If a man has no kids, is able to, and wants kids then he should NOT date single mothers. We shouldn’t reward somebody for messing their life up (in most cases) THE SINGLE MOTHERS NEED TO BE WITH THEIR BABY’s FATHER. Thats who they chose. IT SETS AN EXAPLE FOR THE NEXT WOMEN TO COME! We already are in a cycle that should be broken. The answer to breaking the cycle is not patch it up with a bandaid. But let God punish them with low options for making poor life choices (in most cases) so again the next age of Women will SEEK something different and not be comfortable with being a single mother.

@@Crenshaw_93 🍳. They think the solution is beta males who simp for single mothers to take care of their kids. All that does is make them think they can do whatever they want because they know a sucka will always be there no matter what.

Right😂

Facts

Glocktavious, Man Man, and Blick Canon, WTF. Who are those ghetto characters!.

Factory 😂

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i was raised in a divorced household, my mother had 4 kids by 2 different men and my brothers father played step dad when we were younger and he wound up dipping out due to reasons idk to this day. But long story short don’t let them fool you, these women benefit way more havin these sucker dudes in the household then the other way around.

​@DeshaunWilliams1 it's why you have no inheritance

@@WARLORD8189 tru

boy aint no way boy

same here enjoying my time alone when not working. if I leave a swallow of juice in the fridge, it is right there when I want it in the evening. If I feel like Chipotle, then it is one order not mine, hers and her 3 kids almost $50.00

😂 don't even talk to them

Facts Dehumanizing and mass incarcerating boys for some punannee is not the move!

Facts

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Yes don't talk. Women who sleep around with multiple baby daddies are literally not considered part of the community in sonme Muslim/Asian/African/European countries. Only Westernised black men simp so hard that they entertain and therefore enable trash behaviour.@@marcus5m

THAT PART‼️‼️

Actually they do, they lie and say that on podcasts when they are asked that question they are asked if you had a successful son who was a doctor and he came home with a woman that had 3 kids by 3 men would you allow him to marry her. they hesitate because they are cught and lie and say if she makes him happy or they can't control who he falls in love with. lol

Actually they do encourage their boys to take on single mothers. They don’t care about anyone but themselves.

My parents have been married for 40 years and my mom has always told me since day one. Don’t get with a woman with kids

That's what's crazy. Single mothers would never advise their sons to date single mothers, yet they want men to accept them as a package deal.

Not anymore

This topic is so one-sided in the sense that most Black women who give birth to babies out of wed lock are impregnated by Black men. If almost 80 percent of Black children are born out of wedlock, then Black men are the problem too. There used to be a time in our community when Black men were also shamed for getting a woman pregnant and not marrying the woman. I agree that we have normalized out-of-wedlock births in the Black community, but men need to be held accountable as well.

@@nogooddeedgoesunpunishedng3814become wives and you would be married blame your single mother for raising you to be a man not a helpmeet to a man when our sisters start respecting themselves they would require marriage before giving any man a legacy secure the horse aka man before you carry around the carriage 🏀 always been in female court y’all just can’t dribble and keep fumbling the bag

​@nogooddeedgoesunpunishedng3814 More correctly, it's the black men you all are choosing. Most black men don't have children. And 35% are married. You all are getting pregnant by the same 20% of men. And 40% of women with children have kids by multiple men. The problem is clearly the women. Most BM are invisible to women.

​@nogooddeedgoesunpunishedng3814 The issue with this comment is that stating that black men are the issue is deflecting the accountability where it should be placed. Women control access to sex and procreation. If a woman says no sex doesn't transpire or that is considered r*pe, which is illegal. So irrespective of how many men desire sex it doesn't happen without women accepting it. It's a biological truism. The responsibility and onus is on women to value themselves more and stop having frivolous sexual encounters which create unstable househoulds. Also statistically 51% of black men are childless and single. So it's only approximately half of men that women are choosing to have children with.

Bingo.

She also lied. In the 50s having kids out of wedlock was as low as 20%. It wasn't accepted. There was no time back then where men were more likely to accept one of them with kids.

those darn and their "sassy" podcasts, always trying to shame us may the Godfather RIP.

Men are holding women accountable for being sexually irresponsible with their wombs. Not marrying before they carry. We are tired of the chaos and the first step to turning this ship around is men protecting their seeds and only give your seed to a woman who qualifies to be your wife.

Asian, WHITE, Hispanic, East Indian, Middle Eastern men have been practicing resource management, group economics, etc. Lol

You were down bad.🫠

You dodged a bullet

Good point! It's not just the children, it's the fathers of those children who think they're going to be part of your life for the rest of their child's life.

😂FTK

You're a victim 😂😂😂

I'm 63, childless, never married and made the mistake of dating single mothers in my younger, simping years. Learned my lesson, never again. Glad you younger brothers are waking up and avoiding the mistakes us older cats made. Forget that "save the Communitah one stepdad at a time" bs. #SYSBM!

The only way I could see taking any part in raising some else kids is as like a mentor, coach, or something like that where you can be a role model, but you are not financially on the hook for them.

As a OG said earlier I am glad you all are waking up. I was that weak a$$ beta male simp. Learned the hard way. Well done young men. God bless

@@greayeve3035 Sometimes, mentors, coaches, teachers, etc. pick up the bill for their mentees, players and students when they come from economically disadvantaged backgrounds. It's kinda hard not to when you care about them and you see them struggling.

@@rickymcdonald2669 Thank you brother. It sickens me that productive BM are being held responsible for the dysfunction in the Communitah by clowns like Umar Johnson. Please make that make sense.

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@@DominantBlackMaleLeader: That's their god....I am sure that Wright man ain't thinking about slow Keishas when even as a retired Wright man his option are unlimited. She can throw all the ❤❤❤ she wants. They are so SLOW....

👉🏽​@@Lovely0714Brad worshiper 🤢

@@DominantBlackMaleLeaderKeisha trying to get that come up ( she saw the brother signed off with md) 😅

@@DominantBlackMaleLeader Yo lol.

Soooo the man with children should get a child free chick?? That the reel problem here. In both cases, they need to stay single period. A single woman with children is a problem if not a h** but a single man with children, no probs. Society has never been so lost😂

Exactly these dating apps expose the hell out of em, got kids and don't want no more on their profiles 😂. I got kids too, I want more🤷🏾‍♂️ I'll have better luck than they ever will in this climate, they better off getting back with the father of their children or expect some more mileage to be added by some young bucks

Heck even if I did mess with a woman with kids I ain't adding more kids to that collection. An sure as hell ain't providing nothing. Nothing a single mother can do for me but adult time. She can hit me up to link up when she is free. Outside of that I don't I don't want to meet her kids and she definitely ain't meeting mines are grown anyway. Would be a fool too start over raising kids. I'm done time for me to live my life.

I am child-free ya'll better date these single mothers I for one will not babysit or play step mom!

@@sasha69Xurgelashyour statement makes zero sense

Every man needs to get a Passport! Dating in this toxic Western Culture is a bad deal

@@al-bsure4284facts 💯

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​@al-bsure4284 Not every man. Some of these dudes are ruined, Guys who have terrible criminal history records, irresonsible men with boatload of kids, should stay in the US. Let the hardworking noble guys who did it the right way, no criminal record, no kids should be top priority for foriegn travel, they have the best profile for advocacy. Then everyone else should follow later. We need a positive image of our people...with the best & brightest for once.

WITH THE QUICKNESS!!!!!

👏🏾 congrats playa keep goin💯

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Congratulations my Brother and God bless

Single mothers don't love their children... I said that before in AM's comment section and a single mother-raised son got mad at me. He doesn't get it. If she cared about you, she wouldn't dispose of your father, because fathers are NECESSARY (Not optional) to a child's development. These women make sure that they have the right accessories for their outfits, but they won't make sure their children have their fathers in their lives?? And I'm supposed to believe that they love them?? Nah, but I can believe they love their clothes, hair, nails and purses.

@@KtotheGYeah these broads make some unsound decisions but they love their children. She’ll put her own happiness (temporary) over her kids and anyone else. We gotta stop thinking they love like us (understanding of the word), they don’t ! A woman’s love & loyalty is only truly reserved for her kids. And if she ain’t true to them, then you know what you have.

I’m sorry you went through that.

With all due respect… why do you pay child support ? Did you marry her, and adopt her children as your own ?

Mate you need to toughen up, I've got 3 daughters from 2 relationships and I would never expect a woman to take my kids on and would not want it, I also would not take on someone else's kids, settle down when a potential partner has children of adult age, enjoy life mate, greetings from the UK.

I literally went thru the same thing

Brothers stop getting into relationships with single mothers. If you do, know that her child or children will always be priority. Also the baby daddy will always have access to her. Avoid this situation and you'll be better off.

Facts!!

Sistas are the Cleveland Browns of the dating world.

@@WordsMatter1982 More like The Jets.

@@Voodooray007 the Jets at least have a ring.

@@WordsMatter1982 Then I will reject and denounce my comment. 🤣

You hear what you want, and blame others for YOUR decisions. Between 18 and 28 even BELOW average women have all the choice. You can walk up to almost any man with a halfway decent personality and get approached by a variety of guys DAILY. Show me your decisions and ill show you YOU. Then you rack up kids, weight, age, and wanna play the victim card when your choices are on you heavy at 35. 😅

They feel like the have ownership over bm and play dumb about it whenever its convenient

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And they'll do nothing for you and won't change, learn or listen to you.

I won't cook or clean for a man....that's slavery. Also...i expect you to provide for me and my children by someone else (who isn't providing anything).

the double standards are all to real smh but like Anton said men now finally got the microphone and are starting to share their standards/ preferences wit each other which we need. A lot of dudes need to wake up and take control of they lives.

Orphanages are filling up bc BW opt out of mom hood

It's crazy that this mostly happens and spreads in the blk communities because many cultures still forbid single men or sons marrying divorcees or single mamas.

A stepmother doesn’t have to help financially BUT they do have to watch a large amount of money flying to another woman’s household.

Stepfathers will always be around cuz some dude will always wanna hit.

​@@Sammy-ed5go You can't blame the other woman for watching money that was never hers to see in the first place.

This is what women don’t understand. They don’t have to shell out 💵 for another man’s kids. But it’s expected for the man to provide for her children. Fuck that

Well stated comment!

First of all if they criticize us we need to criticize anybody who will criticize us. Otherwise they need to back the f*** off

When are insecure 😂 they need to control

She wasn’t the one

Widowed single father here. It doesn’t work!!!!

Never put yourself on the level of a woman. She's not equal to you. She doesn't get to dictate anything you do. You guys got to get out of this matriarchal mindset.

Window women never give it all for you and never for you kids 😂

The best quote ever " you do all this for your kids what about mine?" 🤣

👍, well said!

The culture has truly changed. I was surprised when I realized years ago that NYC public schools allow pregnant students to attend school. The teacher's college that I attended in Jamaica did not allow pregnancy out of wedlock on campus. The public schools in Jamaica were largely founded by churches so they still adhere to those Christian principles.

Men always had standards and talked like KS in barber shops... KS just publicized it and more men publicized it. The men these heyanas want NEVER wanted their single parent strong enough independent a$$.

The “pookies” are still getting 🐱 for free right here in a America by the same females that friend zoned the “high valued men.”

I use this example all the time with single mothers

Most men aren’t lions tho lol…not even close

​@jeanlouis1898 Men are a higher order of being . If an animal won't do it, why would a human?

@@jeanlouis1898 Most men aren't stepfathers, either... they may not all be lions, but they're also not sukkas.

@@KtotheG lol I agree being a stepfather isn’t ideal on paper, but how many kids benefited from have a step parent come into their lives? How many men have great relationships with their step kids? Everything isn’t black and white like you’re making it…there are millions of blended families that are happy, idk why men have to be called a sukka if the situation makes them happy…my step dad was a major influence in my life, and him and my mom gave me a little brother and sister….I happily took his last name because he’s the only dad I ever known, why does that make him a simp? Only immature dweebs talk like you

Say it again, say it again!....in Pinky's voice!!

But isn’t it ironic they won’t let their sons date or talk to women with children but they can get with the the dude with kids by other women everywhere else… goes to show they’re never really attracted to solid men. Especially black men

Say it again for the simps in the back!

Say it again for the triggered broads who refuse to grasp this concept.

Also a baby daddy that can sleep with her whenever he wants.

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I agree, been there done that, miserable 2 years.

Facts don't date single mothers period

Waste of your precious Allah given time on this planet.

​@@Aeroquazatrust me same and the funny thing they are very ungrateful

They don't respect men, otherwise, they wouldn't be single mothers.

Because the rule of thumb is dead

It’s took a hot minute to wake up from the start of social media. Social media had lots of men thinking simping was ok, thinking supporting this feminist agenda that was heavily pushed during the rise of social media would get them laid. Glad we are all, like Anton, talking about these things because men need to know. We can’t assume we all have our heads on straight. Lastly, yall better check the men around you when you see them simping over trash women. I can smell these women coming from a mile away and I try my best to let those around me know what’s up.

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Doesn't trigger me it's funny hard economy will eventually FORCE them together!

@@sasha69Xurgelashwait what? How is the “hard economy” going to force a man with no kids into being with a woman who has kids and baby daddies. You people think so little of bm that you tell yourselves that it’s perfectly fine for those of us who lead our lives to proper way to cleanup someone else’s mistakes. It’s cool though. BW are not the only available choice. Baby mama and baby daddy only exist in black American culture

@@sasha69XurgelashCould do bad by yourself.

@@sasha69Xurgelash Unlikely. Hard economy is harder on the woman who primarily has the kids. Single father will pay CS, and take the kids here and there. Still makes no sense to date a woman with kids.

I'm here with the scissors.

​@@DominantBlackMaleLeaderthe villain does get fcuked with no Vaseline 😂 ice cube

@@DominantBlackMaleLeader "Gawt Damn Im glad yall set it off!"- Ice Cube, No Vaseline

Single mothers are still "married." You gotta look at it like that. There's a reason why only virgins were qualified for marriage back in the day.

So much for equality 😂

Lol im 25 and I would never date a man with kids

@@blackbutterfly233ifymany women do though

​​@@blackbutterfly233ify 20% of men are creating 80% of children out there so clearly women are dating and sleeping with men who already have children. Just because you don't is completely irrelevant to the discussion lol

@@blackbutterfly233ify Every time I've heard a woman say "Never," she ended up doing what she said she would never do. Every. Single. Time.

@@manman3792most don’t boo There are far more stepfathers than stepmothers

Yep! They respect the ninja more when he doesn't do shyt. I got that treatment when I was younger and one day I woke up and told her I was done. Years later I am well off and learned never to do that again.

You can't compare to that familial bond... and material things don't matter... it's about the kinship and the love. That's another reason why I never bothered taking single mothers seriously. I never wanted to get in the way of a broken home... and I saw single mothers as out of order. The BC likes to put the woman as the head, but I don't.

I figured this out the hard way

zero interest in women w children I grew up broke n now I'm stable I won't give that up for another man's kids it makes no sense

& a huge problem is that the men who choose to get treated like they HAD TO DO IT by those ungrateful women..meaning they dont respect him or his resources anyway

Everything ain’t for everyone bro u can’t say don’t date someone with women was your mom cousin or auntie a single woman? Think b4 u speak 😊

@@SaviiqBe quiet and man up.

​@@SaviiqWell, that's their fault.Maybe they should have thought More carefully before they let someone nut up in them

@@Saviiqyou really thought that comment hit huh😂😂😂😂 the point is to do better then your mother,aunt grandmother etc it’s called breaking the generational curse

wouldve thrown the kid ina orphanage, but then again theres bigger fish to fry🤷‍♂️ thats why i say never take care of anybodies kids only urs

You really had low standards dealing with a woman with three kids. You had to be lusting & not sexual discipline.

My mom called it a ready made family 😂😂

Facts!!!!

They say that as a black man if you've been to prison you are twice as likely to procreate 😂 which means black women actively select degenerate men to have babies with 😂 its true too. Every dude I know in jail has AT LEAST 4 kids with 2 babymamas 😂 and then you see all these single guys with good jobs that are alone with no kids. Or they'll have a girl but are clearly only being used for financial purposes.

Crazy isn’t it? Zero accountability

Nah, they should get back with their baby daddies or wait until their kids are grown before they start dating again.

@@KtotheG That part

​@@DominantBlackMaleLeaderExactly! my mom and grandma watched my sister and female cousins do whatever they wanted. They would be like only 15 years old, going to parties butt naked and drinking and doing drugs and talking to grown ass men that are drug dealers and scammers. Every time I would complain to my parents and grandmothers they would laugh and say its a phase. Fast forward its clear the young women in my family have ruined themselves. And my mom and grandma are acting brand new like they had no part to play in that 😂 if you teach people they can do whatever they want, treat anyone however the want, and any consequences are someone else's fault, then why would they have any accountability? Men nowadays are soft and weak and feminine. But at least the men that were older than us tried to put us in our place and teach us right from wrong. But the older generation of women ignored their responsibilities because they wanted to live vicariously through the younger women. Sure its nice to see younger women have freedoms that you didn't necessarily have. But not at the cost of our entire society and the future of our species 😂

You know the term high-value guy? Well, your cousin was a low-value guy because no man without children is going to have sex with a woman with five children and potentially get her pregnant again! There are too many single women with no children which just means your relative couldn't do any better.

Real talk ✔️

Man...I'm literally going thru this now. It's been a hard lesson

@@eastbaltimoresbabyboy7904 Know that you know better you will do better moving forward. You will be fine once you get out of it and put it behind you and chalk it up as a learning experience. 👊🏾

No one is talking about this point of view right here ! She couldn't keep her son out the bed with us and the father would never want to get his son I had to dip out

oh, he's present...just not contributing to anything except bussin her down some more behind the sucka ninjas back

Facts 💯

Sorry, but that's not a good one because even biological fathers have social workers called on them when the mother has an agenda. I am a social worker and I see this ALL the time, especially when dads discipline their children.

@@Jai64life its exponentially more risky if you're not the biological father. That was his point.

Just sex. That's all you get

facts...I even paid the rent for a chick once who had a kid....never got a thanks, but she plastered her baby daddy, who she also complained about was doing nothing for their child; all over her social media when it was father daughter dance nite...just leave em alone, fellas.....

Smart man! Stick to your standards. Most of these single mothers and their children are entitled and ungrateful that a man is stepping to help raise a seed of another man. 🤷🏾‍♂️

Don't date women with no kids, period

You’re not selfish, and problems other people created for themselves aren’t yours to solve

Not going to happen.

This is what I explained above., the double standard your expected to shell out 💵 for her kids but she sure as shit isn’t shelling out 💵 for yours. 😊

she was taking from you/the household..& instead of being an adult & admitting her wrongs; she'd rather break up the family completely...sounds about right...

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WITH THE QUICKNESS!!!!!!!

I believe some of those cultures cleaned house and tossed those kids off a cliff too, just sayin’….

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😂🤣🤣🤣 give her a dap and shout out real quick...💯tfoh those chick's are nuts🤪

@@DominantBlackMaleLeader ikr, bet it looks like a morgue, mn and wmn she's been with🤣 give her a dap and a shout out real quick for that clean fade she got..😆, tfoh those chick's are nuts🤪

Give a dap and shout out to her with the clean fade😄, ikr body count looks like a morgue with mn and wmn. .tfoh those chick's are nuts 🤣

They do not raise their kids. Future and nick are nothing more than squirters.

SAME HERE, DATED A FEW SINGLE MOTHERS IN MY LIFE, IT ALWAYS ENDS UP WITH ME GETTING THE FUCK UP OUTTA THERE, SLOWLY BUT SURELY THEY START DROPPING HINTS HOW THEY WANNA MAKE YOUR THEIR KIDS NEW DAD AND TAKE OVER WHILE THE BABY DADDIES ARE ALIVE IN RANGE AND LIVING WELL YET THEY REQUIRE THEM BUMS TO DO NOTHING #wontgetme

5x ???? BRUH!!!

5x is crazy! He needs to be honest. He was just desperate and down bad picking the low-hanging fruit. 🫠 ​@@whytrap4901

It’s all negative insight tho downing women like it’s never nothing positive black women aren’t the real issue it’s us it starts with us we cheat on our women best them bash them see them as sexual objects we have to change we can’t keep doggin women out and then bash them when they left with kids like they don’t deserve love

Fat Joe. Classic!!!!