Pretty funny situation tbh

Facts

woke churches exist. Women workforce exists. men have to work full time to support. Women: "why no man in churches? where are the good men? why they dont fight evil?" im sure western men can fight evil when literally they have to work full day just to support themselves duh?!? but hey, gotta get women into work force am I right lool? I never regret leaving the us sh i t hole. too many gymnastic catholics there. imagine believing in God and democracy at the same time. like bruh

Not me dude. There are so many incredible women at Catholic Church but the focus is the Rosary rn. Culture especially on KZfaq is to demonize the opposite sex so treat each other awesomely. PLEASE!

True!! Maybe you guys need to put up those posters with the little ticket thingies at the end…. ‘Have you seen a dateable good Catholic woman? Call this number!’ 😂

There is a saint said, that if you only choose men/women based on their looks, the relationship will fall hard. I gotta find it though

​@@dwightschrute900the attraction towards the physical aspect is still important and is the beginning of the spiritual one so it must still be there

very true, no one wants average people for marriage etc.

@@michaelsix9684then there will be this infinite stalemate going on. Because at the end of the day most folks aren’t super models.

@@dwightschrute900I would love to see this quote.

Finding out how old a girl is actually isn't so difficult. Find out if she has a driver's license, if she is going to school or if she has a job. Or even if you can't find these things out right away or can't speak with any of her friends or family to figure out, also keep in mind where you met her at in certain places there are more adults than those under 18. If she is wearing a lot of makeup she may look older than she is however girls under 21 tend to be skinnier than older girls. I'm a woman in my twenties I can usually give a rough guess as to a girl's age. The older ones are easier to chat with, are less likely to shy away from a conversation, and as I said they're generally have put on more weight than younger girls. Women's bodies actually continue changing into their twenties, she may have larger breasts, wider hips, larger butt or stomach. It does depend on the body type but the facial features are also a little different, teenage girls usually still have a child's face with the exception of pimples. An adult woman might have a younger looking face too but you should be able to tell from just a couple brief chats.

@Jozo Kulis women don't get asked out by men as much as you seem to think. I was very rarely asked out. We are not rejecting men left and right. I can count on one hand how many guys have asked me out.

@@matthewvelazquez2013 I said no to the ones in high school because my parents said to wait until I was 18. After high school for the most part men would just ask for my number and not ask me out. But there was one who did and I did say yes to him. On online dating men were much more likely to communicate though I felt a bit uncomfortable with that. I am trying Catholic match right now though, will meet with someone from there.

Exactly! I think I’m decent looking and rarely if ever got asked out. Many of my relationships were because I asked the guy to be my bf.

The only reason I met my husband was on Catholic match. My only recommendation is to find someone local so you can get to know them better. It’s extremely hard to truly know someone long distance.

does the Catholic Church refuse to remarry anyone who's been divorced? or is it more specifically you can't remarry if you've been married before by a Catholic priest? Just curious cuz im starting my process to convert from a Lutheran to a Catholic in September, and while I'd ideally like to marry someone who's also never been married, I'm just wondering if I met someone who I connected with that had previously been married in either another Church or just civil union, and was able to convince them to convert to Catholicism if they'd be able to remarry again in a Catholic Church, or would I need to find a Catholic who's never been married, or someone who's never been married and is willing to become a Catholic?

​@@SuperSaiyanScandinavian If someone has been married in a Catholic wedding, they cannot be married again afterwards..unless that marriage is annulled through the proper channels.

@@philfrank5601 thanks good to know

Spot on !

it's a real problem, and if someone is divorced with children, you have even more hurdles to face

Its like you have to give up one thing for the another , you may find that you will need to date people you are less then what your physically attracted to, and than you would have to ask yourself is this someone you can see yourself having sex with ? Than for next 30,40 years ? Personally I wouldn't, I don't want to be in a roommate marriage 5,10,15 yrs down the road.

Well, I sure hope to find an eatable person someday. Can't always run to the supermarket if your fridge is empty.

… Dahmer vibes anyone? I kid.

@@saturdaysolitude7800 I LOVE AUTOCORRECT.

Well, it's not uncommon to describe an affectionate or caring person as sweet.

In the past, married women would wear black mantillas/veils and unmarried women would wear white ones.

@@Waldemarvonanhalt they need to start veiling again.

I feel that traditionalist women can be nasty if they expect 'alpha male mentality' . That's why I am sceptical of traditionalist dating, the role expectations can be too harsh for someone a bit shy like me😂

​@@karlheven8328just introduce yourself. It's pretty calm. But most women will not approach a man

I felt like this too for a while but it was just me rationalizing my way of escaping the anxiety I experienced from approaching girls. I'm not saying you aren't being genuine, you could be, but just watch out if you are indeed coming up with an excuse instead of actually being seriously OK with never dating anyone.

You're 100% right. And I would add to that make sure you give up masturbation and all forms of pornography. make sure that your life is a sex free zone because any sexual activity (including with yourself) outside of marriage is a sin. A lot of people who are think they're practicing celibacy aren't really because they continue to masturbate and watch porn. It makes a huge difference to be truly celibate. Focus on the Lord and the mission he has for you in life, if you meet someone along the way, great but don't chase after a relationship. So many Christians put a relationship above God, its as if they make a deal that they'll put God first as soon as the have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. God comes above this.

@@cameronmcgehee Thank you and I appreciate you sharing your experience. I'm honestly being genuine. Never had anxiety or much issue talking with women. I really thought and prayed on this for sure. It truly came down to understanding I may not be ready or it's not part of God's plan for me. So I've always been improving myself spiritually, career-wise, and being there for friends and family. And if something happens down the road and i find someone cool, but if not I'm really fine with that too.

@@eoinMB3949 Porn is harmful in almost every situation but masturbation is fine as long as you're not using the thoughts/images of others as your source of arousal (going by your faith).

@@cameronmcgehee Porn is harmful but masturbation is also just as harmful. When you masturbate you are conditioning your equipment to your hand, which is far stronger than a vagina. So if you do get married and have sex you will not be able to perform and the sexual act will be a severe let down for you and your wife. Trust me I know this from experience. But when you stop masturbation it's like reseting yourself to factory settings, the way you were meant to be without interfering with yourself. And this is an incredible feeling. Masturbation also numbs you out, it destroys your natural sexual energy that you give off. Again, I can speak from personal experience here, the difference between the attention I get from women when I used to masturbate and when I stopped masturbation is the difference between night and day. If you give up masturbation you'll see for yourself, its incredible what happens and when you do see what it's like in your life when you don't jerk off, you will never do it again because you'll realise that you are a fool to masturbate. Another reason to never masturbate is what it does to your brain, watch Gary Wilson's Ted talk on this topic. He talks about porn but also about the effects of consistent masturbation......its scary because you are literally rewiring your brain. Masturbation is a mugs game and it's nonsensical to do this. If you don't believe me, stop masturbation for 3 months and see what happens. I promise when you see what life is like on the other side you will never masturbate again so long as you live.

surprised to hear this, maybe women don't think they can meet anyone using church activities, Catholic women often marry outside the church and don't consider looking for Catholic guys

Same here, but in Central Ontario. The one single Catholic woman that was single (and looking to date) I've already dated 😂 So not sure where to go, probably will have to increase my social circle to congregations outside of the city I live in

This is interesting. In the City, my city, it's mainly women at Mass. We are just 😂 hanging out with the older ladies and men.

Don’t be so melancholic. God works through open doors. You got this! Praying for you :)

Watch Fr Ripperger, take the faith seriously, God will provide, follow his Will. I find it very tough, but I know there's hope. No point being a lukewarm Catholic, you either believe in God's divine will, that he wants the best for you (including marriage if it's your vocation), that there are angels and demons fighting battles every day, or you don't believe. Don't lose faith!

I live in one of the most popular places in the country (Raleigh, NC) with a rather large Catholic population (though like any area, the % of those who are truly devout Catholics is small) and I still can’t find a good girlfriend. Society is intentionally attacking monogamy, morals and God. But, like St. Padre Pio loved to say “Pray, Hope, and don’t worry!”

Hello Eirene, remember, You’re 28. Not 38. 18-22 is obviously in play and probably the best option in many cases.

You have more options now. Catholics are the largest religion in the US, each protestant sect is very small and baptists usually only marry other baptists. Keep looking join young adult groups also

They're all sinners.

@@aclark903 relax kid

I have an impossible time finding ones that are single (especially in my area).

@@garrettstephens91 I have an impossible time finding kangaroos in my area, but that doesn't mean they don't exist.

@@NPC-gl8xp Sure, but if no one can find them, then whether or not they exist is functionally irrelevant.

Visit the Philippines. A Catholic culture, friendly people and beautiful churches.

It is also necessary to talk about the "Catholic" women who are in active homosexual relationships, marry 6-6-6 Chads, having them as providers, while they keep their female homosexual relationships. Or about the purity rings that magically appear and disappear according to how good-looking it is the guy approaching.

wise tip for both men and women. We need to stop focusing on judging others and humble ourselves first❤

@@matthewvelazquez2013 I hear you and I didn’t mean to wait around fruitlessly and lose other opportunities, I meant to try to maintain that friendship as a friendship and be open to God’s leadings by deep prayer. Things will move one way or another. There will either be a change in the girl’s feelings or another opportunity in a different relationship will present itself.

Sorry Matthew, you are wrong on this.

Honestly if meeting strangers and trying to date them isn't working, establishing friendships is the best.

@@catholicfemininity2126 friendship is where any long term relationship is most secure, I've never been married to my lady friend for 22 years, we are friends with similar values who decided to establish a permanent basis for our friendship and embark upon raising a family together, Romance and love blinded by sexual attraction will never stand up to the trials life throws at us with close to the same resilience as friendship will.

​@@KipperbobI do not understand you are raising a family with a friend😂? Are you catholic or have I understood something wrong😂?

so true, dating apps made it even harder

they don't, and most women today are rejecting 80% of the men or more, studies show this, we now have the lowest marriage rates in US history

And plenty of "Catholic men" meet and hook up on tinder. Goes both ways. My TLM parish is busting at the seams with young families and awesome singles. Try the TLM parishes and then get back to me lol.

@@pjm001 Will probably change as time goes on. Ours was purely young families and then it grew to include singles. Since the Bishop made us merge the largest TLM diocese into 3 small churches for Latin Masses, it has only congregated them into the same spaces further.

@@theresefrancis9283 So basically, being Catholic is a big, fat lie and all men and women are looking for the same superficial things and for the same worldly pleasures.

That's what happens when men are abandoned by their mothers and left to fend for themselves in a society that worships women's 'freedom'. Women demanded to be free and they now have their wish, seems like nobody is happy with the outcome.

What's wrong with aWoman getting the best partner they can get?

@@RocKnight11 That's fine if it's the best "they can get." Most women just want the "best" and won't settle for a man they can get. A friend of mine, good convert from Arkansas, dated a deaf and blind girl and she dumped him because...reasons. The expectations are unreal.

@@zsedcftglkjh Maybe these "reasons" were really good reasons for these two not to be in a relationship. Consider this: many of today's women are very liberal-minded, proChoice, and proWoke. Many of today's men are conservative-minded, anti-Choice, antiWoke... I mean, these guys are actually proud to be antiWoke. If a woman wants to date a person of similar values, it's completely understandable that they wouldn't want to date theseGuys.

There are girls I'm not particularly attracted too that I'd still date if they asked -- usually because of their demeanor, personality, intelligence and interests. And I wouldn't say I was lowering my standards either -- that's kind of an assholish thing to say about another person's looks assuming they're at least trying to keep up appearances. But I'd also say the dynamics here are somewhat different. No matter how good looking a girl is, most are going to hit the wall pretty hard by the time they turn 35. Even an average and plain looking man is going to age better than your average woman.

Women are much more selective than men when it comes to their physical standards and that's okay. I just wish people were more honest about it instead of telling guys it's because they have a deeply flawed personality/don't make enough money etc.

@@ptacek-gn5jg mem too

@@Jimmy-iy9pl Well, women prefer it if the man asks them, there were plenty of guys I was interested in, but wasn't sure if they felt the same way, and I didn't wanna be too masculine in asking them out or approaching them all the time. If a man doesn't approach, we girls assume he isn't interested.

You are so right, I think most of us just have high standards of looks or height etc..... I am a tall lady who wants a tall man, it's rough because I live in an area with lots of short men and it's so unfortunate.

Most guys today are scared to approach a girl.

The default assumption is to treat men like they are predators.

Gives up on simple math, that's a turn off for me

@@jmcm152 As a computational scientist, I have to say the same. She was perfect until I heard that 😅

I'm pretty demanding. I guess my ex wasn't a good man.

@@braveHoratius He was an atheist anyways who cheated; so I'm not really concerned. As for who was wrong, this is the internet...lmao only children fight on here. 🤣👍

@@matthewvelazquez2013 I think the idea is that since women control access to sexual reproduction, men will make themselves into the men most desirable to women, which used to be those men who offered security and safety within a monogamous relationship, women no longer desire this since they have abandoned morality and become promiscuous, in the societies that have gone furthest down this path, 20%of the men are pro creating with all the women and 80% of the men do not have any access to sexual reproduction, that's 80%of the male population who have no personal investment in the creation of a society that is safe for women and children, because it ain't their women and ain't their children. Men become what women demand from them. If all the women demanded monogamous marriage in return for access to sexual reproduction, the distribution of females would be spread equally among all the male population, giving the majority of the men personal responsibility for the creation of a society safe for their women and children. So I put the blame for all the social degradation in the world right at the feet of promiscuous women. Because men will always step up to the mark and become the men most desirable to the women. In return for access to sexual reproduction of course.

There’s also the aspect of being over demanding, i.e. a woman who thinks because she’s pretty and of a certain faith she can have every guy she wants

@@theAwkwardAvocado that's why we have competition in the marketplace, she can have any guy she wants, if she's offering quality at a competitive rate, over demanding is leaving the men with more competitive options. Many will settle for a lesser quality product at lower cost, because it demands less and gets the same job done. Basically for the same reason I drive Nissan or Toyota instead of Audi and BMW, they function the same, but one demands less than the other to cover the same mileage.

you don't evange-date... in most cases it leads to a disaster

I'm not Catholic but I've more or less come to the same conclusion. If you can find a pretty and feminine girl your age or younger, but she's not a Christian or doesn't share your particular type of Christianity, you can date her and slowly introduce her to your faith when it becomes apparent that you're both likely to commit to a relationship. You don't need to be a try-hard, just ask her to come to church with you and occasionally bring the subject up -- which you should be doing anyway if you're a sincere Christian. (Every Christian is called to be an evangelist of some sort. If you're not talking about your faith with friends and family, you're violating Jesus' command to spread the Gospel to the ends of the earth and to love your neighbor.

@@Jimmy-iy9pl sadly I tought it would work too...trust me there are countless marriages where the religion/confession is the major issue (if you take it seriously)

Noooo don't do that, you will only regret it. I've seen too many evengelizing dating go sour.

Do it! Slowly evangelizing in relationship does work! God works in mysterious ways!