Ask Nick - My Boyfriend Won’t Go Down On Me | The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall

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7 ай бұрын

Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We’re back to answer your burning questions about the world of dating and relationships. Before getting to our callers, We then get to our callers.
Our first caller has feelings for a friend who’s currently in a relationship, plus she’s not sure if she’s even into women. This friend often flirts with our caller, to the point where their other friends have noticed as well, and vents about her rocky relationship. She’s unsure whether or not to confess these feelings, and how they would be received. Our second caller’s boyfriend won’t eat her out, and it’s ruining their relationship. She’s wondering how to stress to him this is something she needs in a relationship, or if this is a justifiable reason to move on. Our final caller is seeing her long-distance situationship this weekend, and is debating giving him an ultimatum. Her apartment lease is up soon, and she’s been thinking about moving to the city he lives in, but only if he’s willing to commit to her fully.
“It’s not wrong for you to want to be satisfied in your relationship.”
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@brandyguzman8518 7 ай бұрын

Omg I have a sense of relief seeing the 3 of you guys together again. It feels like “my parents are not getting a divorce” relief feeling LMAO

@purehoneyy.b 7 ай бұрын

Yea

@eliskacharlottew.2408 7 ай бұрын

SO HAPPY to have Ali and Amanda back togetherrrrr!!!

@connie0613 7 ай бұрын

Sameee

@Joan-COYI 7 ай бұрын

Yes! I had to check that this wasn’t an old show 😄

@candy07831 7 ай бұрын

It won’t be for long

@Lizaw4022 7 ай бұрын

Ugh your last caller 😢 I just want to scream it from the rooftops to girls. Your person would never make you feel like you’re a nuisance, or keep you in a talking stage for 2 years for that matter, long distance or not. I wouldn’t base where I live to someone who can’t commit or talk about feelings lol

@stack.attack27 6 ай бұрын

New drinking game!...take a shot each time the phrases "shoot your shot" and "so to speak" are uttered 😅

@embeth446 7 ай бұрын

This oral sex topic has come up before and something doesn’t sit right with me when people think their partner OWES them oral sex. If he despises doing it and it’s the only thing that satisfies her, then they are not sexually compatible. The same would be true if the genders were reversed. Even if he agrees to do it, is she really going to enjoy it knowing he’s disgusted by it?? Stop talking about “stepping out” on him to find someone who will “eat you out.” (That phrase in itself might be grossing him out tbh). Perhaps you just respectfully end the relationship so you both can find someone you’re compatible with.

@leahnorar 7 ай бұрын

Eating me out grossed me out tbh. “Going down on” sounds better for some Reason. But I have a few ideas as of why he doesn’t like it and it doesn’t have to do witj hygiene

@embeth446 7 ай бұрын

@@leahnorartotally agree. It’s a terrible choice of words.

@rtidball5650 5 күн бұрын

She needs to grow up she can use a vibrator or when he does it and he asks how he did and she says horrible probably wouldn’t try again either!!

@resolute01769 7 ай бұрын

Wish there were timestamps on callers. Some of these just run on and on when the caller doesn't get the point Nick makes and he continues on to be polite or whatever.

@sab72794 7 ай бұрын

I truly hope that caller does not move across the country for a guy that’s made no effort for her 😭

@DMTsanto 7 ай бұрын

AMEN.

@brandyguzman8518 7 ай бұрын

Omg same. Hopefully she see’s the comments section.

@meghannkrone8122 7 ай бұрын

Made this mistake with my ex and it ended horribly. He didn't appreciate any effort I made (changing jobs, positions, etc.) and told me AFTER the relationship ended he wasn't ready for us to live together but didn't want to lose the relationship so he went along with it. His dishonesty caused so many more problems in the year+ we lived together than what was needed had been upfront. If he's already showing her he's not making an effort, he's not suddenly going to change.

@sam11297 6 ай бұрын

Totally agree. I wish women would realize that when a man wants to be with you, there will be no questions about it. They go above and beyond to let you know. Stop making excuses and justifications for red flags.

@aubreydeangelo 7 ай бұрын

Caller #1 - honestly I would recommended letting it go. Having someone be into you is intoxicating. I bet you the push and pull of it all is a factor in your attraction to her. Please find someone available and who is not unsure of her sexuality!!

@ItsssAlexxxx 7 ай бұрын

I 100% agree with this sound advice 👏

@ningyding 7 ай бұрын

I have never been more disturbed by Nick’s advice than when he told that poor girl to follow her situationship to a new city while telling him he’s not the reason she’s coming…. Wtf Nick???

@ningyding 7 ай бұрын

DON’T move there for him without his consent. I can’t believe my ears with Nick’s advice on this!!! Can you go month to month on your lease or sign 6 more months?

@rachelcummings3525 7 ай бұрын

Okay Ali and Amanda Spin off podcast pretty please? Your dynamic is my favorite part of the show

@jenniferjourdan2686 7 ай бұрын

I’m so freaking excited to see Ali and Amanda next to each other again! 🎉

@seven92023 7 ай бұрын

No one's partner should be made to do something they don't want sexually. If he doesn't want to go down on her, it his choice. She has a choice to make too. Also, no one should have a conversation that is an ultimatum for relationship. If she wants more, go find it with someone else, next.

@clairenicholls8024 7 ай бұрын

One of my favorite things about Mondays !

@assyrianprincess3 6 ай бұрын

Nick singing a Christmas album would be my top playlist

@taylortickel152 7 ай бұрын

Yes, Very Viall Christmas with special guest Natalie and baby.

@sarac181 7 ай бұрын

I gotta disagree with Nick on the last caller. Never, ever, ever, move or change your life for a guy. Live your life, and if he fits into it, great, and if not, someone else will. Don't do things for people that would never do the same for you in return. Also, you shouldn't lie about moving, if you arent actually moving. If he finds out somehow that you didnt move and you just lied about it, thats not a good look for you. Just be honest, and if he says no, move on. Don't play games. Its not worth it.

@eliskacharlottew.2408 7 ай бұрын

agreed jesus

@eduardobrandi1318 5 ай бұрын

I disagree, it seemed from the call that they have a genuine connection. Nick’s advice was spot on, clear communication of one’s expectations or emotions is never wrong, especially when she knows the consequences of him not reciprocating the emotions. Sometimes it takes one person taking the chance for the other to dive in as well.

@yuni5424 7 ай бұрын

I relate to the second caller because my ex (who I was with for almost 10 years) refused to do that too. (Yet I “served” him) It made me feel terrible

@laurag5322 7 ай бұрын

We need Nick’s Christmas album!! 🎅🏼 🎤 🙌

@soapyfankatie 7 ай бұрын

Ali and Amanda are back!!!

@courtneykruer5242 7 ай бұрын

Caller who’s BF won’t go there: If her man didn’t wanna go to Broadway shows in Nick’s example, she could at least find a friend to go instead of him. But in this case… Does her man want her to find someone else to go down on her? Editing to add: I am not saying he should do things that he doesn’t feel comfortable with. Rather, I’m surprised he’s also staying with her when he seems to already think that they’re incompatible sexually. Both should find people they match in that way with!

@embeth446 7 ай бұрын

That’s exactly what she should do. She should end the relationship respectfully and find someone she is sexually compatible with. Nobody owes you anything in the bedroom. It’s no different than if you love BDSM and they hate it, then find someone else who enjoys BDSM. I don’t get this mentality of “he OWES me oral sex.” She just needs to find someone else that enjoys this.

@sabrinafirlej1044 7 ай бұрын

I looove the og gang :)

@hotsoup429 7 ай бұрын

Caller number 3 sounds like she is probably focusing way more on getting this guy to want to be with her and not enough on asking herself WHY she wants to be with him-his ignoring her texts and not acknowledging her feelings is a big red flag. I’m surprised Nick didn’t focus more on her relationship with him. She should NOT MOVE unless she wants to for that city. The deadline for her lease is going to lead to self-delusion and added pressure to get the “right” response from him. Lots of bad, bad signs here

@slwtgf 5 ай бұрын

I want a Christmas album by Nick,,,because my hub can’t sing to save his life , either, that if Nick truly tried to sing our country’s beloved carols, I’d buy it! And it would give men courage to try to learn! He can’t carry a note in a bucket, but if he took lessons , put his heart into it, I think that would be touching but also contagious. My son and kids (all adults now) really enjoy singing, so if my hub tried , we’d be grateful

@user-bq7wp2vu3i 5 ай бұрын

He probably doesn’t like doing it bc he was told he isn’t good at it. I’d probably act like I really like it to build his confidence then slowly start teaching him how to do it

@mbach003 7 ай бұрын

Video title lady. You sound like me and my ex. Leave due to sexual incompatibility (my ex and i broke up for other reasons) then make your desires a non-negotiable. Im now w my person who is a master at going down and making me satisfied and its 100% reciprocated.

@janessajolly7921 5 ай бұрын

Does he ever post updates?

@lilso5454 2 ай бұрын

I want to know this too! We need update episodes !!

@jennyonthecoast 7 ай бұрын

There was the same issue on Dear Shandy where a couple had opposite sex drives, got married and the spouse was writing in wanting out of the marriage after several years of limited sex.

@Misssslola916 6 ай бұрын

WHY WOULD NICK ADVISE HER TO MOVE ACROSS THE COUNTRY FOR A SITUATIONSHIP?? I feel like nick only feels that way because of his experience with Natalie but they are not the rule they are the exception, doesn’t he understand that ?

@maydaze5934 7 ай бұрын

24:56, so many women out there that know they’re not straight and are not in relationships. Find another fish to hook on to.

@yuni5424 7 ай бұрын

🎯

@samanthanoellesmith 7 ай бұрын

31:52 I’m all for people “shooting their shot.” But, a couple of things. If this is just a crush it is incredibly selfish to tell someone who is in a relationship (happy or otherwise) that you have feelings for them. Crushes are nothing. Crushes come and go. I’ve had 24 hour crushes. I’m curious what this woman’s proclivity is to someone who is taken? Is there more of a desire because it’s “forbidden” so to speak? And someone who might be seen as a bit of a conquest to potentially “flip”? There are some questions I have around this caller’s deep rooted emotional intentions. Crushes are not worth messing with someone’s head over. And this would mess with her friend’s head. Because maybe she has had some thoughts of this woman. But thoughts acted upon are the issue. And you could open the door to something that is morally not okay, and could get messy quick. If this was true love, where the person was absolutely so in love that they knew they could not continue to “just be friends” and they believed wholeheartedly this was the one they didn’t want to live without, then I’m more open to the idea of sharing your feelings. But, you have to be prepared once you share those feelings to completely step away. Because the other person needs time and space to consider their own feelings without the confusion of the confessor around. Furthermore, sticking around after confessing feelings is just leaving a door open for an affair.