Grew up with a mother who told us anger was a sin, but then when she was angry it was acceptable. Pointing out her behavior resulted in further punishments.

Most children recognize gaslighting asap, even well-meaning gaslighting. And there is a term called “toxic positivity”, that is major gaslighting too, even to your own self.

You are describing me now and the anger I was not allowed to express or even cry. I have lived a life without feeling any emotions in order to not sin, be good for my parents. A life of not belonging, or being loved but expected to help everyone else including being a servant at home to my parents and brother. I knew I was the least of any but accepted because I was a servant. Screwed up Christianity!! I am walking in a vacuum. Isolated, unloved, floating not knowing who I am anymore. I have no friends anymore as I dropped all these people who were sucking me dry. I am so tired and empty. Thank you Pastor Tim for your teaching. I understand my diagnosis so much better but it seems so huge to keep growing. Ruth

Nothing is more infuriating to me than when someone says "Fake it until you Make It". That has no meaning whatsoever and it's utter garbage.

Angry mom, back to back punishments for just asking or raising a question? Such and irony that what we were born with naturally, the art of saying no for our safety was snatched previously by my a caretaker and now we are re leaning and it’s so so f in hard.

man. i repressed so much anger. at 49 i'm tired and fed up with it.

True. I pretend I’m good but as soon as a trigger comes up I immediately fall back into the anger.

I was diagnosed with adrenal fatigue in my late 20's - as well as IBS. Going no contact and focusing on my healing, growth & maturity has provided so much relief physically and mentally.

When i was 10, after years of traumatic events and difficult parental relationships, in which they were never wrong, my mum made a suicide attempt, and never returned to my family home. I was devastated by the loss, tried to keep the household care tasks going, without complaint, was bullied at school, and absent angry father ( busy 24/7). I overheard my Dad say on the phone to a relative, about me, " oh shes fine, shes handling it really well. " I experienced such an intense flash of rage and hurt, i nearly passed out. From that moment for the next 14 years, i did not experience the emotion of anger. At all. I was the ' nice girl', ' the good student'. As a result, i was a complete victim, repeatedly victimised. I couldnt protect myself, i had no anger energy. It took many more years to regain a basic healthy emotional response and resillience, and to be able to live a normal life, without chronic stress, social phobias, bodily pain and depression. I now have Hashimoto's, and my stomach is terribly oversensitive and reactive.

"be angry about stuff" it's easier said than done, when one are in this chronic freeze response and you don't feel anything at all 😅

The biggest problem I had was not honoring myself

12:15 wearing a mask 28:52 7 A's of healing. 1. Acceptance: courage to look at past, say it was crappy, did damage, but cannot redo, must accept. Not going to keep getting angry or wish I had another life. Starting point.

Thank you for giving me the tools I was craving to learn as a child I don’t blame my parents they were hurt and sick too , but I want to get and be healthy and not living on disability due to the trauma ❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Anger from being the scapegoat for decades caused the premature death of my husband….he had healed his mind quite a bit w/EMDR, cbt, chanting….but his body didn’t recover

@Tim Fletcher I joined tonight to say thank you for everything you're doing for all of us. Your videos are excellent. The fact that you tie in ministry at the end makes it perfect. I thank God for putting people like you on my path of healing. You give a delivery in your lectures like no other. I feel it coming from your heart. I really appreciate your authenticity. It enables me to respect you and pay attention. That's the only way I can think to say that. All Praise To The Most High💜🔥✝️💯

Jim Fletcher presents such valuable information so effectively, and with love. So grateful!

You disconnect from it, not because you don't know it's a mechanism that keeps you from blowing your brains out. Like my ex-wife, the mind can only handle so much and then it disconnects. But there is a price to pay addiction or insanity or death. Then when you're more able to handle issues that you didn't have the psychological tools to understand they become manageable in a, mindfulness order.

Gosh, I stumbled across this channel and found all your content is so precious. Thank you so so much for sharing that knowledge with us. Blessings. ❤

Tim Fletcher, this is so good! You know it's the truth when what you hear brings on that back of the throat prickling of imminent tears, of finally being understood. I once heard 'behind anger is fear & behind fear is longing'. I have been told "you're just angry" and so, not acceptable. Now I know why.

Trusting god was like trusting Lucy with the football-sorry, believing in false assistance makes CPTSD worse. However, Tim Fletcher is phenominal at explaining CPTSD

Instead of a PTSD dog, we all should have an Emotional Support Ram 🐏

I have autoimmune, IBS, fibromyalgia, poor sleep, depression and brainfog. I fixed some with diet but still struggling and know I have a lot of unresolved anger. I am a codepend and take a lot of lies and disrespect. I also denied it my whole life. I denied my childhood trauma.

This was the most important and complete message I’ve ever received on what I’m dealing with in my journey of healing from complex trauma! I’m blown away. ❤🙌🏼🙌🏼

Dr. Mate is a work of art. Im grateful for him🙏🏻🙏🏻

I grew up with a mum and a brother who would get angry and violent at anything, and I think I went too far in the other direction. I suppress anger when I should be angry, because I was so terrified of them, and it comes out inevitably, it's made me sick, all this anger and sadness.... I wish I could just go to heaven.

Thanks beloved ! I can confirm that fibromyalgia is caused by repressed anger and incapacity to say "no", because I was exactly like that and was really sick. Abba Father leads me to healness by helping me expressing the anger, and say "no" when it is "no" without culpability. I cannot say that I am completly healed, but it is rare now to have crisis. HalaluYah ♪♫

This makes me want to return to Christianity. It brings such relief to hear these after living with a narcissist and leaving finally a couple days ago trying to start over now. I need God more than ever and believe I was led to these videos on how to heal myself and how to in the future when the time is right, be within an intimate relationship.

I knew your body's emotions impact your health.

Incredible / sad... perhaps this is why my parents died so young.... my body so full of aches /chronic pain.... stuffed emotions...

These lessons are life changing 🙏🏽

God's Will for me is outlined in the Holy Bible. Someone actually blessed me with that just this year. Simple. Who would have thought.

This is so spot on. My mom died of breast cancer at 40 (I was just 11) she had big psychological issues that she unfortunately vented on me by abusing me emotionally and physically. Anger literally killed her, and it has also destroyed my health (eating disorder, chronic pain, etc) my grandmother (who probably passed her issues to my mom) " forgot" her pain by developping alzheimer after my mom died.

Very useful information presented in a very caring way. Thanks.

❤️ I’ve listened all the anger episodes…still some to go. But this one is so clear! Thank you so much Tim, you explain it so in detail…It gives me such inside to see what my problem could solve. ❤️

This is exceptional content and I am grateful to have found it 🙏 God bless you 🕊️

Diseases represented by religious groups of roles given to women to fill . Facing the perception women must fill roles or be disrespected. Taught to ignore and be what you don’t want to be.

WOW. It's very rare that i've been able to find information on the effects of the death of a parent as a child. I do remember finding one statistic that about 5% of people lose their parents as a child. so 5% of the population but 40 % of cancer patients. My mind is blown right now. I found this video because I lost my dad when I was 8 and I've spent the last few years exploring repressed grief. It's occurred to me recently that I never experience anger and I need to address repress anger as well. Everything i've been reading and hearing about repressed anger rings true to me, particularly the psychosomatic effects in the body. I started grinding my teeth when I was 18. I've had shoulder pain since my early 20s. My legs started aching constantly for no apparent reason in my early 30s.

Hugely helpful scientific info in the first portion. One of the best sermons at the end. Very well done.

Incredible. Thank you from the bottom of my ❤️

I just can’t get enough of this! Thanks

The only person allowed to be angry in my family was my father. Then my brother deceloped a strategy where he became even more violent than our father, whilst mother & i descended into depression & panic attacks. Father is now 98 & still as controlling & manipulative as ever. I'm the only one left (mother & two brothers all passed away) & he tells everone how terrible i am & they all believe him, thinking he's fantastic still living independently. He has an interfering lady friend & he doesn't realise she's playing him as much as he's playing her - like attracts like. They knows the truth of his violence or how it affected me. I can't wait for all this to be over so i can eventually find some peace - i can't put things in the past while they continue to happen in the present. The physical violence has stopped but not the disgusting mind games & manipulation. I'm in my 60s now & keep telling myself, 'this, too, will pass' but i just don't know when.

This is a God-send

Interesting. I have been sick and well enough times to know that in getting well, at some point I go thru anger. My husband and sister are chronically sick. They refuse to get angry.

Let's see I've had uterine fibroids, 2 knee surgeries, part of my kidney removed and the last, bone marrow transplant in 2020 to beat leukemia, because my DNA mutated. I'm healthy and strong otherwise but have loved my entire adult life in and out of the hospital. Everything you speak about happened in my childhood. These are painful pills to swallow and it's like being punched in the gut, but just like the chemotherapy, I need this to restart my system. This therapy is the stem cells to my new life. It really hurts to hear that because of the way you were treated as a child will lead you to a life of physical illness and suffering, it's like reaffirming how much your family of orign hated you. Ugh. Thank you so much for putting out these series. And you everyone reading this, I send you nothing but love. Not to have toxic positivity, but we are facing this head on which means, it's only up from here 💞💕💗

All my questions about why do my children and myself behave in certain ways is answers by listening to your wonderful talk but I wish I know how to help myself and my young adult children. I can’t find any talk about how to fix these childhood wounds 😢

I enjoy the way you present yourself and explain things very clearly so thank you

My caretaker used to weaponise basic needs. I expressed anger once and I was threatened with being thrown out of house. I was 12 yo. I never expressed anger again. I used to shelve it and smile painfully most of the times. Sadly I carried the same approach to my other relationships. Working on it now

Wow! Tim Fletcher, this is so far the best lesson I 've heard from your channel! Thank you so very much for this lesson!

Thank you…I am beginning to be aware of the repressed anger in my life and the effect it has had on my health at all levels. Thank you

Thank you for all of your information. You provide such a service to so many.

I would like some advice for when you do start setting boundaries and taking your mask off: how to find safe connections because in my experience everybody that was in my life that I was connected to were only there because I didn’t have boundaries. They were in relationship with me only for what they got out of it. so starting over is very difficult especially when you still feel subconsciously, draw to the familiar

My mother was an anorexic, hypochondriac who micromanaged my every move and whined about her health all day long and would ignore me for days if she felt slighted in the least. My father was verbally and physically abusive, and only spoke to me to tell me I’m a fuck up. 40 years later, I am horribly controlled by someone I thought would love me to make up for all the love I never get. Lol once a fuck up akways a fuck up. 🏆

I find the lectures very good, very helpful, but at the same time quite heavy. I feel like going through all of the lectures will take me like 6 months. Firstly, there are many of them (thanks for that!); secondly, I can only do one lecture every other days, I need a couple of days break after each one.

❤ thanks pastor Tim. So appreciative. These videos are golden.

Thank you for these talks/presentations. As I listen to you, I have the impression that you are talking about me, and, indeed, you are. The information you convey and the way you convey it help a lot.

Thank you for sharing this Pastor Tim!!

Expressing anger can cause all sorts of problems…..😂😂😂😂😂. Explosive anger.

Very interesting how the human breast is affected by trauma. It's the organ that stimulates seratonin production and nurtures the new born. It's the only organ to excrete outside of the body that excretes nourishment. All others excrete waste (except perhaps the sweat glands). It's the site of the first emotional bond all of us form. It's the milk of human kindness made manifest. It's also something a mother and child learn to do without in the process of moving from "diode" to individuals. The pièta, the wilfull act of letting go of an attachment (look up Michelangelo's Pièta in Rome).

Love this man. He is such a gift.

Thank you for sharing❤ I am finding your content EXTREMELY healing and therapeutic!!! The “recovery” stage/tools identify emotions, Feel emotions, Manage emotions, Express emotions, and Figure out needs/boundaries to maintain cortisol. The “8” A’s: Acceptance, Awareness, Angry, Atonomy, Attachment, Ascertion, Authentic, & Affirmation

The best class ever. Thanks Tim 👍

thank you, i do think to learn to comunicate your anger is key as an adult , i was repressing it 100%, comunicating it is helpful, to learn how to comunicate it. thank you very helpful.

YOUR SIENCE IS INCORRECT! NO EVERYONE IS THE SAME!

I found this tremendously helpful. Thank you!

I was told it was bad to be angry.. PTSD dog, amazing!

You are describing my life

The way you explain it brings to me great clarity Add to my personal struggles exterior struggles living in Israel and feeling angry at how we are being treated and yet seeing how Arabs can live work in Israel and get help while i as a non Arab Isrseli receive no help from my government and then the world and media accuses Israel of discrimination while i ,a Jewish Israeli with so much PTS from all these wars receive no help is absurd

Blessings as "easy" --- My mom's god is convenience and comfort.

Wow! So much wonderful information to know!!!! Even though at times, just hearing the information, makes it difficult just to breathe.

I just had screaming mimi tantrums as a child. Teenager had hysterical paralysis also in college. Depression all my life. 😢

You are SO helpful ❤

This is fantastic

Wow thank you❤

This one time.. my heroine alcoholic father kidnapped me (a few times) this particular time he had came over to my grandmothers house and pushed pass my protection found me hiding in the attic (it really isn’t the best place to hide, run) He was driving on the freeway where he had simply pulled off to the emergency lane to catch some much needed sleep. It’s now dusk and I can see water so I sneak off for a little wooden adventure.. (I’m 7 keep in mind) I ended up startling some guy who was fishing, I can’t imagine what that COP was thinking!! Good ole pops, wasn’t to happy when some guy woke him up asking if he needed help? That officer saved my butt in more than just one way. Pops passed away in 2019 all by himself in a motel room. Nine days later Pops daughter passed, my sister. How about that global pandemic though..

Very good information.

Thank you ✨🙋🏼‍♀️

This was a great video

Very helpful

Thanks!

Again this is me again n your right on

How can we get so many autoimmune diseases if our immune systems shut down? I recognize the body saying no, though. Was abused online by a psychopath and developed joint pain. While in the most pain, he stepped the abuse up. When I didnt stop answering him, my fingers started shaking and I felt as if I was about to throw up. I felt my body saying "STOP!" Unfortunally too late. I now have 4 autoimmune diseases.

Thank you!

Auto immune disease and not being able to control my rage

Ty sir

Thanks 🙏

A good book is A More Excellent Way by Pastor Henry Wright

Sharing Tim's videos.. For such a time as this.

My dad is a minister.... there ya go.

One thing I am worried about is what if the pain is unresolvable.

Let's remember that anyone can publish a scientific paper. Having a paper published doesn't mean is reliable or accurate even after peer review. Would be nice to see the link to those papers related to cancer to see how they actually did the experiments.

I wonder if this explains recent reactions to something at work where it feels like nobody is listening to me when offering advice or recommendations based on experience. Also had the thought alcohol will absolutely amplify the cortisol effects mentioned. Itd snother layer of physical damage and offset for homeostasis.

go raibh mile maith agat, Tim...another fantastic talk

8:03 AND isolation from the ENVIRONMENTS a person finds themselves in. Cannot separate a person from their environments.

12:45 - Complex Trauma - Living with no boundaries.

I had a dream that saved my granddaughter's life.

Thanks

You forgot practice self compassion....🙏

What a bummer, now I do not have a solution for my cptsd-religion helped cause mine :Scripture says to deny yourself...I did

Masks I'm not sure for me that's the right analogy for my mind. Because I don't think fast enough to keep up with the free flow of information. I am extremely analytical and I may not have an answer this week or longer on a given subject. Because the more I understand the more I realize how little I know.

Will you please tell this to psykiatri and social child Care system. Thank you.