Watch until the end for some positivity! And here’s a link to check out my book (if you want to) lnk.to/TheTinLGBT

"A woman is someone who has the capacity to have a child." _Millions of Americans every day stop being women, but together we can beat menopause._

8:20 They’re boycotting a cat treat company but they didn’t even pay for the treats, they were a gift. The company is losing zero dollars by their boycott, lol.

I love the "we can always tell" kind of people.....then there is someone like Jamie who's been on T for long enough that if you saw him randomly on the street and didn't know he was trans you would literally have no idea.

Well shit. All along I thought I was a cis woman, but I lack the capacity to bear children. My mistake.

“Trans men will never be women and trans women will never be men” is one of my favorite quotes from an attempted transphobe

Not only were there just 12 people at the protest, but half of them were too embarrassed to even show their face because they knew deep down that they were wrong.

"We can always tell" **Tries to convince people Michelle Obama is trans**

Imagine finding meaning to your life only by making a marginalised minority feel like sh*t. If their actions weren’t so harmful, I’d feel really freaking sorry for them.

I had massive, complex ovarian cysts at age 26, many surgeries, lost my fertility, and could not adopt due to unrelated poor health; few things personally sting and anger me more than transphobes who insist that procreation defines a woman and gages or value. As much as that attitude hurts me… I wonder how much harder is it for the trans community. Trans women ARE women, and infertile women are, too!!

"humans have the innate capacity to discern between the sexes" Mate, I've been miss-gendered more times than i can remember and i'm just a cis-dude with long hair, your argument is invalid

If a bad enough injury can screw up which of your gender definitions somebody fits, then your definitions are screwed. Someone's gender shouldn't be negated from losing everything below the waist from a bad enough car crash.

I find all this hate and transphobia so extremely scary. And I'm a cis woman! I can't imagine how horrifying it must be out there for trans people these days, and I'm so sorry for anyone feeling scared or unsafe because of these loud, hateful and ignorant transphobes. The end of this video was really nice to see. ❤ Hang in there, I really hope for better days very soon! ❤

I was reminded of something my friend once said to me, Trans people have supported so many others in their fights for equality over the years, but now that Trans people are being heavily targeted to many of those same people are willing to leave us out to dry because of the "its your turn to go through what we did" mentality it just makes me sad 😥

"If you need to self id as a woman, you're not one" Me, a cis woman, who self ids as a woman... is aparently not a woman by that logic.

Invoking the name of Rosa Parks to argue that public spaces should be segregated is just chef's-kiss levels of stupid.

Except if it's your body or your partner, why caring about what's in someone's underwear or pants, or what's inside is used ? Seriously, why caring so much you decide to not give rights to people for things not related to you

I would like to apologize to everyone for the nebraska woman who tried to sue all queer people She does not represent us -the other like 4 people in nebraska

I recently got a reply on a comment I made just after I first got approved for HRT that just said, and I quote verbatim: "Don't do it..." That was literally it. The entire thing. No threats of hellfire, no warnings of medical disaster, not even the dysphoria version of telling a depressed person "Have you tried not being sad?" Just "No, please, don't." They didn't even notice that the comment they responded to is two months old. That ship has sailed darling. I've put an end to my testosterone poisoning, I'm already planning my rebirthday party for next February, and all you lovely people are invited. To paraphrase a recently indicted former POTUS,. The transphobes aren't sending their best. Or maybe they are, in which case they're extremely doomed.

I'm from the US and watching the absolute bullshit so many states are trying to pass restricting gender affirming care, trans kids in sports, drag shows, saying 'gay' in schools, etc. is just so disheartening. I have a lot of LGBT friends and to know that there are some places in this country that don't want them to exist is honestly so terrifying and depressing. Times are dark here, but I'm hoping we'll get passed them one day.

Jamie, I don't know if you'll see this, but I just wanted to say that I am recently 1 full year on T, and I've had referrals put in to get my surgeries done. I will be getting top surgery next year some time. And I wanted to say thank you, because you have taught me so much about myself and the community, and you've also taught me how to laugh at the transphobes rather then be hurt by them anymore. So thank you so much. I don't think I would have gotten as far as I have if it weren't for you. ❤️

Transphobes are always asking "what is a woman" because they got tired of saying "where is a woman?"

Well I'm not super knowledgeable on the conditions of the LGBTQ Alliance, but the asexuals, after overthrowing Denmark, would likely send aid to the trans community when the 5th grade biologists come a-knocking

I recently went to a protest again Posie Parker's let women speak talk in Perth, and we doubled the people there to support her. Was quite a great time seeing her attempt to speak over our shouting. Edit since someone got confused, yeah I was there to protest Posie Parker. I hate her don't worry :)

2:29 this made me laugh so hard cuz im a FEMALE presenting person and i was wearing feminine things and i still got called a sir. mind you im born female. i cannot with these people.

Bruh the one about women have to be able to give birth.. yikessss. I have several cis female friends who cannot give birth due to health concerns and hearing that people want to say 'You're not a woman cause you can't birth.' The emotional impact of that on some folks could be really bad.

❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈 Daily reminder; You are valid and amazing just the way you are! 🏳️‍🌈❤🧡💛💚💙💜

10:19 Yes! Someone was trying to argue with me in a KZfaq comment section recently saying “are women and trans women the same?” And I’m like ??? Clearly they meant “cis women and trans women,” but the fact that they worded it that way was already so telling.

"I don't understand transphobia if you didn't get that" -jammie 2023

When people are used to privilege, equality feels like oppression.

I like how we’ve gone from asking if they were okay, to asking if we could take them.

"A woman is defined as having the ability to have a child." Well, my trans male friend is about 7 months pregnant and he's certainly not a woman. (Also his pregnancy photos are everything

I only recently learned I'm intersex, I had a hard time telling my mother that I was nothing she thought I was.

Well, Jamie, there may be a few transphobic gay men and women, but I think the rest of us outnumber them. I'm a 67yo cis gay male who had to come out just as the gay lib movement was taking off, and it was strongly supported by trans folk. We shouldn't forget our debts! Good luck to you, and your book!

10:20 like, we wouldn't say “women and black women” because there it is super obvious why that would be othering and bad.

I know quite a few cis women with prominent Adam's apples. And as a cis guy whose weight goes up and down, for a couple of months after christmas mine isn't particularly easy to see. But terfs being painfully wrong is hardly surprising...

Ignorance + Lack of Empathy = Hatred

I read this as "Are The Transphobes Outcucumbered?"

Also- reducing women to whether or not they can carry a man's child is about as sexist as it gets?? I stg these people make me feel insane.

Gosh, if we're defining women as "capable of having children," I guess I changed to some other gender when I went through menopause.

as someone who is bi, trans, and ace, I fit the trifecta of "in the lgbt+ community, but not accepted by everyone in said community" luckily I personally don't have much of a presence online, so, I haven't experienced too much of nasty people within the community. Over half my friends are some kinda trans, and if you don't like certain parts of the community, part of it or not, you do not belong in the positive safe space we are trying to create.

Jaimie ... don't let those "str8t acting" posers get to you. They've always been around. The vast, vast majority of proud gays see you and the massive hatred pointed at the Trans community. And we've got your back! Cuz we know we're next.

My dad in response to a discussion about non-binary kids: "I used to think I was when I was younger, but then I became an adult and overcome it" I think he needs to figure something out about himself-

I had a hysterectomy, turns out I'm not a woman anymore. My husband is going to be shocked! Edit: an exclamation point.

I gotta say, as a queer trans man, since joining Grindr I've had chasers but no one bashing my body for not being "male". So much better than I feared.

If transphobes make you feel unsafe, Operation Blazing Sword (led by a trans woman) can help ensuring your safety! This was my little PSA :) Have a wonderful day, spuds!

"First they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you. Then you win." :- Mahatma Gandhi

Trans people just rolled a 1 on the d20 gender roll when they were born Also, me and the enbies on our ways to destroy the concept of gender so we can just live our lives

I wish you would sometimes explore biphobia, as a bisexual man, in a serious and deep dive way. Because it's so overlooked, and responsible for many deaths in our community, and most people don't even think it exists.

I swear the whole argument against self-identifying boils down to “I’ll tell you what you are.” These aholes believe they know more about you than you could possibly know about yourself and they just saw you for the first time two seconds ago and made a snap judgment. Never mind your lived experience and what’s true about you, THIS STRANGER KNOWS.

Time to save to get your book for my trans daughter! ❤

The transphobes love to exclude infertile cis women from the definition. I have PCOS I haven't had a period in over a decade and even when I did have periods I wasn't actually able to have a child. So I guess I'm not a woman anymore. 🤷

I loved the image of the Norwegian Pride parade a few years ago, where there were 4-5 people with anti-LGBT-posters against over 50.000 people in the parade 🤣

I once attended a pride parade, which wasn't that big itself, where the "anti-pride protest" was one single woman with a banner in front of the local church. It quickly became a thing for gay couples to detach from the parade to go take turns kissing in front of her while taking a selfie. Not insulting her or arguing, just pissing her off. It got to a point where it looked like she was going to cry. I kinda felt bad for her, but at the same time, I mean, even with a broken voice she was still standing there yelling at us to repent or burn in hell so yeah, she kinda had it coming

I love coming to watch your videos because I am struggling to exist around my mother because she's very transphobic and I'm trans ftm. You just make my day and make me feel like I am a valid man:,)

Thank you for seeing me, Jamie. - A ciswoman who does not meet the transphobic definition of "a real woman".

I love buying my cat dreamies they are his favourite treat and I go out of my way to pick the pride ones rather than the none pride ones when I see them, coz it will help support the community ♡ I cannot believe someone is annoyed at cat treats Edit - I went to my first local trans pride last year (I have been out over 10 years.) It was amazing to see how much love and support my town has for trans people, when I first came out there was only 5 of us (we literally all knew eachother) it blow my mind to see so many trans/enby people all in one place, well over 300 people turned up to our first pride. Even though I have known afew trans people since I came out , it was amazing to meet so many other people like me. I'm nearly 30 now but the age range was from about 7 to 80+ (parents bring their trans kids of 7 or 8ish and people bringing their trans parents or grandparents and trans people of all ages between) it was amazing and I cannot wait to go again. I love going to gay pride and I cant wait to go with my family this year but trans pride holds a special place in my heart, I never felt so accepted and safe haha There was one transphob who made a comment about the situation "being disturbing" while walking past and then the closest people ( about 15 people) started waving flags and showing off their transness (ladies shaking boobies and guys showing chests) and the phob sheepishly left the way they came haha. It's weird and wonderful and I love how much support mu community has for eachother and how they support each other. Anyways ....

Transphobes were also recently outnumbered in protests in Australia! Twice as many pro-trans protesters as anti-trans protesters (even if you count the neo Nazis)! If governments listened to the people then we'd all have far greater equality and rights.

I actually have the perfect definition of a woman! A woman is ANYONE who identifies as a woman! 💯

Just a reminder to everyone including myself don't forget to eat and drink something today and if you have any meds you need to take please take them. You are loved

Jamie the symbol is meant to be an X made from chromosomes. I can only recognise it as I remember the chromosome diagrams within my biology books from 1970s

I wanted to share this since I feel like everyone here would appreciate it. My dad does not understand being trans. What he does understand is that using the wrong pronouns or not accepting people for what gender they say they are is just wrong. If someone tells him they use they/them or that they are nonbinary, he won’t really understand it but will refer to them as they/them and will call them nonbinary. You don’t need to understand being trans to respect a person’s identity and not understanding it is not an excuse, just ask questions if you need to.

Yes they are out numbered

“Rosa parks did not give her seat up for a man neither will I” sis she didn’t give it up for another woman too

imagine someone watching this video, hearing jamie's voice and seeing his gorgeous beard, then going "pfft I can tell that's a woman"

My mom was watching a documentary about an early human who was buried with a fighting spear and they were trying to see if the skeleton was female. (It likely was) they had looked at a very specific part of a bone in the ear to see if it was female. My mom immediately said, "SEE somthing you can't change with surgery." in a smug voice like if you have to go to the TINY bones in the ears (something that can likely only be done after death) I really don't think it's worth it also how are places supposed to require people to say they're trans? Are they supposed to put a label on themselves that says their chromosomes??? This is not right, and wouldn't be fair for anyone because even cis people who don't "look cis" could get hurt by this.

Everyone talks about “gender euphoria” or “gender dysphoria” But everybody never talks about… gender *APHORIA* When you’re minding your own business and then randomly remember your trans and dramatically spit out your drink! /j

I'm a cis woman and not only do I get misgendered but I have also been asked if I'm trans, or if I'm a "real woman or...?" because of my facial structure and voice I think but all of it is wildly inappropriate and rude to ask ANYBODY those things like wtf.

3:44 I am a cis-woman who has given birth to 3 children. As a approach menopause the transphobic community keeps telling me that soon I will no longer be a woman; as only those who can give birth are still women. This kind of thinking does so much harm to both the the cis-female and trans communities.

Transphobes taking Ls is satisfiying as hell

I’m glad to hear and live in a timeline where trans people are outnumbering their oppressors.

I don't wanna be vulgar, but as a gay person, trans men are incredibly attractive and I wish people would stop saying I'm not allowed to be attracted to them

I have always believed falling in love with someone who you're not supposed to be attracted to, just because they were them, was a thing (a straight man falling for a guy but still identify as straight...). Just because life is not about strict rules. Also, attraction to a certain gender can be dissociated from attraction to a certain bodytype : you can be attracted to only one gender but their genitals and whole body are not that important, or fall in love with someone for their personality and they have the bodytype you are confortable with, and turned out their gender is different but you're already in love. And if you are ONLY open about one gender, one kind of genitals and bodytipe and agab, that's okay, but just let everyone else live their relationships how they want to !!!!!

9:30 Rosa Parks did not stand up for herself so that you could twist her words.

The neck roll with "I've always had a banana" hit me so hard. xD Love ya, keep on.

I did it! I created a 100% inclusive definition of a woman: A woman is a person who answers "yes" to the question "Are you a woman?" This works for any gender 100% of the time. Problem solved!

I don’t understand how they hate using terms like “trans” and “cis” but then go and say trans people are “ignoring biological differences”. Like that’s literally why we differentiate and why we want things like menstrual products to be inclusive lol

Transphobes also forget that menopause is a thing. Women tend to be relegated to the background after a certain age, but being pushed out of the womanhood once fertility has passed is harsh. They're certainly the same people who claim erectile disfunction doesn't happen to "real men". But they also say there are only male and female, so at either of those points in time (or one of their other weird rules) we all become trans.

Woman: grown up person that identifies as a female Man: grown up person that identifies as male

My brother just straight up said into my face that he is homo- and transphobic. Now all my courage is gone and I will probably never tell anyone how I feel. ~Fin

I LOVE the "happy ending" of this video showing the contrast in turnout for the different protests! With the explosion of very vocal transphobia that seems to be happening lately, I think it's such an important reminder that there probably really are more supportive people than not; the transphobes just seem to be quite loud and getting a lot of airtime at the moment. It is exhausting and disheartening though, even if the transphobes are (hopefully) in the minority. I am currently going through cancer treatment, and though I'm in my 20s, I'm being treated at a children's hospital, as my cancer is more typically seen in pediatrics. On a recent trip to the hospital for one of my clinic visits, there were a bunch of anti-trans people holding up signs at the entrance and protesting gender-affirming care for trans youth -- and meanwhile, I'm literally just trying to come to the hospital for life-saving cancer treatment, and here are all these idiots basically saying that people like me shouldn't be here or really even exist. Some of their signs also said stupid things about "child mutilation", etc., which is just ridiculous, and once again, these people as usual just have no idea what they're even talking about, because if they actually did any real research they'd know that surgery isn't even part of gender-related care for children -- and what these people also seem to fail to realize is that, if children do have proper intervention and care at a young age, it will actually help them AVOID surgery or other more invasive procedures down the road in many cases, because they won't need it to un-do the damage from the first puberty that wasn't supposed to happen! Hell, I WISH I'd been able to have access to the kind of treatment these people claim is "child abuse" when I was younger, because it would've made so many things about my life a LOT less painful! Anyway, the whole experience just pissed me off, and made me especially mad that they were spewing all this hate in front of a freaking CHILDREN'S HOSPITAL, where kids and young people are coming for all sorts of treatments, many of which are life-or-death situations (like cancer treatment!), yet all they can focus on is their transphobic agenda -- and I'm sure I'm not the only trans patient who had to see that that day. It just makes me upset that these types of people are getting so much attention in the media -- and, yes, that they spend so much of their time literally just being hateful seemingly for the sake of just being hateful and their own stupid hateful agenda. So anyway, I just really appreciated the reminder at the end here about how even though these transphobes seem to be making a lot of ruckus lately, there really are probably far more people who are supportive than not. It's a wonderful reminder to step back sometimes and focus on the positive things like that.

🤣🤣🤣 I am a cis gay man and I have dated a trans woman and 10 years later , I dated a trans man. So I'm not really gay? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 That's hilarious!

"if you need to self-ID as a woman then you're not a woman" is just such... idiocy! Just shows how little they understand the mental aspects of gender. Yeah, I'm a ciswoman, and I *do* self-ID as a woman.

9:39 What the hell?! Rosa Parks’ story wasn’t even to do with feminism She wasn’t asked to stand because she was a woman, she was asked to stand cause she was black This literally makes so little sense… I shouldn’t be surprised; it is a transphobe 😂

Hay Jamie, I have a definition for women, all women. A woman is someone who feels like a female, regardless of sexual organs/parts. :)

I'm afab and allowed a certain medical condition to go untreated. It was a choice that effectively made myself infertile. By transphobes definition, am I a trans man? (No, I'm still genderqueer lol)

Even if one disregards all the general inaccuracy and idiocy of "We can always tell", the transpanic defense is literally an admittence by transphobes that they themselves can't always tell 🙄🔫

Posie Parker came to Aotearoa NZ, and she and her ilk were massively outnumbered at protests around the country. L + ratio + trans rights + soup

I am a cis woman, and due to a brutal SA, I had to have an emergency hysterectomy when I was quite young. So I am a person that does not have ovaries, a uterus, a period, or the ability to give birth. Yet I repeat, I am a cis woman, but according to the Transphobs I don’t qualify as a “REAL WOMAN” whatever that means.

9:28. In the US, Rosa Parks is a black woman everyone learns about in grade school when studying civil rights history. Speaking as a white guy, I find it extremely crass, self-serving, shortsighted, and painfully lacking in self-awareness when white people try to co-opt black civil rights figures to serve their own political ends. Rosa Parks's struggle wasn't primarily for you or me, sister.

Yeah, being a part of the LGBTQ+ does sometimes feel like you're closed off from parts because you have to fit a certain narrative. Like, I'm not that big on sex and don't have a six-pack ergo many other gay people will just think I'm not up to their standards. Good job that I put my career before my looks and that I just enjoy life solo at the moment

9:30 They seem to be missing a bit of an integral part of why Rosa Parks' story is important....

If a woman is someone who can get pregnant and give birth, what does that make me? I deliberately chose to get sterilized without ever having had a child, so now I couldn't get pregnant even if I wanted to. Am I no longer a woman? Since I did it on purpose, does that make me trans? Terf logic makes no sense.

"The capacity to give birth to children" *Holds up fish* Woman. They didn't say human, now, did they

An online cis woman friend of mine in the USA was refused entry to a toilet, because having masculine features, she was mistaken as being trans. Having been skeptical at first, she is now a solid trans ally. That person claiming human beings can tell cannot even spell "sexes". So much for them trying to appear educated. SNP MP Joanna Cherry was responsible for holding up gender Self-ID in Scotland, which her own party had promised to implement by 2021. She has consistently objected to being called a transphobe. However, she has recently become involved, along with Labour MP, Rosie Duffield, with a right-wing think tank, Policy Report, on their project, "Biology Matters", which claims gender is purely biological. That utterly denies the very existence of trans people, which is not only transphobic, but openly and dangerously so. Therefore, so long as Joanna Cherry denies my existence (I'm non-binary), I am not going to be afraid to spare her feels. She IS a transphobe, and has proven herself to be one by her own actions. And what's, having become involved with a think tank which has the ear of the Conservative government Scotland never voted for, I will openly call this woman who claims to want an independent Scotland, as I do, a unionist and a fucking Tory to boot.

absolutely bonkers to me when transphobes don't realize how cruel it is to not allow kids to identify as they want. like they're a child...no one is trying to say give them physical sex changes but you can let a child who was born a boy grow her hair out and wear feminine clothes and use a feminine name and pronouns. kids should have freedom of expression and freedom to have fun and figure out their identity. maybe it is a phase, so what? "phases" are an important part of a child's development. is your child harming themselves or others by dressing how they want? or going by the terms they want? no? then let them be a kid and be weird and identify how they want. kids can know their gender as young as age 6, however not all can and....that's ok. just let them express themselves how they want. some kids have phases where they identify as animals or fictional characters does that mean they're tryna get surgery to become that way as a child? no. like that's all reversible? you know how much psychological damage it does when growing up you have to fit an image instead of be yourself? why would you tell a kid they can't dress how they like; or identify as what gender they like? like how do you not see how mean it is to not just let themselves figure out their identity as they grow??? that's like, psychological abuse. its literally cruel. it shows you don't see a child as human once they're different and that's disgusting. or in general you see children as their parent's dolls to dress up as whatever identity THEY want their kid to be instead of a unique person who should be allowed to grow up and be whoever they please. kids feelings are so sensitive. like just let her wear a dress and go by she/her if she wants LITERALLY WHY DO YOU CARE

Hey people. So I've recently seen a new "dog whistle" (I think this is the word, I'm not sure). People would say, "The patients/lunatics are running the asylum". These people always turn out to be extremely transphobic and nasty. Stay safe out there.❤

Me a cis man without a visible Adams apple:

Me: Muscular, fairly tall cis woman with long hair and somewhat "masculine" facial features. "We can always tell" people: You are TRANS. You are really a BOY! You are NOT a woman! Me: What? No. Wait what?!

Biggest compliment I ever received was getting hit on by a cis lesbian. It made my year!~