More reason to never force women and girls to be parents against their will. Every child should come into this world wanted!

I’ve never wanted children and it angers me when people ask me to justify that. The answer is because I don’t want to and I don’t have to.

Children don’t threaten me. It’s just they are annoying.

I don't hate kids, I just see them as small people and I see their true selves. So if a kid is genuinely sweet, kind, fun and creative and open to me as a person, we can connect and enjoy each others company. But I have often found that kids are loud, obnoxious, demanding, and these days especially, very spoiled. I don't find them to be nice people, just because they are children. I've seen a lot of cruelty, bullying, deceptive behaviour, lying and lot's of manipulation. People overlook all of it and say "oh but they are so cute" or "oh they are just kids and don't know any better" and I look at the kids faces when people say this, and I can tell that they knew exactly what they did and are now enjoying being let off simply for being a child. I feel the same way about elderly people. The stereotypical "sweet old lady", is a joke. There are sweet lovely people of all ages, but to generalize and say all old people are sweet, or all children are lovely and kind is just being blind to reality.

For me, it is not just " dislike" .. I think that they are a huge responsibility and deserve love, giving and security that I cannot provide, so life without children is better for me and them

People with autism might hate them because they are so loud and it's painful to be around.

I don’t want kids because honestly, I don’t have 18+ years to waste raising another little human who may or may not grow up to be a grateful adult. Plus, once kids come along, life is pretty much over for the parents, and I am not about to go through that.

I don’t hate kids or wish them ill thoughts. I just don’t like being around them or play with them. I just prefer animals.. that’s it.

I’ve only met one or two people in my entire lifetime, who dislike children as much as I do.

I feel bad for your grandmother. Claiming that people who don't like or want children "don't have a self" or are "false" is ridiculous. Some people just don't like kids, it's not a pathology.

I keep coming back to this video & trying to write this comment but it keeps not coming out quite right, but basically not to disregard what you're saying (because I think it's true for a lot of people) but the way females are expected to like/want/have children is fucking inherently traumatizing, at least it was for me & I imagine it is for anyone else born female who was made the default free babysitter when they were too young for that responsibility. I'm not going to go into it because it's really overwhelming but basically I have PTSD around children and it's not because I have a poor relationship with my inner child or something, or maybe I do in some ways but it's not related to that. Literally kids were just left in my care when I myself was still a child, still desperately in need of adult attention & a lot of traumatizing shit ensued & I think that's a valid reason for not liking kids that's completely separate from what you're talking about here, and I think it's just different when you're born female. Everyone thinks because you have ovaries you're naturally equipped to nurture & you like it & you never want to stop and I hate it I hate it so so so so so so much.

I think unwanted children know they were unwanted and suffer that trauma throughout their lives. I have known two such people, both borderline/narcissists. This is why the rights to birth control (not the toxic pill!), necessary abortions and the morning after pill are vital to protect. Children should be conceived only in loving, secure relationships.

No I seriously don’t like children because I don’t have the Patience with them

Hahaha you hit the nail on the head, Daniel. I disliked myself as a kid intensely, I couldn't wait to grow up as I had so little freedom and was judged harshly. And now I dislike children, I could be nice to them but I can't stand them for more than half an hour.

What a load of crap. I had an absolutely amazing childhood and I don’t like kids. As a child, my parents were extremely loving and doting and I was the center of my grandfather’s existence. In fact, my childhood was the best time of my life. I hated kids though even when I was a kid. Even as a child, I got along with adults better. I always found kids loud, gross, gauche, unrefined, and generally unpleasant.

I think your problem is you're looking at this from the perspective that everyone should want and love children and how can the world make people love children again - which is wrong in so many ways. Sure, trauma might play a part in some cases but definitely not all of them. It's not a crime to hate children and people are allowed to have that opinion. I hate infants too, they're ugly, all look the same, creepy to be around (hate how they stare), and the idea that they were inside a body is revolting and I don't ever want to be pregnant/give birth. They're loud and obnoxious and the things people say about them are disturbing and creepy - ex: smelling them/saying they have a good smell - which is false and creepy to watch. Children have no sense of sanitation (or I should say the parents never taught them). No sense of personal boundaries (I don't give them consent to touch me). They say rude things and act out (although this can be blamed on bad parenting). Plus, I know I won't be a good parent and it's abuse to force someone be have children when they don't want them. I feel bad for your grandmother. She probably never wanted kids but was forced to because she was a woman. Its sad to hear.

Daniel, what if most children are unwanted? What if that's the norm? I think it's the norm.

I don't mind kids as long as they go home with someone else.

I don't think you're right entirely. I didn't have children, I dont particularly like other peoples children much. It's not so much that I didn't like MYSELF as a child, as I think I had some quite amazing points, but I didn't like my CHILDHOOD. So I wouldn't want to re-create this for someone else. A poor relationship with victimised parents leaves you feeling cold about being a parent, why bother, it's not a great situation / hard work / not worth it. I was a smart kid but I was bullied. So I don't think its about not liking yourself as much as not liking your childhood. Also, let's be honest, a lot of children are just awful narcissistic bratty little horrors. Not exactly inspirational.

Some of us just don't find kids [or kid culture] fascinating. You're making it more complicated than needed. I'm just not interested in children.

Kids are not a blessing. They are the worst financial decision a person can make.

The point about people not even having a true self was interesting. I don't even know if it's possible to have a true self pre-grieving given most of your interests and habits are all built around keeping your traumas at bay.

Having children or even being around children requires patience that some people don’t have. I know I am one who doesn’t have it and for me, the thought of being subjected to childish nonsense isn’t appealing. I will always avoid and ignore kids and I don’t think that makes me a bad person.

I don't like kids, in fact I have rather negative emotions towards them. Now I would never hurt or yell at a kid, but I try to avoid them to my best capabilities. They are loud, nasty, rude and demanding, little narcs. Just overall exhausting being that consume the attention and energy of those around them. That's too much for me. Along with the thought of the things that happen during pregnancy it's a hard no from me. I will never have my own, I don't think babies and kids are cute either.

Children frequently demonstrate behaviors that we would never tolerate in adults - and for good reason we tolerate them in kids because kids deserve more leeway; they’re young and they don’t know any better. But it’s important to acknowledge that disliking kids is a reasonable response to have to them because even the best behaved of kids will at times be unbelievably rude, self-centered, demanding and unhygienic, and we’d also dislike any adults that showed those traits.

I never had children. My sister hates children. We had a terrible toxic family upbringing filled with violence, abuse, drugs and alcohol all denied and masked by prominence and charming intelligence on the side of my father. Who would ever believe such a charming man could at times be such a monster and triangulate and project and smear and demean and criticize and belittle and shame his own daughters. I think when you grow up in toxic families where the parent causes such divisiveness then children think the children are bad and learn children are bad so why would they want children. It’s really sad the whole dynamic is cloaked in denial.

No need for an analysis. Some women genuinely DO NOT LIKE KIDS OR BABIES. We don’t have to . I can’t stand them and have never been maternal at all. For women who want them, great (good way to care for the over populated planet). I was happy lone wolf child by the way and still am and I like me a lot too. So, get a life mate!

I have 4 children and I actually HATE being a parent, it's horrible, they take over your life, they ruin lives, u get no sleep, they make poor choices, u have to drop them off and pick them up, they leave toys all over the place, it's just horrible, the bed wetting, the day care, the crying .....

My mother didn’t want kids. We were all supposed to be aborted. My mother could careless about us. She abandon us periodically for whatever new man was in her life. I as the oldest and the only girl, I had to be my brother’s mother and my mother’s mother. I think I’m done being self sacrificing for others. I put college on the back burner. I work 2-3 jobs at a time for years, to put food on the table and keep lights on. I wasn’t able to be a teenager or a young adult I was too busy being a full-fledged mother. So, I’m not trying to do that again. No kids for me!!!!

I’ve always been uncomfortable around and disgusted by children, and recently started making the connection between that and how I felt/feel about myself as a kid. I’m glad I found this video, thank you for making it. 🙏

It seems to me that most people like the idea of children, but hate real children. It's like a society of narcissists: they like the idea of other people, then hate the same people when they aren't the fantasy version they idealized before.

or maybe sometimes people may dislike children simply because they have seen them in bad moments like tantrum and therefore have developed negative associations with them.

As someone who doesn't want kids, from my experience my childhood has nothing to do with it I have mostly nothing but fond memories. For me it has to do with my siblings having many children (I have over 7 nephews and nieces) and the fact that they were all undisciplined.

I don't like kids because I taught for a few years. I got out of the profession but my dislike for children has remained.

“A lack of self”, c’mon. Don’t be so quick on considering people you don’t understand merely wicked. We, those not crazy about children, already get that from society every day.

I just dislike children in general for the same reason I dislike dogs. They're loud and obnoxious. (and messy). I like peace and quiet around me. I don't think it has anything to do with how I was as a kid.

I am not wasting my life taking care of a kid that might not even be a functional human being in society. I ain't having kids. If I want to be child free I will be child free

In today's society I couldn't imagine having kids. the way kids are now a days I do not approve. I took a job working with foster kids with high behavior problems just solidified the fact that I do not like children! The funny thing is that the kids I work with are in the system because their parents cant or won't deal with them anymore so they pay us to raise these little bad people!

I have a very uneasy relationship with children (my nephews and niece especially) cause I envy them and what they get to have that I didn't and you're dead on, it's triggered my unmet needs and old grief from childhood. I won't trauma dump, but I will say so much of my childhood was taken from me so early, and I wasn't really allowed to be a child in a traditional sense. I tend to age regress for this reason

I had an amazing childhood, and all I remember from it is overwhelming amounts of love! But I still hate children. I don't believe everything is always as deep as people want it to be! It could just be the fact that the screeching and screaming is obnoxious, they're expensive, they're needy, they need their asses wiped, some people are just honest with themselves. I think someone that has kids knowing they don't like them is just irresponsible especially with the amount of contraception in the world today! I think what we have here is someone trying to make themselves feel better about a bad situation when they were young! When somebody grows up thinking THEY were the problem, it's natural to project it back on the people that made them feel that way! I'm not trying to be rude, so I hope this isn't taken that way, but to say it's only healthy for an adult to like children is ridiculous! The person is reaching at that point!

I love how insightful your videos are. 💖✨ Love love love videos like this! It speaks to the raw authentic truth of reality. How damaging adults are to children, often so unknowingly - yet it can do immense damage and suffering to those kids long term. I don’t mind kids most of the time except I’m extremely sensitive to sounds and smells... nooooo thank you ... I’m also just extremely puzzled why anyone would bring another lamb to the slaughterhouse. I agree though there is definitely some truth to not liking kids being correlated to not loving a part of your own little inner child. I don’t think people like themselves either though to impose and bring new life here as well. Just because someone is a parent doesn’t mean that they truly love their kid. Usually they want a mini me and someone they can control, exploit, use for their own agendas such as expecting them to handle and solve the worlds problems OR take care of them in their old age. It’s absolutely bullshit... and I don’t understand why we keep it going. Life is full of immense suffering.

I don't like children, will never have them but I have little cousins that I love, but don't have any relationship with (so far). I don't consider myself as evil person, just not interested in interacting with anyone below 12. Saying that I was loved as child, had and still have loving family, parents are still together etc. I just don't like little loud annoying kids 🤷🏼‍♀️

My lack of empathy towards people including children would make being a father impossible, I'm a cold individual with little connection to my family, they're there but not there, I'm best off alone, a child in my life would soon find another place to be.

I worked as a server at a restaurant many years ago while in college. A mother and her two boys came in for lunch. The 5 year old yelled at me to get him a plate. That’s when I decided I didn’t like kids. 😂 But seriously kids are so disrespectful these days and this is coming from a Millennial. It’s hard to like them because of their parents for the most part.

I had an amazing childhood with a woman who genuinely adores children as a Mother. I just don't like children; I'm introverted and like quiet! Being a parent requires energy and patience that I do not have.

It seems like a tall order to ask everyone must like kids. One must have a strong reservoir of energy, physical health and mental strength to cope with the demand of kids. Also some psychologists say children are narcissistic by nature. If it’s true, that’s one more reasonable reason some people are not fond of children. There’s nothing wrong about it.

I think you are exactly right. I chose not to have kids in order to stop the generational cycle of abuse and neglect I experienced in my family. Before learning about inner child work, I didn't understand why I feltl animosity toward a well cared for child or baby on television. My mom had a rough upbringing and my dad was a narcissist. Emotionally, she had nothing left to give and was probably suffering from depression. We were never hugged or talked to. I remember sitting at the kitchen table at around 7 yrs old, trying to have a casual conversation with her, but nothing. I was on my own. Subconsciously I am jealous of people from close, loving families because I missed out on that.

I like kids that are quiet and sweet or when they mature but most kids are gross/dirty and annoying. Even exceptionally cute kids tend to be covered in food and snot. But I can’t stand when moms don’t hide their disdain for their children, to me that’s abusive. Kids know when you can’t stand them, even when you’re the mom.

My childhood was great, but when I see kids I wince. I hate how noisy and obnoxious are they

What you describe with your grandmother and father can happen without them ever being open about or even councious of it. Some people think they like children but behave the same way as your relatives did. They do it for the cover, or by obligation. I know my parents loved me in some primal way but as far as I can remember they were not at all interested in me, my tastes, my friends, my thoughts. We became and are still becoming more and more astranged as time goes by.

I was a kindergarten teach for one amazing year where I was run ragged by other people's kids. I still loved them all. Sometimes more than their own parents. Funny how "grow up" is the go to insult for so many people. I'm like WTF, you use kids to insult people? Crazy.

I haven't like children since I was 5. I'm 33 now and still detest kids. I'll be kind around them, but I'll leave as soon as one comes around or near me. Walmart was the best b.c ever.

Can't stand babies and kids at all. I'm a 64 year old female and NEVER liked them - never WANTED them. Haven't changed one inkling bit, and it has NOTHING to do with how my childhood was either because I had a wonderful childhood.

I dont think thats true. I had an amazing childhood, loved by my parents. But i just cant stand kids, im not mean to them but i dont like to interact or be close to them. I see their entitled behavior, them being little shits and missbehaving and demanding stuff like little roalty... It grosses me out how mean children can be amongst themselves... Theres no such thing as "inocent angels" theyre all devils that should be disciplined.

I went to the gym today and I blew up in anger, they were having a day camp, 200 kids at least were running around, I realize now I hate the noise of 200 children I can’t even think. Maybe I do need to do this inner child stuff. Maybe someday I will like children again but not today.

Sorry but I call bullshit! Yeah I had a shitty childhood too. I was an only child with an alcoholic dad. My mother bless her heart, loved me and over protected me and I'm sure she wished I was more popular and confident but I just wasn't . I knew I never wanted kids by the time I graduated high school. No man was ever going to change my mind. Kids today are pampered pups who are over coddled and needy. The cost of childcare is barbaric. Leave childfree women alone!

I love my neices and nephews, and babies, but beyond that kittens and puppies are way cuter. Some kids surprise me by being adorable but, on the whole, I would rather stay away. I'm not afraid to admit that but when I have occasion to, often someone else will confide, in a whisper, that they feel the same

I don't like the child I was at all and dealt with a lot of emotional neglect. My family situation forced me to put almost every aspect of my personality on the backburner and put on the face of my parents, then later, despite being the youngest, I became a councillor for my entire family. But it caused me to instead love children more than anything, I find their innocence and lack of knowledge endearing, and I feel like I have a duty to show them love and care and protect them, because they'll turn out better that way, even if I just babysit them for like 1 day or something. One good memory can have the potential to change a child for the rest of their lives. Instill a sense hope for humanity within them.

I have spent thousands of dollars over the years trying to verbalise this with therapists and they just did not get it. I don't even know how to thank you for this video. I feel you understand me.

Kids are a waste of money, why throw your life away? If you have a kid, you are not yourself anymore. You died as a person and you will just be a parent without life and free time. No thank you

The society has high expectations on women and expect them to give birth (at high cost of their own life) and love their kids with their own life while they never had enough love from the world themselves… never force women to have kids…

You have to be very empathetic, loving and caring to be a half decent parent. If you have issues from your past and have kids, then your`e likely to pass those issues onto them, and they will pass them on to their own kids, creating a generational curse.

I agree whole heartedly with this video. My childhood wasn't perfect but I definitely was loved and felt nurtured and safe. I liked myself as a child then and now for the most part and look back at most childhood memories fondly. Because of this when I'm caring for kids I'm excited to see them feel the excitement, nurture, and build their own memories like I did and better. Like my parents I'm proactively protective but open minded. Children are so earnest and more powerful than they're given credit for. I feel a combination of experience, study, and one's own childhood can effect their perspective on children. Reading the comments I want to say liking kids and not wanting kids are two different things. I adore caring for children and for a long time wanted to be a mother. However, I no longer want to have kids due to the world we live in, my financial situation, and desiring to focus on my own personal growth. Its possible to like kids but not want to have your own. Bringing another consciousness into this world is a big choice and often its more moral not to. But for those already here, they deserve all the care they can get.

Sir, it's more complicated than that. Apparently you rarely spend time in restaurants on the weekends.

I’ll be forever thankful that I had a vasectomy when I was 26. One of the best decisions I’ve made!

A commitment I never wanted. Never ever got pregnant. I have some awesome animals and that makes me happy!

I don’t like children but I love my inner child. The interesting thing is that when I go back to that time in my head it’s when I felt like my mom loved me so like 9 to 12.

I disagree. I dislike kids because I'm disabled, in a ton of pain and kids are just annoying, rough with a ton of energy. It's not their fault - they act like kids but one accidental tap from them means I'm in a ton of pain for the day. I can play with them for a couple hours and will be there in an emergency but that's my limit. It's a reason why I won't have kids.

I dont want kids because I like myself too much to waste anything from my free will and possibilities I can experience in life. I spend tremendous time to understand myself and the others as many other childfree people who just dont enjoy the presence of kids. They want to have some meaningful conversation with adults and if they never or very rarely spend time with babies they obviously dont usually know how to behave around them. In fact, I think you are speaking from a place of hurt putting all those folks into one bin. As you said, your grandma was never mean to you, she didn't want to hurt you, she was just living her life - the fact she had your dad and didn't want him just shows us that back in the days it was expected from women to carry and raise kids and her generation wasn't raised to have a room for deep self-reflection, therapy etc.. But your dad decided to have kids and thats not on her, it wasnt her decision, she never ment to hurt you but she couldnt do any better. And am speaking from a place where my dad's mum was the same and died also when I was 12. I understand her even tho my mum's side of the family is very motherly and supportive. I know what love means and I want to share that with my partner - an adult. Not to waste years and kill this planet even more with producing another humans.

I'm proudly childfree. And I do not like children much at all. They're self centered annoying and entitled. My childhood was pretty good.

I had an awful childhood. I never wanted children. My spouse wanted a child, so I did it for them. I've had to relive my terrible childhood again.

I remember my grandma didn’t like me and use to pretend like didn’t exist. She’d feed and give cookies to the other grandkids and never gave me eye contact or offered me what she offered her other grandkids. I remember wondering if she could even see me. It was very hurtful. In sixth grade she died and I couldn’t feel for a stranger. I asked if I could skip her funeral and go to school instead.

I'm leaving this comment before watching the video, I'll come back and edit this if I end up making a tit out of myself, but I often say I don't like children as a response to people asking me why I don't want children. The response I get is nearly always "that will change when you have your own". It always shocks me how flippently people say that. I mean sure let's just roll the dice on that. The real truth here is that Im not sure if I would like raising a child, I haven't been one for ages, I haven't been around a child for just as long. Any idea I have of what raising a child is fiction. And to be frank it's too great a responsibility for someone with my issues. Saying I don't like children is a quicker way to say that without upsetting parents themselves. Edit : good video Daniel and it's hard to disagree with what you said. Children are harder to "fool", or maybe more accurately I'm better at fooling adults

Ya can't say I agree to this at all. I had a very nurturing and loving childhood with amazing parents. I love animals but still don't like children. I loved myself then and was super talented and I love myself now and am very conscious about my growth.

I am so fortunate to having a loving set of grandmother's and grandfather's.

This was my Grandmother too. I spent a lot of time there but we had no relationship. I was just baby sat. Honestly, I didn't like her either🤣 What's so funny, she baby sat tons of kids and lavished all kinds of love on them. That confused me until I heard things she said about me to others. I don't really remember any hugging or anything and as a child I noticed that. She was a very angry woman about her own life.

i really dont like children either

Daniel you just described several generations of my family. So much truth and depth in this talk. Thanks.

My mother often said she did not like kids, only her own. And she did not like "whiners". Her mother told me she wished she had made my choice to have no kids, but she was born in 1907. I NEVER told my mother what she said. That would be cruel.

I’m good with kids and kids like me, but I don’t want children. I don’t really have patience.

My grandmother never said she did not like kids but she always gave me the vibe that she did not really like kids (or me). I also had no relationship with her, but to be fair, she moved to a foreign country when I was 4, and I rarely saw her after that.

Wow! Thank you Daniel for sharing your thoughts about children from and in dysfunctional families. I think this video is one of your best. I don't remember my childhood, that is why I survived my trauma. I have been working hard for a long time to know, feel who I really am. I can recall, that very early as a child I didn't like my family, I was so afraid of a woman, who supposed to be my mother. I recently heard the proper name for her, an attachment figure.

I had an incredibly happy childhood but I dont like kids at all. How does your ridiculous theory account for that?

I'm not so sure it's always that a person dislikes themselves. A lot of people just grew up in toxic families and don't know how to relate to kids. If you barely got to have a childhood yourself, it's unlikely you know how to act with a kid who is in the midst of their childhood. A lot of people also just dislike the way the world treats kids and don't personally want kids as a result. It's not even a dislike, necessarily, but they just don't see kids as relevant to their lives. I used to think this was a new thing but I actually suspect parents have felt this for many hundreds of years and it's just something that is not talked about very often. So many people just have kids because they feel they're supposed to but thank goodness that is changing.

I don't think this is right for me. I have had wonderful parents throughout my life who have always shown me so much love and care, and I am grateful for that. But when I have to take care of a child, I feel very stressed and bored doing it. I do my best not to show my true feelings directly to the child, but in my mind I beg his mother to take them away from me. So, unless I missed some points, I don't think my dislike of children stems from a trauma. But what this video reminds me is that kids are still human beings who can be traumatized by the shitty behavior of adults. It was heartbreaking to hear about your experiences with your father and grandmother, but I honestly doubt that I, as a parent, would have been any different. This is exactly why society needs to stop gaslighting people because they don't like children, or even forcing them to have children. Because if a person can't handle being a parent, they will likely turn into another example of your grandmother (by the way, I'm not saying childhood trauma can't cause a person to dislike children. But not everything can be boiled down to this one factor).

For some it's a personal choice outside of trauma and for others it's devine intervention through living that trauma. I had such childhood trauma that it shames me from seeing a little version of myself judging me as a failure.

It’s a form of bigotry. Hating a group of people based on immutable characteristics is, by definition, bigotry. If your dad said she doesn’t like Black people everyone would be disgusted.

Just because an Adult doesn’t like kids…doesn’t mean they’re false or don’t have a sense of self. It’s the exact opposite. If you don’t connect, then you don’t connect. You can’t force any type a relationship. The people who don’t like kids have a right to NOT like them. That’s being REAL! That’s being honest. That’s the Truth. Period!

Fantastic! I've always loved children, and never understood how someone could dislike them. But it makes sense, the fakeness fading. you cannot be fake around children, that's why I love them

Mr. Daniel Mackler, sir. Could you please give a brief personal opinion about doctor Todd Grande? He is becoming a very popular online therapist lately and many of his viewers have praised or criticized his opinions. In my opinion, he seems like another Doctor Phil lite.

I literally hate them, but that’s not the only reason I’m childfree

I find it entirely predictable that those whose childhoods were traumatic would go on to perpetrate further trauma. The fact they are even aware of their distaste for others is a degree of integration that actually surprises me. Sounds like you would have done well to get to know those ones.

i dont really mean it when i say i hate kids. i love kids, and i’m really good at entertaining them. i just get easily annoyed at times by them, but i never treat them rudely. they’re precious, and bringing adult attitudes to their lives isn’t healthy.

I will never do kids ,i dont like babies or kids, but i do not want to hurt others ,i just want them to stay away from me. My parents always abused me physically and emotionally and this world is shitty, i dont want to bring someone here. And I disagree I do like myself, i dont think that i will have so much time to care for myself to the fullest if i have someone to raise. Im complete just with my partner, i dont need someone else to fulfill me .

I love children. But I don't want them just because I love them. They're a mental and financial burden for life and there's no freedom from it. I love them, but I love me first.

it might be true for some people. but to me, i am fully loved unconditionally by my parents and grandma, but it doesn't change the fact that I don't like children and I don't want to be a caregiver. I simply like being alone and don't want to invest 70% of my life energy into another human being, while i had so much passion to explore the other aspect of the world. Life is just life, no one said we must love children.

If you don’t wanna have kids that’s your business. I don’t have them. And when tons of people online proclaim their hatred of children, I’m not offended; I’m terrified. In saying you hate kids, you announce that you would potentially treat them as less than human. It might be a big joke to you, but it actually comes off as a threat. I want people who flippantly say they hate kids to think about that for a second. Our world is increasingly precarious. Natural disasters and shootings strip normalcy from our lives increasingly more often - to say nothing of more normal emergencies. What if there’s a fire or a flood, and kids are around? Will you leave them behind? Will you not work with the group to survive because the group involves kids? Hell, it could be as simple as a car crash. What would you do if kids are present? Understand that for those of us who don’t hate kids, we immediately run that simulation in our minds when you say you hate children. You are announcing you are potentially untrustworthy.

I disagree with the idea in the video. I had an amazing healthy childhood and still dislike children as a 35 year old woman, and that's because I don't have the patience or energy to deal with them, and I see them as huge responsibility.

Must be nice to literally sit there and psychoanalyze complete strangers you know NOTHING about👍 I grew up as a very happy child in a loving and supportive environment and have a good life, so your tortured inner child theory doesn't apply to me. While I agree that children should ALWAYS be loved and cherished in every way possible I still find them very annoying. Children are young human beings who possess their own ways of thinking, based on their lived experiences. Which means they're very much capable of being more than weak little angels. So give them more credit than that.

Its not like I hate kids because my childhood was bad. In fact, my parents are awesome. My father is sweet and loving and willingly buys me stuff and my mom is like my best friend. I feel like I have been raised correctly with a healthy childhood and healthy relationships with my parents. My reason for hating kids is that most of the kids I have encountered nowadays are just spoiled, straight up spoiled. They act smug, shout and cry whenever things are not done their way, and they also shout at their own parents. I am sure if I had done that my parents would have lectured me and made sure I never shouted at them or disrespected them again... I know it is not right to judge kids this way because again, not all kids are brats and some might be well mannered too, but this is generally how I feel about children. I think they are a waste of time and money... Its not like I hate kids, I just do not like them.