The people who don’t like kids have a right to NOT like them. That’s being REAL! That’s being honest. That’s the Truth. Period!
@dianadias3 Жыл бұрын
Fantastic! I've always loved children, and never understood how someone could dislike them. But it makes sense, the fakeness fading. you cannot be fake around children, that's why I love them
@kfcfingerlicker92922 жыл бұрын
Mr. Daniel Mackler, sir. Could you please give a brief personal opinion about doctor Todd Grande? He is becoming a very popular online therapist lately and many of his viewers have praised or criticized his opinions. In my opinion, he seems like another Doctor Phil lite.
@the81kid2 жыл бұрын
I don't know if he's all that, in my humble opinion. He mostly seems to be doing it for the hits. His video on Jordan Peterson was a good example of this. Does he seem to be interested in healing and finding your true self?
@joincoffee93832 жыл бұрын
He always has a tight knot in between his eyebrows.
@anitat97272 жыл бұрын
Eh. He mostly focuses on crime. Which are pretty easy analyses as serial killers, murderers, abusers, and child rapists are obviously fucked up.
@Tictacsizesoul8 ай бұрын
I literally hate them, but that’s not the only reason I’m childfree
@frankstared2 жыл бұрын
I find it entirely predictable that those whose childhoods were traumatic would go on to perpetrate further trauma. The fact they are even aware of their distaste for others is a degree of integration that actually surprises me. Sounds like you would have done well to get to know those ones.
@A5H_01 Жыл бұрын
Can confirm had an awful childhood, would never want to repeat that cycle.
@frankstared Жыл бұрын
@@A5H_01 Please nurture your inner wounded child. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Listen to that inner child and let them guide you. You will hear it in your dreams and intuitions, in your gut feelings and when you feel intuitions. As you are able to better focus on that inner voice, it will come easier to follow the path meant only for you, while helping those you meet along the way.
@A5H_01 Жыл бұрын
@@frankstared My dad was a pedo
@noirbe238 Жыл бұрын
i dont really mean it when i say i hate kids. i love kids, and i’m really good at entertaining them. i just get easily annoyed at times by them, but i never treat them rudely. they’re precious, and bringing adult attitudes to their lives isn’t healthy.
@witcheliz2 жыл бұрын
I will never do kids ,i dont like babies or kids, but i do not want to hurt others ,i just want them to stay away from me. My parents always abused me physically and emotionally and this world is shitty, i dont want to bring someone here. And I disagree I do like myself, i dont think that i will have so much time to care for myself to the fullest if i have someone to raise. Im complete just with my partner, i dont need someone else to fulfill me .
@insertmyidentityhere11 ай бұрын
Witch, indeed.
@priyankarmajumder41522 жыл бұрын
I love children. But I don't want them just because I love them. They're a mental and financial burden for life and there's no freedom from it. I love them, but I love me first.
@saberzhang93162 ай бұрын
it might be true for some people. but to me, i am fully loved unconditionally by my parents and grandma, but it doesn't change the fact that I don't like children and I don't want to be a caregiver. I simply like being alone and don't want to invest 70% of my life energy into another human being, while i had so much passion to explore the other aspect of the world. Life is just life, no one said we must love children.
@varframppytwobtokwanguz22866 күн бұрын
If you don’t wanna have kids that’s your business. I don’t have them. And when tons of people online proclaim their hatred of children, I’m not offended; I’m terrified. In saying you hate kids, you announce that you would potentially treat them as less than human. It might be a big joke to you, but it actually comes off as a threat. I want people who flippantly say they hate kids to think about that for a second. Our world is increasingly precarious. Natural disasters and shootings strip normalcy from our lives increasingly more often - to say nothing of more normal emergencies. What if there’s a fire or a flood, and kids are around? Will you leave them behind? Will you not work with the group to survive because the group involves kids? Hell, it could be as simple as a car crash. What would you do if kids are present? Understand that for those of us who don’t hate kids, we immediately run that simulation in our minds when you say you hate children. You are announcing you are potentially untrustworthy.
@Salma30b2 күн бұрын
I disagree with the idea in the video. I had an amazing healthy childhood and still dislike children as a 35 year old woman, and that's because I don't have the patience or energy to deal with them, and I see them as huge responsibility.
@kaminariyoung Жыл бұрын
Must be nice to literally sit there and psychoanalyze complete strangers you know NOTHING about👍 I grew up as a very happy child in a loving and supportive environment and have a good life, so your tortured inner child theory doesn't apply to me. While I agree that children should ALWAYS be loved and cherished in every way possible I still find them very annoying. Children are young human beings who possess their own ways of thinking, based on their lived experiences. Which means they're very much capable of being more than weak little angels. So give them more credit than that.
@baguette_warrior-kt8pu4 ай бұрын
Its not like I hate kids because my childhood was bad. In fact, my parents are awesome. My father is sweet and loving and willingly buys me stuff and my mom is like my best friend. I feel like I have been raised correctly with a healthy childhood and healthy relationships with my parents. My reason for hating kids is that most of the kids I have encountered nowadays are just spoiled, straight up spoiled. They act smug, shout and cry whenever things are not done their way, and they also shout at their own parents. I am sure if I had done that my parents would have lectured me and made sure I never shouted at them or disrespected them again... I know it is not right to judge kids this way because again, not all kids are brats and some might be well mannered too, but this is generally how I feel about children. I think they are a waste of time and money... Its not like I hate kids, I just do not like them.
@Sealust503 ай бұрын
I hate them. Gotta take it a step further.
@stro_mpg803917 күн бұрын
@@Sealust50bro u hate ur self then before remember ur memories💀💀