Thank you so much for this Rory. I find your research so helpful.

I love your video. This is really helping me prepare for my presentation.

Thank you for this intelligent and comprehensive synopsis. Valuable material, well-presented. 👏🏻

Thank you, needed this two years ago when i was studying but still a great video.

Was just wondering stuff about psychology ( out of curiosity) and now I am hooked on theese theories and just psychology! Awesome job!

These Videos are Very Valuable, Thank you so much

Noted. Thankyou

That was great thanks!

Thank you. I always enjoy your vids.

parents can really fuck us up

This was super helpful! my exam is tomorrow and this was a God send! :D

Good work Rory

Best explanation of this subject that I've found - really clear. As a trainee counsellor I'm glad I've discovered your channel!

This study explains my own childhood. and possibly my Mothers to. My Mother told me she was sexually abused as a kid etc etc, she grew up in care homes cause her mother abandoned her, yet her two younger siblings stayed at the family home! ? :/ As a child myself she physically abused me(not my younger brother) and as I got a bit older that's when the mental/emotional stuff started that has stayed with me to this day and I'm 35 in three months time. I knew from about 10 that I wouldn't have kids cause I didn't want to be as bad as her, and cause I don't want children to start with! My childhood traumas have coloured my adult life, I have Manic Depression, suicidal thoughts(and attempts) I've seen many councillors over the years, scared to go out, cant hold down a job for too long, relationships/sexuality issues are also major problems for me, I'm just existing until the day I take my own life and I'm out of this horrible world that I never wanted to be part of, all just cause my Mother couldn't keep her damn legs closed at 18.(She had me at 19)

Very informative, thank you! I was wondering, who initially pointed out that attachment styles can alter according to life experiences? I'm writing a paper on attachment and this is very useful but I need to know where it came from so I can reference it properly. Thank you :-)

I am studying 'Therapeuthic Child care' it is helpful for my study

Any suggestion for further reading on the adult healing process from wounds concerning early childhood attachments? Thanks! :)

Thanks for your information. I understand the need to pay attention to the 30% that fall into the cycle. But I find it very dangerous and counter-productive for counselors to emphasize this as if it were a norm. For those of us in the 70% who are being counseled and are not part of the repeat cycle, it can be received as a deep core insult...as though the counselor assumes our character is equal to that of the abusers (that's the stuff of duels). This is further complicated by our still unformed identity as adults; we know who we are not, but have trouble knowing who we are. In this yawning chasm, to toss in the suspicion that the counselor can't tell the difference between an abuser and a survivor undermines the integrity of counseling. I am not criticizing, just sharing this as valuable insight from the other chair in the room. For reference, C-PTSD was the related issue. I'm in recovery because I ended counseling and pursued DBT on my own with the workbook based in Linehan's research. The few times I wanted to make an appointment for support, the gnawing resistance to being misunderstood even momentarily led me to journal instead or talk with a safe friend. Though these are good, it was this very issue that ruined counsel for me. And I'm mindful of the fact that black and white thinking is involved here; but perhaps a way to avoid mentioning the minority marker when counseling the majority would be a helpful idea to incorporate?

helpful

What age period would you consider as a child? 0-5? 0-7?

I'm curious to know what attachment style you are yourself Rory! How was your own childhood?

Can a person be a mixture of those attachment styles ?

Mary Ainsworth was American-Canadian

Olin I’m Lllll

How does a 46 year old male reverse or lessen attachment disorder to then thrive. Difficult stuff.