Experts weigh in on the "Mommy Wars" over parenting.
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@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe93275 жыл бұрын
The way my parents raised me is NOT the way I’m raising my future kids. Ever. No spankings. No false accusations. No put-downs.
@piperdanis39704 жыл бұрын
The whole “tiger mom” style is borderline abusive and unhealthy for the kiddo
@aaronvaldes31044 ай бұрын
Agreed. Amy is horrible.
@hinatahsama9 жыл бұрын
I think parents should be chimpanzee-like mothers; let your child climb trees and lots of affection. Ah, also let the children find their food.
@micosstar6 жыл бұрын
Feels more like a joke, than an actual type of mom.
@pugapino6 жыл бұрын
ha ha ha !!!
@rockydog71504 жыл бұрын
Literally the best way to raise a child imo like do you really want them to strive in community or this world? Smhh
@rockydog71504 жыл бұрын
These comments are so ignorant. Y'all talking like this type of mother, literally nothing but a supportive mother, only exists in fairy tales.. and that's really sad.. maybe y'all needed more love too.
@etaylor80285 жыл бұрын
My mother was tiger mom too but it had the opposite effect on me because then I learnt to stop trying for everything and to stop caring because it was too much pressure on me to be great at everything. My older sister had the opposite effect where she did excel in school and college but now she has anxiety attacks when she gets something wrong. I do not believe in tiger parenting AT ALL. I think to be a free-thinker you have to have an element of stubbornness. Tiger moms are basically beating the stubbornness out of their kids.
@user-lu7rc7xx9q3 жыл бұрын
E Taylor you made the perfect point about stubbornness. Could not say it better.
@ZombieLand35510 жыл бұрын
How about just being a human mom..Not some animal...
@docterpolitico29916 жыл бұрын
Humans are mammals.
@kattyzacarias5 жыл бұрын
The concept behind “the lion” style has great points.
@thetreekeeper1438 жыл бұрын
No one talks about black parenting, but a dolphin mom? R u serious??.......Well if that's the case, my black mom is a dinosaur, more specifically a T-rex mom. She just eats me alive for no reason and then spits me back out. That's how I feel everyday when I'm around her.
@teatreebabie16607 жыл бұрын
ikr😂😂😂😂😂😂
@teatreebabie16607 жыл бұрын
ikr😂😂😂😂😂😂
@teatreebabie16607 жыл бұрын
ikr😂😂😂😂😂😂
@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe93275 жыл бұрын
The Tree Keeper I’m so sorry. I’m like that too.
@tubeloobsxo5 жыл бұрын
lmao!
@izzymarie89876 жыл бұрын
“Drums lead to drugs.” I just asked my dad who played the base drum in the marching band all throughout his time in high school and was the drum major his senior year if he’s ever done one single drug in his life. He said no.
@JakeGuitarMusic6 жыл бұрын
Izzy Marie That was an ignorant comment what Amy said about the drums.
@izzymarie89876 жыл бұрын
Jake Mastronardi I know I was pointing out how ignorant it was.
@Shiesty_0095 жыл бұрын
Drums don’t lead to drugs use at all and this woman is crazy.
@Moskal914 жыл бұрын
Ikr that so stupid it ain't the 80s and back then everyone used drugs.
@FunFilmFare2 жыл бұрын
She says she’s changed, but who knows? We have only her word. And her family’s, who have full motive to lie.
@aaronvaldes31044 ай бұрын
She is for sure. Don't listen to a word she says. She is completely delusional.
@KammSnow955 жыл бұрын
My mom is like a tiger mom but never pushed me with academics. I pushed myself to graduate school. But now at 24 years old, her overbearing parenting has resulted in me calling her once a month and not wanting her to be a part of my life.
@El-yz6tl4 жыл бұрын
If one was denied bathroom breaks at work, that is legit illegal, and this lady is denying her own children bathroom breaks during freaking piano practice xD
@meowco699 жыл бұрын
What the hell is a dolphin mom. Lol
@ryanm47698 жыл бұрын
+meowco69 Did you even watch the video
@lolli29436 жыл бұрын
Are they breathing ? Are their tummy’s full? Are they happy?? You did it!
@ramonalouise27014 жыл бұрын
My mom was a relaxed caring mom. When i was young she taught me a lot when it came to academics and gave me lots of outlets and resources to adventure and learn. Now that I'm a teenager she let's me lead my own life as long as I'm not hurting myself of anyone else. I have an A B average, I've never smoked or done any type of drugs and I have my own views on important subjects that just aren't taught in school. We will call this bird parenting for the sake of animal references. You nourish your kids as children, give them tools and teach them then when they grow you can watch them become successful without watching them like a hawk. I tell my mom everything and she's truly one of my best friends that's the kind of relationship I think parents should have with their kids because then when they do bad things they'll come to you because they can trust you. I've watched so many of my friends freak out over B's because their parents are tiger parents and it's sad your kids shouldn't be afraid of you, that's why they shut you out of their lives.
@sagecreekwitt330110 жыл бұрын
My mom was a blue collar tiger mother. She busted my ass nonstop. When you get a job as a teenager for relaxation you know it's rough. .. I am glad she raised me that way... wasn't sure at the time..lol
@iaadotlk19 жыл бұрын
I am from East India...BOTH my father and mother were TIGER PARENTS...I was doing Calculus when I was in the 9th grade.
@babybaby58938 ай бұрын
Exactly high expectations and self decipline but full of love and support
@NangongReng197311 жыл бұрын
Why not be in the middle: a bit of tiger and dolphin!Like what Buddhism suggest:Follow the Middle Path; That's the best way.
@yingyangangel100010 жыл бұрын
I believe that as long as the parents love their children and don't abuse them, that they are the alpha in the family and must be respected...... just saying
@ismayonnaiseaninstrument41436 жыл бұрын
Conor Creed the f you say
@domtoretto68504 жыл бұрын
Conor Creed so u have chosen death
@angiigreco11145 жыл бұрын
that mother denying her daughter's card...and called her daughter garbage? what the he'll is wrong with you ? the only thing your teaching her is she will never be good enough ..because no one is perfect my dear
@chingli5283 жыл бұрын
Calling a child or for that matter an adult or any person demanding nouns or adjectives such as "garbage" is completely wrong and completely unacceptable and verbally and emotionally abusive and verbal and emotional abuse can have harmful effects on children, no person and no child is garbage either so telling a child they are that is completely untrue as well.
@gregchung924410 жыл бұрын
my mom is a liger mom lol
@seawitch94969 жыл бұрын
We can learn by both which brings balance.
@joshuaestrada60424 жыл бұрын
I feel like there is a balance kids need discipline of some kind but if it's just discipline and forcing your daughter to learn the piano instead of drums because as a percussionists I can say that I am drug free and I am in the marching and jazz ensembles on my school. We also need to be nice and loving to the kids it's a balance discipline and kindness and most i.portant patience
@CoolMart199211 жыл бұрын
You know something no one has to be perfect
@kshinokevin4 жыл бұрын
Valedictorians; the bumper sticker that said: "My Child is a Honor (Roll) Student."
@ashley26805 жыл бұрын
I play the guitar and I don’t see what’s wrong with it. It’s true that sometimes I get a little bit frustrated and my fingers hurt like hell.
@mariaberg4423 жыл бұрын
It’s just abuse.And the mum is proud.
@zollen12310 жыл бұрын
My mom is a rabbit mom.
@Eszra12 жыл бұрын
Being hafe tiger mom and hafe Stepford wife as my life goal. As well as a free ranged kids parent. Sounds contradictory doesn't it?
@RaeJunJY12 жыл бұрын
so that's what everyone's talking about! *rushes to the bookstore to grab a copy*
@claireann24155 жыл бұрын
As a child, I’m scared
@justrollin121010 жыл бұрын
Mine was a frog mom, ant mom, martian mom!! ;D
@reesewhittington67782 жыл бұрын
Someone needs to call CPS
@FunFilmFare2 жыл бұрын
My parents were definitely Lion parents
@anitashirazi60486 жыл бұрын
drums don’t lead to using drums they just lead you to having fun and enjoying what your doing with a team.not using drums!!!
@bruceblannin66416 жыл бұрын
My parents high five me for 60 percent if I get 100 percent I get a fucking trip
@pugapino6 жыл бұрын
These 3 antidotes are useless for any real conclusions. It’s much better to compile tens of thousands of data points use statistical analysis to draw conclusions on various patenting techniques! Please redo this story with actual verifiable information!
@sandermarkunzo45384 ай бұрын
I prefer to be a dolphin parent
@joecombs74684 жыл бұрын
Mmmm It's sounds like discipline works best of all. Go Tiger mom. Sounds like the dolphin mom should stop trying to be her kid's friend and lion mom should be more directly involved -- someone "in your pride" handling the cubs while you're busy with something else isn't good enough.
@FunFilmFare2 жыл бұрын
Lion cub here. Most “Lion moms” are less involved with their kids is because of lower family income. They don’t have rich husbands making a single income to let them quit work and stay home with the kids.
@joecombs74682 жыл бұрын
@@FunFilmFare I do agree with you. But I also know moms & dads too busy trying to be friends with their kids instead of parents. Both ways the kids are the ones that lose out.
@tha1ne9 жыл бұрын
My mom is an elephant. That is all.
@tha1ne9 жыл бұрын
Yup, peanuts to be exact
@boomibear8212 жыл бұрын
im a manbearpig mom.
@reesewhittington67782 жыл бұрын
7:27 Something she did NOT do, I believe.
@nathanielcarreon56346 жыл бұрын
We pushed hard and traumatized our Asian kids into professional careers and now they are "suffering" from high pay and good future. lol. If given the second chance we will do exactly the same thing again.
@fredmcelroy28394 жыл бұрын
Amy Cha's book does not represent Chinese culture and their parenting. Quanyu Huang's book, The Hybrid Tiger, gives a case about her ridiculous demands of children.
@AnwesaChaudhury Жыл бұрын
I am an Asian American (Indian) but I can tell you that this mother is crazy
@codyestes4324 жыл бұрын
....she’s not wrong that being a drummer leads to drugs cough cough PERCUSSIONISTS!
@missxmarvel3 жыл бұрын
Better a tiger mom than an overprotective mom. They are worst of the worst, not only are they paranoid but also lazy, they think keeping their children inside of the house keeps them safe and they give zero in return aslong as they shush the paranoid thoughts in their heads then it doesn’t matter that you are in pain or sad that you can’t be like other friends. Overprotective parents give nothing in return just a false security that you are protected from the world while you should have been protected from your parents. Tiger moms might seem bad but at least they are successful and straight A students. I would consider myself a Dolphin mom. Strict but also want you to rest. Resting is the ying to your successful careers yang.
@ilselpz7 жыл бұрын
The funny thing is, most people here didn't even read the book.
@nessamyers162111 жыл бұрын
am a dolphin mom
@LeoMes014 жыл бұрын
That is abuse my friend is a rock drummer who is sober AF. I mean I get he is only 14. And maybe kids didnt get an A because they needed your help. And if your kid needs help you should help them. You should allow them to get Bs and Cs. And if your kid screws up One. Tell them how they did it Two +. Take away privelages or put them in timeout. Never call them garbage that is abuse
@L96OZZ5 жыл бұрын
Do these people really need to put labels on the different ways they raise their children?
@catherinescott82244 жыл бұрын
Why is parenting categorised into types of moms??? Are there no male parents???
@Emily-qo1rl7 жыл бұрын
My mum is more like a snake mum, not much a care taker more of a buddy.
@nathanthelibertarian14065 жыл бұрын
My mom is a snek mom (as in don’t step on snek) and taught me libertarian principles and used them in her parenting.
@wonderlust50435 жыл бұрын
@A.James Reilly your mom must be proud
@psmitherson12 жыл бұрын
why do i feel that the math thing was racist??
@mads18643 жыл бұрын
this is borderline emotional abuse tbh....like isolating your children and forcing them to do things that are stressful to them like ok.
@laurayu7011 жыл бұрын
Dolphin mom :)
@SerenityMellissa13 жыл бұрын
@mceruto I'm willing to admit some Pocahontas resemblance
@SerenityMellissa13 жыл бұрын
@mceruto I wanted you to be wrong but the more i thought about it the more she does
@2forflintching6 жыл бұрын
Are those kids really living life?
@manasabadagowni4 жыл бұрын
Special victim units should assess this mom and arrest her.... because I don’t think their kids r mentally happy.... ... probably tiger mom eats tigers to be a tiger 🙀
@aaronvaldes31044 ай бұрын
Nah i'm good.
@shannonwanlin42875 жыл бұрын
Tiger mom's kids are going to be wild, naive adults! Sorry, but what a miserable childhood.
@johneleven2510 жыл бұрын
Results speaks, Tiger system works. The US should've adopt this long time ago so their country would not go down like it does today.
@shogiblog154811 ай бұрын
Source: Trust me bro
@southernpennsyrailfan85794 жыл бұрын
dolphin mom?
@princesshyunaa-ings4nia2176 жыл бұрын
Really my mum is a rabbit mum she is Asian
@periodicart4446 жыл бұрын
*alien mom*
@SethPlays18911 жыл бұрын
I agree coolmart1992
@adamking72825 жыл бұрын
ALL these parents are to perfect example of a horrible parent, why? They are living through their children..
@boris3355 жыл бұрын
Goes to Coledg to work at FUcking WALMMMMAAAARRRRTTTTTTTT!!!!
@Shiokaze14094 жыл бұрын
sorry pal i work for McDonald's
@patstokes36154 жыл бұрын
If you watch how this women talks, the way she moves her mouth, show she thinks she knows it all. It's twice and is insistent. How would you like that in your face as a child. That is Chinese love?
@HondaCivic200195 жыл бұрын
These Asian children maybe better at anything, but they have a depression that she hides and I know these kinds of parenting maybe good but for children, it is too brutal. I'm not a mom, not even a girl but I'm concerned about it, I'm an Asian, a Filipino man. I see some of the kids in my country are so happy but it makes me sad because some of the Asian kids don't have a smile like that. I don't even care that it is a better solution. Maybe it is, but it has some bad consequence both mental and social health. But it is only my opinion not a comment of criticism. Back to the topic, tinder parenting is sometimes necessary but not always because it can damage someone's childhood memories. Imagine a mom with that kind of childhood trying to think something that she can tell about her childhood but all of that fades because she already forgotten it thanks to her parents with that kind of parenting idea. If I had a chance to say this to those cruel parents, I would, you may have a good and happy childhood but please make sure your kids have it too, do not destroy theirs because they can use it to tell to their kids in their future that they had a good happy life in their young age.