Autism vs. ADHD: 3 Key Differences You Need to Know

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What's the difference between ADHD and autism? How can you distinguish between the two? Let’s look into autistic traits and ADHD traits to see what separates them. What are other unique characteristics of ADHD and autism? Drop your thoughts in the comments! ⤵️
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@launacasey6513 12 күн бұрын

what's most fascinating to me is when someone has both and has an entirely different set of challenges, because there's often compensation happening that can end up masking it all

@SDFordOfficial 12 күн бұрын

It also makes it incredibly difficult to get it diagnosed with ASD due to tick boxes referring to “prioritising a need for routines” as criteria for diagnosis whereas anyone who has ADHD too would know the absolute struggle of creating and maintaining a steady routine…

@stampandscrap7494 12 күн бұрын

@@SDFordOfficialwant routine and systems but cannot do anything regularly. Taking my non adhd medication is a challenge I have to have help with. Awaiting an ADHD diagnosis. My daughter and grandson are diagnosed with both.

@DarklyYours 12 күн бұрын

Overcoming masking and misdiagnosis is a struggle I think we all have shared experience in.

@fintux 12 күн бұрын

I have diagnosis of neither, but I'm pretty sure I have both. And I want everything to be organized, but I'm really bad at keeping stuff organized. I need routine, but also need variation. The mutual masking of these two mostly shows to the outside, but not so much to the inside, which is more a battle of two wills inside me. I've often used the analogy of driving a car while pressing both the brake and gas pedals at the same time.

@SailorYuki 12 күн бұрын

In some cases, like mine, they sort of cancel each other out. My need for organisation, structure and routine is negated by my complete distain for maintain a routine, be organised and be time and date blind yet be on time every time. At least almost every time. I've been dismissed every time. EVeryone in my family is diagnosed with AuDHD, brothers, son, cousins, aunts, uncle, literally 2/3 of my family has a formal diagnosis, the rest are just in denial. Yet I'm the only one who wouldn't be neurodivergent when I actually do struggle with overwhealm, burnouts, struggle with routines (medications, cleaning, personal hygine stuff, making phonecalls, booking appointments) and this shit is just getting worse.

@amsknirb 12 күн бұрын

I also have both adhd and autism and relate to both examples. I read something somewhere I really like: I crave routine, order and structure but every room I leave looks like a bomb has exploded. Do you relate to the following? When I feel comfortable and relatively stress-free my adhd has the upper hand; I'm spontanious, impulsive and i want to try new things, I get bored doing the same thing over and over, but when I get stressed or anxious my autism takes over and I need predictability, routine. I am still figuring out how to balance everything, and getting a late adhd diagnosis has helped me understand things a little bit better, but it's not easy. I would love a video where you talk about the seemingly paradoxical lives of people with both adhd and autism.

@Judymontel 12 күн бұрын

Yup, so would I.

@travisnobleart 12 күн бұрын

Yes this exactly describes it for me. I'm losing hope for finding a balance.

@KenPiper 12 күн бұрын

I feel that description on such a deep level! Edit: and yes, I relate to that description completely, though I'm diagnosed ADHD, close family and I have heavily suspected that I'm also autistic as well, though I've never gotten a formal diagnosis on that one.

@BrandoTheMando87 12 күн бұрын

I relate to this alot

@carriev9608 12 күн бұрын

I totally get this!! It's like I have two different brains.

@decoyfox 10 күн бұрын

Having both really stops either condition from being noticed, too fun loving & social to be autistic, too organised & successful to have ADHD, it's so frustrating

@Weird_guy79 12 күн бұрын

I'm in a chat group for autistic's and for the first time in my life I don't have to try to be understood, it's bloody great.

@MattLandrix 12 күн бұрын

Officially the video I will show to people around me still thinking Autism=rainman or ADHD=human ferret. Clear, to the point and damn true, all of it. ❤

@gregdettenweitz2547 12 күн бұрын

Wow! Beautifully said

@NiaLaLa_V 12 күн бұрын

I share his videos and the NTs in my family comment without watching, explaining autism to me. I haven't told all of them yet that I ended up diagnosed too after my nephew. Why do they feel so entitled to speak FOR people who didn't ask them to?

@rahbeeuh 8 күн бұрын

But the guy RainMan was based on wasn't even autistic. Human ferrets seem like a dehumanizing comment

@Catlily5 Күн бұрын

@@rahbeeuh The guy that Rainman was based on had a condition similar to autism. And Dustin Hoffman spent time with autistic people before filming. So his performance is based partly on autism.

@rahbeeuh Күн бұрын

@@Catlily5 not really. Kim Peek had savant syndrome which only occurs in 10% of Autistic people. Savant syndrome is very different from Autism and considered rare. If Dustin Hoffman spent time with people similar to Peek then his portrayal wasn't based on Autistic people but savants.

@sisterpanic9588 12 күн бұрын

I am autistic and my husband has inattentive ADHD ( both late diagnosed) which led to very interesting misunderstandings in the past but we worked our way past it. I do most of the household chores, not because of some bs gender norm but because a clean and specifically organized environment helps me feel safe and happy at home and there is no way my husband (or anyone for that matter) can remember all the little rules of what has to go where or how to clean certain things correctly. I struggled for a long time but since we both realized what was going on with us our communication about what is happening in our heads and with our emotions has become a million times better and we have way more productive conflict resolution without me going into meltdown and him closing off and leaving the room.

@NiaLaLa_V 12 күн бұрын

Gender roles aren't evil. My parents are about to celebrate 50 years of marriage, supported by gender roles.

@Nashleyism 8 күн бұрын

@@NiaLaLa_VIt's great that it works for your parents! But the problem with gender roles is that they are imposed on everyone but don't fit everyone

@srob6168 7 күн бұрын

Same with my parents! My mom is the only one between us who can keep the house organized, and she feels well to do so. Also she is kinda responsable for some things we are not able to do alone, like taking care of the money and keep everyone fed up. I believe my dad is ADHD like me. He build the whole house by himself. Se is very creative and can fix and construct anything. They could be a good duo if they were aware of their sittuation. People keep telling us, especially to me and daddy, that we shoudn't accept mom's help, that we should take care of ourselves, and fell guilty. Now my dad kinda lives in the house above. He has lost a lot of weight, and has a lot of unpaid bills. He can't keep the house. And he suffer thanks to this. I did the same. And suffered a lot to. My mom too. She wanted to help us. It helped her too. So weird. But this is the right way to live, i think. The neurotypical way

@Catlily5 Күн бұрын

@@srob6168 What works for your family is what matters.

@lellachu1682 12 күн бұрын

Some of us with ADHD start out messy and disorganized but eventually become very organized as a coping mechanism. While I function better when my surroundings are in order, it doesn't ruin my day if something is out of place or my routine is interrupted.

@DeltaNovum 8 күн бұрын

Yeah I was misdiagnosed with asperger syndrome when I was 11. Just when I lost my mother after two years fighting cancer and unable to having said goodbye. And been through years of trauma since a young age (including physical/sexual/mental abuse since a very young age, seeing multiple deaths and a very bloody suicide attempt by a good friend right in front of my face). I've lived in many (weird and fucked up) places since then. I've also lived in a place and went to school specially for ASS. Only after my life spiraled out of control after losing my father at 18 and spending years in survival mode, which led to me being homeless, did I get somewhat proper help. I then learned I didn't have autism at all, but instead suffered from ADHD, cptsd, ptsd, avoidant personality disorder, RAD, brain damage and now also chronic pain due to kidney disease. During that time I went into an abusive relationship with someone with ADHD ,ASS and BPD etc. While learning about myself and my ADHD I started losing myself in that relationship and lost 20kg bodyweight due to the constant stress. I was gaslit, manipulated and lost all of my friends during that time. Although she has autisme she was even worse at keeping everything tidy, organised and clean. I could never find anything because she always just dropped everything and misplaced all of our stuff. It's been over a year since I've left that relationship now, but I'm still living in quite a mess. I can't seem to find any overview, can't seem to be able to prioritise or keep it together. I also have very low energy and can't always function because of damaged kidneys, urinary tract and bladder. Which not only cause chronic pain, but my kidney function is also low. On top of that I can't keep any semblance of a sleeping schedule because I often wake sweating from the pain. All these things paired and especially the pain, trauma and adhd make me very depressed, lonely and extremely tired. I wish I was able to do the things that would improve my mental health and emotions. Like taking walks in nature, making friends, seeing people, sleeping well, practicing hobbies and doing fun things (which I mostly don't). I'm literally dreaming off a well organised and tidy home and life. I wanted to say something else much less heavy and not doing an oversharing infodump at first. But I guess I had to get it off my chest. At first I was going to delete this comment and even if no one reads it or this is not the best place, I'm going to post it anyway. As I am trying to be more open and authentic.

@elodieboerma 8 күн бұрын

I'm sorry about all that:(

@CricketGirrl 12 күн бұрын

I'm glad you talk about diarrhea so often. It gives me another chance to say, "Hey, me, too!"

@trefod 12 күн бұрын

I have both. I zooned out about five times during this video having tangential thoughts.

@rahbeeuh 8 күн бұрын

Same. Tangential thoughts are no joke

@HelgaCavoli 3 күн бұрын

Like reading comments while watching it.

@katherinebuchanan9350 Күн бұрын

Yep

@Maiju86 Күн бұрын

Had to google what tangential means while watching this video. I hadn't heard that before and in Italian tandenziale means a road where you can drive fast.

@rahbeeuh 23 сағат бұрын

@@Maiju86 yay learnin'! Did that take you down a rabbit hole?

@christinechapman9764 12 күн бұрын

Thank you Chris for keeping your video under 10 minutes, you're a legend.

@dhesyca4471 5 күн бұрын

All that information was under 10 minutes? I didn't even notice! That's impressive!

@ChrisandDebby 3 күн бұрын

I made it under 10 on this one!! Most are over 10. I’m working on creating two videos a week where one will be between 5-10 minutes. The other will be as long as it needs to be. I get that sometimes you only have 10 minutes to watch.

@MaryKDayPetrano 12 күн бұрын

This was pretty good. I definitely don't have ADHD. Why don't you do a video on the difference between sensory seeking Autistic people and ADHD impulsivity. There is a huge difference. Also, one more thing - concise language doesn't help me at all and I know I'm not alone on that as an Autistic. Some of us are very detailed, and not only speak and write lots of detail and complexity, but we also need Neurotypicals to give us the detail or we don't know the context or get adequate notice.

@DaariaaB 12 күн бұрын

I believe that is exactly the kind of thing he meant by concise language. Give me all the details without wasting any words.

@Jennifer-bw7ku 9 күн бұрын

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 9 күн бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@IkamiLog 9 күн бұрын

Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@morseemily 9 күн бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 9 күн бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@IkamiLog 9 күн бұрын

Yes he is. dr.sporessss

@youneedreed 19 сағат бұрын

Having both is like keeping your space cluttered, but getting furious when someone cleans it up because things aren’t where you left them.

@ladyriot9620 12 күн бұрын

My teen daughters (D1) has inattentive adhd and her twin (D2) has both level 1 autism and inattentive adhd so this video resonated way down deep for me. My biggest struggle with D2 learning how to identify and address things to help her as well as myself and others learning how to handle things appropriately as well. I have been trying to learn all I can for her sake and ours and what I have learned is that so many people have no understanding and look at me annoyed when I try to explain what her difficulties are and how best to help her. Thank you for taking the time to help educate us. Your experiences and knowledge are invaluable.

@andromeda1903 12 күн бұрын

one good thing about being adhdistracted is that we see ALL THE DETAILS EVERYWHERE. so it's quite hard to focus on the boring human in front of us LOL

@ChadMcCall42 12 күн бұрын

ADHD also has the ability to hyperfocus on one thing for a long time. That is not unique

@derekwade4042 12 күн бұрын

Oh god, this is so on point! My wife is on the autistic spectrum, I am full on adhd 😂 we love the best life. You would think, this sounds like horror but we even each other's struggles out and therefore managed to stay married for over 20 years now. ❤

@HaakonOdinsson 12 күн бұрын

Congratulations, I’m so happy for the both of you. It’s pleasing to read that you can both help each other against the world. May you both have a long and happy life 🙏🙂

@franchesca411 12 күн бұрын

I was late diagnosed with both. I was 48 for ADHD, and 49 for ASD. I'm currently 50. Having both is exhausting 🥴😵‍💫. I just recently stumbled across this channel. I'm really enjoying your videos. Thank you for the funny and relatable ways you explain it 🩵.

@stampandscrap7494 12 күн бұрын

Adhd can have hyperfocus as well. Its not controlled focusing. I cannot choose to focus on what I want to. I can be super hyperfocused on one thing for hours and hate being disrupted. But once that hyperfocus is over, its over over, can't even look at it again. Autistics have a main focus rheir special interest that they can be interested in long term. ADHD I can hyperfocus on a new craft, learn liads about it order everything to do it, watch hours of videos, do the craft for a few days and then totally loose interest.

@jmsbres 18 сағат бұрын

I really appreciate how silly and authentic you show up as yourself in your videos. Sometimes I roll my eyes or make cringy faces; but I always look forward to how genuine and goofy you are. AuAdhd people are often natural Jesters. I’m also so glad you have and cherish Debby as much as you do. I doubt this channel and it’s huge impact would be exist without your relationship. Thanks for believing in your need to be a resource for so many others.

@naofg 12 күн бұрын

I have ADHD and I've known that for about a decade, but was only able to get assessed last year and finally have a diagnosis. Now, I had never truly considered that I might be autistic, because most of the autistic traits I could notice in myself can be explained by ADHD, but my psychiatrist suspects that I'm autistic too, and a few other people in my life have told me the same. My last girlfriend is both autistic and an ADHDer, and she kept saying she really thinks I'm autistic. Soooo now I keep looking at all of these traits that fit the diagnostic criteria, and I'm starting to agree with them more and more, but there are some things that, from my point of view, just don't seem to match. I've heard that if you have both, your ADHD can mask your autism and vice versa, so that could explain some things, but it's overall very confusing. Watching this video, I could relate to most things, but I still feel this deep sense of doubt. Now, ADHD definitely severely impacts my life, and I had been struggling a lot with work before getting the diagnosis and starting on meds. But I don't see my possible autistic traits as somethings that affects my day to day negatively that much, and I'm self-employed, so I wonder whether getting assessed for autism would be worth it (it's a lot of money, which I currently don't even have). Buuut even though getting an official diagnosis might not change any practical things in my life, I really want a definite answer 😩 Sorry, not even sure I'm making sense anymore, but I'm just so confused and tired, and I don't know what to do.

@SimoneEppler 12 күн бұрын

Can't help, but I relate 💯!

@steggopotamus 12 күн бұрын

Yeah, knowing for sure certainly makes things easier. It seems like you might just need to come to terms with the system being so badly suited to helping people. That might just mean journalling about it until your feelings are organized. Or forgiving yourself or others (like individual doctors) because you're helpless to change it. But that won't help woth the autistic need to organize. What I do in those situations is make lists of things I'd do to fix it. And sometimes that can cause a new huperfocus or hobby. How would you fund it? Is there a non profit you can promote? Would you change any laws? Even if no action comes out of it (thanks adhd), I still feel much better knowing what I would do to make the system work for actual people.

@Lari-lc3zq 12 күн бұрын

Have you done the RAADS-R and the CAT-Q online? It’s a good starting point and pretty reliable as an indicator (not a diagnosis but can help you decide whether to go for one). I myself am self-diagnosed with both and medicated for ADHD and I should tell you that this sense of imposter syndrome is very common precisely because of this “dual-masking” effect. Do all the tests. If you come out with high probability, then go for the diagnosis if you feel you need one. Edit to add: I also didn’t realise just how much my autism was affecting me until I started looking deeper. If you ARE autistic and you go on this journey, prepare for some revelations that could make things a little rough for a while ❤

@SimoneEppler 12 күн бұрын

@@Lari-lc3zq I did. Multiple times over like two years. Based on that I should definitely be tested. But have I saved the results? Of course not. Just that last one. And now I feel I have reverse-engineered the tests so much that I'm too biased to take it.

@Lari-lc3zq 11 күн бұрын

@@SimoneEppler LOL but you don’t need to have saved the results to know. That feeling of “reverse engineering” is all part of the imposter syndrome I mentioned. Just ask yourself: WHY WOULD YOU MAKE IT UP?! Like, what would the possible purpose of that be? Allistics do not spend all their time wondering if they are autistic and trying to fake test results 😉 I went through two years of this rollercoaster so I know what you’re feeling 🫂 Also, anecdotally, many people report that their numbers get higher over the years, largely due to the fact that that they start to realise how much they’ve been suppressing due to very high masking activity. I obviously cannot diagnose you but from what you have said here I’d say you have a very good case to go for an evaluation! Psychiatrist will do a whole battery of tests that you definitely won’t be able to reverse-engineer 😉

@alanam3413 12 күн бұрын

Ok, so I may have missed it (I was driving while listening to this and there was this cute Pomeranian I drove past and a BBQ on the side of the road with a pull out little bench attached - what a great idea right?! Opps, what did he say...) but Hyperfocus is an ADHD thing too. As soon as you hit on something you love to do or that drip feeds you dopamine. Eg gaming (Zelda anyone?), scrolling and research- (obs not the topic you are SUPPOSED to be researching for school/uni.etc though) hobbies or lunch with a great mate. Plus, because time is sometimes a really difficult thing to measure for ADHDers, we can lose an entire day or evening in what feels like the blink of an eye! Resulting in being overtired the next day...which makes all ADHD symptoms worse! So who else then feels crappy about their epically bad day and 'revenge stays up late' trying to find some dopamine before bed?🙋‍♀️

@ewestner 11 күн бұрын

I came here to say this too. It's unfortunate that so many ppl assume that adhd just means ppl can't ever focus, bc it means so many of us adhders who fall into hyperfocus mode are undiagnosed, since we obviously couldn't possibly have adhd, bc "just look at how she can concentrate on playing video games for hours on end!" or whatever. Adhd can be more accurately described as a disorder of attention regulation, meaning that we *can* have a lot of trouble focusing on conversations (and especially boring ones, Chris is absolutely right about that) but can also focus on them without issue sometimes (and especially if they are really interesting). Otherwise, a good overview, Chris, thank you. I've been diagnosed adhd for a few months now but also am beginning to suspect Audhd, so this video was helpful for me to watch.

@ScreebOnARoomba 11 күн бұрын

Then there's having both like I do. Sometimes I feel like a walking contradiction.

@HelgaCavoli 3 күн бұрын

Autistic ADHD here. Later diagnosed, off course. It's a full time job.

@BreadLover257 6 күн бұрын

This was a great video! However I have ADHD and I’d argue that ADHD people also hyperfocus as much as autistic people. It’s not an “attention deficit” as much as an attention disregulator, due to our baseline lack of dopamine. I’ve found that it’s either we can’t focus at all, or we focus too hard. If we do get the dopamine to do a task, eg through novelty or spontaneity or interest as you said earlier, we can also go into those intense periods where nothing and no one can pull us away from our focus, but it also means it can be hard to finish tasks once we’ve stopped if the dopamine from the novelty has worn off after a break and we’re not motivated anymore, and then we switch to a new thing, which is probably where the stereotype of not being able to focus on anything came from. We can focus, it’s just incredibly hard to rrgulate it compared to a neurotypical.

@gracewalton5479 4 күн бұрын

Thanks for your comment, I came to make sure someone said this. It's one of my pet peeves that there's this misunderstanding. I have ADHD, and my husband has autism, but I'd say that of the two of us I'm the one that struggles most with hyperfocus and the inability to pull myself away from something interesting. A lot of the symptoms in this video were actually from poor working memory, not as much lack of focus, although those things seem similar on the surface. ADHD brains lack working memory "slots", so we can't keep as many things in the back of our minds while focusing on other things, hence forgetting where we put stuff down and not remembering what somebody asked us to do after we finish what we're doing.

@BreadLover257 4 күн бұрын

@@gracewalton5479 Honestly ADHD is so badly named I wish they would change it to accurately reflect how it is

@gaylynyoung6387 12 күн бұрын

No diagnosis. If it were easy to get one, I would. When I see videos on ADD I think, yup that’s it. When I see videos on autism I think, yup that’s it. My son is definitely ASD. He was assessed before the DSM changed and the result was “there are some indications of autism but he doesn’t meet the criteria”. He was also found to have no working memory 😂 (no, just very poor). He wasn’t sent for a diagnosis of autism so some things might well have been missed (like the spinning as a toddler, no interest in stuffies just things that rolled and spun and bedtime was a military operation that never varied. Same books, songs, stories… My daughter was diagnosed as ADHD (inattentive) after she started showing up at school around recess. They’d phone me at work. I told them to stop phoning. She won’t answer the phone and I can’t do anything. So… my ADHD brain creates messes my Autistic brain can’t handle. My ADHD brain chats and story tells long complicated stories to strangers. My autistic brain just wants to stay home with the dogs and cat.

@joyful_tanya 12 күн бұрын

Totally. Me too. And my husband is the one with basically no working memory. Not just selective. But everything you said about yourself, is totally me. Both of my adult children are on the spectrum too. They have different challenges than me and from each other.

@senecarus_whitur 12 күн бұрын

My sister and I had a talk about this yesterday. Both of us are late-diagnosed with adhd in our mid-twenties and recently I’ve started looking into getting an official asd diagnosis. My sister is very much adhd (in her own words), but when I first went through the diagnostic process, I resonated much more with asd than adhd. These two are so similar and yet so different. There was no major point I wanted to make with this comment, just sharing.

@Nashleyism 8 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing 🤗 Could you tell me what's the difference between ADHD and AuDHD in your experience? I'm trying to find anything on the topic but it's hard.

@senecarus_whitur 8 күн бұрын

@@Nashleyism Hello! I am not very sure myself, but my sister said that she does not relate to what she’s read about ASD but very much to what she’s read about ADHD. I’ll try to summarize what she said: She does not struggle with social context and usually knows what to say in certain situations / she is able to read the room, but she struggles with impulsivity and sometimes blurts things out, despite knowing that they’re not „appropriate“. I do not. I can read facial expressions and interpret them somewhat accurately, but I never really know when to say certain things or not and I don’t know how my behavior should be in different situations (e.g. at the doctors, with friends, or at work). She does not struggle with eye contact and she uses „double meanings“ in sentences and can understand when others do it (e.g. „Wow, this is taking a long time.“ -> She would understand that the hidden meaning is: „I am anxious that we are going to be late and I am telling you to hurry up.“). I feel very uncomfortable with eye contact and cannot maintain it well. Double-meanings are hard for me to get, unless they’re said with a very obvious tone. A lot of conflicts between my sister and I have happened before because I made a statement (no secondary meaning, just pointing out an observation) and she interpreted something else into it. She is very clumsy and loses a lot of things, which is something that she and I have in common. She does not experience meltdowns, but she does experience shutdowns after a long period of socializing. I experience both. She does not have noise sensitivities and she plans things very spontaneous and is almost always traveling (to a friend, to some sort of event etc.). I can only be spontaneous on my terms and I absolutely NEED a routine. If it’s disturbed my whole week is turned upside down and I need to make an entirely new plan. When friends want to meet up, they have to ask me at least 1,5 weeks in advance. She and I are both perfectionists - another similarity. Both of us struggle with emotions. In her case, it’s the overthinking and spiraling and in my case it’s being unable to properly express and understand what I feel. Both of us hyperfixate, but her fixations tend to change quickly, whereas I keep fixating on things in a specific field (e.g. biology). There is probably more, but that’s everything I could think of right now. I hope that helps? Edit: Removed the previous edit because I was oversharing in it

@polyliker8065 4 күн бұрын

When you mentioned half drunk glasses everywhere i felt so called out 😂

@thenerdgirl1 7 күн бұрын

I have both and the need for routine and consistency is at constant war with the need for novelty. It's actually really difficult to have both.

@katarinatill4713 12 күн бұрын

Love the "NO MUSIC" TAke on Your Videos! 😊

@MutekiAzy 12 күн бұрын

I'd love to see s video about combined Autism and ADHD traits. I have both and, while some things can be attributed to one or the other, there are some things that seem to be a product of the two - apparently contradictory - brains working at the same time. You said in this video that you have ADHD as well as being Autistic, so what sorts of things do you experience that seem to be product of both together?

@sparky4786 10 күн бұрын

THE HALF DRUNK GLASSES! Omg. The longer I think back on symptoms the more I find, but this is one my mom was always after me about!

@sdgreen4580 8 күн бұрын

I've been masking for most of my 68 years but seem to have many symptoms including trauma. My best discovery is self inquiry associated with not duality.

@love-if7wt 12 күн бұрын

Chris I really really loved the torpedo/ 🌪️ tornado analogy you used in the other video. I felt so seen! 🥺

@bethanykennedy812 2 күн бұрын

ADHD Brains also hyper focus. It's really more attention dis-regulation than deficit.

@BorksmithandTheBeef Күн бұрын

I recall reading books as a child and my brother yelling at me and I had no idea it happened. He was so frustrated with me.

@frohnatur9806 11 күн бұрын

I have ADHD and think I might have autism too. I also think that both disorders have mostly the same causes and might become a single diagnosis (ADHD added to ASD or both combined under something Monotropism- based). Monotropism is basically a lessened ability to spread one's awareness or focus to multiple things at once, BUT increased focus on one or few things, which means more easily recognizing detail. In the video, in the part about focus, the description for both ADHD and ASD sounded very similar, which is in concordance with my current understanding of the two, EXCEPT the tunnel vision, and not reacting to your name or taps on the shoulder. As far as I know, I've never experienced the shoulder tapping thing, and not reacting to my name when focussed is rare, but I do forget about and unknowingly ignore my bodily needs, especially food, because I don't notice the hunger and the thought of food doesn't cross my mind for hours. But I think the difficulties in focussing have the same cause in both cases: It's hard to ignore the surroundings and take all your focus from them onto your task, and when you do it's hard to take your focus off the task. That goes for both ADHD and ASD. Any thoughts on the similarities of focus between the two? Or anyone here with ADHD who gets tunnel vision, or someone with ASD who doesn't?

@OurHourglass 11 күн бұрын

Just on the thumbnail real quick: I think the rainbow infinity is supposed to be neurodiversity as a whole, while the gold (au) infinity is autism. I do like the stylized rainbow infinity butterfly though for ADHD.

@j.b.4340 12 күн бұрын

Have both (AuDHD). They work off of each other, in a few ways. The ADHD is far worse than the autism, in my experience.

@jimwilliams3816 11 күн бұрын

I often feel that my ADHD undermines autistic traits I actually like. I would have liked to have been an engineer but for the damned ADHD. Leaning into the ADHD does allow me to be more socially fearless but then I have to live with whatever tumbled impulsively out of my mouth.

@ix-Xafra 11 күн бұрын

Cool Ya convinced me I'm cycling between being ASD & ADHD...

@Matt_Silverwolf 4 сағат бұрын

I have both! And now I got distracted by the outro and forgot what else I wanted to write. Oh yeah - I'm really good at reading body language and non-verbal cues, but absolutely terrible with verbal communication and figuring out how I'm expected to respond.

@Jeremus717 12 күн бұрын

Thanks for all you do for us in the community!

@johnbillings5260 12 күн бұрын

I picture Chris rage quitting trying to find his glasses and feeling his way to the bathroom. 😆

@alanam3413 12 күн бұрын

...and then seeing them on your head in the mirror.

@GoldenRtvrs18 7 күн бұрын

Thanks for such thoughtful information! I'd love a video that examined what traits are like for people with both ADHD and autism. Thanks!

@tig3rs0ul35 9 күн бұрын

I love these videos it's so informative :)!

@catherinejames2734 12 күн бұрын

That was great, thanks.

@nitka711 5 күн бұрын

Thank you SO much Chris! This helps a lot!

@barbaradoye1989 12 күн бұрын

Great video! Thank you for sharing! Take care!😀

@joan.nao1246 12 күн бұрын

Excellent & humorous content, again 🎯🪙💥

@NZKiwi87 12 күн бұрын

This was really interesting, thank you.

@bigchaz6426 2 күн бұрын

Great vid! 😀

@thatskaren 7 күн бұрын

Thank you for this video and the link to the communication study.

@user-xd5cb1tg7o 12 күн бұрын

I am so extremely grateful to have come across your channel. I really feel like I have "met" someone who has same sense of humour and similar stemmings as mine. Thank you for being you!!!

@lightawake 12 күн бұрын

Super interesting video, thank you:) I think it's more interesting when you make it personal though...I personally find it much more relatable. Your educational approach is concise and easy to understand though...I wonder if you distinguished your personal anecdote videos from your educational videos by making the educational ones animated, or having some distinguishing title...

@lizziegreeneyes 8 күн бұрын

Oh if you only knew how much the last few seconds of this video rocked it for me, Chris!!! Another ace in the hole... fun, great content and as per usual - learning more about myself through your kindness, humor and wit. Means so much too our community. Please keep it up - just continue to focus on your self care too

@jamesc5801 12 күн бұрын

Great vid. Would love a breakdown of what's it's like when you have both, as I feel like this has it's own unique features

@MrBixBender 12 күн бұрын

Thanx for the on point explanation! I have a late in life diagnosis of both and I tend to struggle with antagonistic needs...like my autistic half needs structure but my adhd half just can’t follow up and destroys the well built structure mostly! That’s pretty annoying and oftentimes leads to frustration and self-flagellation...what leads to the feeling that I really lack self-efficacy...what in itself is not very efficient somehow 🤔🙄😆😉

@photogsherry 11 күн бұрын

I love your videos! ❤

@svp3rn0v47 4 күн бұрын

I have both.

@jenniferbutler1545 5 күн бұрын

5:43. The glasses. This became such a problem in my world that I keep two pairs of glasses. The one pair stays in the same location all the time. I use this old pair to find the pair I lost or wear to do immediate tasks that require me seeing well (vacuuming, washing dishes) if my regular glasses are missing or in the worst case, i can use the old pair to go to work until the good pair of glasses reappear

@KarishmaChanglani 2 күн бұрын

Hyper focus is a thing in ADHD as well. But ADHD dont usually have a special interest over very long periods of time

@stevepolek4226 12 күн бұрын

I have two pair of eyeglasses. I really don't like the second pair, but need them to find my favorite pair on occasion. I always keep the second pair in the same place for such needs. Suspecting I have both ADHD and Autism, my life fluctuates between organized and chaotic. I am having a hard time dealing with this. I never feel both at the same time. Most days it seems Au with a dose of depression. On my better days I feel ADHD, but start too many tasks and then cannot finish leading back to Au and depression.

@bevtube1567 10 күн бұрын

This has opened my eyes to the differences in both. I always thought it was autism but adhd sounds more like me after watching. Thank you so much.

@Crouteceleste 8 күн бұрын

Thanks for clearing some things up ! I am one of those rare occurences (at least I perceive it so) of an autistic person without ADD/ADHD (even if when I'm tired I tend to forget things like coffee I intended to drink after reheating after forgetting to drink it, found left in the microwave when I went to reheat another coffee I forgot to drink). When I lived with someone with (suspected) both conditions, it was really hard to not get frustrated, angry, or distressed at what our mutual needs demanded : I needed things to be well organised with a special logic, mess cleared right away, and admin issues solved quickly and efficiently. My flatmate needed me to be flexible with organization and tolerant of mess, couldn't get focused on admin process but still needed to be provided with the framework that our autism allowed and both convinced our methods were the best. It didn't end very well even with shared interests, values and common goals, even more so because my flatmate was also my younger sister and so we had a sometimes traumatic shared past. If I do live with someone again one day (which I am not willing to do), I know it cannot be with someone with ADD/ADHD ever again, it was too anxiety-inducing. I have one friend right now (you know how hard it is to make friends when you're autistic) who's both autistic and (highly suspected) ADHD, and we get along great but we know we could not tolerate each other in close daily quarters like a home. So I think (at least for people as rigid as myself), autistics and ADHD/ADD/AuDHD make great friends yes, great flatmates hell no. I can't tell for autistics/ADD/ADHD/AuDHD couples but I suspect it's the same.

@Starl1ng. 12 күн бұрын

Thank you for this video because recently I've been seeing a lot of people equate the two or even make them mutually inclusive which is far from the truth. While they are commonly comorbid they're still two separate conditions.

@Threetails 3 күн бұрын

As the ADHD wife to an autistic husband: the biggest difference I see between us is communication styles. He's very bad at expressing what he wants. I'm good at expressing what I want, but I tend to be "fuzzier" in my meanings. More likely to use figures of speech or speak poetically or talk around something, and dropping hints that go completely over his head because he takes the hints at face value. He often has this poker face going and a tone of voice like Dooley from King of the Hill that I often read as hostile when he's not actually being hostile.

@DaariaaB 12 күн бұрын

Excellent video. I would love to hear about the experience of Audhd aka both. Curious to compare my experiences to others'. Ty

@DrewSprague1218 12 күн бұрын

I'd love a video about how ADHD and autism present together. I was diagnosed with ADHD a couple years ago and the more I learn about neurodiversity the more I suspect I may be autistic, too, but I want more information before going to my care team with the suspicion.

@johnneale3105 11 күн бұрын

Thank you for this most informative video! I would like to understand better how to recognize I am trying to communicate with someone with ADHD or Autism, as opposed to someone who has no interest in what I'm saying?

@AmberHeard3 7 күн бұрын

I'm diagnosed as both, and this is pretty accurate. I feel like though my autistic brain takes over and dominates more often, especially communicating and organizing.

@keturahspencer1211 20 сағат бұрын

Attention deficit people sometimes have superfocus as well, then just don't have control over what they hyper focus on. It's like someone else is holding the remote.

@kj55 9 күн бұрын

I'm 40 it was recently diagnosed with autism and ADHD. In hindsight all the signs were there I just didn't know what I was looking at I just thought I was just a odd person. Yesterday I was washing dishes and thinking about something off hand. My 19-year-old son was literally standing right beside me holding up a box of Chinese food explaining to me how he would like to share it with me and telling me about it. I literally had to tell him to repeat himself I had no idea that he was standing beside me no idea that he was talking to me no idea what he was even talking about.

@noraRvx 6 күн бұрын

I have both and its like i have 2 brains that are fighting one another 😅

@Butterfly-ADHD 40 минут бұрын

From the outside ADHD and ASD can look the same. I set up structure in my life to avoid the frustration of taking so much more time getting things done without it. Where my keys go and my calendar very structured. The rest of my life not so much.

@LionessHiker Күн бұрын

I have both ADHD and Autism. I was just diagnosed at 62. Ahh, now I understand why I am so unhappy with my cluttered surroundings! Yet it is so frustrating trying to organise. How does anyone deal with this successfully?

@Iza_con 11 күн бұрын

Most of the autistic signs would be me if i were actually trying to care for myself and make myself happy--with the exception of those that come out when im very stressed--meanwhile adhd is my constant, absolutely miserable and overwhelmed state... meanwhile the abrupt scheduling for testing upsets me so much it's hard to follow through

@melchiortod29 7 күн бұрын

Thank you! Cleared up somethings for me. Clearly don't have autism, just a whole lotta adhd

@HansSchulze 7 күн бұрын

AuDHD, had to rewind a few times to get everything. I find that i got lost a few times by wording sequence, and references to ASD vs ADHD getting mixed. Not a good day for greymatter despite long sleep.

@DrumWild 11 күн бұрын

I tried to join chat groups for Autism, and I simply can't fit in, and ultimately get thrown out. Thanks MDD.

@Wonderish403 12 күн бұрын

Chris, have you tried cutting onion and garlic out of your diet? I used to have ‘loose stool’ a lot, but since eliminating these two things, it’s way better. I’m not strict. If someone cooks for me with onion or garlic, or I eat out, I can tolerate it more easily now, since it’s minimised. I invite you to try it.

@katherinebuchanan9350 Күн бұрын

Half drunk glasses spread all over the house..... This one really got me!

@ChrisandDebby Күн бұрын

😂😂

@barbaralawrence6226 12 күн бұрын

Hello, Chris! Sorry this is all over the place :) I've been binge watching your videos. I relate to all of them. I took the RAADS-R self-test, which I read isn't very accurate. I scored 165. I'm hoping my new therapist will arrange for ASD testing, as it really has always felt like I have two different people in me in constant conflict with each other. I was diagnosed two years ago with D.I.D. but the challenges I struggle with daily are separate from IFS parts. I resonate strongly with ALL of these you mention for both Autism and ADHD. I'm 62 and was diagnosed with ADHD a few months ago by my EMDR therapist (was seeing her for 3.5 yrs to process childhood trauma - C-PTSD diagnosis as well, since my late 20s). She concluded I was misdiagnosed with BPD (I was taking psych meds for 20 yrs that I didn't need). I lost her as a therapist last week. We had a really strong bond. Couldn't even say goodbye. She's on indefinite medical leave. I start with a new therapist, whom I've never met, next Tues, at a new counseling office. My mind seemed to handle the news okay, knowing this is just part of life (didn't feel abandoned but definitely felt the loss) but my entire system has been one raw nerve since. Super reactive, irritable, and extreme sensory sensitivity, oscillating between full blown rages to complete shut downs. My regular self-regulation stuff isn't helping much. I had to cancel several appointments cuz I didn't feel safe to be around people. Anyway, thanks so much to you and Debby. Your videos are really helping me to understand why I've felt like a misfit all my life 🙋‍♀️💖 I'd just decided to try to become an entrepreneur and leave behind my 16 yr safety net of SSDI with the intention to move to a new state next Spring.

@lg3rm553 12 күн бұрын

This sounds rough :( So sorry to hear your story. Good luck with your new therapist and moving

@barbaralawrence6226 11 күн бұрын

@@lg3rm553 Thank you! 💖🙋‍♀️

@HansSchulze 7 күн бұрын

Barbara, I was also given BPD drugs a number of years ago, messed me up. Still trying to find balance, but at least now not burning the candle from both ends. Good luck.

@barbaralawrence6226 7 күн бұрын

@@HansSchulze Thank you! I hope you find balance. Good luck to you as well 💖🙋‍♀️

@TheseAreMyHooves 11 күн бұрын

I'd be interested to hear how you find autism and adhd work in tandem. Like maybe sometimes they cancel each other out, or create some contradictions. I found out im autistic quite recently but i suspect adhd too... sometimes i feel like the two kind of battle each other out, or are each more apparent at different times...

@BanFamilyVlogging 9 күн бұрын

I’m both Autistic & ADHD, & one thing that really helps me with the absent-mindedness is developing general “rules” that become so ingrained that even my autopilot brain will follow them (usually 😭). Just because it’s habit, or often muscle memory. The most common, & most ingrained, is to make a point of being mindful about when & where I set certain items down. For example, when I’m working on a project that involves heavy use of a tool that I also need to put down frequently, like a box cutter or a marker (or the remote 😂), I will make sure to *only* ever put it inside a specific pocket on my person, or on a designated putting-down spot. Haha maybe that’s just the Autistic part of my brain, but it’s definitely helped me cut down on forgetting where I put things 😝

@LeonardoMNoyola 12 күн бұрын

I'm autistic and my sister has very noticeable traits of ADHD (I can't diagnose her tho of course) learning about ADHD and how an ADHD brain works helps me to be more understanding

@kiakia6617 12 күн бұрын

Hi thank you for this video. I don't understand how can autism and ADHD coexist in one person. I mean, they are opposite in some aspects... I suppose that sometime prevails one and in other situations the other pathology?

@Catlily5 Күн бұрын

I have both but I lean more towards the Autism.

@valasdarkholme6255 11 күн бұрын

Can you give some more detail on how it looks when people have both?

@dn3305 11 күн бұрын

Hey :) I am interested in the differences of autistic and ADHD meltdowns

@joycebrewer4150 4 күн бұрын

I got my first pair of glasses in first grade. I remember I had only had them a few days, when I realized I had no idea where they were, and there were only a few minutes left before yhe school day ended and I would need to het n the right bus and go home. PANIC! MUCH!! When my teacher realized what I was looking for, she held me still, and pushed my glasses off the top of my head back on my face !

@AverageFourty 14 күн бұрын

29 hours... MAN. ok i'll wait. Just this one time. jk

@ChrisandDebby 13 күн бұрын

Sorry for the super early drop! (Sorry…but not sorry? 😆) We are traveling at the moment so had to get it prepped beforehand just in case of any hiccups 😊 - see you then!!!

@GoalDigger969 2 күн бұрын

00:28 Fun fact: before 2013, they thought you couldn't have both ADHD and autism. Surprise! 00:58 Autistic brain loves routines like a cat loves napping; ADHD brain says, "What's a plan?" 01:56 Autistic brain's best friend: structure. ADHD brain's BFF: spontaneity. 02:29 ADHD brains: messy, chaotic, but never boring. Autistic brains: neat, tidy, and calm. 03:27 Hyperfocus vs. distraction: Autistic brains can ignore everything, ADHD brains can’t focus on anything. 04:23 ADHD: mastering the art of distraction. Autistic: the art of hyperfocus. 05:19 ADHD life hack: setting reminders or you’ll end up with laundry fossils and ancient glasses. 06:16 Social norms: Autistic brains find them confusing, ADHD brains just can’t stick to them. 07:10 Autistic people might ace a conversation with each other, but it gets tricky with non-autistics. 08:31 Patience and concise communication: the ultimate tools for both ADHD and autism interactions.

@RhiannonRaven 12 күн бұрын

I have difficulty getting my head around how someone can be both autistic and ADHD because they are so opposite. Don't they end up cancelling each other out so you appear 'normal' whatever normal is? I like to think of it as Autistic = cat, ADHD = dog. So does that mean AuDHD = fox?

@hoosiergirl8727 10 күн бұрын

I have both. I am intolerant of product being in the wrong place at work. At home, there are days I have trouble walking over the mess. I also find that when I talk to coworkers, they look at me like I have 2 heads. I haven't figured out if that is my fault or theirs.

@ruthhorowitz7625 12 күн бұрын

I'm starting to think I also have adhd😮

@user-uc7uq2wq2y 6 күн бұрын

Hi. Your videos have helped me so much on my journey to getting late diagnosed eith autism. The first gp appointment is soon and we said it was for the possibility of autism but recently Im thinking that I could also have ADHD. Does anyone know if a GP is likely to recognise and suggest ADHD if I put my adhd symptoms on a list im showing hin as well as the autism ones or will I have to tell them that I was also considering the possibility of adhd. I hope this makes sense!

@AlfUckhamHall 6 күн бұрын

I've gone through my life knowing I was different and approached problems and issues from a different direction. I've suffered, been ridiculed, made to look small, thought of as stupid, thick and even retarded, but a lot of the time, I found an answer or solved a calculation faster than others. I told my parents about my way of thinking and they shrugged it off and basically accused me of being naughty and disruptive, my behaviour continued, my methods and ways of doing things stayed with me and although the term of "thinking outside of the box" wasn't a thing to me or my teachers, several of them regularly asked me "how did you come up with an answer like that"? I couldn't explain it, I just did. At school medicals, I had the sense to ask, "am I normal"? I just got funny looks from the doctors and dismissed. Fast forward to 2022, at the age of 61, I was eventually diagnosed as having Autism, though it was borderline with ADHD. Yesterday, ADHD was added to my medical records, so now I'm "labeled" as having both, once again, something I've known for many years has been positively identified as "a thing". I've spoken to many neurodiverse people over the years and some have been work colleagues, many conversations have been had and similar traits identified, so in one way, my own "self diagnosis" has been validated. Without going into too much detail or listing how my mind interprets how I see things, I can tell you, if I hear someone say the word Monday, I attribute the colour blue to that day, if someone says the word bulldozer, I attribute the word nightmare and so it goes on, for each word, I have two, no reasoning behind this, I just do. We all have different ways of thinking and when you consider no two snowflakes are the same, is the same true of Autistics?

@WhyYoutubeWhy 11 күн бұрын

It would have been nice to also know how these traits funtions when you got both disorders!

@Catlily5 Күн бұрын

It depends which traits you specifically have. My friend and I both have AuDHD but we have different symptoms. She definitely leans more to the ADHD side and I lean more to the autism side. But not on every trait.