"Harper Daniels " This is self help industry - it does not help in real life. IT only helps to make money for self help authors. Anyone who is giving you some advice solid instruction like earlier going, mindfulness mediations - this is called coercive control, it is ethical and morally wrong to order and command fully grown adult person what must one do in his own life. It is detrimental - because this advice giving is placing us in codependent place, where we are small children who are unable to process reality and we must depend on this strong white egocentric heterosexuals born into privilege and wealth - how we are suppose to live well. Our decisions are as much as valid as any narcissist in self help industry. We were not mindful because we had no money. We were raised in ACoA and our models were mentally ill people and narcissists. Give yourself a break. Stop symptomizing your life and believing that some white knight on white horse will come and rescue you. You probable had more strength and power than any self help author is blaming you for not having any for enduring all the crap on this planet in our lives. Start trusting and accepting and validating your own choices and decisions. Don't depend on other people to tell you and explain you who you are and what you are suppose to do with your life. They never had burden and crap and abuse that you had to go through.

Plus it is biological - neuroticism is Big 5 personality trait. It is not sickness nor abnormality. ability to detect danger is helpful. Ability to detect toxic people and feel disgust and uncomfortable around serial killers masked as glib charm - anxiety is super helpful compass to guide us, other than love bombing and honeymoon phases of narcissists. Similar to Disney cartoon Inside out - everyone hated the emotion of anxiety - since it kills fun, it makes us focus on problem, it does not make us feel good. However - when we do not prepare ourselves - we end up embarrassed and hurt. Anxiety is also a messenger - it tells us what is toxic and where to go in life. It is beneficial as stated in video. When we have anxiety - it means we have high moral and ethical standards. The opposite of no anxiety - is narcissism and psychopathy, total lack of empathy, lack of feeling what other people might feel if we choose certain actions. Trauma makes it worse. Operand Conditioning in ACoA make us feel ashamed for having anxiety. CBT is also abusing us into self hatred and self pathology.

He is sexy! That makes him attractive in this industry. Most therapist are women, or old guys. It is nice to see young men as therapists.

@@ranc1977 indeed! Couldn’t agree more.

Curious if you have any research articles to cite on this?

@@MarleneYCM No, this is the result of general medical knowledge regarding the fact that CO2 drives respiration and that the amygdala monitors blood CO2 and that hypoxia does not cause an emotional response as does elevated CO2. The analysis is the result of my own research. If there are factual inaccuracies please make me aware or if my analysis is flawed.

​@@carlharmeling512 This makes so much sense! Thank you! I used to teach breathing exercises to COPD patients, so I know how to push out excess CO2. :)

Phobia is only cured through exposure. Unlike social anxiety. Unfortunately - There is no other way - you need to break the ice. I could tackle this with hiking - when I had a little more money, I could finance my hiking trips, almost 2 weekends monthly - I would sit on a train and travel 200 km to hiking area the whole day, being outside. Financial status is linked to our issues. IF we have money, we can manage life much easily than without it. It has nothing to do with will power or being "strong". Another way was buying a bicycle - and I started to make tours around my hometown every weekend free day. I made a blog about it and put 3 pictures from my daily trip at various stages and GPS map where I drove. I even got asked to make blog post on local page for my hometown. So thanks to bicycle rides - In my 30s I discovered that turtles live in continent. I was convinced that turtles are tropical animals that live in New Zealand and such exotic tropic places far away. I tackled my driving phobia by forcing myself to start driving. I got my driver's license in 1995 but it was only in 2014 that I actually started to drive almost regularly. I put joyful activity such as going to shopping in foreign country and their fancy supermarkets as carrot to force myself to drive. Balkan supermarkets smell like feces, clerks are super rude and violent and stuff they sell is poison old crap filled with bacteria (newspapers wrote that is is good salmonella found so there is no problem).

I understand this - I had severe agoraphobia as a young person, could t leave my home, etc…. Imipramine and a lot of therapy saved me. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through.

@@gmarie9507 I personally believe all psychological issues stem from exposure to narcissistic abuse - which is covert and we do not recognize it so we blame ourselves and we end up trying to fix our brain and nitpick our thoughts - which leads to more anxiety. - Interpersonal strife with those close to us leads to rifts and resentments that produce symptoms of mental illness; these problems are, in fact, the logical consequence of troubled relationships. Glasser emphasizes that lasting psychological problems are usually caused by problems in our personal relationships (rather than signifying a biochemical abnormality in the brain), and distress can be remedied through repairing these relationships without recourse to psych drugs. WILLIAM GLASSER Controlling Habits: Blaming Criticizing Complaining Nagging Rewarding To Control Threatening Punishing William Glasser William Glasser "What's my Choice" Connecting Habits: Listening Supporting Encouraging Negotiating Respecting Accepting Trusting Narcissist Personality Disorder One of the few conditions where the patient is left alone and everyone else is treated. (PierceTheDarkness)

The only way through agoraphobia is exposure, which will change your perception and subconscious beliefs of being out of your comfort zone. I’ve been there. You have to push through. Little by little. You can do it.

@@444_gd " being out of your comfort zone" What happens when we live in third world country where we are exposed and out of our comfort zone all the time, 24/7? Shall we become healthy and sane in toxic and corrupt country where cocaine mafia is shifting laws and making criminals in charge? What happens when we live in slum part of the city? Shall we become healthy and sane and non-addict if we hang out with heroin addicts and mafia? What happens if we are inside dysfunctional toxic family system - shall we become healthy and sane if we expose ourselves to abuse? What happens when we live in Chernobyl? Shall we become immune to invisible toxic radiation?

We can actually think deeply about our life - is it worth it so endure narcissistic abuse and toxic society - what we will do with money we get by having fancy title in our name? Will it go with us in after life? Is it worth of trauma and pain and suffering? Will our endurance of narcissistic abuse and toxic society make us better, will it resolve issues in life? Nope, it won't. We will still experience pain, unfair treatment and after we die - we won't take along with us our fancy car, home, money, accrued wealth - it will all stay behind us. I would rather listen to our anxiety and go in direction of life where we feel psychological safety and really stand clear from impressing other people who don't give a damn if we die tomorrow by buying things we won't need at all - but we buy it only to impress others.

Any reaction to anxiety builds more anxiety. Jung said - what we resist, persist. Any ritual as reaction to anxiety leads to OCD, mental illness. Because we end up believing that we must make ourselves believe that we must perform circus tricks in order to feel safe.

Absolutely. So much research supports mindfulness and meditation.

""I kind of disagree with the idea that anxiety would always be just a fever of psychiatry." "when it comes to social situations like parties with relatives, giving a speech or otherwise being the centre of attention, my autonomic nervous system kicks in to fight or flight and I can't be myself or function normally. " Errr.. and you never asked yourself why? Why autonomic nervous system kicks in? We are not born with autonomic system kicking in at parties, giving a speech or being in centre of attention - this is learned behavior. This is Operand Conditioning. This is Trauma. We did not caught social anxiety randomly walking in the street. We did not caught it like a common cold. This is programmed, learned panic - that was installed inside us through exposure to ACoA ACE criticism and microaggression. Which we never seen as problem because fish is not aware that it is in the water - because it is in the water for whole life. Humans are born with only two fears: fear of loud noises and fear of falling. Giving a speech is definitely not born fear. It is learned, acquired, hypnotized, programmed fear. We were exposed to the systematic punishment and reinforcements and generalizations where we experienced pain and toxic shame. So yep as it is said in the video - social anxiety especially is a fever - it is natural normal healthy reaction to abnormal people, abnormal events and trauma being stuck inside our body. "I think especially being bullied when you're psychologically the most sensitive (child, teen) can wire your brain really unoptimally for the rest of your life" Yep - and then as adult you recognize bullies much more quicker than the rest of population - you detect the virus much sooner. Why you have hard time connecting the dots with analogy of anxiety being a fever? You are confirming my words with your own comments. " Maybe psilocybin / mdma could be the answer to rewiring the circuits" Operand Conditioning - has phase called Extinction - where we no longer are triggered - which means that we accept our anxiety as normal and healthy and as a message that toxic person is near us - and that we do something about it. And this doing does not include self abuse, self pathology, enabling the abuse nor it means to dissociate and rationalize our trauma away as some greek bullying that you mention.

Interesting thoughts. If I understood Dr Rossis point correctly, anxiety being "the fever of psychiatry" refers to it being so common feeling/phenomenom along other psychiatric illnesses (bipolar, schizophrenia, depression, ADHD, you name it..) that you could almost automatically assume there must be a more serious illness present when somebody has anxiety. So like fever is a symptom of an infection, anxiety would be a symptom of psychiatric disease X. So when a doctor finds out that his/her patient has anxiety, he/she would automatically start to investigate further for the "real" psyhiatric illness behind it. My point was that there are clearly cases where anxiety (autonomic dysregulation) is the main and the only problem the individual experiences and so it is not a symptom of another mental illness. And that's why I think it is justified that anxiety disorders are their own category in psychiatric diagnostic system. The etiology of these anxiety disorders is a whole another topic and I bet you could definitely classify social anxiety as a form of PTSD as you explained. So then the PTSD would be the psychiatric disease and anxiety in social situations the symptom of it. @@ranc1977

@@pw8439 " If I understood Dr Rossis point correctly, anxiety being "the fever of psychiatry" refers to it being so common feeling/phenomenom along other psychiatric illnesses (bipolar, schizophrenia, depression, ADHD, you name it..) that you could almost automatically assume there must be a more serious illness present when somebody has anxiety." :D How did you get this from his analogy of fever? You misunderstood him. The whole basic topic is that we do not symptomize our natural reactions to abuse and unfair treatment being stuck in unfavorable power dynamics. " So like fever is a symptom of an infection, anxiety would be a symptom of psychiatric disease X." Nope. Fever is symptom of external element invading us: toxic people. Narcissistic abuse. Psychopaths. Machiavellians. What you are describing here is auto-immune disease where the body falsely recognizes own flash as enemy and starts to attack it. There is a lot of self blame and self pathology and self flaggelation in your words. You interpret that something wrong is your fault. "So when a doctor finds out that his/her patient has anxiety, he/she would automatically start to investigate further for the "real" psyhiatric illness behind it. " That is why CBT must be banned. It is detrimental to anyone suffering abuse. Listen to Glasser: Interpersonal strife with those close to us leads to rifts and resentments that produce symptoms of mental illness; these problems are, in fact, the logical consequence of troubled relationships. Glasser emphasizes that lasting psychological problems are usually caused by problems in our personal relationships (rather than signifying a biochemical abnormality in the brain), and distress can be remedied through repairing these relationships without recourse to psych drugs. WILLIAM GLASSER Controlling Habits: Blaming Criticizing Complaining Nagging Rewarding To Control Threatening Punishing William Glasser William Glasser "What's my Choice" Connecting Habits: Listening Supporting Encouraging Negotiating Respecting Accepting Trusting "it is justified that anxiety disorders are their own category in psychiatric diagnostic system. " This is ableism and Neurotypical disaster that mental health industry is doing to everyone. Once you label something anything as disorder you will start to behave like disorder, self fulfilling prophecy. The word itself is stigma and unfair judgement. Learn more about Rosenham Experiment. Or Martha Mitchel Effect - where political enemies pathologized and weaponized psychiatry to silence their target. Please don't get me into psychiatry during Nazi Germany how it was mis-used. "PTSD " Complex trauma is not PTSD. These are two separate different concept. And PTSD nor Complex PTSD are not diseases. If you are not serial killer, if you are not anti-social, if you have no ill will, if you do not carry any hidden agenda to harm and cause pain to anyone - there is no disease, no psychiatric disease. Please learn more about anti-psychiatry, you are brainwashed into CBT madness and pathologizing anything that moves.

@@ranc1977 I’m pretty sure I understood his analogy correctly. Guess we’re at the point where we need to get his clarification before we can move on with the discussion. If we don’t get, there’s no point.

​@@pw8439 It is clear: we get fever when we get virus. Virus is external element. It is not part of us. We did not infect ourselves. The virus is foreign element - external factor. Obviously this is extremely hard and difficult message for you - due to Operand Conditioning in ACoA and ACE where we are repeatedly told that we are responsible for anything that goes wrong and that we must be perfect and without mistakes and that it is our duty to fix other people and that other people must explain reality to us and command us like zombie - since we are inept to run our own life. That is abuse, that is result of narcissistic abuse, it is toxic shame and it is big lie. If you are not murderer -there is nothing wrong with you being flawed and errored and with mistakes. There is nothing wrong with your brain for having neuroticism. Neuroticism is part of Big 5 personality traits. It is not sickness, it is nor abnormality, there is nothing to cure inside you. When you feel scared and panicked - this is due to toxic people, the virus.