me too :'(

MOOOD

Starry sky I KNOW hahha

This is what ESXX tell me all the time when they around me

When me being called boring = ok, so you & i have interests that differ so much that you don't get shit about what I'm saying = we can't connect at just about any level then = aite, bye bye, i dun wanna talk to u anymore.

SO TRUE ! I told this to my whole family and friends yet somehow only my friends got it and text me. WHY DO YOU KEEP CALLING ME, BROTHER ? JUST SEND A TEXT

elise im an infp and i actually love talking on the phone and would rather that with my close friends and family (i mean not everytime) it obviously depends but i lovee talking lol having long conversations etc

@@gracepayneee well it depends on the person ^^ your personality type doesn't define you

elise i know i was just sharing how im different and wondering if anyone else was the same way since most seem to hate talking on the phone..

Yeah, theres only a select few ppl im okay with talking otp with, and even encourage to call me. But that just mean I enjoy your company and talking to you

No no... I wouldn't actually bother answering that question... I'd rather get back into my mind than telling people what's going on in there...

I'm sorry I'm just curious 😔

This actually made me laugh. Are you kidding me? Asking an INFP what he/she is thinking. Our minds is like buzzing non stop. Don't we look contemplative all the time?

I always answer nothing, even though is the complete opposite

@@persian338 I do the same thing. Like, I don't want to waste your time trying to explain a bunch of stuff that doesn't mean anything to you.

Wow! That's the exact conversation I'm having right now with my brother. The hard part is the frustration I feel. Why is it necessary for me to get through to family. Well certain ones, closest I guess? Is the communication of opposing thoughts supposed to come to a resolution?

I was surprised about that advice. i'd never noticed i become upset everytime someone do so!! that explains why i self-destructs after making dicisions that disappoint my parents, Because of Those DENIES! I should be more aware of that emotions from now on.

Me too hahahaha

FR

My ex did this all the time, and she was masterful at picking apart anything I said or did to prove how dishonest and selfish she thought I was.

Yes! And most of it is the 'why am I doing this' or 'what are my thoughts on this'. That's part of why we hate quick decisions. We aren't given the time to think it through and make the most informed choice. However, that's also why we tend to give such good advice. We take the time to look at it from all angles and examine everything. :)

Kaila Y 🙌🏻🙌🏻

Thank you. Just thank you.

Exactly

Thank you. That's kind:)

Accurate 😂 I end up saying I don't know...

Same. I hate when someone asks me what I'm thinking when I'm lost in thought.

You took the words right out of my mouth.

relatable

SAME HAHAHAHAH

Now, mix being that INFP with being autistic - oh, what a life! :D

If only it was as simple as freezing and (not) awaiting for someone to restart it. My head just boils up and I don't know what to expect later.

@@alonespirit9923 same here

I have to have someone repeat the question once or twice cuz I for some reason was unable to process. probably because I was battling a demon in my mind and I'm just like "Hold on!! I almost got him!" I swear INFP's are stone's throw from Schizophrenia

I'm an INFP too. And yes I can relate to that. Sometimes i need a whole night to think (rather overthink) before I answer. And then think again if I did say the right thing.

Yes! For the love of God give me time! Haha!

Same!! My mom says it’s rude that I “ignore her” when I’m actually thinking of something to answer that question

This always happens

Also, people are always laughing at me for not being able to take a quick decision haha. Choosing is the hardest thing!

As an INTP, I really couldn't give a rat's ass about how anyone feels about anything. If you think something is important, present me with a rationale why it is. I can deal with logic, but feelings are often nonsense.

Harry Potter i would love to think as rational as you do .-.

Olivia Morelli me too

Olivia Morelli I’ve called it Decidiphobia my whole life

LOL. I had a cashier telling me yesterday about why I should take advantage of 'rewards programs' - not the one of that business, but just generally. While I could get his logic, it just - bugged me, and I could feel myself resisting ....

That would be misinterpreted if someone is stubborn, personality wise. But it would make more sense if it indeed has correlation with the cognitive type of INFP. I'm nitpicking but in a positive way, no trying to annoy you! Just wanted to clarify. :)

Though I don't know a whole lot about types, I did learn that it's about cognitive types and not personality wise which is why I made that comment!

Yes this is sooooo true

For myself, it would be more accurate to say that I don't like people who don't respect my intelligence/individuality. I don't mind following orders or instructions, if I understand the reason why. If I don't know why I'm doing something then chances are I won't want to do it.

if you get called boring as an infp just realise that they don't understand you

It’s a really sucky feeling. It takes me awhile to warm up to a situation and new people so at first I come across as boring but once I’m comfortable it’s like a personality switch, people are usually shocked. I think we need to find people who are patient enough to see the whole us. Not everyone is and that’s okay. There’s certain personality types I can’t be around: too overwhelming, so maybe it’s similar for them: we’re too underwhelming for some. Sorry for rambling btw. I’m processing what you said bc I’ve felt that so much. I think we need to be more patient with ourselves as well. And not expect us to open up right away in social situations.

I don't mind being asked. I'm quite happy to explain my reasons. But if you don't really care, or are just doing it to be belligerent, or I just explained it to someone else with you standing right there not listening, *that's* when I have a problem. You have to TRULY want to know.

Ron Paul Forever I literally cannot explain myself or my actions much at all. I get really overwhelmed if someone is angry and asks me why did you do that? I understand how annoying it must be for them but I literally cannot explain at that point in time. I have to go away and sort it out.

Absolutely!

YES! Omg. I hate giving explanations because when I try it just doesn't... work. It never comes out how it really was inside my head, and it's usually very confusing and doesn't make much sense, even for me lol. It usually ends up with people thinking I am reckless or impulsive. God, even I sometimes think I am impulsive, when in reality I always have A LOT of reasons as to why I'm doing this thing, I just cannot explain :)

@Surface Scracher Lol

Any tips to get better at not feeling hurt?

As you say, we only strive for harmony. I want to be able to feel ok while doing so. And not hurt all the time. "There are people whose lives are worse off than yours" I'm often told. And it's difficult to explain that I am not being ungrateful. I just have other things that are more important to me than the ones people tell me to be grateful about. I feel like I'm hurting others and getting hurt by others all the time that way.

so true

Mindfully tell yourself, "don't take things personally." Whatever someone's perceptions of you are, it's just a flawed, not fully informed approximation of who you are. You'll grow, change and be somebody different, but closer to who you really are, by next week anyway. Not everyone is going to like us. That's ok. The extremely messed up, inauthentic, spiritual vampires want to destroy you, some immediately with force, some gradually with "love." That's not ok. Gtf away from them ASAP.

@@soulfulspec Seeing things from other's perspectives is exactly what we do, even to the point of feeling their feelings with them. We just don't express it outwardly like you, because our feelings are introverted. I don't have "nice guy syndrome," in that I do what I do out of love or like for the other, out of my store of love in my heart, that just gets bigger every time I give it away. That inner harmony you speak of is us making sure our thoughts, feelings, words and actions are congruent with who we are, our purpose, and especially our inner integrity/value system/conscience. I don't really consider weather people like me, just that I like them for them (not because they do the same things as me, we even agree on anything whatsoever, or they have something I want). Usually I don't put my wants or even needs into the "equation." I can go hours neglecting going to the bathroom or days without eating or sleeping while I'm concentrating on solving other's problems. Don't know if that qualifies as "altruistic." I forget about it 30 seconds later anyways, because I'm on to 14 other things (or daydreams). Now, I'm surprised, disappointed and sometimes a lot indignant when someone projects their own ulterior motives or manipulative ways onto me or what I've done. I know precisely how genuine I was, but question if I could've done a dozen variables even better. It's a natural, self imposed wound. If someone pokes at that wound, the inner turmoil becomes an outie. Look up "throw can of gas in volcano" video, if you'd like a fitting metaphor. INFJ's can like us (or not), but they'll never understand us. You don't think like us. I can see your point(s) of view, but you'll sadly never see mine (INFJ sister, 2 daughters, son). For all your ability to see right through everyone else, you really can't see through an INFP. It's because you'll sometimes compromise inwardly or manipulate to bring outward harmony. You're not evil for doing that anymore than we are selfish or unreasonable for being unwilling to budge, or even blowing up, at a certain point if something violates our life long fine tuned, individualized sense of right and wrong. There's really nothing to see through in an INFP. We're the same person when no one is looking. Exult in your altruism. I don't even know what that means, other than a lot of people seem to pat themselves on the back with it...kind of like "self esteem." I'd rather have character, but would be the last to call myself virtuous. Yet, somebody asked me what I'd get for myself if I won the lottery. I told him all the cool things I'd get or do for others with great excitement... "No no, what would you do for YOU?" "Huh ???" We're both different, not superior, or inferior nor any other contrivance.

Yep we are our own therapist

You've just explained something that I failed to put into words

Woah, yeah! Wow! That’s it. Had that problem with the girl I was dating. Trying to explain why I feel said. It’s a struggle.

I feel your pain 😭

Ya it's really happening with me 😢

Where the hell does sheltered lab rat even comes from? I'm guilty too for getting attracted to crazy girls. I put up barriers to everyone. Emotional and Oblivious would more likely describe myself

"Ok, move on next step XD I don't need those kind of people to be at my side" XD

especially when those 6 words are coming from an intp parent who doesn't know how to feel :)

Yeah that’d do it. Those words are the end of any relationship.

The same with ENFJ

nice distinction!

I thought the comment said "I dont mind with many task, just don't annoy with getting them done" ..haha

Yes!

P O W E R - R E D - B U L L this is also accurate lol.

@@SoaringShitty it's that PORL Se huh ;)

lol! Yes

Me too 😂😅

There's a name for that... XD Ask-hole: One who asks for your advice, and then disregards it. Severity is determined by repetition.

Man, I felt that so hard...

The amount of times I have felt invisible in social and work situations... haha

Absolutely a big trigger to me. Once someone talkdown me on my intention, that hit me hard

My sister does this to me all the time...

Yep, same here. You can question my actions any time you like, I make a lot of mistakes. But my intentions have always been nothing but the best I could imagine, and often aiming for much better than most people expect of themselves.

I hate it when someone questions my integrity! Seriously, I am not the person who is going to put myself ahead of anyone else...very frustrating when people project their own agendas on your actions!

@@JF59122 I have a sister like that too... made me feel worse about myself than I could do to myself, turns out she's a covert narcissist and putting me or my intentions down made her feel better about herself. This took years of examples for me to realize she truly wasn't in my corner and I've distanced myself from her greatly, for my own mental and emotional health. Maybe this isn't your situation but we need to get real with who is and is not lifting us up! 💓💓

MEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!

Me... my silence and distance preceived as arrorgant, selfish and non-chalant. When in fact i just avoid arguing with someone which is not in line with me.. i just trying to avoid conflict.

As an INFP I actually have a tendency to find other people boring. I've also actually gotten very good at explaining my ethical choices. I don't mind being pressured to answer quickly if the other person is willing to be part of the process of decision making. What I don't like is people who refuse to be involved and insist that you make every decision on your own without any input or discussion from them. I don't mind random tasks as long as I can give a few of my own to you. No one actually likes to be given random tasks no matter what your personality type. Ultimately, we value open discussions and understanding over judgment and criticism because the latter is lacking in all kinds of context.

​@@olive4naito I am ENFJ and INFP :D....The majority of personality tests try to put us in the boxes when we change every day a little and observe the world quite uniquely.... Adding on top of that language interpretation etc. I ''take'' what resonates with me and leave the inaccurate interpretation of my choices behind. I love people, I am truly energized by humans, but my growth point is loneliness and my self-work.... The time when I can think and resolve myself..and I don't feel lonely, I really love it.

@@madamevampsilverkim9242 I agree wholeheartedly. It truly gets irritating when generic weaknesses applicable to a larger number of people get attributed to a tiny group.

This is literally it!!!!! He explains it so well, I have nothing more to say.

time to harass my infp friend 😂

I've always had this internal fear of being misunderstood or have my words misinterpreted. One of the main reasons I struggled speaking at all as a kid..

Yeah :/ then I keep overthinking what I said because people will eventually try to twist your words around and misinterpret it with their own perspective. That’s why whenever I present in front of class, I try to make sure I don’t miss anything I should say without making anyone feel bad about themselves. I guess it’s true of the saying “you can be a perfect peach 🍑 or apple 🍎 and there’ll always be someone that doesn’t like peaches and apples” That saying itself has temporarily relieved me from overthinking and over stressing myself for no reason since I sometimes tend to dwell on something for a long time. I guess Newtown’s lesser known rule of physics is “an INFP will dwell on something until there’s finally a solution/closure to whatever is making them stress out” I just made that up, but I honestly think it can be true. I tend to find myself thinking about stuff longer than most people probably spend time thinking about it.

I think that’s why some people go to me for advice sometimes since they probably assume I research a lot about a certain subject and trust that I can give them a “good” answer. Idk.

Omg, sometimes I just stop in the middle of a sentance for a bit and then start back up later. Bless my friends for knowing me well enough to wait till my mouth catches up to my brain.

Misinterpretation is such a big deal for me, totally feel you there.

I have sensed most INFPs have a secret internal world that very few ever get to see. I suspect they journal about this place at times though I am not certain. ENFP.

Nicely put!! Like the part about not having enough time to masticate thoughts before spitting them out. Definitely have the same trouble. We need less thinking and more spitting lol

Omg yes on wheel of time!!! Love that you called this out!

Secret Life of Walter Mitty! YESSSSS 🙌🏼

"I can always trust that any wrong that he does was by accident". Yes! And it is a big surprise when you first come to realise this! There is no scheming, he is fundamentally good, what a revelation!

Yeah there's not a lot of language for it unless we intentionally put it to language... but that never seems to fully suffice.

Keiri Feder I know right

Yes!!

Can completely relate!! I feel like there’s not enough bandwidth to deal with it all in the moment...

i think we struggle with word our thoughts because we dont think words, we think things... can u understand this?

Sherlyn De La Cruz there’s not always a common ground. i’m an intp watching this so i don’t annoy my infp friend and i think believing that is as much of a weakness as it is a strength

@@daisywilliams2551 of course there IS always a common ground. that's why the "subject" is brought up. Both should be patient and calm enough to find it. ergo, compromise.

Sherlyn De La Cruz maybe on plans and activities, but not viewpoints and opinions

@@daisywilliams2551 maybe.. but not entirely impossible.

I’m usually the mediator to most arguments. It’s cause I think to myself “if I don’t find a compromise for those two different ideologies, then no one else will” and I really don’t like hate, violence and conflict of any kind. I try my best to keep my peace ✌️ with people and treat how I want to be treated. I also dislike burning my bridges with people and find myself always being in one sided friendships with me doing all the effort and the other people can probably care less 👎😔

INFP anthem: "I'm just a poor boy whose intentions are good,/Please, don't let me be misunderstood!"

I’m sure INFPs are still interesting in a playful witty way (when we feel secure & comfortable in our own skin with the right company) but we don’t play manipulative or disingenuous games. That ‘boring’ is just a veneer because too much inside of us might not fit in with the particular group of ppl or haven’t find it’s place yet. (: ENFP & INFP are too multidimensional to be truly boring. There’s too much curiosity, creativity, awe & wonderment of ideas in the highs, so much melancholy, pain or vulnerability in the lows? :p And not enough time to read all the books & explore interests in the world.

@@Bebbolove Naaa - we're boring - to most people. Either we don't say anything - which makes us boring - because we know that the other will find whatever we say boring, or we talk and the other finds what we're talking about boring. Once in a while, if we're lucky, we run into someone who doesn't find us boring.

David Dakan Allison wow you’ve just described me

nozecone One man’s meat another man’s poison.. hah.. Cliche.. But we also find certain small talk that is gossipy, shallow & unnecessarily viral/rumour mongering boring & useless.. so I suppose it goes both ways.. But I do know a handful of INFP instagram bloggers who are interactive on social media & lots of ppl respond in depth to their quirky discussions (usually around 200+ comments) & have loyal followers. And overtime, the INFP do eventually befriend some of the followers& meet up with in real life, become gd friends over the years. That’s a perk of social media I suppose- u get to meet your kind of ppl by being your authentic self 🙂.

I agree if someone finds you boring it's because the INFP has not shown all the great world they have inside...very talented people with a lot to give.

@@PS-xb9hc Yeah, I feel like some people think me boring. It's just because I don't show all of me, if I feel comfortable around you/we talk about something where I find myself, trust me, I could talk hours.

Idk why I'm replying to a year old comment, but yes, you are completely correct (I think). As an INTP, I find these people _extremely_ interesting. They are literally chaos that's in the calmest way possible, with the "purest" yet "thoughtful" heart in terms of goodness. Too kind to the point I trust them 5mins I know them (not really a joke). Never had I ever see people other than them who are so delicately warm. The thing is people, in fact the majority of people who actually have energy, feels discomforted when they stay in a calm state for long, hence the discrimination "boring". They aren't entirely wrong, being also IN P makes me relate to you guys that we are just less active on the surface, but they should look under your sea level between outsides and insides before thinking they know you. Good thing I got a deep brain so that I understand you more. -INTP on the internet

(please let me know you see my comment)

@@KaigaiCocoBeer thank you, that's warm my heart

Same 😅😰😭❤️

Same !

Lol!

what's your type? hahha

Lmao it would totally come off as passivr aggressive xD

@@Juju-tw7we I'm infp

@@kaylaphillips6007 OHH! what's your partner's mbti? :)

Same

Yeah that's a big one as well for sure. I dealt with that a lot in highschool and as a foreigner in Japan.

Completely agree, totally feel you on this

And i also can't stand if someone i care about sees me in a negative way. Especially if i have good intent and was coming for a good place.

SAME

I noticed that too and was like, "WOW! That's so awesome!"

Fairly certain it’s a greenscreen. I don’t know if you realized that, but it’s cool nonetheless. Very INFP-like.

Oh man lol

I was just thinking that

Most people seem to find conversation itself boring - especially if it gets beyond TV, sports, or gossip.

True!!!

Easy way out

nada A I’ve being there 6 and still dropped it.

Im on my fifth year now too and will FINALLY be graduating on December ahaha you'll get there too!! You got this 🤗

I procrastinate to the last second every time

And why I'm such a bad mom for 2 kids :( when they were little they often had 2 completely opposite needs they were expressing ("wanna play with my train now AT HOME!" "Wanna go out out OUT!") I can deal with one, but in such case whatever I did, one child was unhappy and I was a bad mom to that one child :(

I'm in my five years too.. Damn

Same here

SAME

I'll agree with making choices, but language has always come naturally to me. Often a word will come into my head and I won't necessarily know the definition, but if I look it up, it's usually exactly the one I wanted for the situation (I've been mistaken, but rarely). I do prefer writing, but I've got a lot better at spoken communication as I've got a bit older.

So relatable

Harkz0r i do the same thing! i tried explaining that to people in my college class i was sitting with when i was talking about writing our paper, and they all kinda acted like that was weird haha

At least you made a decision!

I have had this same conversation with people and have reacted the very same way.

Yes, because it's sooooo hard to make a decision, I really thought about it, saying it out loud produced a lot of anxiety, and to have the other person dismiss it feels like a personal attack 😅😑

Sometimes i dont say what i think or if i prefer something because i always want people to be comfortable, so when i get asked about something and then denied it's not about what i think, what makes me upset is the thought that the other person does not care about my feelings or my comfort the way i do about theirs.

Spot on

yes!

HELL, YES! (BACK FLIP!)

In my head: Get it yourself you lazy selfish man. Why is your time and activity more valued than what I am up to do. Just because it looks like I am doing nothing on the phone does not mean I am actually doing nothing. My activity is very important for me. Also why the hell can't you get it yourself? Don't ask for a favor for such trivial things. Ask for it when you really need help. I hate when you micromanage me. I am not your servant, treat me as an equal not like a small human pet, that you can order around. Reality: I will walk very slowly for the remote, maybe even catch myself mumbling the thoughts in my head and passing the remote passive aggressively, hoping that the message is clear: I am NEVER doing this again!

Same here

Why has this exact situation happened to me T_T

@@speedy1773 Omg same here

Yeah true

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Hahahaha yes xD

LMAO!!! this killed me

Lmfao 🤣

Yep, same. Most INFPS: anxiety Me: _ANXIETY_

南雲Haruya I was thinking exactly the same about myself

Yes, yes, yes. I resemble this remark. 🙃

Ryuuji • Ack same! I have Asperger’s and I sometimes get confused as to whether I actually am an INFP or if it’s just my autistic traits-

Count me in too. INFP, autistic, enneagram 4w5

Same

I am also an INFP and a vegan.

yeees same haha... kinda hard when you do cube of truth

Same! INFP and been vegan for almost 5 years

I find people who do that with subjects like veganism, are not actually looking for your opinion, but looking to argue it and prove you wrong. All so they can justify their own bad behavior.

Lmfao same

I'm an INFJ guy in first few months w INFP lady and taking it sloww. She worried the 1st weeks if was boring me but knows now I love what she says and Does. Perhaps will end up casual / back n forth or mayybee a power couple...

I'm an INFP married to an INFJ. The fact that INFJ's are watching this is spot on 😊. Remind your INFP you appreciate and love them, it'll go a long way.

@@PrismCasillica Thank you!

I'm an INFP married to an INTP. We're super compatible yet the "T" and "F" love to butt heads from time to time. LOL

Yes me too and I was about to comment the same.

Oh....wow...you are inside my head! I resonated with everything you said haha and I think I'll try out that "time" decision-making process, it sounds relieving 😂

Ooo, great idea! Haha. Normally I flip a coin or I tell my husband to make me choose between 1 or 2 without letting me know which is which. So I'll pick a number and then if I don't like it, then we go with the other one. I trick myself into finding out which one I really want. Hahahahaha

@@Kaori57 that's what I do too! I flip a coin in my head and see which option I hope it lands on haha

I do that too @Namame :) If I have any resentment against it when it's been chosen, I know it's not the one I should go with.

Nice INFP hacks! :) It actually sounds fun to do it like that.

Not really decision making but I do get talked over a lot

In addition to that, sometimes "Get better at such and such" is just bad advice full stop, in my opinion--whether you give more detailed advice on how or not. Depending on where the person receiving the advice is in their life. It's probably because I spent a number of years really taking it to heart when people kept pushing me to "get better at" things that were characteristics of my personality, and as a result I ended up falling into a state that was probably pretty close to clinical depression. And in my current phase of healing from that, I'm experiencing a lot of anger at people who I perceive as not giving me my space to get better at things on my own terms. So, for that reason, that bit at the end quite frankly pissed me off. I don't know, maybe it's because he's a Nine and I'm a Four, with that whole prizing uniqueness thing that we Fours have going on, that I don't see a reason why we should necessarily even strive to all be the same and be good at the same things. Isn't the whole reason why we all have strengths and weaknesses supposed to be so that someone who is predisposed to be good at something can jump in and take care of something that someone else is not so good at, and so that we can work together and compliment each other's weaknesses with our strengths? It's one thing to try to transcend one of those personal boundaries you have if you can't get away from the person who is doing them or can't convince them to stop. Or at the very least, get better at managing your emotions when they cross one of those boundaries. Like for example if the person is your boss or you are dependent on them in some way for basic needs. Then, you might have to say, this isn't an ideal situation for me but it can't be helped. But even then, check in and make sure that the only thing keeping you locked into that work environment isn't fear of change or something like that before you totally accept that it can't be helped. It very well might be that the situation can't be changed, because capitalism sucks and a lot of people are getting trapped in situations where they don't want to be because of debt or not being able to find another job or whatever. But it never hurts to check in every now and then and ask yourself if there's really nothing you can do to get out of that situation--accepting that the answer might be yes, there is nothing. But can we f@$%ing not with the whole exhortation to learn how to accept when people cross your boundaries for the pure sake of learning how to accept it thing? Can some boundaries just be non-negotiable? Especially when it comes to friends and lovers and people whom you have an actual choice of whether you allow them into your life or not? (God forbid that said lover could be someone you are financially dependent on and that prevents you from leaving them if need be. I know there are plenty of people in that situation, too). I've reached my limit of how much I can listen to people advising me to try to learn how to soften certain hard, non-negotiable boundaries of mine without it making me angry. I'm at the point of, "Look, these are things I will tolerate and these are things I won't tolerate. Period. End of story. Take it or leave it." Maybe twenty years from now, when I'm sixty, I will once again be at a place where some of these boundaries might be more open to negotiation, and I will be better able to listen to advice such as what was at the end of this video without feeling angry. But for now, I'm just not at that place because being pushed to accept things before I was ready caused me too much pain in the past which I haven't been able to process yet.

Good point! Would you like content on how I would recommend doing those things based on what’s worked for me / how it’s helped me?

@Messina so good! Thank you for sharing this.

I do that so often

I imagine discussion with ppl and friends

The best answer always comes up when the discussion is over...

@@persian338 righttt

Me too, I often have these hypothetical discussions of various topics with myself (in my head). Sometimes it's because I want to explore a certain subject from different perspectives. But sometimes I'm doing it to avoid potential future awkward social situations, so I want to prepare/practice potential responses. But they either never actually happen, or by the time it actually happens I've completely forgotten what I had practiced/thought up lol.

My ex used to do this all the time and it made me preemptively say, "im not doing this because [insert sketchy intention)..." which would make him distrust me even more lol That one didn't last long.

Self expresion need

hmm.. mee too..

I don't. It's more of an ethnic-culture thing.

Not me

@@nozecone how do you mean ethnic culture?

Thanks for the detailed comment Anna! It's nice to know that it was accurate for other people too! I hesitated for uh.. 350 videos to make a video like this. I guess I'm glad I did!

@@GeekPsychology That was quite a while! But I'm glad you did too, and I'm glad you waited, since I only recently found your channel!

I get that look😂

Me. i find it FUCKIN' HARD to find the drive to do necessary things that i either don't connect with, or just outright HATE doing, & i get SHIT EASILY distracted. my mind's ALWAYS onto something, but most of the time, NOT something i need to deal with at hand. i'm a type 1 ADHD guy--i could stare at the wall all day without excessive movements, but my brain would DEFINITELY be going around places, most of the time just trying to straighten out the shit found in a naturally wandering mind of an INFP, & essentially gets NOTHING done until i've put my foot down... or just feel desperate enough to need to calm the fuck down, because my priorities are just all over the place...

Yup. I know people with ADHD that are not INFPs... but dayum, it seems like we are build for it. 😕

I'm an INFJ with ADHD & the struggle is so real💗

It can be hard sometimes. I could be a better friend too! :)

Although I make weird choices it always ends in me having new experiences even if these are as simple as just choosing new foods. I got so much better at making decisions (apart from when I’m tired) that I started helping others make decisions faster by holding out two hands and imagining each answer in each hand and then getting them to ‘pick a hand’ it’s great!

I do that all the time too! I make some arbitrary distinction like A or B, 1-5 or 6-10, "say stop" etc.