The way my parents raised me is NOT the way I’m raising my future kids. Ever. No spankings. No false accusations. No put-downs.

The whole “tiger mom” style is borderline abusive and unhealthy for the kiddo

I think parents should be chimpanzee-like mothers; let your child climb trees and lots of affection. Ah, also let the children find their food.

My mother was tiger mom too but it had the opposite effect on me because then I learnt to stop trying for everything and to stop caring because it was too much pressure on me to be great at everything. My older sister had the opposite effect where she did excel in school and college but now she has anxiety attacks when she gets something wrong. I do not believe in tiger parenting AT ALL. I think to be a free-thinker you have to have an element of stubbornness. Tiger moms are basically beating the stubbornness out of their kids.

How about just being a human mom..Not some animal...

The concept behind “the lion” style has great points.

No one talks about black parenting, but a dolphin mom? R u serious??.......Well if that's the case, my black mom is a dinosaur, more specifically a T-rex mom. She just eats me alive for no reason and then spits me back out. That's how I feel everyday when I'm around her.

“Drums lead to drugs.” I just asked my dad who played the base drum in the marching band all throughout his time in high school and was the drum major his senior year if he’s ever done one single drug in his life. He said no.

Drums don’t lead to drugs use at all and this woman is crazy.

My mom is like a tiger mom but never pushed me with academics. I pushed myself to graduate school. But now at 24 years old, her overbearing parenting has resulted in me calling her once a month and not wanting her to be a part of my life.

If one was denied bathroom breaks at work, that is legit illegal, and this lady is denying her own children bathroom breaks during freaking piano practice xD

What the hell is a dolphin mom. Lol

Are they breathing ? Are their tummy’s full? Are they happy?? You did it!

My mom was a relaxed caring mom. When i was young she taught me a lot when it came to academics and gave me lots of outlets and resources to adventure and learn. Now that I'm a teenager she let's me lead my own life as long as I'm not hurting myself of anyone else. I have an A B average, I've never smoked or done any type of drugs and I have my own views on important subjects that just aren't taught in school. We will call this bird parenting for the sake of animal references. You nourish your kids as children, give them tools and teach them then when they grow you can watch them become successful without watching them like a hawk. I tell my mom everything and she's truly one of my best friends that's the kind of relationship I think parents should have with their kids because then when they do bad things they'll come to you because they can trust you. I've watched so many of my friends freak out over B's because their parents are tiger parents and it's sad your kids shouldn't be afraid of you, that's why they shut you out of their lives.

My mom was a blue collar tiger mother. She busted my ass nonstop. When you get a job as a teenager for relaxation you know it's rough. .. I am glad she raised me that way... wasn't sure at the time..lol

I am from East India...BOTH my father and mother were TIGER PARENTS...I was doing Calculus when I was in the 9th grade.

Exactly high expectations and self decipline but full of love and support

Why not be in the middle: a bit of tiger and dolphin!Like what Buddhism suggest:Follow the Middle Path; That's the best way.

I believe that as long as the parents love their children and don't abuse them, that they are the alpha in the family and must be respected...... just saying

that mother denying her daughter's card...and called her daughter garbage? what the he'll is wrong with you ? the only thing your teaching her is she will never be good enough ..because no one is perfect my dear

my mom is a liger mom lol

We can learn by both which brings balance.

I feel like there is a balance kids need discipline of some kind but if it's just discipline and forcing your daughter to learn the piano instead of drums because as a percussionists I can say that I am drug free and I am in the marching and jazz ensembles on my school. We also need to be nice and loving to the kids it's a balance discipline and kindness and most i.portant patience

You know something no one has to be perfect

I play the guitar and I don’t see what’s wrong with it. It’s true that sometimes I get a little bit frustrated and my fingers hurt like hell.

It’s just abuse.And the mum is proud.

My mom is a rabbit mom.

Being hafe tiger mom and hafe Stepford wife as my life goal. As well as a free ranged kids parent. Sounds contradictory doesn't it?

so that's what everyone's talking about! *rushes to the bookstore to grab a copy*

As a child, I’m scared

Mine was a frog mom, ant mom, martian mom!! ;D

Someone needs to call CPS

My parents were definitely Lion parents

drums don’t lead to using drums they just lead you to having fun and enjoying what your doing with a team.not using drums!!!

My parents high five me for 60 percent if I get 100 percent I get a fucking trip

These 3 antidotes are useless for any real conclusions. It’s much better to compile tens of thousands of data points use statistical analysis to draw conclusions on various patenting techniques! Please redo this story with actual verifiable information!

I prefer to be a dolphin parent

Mmmm It's sounds like discipline works best of all. Go Tiger mom. Sounds like the dolphin mom should stop trying to be her kid's friend and lion mom should be more directly involved -- someone "in your pride" handling the cubs while you're busy with something else isn't good enough.

My mom is an elephant. That is all.

im a manbearpig mom.

7:27 Something she did NOT do, I believe.

We pushed hard and traumatized our Asian kids into professional careers and now they are "suffering" from high pay and good future. lol. If given the second chance we will do exactly the same thing again.

Amy Cha's book does not represent Chinese culture and their parenting. Quanyu Huang's book, The Hybrid Tiger, gives a case about her ridiculous demands of children.

I am an Asian American (Indian) but I can tell you that this mother is crazy

....she’s not wrong that being a drummer leads to drugs cough cough PERCUSSIONISTS!

Better a tiger mom than an overprotective mom. They are worst of the worst, not only are they paranoid but also lazy, they think keeping their children inside of the house keeps them safe and they give zero in return aslong as they shush the paranoid thoughts in their heads then it doesn’t matter that you are in pain or sad that you can’t be like other friends. Overprotective parents give nothing in return just a false security that you are protected from the world while you should have been protected from your parents. Tiger moms might seem bad but at least they are successful and straight A students. I would consider myself a Dolphin mom. Strict but also want you to rest. Resting is the ying to your successful careers yang.

The funny thing is, most people here didn't even read the book.

am a dolphin mom

That is abuse my friend is a rock drummer who is sober AF. I mean I get he is only 14. And maybe kids didnt get an A because they needed your help. And if your kid needs help you should help them. You should allow them to get Bs and Cs. And if your kid screws up One. Tell them how they did it Two +. Take away privelages or put them in timeout. Never call them garbage that is abuse

Do these people really need to put labels on the different ways they raise their children?

Why is parenting categorised into types of moms??? Are there no male parents???

My mum is more like a snake mum, not much a care taker more of a buddy.

why do i feel that the math thing was racist??

this is borderline emotional abuse tbh....like isolating your children and forcing them to do things that are stressful to them like ok.

Dolphin mom :)

@mceruto I'm willing to admit some Pocahontas resemblance

@mceruto I wanted you to be wrong but the more i thought about it the more she does

Are those kids really living life?

Special victim units should assess this mom and arrest her.... because I don’t think their kids r mentally happy.... ... probably tiger mom eats tigers to be a tiger 🙀

Nah i'm good.

Tiger mom's kids are going to be wild, naive adults! Sorry, but what a miserable childhood.

Results speaks, Tiger system works. The US should've adopt this long time ago so their country would not go down like it does today.

dolphin mom?

Really my mum is a rabbit mum she is Asian

*alien mom*

I agree coolmart1992

ALL these parents are to perfect example of a horrible parent, why? They are living through their children..

Goes to Coledg to work at FUcking WALMMMMAAAARRRRTTTTTTTT!!!!

If you watch how this women talks, the way she moves her mouth, show she thinks she knows it all. It's twice and is insistent. How would you like that in your face as a child. That is Chinese love?

These Asian children maybe better at anything, but they have a depression that she hides and I know these kinds of parenting maybe good but for children, it is too brutal. I'm not a mom, not even a girl but I'm concerned about it, I'm an Asian, a Filipino man. I see some of the kids in my country are so happy but it makes me sad because some of the Asian kids don't have a smile like that. I don't even care that it is a better solution. Maybe it is, but it has some bad consequence both mental and social health. But it is only my opinion not a comment of criticism. Back to the topic, tinder parenting is sometimes necessary but not always because it can damage someone's childhood memories. Imagine a mom with that kind of childhood trying to think something that she can tell about her childhood but all of that fades because she already forgotten it thanks to her parents with that kind of parenting idea. If I had a chance to say this to those cruel parents, I would, you may have a good and happy childhood but please make sure your kids have it too, do not destroy theirs because they can use it to tell to their kids in their future that they had a good happy life in their young age.

im a pig mom lol

She is a communist.

Evil.