Are you a People Pleaser? | Ms. Rinku Sawhney | TEDxIITIndore

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Ms. Rinku is a Social Impact Entrepreneur, a Personal Excellence & Mind-shift Coach. She has co-founded Elevated Minds, which is a start-up committed to helping people rise above mediocrity and become the masters of their own lives. Her work has enabled people to get clarity and identify roadblocks, that have held them back from achieving success.
In this talk, she delivers an eye-opening speech and touches the fine line between being kind and a people pleaser by sharing examples from her own life. Rinku is a Social Impact Entrepreneur, a Personal Excellence & Mind-shift Coach. She has co-founded Elevated Minds, which is a start-up committed to help people rise above mediocrity and become the masters of their own lives.
Over 5000 people have experienced Rinku’s signature live events. Her work has enabled people to get clarity and identify roadblocks, that have held them back from achieving success. Rinku firmly believes that each and every human is unique and special and that we are all born to be successful. She is also the author of an upcoming book, “My Life; I Decide”. In her own small way, Rinku believes in impacting the world and leaving it a slightly better place. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@montheramier1556
@montheramier1556 3 жыл бұрын
"Don't be afraid of losing people, be afraid of losing yourself."
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@montheramier1556
@montheramier1556 2 жыл бұрын
This talk is a life changing for me Ma'am 🙏
@swetabora6502
@swetabora6502 8 ай бұрын
Being the eldest daughter brought up in the same environment as you, I can relate to why I have been people-pleasing for so long that I'm drained, I always wondered why people do this to me despite being nice and kind. I learned it's me not them. Just recognised my flaws to fix my life. I hope I get there one day.
@ezazkhan4233
@ezazkhan4233 2 ай бұрын
yes bro im people please must problem
@saveboykings8670
@saveboykings8670 4 жыл бұрын
“By saying yes to the world, i was saying no to myself.”
@reshmaharikanth123
@reshmaharikanth123 2 жыл бұрын
Start treating yourself with love and respect ... Don't be afraid of loosing people be afraid of loosing yourself ..... Thank you mam
@NeetikaSrivastava604
@NeetikaSrivastava604 4 жыл бұрын
Your “yes” will have lot more value if you learn the art of saying “no” ❤️
@riyasinha8795
@riyasinha8795 5 жыл бұрын
Today I realized , I'm not being kind to people ...I'm a people pleaser.. thanks mam ..for the happy realization😃
@supriya488
@supriya488 3 жыл бұрын
Same experience
@elizabethhewitt9723
@elizabethhewitt9723 2 ай бұрын
People kept telling me I was SO nice... One even said "Your too nice"... This video resonates with me. I will no longer say no to myself and yes to others at my expense.
@naveedmulani
@naveedmulani 5 жыл бұрын
The moral is be good , be loyal , kind , loving , caring but start doing all these with yourself first .
@gracesanity6314
@gracesanity6314 4 жыл бұрын
YES, YES.
@jinujisnaa
@jinujisnaa 3 жыл бұрын
💯💯
@amanpreet2005
@amanpreet2005 3 жыл бұрын
Yes💯💯
@aadhiraamr6117
@aadhiraamr6117 5 жыл бұрын
I feel happy that people speak about these issues openly ...but at the same time Im sad that this 'message ' conveyed by her only reaches a small % of population. .....this should reach the majority!
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 4 жыл бұрын
thank you for your comments and engagement. There are some very trivial and overlooked behaviors which generally hamper our growth in career and in life. I have written about such behaviors in a book. My book, "My Life I Decide" is now available on Amazon worldwide in Print and Kindle formats. If you love my talks, the book is better. Do pick up a copy and it would really be helpful.
@graceflorence1244
@graceflorence1244 3 жыл бұрын
This is one of the best speech on people pleasing one can find
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@ezazkhan4233
@ezazkhan4233 Жыл бұрын
what solution mam people plesing behavior im must problem
@saritabhuyan4454
@saritabhuyan4454 5 жыл бұрын
Really she is right. wen U extra nice to people, then they started ignoring you
@richasaxena6636
@richasaxena6636 5 жыл бұрын
I too have faced similar challenges. When I realised that people pleasing doesn't really make me happy, I stopped doing it. My mother was a people pleaser and expected me to be the same. I suffered and learned from my mistake. I like your honest revelation. I can relate to you.
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Do look for more videos on my youtube channel.
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 4 жыл бұрын
thank you for your comments and engagement. There are some very trivial and overlooked behaviors which generally hamper our growth in career and in life. I have written about such behaviors in a book. My book, "My Life I Decide" is now available on Amazon worldwide in Print and Kindle formats. If you love my talks, the book is better. Do pick up a copy and it would really be helpful.
@dikshasharma4518
@dikshasharma4518 5 жыл бұрын
I never comment on any video.. This is the first time because mam your story has really compelled me to do so.. Don't be afraid of loosing people be afraid of loosing yourself ☺aapne aankhein khol di aaj .. Thank you so much mam
@nancysingh9833
@nancysingh9833 3 жыл бұрын
It seems that someone is narrating my emotions. This video has changed my life. Thank you Mam.
@HariKrishna-rj6pu
@HariKrishna-rj6pu 3 жыл бұрын
I'm having the habbit of people pleaser, it's a syndrome,it's a disease which I carried on throughout my life,thank you mam for your valuable speach now I feel I was born and take my life in to a new way,
@monurajput5608
@monurajput5608 Жыл бұрын
I have been a people pleaser since my teenage days .I have lack of confidence and social anxiety. I was bullied in school too. I remember I was not like this until the age of 10-12. My father is a people pleaser too and has ADHD. Is genetics a cause ? Or bullying?
@kamalpreetkaurpabla5713
@kamalpreetkaurpabla5713 4 жыл бұрын
Order people. Dont please anyone in life except our parents. Not even our partner or kids. No one is forever everyone flys at one stage. Just please your parents who love you infinitely.
@Sunshine-yk2eg
@Sunshine-yk2eg 2 жыл бұрын
I suggest you should watch the TedTalk by Salma Hindy
@nushs3191
@nushs3191 2 жыл бұрын
@@Sunshine-yk2eg I love Salma Hindy's TedX on people pleasing! Hear Hear! She said it right about parents too.
@jagdishsharma3671
@jagdishsharma3671 4 жыл бұрын
One of the best Ted talks I've come across so far, This is definitely going to help so many including me to get out of this people pleasing syndrome.
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 4 жыл бұрын
thank you
@pallavisreetambraparni6995
@pallavisreetambraparni6995 4 жыл бұрын
rinkuji this is so true for many of us women
@realandrare1338
@realandrare1338 3 жыл бұрын
@@SawRinku thanks a lot for this session bcoz i faced exactly same issues it was like u R talking about my life.. Thanks a lot.. Now i know whats wrong with me. I got answers.
@kritikasharma4061
@kritikasharma4061 3 жыл бұрын
@@realandrare1338 Same here
@Zenigma217
@Zenigma217 2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on overcoming all the issues and getting to be comfortable with who you are, and not what people want you to be!
@yogitasingh9311
@yogitasingh9311 Жыл бұрын
One thing I realised through her is that it's so important to acknowledge our flaws and work on them. Letting go of the idea that we're perfect and the issue lies with the world. But the truth is we attract what we are !
@samuelkirinyet8356
@samuelkirinyet8356 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Rinku, imagine it had taken me 3 decades to find you, i have always had a feeling that one day someone would come along and give me the answers to the problems i have been facing in my life. Now i feel liberated and happy. Kindly visit more and more people and give them this messenger. It is liberating. Thank you.
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@ezazkhan4233
@ezazkhan4233 Жыл бұрын
right
@ezazkhan4233
@ezazkhan4233 Жыл бұрын
what sloution bro
@javithrazvi7453
@javithrazvi7453 5 жыл бұрын
People Pleasing Syndrome - Finally I got a good name to address my nature. Thank you Rinku. I am amazed by both your language and the core subject of the speech. I wouldn't say from today onward I am gonna change this habit. Because its not a habit. This nature is the most deep rooted one which we cant easily have a good control on unless we are aware of it throughout the time we deal with people. Actually, the first challenge is to hear what really our heart says. The truth our heart wants is so subtle that we have to be in peace to hear the true demand of our heart. Its an Art to say NO when it is required because first of all knowing what we want itself is a challenge as we are implanted with this nature for decades since our birth. However, towards excellence is the mission of life and let us learn the art asap without losing hope. Cheers my dear guys over there with PPS.
@devendra-2095
@devendra-2095 4 жыл бұрын
Javith...Nice and ur english is very good.
@simpleliving3795
@simpleliving3795 4 жыл бұрын
Very nicely put 👏
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 4 жыл бұрын
Javith and others, thank you for your comments and engagement. There are some very trivial and overlooked behaviors which generally hamper our growth in career and in life. I have written about such behaviors in a book. My book, "My Life I Decide" is now available on Amazon worldwide in Print and Kindle formats. If you love my talks, the book is better. Do pick up a copy and it would really be helpful.
@gajananpunjapwar3919
@gajananpunjapwar3919 Жыл бұрын
Me also 🤗
@graceflorence1244
@graceflorence1244 3 жыл бұрын
Say no wen u want to.. with no excuse rather. I would have really loved to.. Practice self love. accept and approve of yourself Be authentic about your feelings. Share your opinions and be true to your feelings speak up on what hurts u in a respectful way. Don't be afraid to loose people be afraid to loose yourself. When u accept you're self the world will follow suit. Be willing to leave on your own terms and improve your self esteem. Whenever u r saying yes to others make sure you are not saying no to you're self.
@tanujadon
@tanujadon 5 жыл бұрын
This is so me.. it reminds me of all the things i did to please people and in return i got nothing except for loosing my self respect..Thankyou so much Rinku for this beautiful speech
@lakshaydulani
@lakshaydulani 5 жыл бұрын
your "yes" will have a lot more value when you learn the art of saying "no".. nicely said
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Do look for more videos on my youtube channel.
@vijendrabhargava07
@vijendrabhargava07 5 жыл бұрын
@@SawRinku Mam, I have found myself in your talks.Thank you for such a wonderful speech.
@jonatafontela5595
@jonatafontela5595 4 жыл бұрын
When we change the inside, the mind, everything around us change as well. She's amazing!
@sowmyasunil8967
@sowmyasunil8967 3 жыл бұрын
I am old Rinku & suffering from people pleasing syndrome. Couldnt stop writing comment before listening to complete talk.
@dorothyonyango6575
@dorothyonyango6575 2 ай бұрын
I'm here in 2024 and so glad I listened to this TED talk! Such an eye opener and enlightening too, for me the people pleaser and enabler. Rinku is such a blessing.
@maenowwesleymotuba7516
@maenowwesleymotuba7516 Жыл бұрын
Use to suffer from People pleaser syndrome. When I changed family and friends say, "I am very stubborn and adamant to change". Just a few days ago a friend of mind thought I disrespected another friend just because I did not want to be part of their plan.
@tejeshB19
@tejeshB19 5 жыл бұрын
First time KZfaq recommendation has recommended correctly. Thanks a lot KZfaq. Thanks a lot Rinku for the root cause and the solution.
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 4 жыл бұрын
Teja, thank you for your comments and engagement. There are some very trivial and overlooked behaviors which generally hamper our growth in career and in life. I have written about such behaviors in a book. My book, "My Life I Decide" is now available on Amazon worldwide in Print and Kindle formats. If you love my talks, the book is better. Do pick up a copy and it would really be helpful.
@chetanshahi7061
@chetanshahi7061 5 жыл бұрын
World would treat you the way you treat yourself wow wonderful line .
@ankitaahuja111
@ankitaahuja111 5 жыл бұрын
I am not a people pleaser but was once a very blunt person. I realized saying direct No affected my friendships and relations. I have very very limited friends but still, feel the ones who can manipulate others and become people pleasers have more friends but after this video, I think, inside they are all alone. Sad but true.. In the end, you have no one except yourself.
@sudhamuralidharan6574
@sudhamuralidharan6574 5 жыл бұрын
Wonderful. You reflect me. Now I dont bother about others. I am at peace. But still dont open up to anyone. Best thing is looking inside n be a witness as Lord Krishna said. Tq
@yordanosteklehaimanot3752
@yordanosteklehaimanot3752 2 жыл бұрын
This is all about me Is there any one like me tooo kind to other but( rejected)hurts yourself. I have realized that is all me Thank sis for your shared your story.
@hasibullahwardak4514
@hasibullahwardak4514 5 жыл бұрын
ma'am when I was listening you the last 20 minutes I was thinking, that someone else is telling my history to me thank you
@learnengthroughstories
@learnengthroughstories 5 жыл бұрын
Ma'am, this is my story too. I faced the same challenges at work. Its really painful when people take us for granted. I have been wired in such a way that if my yes can make others happy then it is fine. I thought having an innocent kind image gives love in return. I was wrong
@nasarhussain8396
@nasarhussain8396 5 жыл бұрын
I believe this pleasing syndrome is a hrash outcome of present society and its structure. But, since it is a problem we got to have a solution and come out of it as quickly as possible. World is in huge scarcity of intellectual diversity, so we need to stop this mimicking behaviour which is very much prevalent in India. If it is not possible or difficult, try to learn from nature like; its diversity, wellbeing of all flora and fauna, rejuvenating capicity. Good luck, i hope they will discover themselves very soon. In the present civilisation there are numerous ways by which any body can achieve whatever he/she desires.😎..
@neollalobo
@neollalobo 5 жыл бұрын
There's no room for naive people dear. Forget the past..request God for wisdom for your day to day life and long term plans.
@championschoiceas2085
@championschoiceas2085 5 жыл бұрын
Sruthi_Happy soul me too
@ravichandra3210
@ravichandra3210 5 жыл бұрын
It is a hard fact to digest that most humans around us are ungreatful pricks who deserve zero respect n kindness.
@TheKarankansal
@TheKarankansal 5 жыл бұрын
Sruthi_Happy soul just follow your work path.
@TFTReels
@TFTReels 5 жыл бұрын
9:49 Amazingly explained mam - when heart is saying no but we keep saying yes from outside..this is completely people pleasing..Great
@geetikachandna6105
@geetikachandna6105 3 жыл бұрын
An eye-opener indeed!
@varshinikaithapuram6189
@varshinikaithapuram6189 3 жыл бұрын
Totally totally totally could relate to this! It seemed like my inner self is telling me what i am, throughout the talk.And yes, I am trying to move away the "people pleasing syndrome" from my life. A truly motivational talk!!!
@suryaprasadam.b6368
@suryaprasadam.b6368 2 жыл бұрын
I m also people pleaser Now I realized.... I will be myself... Thank you very much madam
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@ajaykumar-nz4cm
@ajaykumar-nz4cm Жыл бұрын
There is no love greater than self love ,no respect greater than self esteem . Following our own mind & soul is greatest acheivement of life i.e true
@asraotuni
@asraotuni 3 жыл бұрын
Great talk. Other readers - There is a book called "Dont say yes, when you want to say No". It helps to comeout of people pleaing syndrome.
@svdfxd
@svdfxd 5 жыл бұрын
I could totally relate to your story. Even I have been consciously taking steps not be a people pleaser. At times even when you help someone for long period of time, people tend to take you for granted. I need to work on this. And yes saying 'No' is big part of this. The first time I did it, it took lot of courage to say No.
@ghadaradwan3384
@ghadaradwan3384 4 жыл бұрын
It’s like I’ve finally understood myself !! Till this day I didn’t know what was making me so unhappy . When u r a people pleaser you are so vulnerable and fragile . Because u expect people to treat you like u treat them . I wish I can be as strong as u Ms.Rinku . I hope I can free myself from this chronic “illness”. Thank u very much .
@user-bd8wq9kf4l
@user-bd8wq9kf4l 5 жыл бұрын
Very true...people pleasing can cost our life..
@lovingme6896
@lovingme6896 5 жыл бұрын
I knew I needed to change now! I have been a people please my whole life. The first thing I would say in interviews was that i’m so sweet and kind and I love to help people. Which is true to some extent.. but starting a new job, I am a few months in and completely exhausted. It seems like every job I have, I want to quit. It’s always every one else’s fault. I realized it’s me. I say yes to everything. Just like you said, my heart says no, but my outside says yes. I started to hold grudges with people thinking they knew I was exhausted and why are they having me do all of this work? I thought I am the one saying yes! They learned through me to always ask me things because I say yes! I am sick and tired of faking and not being true to myself. Always agreeing, nodding my head and talking in the sweetest voice which is NOT EVEN MY REAL VOICE AT ALL. I realized i’m being fake and a people pleaser. I cannot do this anymore because my mental health is on the line. I started saying no at work and feel so good. It’s only the beginning and yes I do feel like people hate me which isnt the case lol but this pattern has played out in so many other parts of my life which has shaped me into the person I don’t want to be. Time for some remolding!!!!!!!
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Kay. Awareness is the first step to change, and you have already begun. God bless.
@geetikasawhney7527
@geetikasawhney7527 5 жыл бұрын
A very powerful talk.... Must watch for everyone.... Teaches us about the power to say NO and not be a people pleasure when your heart is saying a big no ...
@nitin5066
@nitin5066 4 жыл бұрын
Ms. Rinku thank you so much for eye opening speech I have been doing this people pleasing since so many years and your thoughts gaves me right direction to overcome success barriers.
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 4 жыл бұрын
Nitin, thank you for your comments and engagement. There are some very trivial and overlooked behaviors which generally hamper our growth in career and in life. I have written about such behaviors in a book. My book, "My Life I Decide" is now available on Amazon worldwide in Print and Kindle formats. If you love my talks, the book is better. Do pick up a copy and it would really be helpful.
@proudindian6861
@proudindian6861 3 жыл бұрын
जिंदगी में मजा तो तब आता है... जब आप जो सोचते हो, कहते हो aur जो करते हो वो "एक" हो...!!!
@shrutimehta4351
@shrutimehta4351 5 жыл бұрын
You go girl👍👍what a talk! almost every woman's story..
@rahulkambale2627
@rahulkambale2627 5 жыл бұрын
I think it is a issue of mine.
@samanabhattarai4439
@samanabhattarai4439 5 жыл бұрын
Oh god.. this is exactly the way i feel.. i am so so similar to this lady.. thank you so much for delivering your experience maam.. i hope for the original version of myself to thrive😊
@ujjawalraj2554
@ujjawalraj2554 5 жыл бұрын
I can truly relate to this one. I also want to learn to say NO to others.
@LizaMinenkova
@LizaMinenkova 4 жыл бұрын
Really great point that if you aren't honest with people your relationships will be superficial.
@sasagalal
@sasagalal 3 жыл бұрын
One of the best Ted talks, thank you 🙏
@ketandesaiandhisideas8474
@ketandesaiandhisideas8474 5 жыл бұрын
Your a big inspiration for me .I completely related to you COMPLETELY..
@lets_do_things6121
@lets_do_things6121 5 жыл бұрын
I could completely relate to each and every word. Thank you for spreading awareness about this.
@anandsanglikar1884
@anandsanglikar1884 5 жыл бұрын
Rinku, Nicely told most Imp msg बहुत जरूरी होता है खुद से प्यार करके जीना और उसके साथ खुद का Learning भी होना जरूरी होता है।
@yuta2349
@yuta2349 5 жыл бұрын
You were able to express each and every thing with a lot of clarity. Nice.
@gregoryfrancis9911
@gregoryfrancis9911 5 жыл бұрын
Marvelous ....I'm exactly in this situation
@globalfriendscorner
@globalfriendscorner 3 жыл бұрын
Watching this changed my whole outlook!!! Because I have people pleased for so long I lost myself
@myrab361
@myrab361 5 жыл бұрын
Exactly the same what I suffer.... Thanks a lot
@nishavasudevan
@nishavasudevan 5 жыл бұрын
Very true I have had this issue and realized this much later in life. 200% true and amazing talk. Only in movies we see the good wins over the bad and is handed over the trophy for all the goodness embodied and wins the heart of the prince charming. But not at all true. We women are brought up teaching us to be good always and be down to earth kind and agreeable etc etc etc
@stillwatersnightsky6533
@stillwatersnightsky6533 5 жыл бұрын
Same here Nisha.. I realised this much much later in life......
@semantidutta1405
@semantidutta1405 5 жыл бұрын
this is exactly me. Thanks a lot, Rinku Ji.
@amychueh2450
@amychueh2450 2 жыл бұрын
I am trapped in this kind of situation for my whole life, and I feel lucky that I can hear your talk. I think that I am ready for change. Thank you!
@aiman2562
@aiman2562 5 жыл бұрын
Point by point....such a relatable story
@deepl2385
@deepl2385 5 жыл бұрын
Agreed with each word spoken. Thank you for wonderful speech..v articulate
@peacenlove
@peacenlove 5 жыл бұрын
I have been on this journey for 2.5 years now....and its been life changing...listening to your words reminded me once again of my life changing journey
@kalaivanymuniandy7957
@kalaivanymuniandy7957 5 жыл бұрын
I'm searching why I can't get recognised even I put so much effort. Now you open my eyes.. Being female leader I being pleased to everybody...as you said, it is syndrome from childhood,,, oh god, I got the answer for you.... Thank you very much... Your story matching me🙏
@deokanya
@deokanya 5 жыл бұрын
This is best answer I came across and positive solution. Thank you.
@masterphotog4131
@masterphotog4131 5 жыл бұрын
Great talk, keep up the good work and best wishes! Love from Canada!
@jnuichattopadhyay
@jnuichattopadhyay 5 жыл бұрын
You touched my heart Rinku
@udayasrithanigundala8840
@udayasrithanigundala8840 3 жыл бұрын
😢☺Its like you are telling each and everything about me. Can totally relate to you ma'am... So impressed
@funmilayogbokoyi7363
@funmilayogbokoyi7363 3 ай бұрын
Love yourself, treat yourself with love and respect and the world will follow suit Be bold enough to live your life on your own terms Thank you so much for sharing
@vidyashreeg2988
@vidyashreeg2988 5 жыл бұрын
Wonderfully outspoken internal feelings internal frustration we couldn't findout n now we are capable to getting out of those hesitation to say no thank you
@triptipant598
@triptipant598 5 жыл бұрын
Amazing...the experience literally touched me!
@priyaldwivedi1701
@priyaldwivedi1701 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing the solution of this.. You Are really kind because you have and You are still encouraging so many people.... 🙏
@tusharkumar1863
@tusharkumar1863 5 жыл бұрын
It's true mam we are the one who teaches the world how to treat us... MUST WATCH FOR EVERYONE
@shreyamittal8754
@shreyamittal8754 5 жыл бұрын
Story of my life too... But now I know what to do about it... Thanks a lot... U r my real inspiration!
@arpitatambe971
@arpitatambe971 5 жыл бұрын
It's mine story too.. Today I awoke with depressed mood but your thoughts became like tonic for me... thanks a lot ...
@rahulkambale2627
@rahulkambale2627 5 жыл бұрын
In my case, this thing is at peak, due to which I am suffering from clinical depression.
@DanishAnsari-zz3cn
@DanishAnsari-zz3cn 4 жыл бұрын
Arpita tambe hii miss wrong
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 4 жыл бұрын
Friends, thank you for your comments and engagement. There are some very trivial and overlooked behaviors which generally hamper our growth in career and in life. I have written about such behaviors in a book. My book, "My Life I Decide" is now available on Amazon worldwide in Print and Kindle formats. If you love my talks, the book is better. Do pick up a copy and it would really be helpful.
@ParulMishra7
@ParulMishra7 5 жыл бұрын
Very well said and explained..extremly helpful video !!!! GOD BLESS
@dhenuholisticconcepts585
@dhenuholisticconcepts585 5 жыл бұрын
One of best and truly profound talk on TEDx, thanks a lot Madam
@sabinamirchandani9906
@sabinamirchandani9906 5 жыл бұрын
Such a beautiful and heartfelt talk ....it was riveting and struck a true chord
@komallokhande93
@komallokhande93 5 жыл бұрын
You are truely an inspirational.. Lot of respect..
@blessyjacob338
@blessyjacob338 5 жыл бұрын
Thankyou so much for the outspoken words
@sheenapunathil51
@sheenapunathil51 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you So much Ma'am, for sharing your story , as it really motivated me a lot, as I was also going through the same situation. And now I find courage to face the world by knowing who I'm and where I have to be with no more syndromes of people pleasing.
@pallavisreetambraparni6995
@pallavisreetambraparni6995 4 жыл бұрын
rinkuji you have opened my eyes
@mayadevi7572
@mayadevi7572 5 жыл бұрын
Most of us having this problem. But unaware of it. Thanks for sharing your experience dear
@user-gz5mx2nd5p
@user-gz5mx2nd5p 5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing. I can relate completely.
@TLH11_23
@TLH11_23 5 жыл бұрын
Bravo!!! I accept myself the way I am..
@a.k.p.4061
@a.k.p.4061 5 жыл бұрын
Rinku - your talk came on my youTube page just at the right time. I am going through exactly the same thing at this very moment in my workplace. Everything you said resonates with my current situation but I dont implement what all you said. After hearing this I am going to ensure I not only implement but also not get perturbed by it. The key is not to feel guilty after what we say or do. The opposite person will never let go of an opportunity to put you down, make you feel guilty and unwanted, it is how we want us to feel, is more important. Thank you Thank you Thank you. I can see my path more clearly now and after this my journey will be about myself and not others.
@khushbooshivhare5530
@khushbooshivhare5530 5 жыл бұрын
Thankuu RINKU mam, Excellent speech I'm waiting for such ,since a very long time.
@saisrisai9649
@saisrisai9649 5 жыл бұрын
Thank u so much maam I hav suffered from this all along and had no slightest clue tat I was a people pleaser too . Now after ur speech I m able to understand y all those happened to me .thank u so much for helping me see the actual problem
@caamitgoyal2025
@caamitgoyal2025 5 жыл бұрын
Yes miss rinku.... I can relate to ur story myself too Our biggest asset is wht we actually are 😊
@actionreaction2758
@actionreaction2758 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much madam. You have helped me to realize that me too is a People Pleasing Person. Started changing myself.
@mariangie1544
@mariangie1544 2 жыл бұрын
Precise, concise and very clearly expressed as an engineer. Thanks you have helped me. May God bless you! I have tears in my eyes, but of happiness, I get it.
@SawRinku
@SawRinku 2 жыл бұрын
Awesome.
@shanniah03
@shanniah03 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your life learning story. I am a people pleaser and I have realized that I am loving others more than myself which is not right at all. I promise to start loving and respect and myself enough.
@rinkyanuragsrivastava2158
@rinkyanuragsrivastava2158 5 жыл бұрын
You are great and what a wonderful speech ... found very helpful
@vishesh_soni
@vishesh_soni 5 жыл бұрын
Superb and best delivered talk. Cant agree more with you. Same story of my childhood too. and just few months back I too realised the same problem.
@shreeramhegade9008
@shreeramhegade9008 5 жыл бұрын
God bless you Rinku....!!
@meghapathak7596
@meghapathak7596 5 жыл бұрын
This is an eye opener fr me mam....god blesss u
@Anurag-st7wl
@Anurag-st7wl 6 ай бұрын
Very inspiring and packed with takeaways. It takes courage to share such a personal story with everyone. I'm glad you shared.
@Passingthroughbushes
@Passingthroughbushes 4 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate you for talking about that because it seems small thing but it is not. Thank u.
@manojputhran4477
@manojputhran4477 5 жыл бұрын
stories tell us help everybody , be nice , love everybody etc etc but in real life people take advantage & we end up unhappy . good talk
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