Top 3 Ways To Transform Your Life With Authentic MASCULINITY

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5 ай бұрын

Discover the transformative power of healthy, authentic masculinity in our latest video, where The Attachment Specialist Adam Lane Smith and The Sovereign Man's Matt Enns delve into the crisis undermining marriages and male identity in the modern world. They shed light on the misunderstood concept of masculinity, challenging the detrimental stereotypes that have led to a disconnect in relationships and a diminished sense of self among men.
Our conversation navigates the intricate dynamics of male and female roles, the impact of societal shifts on relationships, and the urgent need for men to reclaim their authentic, constructive masculinity. This enlightening discussion offers insights into how embracing true masculinity can not only mend but also enrich relationships, fostering a supportive and fulfilling partnership.
We explore the pivotal role men play in fostering a stable and loving environment, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries, understanding emotional needs, and leading with compassion and strength. This video is an essential resource for anyone looking to understand the essence of healthy masculinity and its vital contribution to personal well-being and relationship harmony.
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@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

What do you think about masculinity in 2024? Where should we go from here in restoring or reviving authentic masculinity?

@ChuckNorris-lf6vo 5 ай бұрын

Allow yourself to think speak and act in a positive way in every situation.

@hspinnovators5516 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. I cried as a woman watching this. So so so needed

@AshAndCream 5 ай бұрын

Encourage couples to start businesses together. I bond with my lady through the book we're working on. I dream and she makes my dream come true with her talents.

@tommyt8765 5 ай бұрын

Not that I am an advocate for restoring or reviving anything that is so amorphous as "authentic masculinity," but if one was to begin to set standards for American (or global?) masculinity or femininity, it must be through the socialization process. In any case, it cannot be done only on one side of the equation. Authentic masculinity largely resides as much in the mind of a female than it does in a man, just as that of femininity resides as much in the mind of the male as it does in the female. It is a dichotomy that must be shared equality in order to work. The restoration or revival would have to begin from an early age, through schools, churches and other socializing institutions. To try to reprogram older persons, who has deeply ingrained concepts as to what constitutes the role of a male or female, is just scraping the surface. In any case, reprogramming is a lifelong process, beginning with the earliest lessons. After all, the child is the father to the man, the mother to the female.

@ChuckNorris-lf6vo 5 ай бұрын

incorrect you exist withing a already defined biological system your body defined by iterations of natural selection which puts you already within specific parameters to operate said body efficiently with the set of organs you were born with + the biotech and biochem which your prefrontal cortex can "add" to yourself. So your argument is destroyed in seconds.@@tommyt8765

@CrownedWithGloryReborn 5 ай бұрын

So thankful you guys are speaking out. We need more of this. Women cannot teach men to be men. Only men can do this and we need it. Congrats with your children. 👏

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Absolutely! Thanks for your support!🙌

@IshtarBellydancer 4 ай бұрын

Thank you - finally the Sacred Masculine is beginning to come to the fore - the strong & the nuturer of his tribe❤ ancient shaman had the sacred who cared about the tribe, not boys running around and using females but one that delights in honor, integrity and love as empathy. I’m learning about attachment theory and it’s very helpful in understanding my marital issues. One thing I really love about my husband is he kind and shares financially in our marriage - he is generous and has many beautiful attributes I love. This is what for me helps when we struggle with our issues… always see the glass half full - certainly better quality of life than a glass half empty. Gratitude brings joy❤

@hspinnovators5516 5 ай бұрын

Plus a lot of us weren't taught these things by our fathers or mothers. Our father's werent keen to the late 90s hook up games that started hookup culture, our mothers couldn't teach us to vet for provider caring men to bypass the games, both dad and mom wanted us to get an education and provide to protect from "lower men". My dad was VERY concerned about me going to college in my best child bearing years...this is conmon for us in this generation....such a mess

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Your insights are invaluable. Many of us resonate deeply with your experiences. Thank you for sharing!

@Notmyrealname099 5 ай бұрын

I’m happy to hear men speak out the words of what I was thinking of my whole life

@vital.elements 5 ай бұрын

I hope the next wave of feminism is intent on making sure women can share the world with healthy men and be safer and more fulfilled for it. It's great to hear you guys charting a way for men to take back their innate power to become the strong, safe, and sound partners that so many women need. 🤟

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for your encouragement!🙌

@youtubecommenter8310 2 ай бұрын

You want more waves of feminism?

@hspinnovators5516 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. It is so needed. Men are the cornerstones of a healthy society. So important. ❤❤❤

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

I hear you and deeply appreciate your kind words! ❤

@lmichellewright 5 ай бұрын

This conversation was great. Thank you. P.S. Adam have you considered talking to Heidi Priebe as a guest? Her videos on attachment are next level. Very helpful.

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for tuning in! And thanks for the suggestion. We'll definitely explore the possibility!

@erikameir7610 13 күн бұрын

I am also a Heidi Priebe fan. There is good overlap & possible simpatico in your approaches & styles.

@tammy2534 5 ай бұрын

I am absolutely blown away. My partner and I have been having issues. He's a defensive avoidant. I think that what you guys are talking about is something that needs to continue to be discussed and is the key to helping humanity get back where we belong. And actually I take that back to get us as humans evolved where we should have been in the first place

@tammy2534 5 ай бұрын

Here's the kicker, My partner finds information about this losing of masculinity thing and in the presence of a major issue we're going through right now and also the fact that he is a dismissive avoidant. He in the middle of a dismissive avoided program that he has been due diligently doing. Found this info and is putting aside the dismissive avoidant information and focusing everything he has on the loss of his masculinity. Within 24 hours of this he is changing before my eyes and I am feeling like I am getting every single thing I've ever dreamed of in him.

@tammy2534 5 ай бұрын

And I'm driving so I'm talked to texting so my punctuation is off. But I needed to get that out and let you guys know that I thank you so much for spreading this message for humanity. I think you guys are right in every point you've made and please forgive the Senate structures and punctuation, but you guys needed my thanks

@traveler7929 Ай бұрын

This is interesting. My ex would have been what you call effeminate. I’m the one who developed the family code for us after he left. Peace, Kindness, Honesty, Respect, Duty and I’m the one who learned to set boundaries. 20 years later after a lot of therapy and I have a healthy male partner who I appreciate so much. I’ve never gotten in his face the way you describe as a “feminine” trait. We talk things out. Sometimes I’m emotional, but being emotionally abusive is different and it isn’t a female trait. It’s just abusive. Women and men both need to learn self control. I hope that’s not what you think all women are. All that being said, I’m here because I think my man has suffered for being masculine. I want to learn to better support the amazing man and dad he is, so thank you for sharing your perspective.

@shrutika19 5 ай бұрын

Loved having Matt here. Would love to see more of him here. ❤

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Same here! Glad you loved it! ❤

@tara3379 5 ай бұрын

I am so thrilled and very grateful to you guys for doing this work … it’s so great👏❤🙏

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

We're thrilled to have you on this journey with us! Together, we can make a real difference. Thanks for the support ❤

@DrewLind_ 5 ай бұрын

This conversation had a bunch of lightbulb moments for me. Great stuff.

@deebrown8133 5 ай бұрын

Love this!!! Thank you!!

@janisjekabsons6252 5 ай бұрын

Great conversation. Thank you both gentlemen!

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it! Stay tuned for more insightful conversations.

@Inspirehopetoday 3 ай бұрын

So much truth in this!!! Thank you for being so clear!!🎉

@AttachmentAdam 3 ай бұрын

I'm really glad the message came through clearly for you! If there's anything else you'd like to explore or discuss, feel free to let me know.

@michellegirau8136 4 ай бұрын

I feel like these points are true. I have tried to bring them up to my husband, but he doesn't want to hear it. A lot of feminine energy refuses to make any more money even though he complains about the money. He also said he doesn't mind if i made more than him, and then he can relax. Everything is broken in the house but has no handy skills, and webdont has the money to pay to fix all of this.

@masonmitchell7752 5 ай бұрын

🔥🔥 You two are so on point.

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for your support! 🙌

@Presilia_M 5 ай бұрын

I am glad you men are doing this❤ 🔥!

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoy it! There's more to come! ❤

@inyoureyes25 2 ай бұрын

This is a most beautiful enlightening inspiring message!

@AttachmentAdam 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! I'm glad you found the message inspiring. 🌟

@Adrian_Estando 5 ай бұрын

1 hour video! It felt a lot shorter. Such good advice. This interview is a keeper.👍🏼💙

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful! 💙

@JaeNicole444 Ай бұрын

Thank you guys ❤ appreciate you

@AttachmentAdam Ай бұрын

Appreciate you too! Thank you for watching this and for your support.

@EcstaticGaragereal 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for the mutual respect and support. I shared your video and gave it a like!

@ItsEle333 5 ай бұрын

À much needed conversation ! 👏🏾

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Thanks! What aspect resonated with you the most?

@ItsEle333 5 ай бұрын

@@AttachmentAdam how men are being effeminate by the way they behave and react and how they should be in their feminine energy (when appropriate) and be able to set the tone and lead their partner with confidence instead.

@hspinnovators5516 5 ай бұрын

Plus it's important to understand that women are not "consciously" testing. This is all in natural operating for trust. It's unconscious.

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Well said!

@smokingcrab2290 4 ай бұрын

It's like the final boss on a video game giving you the cheat codes. The things women say are actually hints. But in order to use the hints, we as men need to do deep inner shadow work and get rid of all of our needs while expecting the woman to give nothing in return. We cannot value what women have or can give more than we value our own self respect and sense of purpose.

@hspinnovators5516 5 ай бұрын

Excellent video: Yes providing is so necessary for us to relax and fuel the energy which we then can in turn battery power our man, even more hyper power in marriage. It's all about the battery. It's about the option of having to work. Some women enjoy it but only if we don't have to and if its for fun. This is why women are more rejecting now.... The feminine energy needs those two containers; the platform to relax and not have to perform combined with the safety of a commitment container.

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

You hit the nail on the head! Providing isn't just about material needs; it's about creating an environment where both partners can thrive. Thanks for sharing your perspective!

@lightninglotuslark 5 ай бұрын

@@AttachmentAdamfinally! So great to hear a man, especially Adam, saying this!

@LiveTru 2 ай бұрын

This was sooooooo goooodddd! Very on point. I now fully understand how different i would feel/be with a man who is in his mature masculine state. If any are out there Im ready : )

@AttachmentAdam 2 ай бұрын

I appreciate your feedback! Have you experienced a relationship with such a man before?

@LiveTru 2 ай бұрын

@@AttachmentAdam Nope! Have no reference whatsoever. I'm ready, tho. Just came back from a workshop in Scotland that helped me to drop in my feminine more and took your course last week which was the last piece I needed to figure this out. Incidentally, I'm from WI and am traveling there soon. Welcome to my home state : )

@user-ry7fj9dc9u 4 ай бұрын

Very interesting 😊

@AttachmentAdam 3 ай бұрын

Glad you think so!

@cargolot 5 ай бұрын

Does anybofy have a link to that article on 84% c-suite women wanting to stay at home OR husband earning more?

@hspinnovators5516 3 ай бұрын

I do know there are statistics that say a woman is more likely to divorce if she isn't stay at home, the respect for a husband goes down massively in those situations

@cargolot 3 ай бұрын

@@hspinnovators5516 great, thank you for replying

@valdius85 5 ай бұрын

Setting an example is a mandatory, preceding step, of setting up a boundary. Personally I feel like there is still more emphasis needed on men fixing themselves before talk about “issues” with women can begin. Adam’s content reminds that often, but I feel that a sockeye should remind us about personal responsibility.

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Absolutely, personal growth is key for everyone. Thanks for your feedback!

@hallereisbeck397 2 ай бұрын

All men must hear this.

@hspinnovators5516 5 ай бұрын

Plus, he doesn't even have to make that much. You only need one car one home... You don't need to be a 7 fig to be a provider. Basic everyday men can be providers as is but they are so afraid it seems. They can start from where they are. If they have a good woman she can fuel you from there.

@2ndChanceAtLife 5 ай бұрын

Amen! People don't need "luxury" homes. They need homes that correlate to the size of the family living in them.

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

You're absolutely right. Every man has the capacity to step into that role. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

@TheElectron504 5 ай бұрын

So are you advocating for marriage and family. That sounds great but I think a lot of men want nothing to do with marriage because of family law. I'm not the biggest fan of MGTOW but I listen to guys like Better Bachelor and his perspective on marriage is pretty eye opening. Another reason is something Aaron Clarey talked about in the book of numbers about how rare it is to find a woman who is marriage material. Also, I think maybe you can agree with this but I think theres a female accountability problem in the West. Thanks and congrats to your fifth child.

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for raising those points and for your kind wishes! We recognize the complexities surrounding marriage and relationships today. It's essential to address these concerns and strive for healthier dynamics.

@johnbunzl 5 ай бұрын

Great pointer for the future of masculinity which is fine in the private, individual domain. But in the public, collective domain of law, politics, etc, women have the vote. So a new synthesis between the sexes can't be reached without them. Over the past 100 years women have moved into the public sphere under the demand for equality, but they have done so rather partially, fighting only in their own narrow gender interests. This was of course necessary and perfectly understandable. But maybe their next move in this dance is to complete this move: that is, to recognise that their longer-term interests are best served by going beyond their hitherto narrow self-concerned focus to support the interests of society as a whole. That is, to realise that ‘when one sex wins, both lose’.

@TheHouseOffice 5 ай бұрын

41:20 avoidant friend

@vmmell0 5 ай бұрын

Adam, just curious, to what religion did you convert to?

@Moncubus 4 ай бұрын

Roman Catholicism, as it’s said in Adam’s video about the religion and attachment

@vmmell0 4 ай бұрын

thanks @@Moncubus

@Moncubus 5 ай бұрын

Looking at the comments. Am I the only man here? 😂

@1zymn1 5 ай бұрын

I wish there could be a video like this for bipolar men.

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

That's an important topic. We'll definitely consider it for future discussions. Thanks for the suggestion! You can also check this video on how insecure attachment causes emotional distress and impacts conditions ranging from PTSD to bipolar disorder: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/mpZopdyYsMWUj30.html

@valdius85 5 ай бұрын

Your explanations make sense, I simply mean overusing the "masculine" and "feminine" words for concepts that can be explained without them in detail. Especially when few seconds after Adam describes the concept in detail 🤣 Masculine/feminine are centuries old concept. Now we have more precise words to describe the situation and our society groups trates differently. I feel like the overusage of "feminine" and "masculine" takes us away from many problems. Dyscipline, responsibility, mental strength, physical strength, carrying of others, etc are not F/M, they are human. This is how we consider them in modern western society. We do not live in ancient times where most things were divided by F/M - like weather, buildings, nature etc. Of course character traits look differently in men and women, but at the moment both are lacking many of the same trates because of how f up the society became. I get the general context of men being different than women, I really do. Individuals simply have slighly different image when they use F/M. It differs btw countries, generations, social groups etc, because the concept itself is low resolution, very general. This message was heavily edited. I had multiple conversation recently with women and men about these subject and none of them liked the masculine/femine structure to describe issues like integrity, discipline, attractiveness, etc. F/M works for some deep inside of the manosphere. For others talking about details makes more sense.

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Are you aware of eastern philosophies which use this masculine feminine dynamic?

@janineconverse7046 5 ай бұрын

No matter what culture has done, our dna, our biology has not changed in hundreds of thousands of years. Check out the science behind what they are saying. Masculine and feminine balance is necessary for healthy relationships, and society. No matter how you feel about it or offended you are about it.

@valdius85 5 ай бұрын

@@janineconverse7046 Not what I wrote. Different context.

@valdius85 5 ай бұрын

@@AttachmentAdam IMPORTANT: I do not mean your content, just the words "feminine" and " masculine". The content is great and you are doing a great job. Mentioning something over 1000 years ago has limits as people have different classifications now. Weather was considered feminine etc. All attributes used to be feminine/masculine thousands years ago, but then the language and culture was different. Now we evolved our vocabulary so classifying strength, discipline, and many others, as feminine/masculine is weird for many people. Just to remind you, weather was considered feminine by the same culture you’ve mentioned. Obviously old culture has value, I just mean ever relying on old words in modern times. I mean overusing F/M when you talk about details like calm, strong, disciplined etc. There is no point of mentioning “masculine” few sentences before that as a warm up. You can go straight to the point of what you mean. I agree when talking in low resolution but when talking in high resolution it’s tiring to me. When you already know what detail you want to explain, just go straight to the point. I hope you understand me better now. It’s hard to explain. Honestly I prefer: good men are disciplined. Good men are hard working. Good men keep their sh together. And so on. Another thing: you are highly educated psychologist who talks for living. You should be able to explain what is going on in human psychology without over relying on M/F language. Just saying, raise your standards. I know you are able to do because you are smart. :)

@cargolot 5 ай бұрын

@@valdius85quite diaagree. Its not them, its you having a problem with it. You cna disagree and dislike many people, the way they speak, part of their beliefs, etc. and still try to understand and learn from them, sometimes we just need to recode to our language. Dont be fooled by "progress", we are the same monkeys, but now, with internet amplifying our monkeyness. Thinking that 100 years of radical technological change modified human nature is an illusion, a disconnection from one's nature, instincts, etc.

@hspinnovators5516 5 ай бұрын

Good point: women also perpetuate the fear of family and home life amongst other women.

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Indeed, societal expectations can influence perspectives on family life.

@hspinnovators5516 5 ай бұрын

The sooner men wake up the less we will devolve

@hspinnovators5516 5 ай бұрын

I can't believe that lady in the UK. WGTOW sucks but it's a response to redpill.

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Absolutely, awakening to these truths is a crucial step forward for us all!

@david9920 5 ай бұрын

Finding lasting love emotional Intament a woman can be all over the place I get that you as a man to be the strength boundary for me is not taking all of the thing to that can be trown at you be the strength of the relationship not completely sure how to make the woman fell safe cared for not all women are worth the effort because it is easier to blame someone else than grow. Shit test will come. And go but disrespect is intolerable. Confidence to is the ability to be vulnerable is being a man also means live from the code protect provide emotional safety responsibility for living from Honor code

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

Understanding each other's needs and strengths is crucial for building a strong relationship. Thanks for sharing your perspective!

@viewyview 5 ай бұрын

None of the danish men I have dated needed to be told to do anything at home. They never assume my dreams are less important than theirs. This toxic masculinity is not in all industrialized countries. Men here have 14-16 paid paternity leave and they take that. The mums don’t need permission to go to gyms or any postpartum activities. Walking in the city, you will see fathers jogging with baby prams. Women can choose to stay at home even after receiving high education. There are problems but compared to what I see about America online, they can learn something from the Scandinavians.

@conversationcorner1837 2 ай бұрын

Danes seem to be more collectivist. They have higher taxes and more public services.

@redaawadallah4518 22 күн бұрын

Joe Rogan is healthy?

@timothysturgess5985 5 ай бұрын

the same problem then is the problem now. nothings changed, it's just getting worse.

@AttachmentAdam 5 ай бұрын

It's an ongoing challenge, but with awareness and action, we can work towards positive change. What factors could be making it worse in your opinion?

@allthingsloveone4584 4 ай бұрын

Adam you held space for the WHY and the HOW women found themselves in their masculine energy. Your guest is stuck blaming 🙄

@AttachmentAdam 4 ай бұрын

What made you feel that way?

@noirettebeauty 5 ай бұрын

I resented my husband for telling me I have to work. His salary was $350,000, mine was $70,000. The wives of Equity Partners at his firm don’t work. I left him.

@valdius85 5 ай бұрын

Good job. Now he has a chance to meet someone who has more realistic values.

@AshAndCream 5 ай бұрын

You got kids to take care of? If not you had zero value in the relationship.

@angelcandelaria6728 5 ай бұрын

Stay single lady

@dandaman9009 5 ай бұрын

One more admission to make me believe that women and men cannot love one another. Not anymore, thanks for your honesty, the good men will splash and dash from now on just like the jerks, and since loyalty is off the table so is marriage, I say this often, I will never trust a woman, Iv had escorts treat me better than the women in my own family

@beac8238 5 ай бұрын

@@valdius85what’s the realistic value you speak of?