Ask Nick - My Husband’s a Shopaholic | The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall

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2 ай бұрын

Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! Before we get to our callers, we talk about last week’s caller… A lot of you wanted to know our thoughts, and some of you even wrote in!
Our first caller had her engagement party spoiled by her “best friend,” who proceeded to bail on said party. She is afraid to confront her friend over this blunder and reconsider her as a bridesmaid. Our second caller got dumped over a spicy encounter she had over two years ago, long before they met. She struggles to acknowledge his hypocrisy and worries about sharing her history with future partners. Our final caller finds herself in a financial bind because of her “shopaholic” husband. Should she consider surrogacy to pay off her extreme debt? Or should she help her husband get to the root of his spending problem?
“Stop having important conversations via text.”
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@JaneWoodBranam 2 ай бұрын

Being shamed by a man about your past is a dealbreaker. She dodged a bullet and shouldn’t ever contact him again.

@InMy1987Era 2 ай бұрын

Exactly. It’s the double standard like always. Breaking up with you on text says A LOT about his character. First caller dodged a bullet

@joanne8084 2 ай бұрын

Definitely a deal breaker, I do sorta wish she could shame him back by pointing out she’s disappointed to find out he texts breakups & how his thinking is ridiculous & judgmental & sexist. If he tried to get back with her tho it’d be terrible for her to give him another chance, which it sounds like she would, because he’d be a condescending jerk most likely through what we have heard so you’re probably correct in that she should never speak to him again.

@Agata_Balbina 2 ай бұрын

She trusted him and wanted to open up to him and she definitely shouldn't be shamed. I think it was more about having it with supervisors during a conference, while being a teacher combined with the attitude " I've always thought about it, so I guess it was the time to do it." It could damage her career.

@embeth446 2 ай бұрын

I think it’s hilarious reading the bride to be’s text message, and it comes out that SHE also did not go to her friends engagement party OR bridal shower!! Did you all catch that? 😂 Everyone is so “I need to put myself first” these days until a friend does that back to them and then they’re outraged. Grow up, sorry. You’re getting back what you put into this friendship.

@Sunshinelollipops223 2 ай бұрын

Agreed I kept thinking what did you do in the relationship lol. And then thought double standards when you didn’t go.

@eliskacharlottew.2408 2 ай бұрын

No LITERALLY - as soon as she said that I was like bitch how tf are you upset about this even - you literally did the same thing

@vickinathan8777 2 ай бұрын

I thought the exact same thing. It’s no wonder her friend did this. I’m surprised the caller couldn’t see this.

@mrsjessicasmith 2 ай бұрын

and Nick didn't call her out on it really.

@princessjenn93 2 ай бұрын

and she "forgot" until the moment she knew it was gonna come out PLS

@sandralinke9150 2 ай бұрын

Ohhhh yaaaa Listening further, that text message was WAY TOO MUCH to the friend who didn’t come to the engagement party. Yikes While she was justified in her feelings…that was not effective

@lalaa8653 2 ай бұрын

2nd call that guy didn’t like you enough and was looking for an excuse out.. cause that’s bullshit and is clearly not mature at his age it’s only been a month I wouldn’t bother with him anymore

@HS-ot4sm 2 ай бұрын

Please stop promoting better help!!!!!!!! Their practices are unethical- do your research please

@hannahadams1207 2 ай бұрын

Can you explain? I’m curious

@mrsjessicasmith 2 ай бұрын

@@hannahadams1207 I think its been found out that they hire unlicensed therapists.

@steven4570 2 ай бұрын

“Do your research” 🙄

@heatheraggus7501 2 ай бұрын

I think the opening discussion is evidence of why getting married young is usually not a good idea.

@Jzone-zg5mw 2 ай бұрын

Lmaoooo this guy saying he wants to give her a baby, buy her a house, while having sex w someone you’ve known for a couple of months? That’s crazy Emotionally immature men do a lot of future speak in the context of not knowing someone all that well

@crystalxoxos2 2 ай бұрын

That made me cringe so hard when she said “this must be it” because he said those things during sex 💀

@Dumbfoundead27 2 ай бұрын

Caller 2, “I’m just on vacation with my middle aged parents” Also caller 2, “I met a cute army guy at the bar” 🤔

@catherineritch6241 2 ай бұрын

My thoughts too

@andreegodbout868 2 ай бұрын

First caller..you were a shitty friend too. I can't blame your friend for not coming to your engagement surprise. This is not a true friendship. Move on a d be a better friend in the future.

@ItsBrittanyBitch9 2 ай бұрын

Nick, you give good advice….BUT you repeat yourself too many times. We heard you the first and second time. No need to repeat it 10 more times.

@joanne8084 2 ай бұрын

I agree. Love the advice but I do find myself skipping ahead after he makes his point and starts repeating repeatedly 😂

@nk47100 2 ай бұрын

Repetition is necessary when the callers are not getting it. It’s not about whether you heard him - it’s about the caller getting it

@peidan86 2 ай бұрын

I agree. He loves the sound of his voice way too much.

@ruthdahl5551 2 ай бұрын

People make way too big of a deal of getting engaged especially if you have picked a ring , live together . Shows like the bachelor have skewed ideas of how much attention engagements should get. I know you put much thought into yours but if you weren’t a social media person I doubt you’d have been so inclined.

@sandralinke9150 2 ай бұрын

The caller re: the “best friend”/ bridesmaid….oooof Painful to listen to That woman has shown that she just isn’t a true friend. Married or not, you show up and/or communicate in person and with EMPATHY with a close friend.

@kellystewart9291 2 ай бұрын

Nothing has resonated with me more.. "convincing ourselves of something we don't even want to do"... just saying it out loud makes me go "oh whoa"..

@jodilower8484 2 ай бұрын

Why aren’t you talking about your CW series Matchmaker? I listen to your podcasts weekly, except Monday. When was this filmed? It seems like a year or more ago.

@maydaze5934 2 ай бұрын

The young married contributor will say anything to rationalize being married young.

@Badnewsfeminist 2 ай бұрын

Haha I noticed that too

@emmagraham8657 2 ай бұрын

PLEASE do some research on weighted sleep sacs before promoting 😭 they are not safe for all sleep. At least in Canada they are not

@kativanmeter4928 2 ай бұрын

Happy Monday 🎉

@madelynnstibbard3564 2 ай бұрын

Thought I might share this TED talk of this researcher who talks about the biochemical reactions of men and women falling in love. It's a little eyebrow-raising in the beginning (the researcher's grandmother starts talking about women "jumping into bed too early"), but the research found that the female "love" chemical (oxytocin) spikes for women just after sex. The male "love" chemical (vassopressin) however decreases after sex. When a male "commits" to a partner however, they found that their testosterone drops, which allows for the receptors to receive more vassopressin. Essentially, the research found that women are more likely to fall in love after they've had sex whereas men fall in love once they have committed romantically to a partner. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/m9-hZbqgmcu5dJs.html

@jas4640 2 ай бұрын

Will Nick let people talk this time around

@cindicleee 2 ай бұрын

❤❤

@tamilee9462 2 ай бұрын

Who is this guest?

@catherineritch6241 2 ай бұрын

This free will free choice, have all the sex you want is for the birds. You definitely wouldn’t tell her to eat all the junk food she wants, go explore and eat all the rotten tomatoes. Living a wholesome life,It’s the harder path, but it will bring you the best results.

@claudiapawlak6894 2 ай бұрын

When young people pull closer, or chase each other . Why are their so many disappointments in America , live on water . The simple & innocent in young people is a discovery . When Ethnics acknowledge soul mates . What happened to hot couples ? What happened to a household dressed hot everyday, children, grandchildren to open conversations . Some Ethnics have different variations within their group . When the maturity is a love affair .

@seven92023 2 ай бұрын

Second caller was rightfully rejected based on her sexual past. It's even worse that she doesn't think the threesome was a mistake. And Nick is a bigger hypocrite.

@lalaa8653 2 ай бұрын

Oh grow up. You don’t even have to like threesomes it doesn’t mean you need to be high and mighty towards ppl that do

@lalaa8653 2 ай бұрын

Oh grow up. You don’t even have to like threesomes it doesn’t mean you need to be high and mighty towards ppl that do

@lalaa8653 2 ай бұрын

Oh grow up. You don’t even have to like threesomes it doesn’t mean you need to be high and mighty towards ppl that do

@emiliasvensson6125 2 ай бұрын

Oh susshh

@seven92023 2 ай бұрын

@@emiliasvensson6125 Silencing a man? That's sexist.