Yes, there is some overlap for sure. 👍🏻

Yes, for sure!

Yes, you are correct. I talk about this dynamic in some other videos but I didn’t mention it here.

@@jennifermayph.d.2761can you mention the names of the videos?😊

Thank you 🙏 ❤️

Best of luck in your healing journey. ❤️

Glad to hear, thanks! 🙏

Thanks, Angie! And I agree… better late than never! If you’re interested, my channel also has videos of all the DBT skills which can help with regulating emotions.

Thank you!

Thanks! ❤

Thanks so much! Glad to help! 🙏

Thanks for writing, Consuella! I’m glad this video was able to help you learn more about yourself. You might be able to relate to some of the developmental trauma styles videos I have as well. Best of luck in your healing journey. ❤️

Wow, thanks so much! 🙏

You're very welcome.

Thanks so much for your kindness. Many blessings, xoxo

Glad you were able to relate! Thanks for watching and commenting. 🙏

I'm glad to hear that this helped you to understand yourself. Thanks for writing.

What I would do for this is work with the protective part of yourself (related to the "negative thoughts") that is blocking you from taking in the good. How do you experience that part of yourself? How is it trying to help you? What makes holding onto good relational experiences dangerous? Can it let you practice taking in the good just a little bit more before it jumps back in?

@@jennifermayph.d.2761 Thank you do much Dr May. You are so right that we dismiss the good because at our core we don't feel invested in it. We're more invested in the bad because it's been affirmed externally and internally. It's not that we want to avoid the good - it's that the lack of security and hypervigilance makes it a matter of survival! And what exactly is more important than survival under any metric of hierarchy of values/or needs? God bless you.

Thank you 🙏

Thank you! 🙏

Hi there, Glad this video was able to give you some insights or clarification. Check out my video, “My Favorite Person” for tips. I personally struggled with strong maternal transferences and used the tips from my video to eventually transcend that pattern.

Glad you were able to relate! ❤️

Thank you 🙏

Hi there, Thanks for writing! I’m glad the attachment videos have been helpful. You might also get a lot out of my developmental trauma styles videos, if you’re interested. I’ve mostly learned about attachment through more therapist-oriented books, articles and training videos. I see there are a number of workbooks on Amazon, but I have not personally looked at them, so I can’t really make a recommendation.

@@jennifermayph.d.2761 Thank you! These videos have helped me identify areas that I want to work on in therapy. Thank you for dedicating time to this channel; it’s a valuable resource ♥️ I’ve been engaging with you other videos since finding this series. Subbed :)

Sending you love ❤

I haven’t found any resources in autism spectrum disorders and attachment styles, and if people with ASD really fit well into the main 4 attachment categories. But my best guess is that people with ASD might experience something closer to anxious-avoidant attachment.

Good for you! 👍🏻

Yes, people with a variety of diagnoses can have this style.

My attachment presentations have been evolving for about 12 years. Whenever I hear new info, I try to make adjustments and incorporate it. Since my main objective prior to making this video had usually been to present the material to the psychology interns at my facility (not to publish), I didn't create an ongoing reference list. But a few of the books included, Attachment in Psychotherapy by David Wallin, Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson, and The Developing Mind by Daniel Siegel. I really got most of the info from online and in-person conferences and videos from people in the field who are considered experts in attachment. The speakers included Diane Poole Heller, Stan Tatkin, Allan Schore, Mary Main, Bonnie Badenoch, David Wallin, Dan Siegel, Peter Fonagy, and others. The Sensorimotor Psychotherapy curriculum (Janina Fisher, Pat Ogden) deals with Attachment and is a good resource as well. Sorry for not being more specific, but I hope that helps!

Thanks for writing. I don't think there's a really easy answer to this question. But the crux of secure attachment is making room for a full range of experiences and emotions and allowing a child to be his full self. It also involves going through cycles of rupture and repair, so that when problems do inevitably arise, you help restore the love and good feelings again afterwards. You may find it helpful to watch my video on Secure Attachment so you can learn more about it and get ideas about how to implement some of those qualities in your relationship with your son.

No, I’m sorry. I just work at a psychiatric hospital and offer teachings on KZfaq.

@@jennifermayph.d.2761 Okay. Your videos are just great tho!

Yes, please email me: jenjabmay77@gmail.com

You can find some substitutes but it takes work and self-awareness. Being a parent can be healing and triggering. If you aren’t careful, you will repeat and pass down the problematic attachment patterns you were exposed to yourself.

Why would it be so black and white? Our attachment style develops from our early relationships with our parents AND can change over time based on later experiences.

Okay