Suicide and it's Impact on Autism/Asperger's Syndrome: Explained by an Autistic Individual

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Arman Khodaei

Arman Khodaei

13 жыл бұрын

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@crudsw9
@crudsw9 7 жыл бұрын
living with a family that isn't supportive makes it 10X WORSE.
@technofeeliak
@technofeeliak 5 жыл бұрын
No kidding. :)
@thephilosopher5799
@thephilosopher5799 5 жыл бұрын
Same
@dylanm3158
@dylanm3158 4 жыл бұрын
especially when they tell you that you need to hide it...
@n.c.6211
@n.c.6211 4 жыл бұрын
Yes :( it is horrible...Especially if they are abusive m and controlling. Then you seem borderline when you have endured trauma and have Asperger's.
@voiceofreason2691
@voiceofreason2691 Жыл бұрын
To me, Iiving in a worId not made for us is even worse than being in an abusive reIationship. but hey, that´s just me
@sbcraig1981
@sbcraig1981 11 жыл бұрын
Omg. Aspergers has made my life hell. Tons of heartache. wanting to die. Sometimes I get so angry at the world for being extra cruel to people like me.
@JDMimeTHEFIRST
@JDMimeTHEFIRST 3 жыл бұрын
I can relate. It feels like people are hostile towards people on the spectrum. I partially came out and it didn’t help. People really don’t care. The public knows nothing about it even though it increases your risk of suicide. I find sociopaths are my natural enemy and they really don’t like us. They wreak havoc on my career because they have the manipulative power of friendship to keep people on their side. I was bullied in front of my boss and nothing was done. This is the power they have that we don’t.
@MrLOLsteveLOL
@MrLOLsteveLOL 2 жыл бұрын
@@JDMimeTHEFIRST Any person with narcissistic traits love and hate us, they love the naive, trusting and straight way we communicate. But they hate that we can see their motives rather quickly, personally being manipulated and used for various reasons has been a reoccurring part of my life. I notice little things about people and why they feel "off", but can never explain to others well. But always turns out they end up doing something wrong or despicable. Indifference and using the grey rock method is the only way to push off the severe cases of someone trying to be a predator to your life. Also from experience many people under or over estimate my intelligence, I have had to learn to be wary of others intentions and consciously play along with their game they think they are in control. But that is not the case. The worst outcomes is seeing the best in others and allowing that to blind you to all the flags you might normally notice, and those who can obviously notice our differences and use it for whatever their motive/agenda might be. That is when times have gotten horrific, it will always be difficult for me to not be overly trusting and expecting the other person to speak truthfully like I do. When it gets to that point where you feel used, stupid and oblivious that nurtures all the self hatred, confusion and feeling completely alone with no one who understands you. Abuse is all too common, even though I have been a victim to just about every variation there is I still get caught. Just takes that one person who messes with your own beliefs, and assures you countless times they are to be trusted. Sorry I will end up writing forever. This was such a bad ramble of shit with no real point. Sorry stranger.
@kriscontinuum3267
@kriscontinuum3267 10 ай бұрын
@@JDMimeTHEFIRST I completely agree. the same things happened to me at work. My bosses refused to train me on an extremely complex system I wasn't hired to work with, and know nothing about. I busted my butt for ten years, and finally got to 6 figures which I never believed was possible. Then my boss called me into a meeting and said if I didn't learn ON MY OWN, the job they wanted me to do, then I would be fired. I resigned a week later. I'm devastated. I'm 50 years old now, and the skills I developed in my career field are now useless, so I have the job skills of someone just out of high school. When I was earning 6 figures I was so proud of my achievement, because so many people thought I was a failure, and would amount to nothing, and I proved them wrong. I've been unemployed for over a year now. The evidence is clearly that everyone was right about me being a failure. I don't see any hope anymore.
@solvapydoom8077
@solvapydoom8077 2 ай бұрын
@@kriscontinuum3267Good luck in your life!!!!!
@technofeeliak
@technofeeliak 5 жыл бұрын
It's not worth it... being in a relationship when you don't have any rights. When a diagnosis makes a person less than human by general standards.
@Boowitch13
@Boowitch13 11 жыл бұрын
My brother jumped off a building 3 weeks ago. He had Aspergers. I miss him so much.
@rick3747
@rick3747 4 жыл бұрын
I know your post was 6 years ago but I am so sorry!
@camilledixon4913
@camilledixon4913 3 жыл бұрын
I lost my love to suicide as well. What is it that after 30 years they can no longer tolerate living and see themselves as burdens? Why? I miss him so.
@GhostSamaritan
@GhostSamaritan 3 жыл бұрын
@@camilledixon4913 I can't speak for that person, but chances are they were suicidal for a looooong time before they decided to pull the plug.
@reb2124
@reb2124 3 жыл бұрын
Omg im so sorry xx
@uniformitydubliner9691
@uniformitydubliner9691 26 күн бұрын
​@camilledixon4913 Um not everyone ends their lives because they think they're burdens to others. Your way of thinking is selfish
@DarkQuietWyattON
@DarkQuietWyattON 12 жыл бұрын
As a person with ASD who attempted suicide, I have to say 30% seems low to me, sadly. Studies have shown that 60% of people who kill themselves tell someone or give clues (knowingly or unknowingly) but many of us are socially isolated and so people are not there to read the clues or have close enough friends to confide in that we are depressed. Also 30% is those diagnosed. What percentage of those undiagnosed (and I know there are some) take their own life? It is sad
@JDMimeTHEFIRST
@JDMimeTHEFIRST 3 жыл бұрын
I’m a female diagnosed late and I feel the same way. No one seems to realize the way other people perceive and treat us. I think educating neurotypical people is also key. We need job support because society rewards sociopaths and punishes people on the spectrum. I have been bullied by sociopaths at work. They manipulate friendships at work and will poison the environment. I think they dislike quiet people in general.
@rabbadidi7385
@rabbadidi7385 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly! I don't get why its all so messed up.
@lpon9757
@lpon9757 2 жыл бұрын
I've read "you know you're in hell when honesty and kindness is treated as a symptom"
@kriscontinuum3267
@kriscontinuum3267 10 ай бұрын
I've noticed the same thing about sociopaths. I've been bullied at most of my jobs. It makes me nuts that I could defend myself against physical assault, but the sociopathic bullies in work environments know exactly how far to go without crossing the line into "actionable offense" so you just have to sit there and take it, because if you call them out you are then treated as the problem. It's maddening.
@sdrawkcabUK
@sdrawkcabUK 8 ай бұрын
@@kriscontinuum3267try secretly filming/recording and then taking it to the courts.
@lewwharberrr5041
@lewwharberrr5041 9 жыл бұрын
I have aspergers syndrome and many other mental heath problems I wake up every day with pain and hate on my brain I hate life all I want is to be gone far away from this place we live it's hard having mental health disorders no1 understands how difficult it is to just get by day by day it's exhausting me now knowing I will never be accepted or understood.. it really hurts
@armankhodaei
@armankhodaei 9 жыл бұрын
leww harberrr I am sorry to hear that
@karmalevel
@karmalevel 8 жыл бұрын
+leww harborer oh boo hoo! stop being so selfish
@NoahCameronGoldstein
@NoahCameronGoldstein 8 жыл бұрын
Ya I definitely understand how you feel being that I too am on the spectrum. And to be honest with you, I really think that when it comes to people who don't accept people on the spectrum and not just people on the autistic spectrum, but really people who are different in general, I think it really just boils down to the fact that they just don't understand and can't exactly put themselves in someone like yours or my shoes. Because I too have been in situations where people have given me shit about being socially awkward which is one of the many symptoms of this disorder.
@coconutdoggies1052
@coconutdoggies1052 7 жыл бұрын
Noah Goldstein its really difficult to explain to someone who doesn't have autism what it is I find. a lot of the times I say Ive got high functioning autism people just think that makes me stupid or unable to be normal. a lot of people don't also understand that there are different stages of autism different level. and its frustrating for me because I appear on the outside average I don't necassarily look disabled but mentally in quite a few ways I am. I find it extremely hard to deal with emotions and often end up having melt downs from the over load. I question everything because in my mind there should be a solid answer for every question. but there isn't and it just drives me crazy. this whole world is scary. but I feel comfort in the fact that there are others going through similar stuff and that we can all help each other and everyone around us. I want to learn more about my disorder so that I can help young adults understand it and making it so I also understand it 😊
@AlterFunKtion
@AlterFunKtion 5 жыл бұрын
Im with u. Everyday is another embarrassment for me and i just turned 30. Nobody has patience for us, especially when we are at full blown adult age.. As a man i am expected to just deal w it without accommodation. But art and isolation keeps me on track to another day. I have found that the more i hurt, the better my artwork has become. Emotional alchemy is a power i think we are exceptionally talented in, its just not so apparent until we really focus on putting our heart into something creative. So i tend to go to work in order to charge my spirit with all these feelings, and when i get home i shut away and create. It is very cathartic and i feel that is my purpose.
@MsFrosteetoes
@MsFrosteetoes 12 жыл бұрын
This breaks my heart. My son is ASD and he is only 10 years old. He's been in an inclusion class since he was in preschool. He's quite aware of the kids who reject him because of his limitations and it makes me sad for him. He's extroverted too and very friendly.
@osaniss
@osaniss 2 жыл бұрын
I hope he and you are well ❤️
@misspinkpunkykat
@misspinkpunkykat 12 жыл бұрын
I never wanted friends or expirenced lonliness. Whenever people tell me I need to get out and socolize more, I flip them the bird and tell them they have no right to dictate how I live my life.
@mikewizoski7593
@mikewizoski7593 9 ай бұрын
People in the spectrum need to seek each other. You guys will be so much happier creating communities just exclusively for you!! I learned in school about deaf community, they basically have clubs and schools for people who can not hear , and sign language bonds them together.
@StitchesWilde
@StitchesWilde 11 жыл бұрын
*Crying* It made my life hell too, not just growing up, but to this day as well. My boss hated me, everyone at work hated me, a lotta people online still hate me. All because I'm an aspie and I have a love for Disney. It does NOT get better. It gets WORSE. I just wanna die!
@redfoxes5153
@redfoxes5153 6 жыл бұрын
Tbh life is easier for struggling autistic people if they just commit suicide. A young man I know (on spectrum) has attempted suicide 4 times, tbh i really wanted to say to him that his life is worth living, but knowing this young man for almost 20 years, I can't see any evidence that his life is worth living - he has constantly struggled, and although i never said so, i can't help but feel that suicide is his only chance to no longer struggle and suffer. It's time suicide was ok to be a viable option, where people don't try to talk you out of it. My biggest regret is that I didn't commit suicide as a teenager, would've saved myself a lot of heartache.
@camilledixon4913
@camilledixon4913 3 жыл бұрын
How are you doing now? And your friend? Made me sad to read your post. Suicide is never the answer.
@bluecolumbine
@bluecolumbine 3 жыл бұрын
I hate how people say “suicide is selfish” because it makes them and others feel discomfort and sadness and grief... what they don’t understand is yes you feel terrible they are gone, but that agony your feeling is a fraction of the pain the person was going through every day for years... it is selfish to expect someone to continue with such a torturous existences for the sake of your feelings. It’s a sad topic all around but I just don’t think people get it.. in our culture we shame people into suffering through a life they hate, so others who aren’t having such an experience won’t feel bad also. It’s not fair. Also not condoning suicide but I understand where your coming from here. I’ve attempted but God decided it wasn’t my time, that was over a decade ago, I promised to never go there again but the thoughts have never gone away... since I was around 7 years old I’ve had them.
@djomegaminus
@djomegaminus 8 ай бұрын
I grew up on a farm and we had enough compassion that when an animal is suffering to put it out of it's misery, I feel as a human I should get the same compassion to end my suffering.
@thebigballofdeath6066
@thebigballofdeath6066 3 ай бұрын
I don’t care how hard and miserable my life gets, I am not killing myself
@AndRewUK24
@AndRewUK24 11 жыл бұрын
Sadly your are right and it happening to me. My depression & low self is getting worse as I get older but on the plus side I am more intellectually smarter in the knowledge of facts (the more older I get). (Aspergers Male age 28)
@MetalSymphony
@MetalSymphony 13 жыл бұрын
I agree with this. I was suicidal for ten years from as early as age seven, primarily because of social things, like not understanding anyone and having no one who understood me. I'm not surprised at all at this study, and I think we really should have better programs in place to assist people on the autism spectrum, especially children and teenagers.
@dianeparks22
@dianeparks22 4 жыл бұрын
My 16 year old grandson committed suicide one month ago. He wasn’t diagnosed with Asberger’s but I believe he suffered with it. Thank you for reaching out with your video. I believe it will help others before it is too late. Now, the family is going over everything he ever said or did to try to gain some insight. I really just wanted to say, please keep up the work. It’s worth it if you save only one life or help one Aspie to get help so they can enjoy life.
@rick3747
@rick3747 4 жыл бұрын
I am so sorry. I at that age was very suicidal. It was very difficult time as my parents and extended family were brutal to me even though I was dx with Autism in 1981 at age 14. Today, I have minimal contact with them. They are too toxic.
@armankhodaei
@armankhodaei 4 жыл бұрын
Oh wow! I am so, so sorry for your loss.
@camilledixon4913
@camilledixon4913 3 жыл бұрын
My husband took his life two months ago after 28 years of marriage. I loved him dearly, but I didn’t know about his diagnosis, so didn’t understand why he was so hurtful. If I would have known, I would have gotten him help instead of getting offended. I miss him.
@armankhodaei
@armankhodaei 11 жыл бұрын
I am so sorry for your loss. :(
@lowbrowrodeo
@lowbrowrodeo 4 жыл бұрын
Yoga, meditation, affirmations and scripting along with a healthy diet has improved my functioning and coping. I avoid sugar, starches like white rice/all potatoes. I eat a diet High in veggies, some protein and fat. Almost keto. It makes me feel less drained. The meditation and scripting (I write down my large and small goals in gratitude and a feeling of having accomplished them) and yoga calm down my nervous system and I’m often better at dealing with the normal people. I still love to be by myself and my creative pass-times. I also avoid comparing myself with others. We are all our unique selves. Every human being has a god given light, often covered with layers and layers of less important stuff. Some are savvy enough to have a great career or surround themselves with lots of people they don’t really know which will keep them from discovering this Light and some cover the light with negativity or insecurity. We are all equal and have the same challenge: uncover and discover our Light, our true selves and potential. The rest is the Matrix. If people don’t get you, it’s their shortcoming.
@armankhodaei
@armankhodaei 4 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate this insight. Thank you.
@JDMimeTHEFIRST
@JDMimeTHEFIRST 3 жыл бұрын
I agree to take care of yourself. Running long distances helps me. However, even though I crave relationships, it helps me to get away from negative people. I end up thinking and processing their negativity towards me for days so I need to become a hermit for a month and only interact with few positive people who are nice, but this isn’t possible because I don’t want to be homeless and have to work. I unfortunately wasn’t diagnosed until after my degree and can’t work from home. This is very difficult when you end up working with a sociopath or even just a mean person.
@KellyLangston
@KellyLangston 13 жыл бұрын
Thank you for reaching out to support and assist teenagers and children living with asperger's and autism. Blessings to you as you make a difference in their lives by showing them that there is hope and that they have a great value and worth. Kelly Langston (author of Autism's Hidden Blessings).
@kmech3rd
@kmech3rd 5 ай бұрын
My mortality no longer frightens me. When it comes I will hug it and ask it why it stayed so long. People that want to prolong living like this are sick and cruel. Let the unwilling and weary rest, and those with the desire go on.
@vikingjanch
@vikingjanch 6 жыл бұрын
I think about suicide often. Older Aspie. All the things I have failed at. But I doubt if I ever will. There is something about life in the final analysis that keeps me keeping on. But I think about it often, hence watching this video.
@camilledixon4913
@camilledixon4913 3 жыл бұрын
How are you Ape Urson?
@pursuitofknowledge6119
@pursuitofknowledge6119 2 жыл бұрын
It’s like a mental Russian roulette
@JakeJustJake-cv3gh
@JakeJustJake-cv3gh 6 жыл бұрын
I am autistic (level 2) and I think about suicide quite a lot. I fantasize about it sometimes, I consider that I dont have the guts to go through with it but sometimes I really wish I did. I feel so isolated and looked down at by society in general and by most people I come in contact with. The only people who seem to care about me more than superficially or from a distance are those who are paid to. I offend people all the time when I dont mean to and people seem to have very little patience for my difficulties that I try like hell to act like I dont have. I see things different from the norm and when I talk about those things it seems people are repulsed by me. I have significant trouble maintaining any sort of relationship with anyone long term, I make temporary friends, nothing lasting or meaningful. I have a profound inability to connect with others and generally I am looked down on for many reasons. I grew up in significant abuse, was abandoned in detention because my mother swore to a bogus warrant, she didnt want me, no one else does either. I've fallen in love and given my all and still I'm not good enough, no one wants a partner who has my difficulties, no one wants a partner they have to help with their day-to-day functioning, especially if he's intelligent, he's perceived as "lazy" or whatever. I find myself hopelessly lonely most of the time, tortured by the want to have meaningful, lasting friendships and relationships with others and to enjoy a long-term intimate connection with a significant other but the reality is that I am not worth the hard work one might have to put in to be able to sustain such a concept with me. I dont want to live in this world, I have spent probably 92% of every awake moment in the past 25 years of my life wishing some tragic accident would happen to take me out of this world. I have spent probably 20% of that time contemplating how I could force the hand of fate in that way. Yesterday, I was going to do go through with it. I decided against it because I considered some people who would be terribly affected and because I also knew that there were people who were prepared to stop me because they knew where I was going to be. Still, I dont want to live in this world. I hate living in this world. I can never find fulfillment or a valuable/helpful purpose to serve. I am a waste. A degenerate. And clearly, I'm not worthy of real love. I dont deserve to have someone in my corner or a group of friends to help me through my frequent tough experiences. I dont deserve them because I am too difficult to deal with... so what should I do? Hoping for an accident to happen is getting really old. 😔😔
@camilledixon4913
@camilledixon4913 3 жыл бұрын
Jake I hope you have found help and peace with living, because suicide is never the answer. It just destroys those you would leave behind.......forever.
@clarkbowler157
@clarkbowler157 6 ай бұрын
How are you?
@lifechoices6643
@lifechoices6643 6 жыл бұрын
From the lives of autistics,I learn two things-first,to celebrate small achievements-and secondly,to make inanimate things like money or nature one's friends.Some people have made money their friend(instead of their master) and have benefitted.
@Glyth1
@Glyth1 8 жыл бұрын
i want romantic n freindships but they dont exist as for education my mom threw me in a grouphome at 10 n i got out at 21 n now im 34 n i havent had friends sence 5th grade
@rick3747
@rick3747 2 жыл бұрын
Please my Autistic extended family, yes, life on this spinning rock is on hard mode for us but keep your eye on the prizes. We usually bloom later in life and Jesus Christ and our eternity with Him. ❤
@tonyhernandezpumarejo
@tonyhernandezpumarejo 12 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much , it is very important to raise awareness in terms of this condition. Very helpful video.
@davegunner49
@davegunner49 5 жыл бұрын
Had a taxing life with unsocial and incapable parents, faced a lot of bullying at school for my migration background, always felt like an alien with an intense level of sadness, anxiety and depression. Still managed to get myself a university degree at one of the top business schools in my country, had two short-term relationships, later at age 27 figured out I have the Asperger/ADHD combo, worked for 6 years in the insurance business earning good money (more than 90% of all neurotypicals), rode my bike up every Alpine pass in my country, did the famous Alpe d'Huez, traveled a lot. At the moment I am building a Lego ;). At age 34 I am tired of life and have the feeling I have seen it all. I am also terribly drained by interactions with neurotypicals. I think suicide is a reasonable option for people who are happy to leave saying they have seen it all and did their best in life.
@armankhodaei
@armankhodaei 5 жыл бұрын
I am sorry that this is how you feel. Have you traveled the world?
@davegunner49
@davegunner49 5 жыл бұрын
@@armankhodaei Thanks Arman, really appreciate your videos. I will travel to Indonesia next month. Looking forward to that. I was lucky having the possibility to visit many different places so far. Actually, it's even a bit easier for an Autistic person abroad.
@armankhodaei
@armankhodaei 5 жыл бұрын
@@davegunner49 Awesome! I hope you enjoy your time over in Indonesia :)
@rick3747
@rick3747 4 жыл бұрын
I know how you feel! Iwas there. Now at 53, I will not take my life just cause NTs want us dead. I will blaze my own path.... Passion, purpose and helping our community has helped me a lot. Hobbies, music, traveling, voluteering, nature has been a big help as well. Is it all easy...nope. You can do it too, brother!
@nigen
@nigen 7 жыл бұрын
unfortunately in my case, aspergers is genetic for the men in my family, my grandfather had it hard, my father not as bad and I was somewhere in between. the sad thing, as much as my mom tries to avoid admitting how much she dislikes the autistic traits in my grandfather, people she knows and even her own son. I just don't measure up to some metric she expected from her irish catholic side, and she expects me to get married and give her grandchildren when going out with a stranger and getting intimate with someone I don't know terrifies me. but she expects me to be something that I am not, and the irony of it all is, why did she marry dad if she didn't want a son like me? Opa reproduced because marriages were the custom at the time, and he mostly left his wife alone and she did the same. Dad, I have no idea why she chose him, I don't know if dad knew either, but now I am lost. yes you can go out and possibly hook up with a stranger whom you are barely comfortable with, being judged and measured the entire time, or stay home and work on other things, but be lonely. its a mess.
@zanelelong9912
@zanelelong9912 5 жыл бұрын
It seems like traditionalism is anti aspergers.
@camilledixon4913
@camilledixon4913 3 жыл бұрын
Don’t settle for lonely. I was married to a man with your struggles for 28 years and loved him dearly. It wasn’t easy, but I needed him as much as he needed me to understand and accept each other.
@nigen
@nigen 3 жыл бұрын
@@zanelelong9912 you have no idea...
@nigen
@nigen 3 жыл бұрын
@@camilledixon4913 I am worried that aspies might only be compatible with other aspies
@Jadorelamusique94
@Jadorelamusique94 11 жыл бұрын
God it's like having someone read your mind TO you :S
@BladeEdge86
@BladeEdge86 13 жыл бұрын
I have contemplated suicide many times in my life, the first time was after my grandmother on my mothers side died, and it resurfaced on and off throughout high school and reared its ugly head most recently after my Dad's side of the family betrayed him and sold the house he has lived in since after him and my mom got divorced just shortly after my grandmother on my fathers side who lived in that same house died and left him with nowhere to go.
@user-qp7pd9ig1d
@user-qp7pd9ig1d 6 ай бұрын
Thanks for being brave and sharing
@lifechoices6643
@lifechoices6643 6 жыл бұрын
In my own life,I have found ways of rewarding myself for the rejections I face.This,coupled with an empowering spirituality(Nichiren Buddhism) helps.
@9228Thiago
@9228Thiago 13 жыл бұрын
Great video. Thanks a lot
@yvonnemariedonaghey5557
@yvonnemariedonaghey5557 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. 👈💯
@chrisholland2016
@chrisholland2016 5 ай бұрын
Hell I have aspergers syndrome and I already want to die after being 11-12 years emotionally wounded. I feel misunderstood by this wicked ass culture we live in. I'd just rather be a horse along with my horses or die as a human feeling unappreciated for just existing.
@SageGarlandSingerSongwriter
@SageGarlandSingerSongwriter 9 жыл бұрын
Hi Arman :) May you please post a link to the study? I have a fascination with research and don't take people's word for things (as an Aspie, lol). Thank you :)
@lifechoices6643
@lifechoices6643 6 жыл бұрын
Socialisation should be seen in perspective.One of the big business magnates of the past-Howard Hughes-was a recluse-yet it didn't come in the way of his financial success.
@BeastofTheDeadBlue66
@BeastofTheDeadBlue66 13 жыл бұрын
this helps me alot. thnx :)
@jamiG4
@jamiG4 12 жыл бұрын
@jamister91 You may not be "ugly" as you think. Most of us think we're ugly to a degree/in some way but there's someone out there for everyone. One who thinks YOU are beautiful. As I age, I realize that when someone sees your beauty only because of your physical appearance, it's shallow. I've had "ugly" friends who were beautiful to me because knew their INSIDES. We all grow old and get big noses and ears and saggy parts. Being with someone who has beauty inside is MUCH more important. Hugs.
@martinkaczynski8526
@martinkaczynski8526 Жыл бұрын
This is so true.
@IncliningPizza
@IncliningPizza 9 жыл бұрын
Where did you find that study?
@user-qp7pd9ig1d
@user-qp7pd9ig1d 6 ай бұрын
I have lost so many friends to suicide and 1 family member
@skye836
@skye836 11 жыл бұрын
everyone has the right to neck themselves. i have aspergers and i dont see the big deal, one day your alive, the next your not. the sun will rise again and the world will go on, the only difference is that the pain has stopped. you dont get better from autism
@DJSpikesan
@DJSpikesan 13 жыл бұрын
@Kevileya Well and you may be like this too, but I'm not accepted by anyone. and i mean ANYONE. and it just irritates me and depresses me so fucking much. I wish i could let it just roll off my shoulder, but when you have on one at all, shits hard. ya know
@user-qp7pd9ig1d
@user-qp7pd9ig1d 6 ай бұрын
God bless us all and everyone
@user-qp7pd9ig1d
@user-qp7pd9ig1d 6 ай бұрын
I love you all so very much I know and I understand
@lifechoices6643
@lifechoices6643 6 жыл бұрын
Socialising is not that important for success.One of the great businessmen of the past,Howard Hughes,was a recluse.
@JohnDoe-ef3wo
@JohnDoe-ef3wo Жыл бұрын
It's in our very DNA to self terminate at a young age. But that's just the way God made us, for a short time!!
@daniellejacobs4336
@daniellejacobs4336 10 жыл бұрын
I currently feel that way hence watching this video. This is my thoughts in a poem Sometimes when all we do is ask for help the only thing we have left is to stop asking. Im tired, im done, may this be the last breath, my death you see maybe scary for many but honey dont worry I've been ready, it wont be painful as it lasts 1min from being in the tub with water filled up high my sliced throat so baby please don't cry. You never knew me. Nor cared to. As you prob seen my many posts. I've been living my life of attempts to be free sucide by cop was by all the worst means. You ask if I have a criminal record and am looked down upon simply for trying to leave peacefully. Although I was charged for suicide by cop im determined and never will give up. I've tried a.45 and that was hell because I freaked my complex out and when inti a nutshell while being poked and proded. Still misunderstood no one gets autism but refuses to look at my records and go from there. They put a label on me as if im a barcode as if im a recycled paper that keeps getting burnt. If people stopped diagnosing and understood the most common disability maybe maybe my life would have been deserved. I miss Kristin Herstam, I have always loved halo rescue, I miss my bros. But I wont miss this life. Since I was 7 ive wanted this too stop, just to be loved, accepted, and understood, for not to be constantly left by those ive trusted most, the years of sexual assault and strangulation will be left in the dirt. My animals mean no harm I know the law. So they will go back in loving arms. I know what im saying as competent as can be this is my last breath dont waste a kiss for me.
@walidrahman2
@walidrahman2 12 жыл бұрын
@jamister91 Jarty, don't say that about yourself! Sure, I've never met you in person, but I think you're a great friend! You have a friend in me. Don't ever say you're ugly! Cause based on how much I know you, you have a beautiful soul : )
@SaiTurtlesninjaNX
@SaiTurtlesninjaNX 13 жыл бұрын
I argee with on this.
@user-qp7pd9ig1d
@user-qp7pd9ig1d 6 ай бұрын
I sometimes feel to.die only God grace saves me
@user-qp7pd9ig1d
@user-qp7pd9ig1d 6 ай бұрын
Life is so vert hard
@zanelelong9912
@zanelelong9912 5 жыл бұрын
It sucks because they would rather talk about the 2nd amendment or toxic masculinity, but not how individuals with as go postal or suicidal. I think the right and the left would find better results if they focused more on as issues, considering a lot of these people who committed these crimes were autistic. It dose not sell as much so we better not count on it though. The sad thing is the more they ignore our situation the worse things get for everybody..
@Beauweir
@Beauweir 13 жыл бұрын
I don't really have a problem attracting women although I have Aspergers. One reason for this is that one of my special interests in weightlifting which really arose through a side interest when I was 18. My problem was the flirting game. I bought a book and read about it however (yes I had to study it lol) and now can recognise more easily when it happens and can play the game easier. They are books we can study that teach socialising. Why not use our intelligence and read up on it?
@JDMimeTHEFIRST
@JDMimeTHEFIRST 3 жыл бұрын
I think a lot of people have learned, but putting it in practice is difficult. I don’t have the confidence and don’t recognize when someone’s flirting with me. It’s also difficult being a woman because many guys will say what they don’t mean instead of just saying the truth. They will say they like you when they aren’t interested and will insult you when they are or ignore you. It’s too confusing and a waste of time. I just trying to date as much as possible (sometimes not possible), but only continue with honest straightforward people. And ask if you don’t know, I can’t waste time on games.
@sbcraig1981
@sbcraig1981 11 жыл бұрын
My God!!! Don't hurt yourself! Go to my channel and see my video about bullies. I will pray for you. I know how you are feeling. Let's be friends. Everybody needs them. I know the pain you must be in. It makes me cry too. Stay strong and message me anytime.
@DarkQuietWyattON
@DarkQuietWyattON 12 жыл бұрын
@jamister91 @jamister91 -Who told you that you are ugly? Are you using your criteria which, if you have ASD like I do, is probably a little skewed anyway, no offense meant. I doubt you are ugly.
@misspinkpunkykat
@misspinkpunkykat 12 жыл бұрын
@armankhodaei My bearded dragon is my best friend and she fulfills all my socialization needs.
@thenativist3564
@thenativist3564 3 жыл бұрын
30x’s? Um, no.
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