anyway this is all peanuts compared to what's happening in other parts of the world so if you're a U.S. citizen please write to congress and demand a ceasefire! 🍉 bit.ly/4caBfKj

I was a New Yorker until few months ago, and I left NYC completely. I left the city due to my financial/job/mental situation and moved into my family's house. In the beginning, I kinda regret leaving the city, but right now, I'm glad I did. I'm currently healing mentally and physically and overall. So I get you. Good luck to you!

There's a strong emotional attachment to living in New York City that people can't seem to shake. I can't tell you how many people I've met who live paycheck to paycheck in NYC and refuse to leave. There's nothing practical about living in NYC, especially if you're trying to save money and start a family.

As a born and raised New Yorker, the city is both magical and draining. I’m glad you’re making the healthiest decision! Excited to see what the West coast brings you.

i especially love the explanation about the arc of knowing when you've hit a peak of experience, and that delaying moving towards a more fitting path just becomes a decline of self/growth. i just made a decision to do the same (just finishing up 2 years here) and i'm ready to get leave as well

Hi Wesley, It's okay. I'm also living at home in my late 20s. Is it embarrassing to the outside world? Yes. But for me, it has allowed me to pursue the jobs I truly want without the pressure of just making ends meet, especially after my layoff. stay true to yourself and do you!

What a great video, and I think alby is absolutely correct, letting go of what we were, and dreams we had, is a sign of growth in most cases, this is one!! Best of luck, and keep the videos coming, I’m a new subscriber ❤️

I relate and empathize. The job market is horrendous. Took me 6 months to find a part time job that is not helping much for my savings. Good luck to you and your partner! San Fran seems expensive too but you have a stronger support system there.

Sorry to hear that you have been struggling 😢 I totally get it and have been in similar situations at various times in my life. I admire you for recognising that the right thing for you to do right now is to leave NYC. With regard to what content I’d like to see as one of your subscribers, I’d love to see anything that fulfils your creative needs. Whatever you are passionate about will come across and we will love seeing your passion. For me personally, I’d love to see any vlogs about your new life on the West Coast; daily/weekly/chatty vlogs; wedding prep; videos about ADHD in whatever form you think others might find helpful; funny vlogs with Alby in. And I love a moving series! You could do a vlog detailing your drive across country. Wishing you all the best and lots of luck in this next chapter and looking forward to seeing your next videos xxx

I've enjoyed your content in all it's different forms. Whatever keeps you wanting to create is good with me. Good luck in your move and I'm excited to see what's in store for you.

so excited for this new chapter of your life!!

Props to you for taking a hard step and seeing where this new phase of live takes you! Excited to see anything you create in the future :)

I’m sure that I’m speaking for a lot of your subscribers here when I say that I watch your content for YOU not for where you are living. I love how raw you are and have related to you many times through your videos. Especially this one. Keep shining your light and keeping it real it’s a breath of fresh air. Sending so much love ❤

I'm quite sure that the obvious reason your applications are being rejected is that you are not sending CVs with your radish plush toy in the background.

I’m happy for you! Wishing you well on your next move. I would love to see vlogs on you rediscovering San Francisco. What you want to check out or do. Take care!

This was really insightful, thank you for sharing 🥰

I'm sorry you had to go through all the struggle :( Hopefully everything will get better and you will be back to NYC!!

Enjoying this & happy for you, Wesley! ❤

It’s totally okay, girl. I would still love to see your contents more and knowing your daily life on SF later! Keep inspiring ❤

Sorry to hear you've been struggling. Sounds like the right decision and I'll be interested to see where this takes you ❤

Thank you so much for sharing! I can definitely relate to a lot of these feelings (although I don’t live in NYC). I lost my job last year and it’s been such a roller coaster since. Sending you all the good vibes and hope you find so much happiness wherever you land next!

love your videos, good luck to you!

Ms. Wes, I must say I'm very proud of you. I relate a lot to your situation in making the extremely difficult decision to move. For me, it led to a major fall out with someone I considered my best friend, but it was the best decision I could have made. For my mental, physical, and emotional health. I'm excited for your next adventure. Whether that includes continuing content creation or not. I'm I'm rooting for you. 🖤

Change is inevitable but you both got this!!! 🧡

Really enjoyed this sit down video! Thanks for sharing ❤

You will be missed friend. NYC will always be here!! 💖The market has been so rough

Hi Anna! Im from Madrid (Spain) and Ive been following you for two years. I came to your channel because another spanish creator put your channel as an example of edition. Since that ive been following lot of your videos and youre totally inspiring. I wanna thank you for being so honest💖i can imagine is not easy to admit that. Im sure youre going to rock it because your potential its amazing💞

i love you guys!! ❤ always will be my fave NY couple ever

I love the curve theory - it helps with accepting change when you're not quite ready to let go, like for me when I got laid off 6 months ago, and now I have a greater opportunity within reach that fills me with purpose like never before. Also - I've been a passive youtube watcher since forever, I often come back to the same creators to watch their content without subscribing, but after watching just a few videos of yours, I subscribed b/c it felt like every video of yours was worth my time in terms of value delivered and also just because each of your videos is like a work of art. Your design background really comes thru in these videos even if you don't work in design in an official capacity. I love the videos and insights you share. Excited to follow you on this journey - keep up the great work!

it's always the best to do what feels right! I keep my fingers crossed for your future and hope you'll show us :)

As someone who’s always wanted to live in a place like San Fran (but never will) would love to see San Francisco vlogs 🥰

I just have to say that I find you to be the most inspiring person that I follow on youtube. And it isn’t because of the fact that you live in New York or that you appear to live an interesting and idealistic life with your wonderful man and all your amazing friends. It’s because of the authentic, intelligent, and refreshingly honest person that you are. You inspire me to be my authentic self and speak my truth regardless of the way others might receive it. More people understand and feel the way you feel than you think!! You’re a lovely human and girl you’re so valid in how you feel. I will thoroughly enjoy watching whatever content you choose to create in whatever city you choose to live in, for however long you choose to make content. Just thought you deserved some uplifting right now, don’t stop believing in yourself and what you’re doing! It matters more than you think. You’re amazing 💝

Absolutely loved this video Anna! I am in the same season as you. In my 30s, unemployed, hopeless, but I am staying true to myself among all this. Trying my best to make sure I am mentally healthy and overall maintaining a reasonable sense of wellbeing, given the circumstances. I wish you luck

:") i hope you feel better!! thank you for sharing this. i also left nyc this month to save money and live at home with my parents. i didn't want to move back home as well but it has been very comforting to be around friends and family, and for me it is realizing that i am loved for who i am and not my output (which is paradoxically what makes me more productive haha).

I definitely empathize! Starting over is scary and things are always scarier when you’re in the middle of it but everything always have a way of working out. My husband and I also may have to move in a few months and although we’re not in NYC, shits expensive AF out there and it’s such a pain in the ass lol. Good luck on your move and I hope the lifestyle change is better for your mental health!

I was always pragmatic and I never took a risk like that and I regret it so much. I realize that it caused you a lot of pain but I admire you so much for trying. And, yes, your metaphor makes sense. It helped me put some things in perspective for me -- like the time it took a pandemic to get me to stop being stubborn enough to leave a part-time job that was sucking the life out of me. Thank you.

can you share more about the dream life journaling exercise you did?

I'm going through a similar life change and going home. It's tough, but I'm sure you'll land on your feet! Best of luck!

Sorry you guys had to move but excited for potential SF vlogs!

Sorry to hear... welcome back to the Bay though!

wesley im proud of you! as a 24 almost 25 year old woman i really admire your honesty and courage, you've been going through a lot of changes and i think its normal to not feel -so good-, but it will get better! trust me, change is inevitable and you're doing great :) sometimes we need to let go certain things/ideas to be open for new ones, sending u a big hug

8:30 was spot on, that shit was inspirational! And the sine curve metaphor totally worked, I'm gonna use that myself :P

Wow! Your story about the two people you saw at the train station, almost brought me to tears. Sometimes the big flashy cities may not give you all that you want... or even what you truly want. Being in my mid twenties I feel this so hard. It hasn't been even a year since I moved to the current big flashy city that I live in, and honestly I dont really know what I'm even doing here 💔

I totally understand. Literally just turned 30 in the last few months and everyone says "once you hit 30, it's just different, you'll want different things, etc" and I never believed them because how could an age dictate that? But I think it's not so much age, it's the things you've done, the things you've tried, the things you wanted versus the things you want now instead. It's just a milestone that makes you think about where you are and where you've been and where you want to be and what truly matters. I spent my teens and 20s trying everything out, and now, I'm just ready to not. I still want to try some new things, but I want to cultivate what I already enjoy instead. I'd rather enjoy this moment rather than strive for the next moment to be better. I'd rather have some stability while working on creative projects than work on creative projects and put pressure on them to succeed so I can survive. It's the balance and the focusing on the present. Going forward, would love to see more of your experiences and opinions and life lessons you want to share. What matters to you? Why? What have you tried and liked? What advice would you give others who are searching for something? etc. Or anything creative you're trying or working on or having fun with! I think this video was awesome. It was candid and real and interesting. I really liked the way you talked about the waves of life and the momentum and feeling stuck when you don't listen to your intuition, I've definitely felt that too many times before and you put it into words in a way I wouldn't have thought about. Also more about ADHD and living and finding the best ways to navigate that (that you've found to be true for you). Like how to prepare for a move with ADHD or how to keep up with family and friends, or anything else you feel is helpful. I didn't follow you because of NYC, I followed you because of YOU 😊

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Girlie, you don't have to explain your decision in a pragmatic way :( Living in New York was your dream, and dreams aren't meant to be practical or logical!! The great thing is that you achieved it. That little girl in you that considered herself to be a New Yorker has become one!! It's the end of an exciting chapter and the start of an even more exciting one - best of luck! :)

One good thing abt NYC: whenever you come back, you can always call it home :)

You're clearly making the right decision to go back to CA. There, you can figure out what's most important to you now, what your next steps should be, and it's entirely possible that you'll end up someplace else, somewhere you've not yet thought of and that meets your needs in ways that NYC couldn't--or comes close without so many of the drawbacks. Someday, someone might ask you a question like "How did you come to live in Stockholm?" And you'll say something like "Actually, it started with a move to San Francisco."

unrelated but have you told that train story before somewhere else? it sounds so familiar omg

Radish!

Feeling the same about Paris right now..... made a last minute decision to move home

Get close to nature - no not centre park but real nature and family. If you can please go back and spend time with the loved ones. Cities like NY or London makes you the rates of the rate race. Life is too short to just run after money. Bali and Malaysia have nomad visas that is another option if you want quality of life on a very low price like $2000 living like a queen plus work on content and enjoy life. Constant competition / constant networking and constant being away from nature and not grounding yourself is very very bad. I moved from London to a small town in Scotland and have not regretted it a minute. Nature, Quality of life, value of quality vs how much you pay for it is key and above all connection with loved ones and eventually connection with the writer of your life story is paramount. Thanks for making this video...hope you read this!!! xxx

At least home is San Francisco (in my honest opinion SF>NY in terms of living a more balanced life). Going back home could have been Bakersfield.

you're not melodramatizing? (what's the word? haha) and as for what content you should post - post anything you wanna share! i think it's nice to just hear your little life updates even if it isn't going to be nyc content still. wishing you the best with the move and your next steps.

It's been a year since I left NYC best decision, I made don't look back forget about it

There’s no shame in leaving a situation that doesn’t work for you. You have made the right choice. Put it like this, I went to high school with a girl who was determined to live that Carrie Bradshaw life and went to NYC. Her parents warned her. I warned her. But she was stubborn. She didn’t want to admit that she was making a mistake. She ended up in a small apartment with multiple other people just to be able to afford rent. She couldn’t do any leisure activities. She wasn’t enjoying the city. She was deeply depressed. She saw her friends buying homes while she was trapped in that city. She finally decided to leave. She still feels like a failure because she couldn’t last in the city. That city is not made for middle class and below. You have to be FABULOUSLY wealthy, like you need to be able to light stacks on FIRE.

In the same boat, difference is I owe a 7-month rent so I'm gonna run away

Anna why don’t you start posting short form content like on youtube and tiktok? That way you can reach a much greater audience ❤

Capitalism really do be like that ! Glad you’re able to fight back for your time

NYC is a "mild" lifestyle upgrade from SF? 🤣 SF is not remotely close to NY. Please don't insult NY.

Hey Wes. I’m 28 and have lived in NYC since I was 24. Also going through a similar thought process and thinking about the best way to move forward. Everything you said made a lot of sense, it was nice to hear someone say it out loud. Wishing you the best of luck in the Bay. 🤍