Dr. Christian Conte presents two extremely helpful anger management techniques. For more information about Dr. Conte, visit www.drchristianconte.com
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@DrChristianConte10 жыл бұрын
To everyone who is angry right now - remember this: No matter how bad things get, and no matter how much you're suffering: "This too, shall pass." Everything changes. Absolutely everything.
@zoe514099 жыл бұрын
My mate just got beat up, really, I'm fuming because they went for me aswell. Really not in a good mood. Telling you it was wrong
@rjhernandez09118 жыл бұрын
Wow,I just kinda stumbled on top this and thought I'd give it a watch and wow, very helpful, the Lord puts people in your path for a reason, thanks for this I've just subscribed.
@DrChristianConte8 жыл бұрын
Thanks brother. I wish you much peace.
@rjhernandez09118 жыл бұрын
Christian Conte thanks for that keep doing what you do it helps.
@kmir87 жыл бұрын
Dr. Christian Conte I'm really in pain because of a person of over aggressive personality. He just gets angry over everything and says things that hurts me so much emotionally and kind of gets abusive too. I dunno how to make him understand that it's just weakening our relation. I get hurt so much that Im not able to get back to normal for so many time. Help me.
@bennybenns5 жыл бұрын
I am currently in the final segment of a breakup with my Fiance. She left me. My anger had pushed her away, I lost control. I gave it away. I've been studying several of your videos the last few days, thank you for what you do. The advice through heartbreak is hard to take and to listen to but already some of the techniques you have taught me have already made a small impact on my life. I may never get her back, but maybe one day with enough practice I will be in control of myself. Thank you.
@judeannethecandorchannel2153 Жыл бұрын
My...paused-fiancé? and I have been going thru the same struggle. I think these videos are great. My partner and I can both be rageful, even violent. I seem to mostly only go to that place of extreme anger when I'm in a relationship with an aggressive man. (My schizophrenic mom brings it out in me too, but it's much easier to stop and apologize with her. She doesn't Go To War with me the way the two men I've tried to be with have. Last year I made some progress but got discouraged when he got Much Worse Despite intensive therapy. Now I'm left to wonder--can too much talking about childhood trauma before you've mastered self control make a client with anger issues Much Worse??!? I know the rational thing would be to break up and stay broken up Butv we seem Actually Incapable of falling out of love or resisting each other...
@Skydejavu7 ай бұрын
God bless you and give you the strength to lead a happy life for you!
@ieva59485 ай бұрын
Yes i think whats crucial is to first take back your life and learn how to control, only then dig deeper into reasons and trauma. We came to this conclusion with my therapist.
@SquarePenix.4 ай бұрын
I drove my fiancé away too. I’m an agnostic and she’s a Christian and she kept mentioning how I should look into Christianity with her. Instead of being rational with her; I internalized this as “she’s trying to control me. Don’t take that! Stand up for yourself” and so in an angry outburst, I told her to get the fuck out while she was showering at 2 am. I kicked her out in anger as she was crying and followed her around my house as she got her stuff. About 20 minutes later; I had finally calmed down and told her, begged her even, to stay but at that point, I had already done too much damage. That incident made me look into controlling my emotions; a harsh lesson but a necessary one.
@justetip4 ай бұрын
😳.. whoa
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
A lot of times we don't want to "bother anyone" with our problems - until we realize that we are bothering them with our actions anyway. When I am faced with bothering someone with my actions or bothering a friend by asking for support, I tend to pick asking my friend. More often than not, friends are not actually bothered by us turning to them anyway. If you can, try to seek out a friend or counselor to turn to, even if it's difficult, because none of us needs to face things alone. Much peace
@ashleykindheartministries Жыл бұрын
Thankyou!❤️ I found your video today, and will try to remember what you said. I’m living in India, where people cross “normal” boundaries all the time. They have a whole different set of rules over here about what is polite and what isn’t. Whenever we go out in public, complete strangers touch my children, pinch their cheeks roughly, and try to take them against my will, after I’ve said NO. And sometimes they yank my baby a couple times to see who will win the tug of war!!!!!😭😭😭
@paperchain12395 жыл бұрын
I am in tears because I know I have given so much of my power away to people who just don't deserve it
@pxmaarch79987 жыл бұрын
This is so far the most effective technique I saw on youtube. Other vids are crap. This man just hits me right in the feels.
@DrChristianConte7 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. Sending you much peace!
@allenh783511 ай бұрын
Have to agree on other videos. Incredibly naive and downright stupid advice is all over youtube ! Incompetent professionals that need to stay out of the way and just stfu !
@sambt1235 жыл бұрын
When I’m angry , I usually don’t think. I just act, I punched a gaping hole in my wall because of this
@sarahm28784 жыл бұрын
Same. It's almost like something else inside me completely takes over and I am no longer myself until I come to and see the mess I've created. It's like a monster inside.
@redruby7473 жыл бұрын
M2
@mmvjohnson53 жыл бұрын
@@sarahm2878 same
@tyrannosaurus62 Жыл бұрын
When I get angry. I think and I don’t punch any holes in anything. However I do yell. I get impulsive. But I do somehow manage to control it a little. But I don’t enforce anything in anyone: just don’t touch me.
@urltima Жыл бұрын
I have a hole in my bathroom wall I had to cover up with posters and im gonna hide it from my family til we move 💀
@FreeTibetFTW10 ай бұрын
Eleven years later and still helping people. My own lack of control got me into this puppet situation where my boss is actively trying to get complaints from my coworkers in order to have reasons to fire me (several of them warned me). Now, without these videos, I would've been offended and resentful toward my boss, but it looks like it has been me the one who lend her the power over my person, so I'm the one to blame. I formerly thought of my temperament as a sign of strength, now I realize it has always been a sign of weakness. Thank you for your wisdom
@Bobo4113 жыл бұрын
This video helped me a lot today. I was in a situation I couldn't leave and the person would not stop poking and prodding. Instead of the situation devolving into me yelling and/or crying, I cut the puppet strings and was able to maintain my composure, and the other person was left to be angry to themselves. I did cry when I was alone and ruminated too much afterwards, but that's something I feel like I can keep working on now that I have a base to work from.
@angelic_screams Жыл бұрын
I was a angry person I felt alone and robbed of communication with others I spent years of my life ploting and pushing away people that got in the way of my anger and what upset me or who upset me I put my enemy's that I made from my own poor choices over the people I care about...Loosing friendships along the way I was so disconnected to human interaction and emotional Attachment that all i felt was rage All I had was anger it consumed me I didn't cry for 4 years only shout and break things Once I reached that point I was getting a rush...a high from becoming angry It even changed me sexually I injoyed watching people suffer because of how terrible I felt for years In school I would constantly get in to fights and was always the one who started it I hurt my mother, my brother and myself through all of it But after all of that and realizing who I was i knew I needed to change I started smoking weed Exercising And in general I tried to nature things more And most importantly never shoving my empathy down for anything I feel a lot more now I've worked on myself Don't do the same thing I did Open your heart to love over hate, Hate will solve nothing it only consumes Revenge,anger, and hate will only leave you robbed of hope Robbed of humanity And ultimately turn you in to a monster After not feeling guilty for so long and then waking up to what monster I let manifest I would truly never wish apon any living thing in the mlutiverse I hope someone like me can read this and know what path rage leads you to
@ugo4632 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for this
@matthewsnowdon86288 жыл бұрын
Brilliant and im a teen who got has a bad bad bad temper now this really helped me
@DrChristianConte7 жыл бұрын
Thanks brother. Sending you all the best and much peace for sure!
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
I agree: we have the power to determine how we feel - even though it can be difficult, the fact is, it's possible. Thank you for your comments.
@alekzhdo10 жыл бұрын
This is awesome! it made me realize how I was giving away that power everyday and that it is myself the one who needs to be in control. We often blame the other person but it is up to us to take control.
@DrChristianConte10 жыл бұрын
I think the way I see it is that there is a difference between understanding and practicing. Most people seem to understand (in theory) how to handle anger, but actually living that out can be tough. I wish you much peace.
@timothymcgrath29372 күн бұрын
I just came to this realization, and it's great to hear it affirmed. I'm just tired of giving people control over me. Period.
@nubiangoddess23763 жыл бұрын
This is great advice. The way you present/word the info in the video, has inspired me to control my anger simply out of spite for others 😂 I can’t believe I have been giving up my power all these years.
@momrocks311 жыл бұрын
We shared this video at our Celebrate Recovery meeting when someone was sharing on their anger issues and everyone thought it was very helpful. It can be used to relate to giving your power to other things too. Thanks for this insight!
@telagraf2 жыл бұрын
i can't thank you enough for this. it's been a daily struggle lately for me.
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your kind comments. Kate is awesome and I would love to hear from her and how she's doing. Congratulations on your engagement! She can contact me through my website. I wish you two all the best!
@dhanisk5 жыл бұрын
Excellent analogy of the puppet and the book to manage your anger, Dr. Conte. While it seems very simple, I am sure practicing it will have its own challenges. I will do my best to visualize the puppet and the book every time I become angry and say things that I wish I had not said. BTW, I also watched several other videos of yours last night. Appreciate posting them all on KZfaq. Thanks a bunch.
@DrChristianConte5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Suresh! I appreciate you taking time to watch my videos and express something kind to me. And I believe you are 100% right - understanding these concepts and practicing them can be two very different things - and it's not always easy to practice what we know. The key is consistency and trying, though, and I'm definitely sending you all my best and tons of peace!
@kevinpark554 жыл бұрын
Thank you for positively changing my life. Your puppet/IronMan technique of not giving away your power literally saved me from committing crimes like assault and battery which would have landed me in prison...possibly for life. I don't have a felony record and never want one. I genuinely can't thank you enough.
@monikah1234510 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I really need this info right now before I do something I will regret...
@DrChristianConte10 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I think it's hard sometimes to step back and stop ourselves from making decisions in the heat of the moment that we will regret. It's amazing how empowered we feel when we can take the time to think things through beforehand. The fact that you are taking time to watch videos and learn about what's going on inside you shows that you certainly do have that self control, and you are probably a lot stronger than you know. I wish you much peace.
@DrChristianConte8 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much to all of you who have reached out to say that this video has been helpful for you. Starting Wednesday, March 16th at 9/8c (2016), you can see me on Family Therapy with Dr. Jenn on VH1. I wish you all much peace.
@pollywogapocalypse74328 жыл бұрын
+Dr. Christian Conte I found this video very helpful. I've always tried to be a nice person. and work has been very stressful as of late. and I feel like I do not enjoy myself like I use to before I had so many responsibilities. thank you for the helpful hints :)
@DrChristianConte8 жыл бұрын
Jason Pollywog Thank you so much. Man, stress can weigh on us in a tough way, and if we're not careful, it can certainly come out as anger. Hang in there and remember to take some time to take care of yourself. Much peace!
@YasminAlsagheer6 жыл бұрын
Dr. Christian Conte you are Great I love your videos so so so much
@bunny816912 жыл бұрын
Yes Yes Yes! Thank you for posting on KZfaq! Dr. Conte you are greatly missed! Your techniques are practical and have definitely made a difference in my counseling style.
@emsalistaful11 жыл бұрын
This video is fantastic. Thank you for taking the time to put it out there for all of us!
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
You're welcome. I hope it helps. Thanks for taking time to comment.
@jillianknight586912 жыл бұрын
Dr. Christian Conte has a passion that inspires and reaches his audience on a profound level. His unique teaching style and genuine respect for every individual makes his talks exciting, and life changing. In the graduate coursework I was fortunate enough to have with Dr. Conte, I grew as a student, as a professional, and as a person in ways I never imagined possible. His words have stayed with me as I continue using the knowledge, skills, and techniques he shared. And yeah,more videos please!
@merymares12 жыл бұрын
Dr. Conte, thank you so much for this video--keep them coming! I was so fortunate to have taken a few courses with Dr. Conte and have learned hands on techniques and theory from someone who has been able to help so many people deal with their personal issues. I highly recommend his book to anyone in the mental health field. His book is full of tangible and creative counseling techniques that really work.
@pikachuuu21633 жыл бұрын
Just got into a fight with my mom before this lol, but this vid really could help me with my anger issues.. See, its runs in my family haha, but I'm realising that I don't want to live that way.. So thanks a lot Dr Conte, I'll try to put ur techniques into use, the whole puppet analogy just opened up my whole mind
@Skydejavu7 ай бұрын
Thank you for taking time of your life to help us.
@sarahdearborn572312 жыл бұрын
Dr. Conte, this video is an extremely great visual to let children and parents watch that are struggling with this concept, I can never put it as elequently as you! These are such helpful concepts to teach others that can be resistant to new ideas because they are easy to grasp. I can't wait to share this visual with others!
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Thanks for taking the time to tell me.
@cameronnovak60563 жыл бұрын
This was a powerful video for me to listen to years ago when I was going through a hard time and now I'm sharing your info to a friend right now who needs help. Thanks for the amazing video . I feel you compassion and love.
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
You're welcome! Thank you so much for taking time to watch and share this video. Yes, I agree, we tend to give our power away in many instances in life. I wish you all the best. Much peace, Christian
@valor36az11 жыл бұрын
These techniques help so much, thank you for taking the time to make this video
@OGShiv3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Doc! Very intuitive and well thought out strategies laid out so beautifully and simply. Sending positive vibes to you and anyone reading this
@reddeadryan782 жыл бұрын
Old video still helping people. Thanks Dr. Christian Conte. I have had a problem lashing out with emotion since I was a child and it's got me into a lot of unessacary trouble over the years. I'm 43 now and finally ready to change.
@IdratherbeinHobbiton7 жыл бұрын
I am so glad and thankful I stumbled upon your videos! Your down to Earth sense of conveying your messages is amazing. You have a no-b.s. way of putting things and you're easy to listen to. I hope I can get better at practicing all these techniques and be better especially for my kids. Thank you so much!
@hannahis8135 жыл бұрын
The best doctor!!
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. I sincerely appreciate you taking time to watch it.
@seansandler49355 жыл бұрын
This was a massively helpful lesson for me, people close to me always tell me I am giving away my power and I never understood what that meant or how to stop it, until now. Now I get it and I think I can finally do better with this. Thank you for this and all your other lesson Dr. Conte!
@Hella9903 жыл бұрын
Thanks Dr Christian
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
Thanks brother. I appreciate you taking the time to let me know.
@briancaples5876 жыл бұрын
Great explanation of this. I like the puppet and Iron man analogies!
@DrChristianConte6 жыл бұрын
Thanks brother! Sending you much peace!
@labombshell839 жыл бұрын
I have seen countless videos on this subject and this video really helped me. I saw my anger in a different way. I've been letting other people control me well no more . Great video
@DrChristianConte9 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. It's such a good feeling to be in control of our lives and not allow others to have power over us. I wish you much peace.
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
Thank you for taking time to say something positive. Much appreciation.
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much.
@travis91906 жыл бұрын
This video should have at least 100 million views.
@michaellilly407010 жыл бұрын
Thanks. Great perspective.
@drpaulchan8 жыл бұрын
puppet & power technique for anger management. I remember this. Thanks
@personaldevelopmentcompany626 жыл бұрын
Absolutely wonderful, I love the example of giving away our personal power source. Thank you for sharing your wisdom here atKZfaq for the world to gleam.
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
Thank you SuperWeaponR - I appreciate hearing that a ton. Much peace, Christian
@marysuesullivan50326 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr. Conte!! I have anger issues and you have already helped me see things clearly!!
@MrTellboy3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. You helped my life a lot.
@DrChristianConte10 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much.
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I wish you well for sure.
@TheMRTIMBUK210 жыл бұрын
Both Points are Very Useful and most important for us to know.
@mosesyah12613 жыл бұрын
Good work, doc.
@AngelGonzalez-in2fv3 жыл бұрын
Seeing how much people go through, and how we can try to avoid issues and problems.
@belief79945 жыл бұрын
This video was so helpful I had to watch this again
@DrChristianConte10 жыл бұрын
Thanks brother.
@jessreyes503010 жыл бұрын
My anger problem is not anything that you've given advice on in this video. It is like a much more deep rooted anger. I don't get as angry at people anymore for the dumb shit they do, i used to act out often but ive calmed down alot. My anger feels very deep inside and i rage especially at those closest to me, but not strangers. I need serious help with this because its ruining my relationships, and the guilt is weighing me down. Please help, thanks.
@DrChristianConte10 жыл бұрын
Hey Jess, Thanks for watching this video. First, I think it's great that you are reaching out for help and doing something about it. Second, I agree, the two techniques in this short video certainly do not address the issue you described. In regard to help online, I would invite you to keep looking for videos that might help explain the underlying reasons for anger; but more importantly, I really hope that you might be able to find a professional in your area who you could sit down with. Sometimes the process of letting go of the things that hurt us in life takes a lot longer than we might expect. It is possible though, and I certainly wish you much peace.
@RedForceRising9 жыл бұрын
Hi Jess, I would like to share my experience. Earlier this year, I finally went to anger management councelling. Long story short, people doing or saying dumb shit is just the trigger. My anger is deep-rooted and caused by past trauma. I still get angry but less frequently and no longer hits 10/10 everytime I do get angry. My wife is triggers my anger the most. Almost exclusively. This is a real problem. While I work on myself, i am convincing to go for councelling as well. She is addicted to conflict. It is a dangerous situation. I find Dr Conte's tips in this video. The next time my wife is being exceptionally ubreasonable and aggreasive, I will choose not to give away my power.
@cimonecampbell84909 жыл бұрын
order 5 Cd "how to deal with anger" by Joyce Meyers if you are a christian, catholic etc it is awesome it quotes the bible and deals with deeply rooted Anger issues. I bought for $19 on Amazon!
@DrChristianConte9 жыл бұрын
Melanie Morris Hey Melanie, The best that I can offer to you is to find someone you can trust to begin to work through some of those issues. Our pasts shape us for sure, but that does not mean they have to determine our future. I wish you much peace. -Dr. Conte
@drfarihasuniverse64097 жыл бұрын
Jess Reyes go for hypnosis or nlp session as it will give you fast results of getting rid of your deep anger issues ,which is mostly from our childhood and past life ,unprocessed emotions ,need to come out of our subconscious minds ,praying for you
@user-qr6sm4nb8q Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your example
@cr125k2f11 жыл бұрын
thank you Christian you really helped me. thanks you !
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
It does for sure. Thanks. I hope it helps.
@williamvinacco191211 ай бұрын
I love your advice, very helpful.
@elitechelle12 жыл бұрын
Dr. Conte!!!! you're a boss!! we miss you here in Reno. be blessed!
@BeEmpathic4 күн бұрын
Thank you, Dr Christian Conte. I will try to not give away my power.
@jacobcohen83555 жыл бұрын
Always helpful. Thank you Doc
@HussainAl--Khalil11 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this
@gracetrevett48465 жыл бұрын
Thank You!
@elab41879 ай бұрын
So simple and amazing
@MyHelpWanted2 жыл бұрын
Those are two very powerful techniques. Great stuff.
@trishmairet4061 Жыл бұрын
Excellent information...thank you!
@letstalksuccess5803 жыл бұрын
Great points. Thank you for sharing these techniques.
@TheRedTango11511 жыл бұрын
Thank you this video has helped me so much.
@yousseftijdit5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Doctor, it's very helpful !
@grimlockprime98626 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the tips
@CoolguyX8311 жыл бұрын
Loved the video! I'm enrolled in the Marriage and Family therapy program at UNR, suffice to say us students miss you a TON =) Can't wait to see what you put out next, keep up the excellent work!
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
Absolutely. I hope it can help.
@happymommy816 жыл бұрын
Never thought of it as giving away my power! Love this concept/technique!
@sherdilnba56267 жыл бұрын
Thanks Doc!
@joekidd2986 жыл бұрын
Your videos are great. Thanks for making them.
@manases945 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much dr conte, this video has been very helpful in my life
@mexiluvsw6 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video back a few years ago I was constantly angry and I looked and acted completely different. At the time I thought it was no big deal until I saw videos of who I was. I never wanted to leave my house because of how angry I was and hated interacting with people out side of my comfort group.
@DrChristianConte11 жыл бұрын
So that would be a good example of giving away your power. I appreciate you sharing it, however, because a lot of people tend to get pretty angry in traffic. One key might be to try not to take things personally in traffic. I know that can be tough to do, but the more you can do that, the less you allow others to determine how your day goes. I'm going to write a blog on my website about anger in traffic for you and everyone else who struggles with anger in traffic. I wish you much peace tonight.
@kellyandersen38564 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@VelasquezAlfredo11 жыл бұрын
Excellent, liked your power shield metaphore very much.
@happytawi11 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for this video, really helps! The puppet example is spot on. Great thinking thanks again
@RealRaslu3 жыл бұрын
Great practical advice. Thank you Doc!
@orangepeelzz8 жыл бұрын
I watched this about a week ago and WOW it has made such a difference! Your advice is to the point and easy to remember in those difficult times. Thank you for sharing this knowledge :)
@DrChristianConte8 жыл бұрын
+Ms. Faceless You are absolutely welcome! Thanks for taking the time to say such kind things!
@jasonturner1590 Жыл бұрын
Thank you much Great advice.
@sammyreen968510 жыл бұрын
Best best best video on anger management! God bless you Sir
@melaniejones35619 ай бұрын
Thanks for posting this video Dr. Conte, it's fantastic! I never thought of anger/frustration issues from the perspective of being a puppet. I've had an extremely late diagnosis of Autism, and had easily enough bullying from people (when a child and as an adult) because they sensed I was somehow vulnerable or an "ideal" one to target (and they got away with it). As a youngster I remember doing a lot of shutting down and caving-in when others took pleasure in pressuring me or manipulating me, and this was all I could do because I was autistic and unaware I had this developmental disorder. Whether I knew about the ASD or not, I ended up with a huge queue of negative events in my mind that were unprocessed when I was older... clearly all this unprocessed stuff had built up and was a recipe for meltdowns. Being unaware I was autistic, I was clearly handing my power over to bullies many years ago, but being autistic I couldn't control it. I suspect my power had already been taken from me (simply because I didn't know I had ASD), and as the special needs specialists in school all failed to detect my ASD, this meant I continued through life being unaware, vulnerable and very confused for decades. For years I was in a no-win situation almost. I now have much unravelling to do, and my diagnosis of Autism has proved a huge relief as I now have a clear explanation regarding why I've experienced all this bullying and had lots of it too. I think I'll always be up against it, as I will always have this slowed ability to process information (in the brain) as the ASD will never go away, but I'm definitely now free of that vicious cycle. I'll keep that puppet in mind - it's clearly a simple idea that can stop the individual sinking down into something horrendous or life-changing. Thank you again.
@PraveenSrJ01 Жыл бұрын
This video is from 2013 but is still very true today in 2023. These videos have helped me tremendously. Thank you so much 😊 Dr. Conte!
@Connartubeshorts11 жыл бұрын
Wow!! That puppet idea really struck a chord.. I know I will think of that for now on!! Thank u so much!